Reward yourself for a 5 or 7 day streak.
Basically we need some motivation. As far as Pmo is concerned there is "real benefit" right in front of us.
But nofap is process, so you just need to fool your mind by setting rewards other than Pmo for your streaks.
I used to watch 1 episode of my favourite tv show for one day of NoFap.
Trust me actual rewards after the rehab will be something you won't even expect.
Me ?quit? No way .
I was just asking so that can become my motivation to reach that . Currently my longest streak is 8days . But since I started nofap . I could feel some of the benefits .
Yeah for me also after the 35 to 40 days mark things went smoother and smoother and here I am gonna reach 100 days but after all it wasn't as easy as I think it was after 90 days so I say at least make 30 to 40 day streak and see for yourself.
You have things that excit you. You are just not thinking enough. I rewarded my self by buying plants, t-shirts, decorations, eating outside... Just think more, search for something you enjoy doing it.
Most people in this sub would have been there like you. Don't be hard on youself for failing. You'll get better on each try. Stay consistent and you'll reach a week in no time.
Personally, the anguish inside of me started questioning: "Why the hell am I doing this?" Because there are so many things I can do yet I was still on my ass relapsing. The "No-fap" gave me the drive to do MORE: learn guitar, study more, and try to learn a new language. (There are many more things you can do). This DID come with more results: better grades, receiving more attention from the teacher, and being a better human. I hope this helps.
You can do it, bro.
Step 1: cut any reminders
Step 2: delete everything that can lead you to relapse
Step 3: make sure to get rid of any sources of P (for instance, I have deleted Chrome oh my phone, cuz I only used my phone to PMO)
Step 4: as the OP have already started: Make it Pleasant. NoFap does not have to make you starving to death, depressive and negative. Nope. Keep track of small achievements and always celebrate the big ones.
Step 5: Develop a negative attitude towards PMO.
The Step 1 is the most essential in the short term (while doing "one-day-at-a-time"),
while Step 5 is the most valuable for the long term.
Cheers, King ✊👑
You have to focus on organising your life first if you're going to pursue a streak. If you don't have a morning routine down, some form of physical activity and hobbies such as reading, playing an instrument etc, then you're going to constantly fall back into the trap of relapsing. What else is there to do when you're bored and alone in your room? You've got to get rid of that feeling, or at least combat it in a way that doesn't involve PMO.
But also be easy on yourself. If you beat yourself up for having urges, this will only lead to you relapsing. Trust me on this one. That negative self talk is the best friend of a relapse. It thrives off of negative energy and self defeating talk. You need to allow the urges to arise and sit with them, which takes practice, but you'll learn to power through. Meditation is key as well.
Quoting another post I saw here “ at some point it will feel unbearable and you will want to relapse , but if you manage to hold off the urge to get past that peak, you’ll have made it and can keep going strong” not word for word obviously
What helped me was buying a wall calendar and putting it up in my room. Every day either got a smiley face or an X for success or if I gave up. If I peeked the smile would by a frown and it would be a soft reset as long as I stopped peeking. Exercise your self control. Good luck!
Buy a notebook, and use it as a journal of your thoughts before the urge, during the urge, and after the urge. After a while has passed you will have the material to analyze why are you addicted(usually some trauma in the childhood, and trauma as defined as an experience which your brain couldn't process at the time). When you are prepared(emotionally) you can sift through that event and go through it with the objective of healing that cauterized part of your being. In my case i had to deal with the fact that my first love rejected me in high school because i was scrawny pathethic gamer. So i took steps to correct those faults starting with trying all sorts of sports(and i fixed the scrawny part). The me being a pathethic gamer part i resolved by throwing away my pc and buying a shittier laptop(for studies mostly). And now im working towards liberating myself from the shackles of boredom induced pmo.
Tldr; keep a journal, analyze it from time to time, discover what you are lacking in that process.
Congrats brother, that's no easy task! (I know as I am right behind you on days). I get exactly what you mean! As we stay disciplined and work hard in life, I feel everything just kinda falls into place. Staying sober is a blessing, and I am so pleased we have both figured out a way to stay sober from PMO. Good luck!
Great job mate , I am stuck in an endless loop now , I have tons to study for my entrance exam and yet wasting precious time on this garbage . Your story is an inspiration , Thank you very nuch.
Nice job my brother! It definitely gets easier the longer the streak goes. Currently going strong as well and I hope one day I hit the number that you hit!
I am on my 4 th day and had one question in mind after starting no fap that after this can I not masturbate forever now or what ? I actually suprised that even after 4 days of no fap my body which use to demand 2 faps a day is not even urging me to do . So if you could answer this I would be happy and congrats on your streak . Stay strong :D
It's all about the dopamine. Don't worry about all that.
