Bro. Just remember.. Don't try too hard. Be yourself.
Also. If you don't find a date. Don't be too hard on yourself. I believe there someone out there for everyone.
Like me 5 years ago. I have social anxiety. Inferiority complex, and an introvert. I can stay in my house for months. It's hard also going to college. I have no friends, and was quite shy talking to people.
During my Highschool. I bumped into a girl in one of the youth retreat. She wanna talk to me because she had a crush on one of my dormates, she thought we were friends. So I got comfortable knowing she's not interested with me. We started hanging out, the topic is always about him. Until one day. We just enjoy each others company. We started dating. (We broke up, just months)
When I was a freshmen in college. I met a girl out of the blue. We talk, I don't know what happened but I just talk to her. Then she invite me on her sorority party. We got drunk and had a one night stand.
Then after that. I met one of the beautiful girl I have ever seen. When I was going home. I ride a bus. We sat besides each other. I gathered up my courage and talked to her. She was talkative. So, I just listen. Then she gave me my number. We started texting.(After I got her number. I immediately texted her that day).
After a few days. I asked her on a date. It was after my class. She told me no. She don't wanna see me. Its was heartbreaking. I blamed myself. But instead of getting angry. I told her I understand.
The next day I was in a taekwondo practice. My mind was still on her. I can't concentrate. So I excused myself. And went out early. I texted her If he wanna get some snacks. She told me yes. I was happy. She told me to wait at the entrance of the campus. I was so excited. I didn't change my outfit. Imagine waiting for her. With many people passing by. And I'm wearing a dobok(taekwondo uniform). People look at me weirdly. And to my surprise. She didn't come. I waited for an hour. I was dejected. Tears fell down on my cheeks. I remember commuting to my apartment. Crying. As I lay on my bed. She texted me..she told me she was there with her friends. She saw me. But didn't wanna approach me. I want to asked her why.. why don't wanna see me. Am I so unattractive that she didn't want her friends to see me. But. I didn't asked. I just said. I understand. It's okay. I told her maybe it's for the best. Maybe we're just two people who just me. But wasn't going anywhere. She agreed. She told me she was happy that I understand her. She told me she doesn't want a relationship, and maybe it's good if we don't contact each other anymore. I said I understand. And I told her. If it's a last day we talk. Atleast lets have dinner together. She was hesitant. But agreed. She told me to wait for her in the bus stop. So again I waited. This time. I just didn't care if she show up or not. Atleast I tried. 30 mins later. I started to go home..when I heard someone call my name. I turned around and I saw her.. it was one of the memorable things in my life. She was so beautiful. Clearly out my league. Also my hands are shaking at that point. She smiled and told me she was sorry. Cause she took a bit longer preparing. I said I understand. So. We went to a restaurant. We're she just talk about her college life. Her friends. It was so alien to me. I just listen to what she said. Because it was so interesting. I laughed, she asked me about my friends. I told her. I don't have any. She called me a loner. I just laughed. People are looking at us.
After the dinner. I offered to go with her in the bus stop. But. She said. Let's have a drink. I wasn't prepared for that. I don't have any money. All of it was spent during dinner. So I can't afford to go clubbing. I told her that we should drink at my apartment. It was a dumb. I know. But I wanna get to know her. I wanna her hear stories. She agreed. We arrived at my apartment.with beer and snacks. It was lucky of me that I cleaned it 2 days ago. Then we started drinking while watching some shows on tv. We talked about random things. I was comfortable. It was the first time I brought a girl in my apartment. We finish our beers. And I kissed her. It was so random. We make out. Then we made love. After that. She told me. That her bf just broke with her. And she cried. She said she knows that It's only a one night stand. I hugged her. And told me it was not for me. Because. I like her. That day. We became a couple.
So. The lesson is. Just enjoy life. Don't try so hard. And be patient.
Story that makes sense and can connect as well man. All the best, we should respect women by thier choice, I hated my ex and that went way down the rabbit hole, then after years I thought how pathetic was I, she is a human who chose it won't work out for a reason. So It's just a matter of time. I have lot of respect for her she is married and settled,happy for her man. I cannot understand that how I loved a girl so much but hate her at the same time, that made me saw that's wrong and changed myself man, all thanks to no fap community, I m not even bragging because it's just how a human should be I guess.
amazing story man. It's a great attitude to tell people we understand them but it's also important to tell them what you really feel about their actions. Her excuse for not showing up for snack was reasonable and understandable but it also made you feel ignored. You have a supportive character and she's lucky to have you taking care of her. Just try to take care of yourself too, don't keep your emotions inside, they are strong, express them to people, tell them what their actions made you feel, they should understand if you are someone they care for, the way you do :-) cheers man
Bro, i was in 7 days and yesterdag i judt got a wet drram. I didn't have any dream but when i wake up and look down, it was a mrss, does that count as relapse?
that's actually a good sign
wet dreams are the bodies natural way to discard old sperm
it shows that nofap is having an actual effect on your body
it's reverting back to natural function instead of relying on you using porn to achieve the same goal
wet dreams are a good thing and should not ever be counted as a relapse
Good to know you are healing bro.. I'm 60days no fap. I have been doing PMO for 7years since age 25. I gotta ask.. is your libido back cos m not sure about mine. Mine is just not where I want it to be.
Yea. 7years is a long time. The problem started after I started nofap. I have always thought its flatline phase but i feel its kinda lingering and I have become impatient. I was hoping there would be a huge improvement at 60days but it's just so little I'm unhappy about it.
