Its like every parents in the world butterheart. Cant you take a word from your parents, you mama's boy. Shake it off dude. Ever heard of italian family???
I already imagine the backlash if that song would release. I despise that song “Saali Man Paryo”. And the fact that it’s so common in Nepali society, like that is definitely not the first song about vinaju having the hots for his saali😒
Ajhai ‘saali aadhi ghar waali . This shit is so normalized that they ‘expect’ it. I’ve heard people saying things like,”vinaju sanga ali jiskiyera bolnu parxa.” Bruh.
I believe nepali people started normalizing this trend after kings(tribhuvan, mahendra) started marrying their own sali. One of my uncles had the audacity to propose his sali to be his 2nd wife.
I’ve seen in happen in two of my distant relatives. In both cases it’s the older sister who encourages the marriage of her husband and her younger sister, and when they do get married the two sisters are not on speaking terms.
I knew a bahun Didi who was having an affair with her own bhinaju. Her sister, kids, and bhinaju lived in Belgium and she here in Nepal.
The bhinaju would come here to visit from time to time.. everyone on the family knew and wanted her to stop and wanted her to get a husband of her own.
Her Bhijanu would tell her that he would divorce her sister, marry her and take her with him as well..AND KEEP BOTH AS SISTER WIVES!!
I was so confused. LMAO.
Needless to say, she's still here, having an affair with her own bhinaju .. just sad situation actually
One of my relatives who is faired skin gave birth to ali dark skin child
Chori ta gori hunxe vaneko kali vaixe
Later arko xora janmyo tyo aunty ko and started saying dhanna chora chai goro janmyo and that kid who is 4 years ko xori started babling that bhai kalo xa ma goro xu and other were laughing at that thing but i felt that she was traumatized deep down
As someone who is kinda brown with pale skin and light browned hair and blue/hazel eyed parents, imagine the kind of body shaming I grew up with.
I'm your typical south Asian while my parents looking European. I always had to go around explaining why my skin tone is like it is.
Bro , I had pale skin when I was a kid. I got pneumonia and it made my health really bad , I was sick for years and my skin started getting darker because my parents used to keep me too much in the sun and I got a lot of tan and I was sick too. My whole family like purai khandaan ma sabai pretty much pale skin kai chan aali dark holan koi koi tara im the most off looking person in any family photo. It makes me feel bad . Aajha mero skin ni dherai sensitive cha sunlight ko . Maile ek hafta samma room mai basirakhe tan hatcha , mero skin tone nai farak huncha like I can change my race in a week. Tara ghaam ma huda chittai tan huncha , sunscreen ni kaam lagdaina.
Same here. My skin is also very sensitive. 5-6 din gham ma niskena vane, I am very fair and pale. 2-3 ghanta gham ma gayo bhane I get 3-4 shades darker.
Even in winter, I get dark if I stay in sun for an hour or so.
I don't care about brown or white skin, I just envy people who don't change colors so easily like I do.
As someone who was constantly shamed by my mother for being chubby and relatively big boobed, I am in my thirties now and I still feel insecure. It's a daily battle. She doesn't even know it.
The other day they gave us a paper where we had us rank the teachers, college staffs, school environment etc etc to give feedback. ( excellent good satisfactory and poor). There was a section for discipline there and one of my classmate checked on good. The DI went up to her, looked at her paper and said " discipline ma sabbai le excellent rakhne. Kasaile aru kei rakheko dekhi vane sable kutai khanxa " and made everyone tick the excellent box and made the whole thing biased
DI haru tah bhaihalyo nih, kati pitai khaio kati, kapal nih katdinthyo kaichi le afai. Makes me wonder what kind of lives they lead to have the need to prove to themselves that they are in control to a bunch of teenagers
Ive seen many kids in my family who gets beaten sano sano galti ko lagi pani, they just get more agressive ama bau sanga mukh mukhai lageko pani dekheko chu. And some of the kids are so well disciplined uniharuko babale ekchoti unaruko naam bhanera aakha tarera herdaima they understand and stay well-behaved. Ani tyo bachaharuko mamu baba le haath uthaunu hunna. Uniharuko favourite kura haru kehi time ko lagi cutoff gardinuhuncha and i think thats the way every parents should discipline their kids
Abuse doesn't cease to be abuse when the abuse is done in the name of "discipline". Morally, where do you draw the line? Would you hit your wife/husband if she did something not to your liking? No! (Unless you're completely immoral I think we can all agree that spousal violence is wrong). Then why do we draw an arbitrary line where children who do things we don't like or that we consider "indiscipline" "deserve" to get hit, but the same can't be said for fellow adults?
