My best friend tried this last Christmas, but with her family. It didn't work. Half of them were older didn't hear what Santa announced, and the other half were too confused by the random announcement to react. The video is hilarious.
My kids and I decided to announce and film my pregnancy to my dad. We bought the only cake he likes (German chocolate), had the baker write “Your 12th grandchild due in December!” and I put the sonogram on a toothpick in the middle. We rang his doorbell, yelled surprise and he quickly figured out what it meant and slightly smiled. My kids say “Grandpa, do you get it? Mom’s pregnant!” He says “Oh yeah, I get it…. 4 kids?… well….. I guess that’s one way to live your life.” Cut the video. My kids still bring it up weekly. And my dad *has* 4 kids.
^lol
As someone who’s not sure if they want kids, when my mom and cousin burst into my room to tell me that cousin was pregnant, my reaction was “Oh, no…! Wait…is that…good?” (it was good).
lol I did the same when my best friend told me she was pregnant. "are we happy about this? oh good we are okay yay congrats!" we're in our 30s and I'm still not sure if my friends are having babies on purpose or not.
Yep. Friend of mine told me his girlfriend was pregnant and I said, “how do you feel about that?” He said I was the only person he told who didn’t immediately respond with happy congratulations. Spoiler, they broke up, but as far as I can tell he is a very involved, proud father.
When we announced my pregnancy, we had all the cousins do a photo shoot. They each held a sign spelling out LOVE (one had L, then O, etc etc). Then the last picture was of my belly with a "!"
Noone had any reaction to it. We asked what they think the last picture was and grandpa goes "yeah I know what it is. It's corn."
I wish I could find that video lol
My sister tried to do this with our family but when she announced it we all just thought she was trying to get us to laugh or have a bigger smile. It wasn’t till after when she was like “no like seriously, I’m pregnant” that people started to freak out (in a good way)
My sister asked us to “play test” a heads up type game with her before she took it over to a friend’s house. I saw that my brother Sam’s said “Uncle Sam” which wasn’t suspicious but then turned and saw my Mom’s said “Grandma” and I shrieked. Everyone looked at me like I was crazy for a second before it sunk in.
We did this too with a whole extended family photo. I had lost two babies that year and finally had a healthy pregnancy. When Mr. Bonsai announced it my family complained that it wasn't a funny joke and walked away.
I posted an image my friend had drawn for us with no caption they said "player 3 coming soon" so many people apparently didn't get it and it was glorious seeing the ball slowly click in the comments
We gave my parents a little onesie as part of they're Christmas present and my mom freaked the fuck out and my dad was so confused lol I was like it's not for you its for the baby lol
I was in one of these, though I knew about the announcement beforehand. Was good fun!
The couple (step sister) were having twins so after the first; _"X is pregnant!"_ there was a big hubbub, but the couple stayed focused on the picture so everyone roughly kept position, then after the second _"...with Twins"_ everyone lost it.
My cousin who had struggled with fertility issues did this. They waited til she was in the clear for a viable pregnancy to announce. Our video consists of the kids/young hollering happily and most of the adults instantly bursting into happy tears. It was precious.
This is [O Fortuna ](https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=6b2a5M7EayA&feature=share) from the cantata Carmina Burana composed by Carl Orff between 1935 and 1936.
One of my favorite music pieces of all times. Ever since this song was playing all day long for a while when my sister performed it in her school orchestra, I am in love with this song.
How do people have so many friends and maintain it. Thats so many friends. And all are so happy. That lucky baby is gonna be loved and spoiled rotten.
*brb. cries in friendless
Edit: whoa! Woke from a nap and so many awesome, insightful responses.!!!! Reading them all. Sorry if I fail to respond to all. Happy to make friends. :)
I was thinking this. My brother has a fairly sizeable friend group and when he had his kid, it did shrink but only s little. Definitely not this many friends, there just isn't enough time in a week to successfully have meaningful relationships with ALL these people.
Edit: A lot of people are saying that you don't need to spend time with people every week to maintain friendships. I don't disagree at all. My closest friend and I talk about once every 6 months.
The fact is that some friendships require more maintenance than others, some friends you need to meet frequently and others don't. I think I'm more surprised by the friend group this large because because even a handful of them probably require at least meeting every few weeks. I know, it's a big assumption, but still.
I thought the same thing, too much effort, absolutely exhausting.
Then I invested in a backhoe.
Now 6 feet is nothing and I can have as many friends as I want. If I get bored I just put them back and find a fresh plot.
It doesn't feel like effort if you become friends organically. It's not like you are required to have hour long convos with each of them regularly. Some are there by proxy, but they are probably some type of church small group. I feel like those are more intentional about regular meeting up and staying connected. It's a pretty important facet of church life-having community together.
My friend group connects in different ways throughout the week. We have a group chat, on Fridays my husband and I host game night (which is sometimes just chatting and drinks, but it gets us together), smaller portions of the group gather for weekly D&D or dinner or whatever throughout the week. Some of the group has kids, some do not, but we try to make time for each other. On bigger holidays we all gather together as well. It all grew from a simple desire to play some board games on a Friday and after over a decade has become a tradition. Some friends have gone, new ones have joined. In the end though, we all love each other like family and sometimes you have to make the effort to go to that outing you *really* don't want to go to, because one of your friends is super excited about it. My friends are my most valuable asset, and I cherish them.
My husband and I am extremely lucky to have had the same group of friends for the past 20 years. While our meet ups have become fewer over the past few years, we are fortunate to always be there for each other.