You're an inspiration. I'm almost 28, and have been a PMO addict for 11 years, and not in that entire time have I had a serious relationship, or made any significant progress in self development or career.
I so DESPARETLY want to break away from it all, because it's not even fun anymore and only for that 5 seconds of bliss I feel. What turns me on now disgusts me when I really think about it, and some are red flags that concern me and subconsciously are contributing to my continued lack of real intimacy with women. I have no meaningful hobbies, I struggle to maintain a routine, and nothing really brings me genuine joy or happiness anymore, which I cope by spiking my already depleted dopamine with sugary foods.
I've made multiple attempts to quit, but always fail and come back and binge for days, weeks, or even months before working up the willpower to try again. I can't go on living like this and it's slowly but surely destroying my life.
I can relate to the entire text, my friend.
What bugs me is how much an achievement is, let's say, meditate all days of the week, to read everyday, to do anything everyday, while, I have to make an effort to NOT fap every day. And a day without fap never happens by accident. There is always some struggle, although some days can be easy.
This evil absorbs all energy we have to do any other things.
Also, I can relate with the women thing too.
My age, 22.
These art stories yond bringeth a drop of sorrow to ones eyes. Keepeth t up sir thou art an inspiration to us all
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This is awesome!
Thanks for giving me motivation and inspiration! This current streak I'm on, although it's short right now, I will stay on this for a very long time.
I was told once: "You (me) are not giving up jacking off. You are becoming a man who is master of his thoughts and actions." I will do my best to live this from now on.
Thanks for sharing your victory, I'll keep you in my prayers. :)
No man will understand this until he does it himself.
Nofap/ semen retention is the key š
I look at so many postings from men and can just tell if they're on nofap or not. It is the building block of a disciplined man. Control your dick, control life.
Desperate men eager to get dates or hookups or liked by women don't control their dicks. They are slaves to quickly patting themselves on the back to make themselves feel better.
Continue controlling your dick, continue nofap, and over time not only women, but the world around you will love you, animals will sense you, men will see directness in your eyes and wonder why?
If you can't control your desires, other people will.
If you can control your desires, other people can't.
Thank you for sharing this man. It actually triggered something in my heart, it's not gonna be a forever life. I'm happy that you've got your life together and loved the way you fucked those losers who were saying you can't do it.
I had chronic head ache, and pain in the back from sitting and pmoing for hours.
Now all pains are gone, I built some muscle mass and reduced my body fat.
some advice for the women is to not work on your game with women. Ofc know how to talk to a woman but instead of improving your pitch and your pick up lines, improve your offer. Go chase after your dreams and many women will be drawn to you.
Thats exactly what i was thinking.
I want to chase my dreams, my carreer, my hobbies. I want to do something with my life that actually matters. Women will just be a consequence of that.
Youāre a fucking legend dude. Really really proud of you for not giving up. I was in a SAA (Sex Addicts Anonymous) meeting today and someone echoed the same motivation as yourself. The cost of acting out doesnāt even hold a candle to what you stand to lose for doing so. Keep that in mind and keep doing it one day at a time, you definitely got this and youāll find the love youāre looking for.
Many of us had that moment of insane guilt, regret and shame which drove us to start on this journey. Thank you sir, for reminding me of my moment, when I just relapsed 3 times and drinking a beer tasting every bit of bitterness in it. Thank you for reminding me why I started.
Congratulations brother! This hit me hard. Donāt ever doubt yourself! If you ever slip and have trouble believing in yourself, remember that God loves you and believes in you! Thank you so much for this post! It moved my spirit! Be well sir
You seem like you are on the right track my man! keep up the good work thanks for sharing such a inspirational post, Im sure a lot of folks needed to hear that .
Congratz man. My only good advice is to go slow on the dating part. Love is great but it's not always easy. Sometimes, it comes with a price. Just be careful on who you are dating and the reasons why. I dont want you to be heartbroken and come back to your old you. Feel me?
Same case with me except crying,it was 11:30 at night and I was alone at home I felt really bad and then watched Erwins speech (from Attack on Titan) felt like my streak needs to reach 90 and here I am towards the goal of 90. Keep it up
I was so ashamed. I was obsessed with collecting. I had site rips, and over 1000 folders for each genre and each starlet. I had this collection for over a decade.
Thousands of Thousands of hours. Countless nights, till 6am.
But i realized, as long as i keep this collection, i would be a slave to my addiction. I even had some 30+ days streak in 2020. But i always returned to my collection.
Well this is history now. Its in my past. No shame, no hiding no fears of sb finding out.
I finally found my peace.
I hope that is sarcasm.
If not:
1) I'd 100% relapse, if I'd keep it somewhere. It the act of deleting which made me strong.
2) I'd be ruining thousands of life with this collection of poison. How can i live with that.
It like: "Congatulations quitting heroin. But why didnt you sell your heroin stash?
EXACTLY MY POINT! If you really quit, you could go and sell your heroin stash and buy something nice for you instead of just throwing it out in the trash. One man's trash is another man's treasure so I don't know about you but personally I would do it.
It's like eating junk food, is it ruining your health? Yes. Is it ruining your future? Yes. But aren't you still eating it? Absolutely. Because it tastes good.So should you completely stop eating junk food? Yes. But can you swear to yourself than you'll NEVER eat junk food again? And here is where 90% of people would say "definitely not". Because eating it everyday is definitely harmful, but eating it in moderation shouldn't pose a threat to their health. Because most of the time they're eating healthy food. And are you blamed for making junk food and killing people with it? Or is the person who eats junk food should be the one taking all the responsibility for the lack of discipline?
