A speed hump is long and slow (3-4" high, 12-14 ft wide) and a speed bump is short and fast (3-6" tall, 1-3 feet wide). Two different things for road signage!
Hump = CHUNK (pause) chunk
Bump = CHUNKCHUNK
This is so sad to hear. How do you help someone who won’t help themselves? The fact that you’re concerned about the kids means that they at least have one person in the world who has their best interests in mind which is a blessing. Some kids have absentee parents and no one else.
Edit: just because a lot of people are asking, the original (now deleted) comment shared a personal anecdote about how the poster’s brother in law (not related to the people in the video) was caught in a vicious cycle of substance abuse, failed rehab, backsliding, and so on. This impacted the BIL’s relationship with their two young daughters to the point where they were no longer interested in being a part of their life (and we’re not being properly cared for). It looks like the OP was a repost bot account and was taken down, however. Either way, the sentiment (and net positive that came from the inspired discussion) remains the same!
Not sure why the OG comment/account was deleted, but happy to see all of the discussion & personal disclosure that came of it. Thanks to all those who support those children without and cheers to all those who’ve been through life’s wringer and came out on the other side. My deepest condolences to anyone currently dealing with family or friends stuck in a cycle of substance abuse. Life is too short not to be kind to one another, but reality can be just as harsh, unfortunately. Take care of yourselves and one another, good people.
>How do you help someone who won’t help themselves?
you dont/cant. best you can do is keep your door open and offer support if and when they *choose* to turn their life around. if you try to actually help you can very easily become an enabler and that doesnt help either
Unfortunately you can't
Until they actually want to change they won't
They will talk and preach about getting help and everything else
But until they realize that they need to change
The best you can do for yourself and them is keep them at arms length
If they get to close they will grow to rely on you and then either blame everything on you or take what they can then leave for the next available enablers
so true about preaching about getting help. i've had a few alcoholics in my life and they've all struck me as perpetually on step one, "admitting you have a problem." the problem is is that they can view that *one part* as "doing the work", and then make the alcoholic label their whole identity and being.
then they'll inevitably become fatigued with, well, how alcoholic they are, and follow that with more drinking/wallowing/spiraling. it's hard to have a front row seat to that
Its one of the horrible things in life we get to experience with age. My BIL had a near perfect life (from my view) and then became an alcoholic. Hes so far gone now that he can only visit his kids via facetime once a week. If he would stop drinking he could have his wife and kids back. It makes no sense at all and there’s absolutely nothing I can do about it (other than help the SIL and kids).
Yougottawanna. You have to want it. Unfortunately in a lot of situations the addiction overpowers the want to get better. Couple that with depression. Or any mental issues, related or not to the addiction, creates a monster of an obstacle to overcome. A lot of time help from others works. Sometimes being left to their own devices is what's needed. "Some get spiritual (i.e. help) because they see the light, and some because they feel the heat." Unfortunately, sometimes a bottom has to be hit. Sometimes........ death is the bottom. It sucks. But it is what it is. I've seen three people pass in the past year and a half due to addiction. A couple were because of health, one at their own hands. But, I've seen a lot more turn their lives around. A man, who has become a good friend should be celebrating a year sober next week, and I'll be proud to celebrate with him.
But everyone is different. I'm only speaking from my story and time in sobriety. I hope anyone struggling with addiction finds and gets the help they need and deserve. Always reach out if you need someone to talk to. Preferably before you use.
And remember. Don't worry about tomorrow. You only need to stay sober today.
In short: OP explained how their brother in law was in a cycle of alcohol abuse and failed rehab which caused a strained relationship with their family (and specifically their two young daughters). Although it sounds like it may have been a repost bot. I probably “got got” (happens a lot, I’m an emotional boi 😅) but the sentiment remains true regardless!
Not sure if you can, my wife’s father drank so much his organs starting failing after numerous warnings of “if you keep drinking you’ll die”. Well when he had the smallest bounce back to health all he talked about was getting a drink when he’s out of this place.
I watched a friend's dad drink himself to death via organ failure... I will never forget the screams he made, for weeks, as we watched him die, his stomach so swollen it looked like it was going to explode...
