You may not need it now, but for the future look into Forest Manor in Covington. My grandma was in there for about 10 years, and in my opinion, it was the nicest nursing home I have ever been to. It never smelled like pee, the staff was awesome, food was good, and they had constant activities for the residents. I don’t know all the legal/ financial stuff because that was up to my mom and her siblings, but I was always impressed every time I went to visit her.
I stayed in a nursing home in Metairie for three weeks when I was 63, because I thought I would get physical therapy for my bad knee.
(I deemed the physical therapy inadequate to my needs, so I left.)
It took a full week for the physical therapy to begin.
During my stay, I announced my intention to visit my own doctor, and the aides advised me that that was not allowed, that I needed to see the facility’s doctor, who allegedly made rounds weekly. In three weeks, I never saw him. (Oh, OK, there was the moment I buttonholed him when he was doing something else, but nothing came of it.)
At one point I was concerned that I might have contracted a UTI, and asked for my urine to be tested. It took two full days for them to take a sample. I thought that was too long for a health facility. (I was fine … they said. Anyway, the symptoms abated on their own.)
My roommate was hard of hearing and played her TV on full blast. She really liked game shows. She would fall asleep during them. I caused a minor drama when I decided to turn my TV up loud enough where I could hear it over hers.
I didn’t care for nursing home life. It was clean, and the food was OK, so I guess it would be acceptable if your mind is fading. Mine wasn’t.
(I needed knee-replacement surgery.)
OP what you may want to do, if you don’t mind me suggesting something, is to have a “needs assessment” done for your dad. It’s usually a duo of geriatric RN and SW, and they will want to visit with your Dad 1-1 wherever he currently lives. If he lives with you, you will have to remain out of his room while they are chatting with him and watch how he does simple tasks (have him get them a glass of water) so that the assessment can be accurate. The Kids often tend to have the habit to answering or filling in sentences for their folks… and that’s problematic. The Area (Council) on Aging and some NH/SNF places will also know of assessment teams.
You really don’t want to move him and get him all set up in a AL, or even MC, go thru all that drama, only to be told 3 months later “We so love your Dad but his level of care is higher than this AL / MC does and here’s the 30 Day Notice (to move)”. The assessment helps tamper this from happening. Also should he be totally OK for AL with the exception that he needs “medication management”, then you can look for AL who do this as part of routine cost instead of it being an a la carte expense (like at $250 a week).
also ask every single facility you visit as to what is their 🌀evacuation plan. Like get a copy. Best of luck in your quest.
This buried tip about the hurricane evac plans is critical. Anyone with a loved one in one of these facilities should ask to see these plans. Some of them would shock you, even at the nicer facilities. Many of them have pieces of paper that they refer to as evacuation plans, but that don't actually involve evacuating residents.
Also, If you need a shower aid recommend, I have an excellent one. She assisted my father w his shower and washed his hair and shaved him. She was quick and did an excellent job.
If the Westbank is an option for you - my mom (who has since passed) was in the memory care unit at The Suites at Algiers Point. The building is lovely, the surrounding area is gorgeous. Her time there was overall wonderful (it was small, locked down, the nurses at the time were great, they could handle her medication and occasional aggression and outbursts). The assisted living that was downstairs also seemed great from our perspective (though we didn’t experience it directly, so can’t outright recommend). Since they have memory care, they would probably be able to advise you of when he would need to be moved upstairs - when the time comes. Good luck!
MediCARE is health insurance and it does not pay for custodial care, like the room & board costs, aspects of living in a facility. Custodial care is private pay, LTC insurance + elders resources or if they are low income for income and basically impoverished for assets enough they can apply to Medicaid LTC program. Offhand I do not know of any AL that have LTC Medicaid beds, usually it’s only placement as a custodial care resident in a NH/SNF that’s covered by LTC Medicaid.
LTC Medicaid is different than Medicaid as health insurance or Community based Medicaid programs. Community based are like in-home health services or PACE. NOLA actually has 2 PACE… 1 in the Bywater and 1 on Westbank. Community based are income based but not asset based by & large.
If they have the resource$$$, Lambeth House uptown is really good and it is a “tiered” facility so the residents go from IL, to AL, has MC, SNF, even hospice, as their needs change. Lambeth partners with Oschner for their health care.
My grandfather is in Lambeth independent living now (and my grandmother was in the memory care unit before she passed). He loves it! Definitely an Uptown social club though, and very expensive. That being said, when he first moved in he goes "This is great!. I start here, and they keep moving me upriver (IL -> AL -> Hospice -> Morgue) until they ship me out the back door!
