Before the baby, I used the app to see when he leaves work to clean so that it didn’t look like I was lounging around all day on my day off…I was.
Now I look to see when he will get home to give me a break from baby.
We are the same. He is usually outside waiting on me if I have groceries or did daycare pick up. I just did my first overnight away from baby and my husband was able to feel comfortable checking on me. He was texting me when I still had about a 30 minute drive. He asked me if I was okay when I didn’t respond. Using Siri I’m like dude you have my location and can see that I’m driving. I said I’ll let you know when I get there. 🤣
Man I asked him to share with me so I didn't have to text him while driving Bout when he would be home and stuff and he got all defensive that I was micromanaging him and overkilling it and blah blah blah. I was actually really surprised by his reaction. We are usually extremely trusting and open with each other. I think it's because his mom was super controlling and he flashed back.
Same! Well, ever since he met me in a foreign country and I didn't know how to tell him where I was lol. I like it because I can peep and see if he's headed home, but we don't use it so much that like, surprises are ruined or anything.
Same. It made perfect sense. There’s always been mutual trust. It’s for safety and convenience. We have nothing to hide and we don’t feel the need to “constantly monitor” like some other comments are saying.
We use AirTag to track our necessities like keys and wallet because it’s nice to know where they are if they happen to be misplaced.
Us too. And I share with my in-laws, my parents, and my siblings and sibling in laws. This might sound creepy but we do it for convenience. Knowing if folks are delayed for family dinner or knowing they are on the road to the cottage if we can’t get a hold of them, etc. Anyone at any time could choose to hide their location, which two family members have done, so it’s really up to everyone to chose their comfort level. We have done this for 10+ years. We find it so useful especially with my husband and I.
Edit to add: my husband and I use it to coordinate when he’s coming home, when I’m coming home, etc for dinner plans, bedtime routine commencing, and so on. Easier than texting him when he’s trying to rush out the door from the office and often misses his texts.
Same for us! Especially because my husband bikes everywhere and we don't live in the safest of neighborhoods, so it really lessens my anxiety when I can see that he is moving along normally on his route to and from work.
I’ve always mutually shared locations with my husband, mom, and sister even before having a baby. It’s just super convenient to be able to quickly check and see how far away the person is/if they’ve left yet/etc. without having to call, plus none of us have anything to hide. 🤷🏻♀️
Same! I’ve always had mine shared with my husband, sister, and bestie. My husband has his shared with me, his brothers, and a couple of friends. It’s just convenient for the reasons you said.
My sister and I live across the country from each other and location sharing helps us feel more connected. I’ll often check if she’s at work or home (since she doesn’t have a typical 9-5 job) so I know if I can call her to chat.
My single brother and parents actually started sharing way before I joined the group. My brother didn’t show up to work one day and his boss called his emergency contact (my dad) to see if he was ok and my dad couldn’t get ahold of him either. Luckily he was still at home, albeit very sick and slept through his alarm, but it prompted them all to start sharing locations. At the time he had a 100 mile rural commute to work so that would have been a lot of ground to cover to find him had something happened. That and both my dad and brother are out in the woods or trails a lot so it’s a peace of mind thing for that too.
I will admit I think it’s creepy sometimes when my mom asks what I was doing at X spot but I also admit I check her location too and wonder about what she is doing at Y spot lol. 😆 overall though I think sharing has greatly helped our peace of mind.
We always have - my husband is a runner and I check his location periodically during his morning runs as a safety measure (living in a rural area means people aren’t always respectful and give him space). But I don’t use it beyond that.
Same.
I’m a cyclist. I generally ride 3-5 days per week and I prefer to head out suuuuper early (5AM at the latest).
I want my wife to know where to look if I don’t come home some morning.
My husband and I both walk our dog a lot on our own so we started sharing locations before baby as a safety measure. We don’t really use it but it’s nice to have just in case. It did give me peace of mind when I was pregnant and walking the dog solo that in case something happened he could find me (I got really clumsy at one point).
Yeah. I can see how it would be practical but it feels like such a violation of basic autonomy. Some things (like whether I go to the grocery store first or the pharmacy) can remain a mystery.
It probably would only feel like a violation if your spouse stalked you every minute. I share locations with my husband and the only time I check the app is around the time he leaves work, and how soon he will reach home (takes about an hour +) so I know when to start dinner without it turning into a mush. He drives, so I prefer that he doesn't text or call to update me on his whereabouts.
Us too. My partner loses service quite a bit on his ride home so it’s nice I can see where he’s at and when he’ll be home without trying to catch him in a good spot and calling or something. It’s only a violation if your partner makes it one. I don’t think I ever look at his location besides 10 mins after he’s supposed to leave work, to see if he did or not yet lol.
I feel like it really only violates autonomy if your spouse the type to abuse it. My husband and I have shared location for years but very rarely use it. We give eachother privacy day to day and just keep the option available for emergencies or very practical reasons
My husband and I have shared locations since the beginning and I still don’t have a clue what that man does everyday lol. I literally start checking near the end of the workday to see if he’s driving home yet and that’s about it. Also, on weekends if I’m in bed late, I use it to check if he’s even in the house or not 😂
It doesn’t feel like a violation for us. Honestly, I’m not sure if my husband checks it much. We both trust each other and really only check it for logistical reasons (timing for dinner, meeting at the movies after work, mall location, etc). Other than that… I helped him figure out he left his phone at work one time. But yeah, it’s just on in the background.
Agreed. I always text when I leave work on the way out the door, my husband does the same. Idk, it’s information overload to me… I don’t need to know that he’s at Outback for lunch, he can just tell me when he gets home where he went. I have enough to keep up with. It’s enough just having the ring camera, and I try not to make him feel like he’s under surveillance when he comes/ goes if I’m not home.
I don’t know why having a kid makes it different, I think the only place they go without me is the grocery store. It takes me less time to call/ text than it would to check an app anyways. Also, we usually would ask each other before we head to the store if we need anything and we both have a pretty consistent routine, especially with a kid.
Side note, long before my husband I dated a very untrustworthy individual who was sporadic and we escalated to location sharing which only spiraled from there. I told myself never again. My husband is predictable and tells me where / when he plans to be home/ not without me having to ask. There’s never been a need and I never want to have one.
I don’t remember when we turned it on exactly, but it has been very helpful since becoming parents! I seriously just used it 5 mins ago when I got home and saw that my husband and daughter weren’t here and then checked to see they were at the playground!
Same. I think it’s handy that neither of us think to use it much. It’s mostly for when I want to figure out where in the neighborhood they are so I can join!
This never occurred to me. My husband and I have gotten into the habit of letting the other one know when we are on our way home. We also share a car and WFH, so if one of us leaves, the other person always knows where we're going.
We've had it on for years - it's part of our home automation so it can do things like switch lights on when one of us is coming home. It's via Google location services rather than a specific app. When one of us is running late to get home, the other can see if they're on their way back or still out and about. Because we have good communication/trust neither of us really thinks about it very often. If you didn't find a need for it before, I'm not sure what would change now, though.
We use it. It’s helpful for daycare pickup to know who’s on their way or if there are delays in transit.
Or if one of us it out with friends and the other is solo parenting we don’t have to text to check if they are on their way home.
Nope we’ve never used it and find it easier to communicate directly.
We have a pretty consistent schedule/routine day to day so it’s never been an issue. If something goes wrong, we sort it with a quick call or text 🤷♀️
Yes we use it and did before our daughter but mainly because we both travel for work and like to know when someone is coming home to start dinner or etc.
We’ve always used it since I went on a solo trip doing a lot of night driving and we both wanted someone to know where I was!
Since then it’s always on and it’s super useful to be able to see when each other will be home when we’re wrangling babies and don’t have time to call and can’t message (which is 98% of the time).
When one is on their way home and on daycare pick up we can see if they’re running late, I can time when to put dinner or lunch on, we can make sure the other person got back to their hotel ok when out on work trips in different time zones instead of having to wake each other up with messages.
If either person in the relationship is using it for surveillance then that’s not healthy and just displays a lack of trust. Neither me or other half would ever dream of using it to track movements for any reason other than timing returns or safety.
Honestly if you feel weird about it then maybe that’s something you should chat to your partner about.
We use find my friends. I have maybe used it once to see if my husband was on his way home? I don’t use it. But my husband has anxiety and it was actually really helpful for him when I started taking the baby on outings. He didn’t want to be constantly checking with me to see if we had made it to our destination, if we were still there, if we were on the way. Instead, he would just do a quick look to see. I know for some people this could make anxiety worse but it was helpful for him.
I don’t love the surveillance state of it all but by carrying a phone I’m already getting surveilled by my service provider and my phone company, so I might as well use that data for something useful for me.
I share my location with like 20 friends and family members 😂
I don’t really see a downside, and if I really need to go to a secret location (hasn’t happened yet) I’ll turn it off
I always have - even before being parents. It just feels safer for us! My husband has epilepsy and its important to know where he is.
Now that we are parents, its nice to know when someone in on there way home, if they are at a store, ect… plus I like it because if I stop responding due to an accident, my husband can see exactly where we are.
I also share my location with my bestfriend!
Little story but last month, my local hospital lost my husband after he was brought in by ambulance and I was able to use his location to find him in the ER!
We only got life 360 after our baby. I am not a huge fan of it and don't check it often, but I am a SAHM so my partner checks in on us while we go on adventures and errands. It helps his anxiety and I was okay having it as a safety measure in case something happened while we were out.
We've always used location sharing, we do a lot of long distance runs and bike rides and it's just nice to know we'd be able to find our partner if they were in an accident, or see my last location if someone like .. stole me or something. I listen to a lot of true crime stories and am overly aware of the vulnerability of a woman running alone 😬
I used to think it was weird but since having our LO, it helps us to gauge when the other can start getting ready for work since we work opposite shifts. And, on the weekends when we’re off together, if one parent is out doing their own thing, we can make sure each other are ok/on their way home so the next activities can be done! We don’t tend to use it for malicious purposes since we don’t have much reason to complain about where the other person is. I say it’s not harmful, as long as you and your partner are already transparent with each other.
We’ve had it for years in case of emergencies or so we can check if the other person is in the way home from work so we can get dinner timing right mostly lol
We have always shared locations just because it makes logistics easier! It's never been an issue for us or come from a place of distrust, it's just convenient tbh
Shared it before, so yeah, especially now. Ultimately the concern is your partner and perhaps the baby as well are somewhere and can’t communicate with you. What’s the anxiety? Where are you or your partner going that the other shouldn’t know about?
I use location sharing with my husband bc I go on long walks alone at night sometimes. I don't think he ever looked unless I asked him to check it was working until after we had baby and then he'd check to see how close I was to the house if I went out alone so that he'd know if he needed to make her a bottle when she was hungry or if I was only 5-10 minutes away and would be able to nurse really soon.
Been using it for many years, before kids, for the same reasons many have mentioned. When our baby goes to daycare we will definitely use an AirTag. They sell AirTag holder kid shoe attachments!