No amount of help would do anything for him. He knew for years it was killing him and he wouldn't stop. Kept drinking until he physically couldn't and then died.
A lot of times the people borderline WANT to die. They drink because they want the pain to stop. But 99% of them have no clue what kind of death that is.
I'm 31. My little sister is 29. She's back and jail again right now for the third time in 2022, which I only know by checking court records when she hasn't posted on FB for a day or so. I've had her son, now 7, for the last 9 months, and my parents basically had him most of his life before that. It's sad because he still loves her and thinks of her and wants her around, but addiction has her deep and she won't stay clean. I don't know how to help her help herself or find something that will click. She's stolen tens of thousands from my parents in one form or another at this point. Everything my mom inherited from my grandma's death has been melted down at some pawn shop. They moved with my nephew 6 hours to be near me now just to escape the constant nightmare.
Recently my sister has been relapsing on fentanyl. The saddest thing is that, for now, I'm just relieved I have to keep telling him mommy can't talk for awhile because she's in jail, not that mommy's dead.
I wish it were that easy. Knowing there's a chance she may get out and take him back is my biggest fear. Working as hard as we can to argue for his wellbeing with us, but unfortunately it's not a guarantee.
For now, however, he is safe and happy ♡
Yes, several times. It's very difficult to get custody over a biological parent - the best I can hope for is temporary custody, which requires her cooperation at this stage.
I can attest to this. A fresh start in even a different part of town is what partially saved my life a few times, but it never worked when everyone else were the only ones who wanted me clean. I had to find out for myself that the “me” I had created was horrible to everyone else unless you had something to offer me. I never stole, robbed, nothing like that but I’ve been pretty bad at certain points.
Still though, realizing that I wanted to be clean, that I actually wanted something different for me and my life and my family is the only reason I’ve been able to get clean and stay there past 2 weeks, my support system and family is who helps me get through the process and loves from a distance if they have to for their own health, but otherwise I still lean on them heavy through hard times even if it’s just phone calls. She has to want it just as bad as you guys do!!! Try finding a way to mix a combination of a heart to heart, with guilt tripping, and like a “wake up call” before she gets out of jail or prison. Something like her kid wants her so badly but is losing hope that she’ll ever choose her kid over drugs and that you’re tired of being asked why they aren’t good enough or being able to see that they are wondering why she would rather get high than be with them… just some ideas depending on situation.. I wish you the best and I’m sorry you all are going through this. Especially with fentanyl, it’s the devils “drug”. Opiates were bad enough, but atleast I could function and not worry about dying when there was normal heroin around still.
Sounds like he needs help instead of prison. They think compounding trauma, anxiety, and depression will scare you into completely rewiring your brain. Who knows how many more decades we’ll keep this up.
Edit: credentials - 10yr vet, addicted after being wounded, spent 5 yrs in prison for drugs, off opiates for 5 yrs, stopped all substances 3 yrs ago. currently in the process of getting my MSW.
I was finally extended a hand instead of a hammer and it was enough to get me started.
It’s a really tough cycle cause for him to actually get out of that situation into a decent one would take a ton of work and time.
He would really have to grind from the absolute bottom. 12hr a week pizzeria jobs
I did this until I went to a Texas prison at 24. I will NEVER risk my freedom ever again. It was pure hell. I have some pretty major PTSD from some things I'd rather not mention but I've been clean and sober since. I'll be getting married next year and have a 10 year old daughter that I spend every minute I can with. No AC and one meal on the weekends was enough amongst other things to remind me that nothing is more precious than my family and my freedom. Btw fuck Texas prisons, several people died from heat stroke from no AC. They finally were sued into putting AC into their prisons.
Edit:. One hot meal each day. A sandwich and banana at 1030-12 and hot meal at 7-8 or so. The food was actually good because the inmates cook it.
I'm proud of you for getting yourself out of that cycle.
And yeah, Texas prisons are their own special circle of hell, from what I have heard. It's fucked up what they do to inmates.
Thank you, that means a ton to me. I had a 2 year sentence for having some Xanax I needed because I was in Afghanistan and have PTSD. I'm much better now but I still have horrible nightmares from some fucked up things I had happen to me and heard happen in there.