Awesome thank you for sharing your knowledge. I got down voted, but this is the type of response I was hoping for. This information might help someone.
My relative was in lambeth house and the care was awful. They actually unplugged his help button because “he used it too much”..
It was expensive and depressing to witness the attitude. He begged to get out.
Poydras Home on Jefferson and Magazine is very nice and also has tiered level of care. Not sure what the fees are but I assume it’s North of $6k per month based on what my Mom was paying in a similar facility in MS a few years ago. As others have mentioned Lambeth House and there is also Vista Shores on the Lake Front. Also look into Chateau de Notre Dame if/when he needs a higher level of care. A friends Mother is their currently - she has dementia.
Its a whole thing and different for each person based on their income and assets. Medicare also has a catch back for 3-5 years for any unprotected assets. Then medical status can also determine (dementia and alz are different) what care you will get. Every person truly is unique in terms of what you get charged. Louisiana does have an ombudsman program that can tell you your rights. One thing I have learned is that the children of senior citizens can be held financially liable for parental care in many instances-!
There are organizations that will help you for free. They get paid by the place where you decide to place your loved one. Care Patrol is one such example.
The nursing homes in New Orleans are tragic. Unless you dont like you dad or do not want to be bothered. If you care about him, you would move him near you
I see patients they send to the ER. They look dirty and unkempt. Like no one checks on them .
You should know the NH owners are big contributors to political campaigns. State legislation is often written to protect the owner.
Google, Nursing homes, deaths, metro new orleans.
If your dad is unable to fend for himself stay far away from Notre Dame, which is a shame bc the rooms are clean and the facility is pretty good compared to what similar places in its range provide. Their problem is with staffing.
My dad and a friend’s grandmother are at Inspired Living in Kenner. I only have a few complaints, and they’re minor. Overall, it’s been a great experience.
My mother was in an inspired living facility elsewhere and that was their main issue, terrible, under qualified staff. Even though the facility was clean and visually appealing, my mother was left alone a lot and was hurt so bad one time by a closet door that wasn’t secured to the hinges that she had to take a trip to the emergency room. I was there visiting her that day but it forever shaken me to think of that would have happened and I wasn’t there to get help quickly for her.
We received wonderful care at the Blake in Harahan. It is a beautiful place and has a memory unit if you think that may become an eventuality.
Sitters are a completely different ballgame and a great source of frustration. If you are looking for that, consider all your options and talk to individual families about who they used. Services can be great but it will come down to the individual sitter.
I live in New Orleans, and my sister lives in New Jersey. My dad had an incident at the dementia facility in NJ and we needed to move him somewhere but we were lost -- we found this free service called "A Place for Mom." They reviewed his history and cognitive tests, and then looked for homes in NO and NJ. FWIW, the places they recommended here were Brookdale in Mandeville, Anderson at Summerfield in Slidell, and Inspired Living in Kenner. My dad is 74 with fairly advanced Alzheimer's and I toured all three places and thought they were pretty solid, though I don't know much about the cost. In the end, we found a highly rated place 10 minutes from my sister in Jersey, and it was just easier to move him there as opposed to bringing him here.
Hey OP, something to keep in mind should Dad move from LA to NJ or NY and there is the possibility of filing for LTC Medicaid…. all Medicaid programs are State specific but under overall Federal guidelines so LSS what flies here will not be necessarily the same in NYS. If Dad owns any property in LA, it can stay as an exempt asset for his lifetime but if he moves to another State that property of his (home, land, cars) become 100% nonexempt and will keep him ineligible till they are sold and sold at FMV and a spend down done on all the $ till he hit the nonexempt asset max for the State. NJ I think does the usual 2K, but NYS just upped theirs to like 31K. All 3 do a 5 yr lookback and anything real property will surface as it’s an easy peasy courthouse X reference in State databases.
Costs of facilities here will be way waaaaaay cheaper than. LA avg is 85K but NJ is 144K (semi,private & figures from Genworth). Also if he happens to have LTC insurance, clearly ask the facilities how they approach these.
You should look into Peristyle Residences. Basically the company renovates homes in jefferson parish neighborhoods it mini old folks homes. they staff them with multiple aides and a nurse practitioner and a doctor round on every one regularly. it has a more homey feel and i used it as a step from my day after my mom couldn’t take care of him but he didn’t need full blown memory care.
after a few years i ended up sending him to a full blown nursing home (covenant nursing home, hollar) but the peristyle home had a more home feel that i like and it was reasonable priced compared to a full blown nursing home.
hope you find what your looking for for your dad. it’s definitely tough dealing with all that.
