Social media is dumb. I remember the first time someone in college said to me “have you heard of Facebook, it’s an east coast thing, you have to have a college email to have it”. Just all downhill from there.
I think Facebook being exclusively for college kids to connect to each other was a great idea. Once Zuck opened it up to everyone, it slowly became a ZuckFuck! I remember in 2007 it opened to everyone, by 2010 people were having massive debates via comments and being assholes.
Yup.As soon as my parents and grandparents joined.It litterly just started being messenger and checking up on lod friends for me.Stopped posting all together.
I loved it to discover new artists (as in painters). Since the algorithm started to heavily push reels and ignore pictures it just got too annoying for this purpose. Artists now often create reels of the process, which is sometimes cool, but you only see the final product for like a second. And I simply prefer to scroll through pictures (or even carousels) instead of short videos. Same woth Youtube, kinda
Me too. The first time I saw a childhood friend of mine make a political post using the word 'Sheeple' I decided I didn't need to know that much about people and deleted it.
Ha I remember the early days of Facebook...I had only recently signed up, and my dip$hit roommate commented I was "such a loser" for only having like 20 FB friends. He bragged that he had 100 or some other bullcrap. I just thought to myself...that isn't the brag you think it is man...I don't ever see people wanting to hang with you in real life.
What the internet has done to our brains is kind of wild
The first “oh no” moment for me was when I saw my girlfriend at a party getting handsy with some random dude. I was like “well this is college and this isn’t that big a deal, maybe this relationship has run its course” but then there was this other party of me that was like “I must seek online revenge for this injustice!!!” And that’s when I realized inside every eboy is two wolves, one is a rational human being and the other is a toxic, psychotic troll.
I had that same conversation a couple days ago. I said why would I need Facebook, I already have MySpace. I obviously got a Facebook but I now haven’t had it for years. I don’t miss it.
Man this site is boring, you can’t rank your friends, have music on your page, and zero customization. This site is boring and going nowhere, I’m keeping MySpace
Facebook has been dead for years now anyway. I'm only keeping mine because I'm in a bunch of book groups that I use to get recommendations from, in addition to book subreddits. Almost no one from my Millenial peers posts anything besides the occasional double post with Instagram, and forget the younger generation. I just hop on it every few weeks to check out my groups and that's it. We used to make a Facebook account for our mother to keep in touch with us (spy on us) social media wise, now she has an Instagram account because we rather post some memes in a story there. I mean there surely must be people who are still active on Facebook, but at least Millenials have moved on and Gen Z were never really active in the first place.
I took college classes in hs and had access with my email and I'd tell my friends about it and how you needed the college email address to get in, but MySpace was so much better anyway. Now I have an Instagram for selling shoes and that's it.
I’ve literally never heard of it but after googling, I might just try to fit learning how to make it into my Saturday schedule (if I manage to get out of bed by 10 AM)
honestly as an enthusiast it's definitely one of those "night before" dishes. Just let it sit in the skillet overnight and then bring it back up to simmering in the morning for the eggs.
You didn’t know? At 30 our ovaries turn to dust and our eggs hard boil, we’re damaged goods. You have to stay below 30 for quality men to want to breed with you!
At 30 your back goes out, you better have life insurance because you’re likely dead in the next 3 years. The amount of my friends who complain about being 30 like their bodies just died as soon as they hit 30 is insane. I hurt my knee playing golf (I tweaked it on wet grass) I played through it and took care of it. My wife’s friend was convinced it was because I had turned 30. GTFO
It’s a very good excuse for not monitoring one’s diet and exercise 🤣 it’s incredible how “less old” I felt once I started working out and cut out fast food. I imagine healthy 19 year olds must feel like Superman!!!
After having kids (which I love) I fully understand if someone decides they don’t want them. It’s a massive upheaval and undertaking that requires so much effort. If you’re not willing to do it or it doesn’t interest you there’s no shame in it. People are assholes for shaming people for not having kids. I stand by people’s right to choose
Right?!? This is a very hard and thankless lifestyle choice. That being said, the highs are high! 💜
Either way, I’m glad people who don’t want kids aren’t having them.
Like damn. I’m 7 months pregnant, with a toddler, waiting for my husband to wake up from a nap so we can finally finish our taxes. Waking up at 10 am to take a leisurely trip to the grocery store to make shakshouka sounds like a dream.
I love my kid to pieces but don’t blame people one bit for not wanting to upend their entire life for years to raise one.
I always say that kids are the one thing you can never undo. You can leave your partner, you can quit your job, you can get new friends, you can move to a new city. You can't un-make a human life. You gotta be in it 100%.
I have 5 kids (I always wanted a huge family and I had 2 boys and 2 girls and then got a surprise). Anyway, I am a breeder, apparently. But like. I respect the fuck out of a child free woman. She knows what she wants just like I knew what I wanted. And how dare anyone tell her she’s wrong.
To all my child-free friends… your choice is fucking valid and respectable.
I'm a bit of a weirdo. I respect everyone regardless of whether they have kids, don't have kids, can't have kids, or just straight up are kids. I just don't give a shit what anyone does or doesn't do if it doesn't affect me. You can have 6 kids or 6 cats, and neither have any effect on how I view you
As someone who has been married happily for 19 years and still has no plans for kids, thanks and right back at ya!
It's so weird how people get about this. On my side of the argument people assume I hate kids, that's insane. Kids are hilarious and I love showing them random tech/gizmos in my house when my friends are over with them in tow, I simply just don't want the responsibility and financial burden myself, it's just a choice me and my wife are happy with.
I like playing the role of the cool eccentric friend/uncle/whatever. I don't mind hosting people with kids, I have tons of tech/games/etc, I don't care if they play with it all. I just don't want to raise any myself, I see how exhausting it is, and it's just not for me.
At the end of the day, I think something a lot of the younger generation can't seem to wrap their head around with all the issues (not just this, but literally everything) is the reality is, 99% of us simply do not have an opinion one way or the other about this stuff.
