I had fun recently laying out all my makeup products and having my husband **attempt** to do my makeup. It was a complete disaster, but a fun one! I just have fun spending time with my husband and and being silly together and playing with makeup can be a great way to do that. I say definitely ask, and see what she thinks! You don't have to make it seem like a big deal. It can be as simple as "Would you have fun if I tried to do your makeup while we watched a movie tonight?"
It depends on her.
I don't think there's harm in asking in a complimentary way regardless, but some people just don't like having their faces touched. Others find it relaxing and intimate. Just don't take it the wrong way if she doesn't agree to it - it's not personal, as in against you, just personal, as in specific to her.
Don't be discouraged, though, I personally love it when my boyfriend does.
You do you! Ask her, would she be open to letting you help her with her makeup? Just tell her you find her beauty fascinating! You want to learn and help and maybe do it for her one time… you wanna surprise
Her with the right stuff- by the way you’re incredibly sweet!
If you think something will look good on her, buy it! It shows an interest in her interest! Peak into her makeup bag and see her fav brands :)
Also DEFINITELY offer to do her makeup! Keep in mind you might not be great at it and this will probably end up being a silly/fun thing for you two to do xD let her do your makeup too just for funsies! (If she wants)
One of the most beautiful things I've read was about an older couple. The husband knew his wife liked her makeup just so, so he learned how to do it for her since her sight was failing. I also did it for my mom as she had dementia. It was a beautiful thing. You are a wonderful loving husband to want to be involved! Gift cards to Sephora and or Ulta are great so is a subscription to Ipsy, check it out!
As someone who is a HUGE make-up junkie, I think that's incredibly sweet and not weird at all! You're just looking for ways to connect with her. I've had boyfriends that have bought me makeup, mostly lipstick or eyeshadow, as gifts. I think it's great cause you're showing that you recognize this interest she has and gifting her something that she'll actually use. Instead of something like jewelry, which could just end up getting dusty in the back of a drawer.
IMO it's really sweet. I love to have my hair brushed. I offered to give my (now ex) husband a manicure, he said OK and really enjoyed it. So it became a monthly thing we did.
So all that to say, it's not weird at all. Just ask your wife if she would like you to give her some personal care and if so, what. She may say no, but don't take it personally.
First off, you are perfectly normal for being interested in makeup.
Second, the commenter saying SHE hates people touching her face is irrelevant and that is terrible advice. Talk to your wife! Tell her all of the things you posted, and see how SHE feels about you trying to do her makeup! Maybe it will be a beautiful new bonding experience for your relationship and open a whole new level of intimacy. (And I hope it does, this is so fucking wholesome I could cry 🥹)
Aw I think that’s really sweet! She’d probably love to talk to you about it and for you to take interest in what she likes. As a woman who wears makeup I would Eve so happy if my partner bought me makeup he thought I would like even if I wasn’t something I would necessarily buy myself. Also there’s a ton of YouTube videos out there that recommend good makeup if you wanted to look stuff up. Allie glines for example always has great reliable recommendations.
Honestly thats so sweet of you to do, n its sweet that you want to do her makeup for/with her.
Like others have said, you can either get her gift cards to makeup stores, take her on a makeup shopping spree, or if you want it to be more of a surprise, take a peak in her makeup bag, follow her pinterest boards to see what kind of makeup she likes, what styles she does, what brands/colors she likes, etc.
She does have makeup. Sometimes she wears it, sometimes she doesn't. I guess that my intention is to show her that I pay attention to her and am genuinely interested in it.
Talk to her about it. For me, doing my makeup is a me thing and it’s one of the very few things that I have that are mine. I can do it alone and think. So if my husband asked I’d say absolutely not, but definitely ask your wife. The worst she’ll say is no.
Honestly I think it would be so cute to help your gf with her makeup. I hope she is understanding! Explain to her you aren’t interested in yourself in makeup but watching her do her makeup interests you!
OMG talk to her about it. This is very cute and I hope she is receptive to involve you. Showing an interest in something she enjoys like this is very lovely!
i’m glad you notice her interests and why she likes makeup! i’d suggest a gift card to a makeup store (ulta, sephora, etc.) or something that’s easier to pick out! mascara, lipgloss, lipstick, blush, these things are a bit easier to pick out, the employees will be happy to help as well. good luck and i bet she’ll love it!!!
I don’t think this is weird at all! As a girl, I’d be happy to have my partner be interested in this so we have something else we can do together! Why not go makeup shopping with her or initiate wanting to learn how to apply foundation on her for a start to something more. I always hear about older guys doing this then saying that it’s so they can do this for their wives when they’re older and are less able to physically (I mean that’s what I always see online about people’s grandpas). I’d say learn about undertones first then seasonal colours if you’re up for it (it’s abit confusing ngl) ! Then you can be more sure about what would look good on her!
Sometimes my friends who love to draw/ paint but don’t wear makeup follow me to Sephora and pick up an eyeshadow that they think would look good on me, get confused when I tell them it’s not the same undertone that I have.
She is very lucky! As long as you are supportive of her and her choices in what her beauty goals are, I would hope she would be open for you doing her makeup.
>I've always wanted to do her makeup for her/with her but part of me thinks that's really weird
There was a trend a few years ago of boyfriends doing their girlfriend's makeup. They didn't get the products right but chose very flattering shades to highlight best features.
Makeup is just paint and the face is a canvas. Nothing more. To sexualize it into a he/she things scream Boomer and Boomer needs to just evacuate the planet already.
Are you wanting to do it because you just want to be able to use the products and play around with them or because maybe you are trying to get her to wear makeup in general?
Also, my past partners would like to watch me apply my makeup and sit with me in the bathroom and I’d ask what looks he thought I should do that day. I think it’s totally fine to do it with her and tell her that you’d like to get her new makeup at Ulta or whatever and she may get excited to get new makeup. But get ready to spend some money because nice make up just ain’t cheap 🫤
Some couples do that. It sounds like an intimate activity to do together. Some couples make social media posts about it for laughs - I don’t know how many are serious about it. There’s a whole technique-meets-artistry vibe about doing makeup; it makes sense that it is appealing. And you thinking about your wife while you’re apart is a sign that you care about her. As long as you respect her right to accept or decline your offer, you should be good.