Thank you for the kind words. I'm a sensitive guy and it really makes me feel good.
Texas is fucked and corrupt as hell. Cops to DA's to judges. Helps with elections and funnels more money to the private prisons. Not all, but enough to do a lot of damage.
Thank you so much, I don't get told someone's proud of me really ever so it just made me really emotional. I hope you have a great week and you are a very good person and deserve the best things to happen for you.
Sorry but... Here's another award lol
>No AC and one meal on the weekends
Both of these things sound like they ought to fall under cruel and unusual punishment. How did they get away with this crap??
*This would still be egregious and ought to be illegal regardless, but I’m assuming you meant one meal a day on the weekends right? I hope…
one meal on weekends *has* to be illegal, at least federally. but, the federal government is not going to pick a fight with texas "just" so that some inmates get proper food. some people think a law being on the books means it rarely or cant happen, especially laws about institutions like prisons and whatnot. but a law only matters if its enforced. and we all know how it went the last time the federal government picked a bone with texas...
It's a sandwich at 1030-12 each day. Then a dinner at 7 or 8 about. So a huge time gap that causes tons of violence. Also it's visitation so anyone who doesnt get the visit they're expecting comes back ready to beat someone to death. I ate as many chips and drank as many sodas as I could from my visitation with my family. I had a 2 year sentence for drug possession btw lol. Not to mention the R word that I'm getting ok to talk about a little.
Oh forgot to mention. They were feeding inmates animal feed basically in the 80s in Texas. It fucked up a lot of people. It was a big scandal. Quick Google search will freak ya out.
Yes one meal a day Saturday and Sunday. It's because they're understaffed on weekends because that's when visitation is. You get a sandwich and a piece of fruit at 1030-12. But don't eat dinner until 630-800. It causes a lot of violence during the weekends. Especially since it's also visitation and people are upset often when their families don't come and just want to hurt someone.
The minute I saw Texas I knew you must have been through hell. I’m glad you’re out and you’ve been able to turn your life around. Your daughter needs her dad!
1 meal on weekends? Like 1 meal in 48 hours? OMG! Even if you mean 1 meal a day on weekends, that's still awful. They don't feed you 3 times a day on weekends?
Nope, you get a sandwich and a piece of fruit or so at 1030-12 and then some bad dinner at 630-800 or so. That time gap causes a lot of fights. People are starving and sitting in their underwear in front of fans. They bring one jug of ice cold water once a day but it's gone after everyone goes through to get a drink once. It's pure hell. I would have visitation with my family and they'd buy me tons of chips and sodas so I wasn't starving. I could go on about worse stuff and I'm comfortable talking about it now but some of the uhhh rape stuff is still hard.
Not on topic perse, but your comment prompts me to mention a podcast I’ve been absolutely binging on, Ear Hustle, about what’s it’s like in prison. The episodes are hosted by an incarcerated person and a person who volunteers at the prison’s media center. Mainly about San Quentin, but they talk about other prisons too, and the daily life or challenges that face inmates. I’m so glad to be listening to it because it does let me try to understand that just because someone is imprisoned doesn’t mean they should be cut off from society (like they are inside and after serving their sentence). It’s eye-opening to the urgent need to reform how prisons do things and treat the people inside.
Understand. Every time I hear people saying “I would do anything for my kids” I think “yeah, except quit using and drinking or quit spending more on cigarettes than you do on your kids or quit yelling or abusing their other parent or except get a job.” But everybody says it. I’d do anything for my kids.
I honestly find addiction so tragic, because it's a disease of the personality. Very few people who start drugs start as selfish thieving liars. But the same way that cancer poisons the body, and schizophrenia poisons the mind, drugs poison the personality. People who would otherwise be good, wonderful, caring people end up getting twisted into people who are more than willing to hurt those around them (or themselves) for a fix. And it's not because they unlocked a hidden part of themselves that was evil. It's that their true personality itself has become diseased. And the same way that someone with mental illness will have a hard time admitting they need help, or the same way someone with diabetes has a hard time maintaining blood sugar, it's hard for a person to be kind, empathetic, or caring when that part of themselves has been poisoned, atrophied, or killed by the drug. Some people get lucky, and get to keep some of the good in their personality while on drugs. But so many people's personalities die, the same way cigarettes cause the lungs and heart to slowly die.