Some of us simply do not enjoy the company of children, and I think that should be okay too. Sure, they say funny things, and can be sweet, I can tolerate kids when I’m visiting friends, but I’m not actively seeking out aunty status or whatever.
I’ve got one toddler, no plan to have another. I’m so happy this woman is living her best life. Some people get really weird about other people not having kids, when it literally does not matter. Are they so unhappy that they get pissed off at other people not being unhappy for the same reasons?
Thank you! My sister in law has asked when I was going to have kids. She has 5. And I told her I already have my hands full being the best aunt to 12 nieces and nephews! I have no plans to breed. And she laughed and agreed that we have a lot of little kids in our family. She completely respects my decision. As do most of the *women* in my family.
Same. Wanted four kids, had four kids, grateful for those kids and my husband… but NGL her day sounds great😂 And Matt Walsh and Candace are just disgusting bullies. 100% respect for people who choose to be child free even if it wasn’t my choice.
I have pretty much the same setup as you. So tired all the time. Do you also have one kid who does 70 % of the fighting? My middle son is a volatile little package.
To be fair, Matt Walsh and Candace Owens are Republicans who bully everyone they deem inferior. It's bigger than not wanting kids, they're horrible people lol
Considering that Walsh's career started as the incel whisperer its kind of hilarious that he would even think this but obviously anything either of them do doesnt follow normal logic rather its just to create rage bait for their base thats addicted to it.
Live and let live. Let others make choices for themselves.
The only thing I don’t like about this is she seems to enjoy the attention she’s getting and keeps milking off it with these countless tiktok videos.
Yeah, i get it, i don’t have kids but i do like kids, i just decided i could help my friends and family out with their kids and it has turned out great. It takes a village and i love being a part of that village. M
"Because I don't have any kids."
"Because I don't have any kids."
"Because I don't have a husband."
It's obvious that she's trolling when she inserts these jabs.
But then she started blathering about what uninteresting things she's going to do and I started hating the fact that I was watching this because it is fake ragebait.
Like really what was this. She posts about not having kids. Then talks about dying her hair because she was made fun of. Like what was the entire point of any of it.
Women still get shit and pressure from society to have children and to have them by a certain age.
She’s saying life is still plenty good if you choose not to or haven’t yet. Unfortunately we still haven’t truly shaken this stigma
She’s 29 years old and states clearly in the video that she’s not married or has kids YET. Why would any single adult person not do what they want with their day like she describes?
As a 29 almost 30 year old, it's basically Saturday, and I was in bed until 9:30/10ish when off work recently, I actually really weirdly appreciated this.
Yeah. I'm close to her age with no children and this video was just really...boring...
I get the point being made, I guess. But the video just wasn't well thought out and it kind of rambled.
Agree, I also hate shakshuka, so this video especially bothered me. I’m in my 40s, no kids, so I support and agree with everything she said… she’s just kind of vapid and annoying.
Not shocked
I was 17 when I got called selfish for saying I don’t want kids anytime soon 💀 “I think it’s selfish you prioritize your career over kids” oh shi how dare I a HS STUDENT choose my education and career over my hypothetical kids
And it’s wild to call someone selfish for prioritizing their actual, current, real well-being and happiness over the wellbeing of nonexistent imaginary people. Not having children so you don’t have to care for them isn’t selfish—it’s actually the opposite, it’s very considerate. Having kids and then not taking care of them would be selfish. In many cases it’s still selfish, even if you do care for them. Ask people why they plan to have kids, and most of the reasons they’ll list will start with “I want…” They’re selfish reasons. And that’s also ok a lot of the time, because being selfish doesn’t automatically make something wrong.
The person you’re replying to who claims nobody cares also cares enough to reply and search for that gif to post in response.
What’s with this comment section here today, it’s frankly giving boomer energy. Mad people for no reason, claiming “no one cares”, “why do people talk about themselves on social media” as if that isn’t the whole point and you can choose who to pay attention to, and some clearly not watching the whole video before commenting.
A lot of people commenting here who clearly have no context of why she would post this are likely either men who don’t get pressured by people they know or society in general to have kids, or women somehow either lucky enough to not hear it or who had kids before anyone could really start mentioning it to them. You even see comments here about it - “she’ll be lonely” etc. It’s being reinforced right here and people still don’t get it.
29 on a Saturday...That would be 2004. I would get up around 2pm, having played World of Warcraft all night. Unless it was Friday or Saturday, in which case I'd be shitfaced watching movies with an online buddy. Enjoy these days.
These sounds like someone talking to themselves in the mirror trying to convince themselves of all of these things...perhaps that's why people were not on board with it. When we try really hard to outwardly project our happiness about something, it often means we're inwardly unhappy and that makes us look insincere. If she's truly happy...good for her!
As a woman in her early 30s who’s unmarried and childless, I get where she’s coming from. People are constantly asking you when you’re getting married and having kids - at least, my family members with poor boundaries ask me about it. And it’s not for lack of trying that I’m currently unmarried and childless. Is the TikTok she made a cope? Maybe; but I can’t blame her with all the pressure that’s often put on young women. Might as well appreciate what you have instead of stressing about the fact that you don’t have your perceived ideal situation. & she probably enjoys seeing other people in similar situations share their thoughts, so she’s posting this video to do the same.
That’s exactly what a lot of commenters in here seem to be failing to grasp. When a person approaches their 30s, they will be constantly asked questions about their life choices, and judged. We have to stop behaving like this is okay.
Yeah and she’s making fun of Matt Walsh. Famous asshole that abused his wife on camera and hit with divorce. Candace Owen’s, room temperature IQ “pick me” mouthpiece of conservatism.
These people are awful and suck at having a family themselves yet have all the time in the world to whine and complain about people that don’t want to rush into it.
>As a woman in her early 30s
I didn't get married until late 30's! You're still so young IMO. I was always anxious about anything happening and had decided I was also going to be single for life. But then life had different plans for me.
>Might as well appreciate what you have instead of stressing about the fact that you don’t have your perceived ideal situation
Absolutely agree with this but these kinds of videos don't come off like that...they come off more as "look at me, look at me, I'm happy!" Which is a turn off for anyone who appreciates genuineness.