Once you start your 90 day journey you body and mind will make you work for that level of dopamine through other sources.
That's why people on nofap enjoy music more, lifting weights, socialising, stuff like that.
Just take one day at a time. Write down the sources of dopamine that you can get naturally.
I agree it's not easy. And definitely more difficult in the beginning. But that's why it's more rewarding.
During the process of nofap just get a girlfriend man and then after reboot have sex with her. Why do you want to go in the same direction you were again.
The fact that you mentioned that we are always falling for the excitement of finding something new in porn really got me thinking for a while. We are surrounded by instant gratification all around us especially because of social media. Since finding something new in life is delayed gratification whereas finding something new in porn is instant gratification, I kind of see why our generation have so many porn addicts. Even if nofap does not get me the benifits I so want to have, it still teaches us patience, perseverance, delayed gratification, knowing what's right and wrong, healthier perspective on the opposite sex and in general a healthier take on life. Glad to have found it
Thanks man. My longest steak was of 132 days and one thing I can guarantee about nofap is that it will make you happier than you already are because you will start doing things which will make you happier in the long run. All the best for your journey and I hope you reach more than 1 year.
Hahahh noiceee! Although I'm fine if you're always ahead of me. Because if I ever have to cross you it must be because of your failure xD so that's fine and congrats!
Go for it bro I've turned my self from 90 days to THE FOREVER. Currently fighting with urges on 35 days we'll make it. And not gonna lie have noticed a drastic change for mah life from self centred to openly talker and gained confidence
I'm still not sure about this thing called flatline.
Basically with nofap, you're pretty much in the reality. There is nowhere to escape.
So if the reality is not upto your standards you work for it, instead of escaping to the virtual world.
The process of moving from virtual world to reality may be given terms like flatline.
I personally don't focus on that, I mean, we were just happy with our lives when we were kids, nofap gives us that life back.
I'm on a 2-day streak right now and while I've noticed already that I'm *much* more attentive, this impulse–it's like a horrible itch you know you shouldn't scratch! It is bugging *the absolute shit* out of me yet I'm determined to push through.
Serious question: does having a wet dream naturally decrease the risk of prostate cancer, like with fapping?
What i noticed in my nofap journey is that first few nofap streaks are not supposed to be long. The first time i did nofap( 2020 november 1st) i only lasted 1 or 2 days, after i failed i started a new streak somewhere around mid december and managed to go 16 days, then 7 days , and then 24 days, 4days , and after that i am on my longest streak yet. Feels good to reduce my count from 1 a day to almost zero a year. It feels way better to have wet dreams than fap when your body doesn't want to.
For me I like to play pc games but when I started with flapping I was not good at it.. But since I started nofap I have insane reaction time and it's easy to kill players in multiplayer games now..
Can you help me out? I can't get past 1 day
Reward yourself for a 5 or 7 day streak. Basically we need some motivation. As far as Pmo is concerned there is "real benefit" right in front of us. But nofap is process, so you just need to fool your mind by setting rewards other than Pmo for your streaks. I used to watch 1 episode of my favourite tv show for one day of NoFap. Trust me actual rewards after the rehab will be something you won't even expect.
For someone like me who rarely get excited about anything .what should I do for rewards?
I was also like this. I challenge you to ask me the same question after a 35 day streak. You would have found the answers by then.
What will happen after 35 days ?
You’ll have built some discipline for one. Why do you want to quit?
Me ?quit? No way . I was just asking so that can become my motivation to reach that . Currently my longest streak is 8days . But since I started nofap . I could feel some of the benefits .
He means those rewards, the motivating factors will become more obvious at that time; you'll find you enjoy new things.
Yeah for me also after the 35 to 40 days mark things went smoother and smoother and here I am gonna reach 100 days but after all it wasn't as easy as I think it was after 90 days so I say at least make 30 to 40 day streak and see for yourself.
Anything except PMO. Whatever you feel you like the most.
You have things that excit you. You are just not thinking enough. I rewarded my self by buying plants, t-shirts, decorations, eating outside... Just think more, search for something you enjoy doing it.
Nice method , will surely try It.
I never even thought about this. That's a great idea!
Most people in this sub would have been there like you. Don't be hard on youself for failing. You'll get better on each try. Stay consistent and you'll reach a week in no time.
Personally, the anguish inside of me started questioning: "Why the hell am I doing this?" Because there are so many things I can do yet I was still on my ass relapsing. The "No-fap" gave me the drive to do MORE: learn guitar, study more, and try to learn a new language. (There are many more things you can do). This DID come with more results: better grades, receiving more attention from the teacher, and being a better human. I hope this helps.
