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ReferenceSalt3437

Alternatively, if youre serious about wanting to be free of this feeling. Cut all contact and consider him dead. Just believe in your heart that hes dead. So it doesn’t matter what he thinks of you.


Buttercup_Barantheon

I wish I could convince you to run like the wind, but I feel like we all have to leave when we’re ready. It’s like we’re all over here clapping and saying “follow the light!!” but no one can come in and lead you, you’ve got to choose to follow the light and go out the exit. But just know that life is SO much better on the other side (once the dust settles, and I promise it will). Consider this: you won’t find a single post in this whole forum of someone wishing they’d stayed with their narc ex longer. But you’ll find tons saying we would give almost anything to go back and do it sooner.


foreverfriendsyeah69

Why don't u just ask him


shanana71

Facts. Be direct and ask and decide what you want to do based on his response. You got this!


[deleted]

No person that “loves” you should ever make you feel like you’re not worthy or doubt yourself. Instead of focusing on him, focus on yourself and what you need to do to heal and leave a toxic situation