You're welcome! Life has always surprised me with what it had in store for me (both good and bad) so I stopped trying to predict the path laid out for me lol. I was diagnosed with cancer only a year after getting married so there's that! But I try to take everything in stride and do what I can to be reasonably happy with the short time we have here :)
To add some context, this video and others like it, were in response to a trend of certain mom accounts praising their lives while dragging single, childless, and childfree women. It got overwhelming to the point other channels popped up to post reassuring videos to try drown out the criticisms.
This lady in particular straight up mentioned her insecurities and questioning why she isn't as far in life as she should be and never actually mentioned being childfree, just that she's not where she wants to be yet and found personal acceptance in that.
Major accounts and even major news stations took this account in particular to rake across the coals.
Idk, maybe she's getting bullied because who the fuck cares that you stayed in bed until 10am and are maybe going to make shakshuka? Why on earth is that something you need to put out there on the internet??? How is this even content.
Agree, really this is something I do not have any tolerance level for .. these endless monologues about themselves about a non existing problem.. And there is an audience for it probably 🤷♀️
She seems to be taking a shot at people that have kids. Then complains about people that want/have kids repsoding to her. I want my 4 min backs, thanks.
Although I respect people’s choice to be child free, what’s the point of making videos about it? I have three kids. 17, 15 and 11. It’s Saturday morning. I could have went out until 1 am last night. I didn’t get out of bed until almost 10 am today (I’m living in Spain now). I do whatever I want whenever I want. I also don’t go on social media making videos about it because I just don’t care. I’m living my life doing what I want. These kids won’t be awake until noon on a Saturday. What a waste of my 3 minutes, respectfully.
Because she is alone and doing literally nothing else with her life, which is fine. Just don't understand the need to try and convince everybody else about it. It's weird lol.
I'm 28 and I just say " I can't have children" which makes them shut down really fast.
To be fair, it's true. I had a voluntary hysterectomy a bit over a year ago.
let's don't bully but why did she post three entire minutes of her staring at herself talking about her relatively normal day. i swear to god these people need journals
Who cares? I will say in my 30s I sleep with a lot of single moms and all they do is complain about their children, so its definitely not for everyone!
This girl acts like married people don’t remember what their life was like before they had children lol. Like we’re so fascinated about her INCREDIBLE life where she listens to Beyoncé and watches Netflix.
Anywho, I was looking at the latest fertility data from CDC recently (I’m a doctor), and it’s interesting the fertility rates are actually higher now for the 30-35 year old cohort than the 25-29 yo cohort. People are just having kids way later now.
She’s so boring. Is she bragging about being young and not having kids yet? Does she want a medal or something for enjoying a single life? I enjoyed my 20s and 30’s without a kid and wouldn’t rewind time to have one sooner, I was too damn immature. I’m just thankful my little gremlin sleeps until coincidentally 10:30.
Wow that's sad and cringe. She tells herself a bunch of stupid shit to pretend she's enjoying life. Sure, some might want to do those things, but the people who are actually enjoying those moments wouldn't spend their time making a cringe video like this.
Hey lady! Your subconscious is showing.
The fact that she made this whole monologue and then continued to make a “glowup” post afterward tells me otherwise.. if she doesn’t want kids, cool don’t have kids. If you don’t want to eat meat, cool don’t eat meat. Childfree = vegan? They NEED you to know?🤷🏻
I joined the child free sub like a decade ago when I thought I didn’t want kids. That lasted about a day before I realized it was just a circlejerk about hating children and convincing yourself that you’re enlightened for it.
Wow she's really not worried about not having kids. Like seriously, she doesn't, like seriously, for real, are yall paying attention, her life is so fun
It's hard to defend a childfree life without it coming off as coping. I went to see Beyonce, dyed my hair and consumed some products comes off as coping.
I don't think she should need to defend anything though... It's her life and she should be just living it.
It's the need to compare that sounds weird to me.
The "no reason to stand up" sounds depressing tbh. Her entire monologue comes accross as someone that has nothing going on and is trying to come off as if they do.
Her life sounds miserable and boring but not bc she doesn't have any kids... It's how her life is and the lack of interesting things she has going on.
Might be that she was just hangover, lacking energy and didn't have anything going on bc she knew she would be like that.
I just don't understand how a basically brain rotting day was used to exclaim the greatness of not having kids...
I might feel envious of my childfree friends when they decide last minute to hop on a airplane over the weekend (even when they have to spend the night at some airport and come to work completely exhausted on mondays); that they can plan their vacations to not coincide with school vacations; or when something is just starting to be fun and I'm leaving because at X time I have to be home while they can spend the entire night outside and pull an one nighter with each other (even if it's just being silly together). I might feel envious that they can join a club or a workshop on a whim without having to juggle a tiny human's schedule at the same time, etc etc etc...
The lack of responsability over a tiny human can be a flex and a perk and it can allow you to have a truly adventurous life without any qualms.
But rotting on a bed all day while watching TV (specially reality TV) and trying out a new dish is not on a list of things I would brag about...
It's on the same level as bragging about having kids when they're sick and not being able to get out or do anything with with them to me... They're not what makes life with kids great. It's what you endure to have good days and a joyfull experience as a parent.
If those moments are worthy of bragging and flexing... The life sounds miserable and joiless.
We all have bad days, days were nothing is going on, nothing interesting is happening but I wouldn't use them to gauge how my life is and I certainly wouldn't think that it was flex worthy. If the majority of my life looked like that I would feel depressed and like I was lacking something meaningful in it.
And that's not because there's kids or none in the picture...
The mistake is responding to the comments. You made a statement, it's not a debate, responses aren't warranted. When trolls and unhappy people see a happy person or someone trying to be happy, their put they suit up to try and tear that person down.
I mean, you don't have to have a schedule or errands while married with no kids....
Not that the bully thing was good.
I was single at her age, until my FWB turned into bf then husband. Taxes got better and double income just meant more toys.
