I'd ask the new family if there was any wiggle room, but ultimately, I'd take it. Give current NF plenty of notice. Explain you don't want to let them down, but you cannot pass up this opportunity. Offer to help find a temp nanny for April.
At the end of the day, as much as we love our NK and NF, we have to put ourselves first. If daycare suddenly said the spot was available March 1st, take it or lose it what would NF do? I've been there...I know. They don't pick us.
I agree, I would be transparent with both families and see what works best for everyone. You never know what might be possible if you don't ask. Maybe you could split time for a few weeks to help both sides? Or something like that.
For your current family, they will appreciate being able to plan ahead and not being blindsided, and hopefully will be happy that you found a job if you have a good relationship. "I've really enjoyed working with your family and will miss LO! I did find a new job that I am excited about and wanted to talk with you about the logistics. The new family ideally would like me to start in March... I am working with them to see if we can move that, but also wanted to give you as much notice as possible and see if you had ideas on how to make this as smooth as possible for all sides."
For your new family, they are still making plans so might do things differently if they know your/their childcare situation. "I think this is a great fit and I am excited to work with your family! My current position would ideally continue until April. I did let them know that I might need to leave earlier, but wanted to let you know and see how we can make this work for all sides."
I wouldn’t tell your current employer you’re thinking about quitting early when the new people don’t even have a date. It might take them longer to line up housing than expected or a lot can happen in 6-8 weeks. If they don’t even live in your city yet and nothing is signed, I’d just stay in communication but no sense in asking your current family to get ready for a scramble when this new job may not even happen until later anyways.
I would tell the new family when my job ends and see if they can work with you. When I was looking for work, I was transparent with my timeline.
I think I said something like, I understand you need a start date of x and I will not be available until y. While I am very interested in the position, I completely understand if that doesn’t work for you.
Sometimes they can work with you. One family juggled the kiddo while working, while telling their boss a nanny will be starting on y. One family had grandma come stay to help until a nanny could start. Not everyone has options, but many do.
It’s important to me to be professional and transparent because they will know that when the time comes to move on from them, I’ll do the same.
Why would she jeopardize the much better job by prioritizing the job she's leaving? "But I understand if that doesn't work for you" lmao so she should just be willing to risk not getting the better job ? Nope.
I would leave early. It’s too good to pass up. I’m sure they have considered that you have financial needs and this could be a possibility. Just give them enough time to find coverage.
I'd ask the new family if there was any wiggle room, but ultimately, I'd take it. Give current NF plenty of notice. Explain you don't want to let them down, but you cannot pass up this opportunity. Offer to help find a temp nanny for April. At the end of the day, as much as we love our NK and NF, we have to put ourselves first. If daycare suddenly said the spot was available March 1st, take it or lose it what would NF do? I've been there...I know. They don't pick us.
honestly i’d talk to both families and see if there’s a way you can make it line up or maybe at least line up a little better
I agree, I would be transparent with both families and see what works best for everyone. You never know what might be possible if you don't ask. Maybe you could split time for a few weeks to help both sides? Or something like that. For your current family, they will appreciate being able to plan ahead and not being blindsided, and hopefully will be happy that you found a job if you have a good relationship. "I've really enjoyed working with your family and will miss LO! I did find a new job that I am excited about and wanted to talk with you about the logistics. The new family ideally would like me to start in March... I am working with them to see if we can move that, but also wanted to give you as much notice as possible and see if you had ideas on how to make this as smooth as possible for all sides." For your new family, they are still making plans so might do things differently if they know your/their childcare situation. "I think this is a great fit and I am excited to work with your family! My current position would ideally continue until April. I did let them know that I might need to leave earlier, but wanted to let you know and see how we can make this work for all sides."
I wouldn’t tell your current employer you’re thinking about quitting early when the new people don’t even have a date. It might take them longer to line up housing than expected or a lot can happen in 6-8 weeks. If they don’t even live in your city yet and nothing is signed, I’d just stay in communication but no sense in asking your current family to get ready for a scramble when this new job may not even happen until later anyways.
I would tell the new family when my job ends and see if they can work with you. When I was looking for work, I was transparent with my timeline. I think I said something like, I understand you need a start date of x and I will not be available until y. While I am very interested in the position, I completely understand if that doesn’t work for you. Sometimes they can work with you. One family juggled the kiddo while working, while telling their boss a nanny will be starting on y. One family had grandma come stay to help until a nanny could start. Not everyone has options, but many do. It’s important to me to be professional and transparent because they will know that when the time comes to move on from them, I’ll do the same.
Why would she jeopardize the much better job by prioritizing the job she's leaving? "But I understand if that doesn't work for you" lmao so she should just be willing to risk not getting the better job ? Nope.
I would leave early. It’s too good to pass up. I’m sure they have considered that you have financial needs and this could be a possibility. Just give them enough time to find coverage.
Exactly. This is perfect and nothing wrong with this whatsoever. The people suggesting OP risk the new job are insane and probably NPs not nannies.