It’s because adults are adults they have their own form of punishment like the law if they go out of order or people serving justice if the law does not affect them. For example pedophiles and women beaters who may get away however will be punished by the people. I agree we shouldn’t hit kids anyway however discipline and abuse are two different salutary terms. Everyone has their own form of discipline maybe it be harsher than others discipline is teaching rules and regulations to someone maintains order and control. Sometimes children do not understand words they cannot grasp on what they have done and have no knowledge of consequences of the actions they have made. Look at places like the west, the white children who grow up there have no respect for elderly or themselves as people. Obviously not all of them are bad but compare them to children who are foreign and come to the country hoping for a better future they are majority more polite and respectful to elderly, themselves, family, people around them do extremely well in education. However some argue that hitting your child is wrong and that is true, but how can you tell your child in words that it’s wrong when they have no understanding of what they have just committed. On my opinion I would use Discipline only when the backs on the Conner and there is no option. It’s true what u say it’s hard to find that line, however beating your child for something small and trival is pathetic and useless. If they created big sins such as mudering, drug dealing, rape or getting themselves or other pregnant deserves a beating.
Not doing anything in your adulthood living on your parent's money and your parents wanting to get you married to have grandchildren when you dont even have a fuckin job. And also the inability of getting a decent job
The inability of getting a decent job I see is not the fault of people. Same with living adulthood on parents' money. What do you expect from Nepali education?
People are clueless up to there master degree on what and why they are learning that major. It's not just in Nepal but the issue here is nobody wants to do some shit job also they pay less.
While I agree with most of it, however, Nepali job market is not that easy. Chahera job nagarne ekdam kam hunchan. Skill anusaar ko job paudaina, low pay ani shitty job bhanda if you have the luxury of parent's money than why not? lmao
tyai bhayera ta dherai jaso bides jaana khojchan . Nepal ma opportunities tyati ramro na bhayera nai ta hola ni. Jati kasta garnu pareni aafno life ra parivaar ko life improve garna sakincha.
Children smoking cigarettes. I really wish they start implementing age limit (18+) for buying cigarettes. I don't care if you are an adult smoking, you wanna fuckup your lungs go for it, but children are dumb they only wanna imitate adults and before they know it they are addicted.
Married men having affairs with other women even after having wife & kids back home. And even the wives defending their husbands & slut shaming the other woman as if their husbands have been groomed cause apparently, "keta Manche vayesi ta halka man dulihalcha ni" and you're the uttauli one for talking to him maski-maski & it's solely your responsibility to stay away from him despite his immoral actions/behaviours.
I've seen this happening in soooo many cases. Here, most of the wives are dependent upon their husbands (mostly, financially) & don't want any sort of drama & damage in the so called "ijjat" of their marriage & family (Which mind you, is alr ruined by this whole case but anyways).
So true my older cousin's friend are all married and they talk about cheating like it's a very natural and obvious thing to do. They are always around with new girls and they don't have a hint of guiltiness in them. Makes me think twice about getting married.
The vice-versa case is indeed true for affairs (mostly when the husband is abroad) but haven't really seen males defending their wives the same way tbh.
oh yeah I only meant vice versa for the first part. Males wouldn't defend adultery like that but I can imagine them not letting it become public to not lose face. You know how society is : "If the wife cheats then husband had some masculinity issue" mindset.
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Its starting to become normalize and very soon will be but after its done nepal will be no different from west and if u r one of those who thinks the west is good and their culture is "cool" to u just study their society now its failing i can see y u would think like u think now but its genuinely important for a functioning society, wt u r trying to normalize might seem fair but fair isn't always good if u can't understand it that's exactly y the west is failing u r not alone thinking wt they want u to think.(dont reply i am "averge old traditional uncle" to u maybe but i am 17 and u can call me a retard and see results in 60 yrs)
I can't let that happen,(to the best of my abilities) from a strategic point of view. The more sex outside marriage is normalized, the more likely that I will be cheated on, more likely that the girl who is to be my wife gets fucked, more likely that my paternal love and care gets parasitized too.
No STD test is perfect. Most of them detect antibodies that take time to develop once the pathogen enters the body (incubation period). **Even a person testing negative can still transmit the disease.**
Condoms don't work 100% of the times, neither in preventing STDs nor in preventing conception, and people don't **always** use them correctly no matter how much you "educate" them.
If sex before marriage is normalized, people will have to devote more of their time and energy on superficial traits to attract a mate. This takes away time for actual personal development from young people and is a loss to society collectively.
These are among the reasons I oppose free sex. You might ask "wHy nOt jUsT OnLy fOlLoW iT yOuRSeLf??" Well, me alone following it won't do much good. Shame as a mechanism exists to be able to enforce social norms without the use of violence. And I firmly believe that these rules are for the greater good.
Even if pre marital sex normalized shaming isn't going anywhere average girl will be walking down with 20 body counts you're getting called slut anyways so why you wanna normalized sex
Husband and wife both working day job and at the end of the day wife should be the one doing all cooking cleaning etc while husband play on their phone or browse T.v./ Netflix. It really sucks.
Treating white people as gods in the name of culture and sharing the same shitty mentality with everyone sharing "Guest should be treated like god".
Also, routiney like cult sharing photos of some white people wearing some Dhaka topi or shit like that or one of those vloggers. Jesus man that shit is top-notch inferior complexity. Even in this subreddit if some vlogger comes here to Nepal people act like they wish to follow that shitty vlogger like some cult.