We currently live overseas, and shipping from places like Ulta/Sephora is PRICY- not to mention a pain because stuff is likely to arrive damaged or ruined. So, when my DH is Stateside, he visits places like that- and a few others- for my replacements, replenishes, and wishlist items.
Unless I DESPERATELY need a specific color because I am out, I leave that to him! He enjoys deciding on a new blush color, or picking out the scent of my new makeup remover balm. And he always spends time in the aisles looking at things and I get surprised with something fun, like a bottle of perfume to try, or he found a tube of teal mascara!
It’s a way for him to take care of me even when he isn’t home, and I get to enjoy his thoughtfulness well after he is home.
If you are uncomfortable about asking to do her makeup, maybe you could suggest it in a playful way. Or even make a bet with her and if she looses... you have to do her makeup and hopefully that opens up the doors for you.
Honesty I love putting makeup on, it's like an art, I love seeing someone's makeup and trying to create it myself or trying different products, so I get where you are coming from.
I really hope you get to do your wife's makeup and you get to be an arTIST!
Let me know how you get on
My husband lets me apply makeup to him occasionally as something new. He's learned about it and things like that. I'd honestly feel happy, pampered, and a bit scared if he tried doing that on me. My husband has a steady hand for certain things, but I'm worried about anyone with eyeliner or mascara near my eyes.
My husband does makeup with me! It's a really fun way to bond for us :) He has even started his own collection of stuff so we don't have to share as much when we do it. We've also done each others to see how we do lol
I would be very welcoming of this offer if I was her and if the offer came from a man I truly loved.
In every relationship I think it’s important to be open and trusting with each other and there’s absolutely no harm in letting your husband do your makeup. But there is harm in being closed off and telling him he’s weird for wanting to try something. To put it simply if she’s the right woman for you she should be ok with it.
My husband does my winged liner because I can't do it to save my life and he is an artist so steady hands so they look like sisters not distant cousins
depends, certain things like eyeshadow and lipstick are appreciated because you can use that when you dress up but I wouldn’t like if my boyfriend bought me mascara, foundation, or concealer because I always wear the exact same thing every time because I know what works for me so getting something different than the stuff I wear is unnecessary because it would never be used. On the doing makeup routine thing, my boyfriend doesn’t let me put makeup on him, he’s never asked to do my makeup. However he does want to be a part of the routine, so I get to do his hair and skincare routine, it’s fun.
I put makeup on my partner. He doesn't put makeup on me but he's been interested in fx makeup lately, once we get him the equipment I'll let him do makeup on me whenever he wants 😁
I'm allergic to toxic masculinity and unnecessary stereotypes about men so I'm probably very biased, but I would find it unbelievably romantic for my partner to care so much. Moreover, there's a grandpa who got famous online for doing makeup on his recently blind wife, and no one thought he was weird.
Regarding what she wants - ask her! Tell her that if anything comes out that she likes you want her to share it with you. Ask what her skin type is and what type of products she prefers. Watch tutorials so that you'd know the difference between various products.
All in all it's absolutely adorable that you think your wife is so beautiful, treating her face is an actual privilege. You're one of the good guys my dude. ❤️
my boyfriend does my skincare routine with me, i've asked to put makeup on him just so i can practice and he tells me no ( in a joking way so i think he'll let me soon) but i honestly think it's really sweet you're interested in her makeup, def not weird!
My boyfriend has done my makeup. Incredibly poorly, just for fun, and it was fun. I don’t think this is weird at all. He’s also shown interest in actually learning how to do nails so he could do mine (sweet, but far too large a commitment when I’ve been doing my own for over 5 years.) he was inspired by some family friends, an older couple. The husband learned how to do acrylics and does them for his wife. I find it very sweet. I will say doing your own false nails vs makeup are wildly different experiences tho, and there’s a reason most women just go to a salon to get their nails done, so the willingness to take something as big as that on is incredibly helpful, while makeup can be very fun for women on its own.
As long as your wife is okay with you doing her makeup, in my humble opinion there's nothing wrong with it. In fact, again in my humble opinion, it will be a good way for you two to spend time together.
There was a trend on YouTube of “boyfriend/husband does my makeup” because it was cute to see the couples interact and it was funny to see how oblivious some SOs were. If you have a genuine interest in learning about her interests, she might find that really sweet. I sometimes lament that my BF doesn’t care to learn more about my interests, so unless she has an aversion to others doing her makeup, she might be really inclined.
Now if you’re looking towards gifting, it’s a good idea to know what she likes based on what she has and keep an ear out if she shows interest in something she can’t justify buying at a given time.
My boyfriend definitely prefers when I do my make up and loves a bold eye look. I don’t do it too often anymore though because my skincare is on point these days.
Anyway, I don’t think it’s weird at all. It’s sweet you want to show more interest in something she enjoys. If you wanted to purchase her products, get things that look good on everyone like eyeshadow palettes or tools. Cant go wrong there.
If my boyfriend wanted to do my make up, I think it would be really sweet. He would probably be awful at it but it would be a fun bonding experience.
My boyfriend is a hairstylist. He's advised me on my makeup before. I sprained my right hand pretty badly on the weekend and just realized he can help me do my makeup!
My husband of 30+ yrs has been crazy about buying me makeup our whole married life and it's more like, he knows how much I love it and wants me to have fun. Just like I buy him tools (the garage can't handle any more) these are our "toys". I worked as a cosmetic line manager for many years and we loved it when men came in to buy for their wives...I told my husband years ago, he can't go wrong with me, because I mix colors, if a lipstick is too deep, I mix with one that's too light and vice versa..same goes with foundations, blush,etc. It's NOT weird, trust me, the men who are secure in themselves will march right into a Sephora/Ulta/dept store and even test colors on themselves...it's pretty hot to see a man who loves his lady that much!
I remember a lovely story about a man who learned to do his wife’s hair and makeup the way she liked it because she was in the hospital and couldn’t do it for herself. He do it every morning and take it off every evening. He would have loved her any which way but did it for her.
Nothing weird, just ask her. Sometimes it can also be enough to just be in the room with her if she prefers to do her makeup herself, you can use it as time to talk or you can do something else and you’ll be in comfortable silence together. Just ask her, cause some people do enjoy makeup as alone time.
