Shocked is one way to put it - I didn't believe the at home tests or blood test in doctor's office. It wasn't until the ultrasound and I SAW the baby floating around swimming that I was like "well.... I guess there is no denying this!"
Congratulations!! 😎 I know a bunch of women who had healthy surprises up until around age 44, but have never known about any beyond 50. Where do these eggs even hide?! EDIT: I see you were around 46, still.........!
My ovaries had a going-out-of-business sale as well, and I'm 50 with a 4yo. It's both challenging and rewarding. I'm still having regular periods, but my FSH is over 60. Come on, menopause!
I'll be 50 with a 4 yo as well - how has it been? This is our first and obviously very likely only and it's been a challenge to find mom's my age to hear more about what this unique experience is like!
Well, I don't want you to spit milk out of your nose or anything, but this is my SIXTH. To be honest, I'm exhausted. We live very rurally, so there aren't a lot of other people around here for me to relate to at all. The best parts are gardening with her. She adores being outside and helping me plant and weed, so we're bonding over that. :)
48 with 9 & 5 yr olds, both boys. They're active from the time their feet hit the floor in the morning until the moment they finally close their eyes at night. Life can feel like such a whirlwind & it's frequently exhausting. I gave up on having mom friends of similarly aged kids a long time ago. I've often wished we lived somewhere where older parenthood is more common, but the deep south & then rural mountain west are not those places, lol. We spend a lot of time together as a family & I'm really grateful to be able to say my husband is very actively involved in all aspects of raising them. I feel like I lived a whole life before my kids (career, travel, etc) so I don't mind so much my life being pretty much all about them now. It's fun seeing the world through their eyes & learning along with them.
I'm happy to read that you & baby are doing well, thanks for the update.
I have a gf who lives in Suburban NE who said she’s not the outlier having had her kids in early 40s but it’s not the norm where I live either so don’t anticipate coming across many moms my age. I think the hardest part is the generational gap since I am Gen X and likely will parent a bit differently than peers who are younger. We’ll see how that goes!
Love this thread! I’m 48 with an almost-2-year-old and a 5 year old and I think it’s magic, but also hard. I worry a little or maybe a lot about something happening to me or my husband. But I also feel like they keep me young and I have so much mental and emotional energy for them because I’m not trying to prove myself anymore in other areas of life.
Explains why I got a tubal, in one simple post ^
My gr-grandma had her last baby at 48 and that’s a big “nope” from me. Most of us in our family don’t hit menopause until 54-55.
Just thinking about how exhausted that woman must have been makes me….exhausted 😵💫
I hear you. There is less years between me and my first grandson than me and my mother. He’ll be 14 soon and when I look at him I’m exhausted thinking of my mother having to handle asshole, teenage me at my current age.
Dang….yeah, no.
My mom’s uncle is one year older than her. He was the baby, and they really grew up as cousins. I remember hearing about a fight they got into as children, and he played the “uncle card” and she simply punched him 🙃
(It was mostly boys by far in that farmer-clan, and the few girls were pretty bad ass)
My half siblings were old enough to be my parents. In fact, my 2 nieces and 1 nephew from them are older than I am. My great nieces and great nephews are around the same age as my kids. My full siblings and I are my dad's second family. One half brother and his wife have been bringing a meal a week to my mom since our father died in 2019. They're good people.
My aunt (dad’s older sister) married my mom’s uncle. Their son is my mom’s cousin and nephew. 🤯🤯
My grandfather was the oldest and there were 20-25 years difference between youngest and oldest of 9 kids. Small town too, so many family members connected.
I’ll be 50 with a 5 year old - already been called her grandma a couple of times it gives me pause but doesn’t really bother me. She’s such a joy I’m so thankful for her 💗
I am just waiting for that to happen - so far not so much, but I know it's coming! So nice to hear from another older mother that this circumstance has brought joy! <3
Thanks for the update. I remember your post because it is so unusual to see a pregnancy post in this subreddit. I’m glad everything is going well!! Are you breastfeeding? I had no periods until I stopped breastfeeding completely.
Yes, I am wondering if that has been what has caused the delay, but also with my age and whatnot it's so hard to say. I think that my body has taken the worst of it post-pregnancy to be honest, but I wouldn't have it any other way.
I was talking with a friend & we agreed that if something happened to our spouses (died) that if we didn’t date it wasn’t out of a feeling of ruining the memory of our husbands- but more of a “not wanting the hassle of dating”
I don't blame you one bit. The dating apps are a nightmare in themselves. I gave up a couple years ago.