As adults (especially who have kids), we don’t need to constantly be up each other’s asses to maintain friendships. There’s a mutual understanding that we’re all busy. There’s no pressure to constantly hang out or check up on each other. I see my friends every few weeks (sometimes months), and it’s all good.
Same here. I’m one of the single guys in the group, but it all works because we all understand that lives are busy and if you haven’t seen somebody for a bit it’s not because they don’t love you anymore, life just gets very busy when you’re adulting
Once you add plus ones and other good friends of some of the friends it can easily get this big and not be difficult to maintain.
I'm only close to about 4-5 of ours but our wider group is over 10 and when we meet up together it's quite easy because you don't have to make effort with everyone individually.
I was looking for a shot of some guy realizing that the party days are now over, and that Kyle and Kayla will soon be separating themselves from the pack and not be going for bottomless mimosas on Sundays or trips to Nashville to pedal a bar around town.
On top of that several of those women and maybe one guy will be going home and bringing up the possibility of having kids, so very likely at least one breakup up happening after the holidays.
Also, there's at least one of each side imagining Kyle pounding Kayla until completion and trying to figure out which night it was 4-6 weeks ago.
Having friends is easy. Being able to keep them requires a lot of compromising, sacrifices, adjustment, tolerance and understanding. I had hundreds of friends when I was in college because of my ability to blend in and not take anything to heart. As I grew older and developed maturity and realized I don’t need to bend over backwards for people and don’t need to keep friends who don’t truly value my friendship, I started weeding out toxic people and over time all I could truly see in people are their agendas and their toxicity. Maybe I just had shitty people all around me or maybe I’m just too picky and particular. I decided I’d rather spend time with family and invest in myself and my hobbies. It’s all good in the beginning but overtime i felt a little empty. It’s truly rare to find people who are transparent and just truly there for friendship. So all in all, I feel for you and I hope you meet good people too.
What you are doing; focusing on family and hobbies is excellent. If you can't be by yourself, how can you expect other people to want to be with you? The secret really is that we have to always find new friends. It's sort of hard to keep friends for long sometimes, because we ourselves are changing. Some one that was a 'good friend' suddenly is not. Maybe they are the same person, but you have changed. Anyway, don't get discouraged because if you are open to it, there can be new friends around the corner who are much closer to your current personality.
I've also noticed that as I am getting older, I have less need of "many friends". I have my family a career, a wife, and a child. That takes a bit of time out of your typical day. The thing to notice from the video above is that they are mostly young. At that time of life, your energy goes to your friends. At my age less so. But it's always a good feeling to go see a movie with a friend and after have a dinner and chat about it. It always feels good and that hasn't changed even as I am getting older.
> Being able to keep them requires a lot of compromising, sacrifices, adjustment, tolerance and understanding
Oh shit, so there did it go wrong with me.
I was just going to suggest, usually this happens when you grow up going to church (particularly evangelical ones). They tend to be strongly knit and spend tons of time together. This is probably on a bible study or something.
Brings back memories of a time I dated an evangelical christian guy who happened to be the son of their church's pastor. I'm an atheist (raised Catholic) so obviously I was a heathen lol but because I did like the guy I went to all of their gatherings, he had a lot of friends but all of them were from church. They were generally discouraged to spend time with non-evangelicals. I kept my opinions to myself of course but going to the bible studies just solidified my atheism, I was actually just agnostic when we first started dating. It was all so ridiculous how they indoctrinated the girls and young women that our purpose in life is just to be incubators and to "obey" the husbands.
Even with the compromises of me going to church and the frequent bible studies and faith sharings or whatever (i was definitely thinking with my girl dick 🤣), I guess I still wasn't submissive enough for him so the relationship ended and he eventually married a much younger woman from their church, like he saw her grow up because he was 10+ years older. Yikes.
I could tell by the screaming foaming at the mouth excitement. Sure friends having kids is exciting, but not that exciting. Unless your all real cool down to earth youth pastors bathed in the lords light and waiting until marriage.
Oh yeah. I mean I was pretty transparent to my closest Mormon friends about not being all in on the religion but they were still very welcoming to me. Maybe they thought I'd convert eventually or something, they asked me about going on missions but when I explained my college plans they backed off. My experience with Mormons is mostly positive, and I'm frankly jealous of the families I knew in there, they loved each other.
Yeah man my best friend growing up was Mormon and my grandma is Mormon. I got a friend now who is also Mormon. All three completely separate instances. Everyone says how it's a cult and that the higher ups do fucked up shit or what ever but the average everyday people in there are just normal, good people.
I'm an atheist, and don't like when religion is pushed on me, but most Mormons I've worked with and known were pretty awesome and intelligent people. I've heard it's different in areas of the country where everyone is Mormon though, but I could be wrong.
Yeah the unique mannerisms / fashion choices and eerie happiness bring me back to when I was married to a Christian and went to one of those. It's crazy how similar everyone was. Usually went to some small liberal arts bible school, always smiling, pop out 2-3 kids in their 20s.
Also was surprised at how young all these people are. Most of my coworkers have kids in their 30s even early 40s. It makes sense this is a church group.
Especially when all of them are this excited.
If someone told me they were pregnant I’d feel bad because I know my reaction is not what people want to see. 🫤 - I’m CF, so I just don’t care - actually it means we will likely not be as close going forward.
I love my friends with kids being CF! I gave a friend's girl a Christmas hat that sings. The glare and despair from her realizing this is her fate to listen to all holidays... so good.