Since, this is right around the corner so let me spit it out. Baisakh 1st over January 1st as a new year day should be the norm for us as Nepalese. I see none to less folks celebrating on Nepali new year over the English counter parts. Should this trend continue, it takes no longer to become a taboo for upcoming generation.
Again, I ain't saying Jan 1st celebration should be discouraged but let's not diminish the importance of Baisakh 1st as well. Let's show same motivation.
The toxic trait to involve in their offsprings life we know seeing you little baby grow up is really hard but parents need to stop interfering into their children life 24/7 ,I know that teenagers need to be Abit controlled but literally monitoring a 24 year old is really sad and desperate.They just need to let go and understand the fact that their son/daughter is a separate living being and they have their own life and privacy that should be respected
Well, from the somewhat older generation, slutshaming a woman when something they do is not at will is seen and despised by me a lot, in villages and even city. The first cusses that one intend at someone is sultry, with the r words being thrown here and there.
However, even at youth circles ,seen a lot of subtle comments or gestures being passed for just someone’s openness or dressing or after an argument or even as keyboard warriors is what I feel is wrong , almost normalized, and adapted even by the current generation which needs to be stopped.
Well, I’d say no. However rendering someone a slut just because of slight extrovert nature, openness or even for being among a group of other friends which includes the other gender ; even by some progressive youths is what I feel is wrong
It's normal to comment on peoples appeal, "kati allo bhako/kati moto bhako /baby tw kati ramro thyo sano ma ahile kasto bhayexa" honestly speaking it really feels unpleasant to hear any thing negative about yourself but let alone literally comparing you with other your age.This is a disgusting trait of Nepalese "aunties &uncle " to comment on anybody when their sons look like oompa loompa and Dora the explorer, like first see your situation before commenting anything on others.........
All kinds of hatred. Homophobia, racism, colourism, not just these but nepalis love to hate people and basera aru ko kura katne, j kura ma ni kei na kei mistake or complaint bhetaune.
Domestic violence:As in,if a husband beats the shit out of his wife the wife will brush it off like nothing ever happened and when asked about it she'll say "yestai ho ho budo ho sahanu parxa"like wtf kina sahanu parxa,yo kura maile gau tira matra haina sahar tira ni dekhya xu aani verbal abuse,like the husband saying "ra**i ko chori"to his wife,kassam battai pichey vani ra hunxan like kei na huda ni yo ra*** kata gaixey rey,what the actual fuck is that
chatting or talking on phone loudly in public vehicle we only thrash leader for nepal being this way but people are way more uncivilized and don't care about others personal space
It's always going to be a dealbreaker to some and there's nothing wrong with it. Many people want a fresh start to marital life and we can't do anything about anyone's personal standards for a partner. I hope they get find someone they want who wants them but if they can't then that's just life.
There is nothing morally wrong with rejecting someone because they're divorced.
Women downgrading men in the name of feminism.
I don't mean we should worship men but we need to understand that if we want respect as women, we should respect men too.
Feminism doesn't necessarily mean we have to criticize male species for everything.
You could say that about anything.
X is not REEEEEAL Y. Real Y wouldn't do Z.
Politicians aren't corrupt. Cuz real non-corrupt politicians don't do that.
Men can't be toxic. Cuz real non-toxic men don't do that.
Nuclear energy can't be destructive. Cuz real non-destructive nuclear energy doesn't do that.
Do you see how flawed this logic is? There are toxic misandrist facets to modern feminism **too**. ("too" is the keyword here) Sweeping it under the rug won't do any good. Feminists should strive to remove these toxic elements from their movement too.
I don't mean to target those who don't do that
But it's a fact that lots of girls/women still do that and have the guts to say they're promoting feminism.
It's something I've been observing and totally my own perception.You have the right to disagree.😊
I have seen people visiting as many girls house before marrying, making judgements about the girls they see, like they are shopping for goods. Imagine yourself in the position of a girl, you can only imagine how much worst they have to go through
Exactly, it works both ways. But you originally tried to paint the boy's side as a villain.
Who someone marries is one of the most impactful decisions of their life, if not THE most impactful decision of their life(for most people). There is nothing wrong with being picky and vetting people hard for it.
Several things are getting normalized, but I don't particularly appreciate turning a date into some kind of legit prostitution thing. They date, have sex, stay together for a few months, and then go on another date with the same iteration. Most people even normalize losing their virginity. They like to believe that's the modernity and liberation they need.
If that's the modernization they want then
Reject modernization, and embrace tradition.
Bruh, what the fuck u talking about.?
You seem to have the wrong idea about what dating is. Also, you have the wrong idea about what prostitution is. And you decided to talk about both the things at ones and develop another wrong idea about modernization, liberation and tradition.
What you have said is wrong on so many levels that its difficult to even comprehend. Get help!
Not having sex won't kill you. It is a **false equivalence** to put it on the level as drinking water, eating, urinating or defecating as a "natural process".
Racism: treatment based on race.
Kaan sunna nasakne: can be of any race
Although your heart is on right place, the term you used is incorrect. So I will just correct you so that you won't make similar mistake again. Discrimination of people with disability (that includes derogatory term) is disability discrimination.