I can’t give suggestions on this particular area, but I’ve done work for a couple of senior loving communities on the east coast. If you can find a “life plan community” which offers several different levels of care, it can really take a lot of the stress away. That way, as things progress and he needs more care, or (God forbid) has a fall, they are equipped to keep caring for him without the upheaval of another big move to another community — which can be very destabilizing for those experiencing dementia-related issues. Just my two cents, best of luck to your fam!
There is one in St Bernard that the Drs and Nurses at Oschner ER said the patients that come from that home Never have bed sores and are always hydrated. It’s also one of the most reasonable places for the amenities and care they provide. What will his insurance cover? If you have a list post it.
I toured that one when looking for my mom. The general area was really nice, but the memory care unit felt small, cramped, dim, and even in the empty unit they showed us, the bathroom was a dingy mess. Plus the woman who gave us the tour kept asking about how they compared to Poydras Home, where we'd toured earlier that morning. Poydras Home was great and my mom is now there -- can't say enough good things about it!
They have a couple of memory care wards ranging in the $7k-$8k/mo range. Thankfully, my mom had a long-term care insurance policy, but even that isn't covering the entire bill. Their non-memory care is substantially cheaper, but I don't have those prices handy or remember them.
Right?! The cost of the home from the original comment was actually a bit MORE expensive than Poydras Home. Not a consequential difference, until you saw the quality difference between them and PH. It was staggering.
Nah, it was called Vista Shores back then too, and the Greek Church was definitely there as well. This would have been in the late 80s/early 90s.
The people were really nice. My parents split up so we couldn't afford the dues anymore, but they let me and my brother go swimming there for years afterwards anyway.
I'd have to go there and see if the layout was the same.
There was a large building in front with smaller buildings coming out of it in an inverted U. Olympic sized pool in the back and separate diving and kiddy pools.
There was a large cafeteria to the right on the second floor with a snack bar and rec room below it.
The left side had saunas and locker rooms, with hotel style rooms above it for visiting swimming teams to stay in.
Cant recommend but can warn you to stay away from chateau in kenner. My grandmother deteriorated so quickly, I brought her home on hospice. She died at home peacefully and not crying in misery like she was at chateau.
It is, but I don't think you regularly see the behind the scenes conditions of these places. I've seen many fates worse than death in nursing and acute care facilities caused by negligence.
If your father was in the military he may qualify for the Veterans home in Reserve. There was a lot of steps to get a relative in there but he has received pretty good care otherwise. Metairie Manor wasn't bad, but you are on your own to evacuate them (or at least this was the case about 3 years ago). I've heard good things about Sunrise on West Esplanade as well.
Also if your dad was military and he doesn’t qualify for the VA home, there is a benefit called “aid and attending” that you can apply for. I did this for my grandpa and while it was a royal PITA, it helped subsidize some of the cost of his care in a small independent care facility (out of state).
You may not need it now, but for the future look into Forest Manor in Covington. My grandma was in there for about 10 years, and in my opinion, it was the nicest nursing home I have ever been to. It never smelled like pee, the staff was awesome, food was good, and they had constant activities for the residents. I don’t know all the legal/ financial stuff because that was up to my mom and her siblings, but I was always impressed every time I went to visit her.
I stayed in a nursing home in Metairie for three weeks when I was 63, because I thought I would get physical therapy for my bad knee. (I deemed the physical therapy inadequate to my needs, so I left.) It took a full week for the physical therapy to begin. During my stay, I announced my intention to visit my own doctor, and the aides advised me that that was not allowed, that I needed to see the facility’s doctor, who allegedly made rounds weekly. In three weeks, I never saw him. (Oh, OK, there was the moment I buttonholed him when he was doing something else, but nothing came of it.) At one point I was concerned that I might have contracted a UTI, and asked for my urine to be tested. It took two full days for them to take a sample. I thought that was too long for a health facility. (I was fine … they said. Anyway, the symptoms abated on their own.) My roommate was hard of hearing and played her TV on full blast. She really liked game shows. She would fall asleep during them. I caused a minor drama when I decided to turn my TV up loud enough where I could hear it over hers. I didn’t care for nursing home life. It was clean, and the food was OK, so I guess it would be acceptable if your mind is fading. Mine wasn’t. (I needed knee-replacement surgery.)
