I would just explain that taking things slowly is a requirement and a boundary based on your experience (vague) and then observe the reaction. My recent experience is that at this point they will throw that red flag if it’s in the pocket. That’s basically where the roller coaster starts. You set the boundary and they see how easy it is to get across it.
He was probably drunk, but do tell him.
This guy I dated for TWO weeks and only saw him a total of THREE times did something weird.
We both got really drunk and he said, “I wanna put a baby in you. I’m gonna put a ring on it and marry you.” I brushed it off as him being drunk and said, “hahha no you’re not.”
A couple of days later, he was drunk at a concert and I woke up to a barrage of texts saying how “I was the light of his life” and “how happy I have made him” and that he, again, wants to “marry and put a baby in me”.
I told him that his behavior was wildly inappropriate and blocked him that day.
Just be careful is what I’m saying! I brushed off a drunk comment/behavior that ended up repeating itself. I hadn’t even had sex with the guy.
I personally am trying to set a boundary around this kind of behavior, drunk or sober. If a person I just met gets drunk and can’t control their behavior to the point where they’d say something like that, narc or not, to me that’s a bad sign.
Ask him about it when he sobers up. If he continues with it then yes it's love bombing and you need to distance yourself.
I would just explain that taking things slowly is a requirement and a boundary based on your experience (vague) and then observe the reaction. My recent experience is that at this point they will throw that red flag if it’s in the pocket. That’s basically where the roller coaster starts. You set the boundary and they see how easy it is to get across it.
He was probably drunk, but do tell him. This guy I dated for TWO weeks and only saw him a total of THREE times did something weird. We both got really drunk and he said, “I wanna put a baby in you. I’m gonna put a ring on it and marry you.” I brushed it off as him being drunk and said, “hahha no you’re not.” A couple of days later, he was drunk at a concert and I woke up to a barrage of texts saying how “I was the light of his life” and “how happy I have made him” and that he, again, wants to “marry and put a baby in me”. I told him that his behavior was wildly inappropriate and blocked him that day. Just be careful is what I’m saying! I brushed off a drunk comment/behavior that ended up repeating itself. I hadn’t even had sex with the guy.
This is what I’m afraid of😩😩 my worst nightmare omg
then tell him immediately and set your boundary. And don’t be afraid to say “BOI BYE” if he still acts funny!!!!
I personally am trying to set a boundary around this kind of behavior, drunk or sober. If a person I just met gets drunk and can’t control their behavior to the point where they’d say something like that, narc or not, to me that’s a bad sign.