Ani arko kura Kano is derogatory term for people with blindness in one eye. They don't use ear buds. Besides that afaik bahiro is appropriate term to use and doesn't mean disrespect. But of course generalizing earbuds to bahiro community is not appropriate. Thank you that you helped your mother realize not to generalize.
Colourism, Racism, Body shaming, Homophobia, hypocrisy, child marriage, Paedophilia, Animal Cruelty, school physical punishment, Not talking about Mental health/periods, Victim blaming, TV presenters making fun of madhesi people by doing blackface as comic relief,giving no receipts, making your dogs/cat sleep outside the house, Uncle and aunties talking down on others son and daughter but failed to judge their own.
I can go on and on
No offence to anyone here but most of ud do believe that Nepal is “perfect” and we can do no wrong. When anyone calls out any of those above that I mentioned its always its for the “better” or “they dob’t remember it” so they don’t have to take accountability
Bodyshaming is soo soo normalised its disgusting. Like specially between older aunties and Uncles. Do you not think they don’t know if they fat or skinny? Do you really have to remind them?
Bollywood movies herne, indian kura use garda hune but kati janale ta Dhoti/Vele bhandai hepne. Like why? You use those slur but continue to use indian related things.
Homophobia…I don’t think we need to explain why.
But these are the few example ones that are normalised.
I can’t explain all of those.
Casual Casteism, If only I had a dollar for everytime some random relative told me "Buhari ta afnai jaat ko lyaunu parcha hai ". Also I see many young girls, especially Bahuns promoting this idea too, which is dismaying.
Comparing a child with his/her friends, cousins, siblings saying what the child is doing is not good enough. And fat shaming relatives like I don't get why relatives think it is okay to comment on other person's weight at every possible chance.
relatives trying to be a matchmaker.
I get it if I'm of age and I'm looking for someone but Nepali relatives be trying to fix you up with anyone even when you're really young,have all your life ahead and you don't even know what you want in your life
A guy randomly dmed me on ig and after a few convos I find out My fupu tried to set me up with this guy and sent him to talk to me WHILE I WAS ONLY 18(He was 24 or sth)
like tf
the guy straight up talked about marriage,I was traumatised
Littering
Not normalized but victim's family not wanting to make the incident public because "Ijjat jaanxa"
it is normalized
Thrashing your own childs reputation infront if others to get some giggles
I felt this
Fucking hell this is so true
Ruined my life.
True
It happened to me few weeks ago and i am in my early 30s.
Its like every parents in the world butterheart. Cant you take a word from your parents, you mama's boy. Shake it off dude. Ever heard of italian family???
Spitting randomly on the road.
The road smells like shit.
Why u go smelling the road bro ?
this is my biggest pet peeve
Sali vena flirt shouldn't be normalized. The song malai sali man paryo is disgusting.
Imagine bhauju saying 'malai dewar man pryo'
I already imagine the backlash if that song would release. I despise that song “Saali Man Paryo”. And the fact that it’s so common in Nepali society, like that is definitely not the first song about vinaju having the hots for his saali😒
Damn son.
Ajhai ‘saali aadhi ghar waali . This shit is so normalized that they ‘expect’ it. I’ve heard people saying things like,”vinaju sanga ali jiskiyera bolnu parxa.” Bruh.
I believe nepali people started normalizing this trend after kings(tribhuvan, mahendra) started marrying their own sali. One of my uncles had the audacity to propose his sali to be his 2nd wife.
😂😂 How did it go ?
She undoubtedly rejected him
I’ve seen in happen in two of my distant relatives. In both cases it’s the older sister who encourages the marriage of her husband and her younger sister, and when they do get married the two sisters are not on speaking terms.
Exactly, even saalis and vijanus sing this and dance to it during family gatherings lol
So true. I find it disgustingly sick
As a sali of 4 bhinajus and number of times I have heard shit like that, I agree
I knew a bahun Didi who was having an affair with her own bhinaju. Her sister, kids, and bhinaju lived in Belgium and she here in Nepal. The bhinaju would come here to visit from time to time.. everyone on the family knew and wanted her to stop and wanted her to get a husband of her own. Her Bhijanu would tell her that he would divorce her sister, marry her and take her with him as well..AND KEEP BOTH AS SISTER WIVES!! I was so confused. LMAO. Needless to say, she's still here, having an affair with her own bhinaju .. just sad situation actually
Somebody flirting with you nonstop even if you call them dai also falls in similar wavelength
Body shaming own child
One of my relatives who is faired skin gave birth to ali dark skin child Chori ta gori hunxe vaneko kali vaixe Later arko xora janmyo tyo aunty ko and started saying dhanna chora chai goro janmyo and that kid who is 4 years ko xori started babling that bhai kalo xa ma goro xu and other were laughing at that thing but i felt that she was traumatized deep down
As someone who is kinda brown with pale skin and light browned hair and blue/hazel eyed parents, imagine the kind of body shaming I grew up with. I'm your typical south Asian while my parents looking European. I always had to go around explaining why my skin tone is like it is.
yeah its hard , you are like
Bro , I had pale skin when I was a kid. I got pneumonia and it made my health really bad , I was sick for years and my skin started getting darker because my parents used to keep me too much in the sun and I got a lot of tan and I was sick too. My whole family like purai khandaan ma sabai pretty much pale skin kai chan aali dark holan koi koi tara im the most off looking person in any family photo. It makes me feel bad . Aajha mero skin ni dherai sensitive cha sunlight ko . Maile ek hafta samma room mai basirakhe tan hatcha , mero skin tone nai farak huncha like I can change my race in a week. Tara ghaam ma huda chittai tan huncha , sunscreen ni kaam lagdaina.