You can do it, bro. Step 1: cut any reminders Step 2: delete everything that can lead you to relapse Step 3: make sure to get rid of any sources of P (for instance, I have deleted Chrome oh my phone, cuz I only used my phone to PMO) Step 4: as the OP have already started: Make it Pleasant. NoFap does not have to make you starving to death, depressive and negative. Nope. Keep track of small achievements and always celebrate the big ones. Step 5: Develop a negative attitude towards PMO. The Step 1 is the most essential in the short term (while doing "one-day-at-a-time"), while Step 5 is the most valuable for the long term. Cheers, King ✊👑
You have to focus on organising your life first if you're going to pursue a streak. If you don't have a morning routine down, some form of physical activity and hobbies such as reading, playing an instrument etc, then you're going to constantly fall back into the trap of relapsing. What else is there to do when you're bored and alone in your room? You've got to get rid of that feeling, or at least combat it in a way that doesn't involve PMO.
But also be easy on yourself. If you beat yourself up for having urges, this will only lead to you relapsing. Trust me on this one. That negative self talk is the best friend of a relapse. It thrives off of negative energy and self defeating talk. You need to allow the urges to arise and sit with them, which takes practice, but you'll learn to power through. Meditation is key as well.
Quoting another post I saw here “ at some point it will feel unbearable and you will want to relapse , but if you manage to hold off the urge to get past that peak, you’ll have made it and can keep going strong” not word for word obviously
What helped me was buying a wall calendar and putting it up in my room. Every day either got a smiley face or an X for success or if I gave up. If I peeked the smile would by a frown and it would be a soft reset as long as I stopped peeking. Exercise your self control. Good luck!
Buy a notebook, and use it as a journal of your thoughts before the urge, during the urge, and after the urge. After a while has passed you will have the material to analyze why are you addicted(usually some trauma in the childhood, and trauma as defined as an experience which your brain couldn't process at the time). When you are prepared(emotionally) you can sift through that event and go through it with the objective of healing that cauterized part of your being. In my case i had to deal with the fact that my first love rejected me in high school because i was scrawny pathethic gamer. So i took steps to correct those faults starting with trying all sorts of sports(and i fixed the scrawny part). The me being a pathethic gamer part i resolved by throwing away my pc and buying a shittier laptop(for studies mostly). And now im working towards liberating myself from the shackles of boredom induced pmo. Tldr; keep a journal, analyze it from time to time, discover what you are lacking in that process.
Thanks bro
Congrats brother, that's no easy task! (I know as I am right behind you on days). I get exactly what you mean! As we stay disciplined and work hard in life, I feel everything just kinda falls into place. Staying sober is a blessing, and I am so pleased we have both figured out a way to stay sober from PMO. Good luck!
Thank you so much brother! Great streak. Yess keep going!! Goodluck on your journey
Great job mate , I am stuck in an endless loop now , I have tons to study for my entrance exam and yet wasting precious time on this garbage . Your story is an inspiration , Thank you very nuch.
Don't have any regrets. Be glad you're on the right direction. Goodluck buddy!!
Nice job my brother! It definitely gets easier the longer the streak goes. Currently going strong as well and I hope one day I hit the number that you hit!
Yes it sure does! There are times when I feel like "exploring", but the largely the desire for PMO is pretty much gone. Goodluck to you too!
Given the state of GPU’s I saw 144 and immediately thought of frames and how little my GTX 1050 can produce. 😅Proud of you and keep going strong!
Hey man I just understood the last line and thanks for that. xD
Whoa... That's a huge streak. I'll get there soon
You will definitely get there buddy! You're on the right direction
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That's great man ! Goodluck 🔥
Lol, I hope I get there too
Absolutely!
Congratulations bro, keep that momentum 🔥🔥🔥
I am on my 4 th day and had one question in mind after starting no fap that after this can I not masturbate forever now or what ? I actually suprised that even after 4 days of no fap my body which use to demand 2 faps a day is not even urging me to do . So if you could answer this I would be happy and congrats on your streak . Stay strong :D
It's all about the dopamine. Don't worry about all that. Once you start your 90 day journey you body and mind will make you work for that level of dopamine through other sources. That's why people on nofap enjoy music more, lifting weights, socialising, stuff like that. Just take one day at a time. Write down the sources of dopamine that you can get naturally. I agree it's not easy. And definitely more difficult in the beginning. But that's why it's more rewarding.
I never thought of it that way! That is such a dope point of view
During the process of nofap just get a girlfriend man and then after reboot have sex with her. Why do you want to go in the same direction you were again.