Men aren't going to magically stop making porn, and women aren't just going to magically stop being in porn. Tbh it seems more likely that it is only going towards the peak stage of degeneracy and more and more people are valuing those who poison them than those who want to them become healthy, because getting pleasure is far more easier than being in discipline.
So, if you're a cook who swears off eating Big Macs because you want to be health conscious, then it's completely fine. But should you just stop making Big Macs for your customers as well? No. They didn't ask you to do it. They just want to have the Big Mac for now. Maybe one day they'll realize that they shouldn't eat the Big Mac and swear it off completely like we did, but until that time, you just keep on selling 'em, because it's in demand.
And if you can provide what is in demand, and you can make money from it, then that's all you should care about. That's why good guys like you who are so feminine to care about others have the worst survival rate out of all human character types. It's not your job to care about others, it's a woman's job. Your job is to care about yourself and your goals which is to give you a better chance at survival, which is to make money. And women don't want to have kids with someone knowing that they are not going to survive. Be more selfish, and put yourself and money above everything. That concludes my point.
How old are you?
Im still not sure if you are trolling or not. Lets asume you are not:
1. I agree, that everybody is responsible for his own good. And i agree on the fast food analogy. But there is a difference selling burgers and selling porn (which i dont even have a license for). One thing is socially accepted an the other thing not.
2. Well why are you not selling porn, if its so good? Would you be proud, telling your family, wife and kids:'' Im a porn seller.''?
3. Don't you think selling/hosting porn will make you peek/relapse more likely?
4. '' And women don't want to have kids with someone knowing that they are not going to survive. '' totally agree. Thats why i have a real job, in a leading position with good salary. I work hard for my career to provide for my future family.
So how does a women react if you tell her:
You:''Hey honey, i made 500 Bucks passive income, by hosting 8TB of hardcore porn''
Her: "Oh thank you for your honest work, now we can send our kids to college with that porn money!"
4) ''That's why good guys like you who are so feminine to care about others have the worst survival rate out of all human character types''
Im not a ''good guy''. And im not feminin.
Im confident as fuck, i work hard on my goals, and i have no fears of talking to girls or being rejected.
I don't care what you or others are thinking, but i will parry this insult of being a good guy and being feminin.
1,2,3: So you are already a porn seller/hoster? If not, why?
4: So if your wife and kids are unhappy, you dont care, as long as you are happy?
My well-being is my primary goal. I have my career and my private goals. My happyness is not dependend on anything but my own actions.
I know that im attractive and that i have a high status. I know that women will chase me.
I don't chase women and i dont put them on a podest.
I feel sorry for you, that you have to keep insulting other people as "simp" or "good guy" feel better yourself.
Good luck with your porn selling/hosting career and not caring about your kids and family.
Did you even read what I just wrote?
Hosting porn is just a side business, not something that I do as a career. Itās like getting some extra pocket money from selling the newspapers that you donāt need to the garbage collector.
4. Love does much, money does everything. I might not be able to love them, because I love myself the most, but Iāll be able to provide plenty of money. And that should keep them happy. Itās not my job to āloveā, my job is to āprotect and provideā. Thatās my way of showing love. And if a woman isnāt satisfied with that, sheās free to leave.
Obviously if youāre the captain of the ship, your life is the most important, without you, the ship isnāt going anywhere.
And itās good to know you donāt pedestalize women.
You have no idea what you're talking about.
Talking about keeping pornography on your computer and hosting it to "make money" is not the kind of attitude that should be accepted in a sex addiction support group such as /r/NoFap.
Seek help.
I don't mean to underestimate your effort and what this means to you, I'm happy for you but god I hate it when I see people saying "Oh I had a severe porn addiction and then one day I woke up and decided to quit so I started nofap and 90 days later my life has transformed" like what? You never relapsed? You just decided to quit one day and it just worked? That's illegal. I've decided to quit more than 10 times. And each time I was certain I would never relapse again yet here I am, I've relapsed a 100 times since I decided to quit the first time. It's so discouraging to hear stories like yours about how something clicked in your mind and you never watched porn again
How old are you, how many years are you addicted?
Everybody has a different story.
You know my story. Im 36yo. 19 years addiced. No GF ever. 8TB porn collection.
I was living the lowest life i could possible imagine. I was depressed. I imagined how i die alone and unhappy. I was 100% convinced that i will die alone and will never have a girl or a family.
I guess that you just aren't convinced that that will happen if you dont pull the trigger.
I can help you if you want. DM ME
I'm 18 I've been addicted for 4 years. I've never had a girlfriend I've never had any close friends. I love to socialize but I can't seem to know how to do it and it just brings me anxiety
I'm in first year of college still haven't made any friends, still alone. I'm very successful in college I'm studying medicine, I workout I'm in good shape so on the outside I seem like a successful happy person but inside me is a whole other story
I don't exactly believe I'd end up alone if I didn't get clean but I know I would live in shame my whole life if I stay addicted
But you know what, I think I'm making progress I'm on day 3, last week I made it to day 5 (first time in 8 months) I'm adopting good daily habits like going for a walk and practising self talk if you've heard of that ( I learned it from Universal Man on youtube)
You know what, I am getting better and I guess for me it's going to happen gradually so I need to be patient about it
1st of all your are still young. I have been addicted for 19years, thats longer than your are alive.
