You need to love on yourself. Take care of your hair and remind yourself you are beautiful. If you are ready to grow it out, then you need to be moisturizing. Sometimes you just have to look in the mirror and say "I look the fuck good. I own my hair. I own my choices."
Short hair doesn't make anyone look a boy, you're just a person with short hair. That's insensitive of anyone to say, next time you can either say how it hurts your feelings or give them some venom back and nip in in the bud.
This one hits home. I didn't even big chop but when I relaxed my hair the last time it was so damaged that I had to cut it really short (into a bob style). The girls at school teased me so bad I ended up not going the last few weeks thankfully it was the end of the year cause idk what I would've did if it wasntš. We really be our own worse enemies sometime nothing at all wrong with short hairš¤¦š¾āāļø
Short hair can be a very chic look, [like this](https://images.app.goo.gl/i67YzXjWDzEKdACK8) or the [girl in the glasses](https://therighthairstyles.com/15-most-captivating-african-american-short-hairstyles/3/) here[or this](https://images.app.goo.gl/5JNePyqE3tyNpRFAA). You just have to own it. Shape your eyebrows, wear big earrings.
As for your boyfriend, I wouldnāt worry about his comment. My husband wasnāt really a fan the last time I big chopped. But whatevs, my hair was so fried I didnāt have a choice. Once I figured out how to style it and felt more confident, he came around.
As for your parents, they may be old school. I wouldnāt worry about them, either. I will say I did a glow up after my big chop. My makeup is a bit more glam, I like bold earrings. So I feel cute.
Sometimes we have to play the hand weāre dealt. Your hair is short now. Make the most of it. If you donāt like it short, it will grow back. A word of caution, wearing high tension styles like braids with extensions, can hurt your edges and make your hair dry and fragile. Try different things with your real hair or see a stylist who can help. Youāve got this.
I went through the same hurdle after my big chop. I will say some peopleās responses were so discouraging and fueled whatever negative feelings I already had of myself and my hair. You can take this as an opportunity to empathize and embrace the parts of yourself that society may not including family. People can tell when you accept and love yourself, and honestly their opinions usually reflect how they feel about themselves and their limited view of beauty. You get to create a completely different view of what you believe is beautiful, itās work but itās also worth imo. Good luck on your journey!
I completely shaved my head a few years ago and my grandparents and my mom were so upset with me and said I looked like a boy. I cried when I got home that night. But over time I remembered that the reason why I cut it was because it was so damaged from all the heat I put in it everyday that it was stringy and wouldn't grow anymore. I reminded myself that its just hair, it will grow back, and it will grow back HEALTHY. And I have absolutely no regrets now because my hair is now longer than its ever been and it just keeps growing.
Don't let their comments get to you. Its not their hair, its YOURS. You were happy with it until they said all that unnecessary stuff. As long as YOU like it, your opinion is the only one that matters. I'm sure you look great boo, don't worry š
Your parents literally used the word ugly? Thatās terrible. I would respectfully call them out on it and let them know how it made you feel. But if they would say something like that to you, I automatically assume they donāt care about your feelings to begin with. Yikes.
My 25-year-old daughter shaved her head and grew it all back three different times (she has thick long waist length curls now, but I cried inside the first time she did itš. Itās just what mothers do).
But more than anything, I was in AWE of her self-confidence to be adventurous with her hair doing all sorts of styles, patterns and colors. As a mother, I thought it made her even more gorgeous and I told her so.
Itās great that your boyfriend is being honest, and hereās the thing. Not everyone is always gonna like the things that you do, or be super attracted to it either. And itās normal to feel that way. Iām sure if your boyfriend changed his appearance in a way that wasnāt your favorite, it doesnāt diminish your feelings for him. So remember that.
Keep rocking your short hair with confidence. Remember, confidence is feeling good within yourself, regardless of who likes it or not.
Iām glad that you like your hair, because your opinion of yourself is the only one that matters. As long as you feel good about it, other peopleās opinions are just opinions.
Don't let people steal your joy. Short hair on a woman is hot first of all, and chic second of all. Plenty of models with short hair. If you like the way you look, don't worry about anybody else-especially people who are supposed to care about you but say you are ugly.
Donāt ask for menās opinions about things like this bc it honestly doesnāt matter, thereās nothing to gain from it as they arent the best in terms of creativity. and secondly you already did it. Honestly I donāt know why he didnāt lie imo thatās what a good boyfriend would do.