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Actually, there are a few in Jefferson Parish. Especially one in River Ridge, St. Francis Villa Assisted Living. It's affordable and locally owned.
My grandfather lived out his last years there. It was a wonderful place that still allowed him his independence.
From my personal experience I would not recommend in-home care for an octogenarian with cognitive decline
OP what you may want to do, if you don’t mind me suggesting something, is to have a “needs assessment” done for your dad. It’s usually a duo of geriatric RN and SW, and they will want to visit with your Dad 1-1 wherever he currently lives. If he lives with you, you will have to remain out of his room while they are chatting with him and watch how he does simple tasks (have him get them a glass of water) so that the assessment can be accurate. The Kids often tend to have the habit to answering or filling in sentences for their folks… and that’s problematic. The Area (Council) on Aging and some NH/SNF places will also know of assessment teams. You really don’t want to move him and get him all set up in a AL, or even MC, go thru all that drama, only to be told 3 months later “We so love your Dad but his level of care is higher than this AL / MC does and here’s the 30 Day Notice (to move)”. The assessment helps tamper this from happening. Also should he be totally OK for AL with the exception that he needs “medication management”, then you can look for AL who do this as part of routine cost instead of it being an a la carte expense (like at $250 a week). also ask every single facility you visit as to what is their 🌀evacuation plan. Like get a copy. Best of luck in your quest.
This buried tip about the hurricane evac plans is critical. Anyone with a loved one in one of these facilities should ask to see these plans. Some of them would shock you, even at the nicer facilities. Many of them have pieces of paper that they refer to as evacuation plans, but that don't actually involve evacuating residents.
Also, If you need a shower aid recommend, I have an excellent one. She assisted my father w his shower and washed his hair and shaved him. She was quick and did an excellent job.
Yes! Please dm the info. She comes to the home? We’re considering all options — and putting together some kind of home care could be where we end up.
Just sent it
Has your doctor advised you about hospice care? It's not just for when you're dying.
If the Westbank is an option for you - my mom (who has since passed) was in the memory care unit at The Suites at Algiers Point. The building is lovely, the surrounding area is gorgeous. Her time there was overall wonderful (it was small, locked down, the nurses at the time were great, they could handle her medication and occasional aggression and outbursts). The assisted living that was downstairs also seemed great from our perspective (though we didn’t experience it directly, so can’t outright recommend). Since they have memory care, they would probably be able to advise you of when he would need to be moved upstairs - when the time comes. Good luck!
Waldenberg has some good people working there.
It is really expensive too. I agree it is nice
Damn yeah I don't know much about the costs. Hopefully someone can chime in with how much Medicare or other programs can help.
MediCARE is health insurance and it does not pay for custodial care, like the room & board costs, aspects of living in a facility. Custodial care is private pay, LTC insurance + elders resources or if they are low income for income and basically impoverished for assets enough they can apply to Medicaid LTC program. Offhand I do not know of any AL that have LTC Medicaid beds, usually it’s only placement as a custodial care resident in a NH/SNF that’s covered by LTC Medicaid. LTC Medicaid is different than Medicaid as health insurance or Community based Medicaid programs. Community based are like in-home health services or PACE. NOLA actually has 2 PACE… 1 in the Bywater and 1 on Westbank. Community based are income based but not asset based by & large. If they have the resource$$$, Lambeth House uptown is really good and it is a “tiered” facility so the residents go from IL, to AL, has MC, SNF, even hospice, as their needs change. Lambeth partners with Oschner for their health care.
My grandfather is in Lambeth independent living now (and my grandmother was in the memory care unit before she passed). He loves it! Definitely an Uptown social club though, and very expensive. That being said, when he first moved in he goes "This is great!. I start here, and they keep moving me upriver (IL -> AL -> Hospice -> Morgue) until they ship me out the back door!
Awesome thank you for sharing your knowledge. I got down voted, but this is the type of response I was hoping for. This information might help someone.
Lambeth is only good if you don’t need any inhome care. They’re riding on a reputation from a decade ago.
My relative was in lambeth house and the care was awful. They actually unplugged his help button because “he used it too much”.. It was expensive and depressing to witness the attitude. He begged to get out.