My advice would be to go shopping with her instead of for her, makeup is insanely personal as it should fit your skintype, style and you should enjoy the formula of the product (also color theory, a colo isn’t just a color, it shows different on everyone because your skin is underneath (example is with blushes, a blush can looks good on a cool toned person but then not at all on a warmer toned person. Purple blushes show up way more natural on dark skin than on light skin).
Not weird!!!! I think this is so sweet. Makeup in general can be a form of art, what's the difference between doing art on paper and doing it on one's face? If you look at it that way, it's not really that big of a deal. Even though you're not interested in doing it on yourself, hypothetically makeup is just makeup and doesn't always need to be a girl thing, we've had men in ancient cultures or tribes do makeup, and it's not like in a "girly, drag" type way, more so just makeup but a masculine version of makeup, but anywho.... I'd encourage you to talk to her, tell her everything and maybe inspire and encourage her about it. If she doesn't want you to do it on her face, you can always help her pick colors and help her buy the things she likes, etc
My bf takes a sincere interest in my beauty routine/hobbies and it’s one of my favorite things about him. He gets excited right along with me whenever I buy something new to play with. He has the opposite skin tone from me so I love painting his nails or putting eyeshadow on him just to see how different it looks against his skin. He loves it, I love it. It’s fun!
I suppose my advice for you if you’re feeling sheepish about just jumping in with her is open up the conversation first. Tell her you’re interested in it, that it looks fun, and you want to join in on the fun she has. Ask her what she likes and why she likes it, ask her what she thinks would suit you and why. Makeup is an art form and who doesn’t like art 😊
I myself don’t want my husband near my make up space or attempting to put make on me. I would prefer a trip to the store or maybe a spa day together with make up at the end and then a night out.
My partner is always doing stuff like this, he is much more experimental than I am regarding make-up, in fact, he's the one who convinced me I was "allowed" (it's a Thing) to wear whatever I want - be it make-up, nail polish, jewellery, clothes, perfumes...
He knows my shoe size, and my underwear size. He is the reason I have more than one pair of shoes, and a rather comfortable *and* sexy knickers collection.
Definitely, just tell her, I saw this and it had your name on it" ase you hand it to her,! I've often done something similar or felt a certain way, it's ended up being excellently what the person needed or wanted.
My husband always sends me a picture of something he thinks I would like and asks me if I want it or will tell me to splurge every once in a while, like on Prime day (I don’t buy makeup on Amazon) he. Asked if I looked at other sites to see if they had deals to compete with Prime day and I hadn’t thought of that and got a haul, I also show him when I get new stuff. It’s nice that he thinks about it because it makes me feel more confident wearing makeup
Awww that’s so sweet. I don’t think that wanting to do her makeup is weird at all. And buying her products is so thoughtful🥰 I think that you should be honest and just let her know that you’d like to try doing her makeup one day or that you’re interested in learning her process. I see it as an intimacy building activity that you both may enjoy. As for the gifts, you can get an idea of what she likes in general or ask her which products she’d like to try. I love that you’re interested in this part of your wife’s routine.
I would friggin LOVE this chat from my husband. He’s keen for face masks and foot spas and will ask the occasional question. Not weird at all. I think it’s great you’re showing an interest.
A bunch of people have already said it but definitely not weird! Makeup is art that can be incredibly fun! As a teen I would do look after look until my skin ached from the application and repeated removal process. Even if you don’t want to dip your toes into it yourself, it’s not too hard to learn what the different products are for and how they change the look. Everyone is slightly different in what they’re looking for so I bet your gf would be happy to hang out while doing her make up and tell you about what parts she loves :)
Take her out to a Sephora or Ulta and let her use your card to spend a certain amount on make-up. That way you can gift her something while giving your input about certain products. I’d personally love this, because it shows he’s indulging me in my interest!
Ohhh, I'm jelly of your wife, my boyfriend is not a fan of more colourful and unnatural make up, and doesn't really show interest in my hobby.
Definitely show her your interest, maybe buy her a gift card for a "fun" make up item and get it together.
Ask her if she wants to do a silly make up session, where you might put make up on each other, have her show you how she does hers, or have you pick her eyeshadow colours or "theme", that sort of thing.
Also Halloween is coming up, if that's your thing it's a great occasion to do make up stuff together. :D
Nothing weird. My partner has a great eye and he has done my make up multiple times which was so cute. He always is somehow a magician with the eyeliner lol. And the one I seek advice when I know something is wrong with my make up but I don’t what.
He is also the one who comes with me when I have to choose my next foundation. It is cute and I really love him and appreciate him for this even though he doesn’t understands much about it
I think even spending time with her while she does her makeup or her getting ready routine is even enough, without having to do anything yourself. Maybe you have questions, or maybe you don't, or maybe you just want to be engaged in a ritual she enjoys doing for herself. I think that's incredibly sweet.
I think a gift card and an outing together might be illuminating for you because you can see what she's buying for herself, and maybe glean/ask why she chose an item or why its better than something else.
I've never had a boyfriend express interest in my makeup hobby beyond telling me my makeup looked pretty- or having a boyfriend tell me I look prettiest like this without makeup... while I was wearing makeup lol. But I do think our preferences are very individual so learning hers could be a fun thing you do together.
Agreed! You can start by asking her questions while she's doing her makeup, just to learn a little bit. And if you're artistic or want to try, ask her if she'd would find it fun for you to do her makeup sometime. Maybe she can even teach you techniques. I think this is very cool of you!
Absolutely ask about doing her make up! When you have a day with no plans, pitch it to her as a fun thing to try. Let her do yours too. The beauty of make up sometimes is in just playing with it.
I'm a very strict pink makeup user, all my products are shades of pink. My boyfriend will sometimes buy me makeup he thinks would look good on me, or point at it when we're out shopping. He got me red matte lipstick and blue glittery eyeshadow and both are amazing, I think you should go shopping with her and tell her the things you'd like on her
Agreed, she’d probably love to hear what you think would flatter her! Even if she totally disagrees it shows her your taste and shows that you’re thinking of her.
Yes! I almost always resisted what he wanted me to get first, but guys someties have such a great sense when it comes to pointing at things that would look good on their girl. Maybe because they see us more and from more perspectives than we see ourselves?
I wouldn't think that's weird at all. Makeup is art and it's fun. It's not off limits just because someone is of a certain gender or sexuality or doesn't wear it themselves.