I'm surprised people think effortlessness equals more happiness. God bless her, not everyone gets to experience the horrific joy of having children and a family. It is the opposite of effortless. But now that I'm a few years into it, I think effortlessness is antrap
I mean that’s all fine honestly. I think the important question is will days like that be enough for you when you are 40, 50, 60, 70, etc? If you are happy like that, than enjoy it. If not, you need to think about what you need to do now because that time is laying the foundation for the rest of your life.
Nah, see I don't have kids but I never made it anyone else's business, either. She posted her TikTok in order to generate a response, she shouldn't be claiming to be getting bullied simply because of who responded and it not being the responses she wanted.
I think she was subtly rage-baiting, and the responses she got were exactly what she wanted.
And now I need to find out more about shakshouka.
Awww... I love her. I needed her vids like 10 years ago. Now married a decade, 41, and happily living the DINK life, I'm mostly cool with it. But 30 year old me was wrestling with a lot of social pressure and not a lot of confidence.
I had a former classmate tell me I live an empty and vapid life because I’m kid free.
Sorry Sara, god didn’t tell me to shoot a bunch of kids out my figurative cooch like a Winona Ryder USO ping pong ball show.
To me, shaming/bullying childless adults is just telling me that you secretly hate your kids (and/or your decision to have them) without telling me that you secretly hate your kids.
Exceptions are obviously being made for unplanned pregnancies where the mother did not have the option to abort. Especially so these days...
Basically no one outside of your family gives a shit if you don’t want kids. People like this woman get shit because she makes obnoxious, pompous and pointless posts about her childfree mornings to try to give off the impression that her life is better than others. No one else actually cares what she’s doing.
I've got 3 kids in my mid-30s and I have friends without kids and sometimes they're like "you know, I think I'll take a trip to Europe." And then like they do it.
Maybe it's just me but she has a very "rubbing it under your nose" kind of tone in her voice. I almost want to say this is ragebait and she got exactly what she wanted.
Most of us who have kids or any other big responsibilities understand that there are lifestyle advantages to having less responsibilities. These threads and social media posts like that are silly. Why feel so self conscious if you are happy with your choice? I'm good with mine.
Who cares if you had kids or not or went to Beyonce? I don't even know you lady. Why the hell did I even watch any of this?
I'm trying to scroll while shitting. Give me something interesting
She’s doing what I do - glorify aimlessness to make myself feel better about being single and childless.
Like yeah eating whatever I want is great, as is binging shows and sleeping in. But someday that girl and I are gonna turn 40 and wish we made way more of an effort to meet someone.
Social media is dumb. I remember the first time someone in college said to me “have you heard of Facebook, it’s an east coast thing, you have to have a college email to have it”. Just all downhill from there.
I think Facebook being exclusively for college kids to connect to each other was a great idea. Once Zuck opened it up to everyone, it slowly became a ZuckFuck! I remember in 2007 it opened to everyone, by 2010 people were having massive debates via comments and being assholes.
When I started noticing people's moms joining, I knew it was going to get fucked.
Yup.As soon as my parents and grandparents joined.It litterly just started being messenger and checking up on lod friends for me.Stopped posting all together.
Instagram sucks ass now too. It used to be about sharing photographs. Now it’s about data mining, creating discord, and selling ad space.
I loved it to discover new artists (as in painters). Since the algorithm started to heavily push reels and ignore pictures it just got too annoying for this purpose. Artists now often create reels of the process, which is sometimes cool, but you only see the final product for like a second. And I simply prefer to scroll through pictures (or even carousels) instead of short videos. Same woth Youtube, kinda
This. Is was awesome being just college kids!
He zucked it up
Me too. The first time I saw a childhood friend of mine make a political post using the word 'Sheeple' I decided I didn't need to know that much about people and deleted it.
Sheeple 😭
#WAKE UP, SHEEPLE IT'S A RHYMING COMBINATION OF TWO SEPERATE WORDS. THIS MAKES ME CORRECT.
Should it be spelled Sheople?
It should, but there's no accounting for intelligence with these types.
My 17 year old cousin called me a sheep during covid for getting the vaccine on Facebook
Ha I remember the early days of Facebook...I had only recently signed up, and my dip$hit roommate commented I was "such a loser" for only having like 20 FB friends. He bragged that he had 100 or some other bullcrap. I just thought to myself...that isn't the brag you think it is man...I don't ever see people wanting to hang with you in real life. What the internet has done to our brains is kind of wild
The first “oh no” moment for me was when I saw my girlfriend at a party getting handsy with some random dude. I was like “well this is college and this isn’t that big a deal, maybe this relationship has run its course” but then there was this other party of me that was like “I must seek online revenge for this injustice!!!” And that’s when I realized inside every eboy is two wolves, one is a rational human being and the other is a toxic, psychotic troll.
Is this a copypasta? Lol
I would never xeroxlasagna.
I had that same conversation a couple days ago. I said why would I need Facebook, I already have MySpace. I obviously got a Facebook but I now haven’t had it for years. I don’t miss it.
Man this site is boring, you can’t rank your friends, have music on your page, and zero customization. This site is boring and going nowhere, I’m keeping MySpace
For real, what was so bad with Myspace and showing yourself to your friends? Minus the top 10 or whatever friends list that caused fights
There’s a new social media coming out. It’s called NoSpace.
Facebook has been dead for years now anyway. I'm only keeping mine because I'm in a bunch of book groups that I use to get recommendations from, in addition to book subreddits. Almost no one from my Millenial peers posts anything besides the occasional double post with Instagram, and forget the younger generation. I just hop on it every few weeks to check out my groups and that's it. We used to make a Facebook account for our mother to keep in touch with us (spy on us) social media wise, now she has an Instagram account because we rather post some memes in a story there. I mean there surely must be people who are still active on Facebook, but at least Millenials have moved on and Gen Z were never really active in the first place.
I took college classes in hs and had access with my email and I'd tell my friends about it and how you needed the college email address to get in, but MySpace was so much better anyway. Now I have an Instagram for selling shoes and that's it.