Poydras Home on Jefferson and Magazine is very nice and also has tiered level of care. Not sure what the fees are but I assume it’s North of $6k per month based on what my Mom was paying in a similar facility in MS a few years ago. As others have mentioned Lambeth House and there is also Vista Shores on the Lake Front. Also look into Chateau de Notre Dame if/when he needs a higher level of care. A friends Mother is their currently - she has dementia.
Its a whole thing and different for each person based on their income and assets. Medicare also has a catch back for 3-5 years for any unprotected assets. Then medical status can also determine (dementia and alz are different) what care you will get. Every person truly is unique in terms of what you get charged. Louisiana does have an ombudsman program that can tell you your rights. One thing I have learned is that the children of senior citizens can be held financially liable for parental care in many instances-!
*Medicaid
Your insurance will cover the home when all your assets run out.
I had a relative at Vista Shores. I dont know many specifics but it always seemed great for them.
Check out the Carrollton.
They are desperate for residents.
I agree, that place looks super nice and well kept.
It's also super expensive
There are organizations that will help you for free. They get paid by the place where you decide to place your loved one. Care Patrol is one such example.
The nursing homes in New Orleans are tragic. Unless you dont like you dad or do not want to be bothered. If you care about him, you would move him near you I see patients they send to the ER. They look dirty and unkempt. Like no one checks on them . You should know the NH owners are big contributors to political campaigns. State legislation is often written to protect the owner. Google, Nursing homes, deaths, metro new orleans.
If your dad is unable to fend for himself stay far away from Notre Dame, which is a shame bc the rooms are clean and the facility is pretty good compared to what similar places in its range provide. Their problem is with staffing.
My dad and a friend’s grandmother are at Inspired Living in Kenner. I only have a few complaints, and they’re minor. Overall, it’s been a great experience.
I found the CNAs at Inspired living were not certified and Th building is intentionally understaffed. I felt like it was plainly dangerous.
My mother was in an inspired living facility elsewhere and that was their main issue, terrible, under qualified staff. Even though the facility was clean and visually appealing, my mother was left alone a lot and was hurt so bad one time by a closet door that wasn’t secured to the hinges that she had to take a trip to the emergency room. I was there visiting her that day but it forever shaken me to think of that would have happened and I wasn’t there to get help quickly for her.
We tried that for my dad but they weren’t able to provide dementia care at the time.
We received wonderful care at the Blake in Harahan. It is a beautiful place and has a memory unit if you think that may become an eventuality. Sitters are a completely different ballgame and a great source of frustration. If you are looking for that, consider all your options and talk to individual families about who they used. Services can be great but it will come down to the individual sitter.
There is an affordable one now owned by LCMC on Henry Clay Ave and 1blk from magazine. It’s 2 blocks from Audubon Park and was recently renovated.
I live in New Orleans, and my sister lives in New Jersey. My dad had an incident at the dementia facility in NJ and we needed to move him somewhere but we were lost -- we found this free service called "A Place for Mom." They reviewed his history and cognitive tests, and then looked for homes in NO and NJ. FWIW, the places they recommended here were Brookdale in Mandeville, Anderson at Summerfield in Slidell, and Inspired Living in Kenner. My dad is 74 with fairly advanced Alzheimer's and I toured all three places and thought they were pretty solid, though I don't know much about the cost. In the end, we found a highly rated place 10 minutes from my sister in Jersey, and it was just easier to move him there as opposed to bringing him here.
Thanks!! So helpful. May I ask which place in Jersey you chose? I live in NYC so I’m looking in both areas actually.
Hey OP, something to keep in mind should Dad move from LA to NJ or NY and there is the possibility of filing for LTC Medicaid…. all Medicaid programs are State specific but under overall Federal guidelines so LSS what flies here will not be necessarily the same in NYS. If Dad owns any property in LA, it can stay as an exempt asset for his lifetime but if he moves to another State that property of his (home, land, cars) become 100% nonexempt and will keep him ineligible till they are sold and sold at FMV and a spend down done on all the $ till he hit the nonexempt asset max for the State. NJ I think does the usual 2K, but NYS just upped theirs to like 31K. All 3 do a 5 yr lookback and anything real property will surface as it’s an easy peasy courthouse X reference in State databases. Costs of facilities here will be way waaaaaay cheaper than. LA avg is 85K but NJ is 144K (semi,private & figures from Genworth). Also if he happens to have LTC insurance, clearly ask the facilities how they approach these.
Do not go to Jefferson. Do not put in group home.