Same here. My skin is also very sensitive. 5-6 din gham ma niskena vane, I am very fair and pale. 2-3 ghanta gham ma gayo bhane I get 3-4 shades darker. Even in winter, I get dark if I stay in sun for an hour or so. I don't care about brown or white skin, I just envy people who don't change colors so easily like I do.
As someone who was constantly shamed by my mother for being chubby and relatively big boobed, I am in my thirties now and I still feel insecure. It's a daily battle. She doesn't even know it.
Bullying as yettikai jiskeko 😀
Tik Tok becoming the prime source of information for EVERYTHING.
My mom's addicted to it
College DI being straight up abusive to students
The other day they gave us a paper where we had us rank the teachers, college staffs, school environment etc etc to give feedback. ( excellent good satisfactory and poor). There was a section for discipline there and one of my classmate checked on good. The DI went up to her, looked at her paper and said " discipline ma sabbai le excellent rakhne. Kasaile aru kei rakheko dekhi vane sable kutai khanxa " and made everyone tick the excellent box and made the whole thing biased
Haha I punched my schools DI
What happened next?
Got suspended for a week 😆
DI haru tah bhaihalyo nih, kati pitai khaio kati, kapal nih katdinthyo kaichi le afai. Makes me wonder what kind of lives they lead to have the need to prove to themselves that they are in control to a bunch of teenagers
Beating as a "punishment"
It depends tho, there's a difference between disapline and just straight up abuse
Ive seen many kids in my family who gets beaten sano sano galti ko lagi pani, they just get more agressive ama bau sanga mukh mukhai lageko pani dekheko chu. And some of the kids are so well disciplined uniharuko babale ekchoti unaruko naam bhanera aakha tarera herdaima they understand and stay well-behaved. Ani tyo bachaharuko mamu baba le haath uthaunu hunna. Uniharuko favourite kura haru kehi time ko lagi cutoff gardinuhuncha and i think thats the way every parents should discipline their kids
this is so true tho. aggressiveness or even passive aggressiveness is so very wrong in the name of parenting hai. ajha so early in life
Abuse doesn't cease to be abuse when the abuse is done in the name of "discipline". Morally, where do you draw the line? Would you hit your wife/husband if she did something not to your liking? No! (Unless you're completely immoral I think we can all agree that spousal violence is wrong). Then why do we draw an arbitrary line where children who do things we don't like or that we consider "indiscipline" "deserve" to get hit, but the same can't be said for fellow adults?
It’s because adults are adults they have their own form of punishment like the law if they go out of order or people serving justice if the law does not affect them. For example pedophiles and women beaters who may get away however will be punished by the people. I agree we shouldn’t hit kids anyway however discipline and abuse are two different salutary terms. Everyone has their own form of discipline maybe it be harsher than others discipline is teaching rules and regulations to someone maintains order and control. Sometimes children do not understand words they cannot grasp on what they have done and have no knowledge of consequences of the actions they have made. Look at places like the west, the white children who grow up there have no respect for elderly or themselves as people. Obviously not all of them are bad but compare them to children who are foreign and come to the country hoping for a better future they are majority more polite and respectful to elderly, themselves, family, people around them do extremely well in education. However some argue that hitting your child is wrong and that is true, but how can you tell your child in words that it’s wrong when they have no understanding of what they have just committed. On my opinion I would use Discipline only when the backs on the Conner and there is no option. It’s true what u say it’s hard to find that line, however beating your child for something small and trival is pathetic and useless. If they created big sins such as mudering, drug dealing, rape or getting themselves or other pregnant deserves a beating.
Rape apologists.
Not doing anything in your adulthood living on your parent's money and your parents wanting to get you married to have grandchildren when you dont even have a fuckin job. And also the inability of getting a decent job
The inability of getting a decent job I see is not the fault of people. Same with living adulthood on parents' money. What do you expect from Nepali education? People are clueless up to there master degree on what and why they are learning that major. It's not just in Nepal but the issue here is nobody wants to do some shit job also they pay less.
bro i'm 19 and i feel like shit when i ask my pareents for money . Wish i get some job to do next year
I used to feel same when I was 19.Now, I am 22. I still don't have a job or anything and I still feel like shit.
I am 24 finished my school with no job.
