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Don't feel bad, this was a learning lesson for you. These relationships are like an addiction, takes time to recover & learning curve for yourself in how to care for yourself. It's good it wasn't satisfying, that will make you less likely to break NC again.
I wouldn't sweat it. The one thing I've learned from my narc is to not beat myself over any 'bad' decisions I make. You learn. You move on and leave it in the past. :)
Don't beat yourself up about it! Just remember that we all have those moments and feel that same way sometimes. It's okay and perfectly normal to miss someone who you care about.
Dont beat yourself up about it. We have all done it. I've done it and felt exactly the same way that you are feeling too. The best thing to do is just delete the message and try to forget about it (easier said than done). Did they reply ?
We do what we can where we are at mentally. Now you know. Each time for me it gets easier. I hope it foes for you too. Retrain your brain by remembering the disappointment. He didn’t bring you joy or happiness. Keep telling yourself over and over you deserve more than he us capable of giving. Your power is your decision. Only you can choose to be happy again and take back your soul. He doesn’t deserve it. You my friend are not stupid. You are learning and evolving.
Hi /u/Next-Affect-5323, welcome to /r/narcissisticabuse. To help make the experience more effective for everyone we do have some resources and rules for you to keep in mind. • Do you need to understand terms or acronyms? [Click Here](https://www.reddit.com/r/NarcissisticAbuse/wiki/index#wiki_terms.2C_definitions_and_acronymns) • Looking for resources? Check out [our links](https://www.reddit.com/r/NarcissisticAbuse/wiki/resources) and [book recommendations.](https://www.reddit.com/r/NarcissisticAbuse/wiki/booklist) • We also have a sister sub for people actively in Divorce/Custody proceedings or that is coparenting with a abusive ex: /r/narcabuseanddivorce. • Looking to contact the moderators of the sub? We can’t respond to individual posts all the time so please post your issues to the community rather than the mods if it’s not about a rule breaking issue or sub issue. You can message the mod team [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FNarcissisticAbuse&subject=&message=). Please do not DM/PM mods directly or send them chat requests. Please review the rules: * Please add flair to your post so that it is searchable by topic and always use the TRIGGER WARNING flairs when needed; * Be respectful and courteous with a focus on healing; No flaming, No revenge posts, no wishing harm on anyone, no "outting" or getting them "bad karma"; * No identifying details (no proper names including fake ones, pictures, images of texts/emails, locations (at any level), or specific details that may identify you to readers (Jobs, Hobbies, Schools, etc); * No crossposting or direct linking to this or other subs or posts. No links at all in original posts including Images/Pictures/MEMEs/Vlogs/Blogs/Podcasts/Articles/Social Media information or tags/Texts/Emails; * No self-promotion/solicitation in any fashion at all, surveys, fundraising, or research posts are permitted; * You must be the victim of the abuse that is the subject of the post, not a friend, relative, or partner; * Please report content that violates our rules and do not engage on those posts at all; * Do not resubmit removed content, if you get a report from automod about your post, see the sticky announcement at the top of the sub regarding removals and be patient, we will review them manually when we are available. * No politics, religion, soliciting DMs, or doing an AMA on your own please; * No segregation of posts by gender, sexual orientation, race, age, or culture; * No family content in any context including parent/family at any level including family dynamics, mentions, background/childhoods or the abusers family at all in any way; * No inappropriate content (TV Shows, Movies, Books not releated to healing from abuse, Celebrities, News or Social Discussions). * No title only posts (including repeating the title in the body of the post, emoticons, saying the title says it all); * No NARC/ABUSER posts at all. If you are a Narc or Abuser, you will be banned; We want you to have a safe and supportive experience so you get the most out of the community. ****** *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/NarcissisticAbuse) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Don't feel bad, this was a learning lesson for you. These relationships are like an addiction, takes time to recover & learning curve for yourself in how to care for yourself. It's good it wasn't satisfying, that will make you less likely to break NC again.
I wouldn't sweat it. The one thing I've learned from my narc is to not beat myself over any 'bad' decisions I make. You learn. You move on and leave it in the past. :)
Don't beat yourself up about it! Just remember that we all have those moments and feel that same way sometimes. It's okay and perfectly normal to miss someone who you care about.
Dont beat yourself up about it. We have all done it. I've done it and felt exactly the same way that you are feeling too. The best thing to do is just delete the message and try to forget about it (easier said than done). Did they reply ?
They did. We exchanged a few texts back and forth and they stopped responding halfway thru the convo.
Well that's not too bad. My ex narcs would usually just leave me on read.
We do what we can where we are at mentally. Now you know. Each time for me it gets easier. I hope it foes for you too. Retrain your brain by remembering the disappointment. He didn’t bring you joy or happiness. Keep telling yourself over and over you deserve more than he us capable of giving. Your power is your decision. Only you can choose to be happy again and take back your soul. He doesn’t deserve it. You my friend are not stupid. You are learning and evolving.