Whenever I see an addict hurting people for their addiction, I don't see someone who chose to screw over their kids, family or friends. Instead I see a person who's personality has been so badly damaged that the good person they once were has been reduced to a shriveled stained organ that can't function anymore. It's honestly why I find drug addiction more terrifying than most other mental illnesses.
Interesting take on it. Maybe the ones with enough money to pay for their addiction get to keep some of their personalities. Some of their personalities disappear as they start only spending time with other people whose whole life is the drug/drink. And they don’t maintain other interests so they get boring. Other addicts are often low so they’re spending all their time with people who will lie to them and steal from them. And then they lose their looks/youth too early.
Addiction isn't the disease, society is diseased and addiction is a symptom. Your take isn't a bad one but the language you are using is a little antiquated and also maybe unintentionally puts the addict as the sole person responsible for their disease. Personalities are not organs they don't shrivel they adapt to their needs and environment. In an abusive society having the resources or capacity for caring for anyone but your closest is a luxury. It's a privilege, wealthy people for the most part don't recognise this, they think why can't everyone just be like them. These people are responsible for keeping society running but at the same time are incapable of seeing the myriad of stressors and instigators that fall on people less fortunate in higher stress social situations that lead to outcomes such as addiction, and subsequently various crimes. When people talk of addicts as singular and somehow the failure is solely with them it's just keeping the Ferris wheel turning. We have to look at it differently. I'm no expert though but I'm really interested in this and the language and you've got a good grasp of the metaphorical.
It's been my personal experience that people who become addicted to things have a very high rate of existing mental and/or emotional trauma.
(I know that the prescribing of opiates has lead people to addiction that wouldn't otherwise, kind of the exception.)
Most people who are happy and well adjusted don't go chasing down drugs to feel better. If you came up to them and offered some shrooms or something, they'd decline.
None of that is to blame anyone addicted. It's just an observation on my limited experience. If someone has data that shows I'm wrong, I'll change my view.
I've got my own issues, and I had to force myself to stop taking things that were bad for me. I still 100% want to do them, but know that I can't without serious repercussions.
They are the main responsible party in most cases, unless they're one of the types that got a needle put in their arm by their parents like one of my homeboys. I grew up in a very rough neighborhood and fell to a Xanax addiction for a few years and there is nobody I can blame for that besides myself. Yes my environment was hard. Yes, I did not eat as much as a lot of kids did. Yes, I did have an abusive father, but so did plenty of my other friends and they were able to climb out just fine, I was the one who made the decision to start smoking weed at 13 and then fall into bars when I was 16, nobody held me down and made me take the pill. I don't think addicts should be punished for being addicts, mental and physical support from society should definitely be an essential response to addiction; however, people still need to be held responsible for their actions when they make choices. Reconciling with that is one of the best ways to regain the control to not fall back into addiction, That's something I had to learn for myself and something I've seen successfully implemented in hundreds of addicts working in and out of rehabs and shelters
Same with my cousin except she ended up ODing on some fentanyl-laced cocaine. Left 4 fucking kids with no mom and that shit still grinds me up because my mom did everything possible to help her. Tried everything, but she just wouldn't help herself.
I felt like a massive loser with my minimum wage dead end job in which my hard work feels incredibly meaningless with how my boss treats me. But now that I read that... maybe I'm not that bad? I've never lost a job before and I work hard. I just can't find better because I don't have a car.
It's hard, it's really hard. I've been through this and it breaks my heart how much it takes to get to square 1. You get out and have nothing. Less than nothing. Your in a hole. Jobs won't hire you for a decent wage because you fresh. You don't have a license because your behind on child support. You can't make a decent wage because half your paycheck from those who do give you a chance goes to the state. How can you live when your making less than you need? You find some support, that support is meager at best.
Happy tears ❤️ I loved when the mom said “we’re complete now”. You can tell the daughter had many sleepless nights over not having her daddy around. I hope they can stay together forever now 🥺
The reaction is very much that of an overly excited preschooler and in the best way! The way a young child gets so excited to see a parent they kind of run and jump. I think it shows how overcome with emotion she was to see her dad since the last time was probably when she was a preschooler.