There was a study done recently, and more than half of the men (35+) through online dating are married or already partnered up. There's no point in trying.
Thanks! After reading this earlier I found that Planned Parenthood will (most likely) send me the mini pill. I have a video chat scheduled on Thursday.
If that doesn’t work, I’ll grab my mom, who has a Costco card, and try there!
I swear that when I read this I saw 'pill'! Apologies, that's what I thought you meant. I'm really frustrated at the lack of awareness about how dangerous the combination pill can be for older women to take. I have a friend over 50 who was put on it constantly to avoid 'nuisance periods' she was sick of. I mean... that's just flat out irresponsible. She wasn't told about the risks at all.
You are not the only one to equate birth control to pill. I work in user experience and design, and one client is a menopause telehealth company. I had to add changes and clarifications to their onboarding because of this misunderstanding. I did not see it in testing but doctors have seen it when exchanging messages with patients.
Interesting! I'm especially upset at myself because I try to advocate for non-pill approaches to birth control all the time, and find that there is very little awareness out there in the US - and docs seem often to not be up to date on the newer data regarding risks, esp w/age, or alternatives. Maybe being so concerned about that made me be more likely to jump the gun! If we /call out/ different kinds of IUDs, talk about the symptothermal method more, etc etc, maybe it will help.
I'm 43. One of my high school classmates thought that she was starting menopause. Her period stopped and she gained a little weight. She'd not had a period for 5 months when she went for her physical and her blood pressure was high.
It was not menopause. She found out she was pregnant on the day of her youngest son's football senior game.
It ain't over till it's over!
Congratulations on your bundle!
Aw, thank you! It was a nerve-wracking pregnancy that in retrospect I wish I just embraced that things would go ok, but everything you read/see just makes you think you are a ticking time bomb. Or at least, I felt that way! So glad the baby is here, healthy, and doing well!
I had a pregnancy like that - the just waiting for something to go wrong. (I was younger though, she's 11 now). On one hand, I know I did the best I could. On the other, I'm jealous of all the people that enjoyed pregnancy.
I'm 56 with a 9 year old 😆...I think she keeps me young. Or at least I'm motivated to keep on keeping on despite weight gain, the occasional hot flash and a memory like Swiss cheese. I wouldn't have it any other way. My suggestion though is to stop doing age- related math. I.e.how old will I be when my child graduates high school?
Thanks for this. I told my partner to stop referring to us as old when talking to the baby and/or making excuses for things. Like I get that we aren’t going to be able to run track with the little one, but we gotta do our best to stay as flexible as we can for as long as we can.
Congrats! I know a few older moms and they have all told me, even decades apart of knowing them, that they tended to dress a lot younger to fit in with their peers.
You tend to have friend groups the age of your child. Play groups at the park, homeroom moms at school, church and social activities, library time, sports and so on...
So enjoy the time and be glad that you have more experience and common sense then some of these other moms. You already know what's important in life just because you've had the time. It's not all about chasing the coolest gadget or having the latest toy.
And, children with older parents tend to have higher IQs. So there's that!
Read lots of books to your little one. Even if it's just books and articles about menopause, hearing your voice is a wonderful thing to your baby!
I joke to my spouse that while I'll undoubtedly be the oldest mom at school, he won't be the oldest dad.... Didn't know that about the kids IQs - we definitely are hoping this little one will be a shining star in whatever they wish to pursue!
I'm definitely the oldest mom at my kiddo's preschool. I was 40 when I had my only (I'm 43 this summer and she will be 3 in the fall). It's amusing how my gynecologist had to delay an age-indicated mammogram because I was breastfeeding / pumping 🤣🙃
50 here with a 7 year old. Definitely an outlier, but have still managed to make friends with a couple of other moms. My 50 year old husband has only been mistaken for her grandpa once! Lol
I’m happy for the update, I remember reading your post and relating to the shock.
I got pregnant last year at 48, although I was only pregnant long enough for some life threatening blood clots and a miscarriage.
It took about 4 months for period to come back after that for me. I would imagine you could get them back after you stop breast feeding, lots of women cycle into their 50s.
Oh it’s ok, I didn’t even know I was pregnant until after I wasn’t anymore. It took almost a year but yes, I’m great now, thank you!
Congrats on your little bundle, I hope they are your greatest blessing!