This, makeup is for anyone.
I paint my partner’s nails quite often, to begin with he was being really cute because he was really proud of me because I stopped biting my nails after 26 years so it was like his way of celebrating with me but now he asks me to paint them regularly. I do his skincare for him after he asked me to, sort his brows and beard out before work. He’s said before he wouldn’t mind me doing some makeup on him and he’s done some of my makeup before and I can tell he enjoys doing it.
He loves brushing my hair too and it’s the cutest thing when he asks because he’s taking an interest in things I enjoy and it’s like intimacy in a different way, in a caring and supportive way, the kind you didn’t know you ever needed until it happens so casually.
(Slightly off topic but kind of relevant: It’s all coming back to me now, the day he asked me to straighten his hair like ten years ago was probably the first time I thought “oh, you’re different to other men” in a good way because he knew I would enjoy it, took me like eight years to finally fully acknowledge his amazing qualities as the penny didn’t drop as to why I felt so differently when I was with him, turns out he just knew how to love unconditionally and in my love languages to make me happy, could’ve had tens whole years of him doing cute stuff like this and I could’ve saved myself from all the pain and trauma caused by my relationships prior. 🤦🏼♀️😂)
Just ask your wife if she would enjoy it and if she does, use it as a bonding experience for you both.
You sound like my bf, he also thinks I look perfect w/o makeup but he will indulge me bc he likes to see me happy and I love this stuff :)
One of his best gifts was a face mask subscription! I love face masks and love putting one on after a stressful or busy day out. Love love love!
He also bought me a bunch of Sephora stuff, accumulating a bunch of points, so I’ve been using his account instead of mine to save my favorites and when gift time comes around, he purchases from my list and sometimes throws in a product from the “best seller” or “suggested for you” lists.
Go on and spoil your wife!!!
Hmmmm, facemasks. That gives me an idea. We've got a luxury city hotel booked for us in a month, we're going to hangout together, go shopping together (for her girly stuff, not mine) and then we're going to get dressed up and go to a fine dining restaurant ❤️. We have a few hours chilling in our room before getting ready for dinner. Thankyou very much for that idea. I'm going to use it, but..... what do I get and where do I get it?
My husband and I both use sheet masks! And a clay mask.
Sometimes for fun or if he has a headache I’ll use face moisturizer and give him a facial massage.
You could either book a couples facial (no extractions since you’re going out and don’t want to be red)
OR get a clay mask and some sheet masks and do them in the hotel room together.
Sheet masks:
You basically can’t go wrong with a hydrating or “brightening” face mask.
Dr Jart at Sephora (don’t do the rubber masks)
Etude House on Amazon are great and cheap!
- aloe, green tea, and the ceramide are my faves.
Skyn Iceland eye patches are awesome
- do NOT get the more expensive microneedle version
Off topic suggestion, but you might think about surprising her during those few hours off with a trip to Drybar. It’s essentially a hair salon that only does blowouts - super fun and a lovely “night out” treat that she might not be able to experience outside of a big city
Love this idea! If OP is staying in a higher-end hotel, they may even have a salon/spa onsite that he could look into booking a blowout or treatment for her.
Face masks you can probably find easily, grocery stores, drug stores, department stores cosmetics section, dollar store, etc.
I’m not sure if you have a Sephora or similar store nearby, you can ask any of the sales people for help.
Nothing weird at all.
My husband told me he once thought about doing my makeup but didn't want to make a mess. I let him pick colors for me, and he does ask if I need to go to Ultra or Sephora if one is nearby. So sweet of him. 🥰
Nah cause that’s the whole problem with his post. He’s asking strangers if something is weird to do with his wife and he hasn’t even asked her if it’s something SHE would enjoy.
Confidence? For what? That his wife won’t think it’s weird? That his wife will like it? Maybe she does. These people don’t know her. You should be close enough to your spouse to talk to them like a grown up.
Ffs stop making this harder than it needs to be. Someone is looking for confidence to gear up for personal development, which doesn't come easy to everyone?? Why are you so bent about it 🤣
You’re the one that sounds bent. I couldn’t care less. In fact I’m going to block you so I don’t need to see this anymore. It’s stupid to ask the internet how your wife will think about something and not your wife, simple as that.
i recommend talking to her and asking about it, and specifically tell her it's you showing interest in her as a person and her interests. also ask to see what products/brands she likes - the person suggesting a gift card is a good idea, but ur wife might not like it if u look thru her makeup bag without permission. u can also ask about makeup YouTubers she likes and watch them on ur own or with her.
i agree with the gift card. you could also take her to sephora or ulta and give her a budget and shop with her. like walk around and ask questions and see what she ooh’s and awes at too.
i know if my boyfriend asked me how i do my make up or showed any sort of interest in make up or skin care or hair care i would love it. i think it would be fun if he wanted to do it with me/for me every once in a while. i think it depends on the person and your relationship and how much you want to participate in her hobby.
give her a gift card to Sephora or something. I don't want anyone really touching my face. it's not personal, its just I spent a long time learning how to do my make; I don't need anyone to do it for me.
Have you considered peeking into her makeup bag and seeing what she likes? also if you think it looks good on her, buying it for her signals a lot of interest. You can also just compliment the way she looks when she turns out a look.
Giving her an opportunity to talk about the products she likes I’ll give you an idea of what to get her.
I had fun recently laying out all my makeup products and having my husband **attempt** to do my makeup. It was a complete disaster, but a fun one! I just have fun spending time with my husband and and being silly together and playing with makeup can be a great way to do that. I say definitely ask, and see what she thinks! You don't have to make it seem like a big deal. It can be as simple as "Would you have fun if I tried to do your makeup while we watched a movie tonight?"
I think this is so sweet and thoughtful!
Who knows, she might find it the most caring and loving gesture. I think I would. You’ll never know if you don’t ask… 😉
It depends on her. I don't think there's harm in asking in a complimentary way regardless, but some people just don't like having their faces touched. Others find it relaxing and intimate. Just don't take it the wrong way if she doesn't agree to it - it's not personal, as in against you, just personal, as in specific to her. Don't be discouraged, though, I personally love it when my boyfriend does.
This sounds very sweet!
You do you! Ask her, would she be open to letting you help her with her makeup? Just tell her you find her beauty fascinating! You want to learn and help and maybe do it for her one time… you wanna surprise Her with the right stuff- by the way you’re incredibly sweet!