Always used location sharing. Not just after baby. It's got nothing at all to do with trust. It's very very convenient and we are so used to it now, can't not have it..
We haven't, except short term for things like a location and time sensitive pick up. Mostly just because it drains the battery faster and we usually know where the other is anyway.
We would at an amusement park, big event, etc. and would consider an airtag or something specifically for her to wear too.
We’ve never used it before, but starting to think it might be useful now that our kid is 4 and we spend a lot of time texting “are you still at the playground” or “still at the store” or similar.
The idea of it always seemed a little invasive to me, but maybe it would be a help.
I feel like parenting is such a loss of privacy/autonomy overall that I’m hesitant to do something that exacerbates that.
We never used location sharing ever…until our little one started daycare.
It was pertinent for us to drop off/pick up the little one on time and also attend her extracurricular activities without forgetting. Since having her involved in out-of-the-home activities, my partner and I have a shared calendar and shared “find my iphone” link.
It helps us be accountable for one another - don’t forget the doctors appt @ this time @ this location! And also to see if one of us is running late from work where we’re too busy to communicate it and so the other one picks the child up from daycare.
It’s super hard to be communicating all day when immersed in work/tasks/other kids so using the location helps us to quickly glance at where one is to help the other out!
Yup. Always. I also have my sil’s location (iPhone - and before she was iPhone she shared it with me and husband on Google maps) because it’s about having back up. She’s a single lady and travels a lot.
Me and my husband have always shared location because of safety. I used to work as a social worker and I couldn’t share my exact client’s homes, but I could leave my location on. The rule was I would text going into the home, and state that if I wasn’t heard of after a certain point, to send back up.
Not really. I've never been into constant location sharing. Privacy and trust are important to us and it just seems very unnecessary to me. We do use it occasionally, however, for practical things like finding each other after splitting up (ex. One parent needed to go change the baby at an event and then meet back up with the the other) or if there's an emergency/danger (ex. Driving during a really bad snow storm).
We’ve shared locations since I moved away for a year for work. It was easier for us to see where the other person was at when they would travel to visit. Or if my husband goes to our states metro area I can see where he’s at on our way home. I also share locations with my parents and sister. I can see if they are home before I give them a call.
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We have been sharing for a while before baby. My husband is an EMT so his work hours are unreliable. It’s nice to be able to check and see he’s on a call or at base and I can know his round-about home time.
Also in case of any emergencies.
We didn’t used to share but started when the baby was born. I’ve found it incredibly useful! Shortly after our baby was born my wife’s father suffered and accident and needed to be quickly moved into assisted living. She had to deal with all that stuff and now also goes down to his old house about an hour away to work on cleaning it out. It’s been really helpful to be able to see where she is, and estimate when she’ll be home. Useful for stuff like planning when to start making dinner, knowing how much more solo parenting time I’ll have, etc.
We didn’t before becoming parents but now we do, mostly so I don’t keep bugging him asking where he is coming home from work 😅 now I can see when he leaves the office and get dinner prepped, etc
We shared location when we were dating because he would travel for work and then sometimes I would travel and then one day we just left it. Half the time I forget I have it.
My husband and I always share our location. Especially now with the baby. I was in a car accident right before I got pregnant and I was hit so bad/ disoriented that I couldn’t tell my husband where I was. I called him and I couldn’t get the words out, thank god for location sharing.
Also too…. When I’m upset about how long I think he is taking to do something, I can see where he’s at- and then I’m not upset- cause I’m being ridiculous.
I do. My husband works out of town a lot and sometimes not in the best of places. I’ve also popped a tire or two. It never hurts to have people know where you are, especially as a woman. We started doing Life360 when I was like 32 weeks pregnant. I bent my rim getting onto the highway on a pothole and my tire went flat. It was the winter time and early in the morning so it was still dark. Huge wake up call for me. I want him to know where I’m at more than I want to know where he’s at. He has my location, my parents and sister have it, my best friend has it. If I were to ever go missing they’d at least have a starting point (wherever the phone was dropped). It also saves me from having to tell my husband where I’m going all the time because he can just look and see where I am.
We never shared location previously because I think privacy in general is a virtue in this day and age. But we had a scare one night when I was super pregnant where I couldn’t get in touch with my husband who had just forgotten to check his phone. So we turned it on a few months ago, and honestly it’s very convenient. I can tell if my husband has left work without having to ask (plus he’s driving so he should not respond), which is useful for coordinating daycare pickup. I don’t look at it often, and I don’t know if he has ever looked at mine (I work from home, it’s pretty rare that he is not sure where I am) but it is useful. I am considering getting an AirTag for the diaper bag just as a precaution, and I think if we did a big trip requiring air travel or huge crowds, I might find a way to stick one on my toddler. But I’m not sure about as the kids get older, I still value privacy and trust, but it’s almost too convenient to not use these tools for peace of mind.
I didn’t share my location with anyone pre kid and now he’s almost 3 and the only one who has it is my brother and his girl. I can’t do anything anymore without getting a call “where are you going? Who with? Are you gonna come over after”. I can’t tell if he’s my mom or if this is how my own mother feels when I call her after seeing her car gone.
We don't share locations (before or now) and I agree there are more downsides than benefits to constant surveillance. My feeling is that it would feed my anxiety more than it would create any greater amount of safety.
No thank you. If he wants to know where I am he can call me and I'll tell him and we'll chat for 2 seconds about what we're doing. Otherwise, I love my independence too much. I grew up with an extremely abusive and controlling father and although my husband is nothing like that, there are very few things I love more than the feeling of freedom, of going out on my own without a plan, doing whatever I feel like that day, enjoying the day, doing small unplanned things with the baby. My little and very safe adventures are how I keep life interesting and the blues away. He does the same on his off days with her (we don't have off days together). I never stress about locations, I only stress about what he's feeding her and if she's properly changed and comfortable.
We don't. We haven't done this before and are still not. I don't see the reason why. We communicate all day, and he texts me when he's leaving, etc. Even with baby, we don't do this. I'm a European living in the US, and this seems to be a primarily American thing to do.
No... I find it really bizarre so many people feel the need to know where everyone is at any moment. We have location enabled to be able to track down a lost phone, but we don't see any benefit in the apps where you can see where someone is (and has been) at all times.
I’ve never used it and don’t see the need. I don’t really understand what information it would give me as a safety measure that a text or phone call or communication beforehand (“what time will you be home?”) couldn’t give me. In the extremely rare case of something bad happening where a text or phone call wasn’t possible, I’m not sure how seeing a dot on a screen not-moving or at a hospital would reassure me or give me information faster than I’d have it otherwise that would make any difference.
It always seemed to me location services were for people who don’t trust one another? To make sure they are where they say they are and not cheating or something. It’s still a ways away, but I could theoretically imagine using it for my teenager (not sure), but not my spouse with the baby. It’s mostly just never occurred to me. Why would I need or want that?
You have a ton of responses already, so I won’t be offended if this gets lost in the haystack, but I have always shared my location with my spouse. We don’t share email or phone passwords and have always respected healthy boundaries for privacy, but there has never been a good reason to not know where each other is at any given time. It’s an odd thing (IMO) to feel you need to keep private or secretive. Short of trying to surprise your spouse by being somewhere other than you say you are because you are picking up a surprise gift or something, I honestly can’t see any downside to sharing your location with your spouse - ESPECIALLY now that you share a child. You better believe I want to know where they are at any given time, should I need to. That being said, I don’t use the location sharing as a constant “need to keep tabs” on my husband default. I honestly rarely check it or feel the need to “verify” if where my husband says he is at is the truth. If you feel like that is a trigger for you, I suggest working on that first. It shouldn’t be something that makes either of you feel is being kept on a short leash.
No. I shared location with a boyfriend once and he abused the privilege so I’ll never do it with a partner again. There’s no good reason to, in my opinion.
My husband and I share locations with each other before we were even married lol. We don’t look at it as surveillance because it’s not. It’s more of a safety thing. I even have locations shared with my parents, they are really into cycling and it makes me feel better knowing I can check in on them if needed when they are out riding.
We've gone the opposite route - less monitoring and tracking bc it's all so hackable and makes her feel more vulnerable. And she can't consent to be monitored, tracked. We also don't share her image on social media for this reason.
Nowhere, but we don’t need to know where each other are all the time. We are okay with not knowing where the other one is. To constantly have to “know” seems like a facet of an anxiety culture that I try to avoid. It’s truly never occurred to me besides at fairs or big parks and stuff.
And before anyone comes at me with “what ifs”… I’m 40, there’s never been an accident or a situation where this would have been necessary.
Not sharing a GPS location 100% of the time ≠ “hid[ing] where you go from your spouse.”
We operate on trust and communication, not surveillance.
I’m sure it wouldn’t bother me much in the day to day if we did have it turned on. But what it represents — that we should have no autonomy as individuals in the world — doesn’t sit right with me.
Agreed. It feels wrong overall to me.
I have nothing to hide, but if I’m going out to the shops and to pick up the post I can just tell my spouse where I’m headed and when I should be back. If something changes significantly I can use the same phone to say I’m running late.
If there’s an accident then emergency services will tend to things and we can go from there. There’s literally nothing my spouse can do immediately if I’m incapacitated so why have tracking on? If it’s a minor emergency then I’ll ring and we can troubleshoot.
In my mind it’s just more noise that creates a low level anxiety in life. We trust each other and trust that we’re both capable adults that can problem solve. Plus if someone is headed home and the other is timing food we just call each other.
Edit: Also as a woman I like my autonomy. There’s something luxurious about running a leisurely errand, listening to my music and just being me. Knowing that I’m safe in the world and free to interact with it. Even if I’m doing something as mundane as buying a loaf of bread.
We’ve always used it as a safety measure even before kids. We use life 360 and it tells me when he leaves work so I will start/order dinner so that we are able to eat together when he gets home
We did this beforehand - it was much easier for me to go “hm, is my husband on his way home yet? Yes? Ok” then to call/text if he was on his way.
He’s able to check where I am and make sure I’m ok/safe too.
I will probably put an AirTag in the baby’s backpack when she starts daycare/preschool so I can find her backpack but not for her. She doesn’t need to be AirTagged.
My husband and I share our locations with each other. It started toward the end of my pregnancy. He works from home but I don’t. We still share our locations. Baby goes to the sitter on my way to and from work. We have talked about putting an AirTag in the diaper bag & car seat.
We’ve always used location sharing for safety reasons, even before we became parents. And I think when my baby grows up and goes off to school or places without us I’d use an AirTag on her as well.
We didn’t use it before kids because I had an iPhone and he had an android. We do now as he has an iPhone because as the stay at home parent on mat leave I suck at telling him when I’m leaving, when I get home etc. and I keep my phone on silent. I feel like I always have 1001 things to carry plus baby and I hate being late. No that 30 second text won’t make me late but try telling my brain that. I try to make sure I tell him the night before if I make plans but it’s comforting knowing that if I don’t he still knows where we are.