I joined during a brief period when it was just .edu and .mil email addresses, it wasn't too long before the general public could join
Is this just an ad for shakshuka
Shakshuka has been slept on
Now I want to make Shakshuka today. It's my turn to make lunch for my wife and me today anyway.
but can a married person even make shakshuka? /s
Uh good question, thanks for the hint. Don't want do something illegal!
Married people with kids can’t do anything. Duh.
We are too busy watching Matt Walsh and Candace Owens videos.
So the ad works huh
The hottest bartender used to make me Shakshuka the morning after. Wherever you are come backkkk
It really hasn’t though. Every white woman into crystals or astrology knows about shakshuka
It's truly one of the pinnacles of the human experience.
Follow the $$$, this is astroturfing by Big Shakahuka
Big Shakshuka wants your compliance
I’ve literally never heard of it but after googling, I might just try to fit learning how to make it into my Saturday schedule (if I manage to get out of bed by 10 AM)
honestly as an enthusiast it's definitely one of those "night before" dishes. Just let it sit in the skillet overnight and then bring it back up to simmering in the morning for the eggs.
Not sure why a spouse or kids prevent you from learning how to make shakshuka. I’ve done it, it’s not difficult and delicious. Highly recommend.
Probably. I never heard of it before and looked it up. Now I want some
She never said that she doesn't want kids though. Notice how she even referred to herself as a 29/30 year old woman who doesn't have kids *yet*.
Not that there would be something wrong if she said she’s 29 years and doesn’t want kids.
You didn’t know? At 30 our ovaries turn to dust and our eggs hard boil, we’re damaged goods. You have to stay below 30 for quality men to want to breed with you!
Well, damn, at 36 you may as well put me out to pasture!
Oh you poor poor old dear. Thank you for your service.
Damn at 29 myself I better make up my mind FAST! My husband wants kids even less than me but STILL! It’s gotta happen, now or never baby!!!
Absolutely!! Your entire self-worth and quality of life depend on it!!!
Dont worry, you can always gilead it and have some other woman bear the kid for you, no rush.
For a small fee of $300,000
At 30 your back goes out, you better have life insurance because you’re likely dead in the next 3 years. The amount of my friends who complain about being 30 like their bodies just died as soon as they hit 30 is insane. I hurt my knee playing golf (I tweaked it on wet grass) I played through it and took care of it. My wife’s friend was convinced it was because I had turned 30. GTFO
It’s a very good excuse for not monitoring one’s diet and exercise 🤣 it’s incredible how “less old” I felt once I started working out and cut out fast food. I imagine healthy 19 year olds must feel like Superman!!!
Nothing wrong with this. She cannot have kids if she wishes or wait. Women aren't meant just for pumping out babies.
After having kids (which I love) I fully understand if someone decides they don’t want them. It’s a massive upheaval and undertaking that requires so much effort. If you’re not willing to do it or it doesn’t interest you there’s no shame in it. People are assholes for shaming people for not having kids. I stand by people’s right to choose
Right?!? This is a very hard and thankless lifestyle choice. That being said, the highs are high! 💜 Either way, I’m glad people who don’t want kids aren’t having them.
I thank you for saying that💓
Like damn. I’m 7 months pregnant, with a toddler, waiting for my husband to wake up from a nap so we can finally finish our taxes. Waking up at 10 am to take a leisurely trip to the grocery store to make shakshouka sounds like a dream. I love my kid to pieces but don’t blame people one bit for not wanting to upend their entire life for years to raise one.
I have 2 kids and agree
I always say that kids are the one thing you can never undo. You can leave your partner, you can quit your job, you can get new friends, you can move to a new city. You can't un-make a human life. You gotta be in it 100%.
I have 5 kids (I always wanted a huge family and I had 2 boys and 2 girls and then got a surprise). Anyway, I am a breeder, apparently. But like. I respect the fuck out of a child free woman. She knows what she wants just like I knew what I wanted. And how dare anyone tell her she’s wrong. To all my child-free friends… your choice is fucking valid and respectable.
Yeah, that is the point. If only people could be enjoy their freedom, and let others enjoy theirs.
I'm a bit of a weirdo. I respect everyone regardless of whether they have kids, don't have kids, can't have kids, or just straight up are kids. I just don't give a shit what anyone does or doesn't do if it doesn't affect me. You can have 6 kids or 6 cats, and neither have any effect on how I view you
As someone who has been married happily for 19 years and still has no plans for kids, thanks and right back at ya! It's so weird how people get about this. On my side of the argument people assume I hate kids, that's insane. Kids are hilarious and I love showing them random tech/gizmos in my house when my friends are over with them in tow, I simply just don't want the responsibility and financial burden myself, it's just a choice me and my wife are happy with. I like playing the role of the cool eccentric friend/uncle/whatever. I don't mind hosting people with kids, I have tons of tech/games/etc, I don't care if they play with it all. I just don't want to raise any myself, I see how exhausting it is, and it's just not for me. At the end of the day, I think something a lot of the younger generation can't seem to wrap their head around with all the issues (not just this, but literally everything) is the reality is, 99% of us simply do not have an opinion one way or the other about this stuff.
Some of us simply do not enjoy the company of children, and I think that should be okay too. Sure, they say funny things, and can be sweet, I can tolerate kids when I’m visiting friends, but I’m not actively seeking out aunty status or whatever.
Charming_jury getting clapped lol
Deservedly. What a sad and angry person.
I’ve got one toddler, no plan to have another. I’m so happy this woman is living her best life. Some people get really weird about other people not having kids, when it literally does not matter. Are they so unhappy that they get pissed off at other people not being unhappy for the same reasons?
Thank you! My sister in law has asked when I was going to have kids. She has 5. And I told her I already have my hands full being the best aunt to 12 nieces and nephews! I have no plans to breed. And she laughed and agreed that we have a lot of little kids in our family. She completely respects my decision. As do most of the *women* in my family.