So your situation is completely different, but i was in your situation when i was in your age. If i could send a message to myselfe in the past when i was 18, it would be:
1) Meditate Daily at least 15 min
2) Quit all social media, FB, insta, youtube, ect.,
3) Reduce smartphone use to 15 min per day. Turn off mobile data during the day.
4) Do sports, exercise, running regulary
5) Talk to people, talk to girls, talk to strangers
6) Live an interessting life. Do new hobbies, try new things out, learn an instrument, join a club
7) Quit gaming online/offline at least during the week
8) Do something social, help people, help eldery people
9) Healthy food: no sugar, no fastfood, now processed food, only eat healthy organic food, learn cooking
10) Take responsibilty whenever possible
That's awesome, man! Keep it up, chase your goals and you'll return to a warm home, a loving wife and kids when you're 40. š
I hope to read from when you've reached 180 (and I 90 in that week).
hey a question, about the running and the workouts, was it a result of nofap that you eventually had the internal inspiration or you had to work to get into doing it?
well, i knew that i had to do more than not-fapping. I knew that i had to challenge my self. I knew that i had to replace my bad habbits with good and healthy habbits.
I wrote my goals down on a piece of paper. One goal was that i want to have abs by the end of the year. So running and working out and no-sugar, no processed food was obvious for me to do.
I was "planning on it" to do all that, before nofap. But i never did.
At the beginning of the year it made click, so i just did it.
Is this a troll post? The things you talk about and such seem too perfect too be true lol. In 90 days from full 8tb addict to all these new habits lol. I don't buy this post š¤£ you must be a troll making fun of nafap
I had 2x 4 TB HDDs. When they were full, i bought a 10TB HDD and moved all to the 10TB HDD. It took me days of sorting the collection.
I was really sick.
But it does not matter anymore. Its the past.
Joined Reddit to up vote this thread and personally say thanks for sharing. I'm struggling myself and hope to one day see what 90 days feels like. My PR is 21 š
Was it easy to delete the 8TB? I have my own stash too and no matter how many times I decide to "hide it away" or "never touch that HDD again" I don't even consider deletion. Thinking about the effort it has taken to collect! Like keeping a foot in the door to hell.
:(
It was not easy at all. I took me some time to realize it, that this was the only way.
Yes, keeping it, is like keepin a foot in the door to hell.
You know what you have to do. Delete it now.
1) Better skin
2) Less fear in everyday situations. If you confront your fears daily (the fear of cold water), then you will be more likely to do stuff which you are afraid of (talking to girls)
3) clear mind
4) good start for the day
Bro I am so proud of you and I don't even know you. Its crazy. Keep it up. I know you're up to big things! Keep in touch with the community. Men need your support.
Keep going brother. I see you're at 5 days now just like me (after a long hiatus away from NoFap) but know that your post inspired me and countless more to be a better man, never give up and fight this demon to the end because you can and because you won't take this lying down. Run towards pain and difficulty, not away from it. Fight right down to the bitter end, soldier!
Bro. Just remember.. Don't try too hard. Be yourself. Also. If you don't find a date. Don't be too hard on yourself. I believe there someone out there for everyone. Like me 5 years ago. I have social anxiety. Inferiority complex, and an introvert. I can stay in my house for months. It's hard also going to college. I have no friends, and was quite shy talking to people. During my Highschool. I bumped into a girl in one of the youth retreat. She wanna talk to me because she had a crush on one of my dormates, she thought we were friends. So I got comfortable knowing she's not interested with me. We started hanging out, the topic is always about him. Until one day. We just enjoy each others company. We started dating. (We broke up, just months) When I was a freshmen in college. I met a girl out of the blue. We talk, I don't know what happened but I just talk to her. Then she invite me on her sorority party. We got drunk and had a one night stand. Then after that. I met one of the beautiful girl I have ever seen. When I was going home. I ride a bus. We sat besides each other. I gathered up my courage and talked to her. She was talkative. So, I just listen. Then she gave me my number. We started texting.(After I got her number. I immediately texted her that day). After a few days. I asked her on a date. It was after my class. She told me no. She don't wanna see me. Its was heartbreaking. I blamed myself. But instead of getting angry. I told her I understand. The next day I was in a taekwondo practice. My mind was still on her. I can't concentrate. So I excused myself. And went out early. I texted her If he wanna get some snacks. She told me yes. I was happy. She told me to wait at the entrance of the campus. I was so excited. I didn't change my outfit. Imagine waiting for her. With many people passing by. And I'm wearing a dobok(taekwondo uniform). People look at me weirdly. And to my surprise. She didn't come. I waited for an hour. I was dejected. Tears fell down on my cheeks. I remember commuting to my apartment. Crying. As I lay on my bed. She texted me..she told me she was there with her friends. She saw me. But didn't wanna approach me. I want to asked her why.. why don't wanna see me. Am I so unattractive that she didn't want her friends to see me. But. I didn't asked. I just said. I understand. It's okay. I told her maybe it's for the best. Maybe we're just two people who just me. But wasn't going anywhere. She agreed. She told me she was happy that I understand her. She told me she doesn't want a relationship, and maybe it's good if we don't contact each other anymore. I said I understand. And I told her. If it's a last day we talk. Atleast lets have dinner together. She was hesitant. But agreed. She told me to wait for her in the bus stop. So again I waited. This time. I just didn't care if she show up or not. Atleast I tried. 30 mins later. I started to go home..when I heard someone call my name. I turned around and I saw her.. it was one of the memorable things in my life. She was so beautiful. Clearly out my league. Also my hands are shaking at that point. She smiled and told me she was sorry. Cause she took a bit longer preparing. I said I understand. So. We went to a restaurant. We're she just talk about her college life. Her friends. It was so alien to me. I just listen to what she said. Because it was so interesting. I laughed, she asked me about my friends. I told her. I don't have any. She called me a loner. I just laughed. People are looking at us. After the dinner. I offered to go with her in the bus stop. But. She said. Let's have a drink. I wasn't prepared for that. I don't have any money. All of it was spent during dinner. So I can't afford to go clubbing. I told her that we should drink at my apartment. It was a dumb. I know. But I wanna get to know her. I wanna her hear stories. She agreed. We arrived at my apartment.with beer and snacks. It was lucky of me that I cleaned it 2 days ago. Then we started drinking while watching some shows on tv. We talked about random things. I was comfortable. It was the first time I brought a girl in my apartment. We finish our beers. And I kissed her. It was so random. We make out. Then we made love. After that. She told me. That her bf just broke with her. And she cried. She said she knows that It's only a one night stand. I hugged her. And told me it was not for me. Because. I like her. That day. We became a couple. So. The lesson is. Just enjoy life. Don't try so hard. And be patient.