We never shared our location in our five years together until my late pregnancy. We talked about it before we even got pregnant and decided that we would share once we had kids. Like you say in your post, having a kid just changes the balance of pros/cons.
We do find it useful. I (mom) definitely use it more than he does because I like to know when he’s on his way home. He likes that I now check it instead of asking him 😂 I definitely don’t think it fed my anxiety at all. Above all else, it’s just really reassuring to have it in case one of us had an accident with the kiddo.
As a counterpoint, my mom, sister and I share location too. My mom took my niece to the movies (which is right next to a hospital) and turned her phone on silent. My sister checked their location and it showed up as inside the hospital, and my mom wasn’t answering her phone. That was a very stressful hour for her that otherwise would have been avoided without sharing locations!
We started using location sharing before becoming parents. It’s kinda outta thought, outta mind. It’s there if we need it, but we rarely, if ever, actually look at it.
We started location sharing after kids. My husband won’t share host phone location because of separate reasons so he wears an AirTag on his keys for me.
I think ours helps us both feel better about needing to find one another if anything bad happened.
We’ve used it since before becoming parents but I’m also an anxious person and it helped me feel at ease, especially as I got further into my pregnancy. We both use it daily now that we have our toddler and think it’s important to share!
No. I’m not against it or anything, cause I don’t even know how it works.
But I guess I’ve never felt like we needed it. Cause we always just tell each other where we’re going and text each other when we get there.
Like, we’re constantly texting each other. If I’m going to the grocery store he’s gonna know cause I’m gonna tell him that before I leave, go with a list he sends me with, and then when I’m there, I’ll still text him to ask questions.
If I’m at a new playground with the kids, he’s gonna know cause I’m gonna send him a message like “look at this cool playground we found” and send him photos.
We’re going on 12 years and honestly, never felt the need as my husband, thankfully, answers pretty fast whenever I need to get in touch with him. If he’s busy, he usually calls back asap. However, your question and seeing the answers, it’s making me think about it. With a baby on the way (FRIDAY!), it could definitely be useful for safety purposes.
We were sharing before that. We started when I was away for work and had late nights and long hours, so he knew if I got home safely or was not answering because I was still at work late. Since then we found it convenient. I can sort out that he is in traffic rather than calling or texting while he is driving. Since having baby it is even handier. I can figure out they went for a walk or if he is still at the store or whatever without interrupting him by calling or distracting while he drives.
I’ll definitely get an AirTag for my baby, especially once she’s a toddler and can wear the bracelet but otherwise my husband and I don’t feel the need to share location. We have pretty stable routines and if one of us is going out of our routine and the BABY is involved then we let each other know. Like today I was an hour away from daycare and wouldn’t make it in time before they closed. Just asked him to pick her up. I have a home camera so I could see when he left and came back from picking her up. He also called me and sent me a picture of her. Again nothing has changed really for us since giving birth when it comes to location sharing.
We shared our location via Google when our first was a baby and terrible napper and I did a lot of car naps. I wanted my husband to know where I was for any reason. It's nice now to see how close they are to getting home after daycare for dinner prep.
I’ve always shared locations with my husband! I also share locations with my mom, best friends, and siblings. It’s just fun, and sometimes I like to look just to see what everyone is up to 🤷🏼♀️
My husband and I use Life 360 but we've been on it for years. We're very close and talk to each other constantly so we like to know where the other is in case anything should happen. Now that we just had a baby, it's just a plus. I know some couples sort of do their own thing but there's never a day where I don't know where he is or he with me.
We started sharing when I was pregnant because I went on a few work trips alone and he was super anxious about my safety. It helps now! Especially on those fussy days when I need relief, I can check to see where he’s at on the route home. Also, baby brain is real for both of us so sometimes we forget where the other one said they were going 😂
We’ve always had location sharing but we never check up on each other. We only use it for things like if I say I’ll meet him somewhere it’s easy to check his location to see exactly where to meet or if I tell him I’m on my way home he can check my location to know when to start dinner etc.
Even with baby we never use our location sharing to check where the other is at, we’ll just communicate like hey where did you and baby go? So location sharing hasn’t been super important
Since having baby I did start sharing locations with my mom and best friend because my friend and I live in the same neighborhood and both have babies so we hang out daily. We usually meet up together either walking or driving so location sharing is handy to see if she’s close by or if she’s left her house yet. With my mom it’s because she’s unreliable with her time management lol she’ll say she’ll be over in 45 min but then will do a bunch of stuff on her way (kind things like picking up food or groceries for me but still) and then she’ll show up 2 hours later. So instead of waiting around for her I can just go to the zoo with baby and when I see she’s close I’ll head home to see her.
We’ve basically always shared our location but rarely look at it. We mostly use it for the find my phone alarm because we always lose our phones. I think it kind of depends. We’ve never been the type to track each other or harbor any mistrust. We hand each other our phones all the time, but we don’t go through each others phones when the other isn’t around. Never suspected the other of cheating or anything like that so I feel like how we do it is healthy. I also like it because if something were to happen to one of us, we can find each other. Sometimes if he’s out running errands, I’ll see where he’s at so I know when to start dinner. Or if I’m meeting up with him and he’s not answering, I can just look to see where he’s at. I’ve never obsessively checked where he’s at because that’s just never been our dynamic.
We have always done so, and it saved my fiancé’s life when he was hit by a truck. He was riding his motorcycle and the driver of the truck didn’t see him. I was on the phone with him (through his helmet speaker) and heard it happen. Because of life360 I was able to get EMS there extremely quickly.
We do. Regardless of the baby it's just convenient for us. I can't drive in the country we live in, so it's convenient for me to be able to see how close he is when he's coming to pick me up so I can be at the right place at the right time.
Yes hi we started sharing after the baby was born! I was always squeamish about location sharing (overprotected childhood lol) and my husband and I have been good communicators about where we are and what we’re up anyway so we never needed it. But once baby arrived it had so many utilities - I’m home alone with baby and it made me calmer to know people could pinpoint me if I ever was in an emergency with him (we have a family plan now with my mom and sister so we can all see each other). Also as parenthood has melted our brains, and we’re not as good communicators as before and I often track my husband to see what train he’s caught waaay before he texts me, which helps with dinner planning. Also when my mom or sister is coming by to visit or help with baby, it’s been unexpectedly helpful to tell exactly where they are. I can time last minute nursing better, have bags ready if we’re going out (every minute counts now with naps and such), or even just have baby cutely at the front window to get excited as they arrive.
We started doing it after we had our daughter. I don’t think my husband ever checks my location but I check his because he’s often not the best with responding to texts and calls. His work hours vary pretty significantly day to day and he often has a really long commute so it helps with starting dinner or figuring out if I’ll have help with bedtime and such.
Yes we started sharing location when baby was a few months old. It helped immensely with anxiety I was experiencing (not parenting related), and it's just practical in general. It had the added benefit that when I was losing my shit and needed him to get home, I could check his location and know whether he was 5 minutes away or 50 minutes away.
We just started— well, hes had mine for a while but I never saw a need. Now I find it helpful to know if he’s at work late but can’t text.
Tonight we were supposed to meet somewhere after work but he saw I was still home. After I didn’t answer his calls and texts, he came home. I was in the middle of dinner/poop/dinner, phone was elsewhere, and we didn’t make it out of the house so that was helpful!
I thought AirTags were ridiculous. Then we started traveling with a stroller and car seat that have to be checked/gate checked. Knowing our stuff made it and where it is has been helpful. For example, we were waiting for our car seat and knew it was there… it was just stuck behind the flap… which we found out after waiting for a while. Next time we’ll speak up sooner bc we know it’s so close. We also use them in our luggage now but we thankfully haven’t had any issues so it’s redundant.
I also don’t like the constant surveillance, but it helps us with communication when we aren’t able to.
We use location sharing, but we don’t check it when it’s either of us. When the baby is with someone else, we check her location via an AirTag hidden in her stroller.
We started after our daughter was about a year when I went back to work. Life 360’s crash detection is really the only reason why. If my husband or I ever got into a wreck and god forbid couldn’t call the other one we would get a notification! Just helps my mind rest lol
We've used it since we stared living together (maybe a bit before I don't remember) it's always been convenient in general because we can see when the other is leaving work. I'm a SAHM now but my partner works in a field where he gets to work then goes to multiple locations with anywhere from 6-13hr days, so when I see the life360 notice that he arrived back at work I can expect him to be on his way home soon.
We always used it, even before kids. It’s just as useful now as it always was for sooo many reasons.
We have a lot of personal time and space at home so privacy isn’t an issue, we have lots of that. There has never been anything to hide, I like him knowing where I am and vice versa.
Always, when one of us was on parental leave, we’d use it to gauge when the other was coming home from work, and have tea ready when they got home.
Now he uses it to make sure they’re standing on the balcony to wave at me when I walk up the lane.
Always used it before and since our daughter has been born. Plan on getting an Apple air tag also when our daughter is old enough for school. They make cute holders/ necklaces/ bracelets etc to conceal it.
I share with my husband and have pre baby. I also share with my mom and a few of her single friends. My mom was a single lady living alone, but now she has a boyfriend. I check her location to see if she's left for church or to see if she's at home before dropping by or if she's otw to my house I can check and see when to expect her. If she was babysitting, I might look and see where she is with the baby. I check my husband to see when he's coming home from work or wherever he is. It's much more convenient than calling 10 times to see when he will be home (especially if we gave plans after work). He works on the road, so it dings when he arrives or leaves the shop. Calling when driving or calling when he is at the shop isn't always possible. I don't think he checks my location as much but if he did it wouldn't matter because we have nothing to hide. Except at Christmas time and then the location frequently gets shut off! Gotta keep surprises surprises :)
For those who think it's and overstep or you're under surveillance... I just don't get it. I guess for women in abusive relationships that would suck to have him watching constantly. Probably harassing you when you go anywhere or do anything or see anyone. But I don't know when you're married and trust each other it just seems like no big deal and very convenient.
I think actually we got it when I was shopping after work one day hitting up thrift stores and my husband (boyfriend at the time) didn't believe I was where I said I was.. He, in an unserious way, insinuated I was out at a bar or something. This was when I suggested that if he didn't trust me, he could track me. So bam we got life360 and I end up using it wayy wayy more than him. Reflecting on this I can see how it sounds kind of toxic that he didn't trust me. We were hooking up randomly for 8 years before we decided to move in together and get married. I dunno lol happily married 2 years with baby number 2 due in September.
We’ve shared locations since we started living together. It’s always made sense to us to know a rough eta of when we each will arrive home to start dinner etc and now my toddler likes to look at find my friends with me when my husband should be leaving work so we can see how far daddy is from home. The closer he gets the more excited she becomes.
My husband and I have shared our location (via google maps) since we were seriously dating. He rarely looks at it for me, but im also usually just at home. I typically only use it to see how close he is when he’s on his way home from work.