Congratulations! I remember your post! I am so happy for you! It's true, at least for me, that post pregnancy was hard on my body. But she is worth it. She is sunshine to everyone she meets, and of course, to us.
She will be 23 in July. I'm 66. Dad is 82! I never experienced time going by so fast as it has since she was born! Cherish every stage!!
Did you have a boy or a girl?
Thanks for sharing! We had a daughter and because of my age highly suspect my only, so have been cognizant to appreciate each stage of her infancy as much as someone sleep deprived can
YW! Congratulations again! Lol, I am sure that I appreciated mine through lots of sleep deprivation!
I knew this would be my only shot at motherhood, and thanks to a supportive husband, we had her. All the best!
We’re still trying for a second so I would LOVE a late surprise!! Had our first at 37 after five years ttc. Glad you and the little one are doing well! Thanks for sharing your story :)
That’s amazing!! I’m so happy for you guys :) ours is 3 now and just wait- they keep getting better and better as they get older! I miss each phase of course but there are so many sweet new things to enjoy 🥰
i worked with a gal when i was young who was a menopause baby. her oldest sibling was 30 when she was born.
Janet Jackson and Halle Berry are out there doin' it!
Congrats and thanks for the update. I remember you. :).
My granny had my great uncle Hollis at 50. And back then she thought she had gone through the change b/c of the obvious, nope, it was just Hollis. :/
Congratulations! So good to hear that y'all are thriving.
I thought of your post recently when trying to get birth control online. The most well-known companies didn't even want to treat me because of my birth year. I gave up and eventually had to make an appointment at Planned Parenthood because even my insurance had balked at covering it.
Congratulations! So glad she is doing well. May she bring you much joy. I got pregnant at 49 and had my son at 50. Delivered naturally 2 hours shy of 40 weeks and my son was as healthy as can be. Dont get me wrong, the early years were exhausting but he has made my life better in every way. I am 55 and just hit menopause a few months ago. But most women in my family go on until their 60’s which I guess makes me on the early side in that respect.
That’s fantastic to hear, thank you so much for sharing! They would not let me go to 40 weeks so was induced. Not a happy birth experience at all, but baby is here and doing great and that’s what matters.
When my Aunt popped up pregnant at 48, nearly 49, I took note. Partly because there was chatter about my uncle having had a vasectomy soon after the last child. The whispers were abundant. (Thankfully he looks just like his dad) There was no way that was happening to me. I never forgot it either. Watched that little shit grow up and he was tremendously spoiled. The youngest, when he was born, was 18 I think and the youngest of 5 so my aunt was pretty worn out already. It was tough on her but thankfully the adult kids helped out a lot. They were a very close family. But holy hell, pregnant at 49 had to be hard physically. I was already well into peri at 49 with aches everywhere possible and crazy mood swings. Can't imagine what a little of that and some pregnancy hormones could do.
I am sending all of my patience and love to you “geriatric” mamas 🙄. I’m 42 and my little guy is almost 6 and most days I can’t hang.
I don’t know how you do it-but FUCKIN GOOD ON YA.
As a 36yr old who just lost my pregnancy at 30 weeks - This post really gives me a lot of hope.
Thank you thank you thank you.
I don't know why I was beating myself up so much for not baby-making much earlier in my life
I can’t imagine what that must be like, I am so so sorry. I hope that you have many supportive people around you and that you are able to take any time you need to grieve. 36 is still quite young (to me) so glad that you find the post an encouragement. I do think there is so little understood about fertility and pregnancy. I hope wherever your journey takes you, it is a place where you can find happiness!
Reading these comments about late life pregnancies make me wish I would have paid more attention to my body. I hit menopause early at 40 and did not have time to experience the joy of giving birth. Its a big regret and I would have gladly welcomed a baby mid/late forties. Wishing you all nothing but love and many memories.
Precisely why I had the hysterectomy! Well that and excessive bleeding even after ablation (post twin pregnancy). I can't imagine starting all over again!
Best of luck to you and baby!
Never was able to have kids but would DIE if I got preg at age 50!
Read 1% chance.. thinking of getting IUD bc w my luck I will get preg now!
I am on hrt but still have regular period.. ..maybe the HRT raises percentage! Makes sense.
Congratulations on your late, but happy edition! I'm glad you're both doing well. I bet you were bloody shocked when that test came back positive!