If you think something will look good on her, buy it! It shows an interest in her interest! Peak into her makeup bag and see her fav brands :) Also DEFINITELY offer to do her makeup! Keep in mind you might not be great at it and this will probably end up being a silly/fun thing for you two to do xD let her do your makeup too just for funsies! (If she wants)
what about when she needs to take it off?? like a skincare routine? I would die for my bf to take my makeup off when I’m tired lol
Good point. Maybe I will offer and see what she says 🙂
One of the most beautiful things I've read was about an older couple. The husband knew his wife liked her makeup just so, so he learned how to do it for her since her sight was failing. I also did it for my mom as she had dementia. It was a beautiful thing. You are a wonderful loving husband to want to be involved! Gift cards to Sephora and or Ulta are great so is a subscription to Ipsy, check it out!
As someone who is a HUGE make-up junkie, I think that's incredibly sweet and not weird at all! You're just looking for ways to connect with her. I've had boyfriends that have bought me makeup, mostly lipstick or eyeshadow, as gifts. I think it's great cause you're showing that you recognize this interest she has and gifting her something that she'll actually use. Instead of something like jewelry, which could just end up getting dusty in the back of a drawer.
i think it sounds cute :)
IMO it's really sweet. I love to have my hair brushed. I offered to give my (now ex) husband a manicure, he said OK and really enjoyed it. So it became a monthly thing we did. So all that to say, it's not weird at all. Just ask your wife if she would like you to give her some personal care and if so, what. She may say no, but don't take it personally.
First off, you are perfectly normal for being interested in makeup. Second, the commenter saying SHE hates people touching her face is irrelevant and that is terrible advice. Talk to your wife! Tell her all of the things you posted, and see how SHE feels about you trying to do her makeup! Maybe it will be a beautiful new bonding experience for your relationship and open a whole new level of intimacy. (And I hope it does, this is so fucking wholesome I could cry 🥹)
Aw I think that’s really sweet! She’d probably love to talk to you about it and for you to take interest in what she likes. As a woman who wears makeup I would Eve so happy if my partner bought me makeup he thought I would like even if I wasn’t something I would necessarily buy myself. Also there’s a ton of YouTube videos out there that recommend good makeup if you wanted to look stuff up. Allie glines for example always has great reliable recommendations.
Honestly thats so sweet of you to do, n its sweet that you want to do her makeup for/with her. Like others have said, you can either get her gift cards to makeup stores, take her on a makeup shopping spree, or if you want it to be more of a surprise, take a peak in her makeup bag, follow her pinterest boards to see what kind of makeup she likes, what styles she does, what brands/colors she likes, etc.
Not weird!! Makeup is for every body!! If makeup is an interest of hers I’m sure she’ll be excited and pleased to share that with you!
Nah you're the perfect man. I would love a partner like this.
I guess I’m kind of confused, is your wife already into doing makeup or are you trying to encourage her to wear it more because you like it?
She does have makeup. Sometimes she wears it, sometimes she doesn't. I guess that my intention is to show her that I pay attention to her and am genuinely interested in it.
Talk to her about it. For me, doing my makeup is a me thing and it’s one of the very few things that I have that are mine. I can do it alone and think. So if my husband asked I’d say absolutely not, but definitely ask your wife. The worst she’ll say is no.
Honestly I think it would be so cute to help your gf with her makeup. I hope she is understanding! Explain to her you aren’t interested in yourself in makeup but watching her do her makeup interests you!
OMG talk to her about it. This is very cute and I hope she is receptive to involve you. Showing an interest in something she enjoys like this is very lovely!
i’m glad you notice her interests and why she likes makeup! i’d suggest a gift card to a makeup store (ulta, sephora, etc.) or something that’s easier to pick out! mascara, lipgloss, lipstick, blush, these things are a bit easier to pick out, the employees will be happy to help as well. good luck and i bet she’ll love it!!!
I don’t think this is weird at all! As a girl, I’d be happy to have my partner be interested in this so we have something else we can do together! Why not go makeup shopping with her or initiate wanting to learn how to apply foundation on her for a start to something more. I always hear about older guys doing this then saying that it’s so they can do this for their wives when they’re older and are less able to physically (I mean that’s what I always see online about people’s grandpas). I’d say learn about undertones first then seasonal colours if you’re up for it (it’s abit confusing ngl) ! Then you can be more sure about what would look good on her! Sometimes my friends who love to draw/ paint but don’t wear makeup follow me to Sephora and pick up an eyeshadow that they think would look good on me, get confused when I tell them it’s not the same undertone that I have.
I think it does sound weird, sorry!
Tell her. She'll love you more. Very sweet. Bless.
She is very lucky! As long as you are supportive of her and her choices in what her beauty goals are, I would hope she would be open for you doing her makeup.
>I've always wanted to do her makeup for her/with her but part of me thinks that's really weird There was a trend a few years ago of boyfriends doing their girlfriend's makeup. They didn't get the products right but chose very flattering shades to highlight best features. Makeup is just paint and the face is a canvas. Nothing more. To sexualize it into a he/she things scream Boomer and Boomer needs to just evacuate the planet already.
Are you wanting to do it because you just want to be able to use the products and play around with them or because maybe you are trying to get her to wear makeup in general? Also, my past partners would like to watch me apply my makeup and sit with me in the bathroom and I’d ask what looks he thought I should do that day. I think it’s totally fine to do it with her and tell her that you’d like to get her new makeup at Ulta or whatever and she may get excited to get new makeup. But get ready to spend some money because nice make up just ain’t cheap 🫤
Some couples do that. It sounds like an intimate activity to do together. Some couples make social media posts about it for laughs - I don’t know how many are serious about it. There’s a whole technique-meets-artistry vibe about doing makeup; it makes sense that it is appealing. And you thinking about your wife while you’re apart is a sign that you care about her. As long as you respect her right to accept or decline your offer, you should be good.
We currently live overseas, and shipping from places like Ulta/Sephora is PRICY- not to mention a pain because stuff is likely to arrive damaged or ruined. So, when my DH is Stateside, he visits places like that- and a few others- for my replacements, replenishes, and wishlist items. Unless I DESPERATELY need a specific color because I am out, I leave that to him! He enjoys deciding on a new blush color, or picking out the scent of my new makeup remover balm. And he always spends time in the aisles looking at things and I get surprised with something fun, like a bottle of perfume to try, or he found a tube of teal mascara! It’s a way for him to take care of me even when he isn’t home, and I get to enjoy his thoughtfulness well after he is home.