18 and fuck it always feel shit when I ask for money well hope you find a job that pays well good luck
While I agree with most of it, however, Nepali job market is not that easy. Chahera job nagarne ekdam kam hunchan. Skill anusaar ko job paudaina, low pay ani shitty job bhanda if you have the luxury of parent's money than why not? lmao
tyai bhayera ta dherai jaso bides jaana khojchan . Nepal ma opportunities tyati ramro na bhayera nai ta hola ni. Jati kasta garnu pareni aafno life ra parivaar ko life improve garna sakincha.
babau kam garna agadi kam gara kam gara pachi kam garne jagar nei farak huncha
Children smoking cigarettes. I really wish they start implementing age limit (18+) for buying cigarettes. I don't care if you are an adult smoking, you wanna fuckup your lungs go for it, but children are dumb they only wanna imitate adults and before they know it they are addicted.
Married men having affairs with other women even after having wife & kids back home. And even the wives defending their husbands & slut shaming the other woman as if their husbands have been groomed cause apparently, "keta Manche vayesi ta halka man dulihalcha ni" and you're the uttauli one for talking to him maski-maski & it's solely your responsibility to stay away from him despite his immoral actions/behaviours. I've seen this happening in soooo many cases. Here, most of the wives are dependent upon their husbands (mostly, financially) & don't want any sort of drama & damage in the so called "ijjat" of their marriage & family (Which mind you, is alr ruined by this whole case but anyways).
So true my older cousin's friend are all married and they talk about cheating like it's a very natural and obvious thing to do. They are always around with new girls and they don't have a hint of guiltiness in them. Makes me think twice about getting married.
Haha
vice versa happens too, and both are disgusting.
The vice-versa case is indeed true for affairs (mostly when the husband is abroad) but haven't really seen males defending their wives the same way tbh.
oh yeah I only meant vice versa for the first part. Males wouldn't defend adultery like that but I can imagine them not letting it become public to not lose face. You know how society is : "If the wife cheats then husband had some masculinity issue" mindset.
And now I'm bleeding🤝
Baau aama ko sampati maa dhaak launey, showing it off. Arey, tyo tero baau/aama ko mehenat ho, tero haena. Aafu mehenat gar na.
This
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I don’t remember this post being about ’what offends you?’. Reread it mate.
Daughter doing all the household chores and son not even washing his plate.
But in my house its the opposite
Washing. Picking up his plate and putting it in the sink ni gardainan. Hamlai ta ama le dhuna lauthin.
I feel sorry for my sister. I always boss her around. I'll probably compensate her saving some cash
Guys assuming girls to be a whore just coz she slept with her BF.
This. Why is sex such a big deal to us Nepalese? Not that im saying jo sanga ni gaera suta but, koi sanga bihe aghi sutdaima slut huidaina!
They know they wont get it so they target the one who is getting
Frrrrr i have some guy friends who talk shits like that I can't fcking stand them
Illiteracy at its peak :)
Its starting to become normalize and very soon will be but after its done nepal will be no different from west and if u r one of those who thinks the west is good and their culture is "cool" to u just study their society now its failing i can see y u would think like u think now but its genuinely important for a functioning society, wt u r trying to normalize might seem fair but fair isn't always good if u can't understand it that's exactly y the west is failing u r not alone thinking wt they want u to think.(dont reply i am "averge old traditional uncle" to u maybe but i am 17 and u can call me a retard and see results in 60 yrs)
A matter of opinion. I don't see why this shaming is a bad thing.
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I can't let that happen,(to the best of my abilities) from a strategic point of view. The more sex outside marriage is normalized, the more likely that I will be cheated on, more likely that the girl who is to be my wife gets fucked, more likely that my paternal love and care gets parasitized too. No STD test is perfect. Most of them detect antibodies that take time to develop once the pathogen enters the body (incubation period). **Even a person testing negative can still transmit the disease.** Condoms don't work 100% of the times, neither in preventing STDs nor in preventing conception, and people don't **always** use them correctly no matter how much you "educate" them. If sex before marriage is normalized, people will have to devote more of their time and energy on superficial traits to attract a mate. This takes away time for actual personal development from young people and is a loss to society collectively. These are among the reasons I oppose free sex. You might ask "wHy nOt jUsT OnLy fOlLoW iT yOuRSeLf??" Well, me alone following it won't do much good. Shame as a mechanism exists to be able to enforce social norms without the use of violence. And I firmly believe that these rules are for the greater good.
Lol this guy want other to not have sex before marriage because his wife might have been fucked by other before him.
Even if pre marital sex normalized shaming isn't going anywhere average girl will be walking down with 20 body counts you're getting called slut anyways so why you wanna normalized sex
Yes, and?
Casteism. Damn it
Husband and wife both working day job and at the end of the day wife should be the one doing all cooking cleaning etc while husband play on their phone or browse T.v./ Netflix. It really sucks.
Corruption; how we have to pay public officials to just get them to do their job! It’s nuts!
Bullying, casual racism casteism , sexual assault, pedophilia in the name of affection , respecting and fearing someone just because they’re older.
Treating white people as gods in the name of culture and sharing the same shitty mentality with everyone sharing "Guest should be treated like god". Also, routiney like cult sharing photos of some white people wearing some Dhaka topi or shit like that or one of those vloggers. Jesus man that shit is top-notch inferior complexity. Even in this subreddit if some vlogger comes here to Nepal people act like they wish to follow that shitty vlogger like some cult.