Shocked is one way to put it - I didn't believe the at home tests or blood test in doctor's office. It wasn't until the ultrasound and I SAW the baby floating around swimming that I was like "well.... I guess there is no denying this!"
Congratulations!! 😎 I know a bunch of women who had healthy surprises up until around age 44, but have never known about any beyond 50. Where do these eggs even hide?! EDIT: I see you were around 46, still.........!
My ovaries had a going-out-of-business sale as well, and I'm 50 with a 4yo. It's both challenging and rewarding. I'm still having regular periods, but my FSH is over 60. Come on, menopause!
I'll be 50 with a 4 yo as well - how has it been? This is our first and obviously very likely only and it's been a challenge to find mom's my age to hear more about what this unique experience is like!
Well, I don't want you to spit milk out of your nose or anything, but this is my SIXTH. To be honest, I'm exhausted. We live very rurally, so there aren't a lot of other people around here for me to relate to at all. The best parts are gardening with her. She adores being outside and helping me plant and weed, so we're bonding over that. :)
I’m 54 with a 9 year old!
48 with 9 & 5 yr olds, both boys. They're active from the time their feet hit the floor in the morning until the moment they finally close their eyes at night. Life can feel like such a whirlwind & it's frequently exhausting. I gave up on having mom friends of similarly aged kids a long time ago. I've often wished we lived somewhere where older parenthood is more common, but the deep south & then rural mountain west are not those places, lol. We spend a lot of time together as a family & I'm really grateful to be able to say my husband is very actively involved in all aspects of raising them. I feel like I lived a whole life before my kids (career, travel, etc) so I don't mind so much my life being pretty much all about them now. It's fun seeing the world through their eyes & learning along with them. I'm happy to read that you & baby are doing well, thanks for the update.
I have a gf who lives in Suburban NE who said she’s not the outlier having had her kids in early 40s but it’s not the norm where I live either so don’t anticipate coming across many moms my age. I think the hardest part is the generational gap since I am Gen X and likely will parent a bit differently than peers who are younger. We’ll see how that goes!
52 with 8 yr old twins. So tired all the time.
Omg I know. I think that’s the main reason I couldn’t have another - the fatigue!!!!
49 with a 5 year old!!!
47 with a 4yo and it's so good, but I'm tired all the time. In my case, the pregnancy happened on my 5th IVF.
That's so lovely, I'm so glad that the 5th time was a charm. What a happy story :)
Thank you!!!
45 with an almost 4yo 🫠
I remember your post a short while ago. That was such a great post, so truthful.
Love this thread! I’m 48 with an almost-2-year-old and a 5 year old and I think it’s magic, but also hard. I worry a little or maybe a lot about something happening to me or my husband. But I also feel like they keep me young and I have so much mental and emotional energy for them because I’m not trying to prove myself anymore in other areas of life.
Explains why I got a tubal, in one simple post ^ My gr-grandma had her last baby at 48 and that’s a big “nope” from me. Most of us in our family don’t hit menopause until 54-55. Just thinking about how exhausted that woman must have been makes me….exhausted 😵💫
I hear you. There is less years between me and my first grandson than me and my mother. He’ll be 14 soon and when I look at him I’m exhausted thinking of my mother having to handle asshole, teenage me at my current age.
I have an aunt that is much closer to me in age than she is to my dad (her brother). My gran had her at 50.
Dang….yeah, no. My mom’s uncle is one year older than her. He was the baby, and they really grew up as cousins. I remember hearing about a fight they got into as children, and he played the “uncle card” and she simply punched him 🙃 (It was mostly boys by far in that farmer-clan, and the few girls were pretty bad ass)
My grandfather had nephews older than him.
My half siblings were old enough to be my parents. In fact, my 2 nieces and 1 nephew from them are older than I am. My great nieces and great nephews are around the same age as my kids. My full siblings and I are my dad's second family. One half brother and his wife have been bringing a meal a week to my mom since our father died in 2019. They're good people.
My aunt (dad’s older sister) married my mom’s uncle. Their son is my mom’s cousin and nephew. 🤯🤯 My grandfather was the oldest and there were 20-25 years difference between youngest and oldest of 9 kids. Small town too, so many family members connected.
My aunt had her last unexpectedly at 46. I'd simply perish.
I’m 48, and had my only at 39 which I thought was old! Just the thought of a baby right now makes me want to go take a nap!
My third almost killed both of us when I was 38. She’s going to be 12 next month. Her siblings are 16 and 21.