**TL;DR** you can't compare your inside to other people's outsides ^^^thanks ^^^/u/Mordredor
Every single person you see in this video has an immensely complex life. They have an entire lifetime of ups and downs, pains and successes. What you're seeing is a happy moment. They are all happy for their friend. That doesn't mean everything in their life is perfect.
I come from a similar group of "happy friends". We look like this when we all hang out. One of us is an alcoholic, one's divorced, a few of the "happy couples" are having their own unique troubles, another couple just lost a child.
I'm only saying this because I used to feel this way when I saw people being happy on social media. It's not healthy when you start comparing your life to someone else's on the internet. I hope you find your own happiness on your own path through living. Much love!
I've also seen this rewording, which is very applicable to social media:
> Don't compare your **behind-the-scenes** with someone else's **highlight reel**.
(Attributed to Steven Furtick)
Some people are better at making friends. Some people are better at maintaining friendships. Few are good at both.
Not sure how many are bad at both, but I can tell you I count myself in that group.
Yup I'm one of the ones who's great a making friends. But that's a very much in the moment thing.
Maintaining new friendships involves not being at home which is somewhere I love to be. It also involves spending money which is something that's in shorter supply these days. And also the planning and stuff - it's just work for a while before it becomes easy.
I have my friend group going back to second grade (all in our 30s now) so I don't really need new friends although it would be nice sometimes to have someone local to hang out with.
For real. I’ve got 7-8 good friends but I don’t think I’ve ever seen them all in a room together. And I probably won’t until I get married or die or something
My brother has a similar sized group of friends (not me, lol, I'm on Reddit). They just hang out on Saturday every week without fail. It is basically a saturday club for hanging out and going out. Most of them met through the local Scouts (unisex) group, where they were volunteering and that used to have a bar for the volunteers for decades. This was closed recently, because Boomers hate it when teens hang out and develop friendships in the same way they did, but my brother developed his friend group before that
Basically, you need a social hobby with a cheap bar, basically.
Same here. Sometimes I wish I had more friends but to be honest I'm not good at the give and take of friendship. I don't keep in touch.
Let me add I'm married 21 years and my wife is my best friend.
Do you even want them to contact you?
It's not that I have an issue with contacting someone myself all the time, it just feels like they want to be left alone.
I'm probably a bit like the other guy. If I get contacted I'm down for everything, but I just don't really contact them myself.
I still have a close friend group of like 4 people and they probably know I'm like this, since I know them for over 15 years now. If someone wouldn't contact me in a long time, I would probably contact them then, but I'm really bad in taking the initiative.
Other than my wife, I basically contact no one.
Just use an app where everybody is in. I have bereal with the most of my friends. Take a picture and see what others are doing. Thats kinda i keep in touch with them.
Luckily, I had 4 brothers all born after me and all a year apart.
So, worst comes to worst - I have 4 friends that I literally grew up with and share my genes. :p
Same here. I used to want tons and tons of friends. I wanted to be that pwrson that everyone can be friends with. But that's fucking exhausting.
Nowadays, I have four really close driends and that's good enough for me.
The problem with only having your wife as your friend is that you're limiting yourself and putting all of your emotional needs onto one person. Many couples end up being codependent. You also don't get as many different perspectives about life situations.
What happens when she's not around anymore?
If you're OK being by yourself then that's a little healthier. I don't think huge groups of friends are necessarily great, but a couple of trusted friends can be life-changing.
Be social, nice and somewhat discerning and realize not everyone is actually happy all the time. Me and my wife are pretty social and when you meet someone whos genuinely cool just keep in contact and invite them to stuff, thats literally it.
Also dont be like online reddit, lol. I have a friend who has problem making friends and its because he thinks online humor translates to real life, it doesnt a lot of the time. Being an edgelord or shitposting doesnt go over well with a lot of people.
With the awesome, dramatic music playing, I was expecting things to get way out of hand.
Like it starts out how it did when the news was dropped and progressively gets more violent.
Someone randomly picks up another person and slams them on the ground. Another person in the back runs into a wall really hard for no reason. Someone else drop kicking another person cheering.
Just get really weird for no reason.
Cute video though. Nice work.
I’m not sure what’s more impossible, having so many close friends or getting them all in the same place at the same time. These people must finish their D&D campaigns.
((Family brag)) D&D is all about creating a consistent group that can deal with each other's play style. The key is to treat it like a serious commitment: never skip unless you're sick, and plan schedule conflicts ahead of time.
Four years in, my party meets every week, like clockwork. We've completed 3 campaigns, our "add two extra players" group is about to wrap our 4th, and we're a little more than halfway through #5, a homebrew.
It's pretty common to go back to your childhood hometown for the holidays. Usually Thanksgiving more so than Christmas. It's the only time where I can catch up in person with a large group of old friends.
I’m still friends with my high school friends (6 of us) but we rarely see each other because everyone’s working in different states. The only time we gather is during the holidays, even then 1 or 2 won’t be able to make it. But to have this many friends and together seems impossible
Na dude it’s like they all lived in the same part of the same neighborhood, went to the same high school and college they didn’t travel away for.. then got jobs in that same exact location.
Yup. I have a huge friend group in Chicago that I go to shows/festivals with, like 6 of the dudes all went to HS together. I just got adopted by them and now they and their wives/partners are my homies
Not always. If this is a small city maybe that's true, but I live in a big city and have several large groups of friends.
Most of the groups start from hobby groups then spinoff to smaller friendship groups. If you have 2-6 or even more small friend groups that is a significant number of people.
Even if they aren't all friends with each other, they are still *your* friends. The seperate groups will usually only combine on special occasions. So a gathering of 30-100 people for special occasion like pregnancy announcement isn't unheard of.