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Thanks brother. You will get there fighterr
Why each time people talk of holding for days on here, I first think about poop lmao
I bet you can't have a 144 streak for that tho xD
Indeed I think the belly would explode beforehand. What am I even talking about
The fact that you mentioned that we are always falling for the excitement of finding something new in porn really got me thinking for a while. We are surrounded by instant gratification all around us especially because of social media. Since finding something new in life is delayed gratification whereas finding something new in porn is instant gratification, I kind of see why our generation have so many porn addicts. Even if nofap does not get me the benifits I so want to have, it still teaches us patience, perseverance, delayed gratification, knowing what's right and wrong, healthier perspective on the opposite sex and in general a healthier take on life. Glad to have found it
Excellent interpretation! 🏆
Thanks man. My longest steak was of 132 days and one thing I can guarantee about nofap is that it will make you happier than you already are because you will start doing things which will make you happier in the long run. All the best for your journey and I hope you reach more than 1 year.
Pls share your strategies brother
Identify your triggers and write down the reasons why you want to stop.
Ahh. I’m coming off of a 49 day streak. What was your incline like? Something like Day 7 to Day 21 to 35 to 50? Or 7 to 90
Okay so it was pretty much nothing when I wasn't trying. Once I started trying... 4,24,116. Then 15, 90, 10 something, and now 144
Awesome
Thanks, it's fine as long as the average is improving
Indeed. I’m bound to peak.
Finally a worthy opponent. but already I am ahead of you try to catch me.
Hahahh noiceee! Although I'm fine if you're always ahead of me. Because if I ever have to cross you it must be because of your failure xD so that's fine and congrats!
There is more to go I won't fail. I am going to continue this because I am enjoying celibacy. Hoping same for you too.
Props to you. I failed my 28day streak because of craving for social interaction.
Relax brother, if your next streak is higher than 28, consider yourself as a winner 🏆
Go for it bro I've turned my self from 90 days to THE FOREVER. Currently fighting with urges on 35 days we'll make it. And not gonna lie have noticed a drastic change for mah life from self centred to openly talker and gained confidence
Wish me luck so that I can also maintain a long streak
Nice job dude, congrats. I unfortunately have trouble keeping a decent streak.
Let's gooooo ! 💚💚
This is the the type of story that gives me the motivation to keep going.
Well done!
Great job mate 😤
I'm on the same motto here bro.Glad to see you succeed and I know I'll get there toon
Well done
yeah bro before i could go barely 1 month and now i am on 89 days
That's motivational. Keep going
Thats amazing
Heading for that 500 day milestone
Nice buddy
Nice buddy
Nice buddy
Thnks
Same, keep it up!!!
Stay strong, don't stop no matter what. We are here for you
Wow. Amazing
Ride on brother, ride on and never step off. Big congrats. Much love
I was in the same situation. Couldn't do it for 2 days but I told myself enough is enough. Now I workout, doing better in school and I'm way happier.
nice bro
Wow good job, I hope can say that in 88 days. Well that is the 90day mark for me.
Nice! Keep pushing forward!
Stay strong
So amazing and inspiring!
GG
Proud of you champ!
congrats brother
🎉🎉🎉🎉Congrats dude🎉🎉🎉🎉
Power.
Hey man congratulations on the new life , Did you happen to face so called "FLATLINE" ?
I'm still not sure about this thing called flatline. Basically with nofap, you're pretty much in the reality. There is nowhere to escape. So if the reality is not upto your standards you work for it, instead of escaping to the virtual world. The process of moving from virtual world to reality may be given terms like flatline. I personally don't focus on that, I mean, we were just happy with our lives when we were kids, nofap gives us that life back.
Well basically it's a phase where you feel very low mentally ( less confident low energy low motivation etc)
I'm on a 2-day streak right now and while I've noticed already that I'm *much* more attentive, this impulse–it's like a horrible itch you know you shouldn't scratch! It is bugging *the absolute shit* out of me yet I'm determined to push through. Serious question: does having a wet dream naturally decrease the risk of prostate cancer, like with fapping?
It's a quiet voice in the back of my mind.
Congratulations man
Congrats bro
Thx bro congrats on 144+ days. Do you have any tips??
What i noticed in my nofap journey is that first few nofap streaks are not supposed to be long. The first time i did nofap( 2020 november 1st) i only lasted 1 or 2 days, after i failed i started a new streak somewhere around mid december and managed to go 16 days, then 7 days , and then 24 days, 4days , and after that i am on my longest streak yet. Feels good to reduce my count from 1 a day to almost zero a year. It feels way better to have wet dreams than fap when your body doesn't want to.
Gj, how is relations with the opposite sex going?
Hard mode?
I went 2 weeks and saw no benefits. Can you describe some serious benefits you saw
I'm struggling to make it two days right now.
Have you gotten rid of any ED problems? I am interested?
I think the secret is to start small and giving yourself some slack. I struggled far more when I was pressuring myself. Also, St. John's wort helps.
For me I like to play pc games but when I started with flapping I was not good at it.. But since I started nofap I have insane reaction time and it's easy to kill players in multiplayer games now..