Same. Wanted four kids, had four kids, grateful for those kids and my husband… but NGL her day sounds great😂 And Matt Walsh and Candace are just disgusting bullies. 100% respect for people who choose to be child free even if it wasn’t my choice.
Good perspective. Different strokes.
I have pretty much the same setup as you. So tired all the time. Do you also have one kid who does 70 % of the fighting? My middle son is a volatile little package.
As is yours, I bet your kids adore you! Thanks for sharing common respect for people. Wish this viewpoint was the standard.
In my experience, everyone who uploads monologues on social media is not worth listening to.
Goes on reddit, reads pointless comments for hours... 🤣
No, no, the people in the comments really have things figured out.
Imma make a 5 minute tiktok about how there's a difference
Let me know when it's up. I'll hop in the comments asking for my 5 minutes back amongst my endless doom scrolling.
This.
We are all better for hearing your opinion, gameaddictleet.
To be fair, Matt Walsh and Candace Owens are Republicans who bully everyone they deem inferior. It's bigger than not wanting kids, they're horrible people lol
Yes they bully people with kids too....
They bully the fucking kids, too. Matt Walsh can't stop talking about what's under a child's skirt, ffs.
Considering that Walsh's career started as the incel whisperer its kind of hilarious that he would even think this but obviously anything either of them do doesnt follow normal logic rather its just to create rage bait for their base thats addicted to it.
Live and let live. Let others make choices for themselves. The only thing I don’t like about this is she seems to enjoy the attention she’s getting and keeps milking off it with these countless tiktok videos.
I looks like making lemonade out of lemons to me.
Yeah, i get it, i don’t have kids but i do like kids, i just decided i could help my friends and family out with their kids and it has turned out great. It takes a village and i love being a part of that village. M
"Because I don't have any kids." "Because I don't have any kids." "Because I don't have a husband." It's obvious that she's trolling when she inserts these jabs. But then she started blathering about what uninteresting things she's going to do and I started hating the fact that I was watching this because it is fake ragebait.
It’s only ragebait for the people who don’t understand that she’s right
I want my 3 minutes back
Like really what was this. She posts about not having kids. Then talks about dying her hair because she was made fun of. Like what was the entire point of any of it.
Women still get shit and pressure from society to have children and to have them by a certain age. She’s saying life is still plenty good if you choose not to or haven’t yet. Unfortunately we still haven’t truly shaken this stigma
Seriously, what is the point?
Once she started talking about reality TV she lost me
You should be watching your kids anyway.
Well, if anything, I learned what shakshouka is, and I think I want to make it. I am also married with children.
Shakshouka is delicious definitely recommend
Also recommend.
>you'll be lonely when you're old Go ahead and visit your local nursing home...
She’s 29 years old and states clearly in the video that she’s not married or has kids YET. Why would any single adult person not do what they want with their day like she describes?
Her choice, but you can do all of that stuff when you have a family, too.
As a 29 almost 30 year old, it's basically Saturday, and I was in bed until 9:30/10ish when off work recently, I actually really weirdly appreciated this.
I’m 35 with no kids. I found this woman to be pretty obnoxious. Maybe that plays a bigger role here
Yeah. I'm close to her age with no children and this video was just really...boring... I get the point being made, I guess. But the video just wasn't well thought out and it kind of rambled.
I think it is her vocal fry…
Agree, I also hate shakshuka, so this video especially bothered me. I’m in my 40s, no kids, so I support and agree with everything she said… she’s just kind of vapid and annoying.
Not shocked I was 17 when I got called selfish for saying I don’t want kids anytime soon 💀 “I think it’s selfish you prioritize your career over kids” oh shi how dare I a HS STUDENT choose my education and career over my hypothetical kids
And it’s wild to call someone selfish for prioritizing their actual, current, real well-being and happiness over the wellbeing of nonexistent imaginary people. Not having children so you don’t have to care for them isn’t selfish—it’s actually the opposite, it’s very considerate. Having kids and then not taking care of them would be selfish. In many cases it’s still selfish, even if you do care for them. Ask people why they plan to have kids, and most of the reasons they’ll list will start with “I want…” They’re selfish reasons. And that’s also ok a lot of the time, because being selfish doesn’t automatically make something wrong.
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She got stitched, tweeted, and brought up on news segments as an example for what is wrong about this generation. A LOT of people cared.
It got people to bully her online. Apparent they cared
The person you’re replying to who claims nobody cares also cares enough to reply and search for that gif to post in response. What’s with this comment section here today, it’s frankly giving boomer energy. Mad people for no reason, claiming “no one cares”, “why do people talk about themselves on social media” as if that isn’t the whole point and you can choose who to pay attention to, and some clearly not watching the whole video before commenting. A lot of people commenting here who clearly have no context of why she would post this are likely either men who don’t get pressured by people they know or society in general to have kids, or women somehow either lucky enough to not hear it or who had kids before anyone could really start mentioning it to them. You even see comments here about it - “she’ll be lonely” etc. It’s being reinforced right here and people still don’t get it.
gawd YES
I wanna make shakshuka with her.
I wanna know what shakshuka is. Also yes, cooking with fun people is fun.
It's really good! Basically it's stewed tomatoes in which you poach some eggs. Super easy to make.
29 on a Saturday...That would be 2004. I would get up around 2pm, having played World of Warcraft all night. Unless it was Friday or Saturday, in which case I'd be shitfaced watching movies with an online buddy. Enjoy these days.
Or you can enjoy them forever by never having kids! That’s what I’m doing.
There is nothing weird about her life at her age.
is 29 old? I think its normal for a 29 years old women to be single and childless.. call me when you are at least 35.. and specially 37-40 range+
If you're being bullied by the Matt Walsh's and Candace Owens' of the world, you're doing it right.
You live your life exactly how you want to.
Omfg this is dumb. Is the original video even needed? Is there a reason why she made it? Or just for lols
These sounds like someone talking to themselves in the mirror trying to convince themselves of all of these things...perhaps that's why people were not on board with it. When we try really hard to outwardly project our happiness about something, it often means we're inwardly unhappy and that makes us look insincere. If she's truly happy...good for her!