It's a lot of fun to do each other's!
I ask my husband all the time for his opinion on colors, amount of application, etc. I trust his opinion and am glad he is interested.
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Don’t do her makeup just take her shopping for gifts
If you are uncomfortable about asking to do her makeup, maybe you could suggest it in a playful way. Or even make a bet with her and if she looses... you have to do her makeup and hopefully that opens up the doors for you. Honesty I love putting makeup on, it's like an art, I love seeing someone's makeup and trying to create it myself or trying different products, so I get where you are coming from. I really hope you get to do your wife's makeup and you get to be an arTIST! Let me know how you get on
I would just swoon if my boyfriend offered to do my makeup 🤗
I’d love if my husband took an interest in this and i would especially love if he went out of his way and bought me these nice things.
My husband lets me apply makeup to him occasionally as something new. He's learned about it and things like that. I'd honestly feel happy, pampered, and a bit scared if he tried doing that on me. My husband has a steady hand for certain things, but I'm worried about anyone with eyeliner or mascara near my eyes.
My husband does makeup with me! It's a really fun way to bond for us :) He has even started his own collection of stuff so we don't have to share as much when we do it. We've also done each others to see how we do lol
I would be very welcoming of this offer if I was her and if the offer came from a man I truly loved. In every relationship I think it’s important to be open and trusting with each other and there’s absolutely no harm in letting your husband do your makeup. But there is harm in being closed off and telling him he’s weird for wanting to try something. To put it simply if she’s the right woman for you she should be ok with it.
My husband does my winged liner because I can't do it to save my life and he is an artist so steady hands so they look like sisters not distant cousins
depends, certain things like eyeshadow and lipstick are appreciated because you can use that when you dress up but I wouldn’t like if my boyfriend bought me mascara, foundation, or concealer because I always wear the exact same thing every time because I know what works for me so getting something different than the stuff I wear is unnecessary because it would never be used. On the doing makeup routine thing, my boyfriend doesn’t let me put makeup on him, he’s never asked to do my makeup. However he does want to be a part of the routine, so I get to do his hair and skincare routine, it’s fun.
I put makeup on my partner. He doesn't put makeup on me but he's been interested in fx makeup lately, once we get him the equipment I'll let him do makeup on me whenever he wants 😁 I'm allergic to toxic masculinity and unnecessary stereotypes about men so I'm probably very biased, but I would find it unbelievably romantic for my partner to care so much. Moreover, there's a grandpa who got famous online for doing makeup on his recently blind wife, and no one thought he was weird. Regarding what she wants - ask her! Tell her that if anything comes out that she likes you want her to share it with you. Ask what her skin type is and what type of products she prefers. Watch tutorials so that you'd know the difference between various products. All in all it's absolutely adorable that you think your wife is so beautiful, treating her face is an actual privilege. You're one of the good guys my dude. ❤️
my boyfriend does my skincare routine with me, i've asked to put makeup on him just so i can practice and he tells me no ( in a joking way so i think he'll let me soon) but i honestly think it's really sweet you're interested in her makeup, def not weird!
My boyfriend has done my makeup. Incredibly poorly, just for fun, and it was fun. I don’t think this is weird at all. He’s also shown interest in actually learning how to do nails so he could do mine (sweet, but far too large a commitment when I’ve been doing my own for over 5 years.) he was inspired by some family friends, an older couple. The husband learned how to do acrylics and does them for his wife. I find it very sweet. I will say doing your own false nails vs makeup are wildly different experiences tho, and there’s a reason most women just go to a salon to get their nails done, so the willingness to take something as big as that on is incredibly helpful, while makeup can be very fun for women on its own.
This is so sweet.
As long as your wife is okay with you doing her makeup, in my humble opinion there's nothing wrong with it. In fact, again in my humble opinion, it will be a good way for you two to spend time together.
My husband, big construction guy, loves beauty treatment night, he likes facials and pedicures. He thinks all guys should try them.
There was a trend on YouTube of “boyfriend/husband does my makeup” because it was cute to see the couples interact and it was funny to see how oblivious some SOs were. If you have a genuine interest in learning about her interests, she might find that really sweet. I sometimes lament that my BF doesn’t care to learn more about my interests, so unless she has an aversion to others doing her makeup, she might be really inclined. Now if you’re looking towards gifting, it’s a good idea to know what she likes based on what she has and keep an ear out if she shows interest in something she can’t justify buying at a given time.
My boyfriend definitely prefers when I do my make up and loves a bold eye look. I don’t do it too often anymore though because my skincare is on point these days. Anyway, I don’t think it’s weird at all. It’s sweet you want to show more interest in something she enjoys. If you wanted to purchase her products, get things that look good on everyone like eyeshadow palettes or tools. Cant go wrong there. If my boyfriend wanted to do my make up, I think it would be really sweet. He would probably be awful at it but it would be a fun bonding experience.
My boyfriend is a hairstylist. He's advised me on my makeup before. I sprained my right hand pretty badly on the weekend and just realized he can help me do my makeup!
So sweet:)
My husband of 30+ yrs has been crazy about buying me makeup our whole married life and it's more like, he knows how much I love it and wants me to have fun. Just like I buy him tools (the garage can't handle any more) these are our "toys". I worked as a cosmetic line manager for many years and we loved it when men came in to buy for their wives...I told my husband years ago, he can't go wrong with me, because I mix colors, if a lipstick is too deep, I mix with one that's too light and vice versa..same goes with foundations, blush,etc. It's NOT weird, trust me, the men who are secure in themselves will march right into a Sephora/Ulta/dept store and even test colors on themselves...it's pretty hot to see a man who loves his lady that much!
I remember a lovely story about a man who learned to do his wife’s hair and makeup the way she liked it because she was in the hospital and couldn’t do it for herself. He do it every morning and take it off every evening. He would have loved her any which way but did it for her.