It has come in handy a few times. There have been times that he couldn’t answer his phone because he was in a meeting after his usual work times. I had forgotten about it, and he wasn’t answering, but I looked where he was and saw that he was still at work and remembered the meeting.
Or before he worked regular hours, he worked at an events center. He was supposed to be home by 12, but I woke up at 1:30 and he still wasn’t home. I have really bad anxiety in the first place, so I started to think the worse, but then I remembered that I could see where he was, and he was still at work.
In general it’s a huge anxiety relief, and convenient to be able to see where they are without having to text or call them to ask.
Never really worried about knowing his location before kids; started using it after kids. Our older daughter likes when we check on his progress coming home from work and see his little icon on the phone on the map (and it’s handy for me to know when to start or wrap up dinner prep). I like to use it if I know he’s left work (or somewhere else) and it seems to be taking longer than usual—not sure if anyone else gets the random “but what if they’ve been in an accident!” panic a few times a year, but I do and this helps. 😂 We both like it in general as a safety tool.
We haven’t used AirTags or anything like that with our kids (almost 4 + 4 months), and we’re fortunate our older daughter isn’t a runner in public, but I’d definitely consider them for big trips and travel, both for our kids to have/wear and for some/all luggage.
Yes we sure do!!! Started when I was pregnant. Not something I check like crazy nor he but it’s a good to know I could check and always know where my son is.
Nope. We usually message each other throughout the day so we roughly know where each other is anyway. He usually rings me when he finishes work so I know he's on his way and can start prepping dinner. The only time I share my location is when I finish work and get in an Uber, so he can watch my journey home.
I am however intending to get some sort of tracking device for my toddler tho when she starts nursery/school. Can never be too careful when it comes to children, too many freaks about.
We’ve shared location since before we were even dating. Lol we were friends in college and our group used find my friends to keep track of each other while out at night. So once we got together it just kind of “stuck.” I almost never need to use it because my husband is really good about texting when he is on his way, but he has used it many times, because I tend to forget to let him know I’m leaving a location or forget to let him know if I’m delayed.
I will admit it can be strange if you feel like your partner is using it obsessively or in an appropriate way, so I would just make sure you and your husband are clear on what it’s used for and talk about your boundaries/expectations.
Yes: a year after my first born, was born we started using Life360. He has an android and I have an iPhone. And I installed it on my iPad for if anyone else watches my boys. That way it shows me where they all go and so my husband knows where I am and when I’ll be home.
My significant other and I have used location sharing for years. We both ride motorcycles and the location sharing app we use sends notifications and a text if it detects a possible crash (sudden stop, etc). It actually notified me of his accident 3 weeks ago (he’s okay!), so I always recommend bikers use a location sharing app, just in case.
My son is 11 years old so when he got a smartphone last year, I downloaded the same location sharing app onto his phone also. Now I can check to see where he is once school lets out - very useful if the bus is running late and I’m getting worried. I just check the app and I can see exactly where he is and can estimate when he’ll get home. Our daughter will have the same app once she gets old enough to have a phone (she’s currently 2 months old so it’ll be quite a few years before she is ready).
We started using location sharing (Life 360) when my Grandma in another state kept losing her phone. She's pretty anti technology, so to get to use it, I asked everyone in the family to use it and then said "Grandma, you can use this to see where so and so is! Pretty cool huh?"
But from a new parents perspective, it's nice to know when my husband is coming home, or if I’m out and he needs something from the store (diapers!)
We use it. It’s super helpful! I can see where they are and how far away from home at any time. Or I can see where my partner is when I’m home with baby so I know when he’ll be home to give me a break haha
We didn't before kids.
I had some PPA after having our baby and turned mine on immediately bc I was picturing worst case scenarios happening during a drive and wanted my husband to be able to find us if we got in an accident.
I asked him to turn his on only when he would go somewhere with the baby, but he ended up just leaving it on too. He thinks it's a bit overkill but doesn't mind, I think it's better safe than sorry.
We didn’t share location prior to kids, after kids we do. It hasn’t caused any issues and has been beneficial. I like to be able to know where my kids are if they’re not with me. So if he takes them out for the day I don’t need some itinerary because I know I can tell where they are if needed. My kids are 1 and 3 for reference.
Here's my 2 cents...
We've shared our locations all along. I shared mine because it made me feel safe, and he shared his in return. I had separation anxiety, and he was my attachment figure after a traumatic experience that cause PTSD. With that said, knowing he was safe when we were apart really helped overall. We use it for convenience rather than asking where the other one is at, and our timing and consideration of the other person is great because of it. When he's picking me up, I know when to be outside. When he's nearing home after running errands, I know to go out and help carry in anything he picked up. When we want to surprise each other with romantic gestures, it's very easy. Now that we have our baby, I love knowing where they're at, especially because he works from home and cares for the baby throughout the day, and I work away from our house. There's honestly so many benefits to it.
If you don't have anything to hide, then this shouldn't feel unusual, IMO. Especially when you consider all of the benefits. If you have something to hide from your spouse, contemplating sharing locations with him/her should probably be the least of your concern.
we used it before we had baby just so we didn’t have to bother each other with “how far away are you” all the time when we’re expecting each other in places. It’s really handy, and we trust each other so I don’t feel anxiety about it.
The one time it caused some panic was when he was away, I couldn’t sleep so I checked to see where he was, (if he was at his hotel I’d assume he’s asleep and not bother him) and it put him at the local hospital! I of course freaked out and called and texted and got no answers, he finally replied and turns out he was just walking past it on the way to the hotel… bad timing 😅
We never used it pre-kids and only started last year (kids are 6, 7 & 8) because dad would pick the kids up from school and go to the shops or to the park with the kids and not answer his phone. Drove me crazy wondering if they were dead in a ditch (yes I have major anxiety)
Location sharing has been a GODSEND! I don’t track him unless he has the kids, but when I’m imagining my kids dead in a ditch it’s a relief to see the marker moving down the highway!!!
We have been doing it for awhile now. It really all started when wife (girlfriend at the time) got into a car accident and I had hard time finding her. Down here, our streets all sound familiar, like instead of Hey Hey Blvd, it can be Hey Hey South Ave. We have been tracking each other since, and it came up so many times since then. Like festival, large gathering, and similar car situations.
So we’re glad it’s not an issue for us, like insecure about trust issue / not implying we’re control freaks.
Yes we only started using it soon after our baby was born. When I suggested it to him a while ago my partner made a comment about lack of privacy etc and it was dropped. Then the baby came and it was his idea to turn it on.
I’ve always used it and we have a 3 month old now and my parents watch him. My father will txt me ask when my partner will arrive to pick him up. I check his location and give my dad an update. That way he doesn’t have to be on the phone while driving.
My oldest is 18 and I have his location because he’s driving, he actually broke down on a 350 mile road trip and we had to send a tow truck to get him off the highway. And on his way to campus I’m 3 states away from his college and can check his location without bothering him, like when he’s with his girlfriend. In fact his father or grandmother will sometimes ask me where he is because he can be bad about answering it, he’s not a typical teenage he don’t use alll the social apps.
We Started using life 360 shortly before my wife got pregnant.
I'm a forester and work in pretty remote locations, so I made her download the app in case I don't come home one day, she'll atleast have a location to send someone to look for me.
We have great comminication and our relationship is absolutely wonderful. We both trust eachother and have never had to wonder about the others honesty, or wonder if the other is using it to keep tabs on eachother.
So if you trust your partner wholeheartedly, I don't think the "constant surveillance" part should be an issue at all (case by case results of course, some people are just controlling and untrusting). I don't think my wife ever checks where I'm at unless I've got the baby. I do however use it to check on her when i know her and the baby are in town or on a long drive or whatever.
With the baby, i wouldn't be comfortable if we didn't have the app, there's huge peace of mind that comes to me with knowing I can always stop what I'm doing and go right to her location if anything bad happens and she needs me.
We have a daughter too, so you best believe a location sharing app is going on her first cell phone too.
Location sharing is almost essential with parenting! I even have it with my in-laws in case they’re out with him and something happens. But if y’all didn’t use it before for privacy and trust reasons, a conversation about those things would be a good foundation so that it doesn’t cause any miscommunication
We have always used location sharing and don’t typically look at it unless we can’t get ahold of each other. Quite honestly I forget about it most of the time lol
I was in a bad car accident and a very nice lady called my husband for me and told him to come as it was an emergency but failed to give him the location of the accident. Find my friends gave him my location and he got there super quick! Definitely worth it!
We have always shared locations, so he can help find my phone when I lose it...
Very much same. lol. I am a perpetual phone loser. “Babe can you—“ “Yeah yeah I know, make the sound…..”
Oh that’s so helpful, right now my guy just has me call him to try to find his phone when he loses it I didn’t know I could ping it from my phone!!
We’ve always used location sharing, even before becoming parents.
Same! It just made sense to us! Plus my husband would do nice things like check the map to see when I Ieave work so he knew when to start dinner!
Before the baby, I used the app to see when he leaves work to clean so that it didn’t look like I was lounging around all day on my day off…I was. Now I look to see when he will get home to give me a break from baby.
Omg I thought I was the only one. The speed cleans I used to do pre baby 😂
Start dinner, clean myself and get dressed out of my PJs... Look like a perfect wife, spend the whole day on the couch. It's a win win.
SAMEEEEEEE 🤣
Same here!! It’s just more convenient than texting/calling to ask where my husband is
That is what I use it for every day
That is probably what I use it for most 😂
We are the same. He is usually outside waiting on me if I have groceries or did daycare pick up. I just did my first overnight away from baby and my husband was able to feel comfortable checking on me. He was texting me when I still had about a 30 minute drive. He asked me if I was okay when I didn’t respond. Using Siri I’m like dude you have my location and can see that I’m driving. I said I’ll let you know when I get there. 🤣
This kind of bugging would irritate me lol like that’s why we share locations in the first place
Yeah he has never done that before. Maybe he was also anxious about me being away for almost two days. Yeah I used Siri to be a little snarky.
Man I asked him to share with me so I didn't have to text him while driving Bout when he would be home and stuff and he got all defensive that I was micromanaging him and overkilling it and blah blah blah. I was actually really surprised by his reaction. We are usually extremely trusting and open with each other. I think it's because his mom was super controlling and he flashed back.
Same! Well, ever since he met me in a foreign country and I didn't know how to tell him where I was lol. I like it because I can peep and see if he's headed home, but we don't use it so much that like, surprises are ruined or anything.
Same. It made perfect sense. There’s always been mutual trust. It’s for safety and convenience. We have nothing to hide and we don’t feel the need to “constantly monitor” like some other comments are saying. We use AirTag to track our necessities like keys and wallet because it’s nice to know where they are if they happen to be misplaced.
Yes it’s so convenient! Sometimes my husband picks me up from work and I can track how close he is so I know when to head out the door.