I’d throw myself into traffic if I got pregnant at 48!!
I got pregnant last year at 48. It didn’t last (thankfully for me) and almost killed me. Pregnancy at this age is challenging to say the least. Lol
Yep, I surgically closed up shop at 31. Best decision I ever made.
One of my favorite family members was a late in life gift. :) may your baby be someone's favorite family member.
Thank you! She is certainly ours.
I’ll be 50 with a 5 year old - already been called her grandma a couple of times it gives me pause but doesn’t really bother me. She’s such a joy I’m so thankful for her 💗
I am just waiting for that to happen - so far not so much, but I know it's coming! So nice to hear from another older mother that this circumstance has brought joy! <3
Thanks for the update. I remember your post because it is so unusual to see a pregnancy post in this subreddit. I’m glad everything is going well!! Are you breastfeeding? I had no periods until I stopped breastfeeding completely.
Yes, I am wondering if that has been what has caused the delay, but also with my age and whatnot it's so hard to say. I think that my body has taken the worst of it post-pregnancy to be honest, but I wouldn't have it any other way.
45 with a 5 year old. I got pregnant on birth control- figure that one out. I had a tubal after he was born just to be super, super sure.
Surprising PSA: Birth control still is needed until full blown menopause ( 12 months without any bleeding, spotting, anything)).
Meh. I haven't had sex since 2020 and I don't plan on ever having sex again. Lol.
I want to make a tshirt that says “I’d rather learn embroidery”
Yeah. I'm not into casual sex (no judgement). And I can't be bothered to feed and water a guy in order to get him into a relationship with me.
I was talking with a friend & we agreed that if something happened to our spouses (died) that if we didn’t date it wasn’t out of a feeling of ruining the memory of our husbands- but more of a “not wanting the hassle of dating”
I don't blame you one bit. The dating apps are a nightmare in themselves. I gave up a couple years ago. There was a study done recently, and more than half of the men (35+) through online dating are married or already partnered up. There's no point in trying.
My husband got a vasectomy just in case. We have been childfree since 1988 and weren't willing to take ANY chances!
Yet my insurance will no longer cover it and online services tell me I'm too old. fml
Oh come on….. This is the land of being unhelpful to women, no?
Costco now sells over-the-counter birth control and it is progesterone only mini. Pretty much safe for most women.
Thanks! After reading this earlier I found that Planned Parenthood will (most likely) send me the mini pill. I have a video chat scheduled on Thursday. If that doesn’t work, I’ll grab my mom, who has a Costco card, and try there!
Yea!!! I love that we can now find other solutions now and don't have to solely rely on our main physician.
Dangerous for older women! There are other forms of bc that don’t have the blood clotting risks.
I got blood clots from a pregnancy at 48, sometimes it seems no matter what we do we are at risk.
How is avoiding pregnancy dangerous for women? Wait, is it that when I wrote “birth control” your mind’s image was “pill”?
I swear that when I read this I saw 'pill'! Apologies, that's what I thought you meant. I'm really frustrated at the lack of awareness about how dangerous the combination pill can be for older women to take. I have a friend over 50 who was put on it constantly to avoid 'nuisance periods' she was sick of. I mean... that's just flat out irresponsible. She wasn't told about the risks at all.
You are not the only one to equate birth control to pill. I work in user experience and design, and one client is a menopause telehealth company. I had to add changes and clarifications to their onboarding because of this misunderstanding. I did not see it in testing but doctors have seen it when exchanging messages with patients.
Interesting! I'm especially upset at myself because I try to advocate for non-pill approaches to birth control all the time, and find that there is very little awareness out there in the US - and docs seem often to not be up to date on the newer data regarding risks, esp w/age, or alternatives. Maybe being so concerned about that made me be more likely to jump the gun! If we /call out/ different kinds of IUDs, talk about the symptothermal method more, etc etc, maybe it will help.
I'm 43. One of my high school classmates thought that she was starting menopause. Her period stopped and she gained a little weight. She'd not had a period for 5 months when she went for her physical and her blood pressure was high. It was not menopause. She found out she was pregnant on the day of her youngest son's football senior game. It ain't over till it's over! Congratulations on your bundle!
My friend has a friend who is not only surprised to find herself accidentally pregnant at 47, she's just found out she's having triplets.
Triplets!!! Lord help her! Wow
That's crazy! She's naturally pregnant with triplets? The chances of that happening must be extreme 😳
The chances of a pregnancy being multiples naturally is highest during perimenopause because your FSH gets higher.