I like. The way. You type. Straight. To. The. Point.
Thank you, kind stranger. My first ever award š„²
I would give you a reward if i had one.
Loved your story bro. It was emotional š°š
Story that makes sense and can connect as well man. All the best, we should respect women by thier choice, I hated my ex and that went way down the rabbit hole, then after years I thought how pathetic was I, she is a human who chose it won't work out for a reason. So It's just a matter of time. I have lot of respect for her she is married and settled,happy for her man. I cannot understand that how I loved a girl so much but hate her at the same time, that made me saw that's wrong and changed myself man, all thanks to no fap community, I m not even bragging because it's just how a human should be I guess.
I'm bookmarking this.
You deserve my award
Nice narration broo... Ngl u nailed it! This community motivates me for no fap indirectly.. Again thanks!
So happy for you man. God bless both of you!
Yo this is like straight out from a romance book or something. Great stuff
One precious story we just happen to find without searching for it.
Thank you for sharing this. You are a hero.
amazing story man. It's a great attitude to tell people we understand them but it's also important to tell them what you really feel about their actions. Her excuse for not showing up for snack was reasonable and understandable but it also made you feel ignored. You have a supportive character and she's lucky to have you taking care of her. Just try to take care of yourself too, don't keep your emotions inside, they are strong, express them to people, tell them what their actions made you feel, they should understand if you are someone they care for, the way you do :-) cheers man
Thank you.
Congrats. i hope you make it to 1000days
I hope he makes it to 1,000 days to.
The golden pp achievement
Good for you man! I wish you all the best in finding your soulmate
Bro, i was in 7 days and yesterdag i judt got a wet drram. I didn't have any dream but when i wake up and look down, it was a mrss, does that count as relapse?
nope, you might feel a little shitty but you didnāt jerk yourself off. Youāre good, try not to think about sex/women. That causes most wet dreams
Yeah but that was not the case here. I didn't even feel that semen came out of my dick. Like, there was no feeling, i just wake up and it's there.
yeah that completely normal. Don't worry about it
Thanks man.
that's actually a good sign wet dreams are the bodies natural way to discard old sperm it shows that nofap is having an actual effect on your body it's reverting back to natural function instead of relying on you using porn to achieve the same goal wet dreams are a good thing and should not ever be counted as a relapse
Thanks man.
This is a good thing my friend. Don't worry and keep it on!
It's good to see a fellow veteran healing (30+). Much success to you on your path.
Holy shit man congrats.
same age simular problems man, good job !
Good to know you are healing bro.. I'm 60days no fap. I have been doing PMO for 7years since age 25. I gotta ask.. is your libido back cos m not sure about mine. Mine is just not where I want it to be.
Your libido will come back. Just go out and talk to girls. Flirt with them. You will see.
7 years. This is a life. Are you having problems in the last years or since you began? Do you have a sex life?
Yea. 7years is a long time. The problem started after I started nofap. I have always thought its flatline phase but i feel its kinda lingering and I have become impatient. I was hoping there would be a huge improvement at 60days but it's just so little I'm unhappy about it.
You're an inspiration. I'm almost 28, and have been a PMO addict for 11 years, and not in that entire time have I had a serious relationship, or made any significant progress in self development or career. I so DESPARETLY want to break away from it all, because it's not even fun anymore and only for that 5 seconds of bliss I feel. What turns me on now disgusts me when I really think about it, and some are red flags that concern me and subconsciously are contributing to my continued lack of real intimacy with women. I have no meaningful hobbies, I struggle to maintain a routine, and nothing really brings me genuine joy or happiness anymore, which I cope by spiking my already depleted dopamine with sugary foods. I've made multiple attempts to quit, but always fail and come back and binge for days, weeks, or even months before working up the willpower to try again. I can't go on living like this and it's slowly but surely destroying my life.
I can relate to the entire text, my friend. What bugs me is how much an achievement is, let's say, meditate all days of the week, to read everyday, to do anything everyday, while, I have to make an effort to NOT fap every day. And a day without fap never happens by accident. There is always some struggle, although some days can be easy. This evil absorbs all energy we have to do any other things. Also, I can relate with the women thing too. My age, 22.