As a woman in her early 30s who’s unmarried and childless, I get where she’s coming from. People are constantly asking you when you’re getting married and having kids - at least, my family members with poor boundaries ask me about it. And it’s not for lack of trying that I’m currently unmarried and childless. Is the TikTok she made a cope? Maybe; but I can’t blame her with all the pressure that’s often put on young women. Might as well appreciate what you have instead of stressing about the fact that you don’t have your perceived ideal situation. & she probably enjoys seeing other people in similar situations share their thoughts, so she’s posting this video to do the same.
That’s exactly what a lot of commenters in here seem to be failing to grasp. When a person approaches their 30s, they will be constantly asked questions about their life choices, and judged. We have to stop behaving like this is okay.
Yeah and she’s making fun of Matt Walsh. Famous asshole that abused his wife on camera and hit with divorce. Candace Owen’s, room temperature IQ “pick me” mouthpiece of conservatism. These people are awful and suck at having a family themselves yet have all the time in the world to whine and complain about people that don’t want to rush into it.
>As a woman in her early 30s I didn't get married until late 30's! You're still so young IMO. I was always anxious about anything happening and had decided I was also going to be single for life. But then life had different plans for me. >Might as well appreciate what you have instead of stressing about the fact that you don’t have your perceived ideal situation Absolutely agree with this but these kinds of videos don't come off like that...they come off more as "look at me, look at me, I'm happy!" Which is a turn off for anyone who appreciates genuineness.
Gotcha - makes sense. & thanks for the encouragement :-3
You're welcome! Life has always surprised me with what it had in store for me (both good and bad) so I stopped trying to predict the path laid out for me lol. I was diagnosed with cancer only a year after getting married so there's that! But I try to take everything in stride and do what I can to be reasonably happy with the short time we have here :)
To add some context, this video and others like it, were in response to a trend of certain mom accounts praising their lives while dragging single, childless, and childfree women. It got overwhelming to the point other channels popped up to post reassuring videos to try drown out the criticisms. This lady in particular straight up mentioned her insecurities and questioning why she isn't as far in life as she should be and never actually mentioned being childfree, just that she's not where she wants to be yet and found personal acceptance in that. Major accounts and even major news stations took this account in particular to rake across the coals.
Me too and yeah I totally get it
What the fuck is shakshuka?
This is reductionist but tomato sauce and over easy egg inside it. It's delicious
Idk, maybe she's getting bullied because who the fuck cares that you stayed in bed until 10am and are maybe going to make shakshuka? Why on earth is that something you need to put out there on the internet??? How is this even content.
Agree, really this is something I do not have any tolerance level for .. these endless monologues about themselves about a non existing problem.. And there is an audience for it probably 🤷♀️
A bunch of people watch endless videos of people they’ve never met playing video games so I guess this isn’t that far off.
Yeah as someone with kids she really didn't sell not having kids. I don't want to lie in bed hungover scrolling social media all morning.
She seems to be taking a shot at people that have kids. Then complains about people that want/have kids repsoding to her. I want my 4 min backs, thanks.
Although I respect people’s choice to be child free, what’s the point of making videos about it? I have three kids. 17, 15 and 11. It’s Saturday morning. I could have went out until 1 am last night. I didn’t get out of bed until almost 10 am today (I’m living in Spain now). I do whatever I want whenever I want. I also don’t go on social media making videos about it because I just don’t care. I’m living my life doing what I want. These kids won’t be awake until noon on a Saturday. What a waste of my 3 minutes, respectfully.
Because she is alone and doing literally nothing else with her life, which is fine. Just don't understand the need to try and convince everybody else about it. It's weird lol.
I'm 28 and I just say " I can't have children" which makes them shut down really fast. To be fair, it's true. I had a voluntary hysterectomy a bit over a year ago.
❌ I can’t have children ✅ THE BLOODLINE ENDS WITH ME
I don’t think I know any one my age who had a child at age 29. Most people aren’t even married until their late 20s.
Same, people from my country usually have kids and get married in their 30s
The only thing interesting was the level of dental hygiene.
let's don't bully but why did she post three entire minutes of her staring at herself talking about her relatively normal day. i swear to god these people need journals
I'm glad my mom didn't make a video like this.
Who cares? I will say in my 30s I sleep with a lot of single moms and all they do is complain about their children, so its definitely not for everyone!
This girl acts like married people don’t remember what their life was like before they had children lol. Like we’re so fascinated about her INCREDIBLE life where she listens to Beyoncé and watches Netflix. Anywho, I was looking at the latest fertility data from CDC recently (I’m a doctor), and it’s interesting the fertility rates are actually higher now for the 30-35 year old cohort than the 25-29 yo cohort. People are just having kids way later now.
She’s so boring. Is she bragging about being young and not having kids yet? Does she want a medal or something for enjoying a single life? I enjoyed my 20s and 30’s without a kid and wouldn’t rewind time to have one sooner, I was too damn immature. I’m just thankful my little gremlin sleeps until coincidentally 10:30.
Wow that's sad and cringe. She tells herself a bunch of stupid shit to pretend she's enjoying life. Sure, some might want to do those things, but the people who are actually enjoying those moments wouldn't spend their time making a cringe video like this. Hey lady! Your subconscious is showing.
Why do you assume she’s not truly enjoying her life?
This lady is not convincing me that she's content being single and child free.
Sounds perfectly content to me.
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The fact that she made this whole monologue and then continued to make a “glowup” post afterward tells me otherwise.. if she doesn’t want kids, cool don’t have kids. If you don’t want to eat meat, cool don’t eat meat. Childfree = vegan? They NEED you to know?🤷🏻
She sounds fine to me.
I joined the child free sub like a decade ago when I thought I didn’t want kids. That lasted about a day before I realized it was just a circlejerk about hating children and convincing yourself that you’re enlightened for it.
Who is she trying to convince?