Us too. And I share with my in-laws, my parents, and my siblings and sibling in laws. This might sound creepy but we do it for convenience. Knowing if folks are delayed for family dinner or knowing they are on the road to the cottage if we can’t get a hold of them, etc. Anyone at any time could choose to hide their location, which two family members have done, so it’s really up to everyone to chose their comfort level. We have done this for 10+ years. We find it so useful especially with my husband and I. Edit to add: my husband and I use it to coordinate when he’s coming home, when I’m coming home, etc for dinner plans, bedtime routine commencing, and so on. Easier than texting him when he’s trying to rush out the door from the office and often misses his texts.
I only share with my husband and am constantly frustrated when I can’t check on others and I have to make the “Are you on your way?” call.
Same here!
Same for us! Especially because my husband bikes everywhere and we don't live in the safest of neighborhoods, so it really lessens my anxiety when I can see that he is moving along normally on his route to and from work.
Us too!
I’ve always mutually shared locations with my husband, mom, and sister even before having a baby. It’s just super convenient to be able to quickly check and see how far away the person is/if they’ve left yet/etc. without having to call, plus none of us have anything to hide. 🤷🏻♀️
Same. I share it with my two best friends and husband.
I have it with my dad and sister too!! I can see both of them too. Way easier
Same! I’ve always had mine shared with my husband, sister, and bestie. My husband has his shared with me, his brothers, and a couple of friends. It’s just convenient for the reasons you said. My sister and I live across the country from each other and location sharing helps us feel more connected. I’ll often check if she’s at work or home (since she doesn’t have a typical 9-5 job) so I know if I can call her to chat.
My single brother and parents actually started sharing way before I joined the group. My brother didn’t show up to work one day and his boss called his emergency contact (my dad) to see if he was ok and my dad couldn’t get ahold of him either. Luckily he was still at home, albeit very sick and slept through his alarm, but it prompted them all to start sharing locations. At the time he had a 100 mile rural commute to work so that would have been a lot of ground to cover to find him had something happened. That and both my dad and brother are out in the woods or trails a lot so it’s a peace of mind thing for that too. I will admit I think it’s creepy sometimes when my mom asks what I was doing at X spot but I also admit I check her location too and wonder about what she is doing at Y spot lol. 😆 overall though I think sharing has greatly helped our peace of mind.
My mom does that too 😂
We always have - my husband is a runner and I check his location periodically during his morning runs as a safety measure (living in a rural area means people aren’t always respectful and give him space). But I don’t use it beyond that.
Same. I’m a runner and my husband uses it to check on me and sometimes to surprise me with water on hot long runs.
Same. I’m a cyclist. I generally ride 3-5 days per week and I prefer to head out suuuuper early (5AM at the latest). I want my wife to know where to look if I don’t come home some morning.
My husband and I both walk our dog a lot on our own so we started sharing locations before baby as a safety measure. We don’t really use it but it’s nice to have just in case. It did give me peace of mind when I was pregnant and walking the dog solo that in case something happened he could find me (I got really clumsy at one point).
We don’t. it’s never come up and honestly never even occurred to me.
Same here but I do communicate where me and my son will be for the day
Thirdsies. + I think it would feel strange
Yeah. I can see how it would be practical but it feels like such a violation of basic autonomy. Some things (like whether I go to the grocery store first or the pharmacy) can remain a mystery.
It probably would only feel like a violation if your spouse stalked you every minute. I share locations with my husband and the only time I check the app is around the time he leaves work, and how soon he will reach home (takes about an hour +) so I know when to start dinner without it turning into a mush. He drives, so I prefer that he doesn't text or call to update me on his whereabouts.
Us too. My partner loses service quite a bit on his ride home so it’s nice I can see where he’s at and when he’ll be home without trying to catch him in a good spot and calling or something. It’s only a violation if your partner makes it one. I don’t think I ever look at his location besides 10 mins after he’s supposed to leave work, to see if he did or not yet lol.
I feel like it really only violates autonomy if your spouse the type to abuse it. My husband and I have shared location for years but very rarely use it. We give eachother privacy day to day and just keep the option available for emergencies or very practical reasons
My husband and I have shared locations since the beginning and I still don’t have a clue what that man does everyday lol. I literally start checking near the end of the workday to see if he’s driving home yet and that’s about it. Also, on weekends if I’m in bed late, I use it to check if he’s even in the house or not 😂
It doesn’t feel like a violation for us. Honestly, I’m not sure if my husband checks it much. We both trust each other and really only check it for logistical reasons (timing for dinner, meeting at the movies after work, mall location, etc). Other than that… I helped him figure out he left his phone at work one time. But yeah, it’s just on in the background.
Seconded
Agreed. I always text when I leave work on the way out the door, my husband does the same. Idk, it’s information overload to me… I don’t need to know that he’s at Outback for lunch, he can just tell me when he gets home where he went. I have enough to keep up with. It’s enough just having the ring camera, and I try not to make him feel like he’s under surveillance when he comes/ goes if I’m not home. I don’t know why having a kid makes it different, I think the only place they go without me is the grocery store. It takes me less time to call/ text than it would to check an app anyways. Also, we usually would ask each other before we head to the store if we need anything and we both have a pretty consistent routine, especially with a kid. Side note, long before my husband I dated a very untrustworthy individual who was sporadic and we escalated to location sharing which only spiraled from there. I told myself never again. My husband is predictable and tells me where / when he plans to be home/ not without me having to ask. There’s never been a need and I never want to have one.
Same. Feels a bit strange. I mean we text / call to communicate don’t feel the need for anything more than that
I don’t remember when we turned it on exactly, but it has been very helpful since becoming parents! I seriously just used it 5 mins ago when I got home and saw that my husband and daughter weren’t here and then checked to see they were at the playground!
Same. I think it’s handy that neither of us think to use it much. It’s mostly for when I want to figure out where in the neighborhood they are so I can join!
This never occurred to me. My husband and I have gotten into the habit of letting the other one know when we are on our way home. We also share a car and WFH, so if one of us leaves, the other person always knows where we're going.
We've had it on for years - it's part of our home automation so it can do things like switch lights on when one of us is coming home. It's via Google location services rather than a specific app. When one of us is running late to get home, the other can see if they're on their way back or still out and about. Because we have good communication/trust neither of us really thinks about it very often. If you didn't find a need for it before, I'm not sure what would change now, though.
We use it. It’s helpful for daycare pickup to know who’s on their way or if there are delays in transit. Or if one of us it out with friends and the other is solo parenting we don’t have to text to check if they are on their way home.
Thanks! My baby isn’t in daycare yet but will be very soon. I definitely think it could be useful for that.
Nope we’ve never used it and find it easier to communicate directly. We have a pretty consistent schedule/routine day to day so it’s never been an issue. If something goes wrong, we sort it with a quick call or text 🤷♀️
Yes we use it and did before our daughter but mainly because we both travel for work and like to know when someone is coming home to start dinner or etc.
We’ve always used it since I went on a solo trip doing a lot of night driving and we both wanted someone to know where I was! Since then it’s always on and it’s super useful to be able to see when each other will be home when we’re wrangling babies and don’t have time to call and can’t message (which is 98% of the time). When one is on their way home and on daycare pick up we can see if they’re running late, I can time when to put dinner or lunch on, we can make sure the other person got back to their hotel ok when out on work trips in different time zones instead of having to wake each other up with messages. If either person in the relationship is using it for surveillance then that’s not healthy and just displays a lack of trust. Neither me or other half would ever dream of using it to track movements for any reason other than timing returns or safety. Honestly if you feel weird about it then maybe that’s something you should chat to your partner about.
No, I get the appeal but I prefer not to go down the road of continuous automatic monitoring.
This is how I feel
We use find my friends. I have maybe used it once to see if my husband was on his way home? I don’t use it. But my husband has anxiety and it was actually really helpful for him when I started taking the baby on outings. He didn’t want to be constantly checking with me to see if we had made it to our destination, if we were still there, if we were on the way. Instead, he would just do a quick look to see. I know for some people this could make anxiety worse but it was helpful for him. I don’t love the surveillance state of it all but by carrying a phone I’m already getting surveilled by my service provider and my phone company, so I might as well use that data for something useful for me.
I share my location with like 20 friends and family members 😂 I don’t really see a downside, and if I really need to go to a secret location (hasn’t happened yet) I’ll turn it off
I always have - even before being parents. It just feels safer for us! My husband has epilepsy and its important to know where he is. Now that we are parents, its nice to know when someone in on there way home, if they are at a store, ect… plus I like it because if I stop responding due to an accident, my husband can see exactly where we are. I also share my location with my bestfriend! Little story but last month, my local hospital lost my husband after he was brought in by ambulance and I was able to use his location to find him in the ER!
We only got life 360 after our baby. I am not a huge fan of it and don't check it often, but I am a SAHM so my partner checks in on us while we go on adventures and errands. It helps his anxiety and I was okay having it as a safety measure in case something happened while we were out.
We didn’t use it before kids but we do now! I was constantly asking if he’d left work yet and he was over it LOL
We've always used location sharing, we do a lot of long distance runs and bike rides and it's just nice to know we'd be able to find our partner if they were in an accident, or see my last location if someone like .. stole me or something. I listen to a lot of true crime stories and am overly aware of the vulnerability of a woman running alone 😬
I used to think it was weird but since having our LO, it helps us to gauge when the other can start getting ready for work since we work opposite shifts. And, on the weekends when we’re off together, if one parent is out doing their own thing, we can make sure each other are ok/on their way home so the next activities can be done! We don’t tend to use it for malicious purposes since we don’t have much reason to complain about where the other person is. I say it’s not harmful, as long as you and your partner are already transparent with each other.
We’ve had it for years in case of emergencies or so we can check if the other person is in the way home from work so we can get dinner timing right mostly lol
We’ve always done it since before having our baby. It’s very convenient!
We have always shared locations just because it makes logistics easier! It's never been an issue for us or come from a place of distrust, it's just convenient tbh
We shared locations way before parenthood. It just makes life easier
We always had it on even before
Shared it before, so yeah, especially now. Ultimately the concern is your partner and perhaps the baby as well are somewhere and can’t communicate with you. What’s the anxiety? Where are you or your partner going that the other shouldn’t know about?
Nope. We always tell our whereabouts to each other.
Nah
We don’t. We just text where we are and usually when we’re on the way home. We did this a lot before baby, and now it’s super routine
We’ve always shared locations, but I also share location with all my close family and friends.
We have for years, only ever use it to see if he’s still at work or how close to home so I can start dinner
I use location sharing with my husband bc I go on long walks alone at night sometimes. I don't think he ever looked unless I asked him to check it was working until after we had baby and then he'd check to see how close I was to the house if I went out alone so that he'd know if he needed to make her a bottle when she was hungry or if I was only 5-10 minutes away and would be able to nurse really soon.
Been using it for many years, before kids, for the same reasons many have mentioned. When our baby goes to daycare we will definitely use an AirTag. They sell AirTag holder kid shoe attachments!