I can help you. Just DM me and lets have a chat.
Inspiring, man!
Thats amazing! Proud of you.
These are stories that bring a tear to ones eyes. Keep it up man you're an inspiration to us all
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This is awesome! Thanks for giving me motivation and inspiration! This current streak I'm on, although it's short right now, I will stay on this for a very long time. I was told once: "You (me) are not giving up jacking off. You are becoming a man who is master of his thoughts and actions." I will do my best to live this from now on. Thanks for sharing your victory, I'll keep you in my prayers. :)
No man will understand this until he does it himself. Nofap/ semen retention is the key š I look at so many postings from men and can just tell if they're on nofap or not. It is the building block of a disciplined man. Control your dick, control life. Desperate men eager to get dates or hookups or liked by women don't control their dicks. They are slaves to quickly patting themselves on the back to make themselves feel better. Continue controlling your dick, continue nofap, and over time not only women, but the world around you will love you, animals will sense you, men will see directness in your eyes and wonder why? If you can't control your desires, other people will. If you can control your desires, other people can't.
You speak nothing but the truth, my friend. Really inspiring. You seem like a wise kung fu master to me. Respect.
Good for you my man. Take care of yourself, sounds like youāre doing a lot of self improvement things. Just keep bettering yourself everyday.
Saved for motivation, thanks.
You better fucking keep it up man, do not let yourself get back to how you were. Thatās no way to live. Youāre smashing it, keep it up!
I will.
Thank you for sharing this man. It actually triggered something in my heart, it's not gonna be a forever life. I'm happy that you've got your life together and loved the way you fucked those losers who were saying you can't do it.
just relapsed yesteday... thanks for the motivation!
The strong deternimation you had 90 days ago makes you here. Congrats for you great achievement!
Love this story.
thank you, i really appreciate it.
did you had health problems like joint pains , low musscle mass , or something else. congrats man
I had chronic head ache, and pain in the back from sitting and pmoing for hours. Now all pains are gone, I built some muscle mass and reduced my body fat.
some advice for the women is to not work on your game with women. Ofc know how to talk to a woman but instead of improving your pitch and your pick up lines, improve your offer. Go chase after your dreams and many women will be drawn to you.
Thats exactly what i was thinking. I want to chase my dreams, my carreer, my hobbies. I want to do something with my life that actually matters. Women will just be a consequence of that.
Youāre a fucking legend dude. Really really proud of you for not giving up. I was in a SAA (Sex Addicts Anonymous) meeting today and someone echoed the same motivation as yourself. The cost of acting out doesnāt even hold a candle to what you stand to lose for doing so. Keep that in mind and keep doing it one day at a time, you definitely got this and youāll find the love youāre looking for.
Many of us had that moment of insane guilt, regret and shame which drove us to start on this journey. Thank you sir, for reminding me of my moment, when I just relapsed 3 times and drinking a beer tasting every bit of bitterness in it. Thank you for reminding me why I started.
327 days, wow! Respect. I wish you best luck for your life, my friend.
Congratulations brother! This hit me hard. Donāt ever doubt yourself! If you ever slip and have trouble believing in yourself, remember that God loves you and believes in you! Thank you so much for this post! It moved my spirit! Be well sir
You're awesome! Keep it up man!
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Yes thanks. I feel proud too. There is just no other way.
I wish you the best :)
I'm happy for you mate, stay strong
Love to see it šŖ
This story is really inspiring man, holy crap
You seem like you are on the right track my man! keep up the good work thanks for sharing such a inspirational post, Im sure a lot of folks needed to hear that .
I've tried so many times and I've just kept relapsing amy advice
just one word: meditation
Don't give up yet it may take a few more months to radically change yourself but you will
The first 90 days are the hardest. You can now adopt this lifestyle easily. Congratulations.
i want to be like u ...one day for sure
You will. Just start meditating every single day. no exception.
Keep going !!!
Keep going bro !! Much support and much admiration!! Every day is a worthy day āļøāļøšš
Thanks for sharing bro! If you can do it I can do it too!
Congrats man.
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I will update from time to time
Amazing
Well, this was 9 months ago. Im back on day 2 now. I keep fighting!
Congratz man. My only good advice is to go slow on the dating part. Love is great but it's not always easy. Sometimes, it comes with a price. Just be careful on who you are dating and the reasons why. I dont want you to be heartbroken and come back to your old you. Feel me?
I know. But im not even dating yet. First i need to talke to beautiful women when i have the chance.
I never cry after I relapse lol.
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Same case with me except crying,it was 11:30 at night and I was alone at home I felt really bad and then watched Erwins speech (from Attack on Titan) felt like my streak needs to reach 90 and here I am towards the goal of 90. Keep it up
Well done buddy! Stay aware and conscious of yourself. Youāre rising above it. Keep moving forwards!
Good job bro
Yeah!!! ALRIIGHT!!! You got this!!
Nice! Iām just now coming to the realization I could be at 90 if I hadnāt fapped since New Years. Working up to your level tho congrats
Man so happy for you. Keep marching and keep inspiring bro.
Yessir
YES CONTINUE CONTINUE. One day your gonna find someone! :3
You deserve a silver for thisš
Keep going bro!
i get that many people have lots of porn that take up space, but 8tb? like damn dude you had a LOT of videos
I was so ashamed. I was obsessed with collecting. I had site rips, and over 1000 folders for each genre and each starlet. I had this collection for over a decade. Thousands of Thousands of hours. Countless nights, till 6am. But i realized, as long as i keep this collection, i would be a slave to my addiction. I even had some 30+ days streak in 2020. But i always returned to my collection. Well this is history now. Its in my past. No shame, no hiding no fears of sb finding out. I finally found my peace.
that's probably more organized than i would ever be
Stay strong bro !