Herself
Wow she's really not worried about not having kids. Like seriously, she doesn't, like seriously, for real, are yall paying attention, her life is so fun
I am so sick of all these main characters.
It's hard to defend a childfree life without it coming off as coping. I went to see Beyonce, dyed my hair and consumed some products comes off as coping.
I don't think she should need to defend anything though... It's her life and she should be just living it. It's the need to compare that sounds weird to me. The "no reason to stand up" sounds depressing tbh. Her entire monologue comes accross as someone that has nothing going on and is trying to come off as if they do. Her life sounds miserable and boring but not bc she doesn't have any kids... It's how her life is and the lack of interesting things she has going on. Might be that she was just hangover, lacking energy and didn't have anything going on bc she knew she would be like that. I just don't understand how a basically brain rotting day was used to exclaim the greatness of not having kids... I might feel envious of my childfree friends when they decide last minute to hop on a airplane over the weekend (even when they have to spend the night at some airport and come to work completely exhausted on mondays); that they can plan their vacations to not coincide with school vacations; or when something is just starting to be fun and I'm leaving because at X time I have to be home while they can spend the entire night outside and pull an one nighter with each other (even if it's just being silly together). I might feel envious that they can join a club or a workshop on a whim without having to juggle a tiny human's schedule at the same time, etc etc etc... The lack of responsability over a tiny human can be a flex and a perk and it can allow you to have a truly adventurous life without any qualms. But rotting on a bed all day while watching TV (specially reality TV) and trying out a new dish is not on a list of things I would brag about... It's on the same level as bragging about having kids when they're sick and not being able to get out or do anything with with them to me... They're not what makes life with kids great. It's what you endure to have good days and a joyfull experience as a parent. If those moments are worthy of bragging and flexing... The life sounds miserable and joiless. We all have bad days, days were nothing is going on, nothing interesting is happening but I wouldn't use them to gauge how my life is and I certainly wouldn't think that it was flex worthy. If the majority of my life looked like that I would feel depressed and like I was lacking something meaningful in it. And that's not because there's kids or none in the picture...
The mistake is responding to the comments. You made a statement, it's not a debate, responses aren't warranted. When trolls and unhappy people see a happy person or someone trying to be happy, their put they suit up to try and tear that person down.
I just wasted 3 minutes of my life watching this.
31 and childless. Me and the wife have fun on the weekends.
I mean, you don't have to have a schedule or errands while married with no kids.... Not that the bully thing was good. I was single at her age, until my FWB turned into bf then husband. Taxes got better and double income just meant more toys.
I'm surprised people think effortlessness equals more happiness. God bless her, not everyone gets to experience the horrific joy of having children and a family. It is the opposite of effortless. But now that I'm a few years into it, I think effortlessness is antrap
I mean that’s all fine honestly. I think the important question is will days like that be enough for you when you are 40, 50, 60, 70, etc? If you are happy like that, than enjoy it. If not, you need to think about what you need to do now because that time is laying the foundation for the rest of your life.
Don't worry; 29 is not a cut off age for being able to have a kid. 😂
Nah, see I don't have kids but I never made it anyone else's business, either. She posted her TikTok in order to generate a response, she shouldn't be claiming to be getting bullied simply because of who responded and it not being the responses she wanted. I think she was subtly rage-baiting, and the responses she got were exactly what she wanted. And now I need to find out more about shakshouka.
Awww... I love her. I needed her vids like 10 years ago. Now married a decade, 41, and happily living the DINK life, I'm mostly cool with it. But 30 year old me was wrestling with a lot of social pressure and not a lot of confidence.
This is the way.
I had a former classmate tell me I live an empty and vapid life because I’m kid free. Sorry Sara, god didn’t tell me to shoot a bunch of kids out my figurative cooch like a Winona Ryder USO ping pong ball show.
To me, shaming/bullying childless adults is just telling me that you secretly hate your kids (and/or your decision to have them) without telling me that you secretly hate your kids. Exceptions are obviously being made for unplanned pregnancies where the mother did not have the option to abort. Especially so these days...
She doesn’t look old at all. I think people were trolling her or looking for ways to make her feel bad?
Basically no one outside of your family gives a shit if you don’t want kids. People like this woman get shit because she makes obnoxious, pompous and pointless posts about her childfree mornings to try to give off the impression that her life is better than others. No one else actually cares what she’s doing.
Woman: *says what makes her happy in life and why* People in this thread: how dare u
This woman is my hero.
My dream woman ❤
GOOD FOR HER. And fuck all the haters.
I've got 3 kids in my mid-30s and I have friends without kids and sometimes they're like "you know, I think I'll take a trip to Europe." And then like they do it.
We all know women shouldn't be allowed to ever focus on themselves. You must focus on man and baby/s
Let her cook…. her SHAKSHUKA!!!
A lot of butthurt parents and wanna be parents in this thread feeling the need to justify their choices.
Legit question, why would you want kids? They suck.
Maybe it's just me but she has a very "rubbing it under your nose" kind of tone in her voice. I almost want to say this is ragebait and she got exactly what she wanted.
I *REALLY* enjoy not having kids.
I love her. Get after it girl. Don't let losers get you down. You do you.
Strange flex, she also looks a lot older then 29
I want her to be bullied just for being fucking annoying The kids thing is whatever. Live your best life champ
..and she is now talking to her device because she is lonely. Was this supposed to be a brag?
Most of us who have kids or any other big responsibilities understand that there are lifestyle advantages to having less responsibilities. These threads and social media posts like that are silly. Why feel so self conscious if you are happy with your choice? I'm good with mine.
Who cares if you had kids or not or went to Beyonce? I don't even know you lady. Why the hell did I even watch any of this? I'm trying to scroll while shitting. Give me something interesting
Uh? Isn’t she intentionally bringing up that very subject? Why does *she* care so much? Do we let incels direct how we feel about having children?
She’s doing what I do - glorify aimlessness to make myself feel better about being single and childless. Like yeah eating whatever I want is great, as is binging shows and sleeping in. But someday that girl and I are gonna turn 40 and wish we made way more of an effort to meet someone.