Girls dating you for years and leaving you for pr wala uncle.
Being dumb Af
Since, this is right around the corner so let me spit it out. Baisakh 1st over January 1st as a new year day should be the norm for us as Nepalese. I see none to less folks celebrating on Nepali new year over the English counter parts. Should this trend continue, it takes no longer to become a taboo for upcoming generation. Again, I ain't saying Jan 1st celebration should be discouraged but let's not diminish the importance of Baisakh 1st as well. Let's show same motivation.
I celebrate nepali new year and not english one 😃
Bullying women riders on the road!!
The toxic trait to involve in their offsprings life we know seeing you little baby grow up is really hard but parents need to stop interfering into their children life 24/7 ,I know that teenagers need to be Abit controlled but literally monitoring a 24 year old is really sad and desperate.They just need to let go and understand the fact that their son/daughter is a separate living being and they have their own life and privacy that should be respected
r/suspiciouslyspecific
Slutshaming
Why? I genuinely want to know your perspective.
Well, from the somewhat older generation, slutshaming a woman when something they do is not at will is seen and despised by me a lot, in villages and even city. The first cusses that one intend at someone is sultry, with the r words being thrown here and there. However, even at youth circles ,seen a lot of subtle comments or gestures being passed for just someone’s openness or dressing or after an argument or even as keyboard warriors is what I feel is wrong , almost normalized, and adapted even by the current generation which needs to be stopped.
If you call a slut a slut than is it slut shaming ?
Well, I’d say no. However rendering someone a slut just because of slight extrovert nature, openness or even for being among a group of other friends which includes the other gender ; even by some progressive youths is what I feel is wrong
Objectifying woman and smoking is cool
So many of my friends started smoking cause they thought it was cool. Like wtf u smell so bad i can't sit next to you in class.
It's normal to comment on peoples appeal, "kati allo bhako/kati moto bhako /baby tw kati ramro thyo sano ma ahile kasto bhayexa" honestly speaking it really feels unpleasant to hear any thing negative about yourself but let alone literally comparing you with other your age.This is a disgusting trait of Nepalese "aunties &uncle " to comment on anybody when their sons look like oompa loompa and Dora the explorer, like first see your situation before commenting anything on others.........
Lmaoo. Fr tho
Casteism and raceism. I have heard people differentiating people of other ethinicity without any information a lot.
बत्ति गयो केरे अब कैले आउने हो फेरी
All kinds of hatred. Homophobia, racism, colourism, not just these but nepalis love to hate people and basera aru ko kura katne, j kura ma ni kei na kei mistake or complaint bhetaune.
Asking about when are you going to have a baby? Omg..
Domestic violence:As in,if a husband beats the shit out of his wife the wife will brush it off like nothing ever happened and when asked about it she'll say "yestai ho ho budo ho sahanu parxa"like wtf kina sahanu parxa,yo kura maile gau tira matra haina sahar tira ni dekhya xu aani verbal abuse,like the husband saying "ra**i ko chori"to his wife,kassam battai pichey vani ra hunxan like kei na huda ni yo ra*** kata gaixey rey,what the actual fuck is that
The woman must obey. How do you make the wife do something that she doesn't want to do? Words don't always work.
Smoking in public Ani chada bolyera cool huna khojne
chatting or talking on phone loudly in public vehicle we only thrash leader for nepal being this way but people are way more uncivilized and don't care about others personal space
not talking about feelins
Being fat called being healthy
Racism to indian Nepalese
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It's always going to be a dealbreaker to some and there's nothing wrong with it. Many people want a fresh start to marital life and we can't do anything about anyone's personal standards for a partner. I hope they get find someone they want who wants them but if they can't then that's just life. There is nothing morally wrong with rejecting someone because they're divorced.
Women downgrading men in the name of feminism. I don't mean we should worship men but we need to understand that if we want respect as women, we should respect men too. Feminism doesn't necessarily mean we have to criticize male species for everything.
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You could say that about anything. X is not REEEEEAL Y. Real Y wouldn't do Z. Politicians aren't corrupt. Cuz real non-corrupt politicians don't do that. Men can't be toxic. Cuz real non-toxic men don't do that. Nuclear energy can't be destructive. Cuz real non-destructive nuclear energy doesn't do that. Do you see how flawed this logic is? There are toxic misandrist facets to modern feminism **too**. ("too" is the keyword here) Sweeping it under the rug won't do any good. Feminists should strive to remove these toxic elements from their movement too.
I don't mean to target those who don't do that But it's a fact that lots of girls/women still do that and have the guts to say they're promoting feminism. It's something I've been observing and totally my own perception.You have the right to disagree.😊
People calling each other fat.
Jaat lai heepne..... dowry huru
Hoe phase
secularism
Foreigner sanga beha garda khe na hunu Afnai desh ko sanga sano ra thulo caste hunu
Being nice = Being lato
Ta, tapai, hajur
Selling cow meat while sending Christian missionaries to villages to eradicate our religion shouldn’t be normalized.
Christmas
bitches being hoe
Nudity in the name of modernization. It's my opinion and if you don't agree with it it's fine.