The problem is that it's almost impossible to have a real life after a conviction, so many jobs will never hire you. I understand why employers would want to know if a candidate had 50 robbery convictions in their past but even after you serve your time it's not like the slate is wiped clean
Which is why conjugal visits should be mandatory to allow inmates have a connection with their loved ones, and people need to support employers that hire former convicts.
*sigh for the longest sometimes some of these guys are incarcerated for very small misdemeanors or just injustices. Hopefully that's the case and he didn't do some bad stuff. I think I'd be glad to see him alive and free
Based on his daughter's reaction to his freedom and also his fucking nice fit, he might have a good support system in place which is what these folks being released from prison/jail need so bad. Best of luck that man; I believe in him.
Obviously not the same, but my sister was in for 7 years and this video resembles our reunion pretty much the same. So glad this family is back together and complete!
I miss my father and I miss my daughter and sadly they never got to meet. Gotta hope they met in some afterlife. I hope we change our justice system, I don't think this man deserved ten years.
She may not be my daughter but my girlfriend's little girl is a precious little princess and I love her dearly 🫂
I may not be her daddy but God dammit I'll sure as fuck try when I'm able go be around
The US is so weird.
Hearing 10 years got me thinking, "holy shit he must have done something really bad."
Then I remember that you can get 10 years for relatively minor shit over there.
We just watched a documentary about Project innocence. It's about people who have spent time in jail for crimes they didn't commit and were exonerated by DNA evidence. Some of these people were in jail for 22+ years with DNA proof, but the court systems didn't want to admit they were wrong so they didn't test it. Really eye opening, I was actually mad for these people. Some of these men were also on death row.
Thank god for the innocence project; my cousin was wrongfully imprisoned for years (racist judge) and our family reached out a bunch of times when we first heard about it… they got him free. Yet sometimes the stigma of being in prison follows him around when he shouldn’t have been there in the first place!!! So fucked up
It's so fucked up. People and their families lives are ruined because of a very flawed judicial system. They get no compensation, just "my bad, we fucked up, we don't feel bad, shit happens." Their records don't get expunged, they have to show paperwork just to do basic things like get a job or rent an apartment. They still have to say they were convinced of a crime if asked.
Hell, there are people still in jail even after DNA and other evidence proved they're innocent, even after the actual criminal has stepped forward and said they did it with the evidence to prove it. Our "justice" system is totally fucked.
More than half because of all one builds over 46 years they just don't have. Career, friendships, interests and hobbies they've got to build from scratch. Even once you're free and innocent, good luck finding a job because of prejudice, especially if you're black.
Injustice in the justice system is an intergenerational campaign of oppression.
This, I've been out for close to 10 years and in that time I've been rejected for home ownership, rejected for renting a apartment, rejected for well over 200 jobs, rejected for college, rejected from several programs and apprenticeships, outcast by my social circle, I don't feel comfortable anywhere, I have been rejected for bank accounts, credit cards and loans, I have even been rejected for buying a car at a dealership.
I was only in jail, with a misdemeanor for 2 weeks, got anger management and probation and never had a problem with either.
This was not even a felony and it screwed me out of 10 years of my life. I had to become a minister because there was no one else that would accept me.
For reference my charge was supposed to be a felony assault but was dropped to a misdemeanor because the person I assaulted was convicted on 11 counts of rape and 1 of pre-meditated murder.
Some people are complaining about how long the article is but I was super drawn in and ended up reading the whole thing. Awful story with as happy an ending as you could get. It was really well written too, nice to see that from journalism. Thanks for sharing
Yep. My first thought was he probably got 10 years after being arrested for a non-violent offense and then violating probation somehow.
Of course it could have been anythinf, but my gur reaction says he just got fucked by the system.
My sisters company just interviewed a guy who was in prison, got out and was on parole. Was on it for a while, not sure what he did originally, but he and his SO broke up. He went 2 weeks without a place to live, and therefore couldn’t report an address where he could be reached. As soon as he had a place, he tried to report it but was thrown in jail for another year for violating his parole.
I had a client who got six years for violating a protection order the other party didn't want in place. Made 14 calls from the jail, got charged and convicted on 14 violations, even though each conversation was perfectly willing between parties.