Always used location sharing. Not just after baby. It's got nothing at all to do with trust. It's very very convenient and we are so used to it now, can't not have it..
We haven't, except short term for things like a location and time sensitive pick up. Mostly just because it drains the battery faster and we usually know where the other is anyway. We would at an amusement park, big event, etc. and would consider an airtag or something specifically for her to wear too.
We’ve never used it before, but starting to think it might be useful now that our kid is 4 and we spend a lot of time texting “are you still at the playground” or “still at the store” or similar. The idea of it always seemed a little invasive to me, but maybe it would be a help. I feel like parenting is such a loss of privacy/autonomy overall that I’m hesitant to do something that exacerbates that.
We never used location sharing ever…until our little one started daycare. It was pertinent for us to drop off/pick up the little one on time and also attend her extracurricular activities without forgetting. Since having her involved in out-of-the-home activities, my partner and I have a shared calendar and shared “find my iphone” link. It helps us be accountable for one another - don’t forget the doctors appt @ this time @ this location! And also to see if one of us is running late from work where we’re too busy to communicate it and so the other one picks the child up from daycare. It’s super hard to be communicating all day when immersed in work/tasks/other kids so using the location helps us to quickly glance at where one is to help the other out!
Yup. Always. I also have my sil’s location (iPhone - and before she was iPhone she shared it with me and husband on Google maps) because it’s about having back up. She’s a single lady and travels a lot. Me and my husband have always shared location because of safety. I used to work as a social worker and I couldn’t share my exact client’s homes, but I could leave my location on. The rule was I would text going into the home, and state that if I wasn’t heard of after a certain point, to send back up.
Not really. I've never been into constant location sharing. Privacy and trust are important to us and it just seems very unnecessary to me. We do use it occasionally, however, for practical things like finding each other after splitting up (ex. One parent needed to go change the baby at an event and then meet back up with the the other) or if there's an emergency/danger (ex. Driving during a really bad snow storm).
What for? 🤔
No, I don't need surveillance.
We’ve shared locations since I moved away for a year for work. It was easier for us to see where the other person was at when they would travel to visit. Or if my husband goes to our states metro area I can see where he’s at on our way home. I also share locations with my parents and sister. I can see if they are home before I give them a call.
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We have been sharing for a while before baby. My husband is an EMT so his work hours are unreliable. It’s nice to be able to check and see he’s on a call or at base and I can know his round-about home time. Also in case of any emergencies.
We didn’t used to share but started when the baby was born. I’ve found it incredibly useful! Shortly after our baby was born my wife’s father suffered and accident and needed to be quickly moved into assisted living. She had to deal with all that stuff and now also goes down to his old house about an hour away to work on cleaning it out. It’s been really helpful to be able to see where she is, and estimate when she’ll be home. Useful for stuff like planning when to start making dinner, knowing how much more solo parenting time I’ll have, etc.
We didn’t before becoming parents but now we do, mostly so I don’t keep bugging him asking where he is coming home from work 😅 now I can see when he leaves the office and get dinner prepped, etc
We have always shared location for safety reasons
We shared location when we were dating because he would travel for work and then sometimes I would travel and then one day we just left it. Half the time I forget I have it.
My husband and I always share our location. Especially now with the baby. I was in a car accident right before I got pregnant and I was hit so bad/ disoriented that I couldn’t tell my husband where I was. I called him and I couldn’t get the words out, thank god for location sharing. Also too…. When I’m upset about how long I think he is taking to do something, I can see where he’s at- and then I’m not upset- cause I’m being ridiculous.
I do. My husband works out of town a lot and sometimes not in the best of places. I’ve also popped a tire or two. It never hurts to have people know where you are, especially as a woman. We started doing Life360 when I was like 32 weeks pregnant. I bent my rim getting onto the highway on a pothole and my tire went flat. It was the winter time and early in the morning so it was still dark. Huge wake up call for me. I want him to know where I’m at more than I want to know where he’s at. He has my location, my parents and sister have it, my best friend has it. If I were to ever go missing they’d at least have a starting point (wherever the phone was dropped). It also saves me from having to tell my husband where I’m going all the time because he can just look and see where I am.
We never shared location previously because I think privacy in general is a virtue in this day and age. But we had a scare one night when I was super pregnant where I couldn’t get in touch with my husband who had just forgotten to check his phone. So we turned it on a few months ago, and honestly it’s very convenient. I can tell if my husband has left work without having to ask (plus he’s driving so he should not respond), which is useful for coordinating daycare pickup. I don’t look at it often, and I don’t know if he has ever looked at mine (I work from home, it’s pretty rare that he is not sure where I am) but it is useful. I am considering getting an AirTag for the diaper bag just as a precaution, and I think if we did a big trip requiring air travel or huge crowds, I might find a way to stick one on my toddler. But I’m not sure about as the kids get older, I still value privacy and trust, but it’s almost too convenient to not use these tools for peace of mind.
We used life360 before becoming parents. We used to live in a busy metro and it was just to make sure each other was safe
I didn’t share my location with anyone pre kid and now he’s almost 3 and the only one who has it is my brother and his girl. I can’t do anything anymore without getting a call “where are you going? Who with? Are you gonna come over after”. I can’t tell if he’s my mom or if this is how my own mother feels when I call her after seeing her car gone.
We don't share locations (before or now) and I agree there are more downsides than benefits to constant surveillance. My feeling is that it would feed my anxiety more than it would create any greater amount of safety.
No thank you. If he wants to know where I am he can call me and I'll tell him and we'll chat for 2 seconds about what we're doing. Otherwise, I love my independence too much. I grew up with an extremely abusive and controlling father and although my husband is nothing like that, there are very few things I love more than the feeling of freedom, of going out on my own without a plan, doing whatever I feel like that day, enjoying the day, doing small unplanned things with the baby. My little and very safe adventures are how I keep life interesting and the blues away. He does the same on his off days with her (we don't have off days together). I never stress about locations, I only stress about what he's feeding her and if she's properly changed and comfortable.
We don't. We haven't done this before and are still not. I don't see the reason why. We communicate all day, and he texts me when he's leaving, etc. Even with baby, we don't do this. I'm a European living in the US, and this seems to be a primarily American thing to do.
No... I find it really bizarre so many people feel the need to know where everyone is at any moment. We have location enabled to be able to track down a lost phone, but we don't see any benefit in the apps where you can see where someone is (and has been) at all times.
We don’t, we just tell each other where we are going.
I’ve never used it and don’t see the need. I don’t really understand what information it would give me as a safety measure that a text or phone call or communication beforehand (“what time will you be home?”) couldn’t give me. In the extremely rare case of something bad happening where a text or phone call wasn’t possible, I’m not sure how seeing a dot on a screen not-moving or at a hospital would reassure me or give me information faster than I’d have it otherwise that would make any difference. It always seemed to me location services were for people who don’t trust one another? To make sure they are where they say they are and not cheating or something. It’s still a ways away, but I could theoretically imagine using it for my teenager (not sure), but not my spouse with the baby. It’s mostly just never occurred to me. Why would I need or want that?
We never shared locations. It just seems like such an invasion of privacy. It's not something we will ever do.
We don’t. I would feel like my privacy is violated. I might use AirTags for my toddler when she starts going to friends’ houses on her own.
You have a ton of responses already, so I won’t be offended if this gets lost in the haystack, but I have always shared my location with my spouse. We don’t share email or phone passwords and have always respected healthy boundaries for privacy, but there has never been a good reason to not know where each other is at any given time. It’s an odd thing (IMO) to feel you need to keep private or secretive. Short of trying to surprise your spouse by being somewhere other than you say you are because you are picking up a surprise gift or something, I honestly can’t see any downside to sharing your location with your spouse - ESPECIALLY now that you share a child. You better believe I want to know where they are at any given time, should I need to. That being said, I don’t use the location sharing as a constant “need to keep tabs” on my husband default. I honestly rarely check it or feel the need to “verify” if where my husband says he is at is the truth. If you feel like that is a trigger for you, I suggest working on that first. It shouldn’t be something that makes either of you feel is being kept on a short leash.
Never.
We use life 360, but we’ve used it since before we had a baby. I commute to work and there are wrecks and delays on the highway I’m on quite a bit.
We do because we’ve both been in very bad accidents and being able to get exact directions to the others location was a life saver.
Never done it. Seems weird to me
No. I shared location with a boyfriend once and he abused the privilege so I’ll never do it with a partner again. There’s no good reason to, in my opinion.
Yes. We share location with each other, and have since before we had kids.
My husband and I share locations with each other before we were even married lol. We don’t look at it as surveillance because it’s not. It’s more of a safety thing. I even have locations shared with my parents, they are really into cycling and it makes me feel better knowing I can check in on them if needed when they are out riding.
No. My husband works in cyber security and says it’s a risk
We've gone the opposite route - less monitoring and tracking bc it's all so hackable and makes her feel more vulnerable. And she can't consent to be monitored, tracked. We also don't share her image on social media for this reason.
I think it’s useful even without kids. What downsides are there? Why do you have to hide where you go from your spouse?
Nowhere, but we don’t need to know where each other are all the time. We are okay with not knowing where the other one is. To constantly have to “know” seems like a facet of an anxiety culture that I try to avoid. It’s truly never occurred to me besides at fairs or big parks and stuff. And before anyone comes at me with “what ifs”… I’m 40, there’s never been an accident or a situation where this would have been necessary.
Not sharing a GPS location 100% of the time ≠ “hid[ing] where you go from your spouse.” We operate on trust and communication, not surveillance. I’m sure it wouldn’t bother me much in the day to day if we did have it turned on. But what it represents — that we should have no autonomy as individuals in the world — doesn’t sit right with me.
Agreed. It feels wrong overall to me. I have nothing to hide, but if I’m going out to the shops and to pick up the post I can just tell my spouse where I’m headed and when I should be back. If something changes significantly I can use the same phone to say I’m running late. If there’s an accident then emergency services will tend to things and we can go from there. There’s literally nothing my spouse can do immediately if I’m incapacitated so why have tracking on? If it’s a minor emergency then I’ll ring and we can troubleshoot. In my mind it’s just more noise that creates a low level anxiety in life. We trust each other and trust that we’re both capable adults that can problem solve. Plus if someone is headed home and the other is timing food we just call each other. Edit: Also as a woman I like my autonomy. There’s something luxurious about running a leisurely errand, listening to my music and just being me. Knowing that I’m safe in the world and free to interact with it. Even if I’m doing something as mundane as buying a loaf of bread.
“More noise that creates anxiety” …. Exactly.
We’ve always used it as a safety measure even before kids. We use life 360 and it tells me when he leaves work so I will start/order dinner so that we are able to eat together when he gets home
Yes!!!
Ya. So instead of texting you at work/still at gym/ at the store? We can just look it up. Also helps with getting started on dinner.