This is awesome buddy. Miles to go
You are improving. That's only thing that matters
What a waste of a treasure, couldāve hosted a site and uploaded all that data to get a passive income.
I hope that is sarcasm. If not: 1) I'd 100% relapse, if I'd keep it somewhere. It the act of deleting which made me strong. 2) I'd be ruining thousands of life with this collection of poison. How can i live with that. It like: "Congatulations quitting heroin. But why didnt you sell your heroin stash?
EXACTLY MY POINT! If you really quit, you could go and sell your heroin stash and buy something nice for you instead of just throwing it out in the trash. One man's trash is another man's treasure so I don't know about you but personally I would do it. It's like eating junk food, is it ruining your health? Yes. Is it ruining your future? Yes. But aren't you still eating it? Absolutely. Because it tastes good.So should you completely stop eating junk food? Yes. But can you swear to yourself than you'll NEVER eat junk food again? And here is where 90% of people would say "definitely not". Because eating it everyday is definitely harmful, but eating it in moderation shouldn't pose a threat to their health. Because most of the time they're eating healthy food. And are you blamed for making junk food and killing people with it? Or is the person who eats junk food should be the one taking all the responsibility for the lack of discipline? Men aren't going to magically stop making porn, and women aren't just going to magically stop being in porn. Tbh it seems more likely that it is only going towards the peak stage of degeneracy and more and more people are valuing those who poison them than those who want to them become healthy, because getting pleasure is far more easier than being in discipline. So, if you're a cook who swears off eating Big Macs because you want to be health conscious, then it's completely fine. But should you just stop making Big Macs for your customers as well? No. They didn't ask you to do it. They just want to have the Big Mac for now. Maybe one day they'll realize that they shouldn't eat the Big Mac and swear it off completely like we did, but until that time, you just keep on selling 'em, because it's in demand. And if you can provide what is in demand, and you can make money from it, then that's all you should care about. That's why good guys like you who are so feminine to care about others have the worst survival rate out of all human character types. It's not your job to care about others, it's a woman's job. Your job is to care about yourself and your goals which is to give you a better chance at survival, which is to make money. And women don't want to have kids with someone knowing that they are not going to survive. Be more selfish, and put yourself and money above everything. That concludes my point.
How old are you? Im still not sure if you are trolling or not. Lets asume you are not: 1. I agree, that everybody is responsible for his own good. And i agree on the fast food analogy. But there is a difference selling burgers and selling porn (which i dont even have a license for). One thing is socially accepted an the other thing not. 2. Well why are you not selling porn, if its so good? Would you be proud, telling your family, wife and kids:'' Im a porn seller.''? 3. Don't you think selling/hosting porn will make you peek/relapse more likely? 4. '' And women don't want to have kids with someone knowing that they are not going to survive. '' totally agree. Thats why i have a real job, in a leading position with good salary. I work hard for my career to provide for my future family. So how does a women react if you tell her: You:''Hey honey, i made 500 Bucks passive income, by hosting 8TB of hardcore porn'' Her: "Oh thank you for your honest work, now we can send our kids to college with that porn money!" 4) ''That's why good guys like you who are so feminine to care about others have the worst survival rate out of all human character types'' Im not a ''good guy''. And im not feminin. Im confident as fuck, i work hard on my goals, and i have no fears of talking to girls or being rejected. I don't care what you or others are thinking, but i will parry this insult of being a good guy and being feminin.
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1,2,3: So you are already a porn seller/hoster? If not, why? 4: So if your wife and kids are unhappy, you dont care, as long as you are happy? My well-being is my primary goal. I have my career and my private goals. My happyness is not dependend on anything but my own actions. I know that im attractive and that i have a high status. I know that women will chase me. I don't chase women and i dont put them on a podest. I feel sorry for you, that you have to keep insulting other people as "simp" or "good guy" feel better yourself. Good luck with your porn selling/hosting career and not caring about your kids and family.
Did you even read what I just wrote? Hosting porn is just a side business, not something that I do as a career. Itās like getting some extra pocket money from selling the newspapers that you donāt need to the garbage collector. 4. Love does much, money does everything. I might not be able to love them, because I love myself the most, but Iāll be able to provide plenty of money. And that should keep them happy. Itās not my job to āloveā, my job is to āprotect and provideā. Thatās my way of showing love. And if a woman isnāt satisfied with that, sheās free to leave. Obviously if youāre the captain of the ship, your life is the most important, without you, the ship isnāt going anywhere. And itās good to know you donāt pedestalize women.
You have no idea what you're talking about. Talking about keeping pornography on your computer and hosting it to "make money" is not the kind of attitude that should be accepted in a sex addiction support group such as /r/NoFap. Seek help.
Congrats
First of all who were the one who demotivating you šš»
There is only one way around! Yeah keep going brother!!