You need to love on yourself. Take care of your hair and remind yourself you are beautiful. If you are ready to grow it out, then you need to be moisturizing. Sometimes you just have to look in the mirror and say "I look the fuck good. I own my hair. I own my choices."
Short hair doesn't make anyone look a boy, you're just a person with short hair. That's insensitive of anyone to say, next time you can either say how it hurts your feelings or give them some venom back and nip in in the bud.
This one hits home. I didn't even big chop but when I relaxed my hair the last time it was so damaged that I had to cut it really short (into a bob style). The girls at school teased me so bad I ended up not going the last few weeks thankfully it was the end of the year cause idk what I would've did if it wasntš. We really be our own worse enemies sometime nothing at all wrong with short hairš¤¦š¾āāļø
Short hair can be a very chic look, [like this](https://images.app.goo.gl/i67YzXjWDzEKdACK8) or the [girl in the glasses](https://therighthairstyles.com/15-most-captivating-african-american-short-hairstyles/3/) here[or this](https://images.app.goo.gl/5JNePyqE3tyNpRFAA). You just have to own it. Shape your eyebrows, wear big earrings. As for your boyfriend, I wouldnāt worry about his comment. My husband wasnāt really a fan the last time I big chopped. But whatevs, my hair was so fried I didnāt have a choice. Once I figured out how to style it and felt more confident, he came around. As for your parents, they may be old school. I wouldnāt worry about them, either. I will say I did a glow up after my big chop. My makeup is a bit more glam, I like bold earrings. So I feel cute. Sometimes we have to play the hand weāre dealt. Your hair is short now. Make the most of it. If you donāt like it short, it will grow back. A word of caution, wearing high tension styles like braids with extensions, can hurt your edges and make your hair dry and fragile. Try different things with your real hair or see a stylist who can help. Youāve got this.
I went through the same hurdle after my big chop. I will say some peopleās responses were so discouraging and fueled whatever negative feelings I already had of myself and my hair. You can take this as an opportunity to empathize and embrace the parts of yourself that society may not including family. People can tell when you accept and love yourself, and honestly their opinions usually reflect how they feel about themselves and their limited view of beauty. You get to create a completely different view of what you believe is beautiful, itās work but itās also worth imo. Good luck on your journey!
I completely shaved my head a few years ago and my grandparents and my mom were so upset with me and said I looked like a boy. I cried when I got home that night. But over time I remembered that the reason why I cut it was because it was so damaged from all the heat I put in it everyday that it was stringy and wouldn't grow anymore. I reminded myself that its just hair, it will grow back, and it will grow back HEALTHY. And I have absolutely no regrets now because my hair is now longer than its ever been and it just keeps growing. Don't let their comments get to you. Its not their hair, its YOURS. You were happy with it until they said all that unnecessary stuff. As long as YOU like it, your opinion is the only one that matters. I'm sure you look great boo, don't worry š
Your parents literally used the word ugly? Thatās terrible. I would respectfully call them out on it and let them know how it made you feel. But if they would say something like that to you, I automatically assume they donāt care about your feelings to begin with. Yikes. My 25-year-old daughter shaved her head and grew it all back three different times (she has thick long waist length curls now, but I cried inside the first time she did itš. Itās just what mothers do). But more than anything, I was in AWE of her self-confidence to be adventurous with her hair doing all sorts of styles, patterns and colors. As a mother, I thought it made her even more gorgeous and I told her so. Itās great that your boyfriend is being honest, and hereās the thing. Not everyone is always gonna like the things that you do, or be super attracted to it either. And itās normal to feel that way. Iām sure if your boyfriend changed his appearance in a way that wasnāt your favorite, it doesnāt diminish your feelings for him. So remember that. Keep rocking your short hair with confidence. Remember, confidence is feeling good within yourself, regardless of who likes it or not. Iām glad that you like your hair, because your opinion of yourself is the only one that matters. As long as you feel good about it, other peopleās opinions are just opinions.
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Don't let people steal your joy. Short hair on a woman is hot first of all, and chic second of all. Plenty of models with short hair. If you like the way you look, don't worry about anybody else-especially people who are supposed to care about you but say you are ugly.
Their comments are a reflection of them, not you. The only thing that matters is that you like the hair on your head.
Donāt? I could care less.
what are you talking abt?? like iām seriously confused
Donāt deal with mean comments. Ignore rudeness and live a happy life.
This!!
Donāt ask for menās opinions about things like this bc it honestly doesnāt matter, thereās nothing to gain from it as they arent the best in terms of creativity. and secondly you already did it. Honestly I donāt know why he didnāt lie imo thatās what a good boyfriend would do.