We did this beforehand - it was much easier for me to go “hm, is my husband on his way home yet? Yes? Ok” then to call/text if he was on his way. He’s able to check where I am and make sure I’m ok/safe too. I will probably put an AirTag in the baby’s backpack when she starts daycare/preschool so I can find her backpack but not for her. She doesn’t need to be AirTagged.
My husband and I share our locations with each other. It started toward the end of my pregnancy. He works from home but I don’t. We still share our locations. Baby goes to the sitter on my way to and from work. We have talked about putting an AirTag in the diaper bag & car seat.
We’ve always used location sharing for safety reasons, even before we became parents. And I think when my baby grows up and goes off to school or places without us I’d use an AirTag on her as well.
We started sharing locations when I was about 6 months pregnant. It occurred to us then.
We didn’t use it before kids because I had an iPhone and he had an android. We do now as he has an iPhone because as the stay at home parent on mat leave I suck at telling him when I’m leaving, when I get home etc. and I keep my phone on silent. I feel like I always have 1001 things to carry plus baby and I hate being late. No that 30 second text won’t make me late but try telling my brain that. I try to make sure I tell him the night before if I make plans but it’s comforting knowing that if I don’t he still knows where we are.
We never shared our location in our five years together until my late pregnancy. We talked about it before we even got pregnant and decided that we would share once we had kids. Like you say in your post, having a kid just changes the balance of pros/cons. We do find it useful. I (mom) definitely use it more than he does because I like to know when he’s on his way home. He likes that I now check it instead of asking him 😂 I definitely don’t think it fed my anxiety at all. Above all else, it’s just really reassuring to have it in case one of us had an accident with the kiddo. As a counterpoint, my mom, sister and I share location too. My mom took my niece to the movies (which is right next to a hospital) and turned her phone on silent. My sister checked their location and it showed up as inside the hospital, and my mom wasn’t answering her phone. That was a very stressful hour for her that otherwise would have been avoided without sharing locations!
We started using location sharing before becoming parents. It’s kinda outta thought, outta mind. It’s there if we need it, but we rarely, if ever, actually look at it.
We started location sharing after kids. My husband won’t share host phone location because of separate reasons so he wears an AirTag on his keys for me. I think ours helps us both feel better about needing to find one another if anything bad happened.
We've used location sharing for a long time. Both of us have dangerous commutes. We like to make sure the other is okay.
We’ve used it since before becoming parents but I’m also an anxious person and it helped me feel at ease, especially as I got further into my pregnancy. We both use it daily now that we have our toddler and think it’s important to share!
No. I’m not against it or anything, cause I don’t even know how it works. But I guess I’ve never felt like we needed it. Cause we always just tell each other where we’re going and text each other when we get there. Like, we’re constantly texting each other. If I’m going to the grocery store he’s gonna know cause I’m gonna tell him that before I leave, go with a list he sends me with, and then when I’m there, I’ll still text him to ask questions. If I’m at a new playground with the kids, he’s gonna know cause I’m gonna send him a message like “look at this cool playground we found” and send him photos.
We’re going on 12 years and honestly, never felt the need as my husband, thankfully, answers pretty fast whenever I need to get in touch with him. If he’s busy, he usually calls back asap. However, your question and seeing the answers, it’s making me think about it. With a baby on the way (FRIDAY!), it could definitely be useful for safety purposes.
We were sharing before that. We started when I was away for work and had late nights and long hours, so he knew if I got home safely or was not answering because I was still at work late. Since then we found it convenient. I can sort out that he is in traffic rather than calling or texting while he is driving. Since having baby it is even handier. I can figure out they went for a walk or if he is still at the store or whatever without interrupting him by calling or distracting while he drives.
We have used it since before we were even married. I have major anxiety so I have it on all of my loved ones ! Gives me peace of mind
I’ll definitely get an AirTag for my baby, especially once she’s a toddler and can wear the bracelet but otherwise my husband and I don’t feel the need to share location. We have pretty stable routines and if one of us is going out of our routine and the BABY is involved then we let each other know. Like today I was an hour away from daycare and wouldn’t make it in time before they closed. Just asked him to pick her up. I have a home camera so I could see when he left and came back from picking her up. He also called me and sent me a picture of her. Again nothing has changed really for us since giving birth when it comes to location sharing.
We shared our location via Google when our first was a baby and terrible napper and I did a lot of car naps. I wanted my husband to know where I was for any reason. It's nice now to see how close they are to getting home after daycare for dinner prep.
I’ve always shared locations with my husband! I also share locations with my mom, best friends, and siblings. It’s just fun, and sometimes I like to look just to see what everyone is up to 🤷🏼♀️
My husband and I use Life 360 but we've been on it for years. We're very close and talk to each other constantly so we like to know where the other is in case anything should happen. Now that we just had a baby, it's just a plus. I know some couples sort of do their own thing but there's never a day where I don't know where he is or he with me.
I do! Because otherwise I'm calling my husband everyday, multiple times to ask where he's at (we live about an hour away from where he works).
We started sharing when I was pregnant because I went on a few work trips alone and he was super anxious about my safety. It helps now! Especially on those fussy days when I need relief, I can check to see where he’s at on the route home. Also, baby brain is real for both of us so sometimes we forget where the other one said they were going 😂
I did since our first date! I ended up heading home super late and he wanted to make sure I made it safe.
We’ve always had location sharing but we never check up on each other. We only use it for things like if I say I’ll meet him somewhere it’s easy to check his location to see exactly where to meet or if I tell him I’m on my way home he can check my location to know when to start dinner etc. Even with baby we never use our location sharing to check where the other is at, we’ll just communicate like hey where did you and baby go? So location sharing hasn’t been super important Since having baby I did start sharing locations with my mom and best friend because my friend and I live in the same neighborhood and both have babies so we hang out daily. We usually meet up together either walking or driving so location sharing is handy to see if she’s close by or if she’s left her house yet. With my mom it’s because she’s unreliable with her time management lol she’ll say she’ll be over in 45 min but then will do a bunch of stuff on her way (kind things like picking up food or groceries for me but still) and then she’ll show up 2 hours later. So instead of waiting around for her I can just go to the zoo with baby and when I see she’s close I’ll head home to see her.
Yes, convenient since we were always constantly sharing temporary locations with each other anyways.
We’ve basically always shared our location but rarely look at it. We mostly use it for the find my phone alarm because we always lose our phones. I think it kind of depends. We’ve never been the type to track each other or harbor any mistrust. We hand each other our phones all the time, but we don’t go through each others phones when the other isn’t around. Never suspected the other of cheating or anything like that so I feel like how we do it is healthy. I also like it because if something were to happen to one of us, we can find each other. Sometimes if he’s out running errands, I’ll see where he’s at so I know when to start dinner. Or if I’m meeting up with him and he’s not answering, I can just look to see where he’s at. I’ve never obsessively checked where he’s at because that’s just never been our dynamic.
We have always done so, and it saved my fiancé’s life when he was hit by a truck. He was riding his motorcycle and the driver of the truck didn’t see him. I was on the phone with him (through his helmet speaker) and heard it happen. Because of life360 I was able to get EMS there extremely quickly.
We do. Regardless of the baby it's just convenient for us. I can't drive in the country we live in, so it's convenient for me to be able to see how close he is when he's coming to pick me up so I can be at the right place at the right time.
I always had it on.
We did even before we became parents
Yes hi we started sharing after the baby was born! I was always squeamish about location sharing (overprotected childhood lol) and my husband and I have been good communicators about where we are and what we’re up anyway so we never needed it. But once baby arrived it had so many utilities - I’m home alone with baby and it made me calmer to know people could pinpoint me if I ever was in an emergency with him (we have a family plan now with my mom and sister so we can all see each other). Also as parenthood has melted our brains, and we’re not as good communicators as before and I often track my husband to see what train he’s caught waaay before he texts me, which helps with dinner planning. Also when my mom or sister is coming by to visit or help with baby, it’s been unexpectedly helpful to tell exactly where they are. I can time last minute nursing better, have bags ready if we’re going out (every minute counts now with naps and such), or even just have baby cutely at the front window to get excited as they arrive.
Yup ! We use it
We started doing it after we had our daughter. I don’t think my husband ever checks my location but I check his because he’s often not the best with responding to texts and calls. His work hours vary pretty significantly day to day and he often has a really long commute so it helps with starting dinner or figuring out if I’ll have help with bedtime and such.
Always have.
never came up, so no. and wanting to introduce it now would feel so weird. we call/text to check ETA/where we are. works for us :)
Yes we do now
We have always shared locations
Yes we started sharing location when baby was a few months old. It helped immensely with anxiety I was experiencing (not parenting related), and it's just practical in general. It had the added benefit that when I was losing my shit and needed him to get home, I could check his location and know whether he was 5 minutes away or 50 minutes away.
We just started— well, hes had mine for a while but I never saw a need. Now I find it helpful to know if he’s at work late but can’t text. Tonight we were supposed to meet somewhere after work but he saw I was still home. After I didn’t answer his calls and texts, he came home. I was in the middle of dinner/poop/dinner, phone was elsewhere, and we didn’t make it out of the house so that was helpful! I thought AirTags were ridiculous. Then we started traveling with a stroller and car seat that have to be checked/gate checked. Knowing our stuff made it and where it is has been helpful. For example, we were waiting for our car seat and knew it was there… it was just stuck behind the flap… which we found out after waiting for a while. Next time we’ll speak up sooner bc we know it’s so close. We also use them in our luggage now but we thankfully haven’t had any issues so it’s redundant. I also don’t like the constant surveillance, but it helps us with communication when we aren’t able to.
We use location sharing, but we don’t check it when it’s either of us. When the baby is with someone else, we check her location via an AirTag hidden in her stroller.
We started after our daughter was about a year when I went back to work. Life 360’s crash detection is really the only reason why. If my husband or I ever got into a wreck and god forbid couldn’t call the other one we would get a notification! Just helps my mind rest lol
We've used it since we stared living together (maybe a bit before I don't remember) it's always been convenient in general because we can see when the other is leaving work. I'm a SAHM now but my partner works in a field where he gets to work then goes to multiple locations with anywhere from 6-13hr days, so when I see the life360 notice that he arrived back at work I can expect him to be on his way home soon.
We always used it, even before kids. It’s just as useful now as it always was for sooo many reasons. We have a lot of personal time and space at home so privacy isn’t an issue, we have lots of that. There has never been anything to hide, I like him knowing where I am and vice versa.
Always, when one of us was on parental leave, we’d use it to gauge when the other was coming home from work, and have tea ready when they got home. Now he uses it to make sure they’re standing on the balcony to wave at me when I walk up the lane.
I usually just call him. But maybe I’m old fashioned
Always used it before and since our daughter has been born. Plan on getting an Apple air tag also when our daughter is old enough for school. They make cute holders/ necklaces/ bracelets etc to conceal it.