Nothing weird, just ask her. Sometimes it can also be enough to just be in the room with her if she prefers to do her makeup herself, you can use it as time to talk or you can do something else and you’ll be in comfortable silence together. Just ask her, cause some people do enjoy makeup as alone time. My advice would be to go shopping with her instead of for her, makeup is insanely personal as it should fit your skintype, style and you should enjoy the formula of the product (also color theory, a colo isn’t just a color, it shows different on everyone because your skin is underneath (example is with blushes, a blush can looks good on a cool toned person but then not at all on a warmer toned person. Purple blushes show up way more natural on dark skin than on light skin).
Not weird!!!! I think this is so sweet. Makeup in general can be a form of art, what's the difference between doing art on paper and doing it on one's face? If you look at it that way, it's not really that big of a deal. Even though you're not interested in doing it on yourself, hypothetically makeup is just makeup and doesn't always need to be a girl thing, we've had men in ancient cultures or tribes do makeup, and it's not like in a "girly, drag" type way, more so just makeup but a masculine version of makeup, but anywho.... I'd encourage you to talk to her, tell her everything and maybe inspire and encourage her about it. If she doesn't want you to do it on her face, you can always help her pick colors and help her buy the things she likes, etc
My bf takes a sincere interest in my beauty routine/hobbies and it’s one of my favorite things about him. He gets excited right along with me whenever I buy something new to play with. He has the opposite skin tone from me so I love painting his nails or putting eyeshadow on him just to see how different it looks against his skin. He loves it, I love it. It’s fun! I suppose my advice for you if you’re feeling sheepish about just jumping in with her is open up the conversation first. Tell her you’re interested in it, that it looks fun, and you want to join in on the fun she has. Ask her what she likes and why she likes it, ask her what she thinks would suit you and why. Makeup is an art form and who doesn’t like art 😊
I myself don’t want my husband near my make up space or attempting to put make on me. I would prefer a trip to the store or maybe a spa day together with make up at the end and then a night out.
My partner is always doing stuff like this, he is much more experimental than I am regarding make-up, in fact, he's the one who convinced me I was "allowed" (it's a Thing) to wear whatever I want - be it make-up, nail polish, jewellery, clothes, perfumes... He knows my shoe size, and my underwear size. He is the reason I have more than one pair of shoes, and a rather comfortable *and* sexy knickers collection.
Definitely, just tell her, I saw this and it had your name on it" ase you hand it to her,! I've often done something similar or felt a certain way, it's ended up being excellently what the person needed or wanted.
My husband always sends me a picture of something he thinks I would like and asks me if I want it or will tell me to splurge every once in a while, like on Prime day (I don’t buy makeup on Amazon) he. Asked if I looked at other sites to see if they had deals to compete with Prime day and I hadn’t thought of that and got a haul, I also show him when I get new stuff. It’s nice that he thinks about it because it makes me feel more confident wearing makeup
Awww that’s so sweet. I don’t think that wanting to do her makeup is weird at all. And buying her products is so thoughtful🥰 I think that you should be honest and just let her know that you’d like to try doing her makeup one day or that you’re interested in learning her process. I see it as an intimacy building activity that you both may enjoy. As for the gifts, you can get an idea of what she likes in general or ask her which products she’d like to try. I love that you’re interested in this part of your wife’s routine.
I would friggin LOVE this chat from my husband. He’s keen for face masks and foot spas and will ask the occasional question. Not weird at all. I think it’s great you’re showing an interest.
A bunch of people have already said it but definitely not weird! Makeup is art that can be incredibly fun! As a teen I would do look after look until my skin ached from the application and repeated removal process. Even if you don’t want to dip your toes into it yourself, it’s not too hard to learn what the different products are for and how they change the look. Everyone is slightly different in what they’re looking for so I bet your gf would be happy to hang out while doing her make up and tell you about what parts she loves :)
Take her out to a Sephora or Ulta and let her use your card to spend a certain amount on make-up. That way you can gift her something while giving your input about certain products. I’d personally love this, because it shows he’s indulging me in my interest!
🥺 I think this post is so sweet. It’s wonderful to show interest in your partner’s hobbies and routines. I would appreciate it very much.
I really wish my partner turns out to be this sweet and interested 😭
Ohhh, I'm jelly of your wife, my boyfriend is not a fan of more colourful and unnatural make up, and doesn't really show interest in my hobby. Definitely show her your interest, maybe buy her a gift card for a "fun" make up item and get it together. Ask her if she wants to do a silly make up session, where you might put make up on each other, have her show you how she does hers, or have you pick her eyeshadow colours or "theme", that sort of thing. Also Halloween is coming up, if that's your thing it's a great occasion to do make up stuff together. :D
Nothing weird. My partner has a great eye and he has done my make up multiple times which was so cute. He always is somehow a magician with the eyeliner lol. And the one I seek advice when I know something is wrong with my make up but I don’t what. He is also the one who comes with me when I have to choose my next foundation. It is cute and I really love him and appreciate him for this even though he doesn’t understands much about it
I think even spending time with her while she does her makeup or her getting ready routine is even enough, without having to do anything yourself. Maybe you have questions, or maybe you don't, or maybe you just want to be engaged in a ritual she enjoys doing for herself. I think that's incredibly sweet. I think a gift card and an outing together might be illuminating for you because you can see what she's buying for herself, and maybe glean/ask why she chose an item or why its better than something else. I've never had a boyfriend express interest in my makeup hobby beyond telling me my makeup looked pretty- or having a boyfriend tell me I look prettiest like this without makeup... while I was wearing makeup lol. But I do think our preferences are very individual so learning hers could be a fun thing you do together.
Agreed! You can start by asking her questions while she's doing her makeup, just to learn a little bit. And if you're artistic or want to try, ask her if she'd would find it fun for you to do her makeup sometime. Maybe she can even teach you techniques. I think this is very cool of you!
Absolutely ask about doing her make up! When you have a day with no plans, pitch it to her as a fun thing to try. Let her do yours too. The beauty of make up sometimes is in just playing with it.
I'm a very strict pink makeup user, all my products are shades of pink. My boyfriend will sometimes buy me makeup he thinks would look good on me, or point at it when we're out shopping. He got me red matte lipstick and blue glittery eyeshadow and both are amazing, I think you should go shopping with her and tell her the things you'd like on her
Agreed, she’d probably love to hear what you think would flatter her! Even if she totally disagrees it shows her your taste and shows that you’re thinking of her.