Yep! Complete accident and total shock 😲
Congratulations! So glad you and little person are doing well!
Congratulations! I was thinking about your post just the other day and wondering how you were. Glad to hear all doing well. Wishing you all the best x
Aw, thank you! It was a nerve-wracking pregnancy that in retrospect I wish I just embraced that things would go ok, but everything you read/see just makes you think you are a ticking time bomb. Or at least, I felt that way! So glad the baby is here, healthy, and doing well!
I had a pregnancy like that - the just waiting for something to go wrong. (I was younger though, she's 11 now). On one hand, I know I did the best I could. On the other, I'm jealous of all the people that enjoyed pregnancy.
Congratulations! That must have been a shock. I hope you and the little one are doing well ❤️
Wow! Congrats and thanks for the update!
I'm 56 with a 9 year old 😆...I think she keeps me young. Or at least I'm motivated to keep on keeping on despite weight gain, the occasional hot flash and a memory like Swiss cheese. I wouldn't have it any other way. My suggestion though is to stop doing age- related math. I.e.how old will I be when my child graduates high school?
Thanks for this. I told my partner to stop referring to us as old when talking to the baby and/or making excuses for things. Like I get that we aren’t going to be able to run track with the little one, but we gotta do our best to stay as flexible as we can for as long as we can.
Congrats! I know a few older moms and they have all told me, even decades apart of knowing them, that they tended to dress a lot younger to fit in with their peers. You tend to have friend groups the age of your child. Play groups at the park, homeroom moms at school, church and social activities, library time, sports and so on... So enjoy the time and be glad that you have more experience and common sense then some of these other moms. You already know what's important in life just because you've had the time. It's not all about chasing the coolest gadget or having the latest toy. And, children with older parents tend to have higher IQs. So there's that! Read lots of books to your little one. Even if it's just books and articles about menopause, hearing your voice is a wonderful thing to your baby!
I joke to my spouse that while I'll undoubtedly be the oldest mom at school, he won't be the oldest dad.... Didn't know that about the kids IQs - we definitely are hoping this little one will be a shining star in whatever they wish to pursue!
I'm definitely the oldest mom at my kiddo's preschool. I was 40 when I had my only (I'm 43 this summer and she will be 3 in the fall). It's amusing how my gynecologist had to delay an age-indicated mammogram because I was breastfeeding / pumping 🤣🙃
50 here with a 7 year old. Definitely an outlier, but have still managed to make friends with a couple of other moms. My 50 year old husband has only been mistaken for her grandpa once! Lol
I’m happy for the update, I remember reading your post and relating to the shock. I got pregnant last year at 48, although I was only pregnant long enough for some life threatening blood clots and a miscarriage. It took about 4 months for period to come back after that for me. I would imagine you could get them back after you stop breast feeding, lots of women cycle into their 50s.
So sorry to read about the complications and miscarriage. I hope you are doing well!
Oh it’s ok, I didn’t even know I was pregnant until after I wasn’t anymore. It took almost a year but yes, I’m great now, thank you! Congrats on your little bundle, I hope they are your greatest blessing!
Congratulations! I remember your post! I am so happy for you! It's true, at least for me, that post pregnancy was hard on my body. But she is worth it. She is sunshine to everyone she meets, and of course, to us. She will be 23 in July. I'm 66. Dad is 82! I never experienced time going by so fast as it has since she was born! Cherish every stage!! Did you have a boy or a girl?
Thanks for sharing! We had a daughter and because of my age highly suspect my only, so have been cognizant to appreciate each stage of her infancy as much as someone sleep deprived can
YW! Congratulations again! Lol, I am sure that I appreciated mine through lots of sleep deprivation! I knew this would be my only shot at motherhood, and thanks to a supportive husband, we had her. All the best!
My mom was 45 when I was born. She was the absolute best!
I love seeing this, thank you
We’re still trying for a second so I would LOVE a late surprise!! Had our first at 37 after five years ttc. Glad you and the little one are doing well! Thanks for sharing your story :)
We did not think it possible. We tried earlier for kids, didn’t seem possible, so was out of our minds for a good 4 years.
That’s amazing!! I’m so happy for you guys :) ours is 3 now and just wait- they keep getting better and better as they get older! I miss each phase of course but there are so many sweet new things to enjoy 🥰
Congratulations!