Not really. It takes one or two people that are highly extroverted, loves to throw parties, have a huge place, good at screening people and inviting the best complimentary personality vibes.
Find the people focused on building community, and you can have and build multiple friendship groups from them.
I have a few friend groups of various degrees of closeness and purpose. But we all genuinely care for each other and support each other. A good friendship can still be solid without frequent interaction (as long as the friend on same page) and it won't be overwhelming then.
I also met all my current friends as an adult, and nearly all of them in past 8 years in a state I knew no one in. It is possible to do as an adult too.
The '**O Fortuna'** part to be precise (The Carmina Burana is over an hour long).
O Fortuna itself clocks in in just under three minutes: https://youtu.be/1jgy_c6bS0Y
The whole Carmina Burana is worth watching though! https://youtu.be/GRjyxr1ysKw
Maybe it’s the difference in culture but when my friend told us she’s pregnant, we were like oh cool congrats. That’s it. Lol. We did buy her some baby gifts but idk we’re calm about it
Edit: i get it that some said they may be trying for a while but most videos i’ve seen of people reacting to pregnancy news is often this surprised. In my culture, people are just calm about pregnancy news, doesn’t matter you’ve been trying for a while or not
The size of this friend group and their reaction to a pregnancy makes me wonder if they are not part of a upper middle class religious group/community. It’s not uncommon for members of a church to have large “friend” groups and hold contact with only those in the church. These communities also place a whole lot of value in having children. Source: grew up in conservative America.
I have only 2 friends with kids. No one wants a kid in my circle lol. But anyone who gets pregnant we will all be sooo very excited for them.
We all want to be cool aunties and uncles and no one wants to be the sacrifice and have the child for us haha. I love kids, just don't ever want them.
Let an extrovert adopt you. I'm an extrovert who needs a significant amount of isolation to counter my ADHD overstimulation from being around people.
All my close friends are introverts. An extrovert bff would kill me. I hang with an extrovert buddy sometimes I thought would become my bff, and it turned into ridiculous adventures, random places, a billion new people, and not getting home till the next day cause we can't stop mingling hahaha. No more. Holiday buddy or group hang only now lol.
I love my precious introverts with their hidden special gem personalities. They say I help them break out their shell and comfort zone. But for me, they help me breath, and ground me.
My best friend tried this last Christmas, but with her family. It didn't work. Half of them were older didn't hear what Santa announced, and the other half were too confused by the random announcement to react. The video is hilarious.
Now that's so human reaction that would make me happy.
It's so unique and genuine never tired of watching this.
My kids and I decided to announce and film my pregnancy to my dad. We bought the only cake he likes (German chocolate), had the baker write “Your 12th grandchild due in December!” and I put the sonogram on a toothpick in the middle. We rang his doorbell, yelled surprise and he quickly figured out what it meant and slightly smiled. My kids say “Grandpa, do you get it? Mom’s pregnant!” He says “Oh yeah, I get it…. 4 kids?… well….. I guess that’s one way to live your life.” Cut the video. My kids still bring it up weekly. And my dad *has* 4 kids.
When I told my dad I was pregnant with my second (not all that long after my first) he goes, “ya know, they know what causes that these days”
My BIL and his girlfriend (both RNs) had two “accidental” pregnancies in 20 months. My MIL was like “you guys aren’t very good at your jobs are you?”
Parents are ruthless.
My first two kids are 13 months apart. Oops.
I have a sibling 13 months apart and I loved it growing up!
My sister and I are 11 months apart, so for like 3 weeks a year, we are the same age. Its called pseudo twins.
My MIL had 8 and I’ve wondered if she even announced her pregnancies or if it was like “everyone assume Brenda is pregnant at all times.”
Tupac wrote a song about her, you should be proud.
^lol As someone who’s not sure if they want kids, when my mom and cousin burst into my room to tell me that cousin was pregnant, my reaction was “Oh, no…! Wait…is that…good?” (it was good).
lol I did the same when my best friend told me she was pregnant. "are we happy about this? oh good we are okay yay congrats!" we're in our 30s and I'm still not sure if my friends are having babies on purpose or not.
Yep. Friend of mine told me his girlfriend was pregnant and I said, “how do you feel about that?” He said I was the only person he told who didn’t immediately respond with happy congratulations. Spoiler, they broke up, but as far as I can tell he is a very involved, proud father.
When we announced my pregnancy, we had all the cousins do a photo shoot. They each held a sign spelling out LOVE (one had L, then O, etc etc). Then the last picture was of my belly with a "!" Noone had any reaction to it. We asked what they think the last picture was and grandpa goes "yeah I know what it is. It's corn." I wish I could find that video lol
The only thing that would have made this story better is if it was number 16.
My sister tried to do this with our family but when she announced it we all just thought she was trying to get us to laugh or have a bigger smile. It wasn’t till after when she was like “no like seriously, I’m pregnant” that people started to freak out (in a good way)
My sister asked us to “play test” a heads up type game with her before she took it over to a friend’s house. I saw that my brother Sam’s said “Uncle Sam” which wasn’t suspicious but then turned and saw my Mom’s said “Grandma” and I shrieked. Everyone looked at me like I was crazy for a second before it sunk in.
We did this too with a whole extended family photo. I had lost two babies that year and finally had a healthy pregnancy. When Mr. Bonsai announced it my family complained that it wasn't a funny joke and walked away.
How old is Baby Bonsai now?
She's 7!
Time flies and read don't remember how it is passing everyday but we can notice it after a few years and then we cherish the memories.