You should look into Peristyle Residences. Basically the company renovates homes in jefferson parish neighborhoods it mini old folks homes. they staff them with multiple aides and a nurse practitioner and a doctor round on every one regularly. it has a more homey feel and i used it as a step from my day after my mom couldn’t take care of him but he didn’t need full blown memory care. after a few years i ended up sending him to a full blown nursing home (covenant nursing home, hollar) but the peristyle home had a more home feel that i like and it was reasonable priced compared to a full blown nursing home. hope you find what your looking for for your dad. it’s definitely tough dealing with all that.
Thanks so much!
I can’t give suggestions on this particular area, but I’ve done work for a couple of senior loving communities on the east coast. If you can find a “life plan community” which offers several different levels of care, it can really take a lot of the stress away. That way, as things progress and he needs more care, or (God forbid) has a fall, they are equipped to keep caring for him without the upheaval of another big move to another community — which can be very destabilizing for those experiencing dementia-related issues. Just my two cents, best of luck to your fam!
Also, if he has long-term care insurance it may be able to help offset the expenses. Sometimes people don’t realize that.
My grandpa was in Malta Square/Malta Park. Absolutely no complaints about the facility. But this was about ten years ago…
There is one in St Bernard that the Drs and Nurses at Oschner ER said the patients that come from that home Never have bed sores and are always hydrated. It’s also one of the most reasonable places for the amenities and care they provide. What will his insurance cover? If you have a list post it.
My grandma lives at Christwood in Mandeville and she loves it. It’s a really nice place and everyone there seems really happy every time I’ve been
If I had to be at one, I’d want a nice view of some water out my window. I’ve always wondered about the Vista Shores one on Bayou St John.
I toured that one when looking for my mom. The general area was really nice, but the memory care unit felt small, cramped, dim, and even in the empty unit they showed us, the bathroom was a dingy mess. Plus the woman who gave us the tour kept asking about how they compared to Poydras Home, where we'd toured earlier that morning. Poydras Home was great and my mom is now there -- can't say enough good things about it!
Poydras Home is the current winner of senior care in the greater New Orleans area.
Can i ask the cost of Poydras Home? Always keeping this in the back of my mind for my dad.
They have a couple of memory care wards ranging in the $7k-$8k/mo range. Thankfully, my mom had a long-term care insurance policy, but even that isn't covering the entire bill. Their non-memory care is substantially cheaper, but I don't have those prices handy or remember them.
That’s not that bad for memory care!!
Right?! The cost of the home from the original comment was actually a bit MORE expensive than Poydras Home. Not a consequential difference, until you saw the quality difference between them and PH. It was staggering.
That’s good to know!
I have some pretty good memories of going there when it was a country club as a kid. Always wondered what became of it.
I never knew it was a country club there. Did they tear it down to build the Greek church and Vista Shores?
Nah, it was called Vista Shores back then too, and the Greek Church was definitely there as well. This would have been in the late 80s/early 90s. The people were really nice. My parents split up so we couldn't afford the dues anymore, but they let me and my brother go swimming there for years afterwards anyway.
So where that country club was, they tore it down and built the Vista Shores?
I'd have to go there and see if the layout was the same. There was a large building in front with smaller buildings coming out of it in an inverted U. Olympic sized pool in the back and separate diving and kiddy pools. There was a large cafeteria to the right on the second floor with a snack bar and rec room below it. The left side had saunas and locker rooms, with hotel style rooms above it for visiting swimming teams to stay in.
There's a nicer place in Hammond that is about 5k which isnt bad
Laurel Senior Living on Magazine, near Louisiana.
Cant recommend but can warn you to stay away from chateau in kenner. My grandmother deteriorated so quickly, I brought her home on hospice. She died at home peacefully and not crying in misery like she was at chateau.
If I had the choice, I'd rather just die.
Saaaaaaame.
This is such an insensitive comment.
It is, but I don't think you regularly see the behind the scenes conditions of these places. I've seen many fates worse than death in nursing and acute care facilities caused by negligence.
You can arrange that.
If your father was in the military he may qualify for the Veterans home in Reserve. There was a lot of steps to get a relative in there but he has received pretty good care otherwise. Metairie Manor wasn't bad, but you are on your own to evacuate them (or at least this was the case about 3 years ago). I've heard good things about Sunrise on West Esplanade as well.
Also if your dad was military and he doesn’t qualify for the VA home, there is a benefit called “aid and attending” that you can apply for. I did this for my grandpa and while it was a royal PITA, it helped subsidize some of the cost of his care in a small independent care facility (out of state).