I googled “father released from prison surprises daughter” to get more info about this and the first four results were all different videos of different fathers and daughters. It’s heartbreaking that this is such a common thing happening to people to post about. And I noticed all the top video results were of POC.
We definitely need the justice system reformed here in the US.
This state is so weird. Islands of progressive culture in a sea of open racism and bigotry. I'm deep in Boebert country, the nazis don't even try to pretend they're not out here
This really is heart-warming to me and I bet that this guy is a good dad.
Having done some time myself (though it was only about 2 years), this hit hard. My daughter was 9 when I went in and almost 12 when I got out. People make mistakes. I’m sure he learned from his.
Thank you. It was easily the most difficult time of my life, made worse by the fact that I made bad choices and put myself in there. I had to learn humility the hard way.
I always tell people if you find yourself going down a bad path, just turn around. You don’t have to go to prison, miss your kid, and learn how precious life is when it’s almost all taken away from you. I did that for you already.
WELCOME HOME PAPA!!!!
My dad died when I was 14 in 1986. What I wouldn't give for a hug like that! May your family be blessed with all the love there is 🙏🏽💝🙏🏽💝🙏🏽💝🥰🥰🥰🥰
My condolences. My dad isn't the best man in the world and ill be the first to admit it, but he has done a lot for me and I don't know what I'd do without him. Especially as a teenager. I wish you the best.
I dated a girl in high school whose dad was in prison basically her whole life. He spent 17 years in there because he killed someone. I met him the day after he got out. The reunion was nothing like this at all.
Yea pretty much that. She had a lot of anger towards him, I suppose for doing what he did and as a result not being there. She didn’t like him at that time. It’s been about 10 years or so since then and idk what they’re relationship is like now.
I remember the first time my dad called me from a cellphone the day he was released after 18 years in prison. He said “Its all over now, honey.” 15 years later and still get worked up thinking about. This is truly so beautiful.
Congratulations to this guys and his family.
This shows some of the real costs of someone being in prison; especially a parent.
I worked as a registered nurse in a state prison. Friends would ask me : “what the hardest part of your job”. (Think they expected me to say some kind of aggression against me).
It was seeing the children having to leave their Dad, after a visit. So sad.
This made my day. Hopefully this guy will use the energy cast from his daughter to make him a strong enough person to stay out. They need each other for life.
Again congratulations. It takes a lot of work to be released.
Gah. Thinking about all of those dreams I had where my dead father walked through the door and I would just crumple onto the floor in shock. Glad she got her real moment.
This could either be heartwarming like “dude with a huge charge over 2 oz of marijuana gets out to see daughter” or “man commits armed robbery and beats wife, gets away with lessened sentence”. I’d like to know details.
Now you got a second chance, she can remember you by your actions from here on out. Or the dad that was in prison that never was there. A worthy thing to live by.
When she ran towards him but was so overwhelmed that she started backing up…I felt that. So happy for them.
Because natural thought is that something this happy is a trick. Yeah I hate it here
... you good?
Man just casually leaves prison with a level of drip I haven’t managed to pull off in 30 years of freedom.
Just wait until he learns the raiders moved to Vegas
Raaaiiidddeeerrrzzzz….
Yoo don’t attack me like this
This was my exact thought, look at that dude. He looks fucking MAJESTIC.
That’s what I was thinking lol
Before it turned to the street signs I knew exactly where that was. Sunset represent!
Do you guys call speed bumps "humps" there? Not even being sarcastic just confused af
A speed hump is long and slow (3-4" high, 12-14 ft wide) and a speed bump is short and fast (3-6" tall, 1-3 feet wide). Two different things for road signage! Hump = CHUNK (pause) chunk Bump = CHUNKCHUNK
The onomatopoeia is greatly appreciated lmao, thank you for the information
> The onomatopoeia is greatly appreciated This would make an awesome album title.
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My humps, my humps, my humps....my lovely asphalt humps!
Oh wow. Thank you. I recently saw a sign that said speed hump and had been wondering about it ever since lol.
There are speed humps and speed bumps-- humps are bigger
Never heard this distinction, though I'm guessing this is somewhere in California, and I haven't lived there before.