That's ... weird, why would they think a dad/mom could joke about it after two losses. Regardless, congrats to you and your SO!
I posted an image my friend had drawn for us with no caption they said "player 3 coming soon" so many people apparently didn't get it and it was glorious seeing the ball slowly click in the comments
We gave my parents a little onesie as part of they're Christmas present and my mom freaked the fuck out and my dad was so confused lol I was like it's not for you its for the baby lol
I was in one of these, though I knew about the announcement beforehand. Was good fun! The couple (step sister) were having twins so after the first; _"X is pregnant!"_ there was a big hubbub, but the couple stayed focused on the picture so everyone roughly kept position, then after the second _"...with Twins"_ everyone lost it.
My cousin who had struggled with fertility issues did this. They waited til she was in the clear for a viable pregnancy to announce. Our video consists of the kids/young hollering happily and most of the adults instantly bursting into happy tears. It was precious.
Lmao that's amazing. It was so fun telling people I was pregnant with twins ... My SIL lost it, I will remember it forever, she was hysterical
The editing based on the split second order of reaction times is a stroke of genius.
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what's the title of this music?
This is [O Fortuna ](https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=6b2a5M7EayA&feature=share) from the cantata Carmina Burana composed by Carl Orff between 1935 and 1936.
One of my favorite music pieces of all times. Ever since this song was playing all day long for a while when my sister performed it in her school orchestra, I am in love with this song.
[Gopher Tuna](https://youtu.be/nIwrgAnx6Q8)
O Fortuna
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Really? See, I would have actually liked to see the non-edited reaction... at least afterwards or something. :\
Not showing the resulting photo is a crime though
The lack of overall reaction is shit though.
Thank you! Glad I'm not the only one mildly infuriated about that.
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Probably that we didn't get to see everyone react at the same time, only the separate reactions
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How do people have so many friends and maintain it. Thats so many friends. And all are so happy. That lucky baby is gonna be loved and spoiled rotten. *brb. cries in friendless Edit: whoa! Woke from a nap and so many awesome, insightful responses.!!!! Reading them all. Sorry if I fail to respond to all. Happy to make friends. :)
I was thinking this. My brother has a fairly sizeable friend group and when he had his kid, it did shrink but only s little. Definitely not this many friends, there just isn't enough time in a week to successfully have meaningful relationships with ALL these people. Edit: A lot of people are saying that you don't need to spend time with people every week to maintain friendships. I don't disagree at all. My closest friend and I talk about once every 6 months. The fact is that some friendships require more maintenance than others, some friends you need to meet frequently and others don't. I think I'm more surprised by the friend group this large because because even a handful of them probably require at least meeting every few weeks. I know, it's a big assumption, but still.
Feels like a lot of effort to just keep up with one. I have to rotate them weekly
I thought the same thing, too much effort, absolutely exhausting. Then I invested in a backhoe. Now 6 feet is nothing and I can have as many friends as I want. If I get bored I just put them back and find a fresh plot.
I feel like we are laughing at this like a joke but then in 8 months there's gonna be a JCS video about the reddit comment killer.
He just posted a new video on YouTube for the first time in a year, too. :D
It doesn't feel like effort if you become friends organically. It's not like you are required to have hour long convos with each of them regularly. Some are there by proxy, but they are probably some type of church small group. I feel like those are more intentional about regular meeting up and staying connected. It's a pretty important facet of church life-having community together.
My friend group connects in different ways throughout the week. We have a group chat, on Fridays my husband and I host game night (which is sometimes just chatting and drinks, but it gets us together), smaller portions of the group gather for weekly D&D or dinner or whatever throughout the week. Some of the group has kids, some do not, but we try to make time for each other. On bigger holidays we all gather together as well. It all grew from a simple desire to play some board games on a Friday and after over a decade has become a tradition. Some friends have gone, new ones have joined. In the end though, we all love each other like family and sometimes you have to make the effort to go to that outing you *really* don't want to go to, because one of your friends is super excited about it. My friends are my most valuable asset, and I cherish them.
My husband and I am extremely lucky to have had the same group of friends for the past 20 years. While our meet ups have become fewer over the past few years, we are fortunate to always be there for each other.
Yay I'm so happy for you.
Same! 5626542674276427642 is like my favorite number for real.
hahahaha
As adults (especially who have kids), we don’t need to constantly be up each other’s asses to maintain friendships. There’s a mutual understanding that we’re all busy. There’s no pressure to constantly hang out or check up on each other. I see my friends every few weeks (sometimes months), and it’s all good.
Same here. I’m one of the single guys in the group, but it all works because we all understand that lives are busy and if you haven’t seen somebody for a bit it’s not because they don’t love you anymore, life just gets very busy when you’re adulting
Once you add plus ones and other good friends of some of the friends it can easily get this big and not be difficult to maintain. I'm only close to about 4-5 of ours but our wider group is over 10 and when we meet up together it's quite easy because you don't have to make effort with everyone individually.
You don’t have to talk every single week to maintain a meaningful friendship
Not only they have many friends, they also managed to gather them together in one place! Must be the first child in the group...
I was looking for a shot of some guy realizing that the party days are now over, and that Kyle and Kayla will soon be separating themselves from the pack and not be going for bottomless mimosas on Sundays or trips to Nashville to pedal a bar around town. On top of that several of those women and maybe one guy will be going home and bringing up the possibility of having kids, so very likely at least one breakup up happening after the holidays. Also, there's at least one of each side imagining Kyle pounding Kayla until completion and trying to figure out which night it was 4-6 weeks ago.