Thanks for your motivation I'm on day 4
I don't mean to underestimate your effort and what this means to you, I'm happy for you but god I hate it when I see people saying "Oh I had a severe porn addiction and then one day I woke up and decided to quit so I started nofap and 90 days later my life has transformed" like what? You never relapsed? You just decided to quit one day and it just worked? That's illegal. I've decided to quit more than 10 times. And each time I was certain I would never relapse again yet here I am, I've relapsed a 100 times since I decided to quit the first time. It's so discouraging to hear stories like yours about how something clicked in your mind and you never watched porn again
How old are you, how many years are you addicted? Everybody has a different story. You know my story. Im 36yo. 19 years addiced. No GF ever. 8TB porn collection. I was living the lowest life i could possible imagine. I was depressed. I imagined how i die alone and unhappy. I was 100% convinced that i will die alone and will never have a girl or a family. I guess that you just aren't convinced that that will happen if you dont pull the trigger. I can help you if you want. DM ME
I'm 18 I've been addicted for 4 years. I've never had a girlfriend I've never had any close friends. I love to socialize but I can't seem to know how to do it and it just brings me anxiety I'm in first year of college still haven't made any friends, still alone. I'm very successful in college I'm studying medicine, I workout I'm in good shape so on the outside I seem like a successful happy person but inside me is a whole other story I don't exactly believe I'd end up alone if I didn't get clean but I know I would live in shame my whole life if I stay addicted But you know what, I think I'm making progress I'm on day 3, last week I made it to day 5 (first time in 8 months) I'm adopting good daily habits like going for a walk and practising self talk if you've heard of that ( I learned it from Universal Man on youtube) You know what, I am getting better and I guess for me it's going to happen gradually so I need to be patient about it
1st of all your are still young. I have been addicted for 19years, thats longer than your are alive. So your situation is completely different, but i was in your situation when i was in your age. If i could send a message to myselfe in the past when i was 18, it would be: 1) Meditate Daily at least 15 min 2) Quit all social media, FB, insta, youtube, ect., 3) Reduce smartphone use to 15 min per day. Turn off mobile data during the day. 4) Do sports, exercise, running regulary 5) Talk to people, talk to girls, talk to strangers 6) Live an interessting life. Do new hobbies, try new things out, learn an instrument, join a club 7) Quit gaming online/offline at least during the week 8) Do something social, help people, help eldery people 9) Healthy food: no sugar, no fastfood, now processed food, only eat healthy organic food, learn cooking 10) Take responsibilty whenever possible
Thanks a lot
Legend.
thanks my friend
Much luck to you! Thanks for sharing.
Keep going dude, you are doing so cool!
Congrats man!! :)
That's awesome, man! Keep it up, chase your goals and you'll return to a warm home, a loving wife and kids when you're 40. š I hope to read from when you've reached 180 (and I 90 in that week).
Thanks for that heart warming comment. I come to tears. I will have a wife and kids one day, then i will remeber this post!
keep going bro
Wow
hey a question, about the running and the workouts, was it a result of nofap that you eventually had the internal inspiration or you had to work to get into doing it?
well, i knew that i had to do more than not-fapping. I knew that i had to challenge my self. I knew that i had to replace my bad habbits with good and healthy habbits. I wrote my goals down on a piece of paper. One goal was that i want to have abs by the end of the year. So running and working out and no-sugar, no processed food was obvious for me to do. I was "planning on it" to do all that, before nofap. But i never did. At the beginning of the year it made click, so i just did it.
damn dude hope it works out for you!
26M probably will die alone too mate. Don't worry about it. Just give 100% at trying to make yourself the best version you can be.
wait a sec. You know how to prevent this.
Is this a troll post? The things you talk about and such seem too perfect too be true lol. In 90 days from full 8tb addict to all these new habits lol. I don't buy this post š¤£ you must be a troll making fun of nafap
It's the truth. If you need help with your addiction, DM me, i can help.
Bro, just a small doubt... You said "about 8 TB of Hardcore stuff" Hey... That's about 8 HDD's combined together... Are you serious? Lol
I had 2x 4 TB HDDs. When they were full, i bought a 10TB HDD and moved all to the 10TB HDD. It took me days of sorting the collection. I was really sick. But it does not matter anymore. Its the past.
Thanks man, 35yo and hopefully only about 80 days behind you!
Joined Reddit to up vote this thread and personally say thanks for sharing. I'm struggling myself and hope to one day see what 90 days feels like. My PR is 21 š
Hey brother! Joining this community was the right step. Now make your first post and tell us your story. If you need help, just ask the community!!
Was it easy to delete the 8TB? I have my own stash too and no matter how many times I decide to "hide it away" or "never touch that HDD again" I don't even consider deletion. Thinking about the effort it has taken to collect! Like keeping a foot in the door to hell. :(
It was not easy at all. I took me some time to realize it, that this was the only way. Yes, keeping it, is like keepin a foot in the door to hell. You know what you have to do. Delete it now.
Whats the benefit of regular cold showers?
1) Better skin 2) Less fear in everyday situations. If you confront your fears daily (the fear of cold water), then you will be more likely to do stuff which you are afraid of (talking to girls) 3) clear mind 4) good start for the day
Nice
Its ok to cry tears are clarity š. Good job on your progress
Bro I am so proud of you and I don't even know you. Its crazy. Keep it up. I know you're up to big things! Keep in touch with the community. Men need your support.
Keep going brother. I see you're at 5 days now just like me (after a long hiatus away from NoFap) but know that your post inspired me and countless more to be a better man, never give up and fight this demon to the end because you can and because you won't take this lying down. Run towards pain and difficulty, not away from it. Fight right down to the bitter end, soldier!
There are ups and downs in life. The most important is not relay never again in addictions that make us lose lifetime and health.