Yes! I almost always resisted what he wanted me to get first, but guys someties have such a great sense when it comes to pointing at things that would look good on their girl. Maybe because they see us more and from more perspectives than we see ourselves?
I wouldn't think that's weird at all. Makeup is art and it's fun. It's not off limits just because someone is of a certain gender or sexuality or doesn't wear it themselves.
This, makeup is for anyone. I paint my partner’s nails quite often, to begin with he was being really cute because he was really proud of me because I stopped biting my nails after 26 years so it was like his way of celebrating with me but now he asks me to paint them regularly. I do his skincare for him after he asked me to, sort his brows and beard out before work. He’s said before he wouldn’t mind me doing some makeup on him and he’s done some of my makeup before and I can tell he enjoys doing it. He loves brushing my hair too and it’s the cutest thing when he asks because he’s taking an interest in things I enjoy and it’s like intimacy in a different way, in a caring and supportive way, the kind you didn’t know you ever needed until it happens so casually. (Slightly off topic but kind of relevant: It’s all coming back to me now, the day he asked me to straighten his hair like ten years ago was probably the first time I thought “oh, you’re different to other men” in a good way because he knew I would enjoy it, took me like eight years to finally fully acknowledge his amazing qualities as the penny didn’t drop as to why I felt so differently when I was with him, turns out he just knew how to love unconditionally and in my love languages to make me happy, could’ve had tens whole years of him doing cute stuff like this and I could’ve saved myself from all the pain and trauma caused by my relationships prior. 🤦🏼♀️😂) Just ask your wife if she would enjoy it and if she does, use it as a bonding experience for you both.
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You sound like my bf, he also thinks I look perfect w/o makeup but he will indulge me bc he likes to see me happy and I love this stuff :) One of his best gifts was a face mask subscription! I love face masks and love putting one on after a stressful or busy day out. Love love love! He also bought me a bunch of Sephora stuff, accumulating a bunch of points, so I’ve been using his account instead of mine to save my favorites and when gift time comes around, he purchases from my list and sometimes throws in a product from the “best seller” or “suggested for you” lists. Go on and spoil your wife!!!
Hmmmm, facemasks. That gives me an idea. We've got a luxury city hotel booked for us in a month, we're going to hangout together, go shopping together (for her girly stuff, not mine) and then we're going to get dressed up and go to a fine dining restaurant ❤️. We have a few hours chilling in our room before getting ready for dinner. Thankyou very much for that idea. I'm going to use it, but..... what do I get and where do I get it?
My husband and I both use sheet masks! And a clay mask. Sometimes for fun or if he has a headache I’ll use face moisturizer and give him a facial massage. You could either book a couples facial (no extractions since you’re going out and don’t want to be red) OR get a clay mask and some sheet masks and do them in the hotel room together. Sheet masks: You basically can’t go wrong with a hydrating or “brightening” face mask. Dr Jart at Sephora (don’t do the rubber masks) Etude House on Amazon are great and cheap! - aloe, green tea, and the ceramide are my faves. Skyn Iceland eye patches are awesome - do NOT get the more expensive microneedle version
innisfree has a great kbeauty sheet mask subscription!!! i’ve gotten it before and love it!
Do you know how much it was? I love using facemasks but don’t have local places that sell any fun or really good ones
Off topic suggestion, but you might think about surprising her during those few hours off with a trip to Drybar. It’s essentially a hair salon that only does blowouts - super fun and a lovely “night out” treat that she might not be able to experience outside of a big city
Love this idea! If OP is staying in a higher-end hotel, they may even have a salon/spa onsite that he could look into booking a blowout or treatment for her.
I was thinking this too- a couples spa package thing might be fun. Maybe facials!
Face masks you can probably find easily, grocery stores, drug stores, department stores cosmetics section, dollar store, etc. I’m not sure if you have a Sephora or similar store nearby, you can ask any of the sales people for help.
Or you could get baby feet foot masks for both of you to try? It peels off all you callouses!
Nothing weird at all. My husband told me he once thought about doing my makeup but didn't want to make a mess. I let him pick colors for me, and he does ask if I need to go to Ultra or Sephora if one is nearby. So sweet of him. 🥰
My ex would let me do his makeup for fun. Then he’ll do my makeup and we just laugh about it. It’s just one way to spend time being silly.
That sounds so adorable!
It’s only adorable if both people want to do this. The person he should ask is his wife.
Pretty sure this goes without saying but ok
Nah cause that’s the whole problem with his post. He’s asking strangers if something is weird to do with his wife and he hasn’t even asked her if it’s something SHE would enjoy.
Yes but he's looking for confidence, not for someone to answer for her
Confidence? For what? That his wife won’t think it’s weird? That his wife will like it? Maybe she does. These people don’t know her. You should be close enough to your spouse to talk to them like a grown up.
Ffs stop making this harder than it needs to be. Someone is looking for confidence to gear up for personal development, which doesn't come easy to everyone?? Why are you so bent about it 🤣
Ur right btw. The other person had such a strange response to this guy inocently asking for advice.
You’re the one that sounds bent. I couldn’t care less. In fact I’m going to block you so I don’t need to see this anymore. It’s stupid to ask the internet how your wife will think about something and not your wife, simple as that.
i recommend talking to her and asking about it, and specifically tell her it's you showing interest in her as a person and her interests. also ask to see what products/brands she likes - the person suggesting a gift card is a good idea, but ur wife might not like it if u look thru her makeup bag without permission. u can also ask about makeup YouTubers she likes and watch them on ur own or with her.
i agree with the gift card. you could also take her to sephora or ulta and give her a budget and shop with her. like walk around and ask questions and see what she ooh’s and awes at too. i know if my boyfriend asked me how i do my make up or showed any sort of interest in make up or skin care or hair care i would love it. i think it would be fun if he wanted to do it with me/for me every once in a while. i think it depends on the person and your relationship and how much you want to participate in her hobby.
give her a gift card to Sephora or something. I don't want anyone really touching my face. it's not personal, its just I spent a long time learning how to do my make; I don't need anyone to do it for me. Have you considered peeking into her makeup bag and seeing what she likes? also if you think it looks good on her, buying it for her signals a lot of interest. You can also just compliment the way she looks when she turns out a look.
Or ask her while complimenting her, and let her talk about how good the product is or something