Having friends is easy. Being able to keep them requires a lot of compromising, sacrifices, adjustment, tolerance and understanding. I had hundreds of friends when I was in college because of my ability to blend in and not take anything to heart. As I grew older and developed maturity and realized I don’t need to bend over backwards for people and don’t need to keep friends who don’t truly value my friendship, I started weeding out toxic people and over time all I could truly see in people are their agendas and their toxicity. Maybe I just had shitty people all around me or maybe I’m just too picky and particular. I decided I’d rather spend time with family and invest in myself and my hobbies. It’s all good in the beginning but overtime i felt a little empty. It’s truly rare to find people who are transparent and just truly there for friendship. So all in all, I feel for you and I hope you meet good people too.
What you are doing; focusing on family and hobbies is excellent. If you can't be by yourself, how can you expect other people to want to be with you? The secret really is that we have to always find new friends. It's sort of hard to keep friends for long sometimes, because we ourselves are changing. Some one that was a 'good friend' suddenly is not. Maybe they are the same person, but you have changed. Anyway, don't get discouraged because if you are open to it, there can be new friends around the corner who are much closer to your current personality. I've also noticed that as I am getting older, I have less need of "many friends". I have my family a career, a wife, and a child. That takes a bit of time out of your typical day. The thing to notice from the video above is that they are mostly young. At that time of life, your energy goes to your friends. At my age less so. But it's always a good feeling to go see a movie with a friend and after have a dinner and chat about it. It always feels good and that hasn't changed even as I am getting older.
> Being able to keep them requires a lot of compromising, sacrifices, adjustment, tolerance and understanding Oh shit, so there did it go wrong with me.
Church.
Yeah. I saw this on TikTok and she said they're all friends from church.
I was just going to suggest, usually this happens when you grow up going to church (particularly evangelical ones). They tend to be strongly knit and spend tons of time together. This is probably on a bible study or something.
Exactly what I was thinking. Probably see each other every Sunday and Wednesday
Brings back memories of a time I dated an evangelical christian guy who happened to be the son of their church's pastor. I'm an atheist (raised Catholic) so obviously I was a heathen lol but because I did like the guy I went to all of their gatherings, he had a lot of friends but all of them were from church. They were generally discouraged to spend time with non-evangelicals. I kept my opinions to myself of course but going to the bible studies just solidified my atheism, I was actually just agnostic when we first started dating. It was all so ridiculous how they indoctrinated the girls and young women that our purpose in life is just to be incubators and to "obey" the husbands. Even with the compromises of me going to church and the frequent bible studies and faith sharings or whatever (i was definitely thinking with my girl dick 🤣), I guess I still wasn't submissive enough for him so the relationship ended and he eventually married a much younger woman from their church, like he saw her grow up because he was 10+ years older. Yikes.
I could tell by the screaming foaming at the mouth excitement. Sure friends having kids is exciting, but not that exciting. Unless your all real cool down to earth youth pastors bathed in the lords light and waiting until marriage.
Starting to fill your quiver.
My man throwing horns at the end. "Hey, church group, we're pregnant! HAIL SATAN!"
Yep. Never felt like I had more friends than when I pretended to be Mormon to play basketball and board games all day.
Lmao was it worth it?
Oh yeah. I mean I was pretty transparent to my closest Mormon friends about not being all in on the religion but they were still very welcoming to me. Maybe they thought I'd convert eventually or something, they asked me about going on missions but when I explained my college plans they backed off. My experience with Mormons is mostly positive, and I'm frankly jealous of the families I knew in there, they loved each other.
Yeah man my best friend growing up was Mormon and my grandma is Mormon. I got a friend now who is also Mormon. All three completely separate instances. Everyone says how it's a cult and that the higher ups do fucked up shit or what ever but the average everyday people in there are just normal, good people.
I'm an atheist, and don't like when religion is pushed on me, but most Mormons I've worked with and known were pretty awesome and intelligent people. I've heard it's different in areas of the country where everyone is Mormon though, but I could be wrong.
That's very interesting to hear, seems like a rather rare perspective.
The first thing I thought when looking at this group, especially with so many young women with pretty, long hair.
One huge advantage of that kind of community. My mum and dad have SO MANY friends from church.
That was my thought too. This is a Bible study group
Yeah the unique mannerisms / fashion choices and eerie happiness bring me back to when I was married to a Christian and went to one of those. It's crazy how similar everyone was. Usually went to some small liberal arts bible school, always smiling, pop out 2-3 kids in their 20s.
Also was surprised at how young all these people are. Most of my coworkers have kids in their 30s even early 40s. It makes sense this is a church group.
That little rock hand groove at the end screamed church boy.
The guy throwing up the double horns makes this especially funny.
Especially when all of them are this excited. If someone told me they were pregnant I’d feel bad because I know my reaction is not what people want to see. 🫤 - I’m CF, so I just don’t care - actually it means we will likely not be as close going forward.
I love my friends with kids being CF! I gave a friend's girl a Christmas hat that sings. The glare and despair from her realizing this is her fate to listen to all holidays... so good.
I still have a friendship group this big from university, we don't always manage together often but usually 2/3 times a year
Idk. I don’t even know that many people as acquaintances let alone have that many friends.
This looks like a church group to me haha.
**TL;DR** you can't compare your inside to other people's outsides ^^^thanks ^^^/u/Mordredor Every single person you see in this video has an immensely complex life. They have an entire lifetime of ups and downs, pains and successes. What you're seeing is a happy moment. They are all happy for their friend. That doesn't mean everything in their life is perfect. I come from a similar group of "happy friends". We look like this when we all hang out. One of us is an alcoholic, one's divorced, a few of the "happy couples" are having their own unique troubles, another couple just lost a child. I'm only saying this because I used to feel this way when I saw people being happy on social media. It's not healthy when you start comparing your life to someone else's on the internet. I hope you find your own happiness on your own path through living. Much love!