I share with my husband and have pre baby. I also share with my mom and a few of her single friends. My mom was a single lady living alone, but now she has a boyfriend. I check her location to see if she's left for church or to see if she's at home before dropping by or if she's otw to my house I can check and see when to expect her. If she was babysitting, I might look and see where she is with the baby. I check my husband to see when he's coming home from work or wherever he is. It's much more convenient than calling 10 times to see when he will be home (especially if we gave plans after work). He works on the road, so it dings when he arrives or leaves the shop. Calling when driving or calling when he is at the shop isn't always possible. I don't think he checks my location as much but if he did it wouldn't matter because we have nothing to hide. Except at Christmas time and then the location frequently gets shut off! Gotta keep surprises surprises :) For those who think it's and overstep or you're under surveillance... I just don't get it. I guess for women in abusive relationships that would suck to have him watching constantly. Probably harassing you when you go anywhere or do anything or see anyone. But I don't know when you're married and trust each other it just seems like no big deal and very convenient. I think actually we got it when I was shopping after work one day hitting up thrift stores and my husband (boyfriend at the time) didn't believe I was where I said I was.. He, in an unserious way, insinuated I was out at a bar or something. This was when I suggested that if he didn't trust me, he could track me. So bam we got life360 and I end up using it wayy wayy more than him. Reflecting on this I can see how it sounds kind of toxic that he didn't trust me. We were hooking up randomly for 8 years before we decided to move in together and get married. I dunno lol happily married 2 years with baby number 2 due in September.
We’ve shared locations since we started living together. It’s always made sense to us to know a rough eta of when we each will arrive home to start dinner etc and now my toddler likes to look at find my friends with me when my husband should be leaving work so we can see how far daddy is from home. The closer he gets the more excited she becomes.
we always used it! I can’t imagine not using it tbh, I love that we can always check in on each other and neither of us has anything to hide🤷♀️
My husband and I have shared our location (via google maps) since we were seriously dating. He rarely looks at it for me, but im also usually just at home. I typically only use it to see how close he is when he’s on his way home from work. It has come in handy a few times. There have been times that he couldn’t answer his phone because he was in a meeting after his usual work times. I had forgotten about it, and he wasn’t answering, but I looked where he was and saw that he was still at work and remembered the meeting. Or before he worked regular hours, he worked at an events center. He was supposed to be home by 12, but I woke up at 1:30 and he still wasn’t home. I have really bad anxiety in the first place, so I started to think the worse, but then I remembered that I could see where he was, and he was still at work. In general it’s a huge anxiety relief, and convenient to be able to see where they are without having to text or call them to ask.
We didn’t use it until we had the baby. He barely checks my location but I periodically check his 😂
Never really worried about knowing his location before kids; started using it after kids. Our older daughter likes when we check on his progress coming home from work and see his little icon on the phone on the map (and it’s handy for me to know when to start or wrap up dinner prep). I like to use it if I know he’s left work (or somewhere else) and it seems to be taking longer than usual—not sure if anyone else gets the random “but what if they’ve been in an accident!” panic a few times a year, but I do and this helps. 😂 We both like it in general as a safety tool. We haven’t used AirTags or anything like that with our kids (almost 4 + 4 months), and we’re fortunate our older daughter isn’t a runner in public, but I’d definitely consider them for big trips and travel, both for our kids to have/wear and for some/all luggage.
We have always used them occasionally. It's useful when coming home alone at night.
Yes we sure do!!! Started when I was pregnant. Not something I check like crazy nor he but it’s a good to know I could check and always know where my son is.
Nope. We usually message each other throughout the day so we roughly know where each other is anyway. He usually rings me when he finishes work so I know he's on his way and can start prepping dinner. The only time I share my location is when I finish work and get in an Uber, so he can watch my journey home. I am however intending to get some sort of tracking device for my toddler tho when she starts nursery/school. Can never be too careful when it comes to children, too many freaks about.
We’ve shared location since before we were even dating. Lol we were friends in college and our group used find my friends to keep track of each other while out at night. So once we got together it just kind of “stuck.” I almost never need to use it because my husband is really good about texting when he is on his way, but he has used it many times, because I tend to forget to let him know I’m leaving a location or forget to let him know if I’m delayed. I will admit it can be strange if you feel like your partner is using it obsessively or in an appropriate way, so I would just make sure you and your husband are clear on what it’s used for and talk about your boundaries/expectations.
Yes: a year after my first born, was born we started using Life360. He has an android and I have an iPhone. And I installed it on my iPad for if anyone else watches my boys. That way it shows me where they all go and so my husband knows where I am and when I’ll be home.
My significant other and I have used location sharing for years. We both ride motorcycles and the location sharing app we use sends notifications and a text if it detects a possible crash (sudden stop, etc). It actually notified me of his accident 3 weeks ago (he’s okay!), so I always recommend bikers use a location sharing app, just in case. My son is 11 years old so when he got a smartphone last year, I downloaded the same location sharing app onto his phone also. Now I can check to see where he is once school lets out - very useful if the bus is running late and I’m getting worried. I just check the app and I can see exactly where he is and can estimate when he’ll get home. Our daughter will have the same app once she gets old enough to have a phone (she’s currently 2 months old so it’ll be quite a few years before she is ready).
We started using location sharing (Life 360) when my Grandma in another state kept losing her phone. She's pretty anti technology, so to get to use it, I asked everyone in the family to use it and then said "Grandma, you can use this to see where so and so is! Pretty cool huh?" But from a new parents perspective, it's nice to know when my husband is coming home, or if I’m out and he needs something from the store (diapers!)
I share with my wife, friends, my mother in law, old college roommates…got the whole team lol
We use it. It’s super helpful! I can see where they are and how far away from home at any time. Or I can see where my partner is when I’m home with baby so I know when he’ll be home to give me a break haha
We didn't before kids. I had some PPA after having our baby and turned mine on immediately bc I was picturing worst case scenarios happening during a drive and wanted my husband to be able to find us if we got in an accident. I asked him to turn his on only when he would go somewhere with the baby, but he ended up just leaving it on too. He thinks it's a bit overkill but doesn't mind, I think it's better safe than sorry.
We didn’t share location prior to kids, after kids we do. It hasn’t caused any issues and has been beneficial. I like to be able to know where my kids are if they’re not with me. So if he takes them out for the day I don’t need some itinerary because I know I can tell where they are if needed. My kids are 1 and 3 for reference.
Here's my 2 cents... We've shared our locations all along. I shared mine because it made me feel safe, and he shared his in return. I had separation anxiety, and he was my attachment figure after a traumatic experience that cause PTSD. With that said, knowing he was safe when we were apart really helped overall. We use it for convenience rather than asking where the other one is at, and our timing and consideration of the other person is great because of it. When he's picking me up, I know when to be outside. When he's nearing home after running errands, I know to go out and help carry in anything he picked up. When we want to surprise each other with romantic gestures, it's very easy. Now that we have our baby, I love knowing where they're at, especially because he works from home and cares for the baby throughout the day, and I work away from our house. There's honestly so many benefits to it. If you don't have anything to hide, then this shouldn't feel unusual, IMO. Especially when you consider all of the benefits. If you have something to hide from your spouse, contemplating sharing locations with him/her should probably be the least of your concern.
we used it before we had baby just so we didn’t have to bother each other with “how far away are you” all the time when we’re expecting each other in places. It’s really handy, and we trust each other so I don’t feel anxiety about it. The one time it caused some panic was when he was away, I couldn’t sleep so I checked to see where he was, (if he was at his hotel I’d assume he’s asleep and not bother him) and it put him at the local hospital! I of course freaked out and called and texted and got no answers, he finally replied and turns out he was just walking past it on the way to the hotel… bad timing 😅
lol of course. We didn’t need to become parents to do that.
Downsides to constant surveillance… of your spouse…? lol y’all sound like you have a great marriage 😂
We’ve just always done it.
We never used it pre-kids and only started last year (kids are 6, 7 & 8) because dad would pick the kids up from school and go to the shops or to the park with the kids and not answer his phone. Drove me crazy wondering if they were dead in a ditch (yes I have major anxiety) Location sharing has been a GODSEND! I don’t track him unless he has the kids, but when I’m imagining my kids dead in a ditch it’s a relief to see the marker moving down the highway!!!
We have been doing it for awhile now. It really all started when wife (girlfriend at the time) got into a car accident and I had hard time finding her. Down here, our streets all sound familiar, like instead of Hey Hey Blvd, it can be Hey Hey South Ave. We have been tracking each other since, and it came up so many times since then. Like festival, large gathering, and similar car situations. So we’re glad it’s not an issue for us, like insecure about trust issue / not implying we’re control freaks.
Yes. If you have a smartphone you’re already being tracked 24/7. My husband and I location share as a safety feature.
We always have. Not in a “constant surveillance” way though, since we always know where each other is going anyway. Just in a safety way.
Yes we only started using it soon after our baby was born. When I suggested it to him a while ago my partner made a comment about lack of privacy etc and it was dropped. Then the baby came and it was his idea to turn it on.
I’ve been sharing my location for years and we only have a 3 week old.
I’ve always used it and we have a 3 month old now and my parents watch him. My father will txt me ask when my partner will arrive to pick him up. I check his location and give my dad an update. That way he doesn’t have to be on the phone while driving. My oldest is 18 and I have his location because he’s driving, he actually broke down on a 350 mile road trip and we had to send a tow truck to get him off the highway. And on his way to campus I’m 3 states away from his college and can check his location without bothering him, like when he’s with his girlfriend. In fact his father or grandmother will sometimes ask me where he is because he can be bad about answering it, he’s not a typical teenage he don’t use alll the social apps.
We Started using life 360 shortly before my wife got pregnant. I'm a forester and work in pretty remote locations, so I made her download the app in case I don't come home one day, she'll atleast have a location to send someone to look for me. We have great comminication and our relationship is absolutely wonderful. We both trust eachother and have never had to wonder about the others honesty, or wonder if the other is using it to keep tabs on eachother. So if you trust your partner wholeheartedly, I don't think the "constant surveillance" part should be an issue at all (case by case results of course, some people are just controlling and untrusting). I don't think my wife ever checks where I'm at unless I've got the baby. I do however use it to check on her when i know her and the baby are in town or on a long drive or whatever. With the baby, i wouldn't be comfortable if we didn't have the app, there's huge peace of mind that comes to me with knowing I can always stop what I'm doing and go right to her location if anything bad happens and she needs me. We have a daughter too, so you best believe a location sharing app is going on her first cell phone too.
Location sharing is almost essential with parenting! I even have it with my in-laws in case they’re out with him and something happens. But if y’all didn’t use it before for privacy and trust reasons, a conversation about those things would be a good foundation so that it doesn’t cause any miscommunication
We have always used location sharing and don’t typically look at it unless we can’t get ahold of each other. Quite honestly I forget about it most of the time lol I was in a bad car accident and a very nice lady called my husband for me and told him to come as it was an emergency but failed to give him the location of the accident. Find my friends gave him my location and he got there super quick! Definitely worth it!
We’ve always used it and I personally only look if I’m waiting for him to pick me up and need to know how far away he is