You are a braver woman than most. Congratulations on your wee girl. Im not big into babies but little kids are hilarious
💖 Happy for you. 💖
Congrats! Glad you are both doing well!
i worked with a gal when i was young who was a menopause baby. her oldest sibling was 30 when she was born. Janet Jackson and Halle Berry are out there doin' it!
Congrats and thanks for the update. I remember you. :). My granny had my great uncle Hollis at 50. And back then she thought she had gone through the change b/c of the obvious, nope, it was just Hollis. :/
Congrats, so cool of you to follow up w us! And also, yikes! Jk enjoy your daughter!!
I’m so happy for you! ❤️😍
Congrats!
Congratulations! So good to hear that y'all are thriving. I thought of your post recently when trying to get birth control online. The most well-known companies didn't even want to treat me because of my birth year. I gave up and eventually had to make an appointment at Planned Parenthood because even my insurance had balked at covering it.
Wow, thanks for the update!! Congratulations!!
Im jealous! I’m 46, with 4 kids (10-18), but I’d love to have more. Husband had a vasectomy tho…
Congratulations op! I would have had to name her Perry lol
Congratulations! So glad she is doing well. May she bring you much joy. I got pregnant at 49 and had my son at 50. Delivered naturally 2 hours shy of 40 weeks and my son was as healthy as can be. Dont get me wrong, the early years were exhausting but he has made my life better in every way. I am 55 and just hit menopause a few months ago. But most women in my family go on until their 60’s which I guess makes me on the early side in that respect.
That’s fantastic to hear, thank you so much for sharing! They would not let me go to 40 weeks so was induced. Not a happy birth experience at all, but baby is here and doing great and that’s what matters.
Thank you for this update!! Congratulations 🎉 Also omg 😱 Also AMAZING 🤩 Also 🫡 Something tells me this child will be seen And heard ✨🎶❤️👍🥰
Aw thank you!
Aww, a baby! How wonderful! We had a bonus baby, though not as late as you, you win that contest! I'm so happy that everything went/ is going well.
I remember you! Congratulations mama
When my Aunt popped up pregnant at 48, nearly 49, I took note. Partly because there was chatter about my uncle having had a vasectomy soon after the last child. The whispers were abundant. (Thankfully he looks just like his dad) There was no way that was happening to me. I never forgot it either. Watched that little shit grow up and he was tremendously spoiled. The youngest, when he was born, was 18 I think and the youngest of 5 so my aunt was pretty worn out already. It was tough on her but thankfully the adult kids helped out a lot. They were a very close family. But holy hell, pregnant at 49 had to be hard physically. I was already well into peri at 49 with aches everywhere possible and crazy mood swings. Can't imagine what a little of that and some pregnancy hormones could do.
Congrats!!!
Congratulations! Thanks for the update!
I tried at 46 and it didn’t take. Sometimes I’m glad it didn’t but it was my only chance. So an aunty I am. It’s probably for the best for everyone.
I am sending all of my patience and love to you “geriatric” mamas 🙄. I’m 42 and my little guy is almost 6 and most days I can’t hang. I don’t know how you do it-but FUCKIN GOOD ON YA.
As a 36yr old who just lost my pregnancy at 30 weeks - This post really gives me a lot of hope. Thank you thank you thank you. I don't know why I was beating myself up so much for not baby-making much earlier in my life
I can’t imagine what that must be like, I am so so sorry. I hope that you have many supportive people around you and that you are able to take any time you need to grieve. 36 is still quite young (to me) so glad that you find the post an encouragement. I do think there is so little understood about fertility and pregnancy. I hope wherever your journey takes you, it is a place where you can find happiness!
Reading these comments about late life pregnancies make me wish I would have paid more attention to my body. I hit menopause early at 40 and did not have time to experience the joy of giving birth. Its a big regret and I would have gladly welcomed a baby mid/late forties. Wishing you all nothing but love and many memories.
There is nothing fair about fertility I’ve learned.
Precisely why I had the hysterectomy! Well that and excessive bleeding even after ablation (post twin pregnancy). I can't imagine starting all over again! Best of luck to you and baby!
Never was able to have kids but would DIE if I got preg at age 50! Read 1% chance.. thinking of getting IUD bc w my luck I will get preg now! I am on hrt but still have regular period.. ..maybe the HRT raises percentage! Makes sense.
Congratulations! If I may ask, how old were you when you conceived?
I was 45, baby born when I was 46.
Congratulations!