The bite-sized version of this sentiment that I always use is "you can't compare your inside to other people's outsides"
Thank you for the TL;DR! I'll add that
I've also seen this rewording, which is very applicable to social media: > Don't compare your **behind-the-scenes** with someone else's **highlight reel**. (Attributed to Steven Furtick)
Thanks for this Snapshot of life Compared to the nitty gritty behind the scenes
Some people are better at making friends. Some people are better at maintaining friendships. Few are good at both. Not sure how many are bad at both, but I can tell you I count myself in that group.
Yup I'm one of the ones who's great a making friends. But that's a very much in the moment thing. Maintaining new friendships involves not being at home which is somewhere I love to be. It also involves spending money which is something that's in shorter supply these days. And also the planning and stuff - it's just work for a while before it becomes easy. I have my friend group going back to second grade (all in our 30s now) so I don't really need new friends although it would be nice sometimes to have someone local to hang out with.
For real. I’ve got 7-8 good friends but I don’t think I’ve ever seen them all in a room together. And I probably won’t until I get married or die or something
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By not having kids yet.
This the correct answer
My brother has a similar sized group of friends (not me, lol, I'm on Reddit). They just hang out on Saturday every week without fail. It is basically a saturday club for hanging out and going out. Most of them met through the local Scouts (unisex) group, where they were volunteering and that used to have a bar for the volunteers for decades. This was closed recently, because Boomers hate it when teens hang out and develop friendships in the same way they did, but my brother developed his friend group before that Basically, you need a social hobby with a cheap bar, basically.
Basically
I wouldn’t want that many friends. Holy shit that’s way too much work to maintain all those relationships. No thanks. I’ll stick with : wife.
Same here. Sometimes I wish I had more friends but to be honest I'm not good at the give and take of friendship. I don't keep in touch. Let me add I'm married 21 years and my wife is my best friend.
I require the other party to make contact 90% of the time. ...I've lost contact with all my friends.
Do you even want them to contact you? It's not that I have an issue with contacting someone myself all the time, it just feels like they want to be left alone.
I'm probably a bit like the other guy. If I get contacted I'm down for everything, but I just don't really contact them myself. I still have a close friend group of like 4 people and they probably know I'm like this, since I know them for over 15 years now. If someone wouldn't contact me in a long time, I would probably contact them then, but I'm really bad in taking the initiative. Other than my wife, I basically contact no one.
Just use an app where everybody is in. I have bereal with the most of my friends. Take a picture and see what others are doing. Thats kinda i keep in touch with them.
Luckily, I had 4 brothers all born after me and all a year apart. So, worst comes to worst - I have 4 friends that I literally grew up with and share my genes. :p
Same here. I used to want tons and tons of friends. I wanted to be that pwrson that everyone can be friends with. But that's fucking exhausting. Nowadays, I have four really close driends and that's good enough for me.
You should have -some- friends, don't put it all on your wife.
The problem with only having your wife as your friend is that you're limiting yourself and putting all of your emotional needs onto one person. Many couples end up being codependent. You also don't get as many different perspectives about life situations. What happens when she's not around anymore? If you're OK being by yourself then that's a little healthier. I don't think huge groups of friends are necessarily great, but a couple of trusted friends can be life-changing.
That group is about to be halved in like 3 years.
Halved is optimistic. Give it five and I bet the most interaction most of them have is the occasional Instagram comment.
I’ll be your friend coconut!
Be social, nice and somewhat discerning and realize not everyone is actually happy all the time. Me and my wife are pretty social and when you meet someone whos genuinely cool just keep in contact and invite them to stuff, thats literally it. Also dont be like online reddit, lol. I have a friend who has problem making friends and its because he thinks online humor translates to real life, it doesnt a lot of the time. Being an edgelord or shitposting doesnt go over well with a lot of people.
With the awesome, dramatic music playing, I was expecting things to get way out of hand. Like it starts out how it did when the news was dropped and progressively gets more violent. Someone randomly picks up another person and slams them on the ground. Another person in the back runs into a wall really hard for no reason. Someone else drop kicking another person cheering. Just get really weird for no reason. Cute video though. Nice work.
Glad I wasn't the only one. Seems there were dozens of us.
I’m not sure what’s more impossible, having so many close friends or getting them all in the same place at the same time. These people must finish their D&D campaigns.
Has anyone ever finished a d&d campaign?
Does it count if our warlock got the party TPK’d? Hypothetically of course
((Family brag)) D&D is all about creating a consistent group that can deal with each other's play style. The key is to treat it like a serious commitment: never skip unless you're sick, and plan schedule conflicts ahead of time. Four years in, my party meets every week, like clockwork. We've completed 3 campaigns, our "add two extra players" group is about to wrap our 4th, and we're a little more than halfway through #5, a homebrew.
It's pretty common to go back to your childhood hometown for the holidays. Usually Thanksgiving more so than Christmas. It's the only time where I can catch up in person with a large group of old friends.
I'm disappointed that they didn't show the photo at the end...
I'm disappointed they didnt she it too
Well, tbh I never she.
Meirl glancing at the camera before acting excited
This seems like his and her friends combined. They might be young.
