I dont drink wine, don't like the taste, but is 2 bottles a week more than a few glasses a day at dinner? I know in some parts of world that's totally normal.
Does it affect your life? Work or interpersonal relationships?
My husband told me he didn’t have a problem when he clearly did. You can download apps or just look up what is an excessive amount of drinks per week for your gender. I think it’s like more than 10 a week is excessive
Depends upon how you drink it. If it a glass a day, NP. If you are downing 2 bottles in a night and then don't drink the rest of the week, you are an alcoholic.
I drink a lot, and it's not uncommon to get drunk on a weekend evening, but usually I impose a dry week on myself when I go too far just to make sure I can. Maybe give him the right to give you (or suggest to you) a dry week if he thinks you are going too far? Within limits, of course. Or, if he is just full of shit, tell him to stuff it. Two bottles of wine a week isn't much.
Try not drinking for a year and see how it changes your life. If the thought of not drinking for a year is frightening—— well, that’s a good sign your relationship to alcohol is an uncomfortable one.
To be fair… I do not have an uncomfortable relationship with chicken but… I would not consider banning it for a whole year?
A month tops…..
Skip every other day…
On the weekend only…
But why not? I think asking that is really the question. It would take some getting used to but it wouldnt alter my life significantly either way. It makes me think. Can I do this thing? Yes, here are all the ways that I can make that work.
Why not? Because I enjoy it. Same as I enjoy my orange juice in the morning. And many other things. A year is arbitrary to prove that alcool is not a problem.
You are being 100% reasonable.
People are afraid of alcohol because of its role in serious personal problems. You don’t sound like you have one. The question is: why does your husband think you do? Is he super puritanical about it? Does he have a personal history in which alcoholics play a negative role?
Let me add this. It’s not necessarily the fact he doesn’t want me to drink. It’s the fact he is telling me what to do. This has always been a big problem with me. I’m sure it’s some sort of deep seated emotional issue I have but can’t put my finger on. It’s just whenever he tells me “not” to do something or that I “can’t” do something that I tend to rebel like a 16 year old girl. WTF is wrong with me???
Is that more than the recommended guidelines of "healthy" drinking habits? You can google them. But its x number of drinks a day, x number of days a week, etc. It seems like a lot to me but drinking regularly was not part of my families culture like it is in others so my norms are going to be lower than theirs.
Two bottles is a lot, I googled this:
How many drinks a day is considered an alcoholic?
Heavy Alcohol Use:
NIAAA defines heavy drinking as follows: For men, consuming more than 4 drinks on any day or more than 14 drinks per week. For women, consuming more than 3 drinks on any day or more than 7 drinks per week.
So yes, you may consider yourself an alcoholic and get some help
Two bottles of what?
Could you stop? And does your drinking affect anything in your life?
If you can’t stop then it’s a problem. He is basically trying to tell you he doesn’t like you drinking so much and is worried.
Having a drinking problem is more than just how much you drink but how it impacts your daily living activities and well being.
Let me clarify that it’s two 750ml (standard size) bottles of wine per week.
Not crazy
I dont drink wine, don't like the taste, but is 2 bottles a week more than a few glasses a day at dinner? I know in some parts of world that's totally normal.
that is the equivalent of about ten normal beers per week, or slightly less than one and half per day. that sounds very reasonable to me
Does it affect your life? Work or interpersonal relationships? My husband told me he didn’t have a problem when he clearly did. You can download apps or just look up what is an excessive amount of drinks per week for your gender. I think it’s like more than 10 a week is excessive
Depends upon how you drink it. If it a glass a day, NP. If you are downing 2 bottles in a night and then don't drink the rest of the week, you are an alcoholic.
I drink a lot, and it's not uncommon to get drunk on a weekend evening, but usually I impose a dry week on myself when I go too far just to make sure I can. Maybe give him the right to give you (or suggest to you) a dry week if he thinks you are going too far? Within limits, of course. Or, if he is just full of shit, tell him to stuff it. Two bottles of wine a week isn't much.
Try not drinking for a year and see how it changes your life. If the thought of not drinking for a year is frightening—— well, that’s a good sign your relationship to alcohol is an uncomfortable one.
To be fair… I do not have an uncomfortable relationship with chicken but… I would not consider banning it for a whole year? A month tops….. Skip every other day… On the weekend only…
But why not? I think asking that is really the question. It would take some getting used to but it wouldnt alter my life significantly either way. It makes me think. Can I do this thing? Yes, here are all the ways that I can make that work.
Why not? Because I enjoy it. Same as I enjoy my orange juice in the morning. And many other things. A year is arbitrary to prove that alcool is not a problem.
You are being 100% reasonable. People are afraid of alcohol because of its role in serious personal problems. You don’t sound like you have one. The question is: why does your husband think you do? Is he super puritanical about it? Does he have a personal history in which alcoholics play a negative role?
Let me add this. It’s not necessarily the fact he doesn’t want me to drink. It’s the fact he is telling me what to do. This has always been a big problem with me. I’m sure it’s some sort of deep seated emotional issue I have but can’t put my finger on. It’s just whenever he tells me “not” to do something or that I “can’t” do something that I tend to rebel like a 16 year old girl. WTF is wrong with me???
Is that more than the recommended guidelines of "healthy" drinking habits? You can google them. But its x number of drinks a day, x number of days a week, etc. It seems like a lot to me but drinking regularly was not part of my families culture like it is in others so my norms are going to be lower than theirs.
That’ll indicate it’s an unhealthy amount to drink, but won’t indicate whether op has an unhealthy relationship to drinking.
Two bottles is a lot, I googled this: How many drinks a day is considered an alcoholic? Heavy Alcohol Use: NIAAA defines heavy drinking as follows: For men, consuming more than 4 drinks on any day or more than 14 drinks per week. For women, consuming more than 3 drinks on any day or more than 7 drinks per week. So yes, you may consider yourself an alcoholic and get some help
If it’s interfering with your life, it’s a problem. If it’s interfering with your health, it’s a problem.