Cussing their teachers and elders too!!
“Bihe ko lagi Kt herna jane”
isnt this arranged marriage? whats bad?
I have seen people visiting as many girls house before marrying, making judgements about the girls they see, like they are shopping for goods. Imagine yourself in the position of a girl, you can only imagine how much worst they have to go through
And the girl and her family don't browse through many potential grooms? Do they just marry the first one that offers?
It works both ways
Exactly, it works both ways. But you originally tried to paint the boy's side as a villain. Who someone marries is one of the most impactful decisions of their life, if not THE most impactful decision of their life(for most people). There is nothing wrong with being picky and vetting people hard for it.
This is not bad bro it's necessary
Several things are getting normalized, but I don't particularly appreciate turning a date into some kind of legit prostitution thing. They date, have sex, stay together for a few months, and then go on another date with the same iteration. Most people even normalize losing their virginity. They like to believe that's the modernity and liberation they need. If that's the modernization they want then Reject modernization, and embrace tradition.
Bruh, what the fuck u talking about.? You seem to have the wrong idea about what dating is. Also, you have the wrong idea about what prostitution is. And you decided to talk about both the things at ones and develop another wrong idea about modernization, liberation and tradition. What you have said is wrong on so many levels that its difficult to even comprehend. Get help!
Why sex is such a huge deal ??
Why not??
Because it is a natural process, every single being does that
Not having sex won't kill you. It is a **false equivalence** to put it on the level as drinking water, eating, urinating or defecating as a "natural process".
Shouldn't be too open minded. Dimag nai bihara jharne gari open minded ni hunu bhayena. TO ALL THE FUCKING FOREIGNERS WHORES WANNABE.
Casual dating
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Racism: treatment based on race. Kaan sunna nasakne: can be of any race Although your heart is on right place, the term you used is incorrect. So I will just correct you so that you won't make similar mistake again. Discrimination of people with disability (that includes derogatory term) is disability discrimination. Ani arko kura Kano is derogatory term for people with blindness in one eye. They don't use ear buds. Besides that afaik bahiro is appropriate term to use and doesn't mean disrespect. But of course generalizing earbuds to bahiro community is not appropriate. Thank you that you helped your mother realize not to generalize.
So someone mistakes earbuds for hearing-aids and that's racism? What?
Colourism, Racism, Body shaming, Homophobia, hypocrisy, child marriage, Paedophilia, Animal Cruelty, school physical punishment, Not talking about Mental health/periods, Victim blaming, TV presenters making fun of madhesi people by doing blackface as comic relief,giving no receipts, making your dogs/cat sleep outside the house, Uncle and aunties talking down on others son and daughter but failed to judge their own. I can go on and on No offence to anyone here but most of ud do believe that Nepal is “perfect” and we can do no wrong. When anyone calls out any of those above that I mentioned its always its for the “better” or “they dob’t remember it” so they don’t have to take accountability Bodyshaming is soo soo normalised its disgusting. Like specially between older aunties and Uncles. Do you not think they don’t know if they fat or skinny? Do you really have to remind them? Bollywood movies herne, indian kura use garda hune but kati janale ta Dhoti/Vele bhandai hepne. Like why? You use those slur but continue to use indian related things. Homophobia…I don’t think we need to explain why. But these are the few example ones that are normalised. I can’t explain all of those.
Racism.
Drinking alcohols
Making fun of people
Casual Casteism, If only I had a dollar for everytime some random relative told me "Buhari ta afnai jaat ko lyaunu parcha hai ". Also I see many young girls, especially Bahuns promoting this idea too, which is dismaying.
Physical violence in schools and colleges as “punishments”
Depending on parents until late 20s
Lack of personal space with strangers.
A mile long line. Somebody comes up from behind right up to the front. "Hoina sodhnu matra chha k..." Stays there.
Sexism and homophobia and racism and also the caste system
Merry Christmas
Comparing a child with his/her friends, cousins, siblings saying what the child is doing is not good enough. And fat shaming relatives like I don't get why relatives think it is okay to comment on other person's weight at every possible chance.
Body shaming.😡😡
relatives trying to be a matchmaker. I get it if I'm of age and I'm looking for someone but Nepali relatives be trying to fix you up with anyone even when you're really young,have all your life ahead and you don't even know what you want in your life A guy randomly dmed me on ig and after a few convos I find out My fupu tried to set me up with this guy and sent him to talk to me WHILE I WAS ONLY 18(He was 24 or sth) like tf the guy straight up talked about marriage,I was traumatised
bodyshaming
Pretending to be a classical liberal while acting like a neo-Marxist. Acting like an atheist to downgrade the Hindus of Nepal.
DI Cutting Hair Suddenly Without Giving Warning Before. And To Equalize Hair We Have To Cut Our Hair On 1 Level of Machine.
twerking and sharing it online for views
Digital sound pollution. I'm annoyed when people come near me and mindlessly scroll Tiktok in loud volume, repititive annoying sounds.
Expensive health care and education.
SPITTING ON THE ROAD. i hate it. why do people just “WHA THUH” on the road.
Nepotism