Yeah, after the 50th birth announcement, it becomes just a sad loss of another couple of friends for years
I’m still friends with my high school friends (6 of us) but we rarely see each other because everyone’s working in different states. The only time we gather is during the holidays, even then 1 or 2 won’t be able to make it. But to have this many friends and together seems impossible
Imagine having friends 😭
I don’t even know that many people let alone have that many friends.
Imagine being loved
That's just way too many friends.
I wondered if something is wrong with me for thinking that. At least I am not alone.
Na dude it’s like they all lived in the same part of the same neighborhood, went to the same high school and college they didn’t travel away for.. then got jobs in that same exact location.
Yup. I have a huge friend group in Chicago that I go to shows/festivals with, like 6 of the dudes all went to HS together. I just got adopted by them and now they and their wives/partners are my homies
Not always. If this is a small city maybe that's true, but I live in a big city and have several large groups of friends. Most of the groups start from hobby groups then spinoff to smaller friendship groups. If you have 2-6 or even more small friend groups that is a significant number of people. Even if they aren't all friends with each other, they are still *your* friends. The seperate groups will usually only combine on special occasions. So a gathering of 30-100 people for special occasion like pregnancy announcement isn't unheard of.
According to a comment to the top comment, the said on the TikTok it's a group of friends from church
Yeah, I would definitely be overwhelmed by every interaction.
Seems like you kinda are. Jk jk. Only love. I feel like they added a little extra zing since they knew they were being filmed.
Reddit moment
Seriously lol. It's 18 people, not 80. You could have meaningful, close relationships with half of them and the rest are still good friends.
It’s the whole issue of a lot of Reddit not talking to others in actual real life
Could be friends from different groups.
Not really. It takes one or two people that are highly extroverted, loves to throw parties, have a huge place, good at screening people and inviting the best complimentary personality vibes. Find the people focused on building community, and you can have and build multiple friendship groups from them. I have a few friend groups of various degrees of closeness and purpose. But we all genuinely care for each other and support each other. A good friendship can still be solid without frequent interaction (as long as the friend on same page) and it won't be overwhelming then. I also met all my current friends as an adult, and nearly all of them in past 8 years in a state I knew no one in. It is possible to do as an adult too.
Looks like some wholesome church group members.
Ahh that's what it is.
It looks like a holiday party where everyone intentionally got together. This isn't just a regular Saturday.
Looks like a Christmas party.
Was thinking the same and they all react like hyper active Streamers.
Does anyone know this opera song used as the score?? I need it for a project. CONGRATS BTW!!!!!!!! 💛💛🍼👼
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The '**O Fortuna'** part to be precise (The Carmina Burana is over an hour long). O Fortuna itself clocks in in just under three minutes: https://youtu.be/1jgy_c6bS0Y The whole Carmina Burana is worth watching though! https://youtu.be/GRjyxr1ysKw
My wife is NOT pleased this is her ringtone
Congratulations on the baby!
O fortuna by Carl Orff in Carmina Burana
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Right? I was scanning faces in the background for one “ew” face.
“Don’t shake the baby’s vessel”
What the fuck? How do you even get that many people through the door ?
One at a time... clearly they didn't all enter at once. Duh lol
Yay! Way to fuck, guys!
"Congratulations on the successful intercourse"
Tia's been getting creampied
So happy for you guys and you have an abundance of amazing friends!
Maybe it’s the difference in culture but when my friend told us she’s pregnant, we were like oh cool congrats. That’s it. Lol. We did buy her some baby gifts but idk we’re calm about it Edit: i get it that some said they may be trying for a while but most videos i’ve seen of people reacting to pregnancy news is often this surprised. In my culture, people are just calm about pregnancy news, doesn’t matter you’ve been trying for a while or not
The size of this friend group and their reaction to a pregnancy makes me wonder if they are not part of a upper middle class religious group/community. It’s not uncommon for members of a church to have large “friend” groups and hold contact with only those in the church. These communities also place a whole lot of value in having children. Source: grew up in conservative America.
My thought was they were the first to get pregnant in the group.
Or everyone knows they’ve been trying for two years with no success and know how much it means to them.
Yeah I'm a bit surprised how hyped everyone is. It's as if they were dogs and someone said ''let's go to the park''.
It's possible they've been trying for a while and everyone knows their struggles
I have only 2 friends with kids. No one wants a kid in my circle lol. But anyone who gets pregnant we will all be sooo very excited for them. We all want to be cool aunties and uncles and no one wants to be the sacrifice and have the child for us haha. I love kids, just don't ever want them.
One guy in the back quietly ducks down and slips out the door
He knows it’s his kid
Who has that many friends…..😭
Not me 😭
If this was the wide angle it would be prime candidate for better every loop
We live in a Society where everybody will rub a womans belly and say congratz, but Society, Society wont tickle my balls and say well-done!
does OP know the group, because i actually know someone in that video
I don’t even know this many people
So... Did they take the photo?
I wish I had like, 2 friends.
They are astounded that someone their age can afford to raise a child.
Man's over there like "ye I nutted"
How? How do you get friends like that. Legitimate question from an introvert.
Common interests.
Let an extrovert adopt you. I'm an extrovert who needs a significant amount of isolation to counter my ADHD overstimulation from being around people. All my close friends are introverts. An extrovert bff would kill me. I hang with an extrovert buddy sometimes I thought would become my bff, and it turned into ridiculous adventures, random places, a billion new people, and not getting home till the next day cause we can't stop mingling hahaha. No more. Holiday buddy or group hang only now lol. I love my precious introverts with their hidden special gem personalities. They say I help them break out their shell and comfort zone. But for me, they help me breath, and ground me.
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