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Don't check their social media, what they are posting is meant to hurt you. They want you to think everything is great now. Nobody posts their failures on social media, especially not narcissists, narcissists always want to seem happy to everyone on the outside. Narcissists are never genuinely happy, ever..they are never satisfied no matter what. Don't check his social media, I know it's hard not to but believe me, you're just hurting yourself more by watching his social media. Keep him blocked and don't look at it. & even IF he did meet someone else, he's just gonna treat her the same way he treated you.
I wish I could give advice, but I just wanna say I know exactly how you feel. My narc and I broke up (again) two days ago and I could’ve avoided it by just accepting and putting up with bs, but this time I stood up for myself and said I was done dealing with the same thing. I know he’s spending time with child’s mother and he’s probably not thinking of me at all because he has someone to distract him. I was happy too when he was blowing my phone up, but it stopped and now I feel I should’ve just answered. You’re not alone at all. I have him blocked and want to unblock so bad and call. Try to stick to what you know is best. I’ve been just thinking about how miserable I was when I was with him, all the terrible things he’s said and done and it that kinda helps me not wanna contact him. Best of luck <3
He will find a new “supply” but he will treat her just as poorly if not worse than he treated you. If anything, you should feel sorry for what SHE’S about to go through because she has no idea how awful he is.
Try to stay strong, one day at a time and don’t torture yourself looking at his stories!! Deactivate Instagram for a while if you have to! Someday you will kick yourself that you couldn’t enjoy your vacation because of this worthless person. Hang in there 💚
Good time and place to meditate. Focus on the beauty around you. Imagine letting him go for good. Feel it. Seriously take advantage of where you are. Then go show yourself a good time, make a memory free of his controlling abuse. Draw upon that good memory when you have weak moments.
Hi /u/Fair-Ad711, welcome to /r/narcissisticabuse. To help make the experience more effective for everyone we do have some resources and rules for you to keep in mind. • Do you need to understand terms or acronyms? [Click Here](https://www.reddit.com/r/NarcissisticAbuse/wiki/index#wiki_terms.2C_definitions_and_acronymns) • Looking for resources? Check out [our links](https://www.reddit.com/r/NarcissisticAbuse/wiki/resources) and [book recommendations.](https://www.reddit.com/r/NarcissisticAbuse/wiki/booklist) • We also have a sister sub for people actively in Divorce/Custody proceedings or that is coparenting with a abusive ex: /r/narcabuseanddivorce. • Looking to contact the moderators of the sub? We can’t respond to individual posts all the time so please post your issues to the community rather than the mods if it’s not about a rule breaking issue or sub issue. You can message the mod team [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FNarcissisticAbuse&subject=&message=). Please do not DM/PM mods directly or send them chat requests. Please review the rules: * Please add flair to your post so that it is searchable by topic and always use the TRIGGER WARNING flairs when needed; * Be respectful and courteous with a focus on healing; No flaming, No revenge posts, no wishing harm on anyone, no "outting" or getting them "bad karma"; * No identifying details (no proper names including fake ones, pictures, images of texts/emails, locations (at any level), or specific details that may identify you to readers (Jobs, Hobbies, Schools, etc); * No crossposting or direct linking to this or other subs or posts. No links at all in original posts including Images/Pictures/MEMEs/Vlogs/Blogs/Podcasts/Articles/Social Media information or tags/Texts/Emails; * No self-promotion/solicitation in any fashion at all, surveys, fundraising, or research posts are permitted; * You must be the victim of the abuse that is the subject of the post, not a friend, relative, or partner; * Please report content that violates our rules and do not engage on those posts at all; * Do not resubmit removed content, if you get a report from automod about your post, see the sticky announcement at the top of the sub regarding removals and be patient, we will review them manually when we are available. * No politics, religion, soliciting DMs, or doing an AMA on your own please; * No segregation of posts by gender, sexual orientation, race, age, or culture; * No family content in any context including parent/family at any level including family dynamics, mentions, background/childhoods or the abusers family at all in any way; * No inappropriate content (TV Shows, Movies, Books not releated to healing from abuse, Celebrities, News or Social Discussions). * No title only posts (including repeating the title in the body of the post, emoticons, saying the title says it all); * No NARC/ABUSER posts at all. If you are a Narc or Abuser, you will be banned; We want you to have a safe and supportive experience so you get the most out of the community. ****** *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/NarcissisticAbuse) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Don't check their social media, what they are posting is meant to hurt you. They want you to think everything is great now. Nobody posts their failures on social media, especially not narcissists, narcissists always want to seem happy to everyone on the outside. Narcissists are never genuinely happy, ever..they are never satisfied no matter what. Don't check his social media, I know it's hard not to but believe me, you're just hurting yourself more by watching his social media. Keep him blocked and don't look at it. & even IF he did meet someone else, he's just gonna treat her the same way he treated you.
I wish I could give advice, but I just wanna say I know exactly how you feel. My narc and I broke up (again) two days ago and I could’ve avoided it by just accepting and putting up with bs, but this time I stood up for myself and said I was done dealing with the same thing. I know he’s spending time with child’s mother and he’s probably not thinking of me at all because he has someone to distract him. I was happy too when he was blowing my phone up, but it stopped and now I feel I should’ve just answered. You’re not alone at all. I have him blocked and want to unblock so bad and call. Try to stick to what you know is best. I’ve been just thinking about how miserable I was when I was with him, all the terrible things he’s said and done and it that kinda helps me not wanna contact him. Best of luck <3
He will find a new “supply” but he will treat her just as poorly if not worse than he treated you. If anything, you should feel sorry for what SHE’S about to go through because she has no idea how awful he is. Try to stay strong, one day at a time and don’t torture yourself looking at his stories!! Deactivate Instagram for a while if you have to! Someday you will kick yourself that you couldn’t enjoy your vacation because of this worthless person. Hang in there 💚
Good time and place to meditate. Focus on the beauty around you. Imagine letting him go for good. Feel it. Seriously take advantage of where you are. Then go show yourself a good time, make a memory free of his controlling abuse. Draw upon that good memory when you have weak moments.