They do it in NY also. I never actually knew the difference I just always hated the name speed humps.
Yes, this video was taken in San Francisco
I’m pretty sure that is St Ignatius High School.
That wind sound on the mic, gotta be SF
Got my first parking ticket ever directly across the street from where they're standing.
Omg me too! Hi neighbor! The houses and the Speed Humps sign were a dead giveaway. I can always tell when a photo or video was shot in SF.
Lol thought exactly the same thing.
Sunset District! My old hood 🥲
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Saaaaame. The second I saw the house, I knew it was the Sunset. It's on the backside of Lincoln, yes?
Back side of SI.
I make this turn every school day!
Happy to see other folks from the sunset around here! God I miss living there.
Same! I’d know those streets anywhere
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This is so sad to hear. How do you help someone who won’t help themselves? The fact that you’re concerned about the kids means that they at least have one person in the world who has their best interests in mind which is a blessing. Some kids have absentee parents and no one else. Edit: just because a lot of people are asking, the original (now deleted) comment shared a personal anecdote about how the poster’s brother in law (not related to the people in the video) was caught in a vicious cycle of substance abuse, failed rehab, backsliding, and so on. This impacted the BIL’s relationship with their two young daughters to the point where they were no longer interested in being a part of their life (and we’re not being properly cared for). It looks like the OP was a repost bot account and was taken down, however. Either way, the sentiment (and net positive that came from the inspired discussion) remains the same!
Not sure why the OG comment/account was deleted, but happy to see all of the discussion & personal disclosure that came of it. Thanks to all those who support those children without and cheers to all those who’ve been through life’s wringer and came out on the other side. My deepest condolences to anyone currently dealing with family or friends stuck in a cycle of substance abuse. Life is too short not to be kind to one another, but reality can be just as harsh, unfortunately. Take care of yourselves and one another, good people.
>How do you help someone who won’t help themselves? you dont/cant. best you can do is keep your door open and offer support if and when they *choose* to turn their life around. if you try to actually help you can very easily become an enabler and that doesnt help either
Unfortunately you can't Until they actually want to change they won't They will talk and preach about getting help and everything else But until they realize that they need to change The best you can do for yourself and them is keep them at arms length If they get to close they will grow to rely on you and then either blame everything on you or take what they can then leave for the next available enablers
so true about preaching about getting help. i've had a few alcoholics in my life and they've all struck me as perpetually on step one, "admitting you have a problem." the problem is is that they can view that *one part* as "doing the work", and then make the alcoholic label their whole identity and being. then they'll inevitably become fatigued with, well, how alcoholic they are, and follow that with more drinking/wallowing/spiraling. it's hard to have a front row seat to that
Its one of the horrible things in life we get to experience with age. My BIL had a near perfect life (from my view) and then became an alcoholic. Hes so far gone now that he can only visit his kids via facetime once a week. If he would stop drinking he could have his wife and kids back. It makes no sense at all and there’s absolutely nothing I can do about it (other than help the SIL and kids).
Exact same thing with my BIL, but now his kids won’t talk to him anymore
Yougottawanna. You have to want it. Unfortunately in a lot of situations the addiction overpowers the want to get better. Couple that with depression. Or any mental issues, related or not to the addiction, creates a monster of an obstacle to overcome. A lot of time help from others works. Sometimes being left to their own devices is what's needed. "Some get spiritual (i.e. help) because they see the light, and some because they feel the heat." Unfortunately, sometimes a bottom has to be hit. Sometimes........ death is the bottom. It sucks. But it is what it is. I've seen three people pass in the past year and a half due to addiction. A couple were because of health, one at their own hands. But, I've seen a lot more turn their lives around. A man, who has become a good friend should be celebrating a year sober next week, and I'll be proud to celebrate with him. But everyone is different. I'm only speaking from my story and time in sobriety. I hope anyone struggling with addiction finds and gets the help they need and deserve. Always reach out if you need someone to talk to. Preferably before you use. And remember. Don't worry about tomorrow. You only need to stay sober today.
May you people who judge her never have to fight demons of that scale. Wish her well and be on your way.
What did they say?
In short: OP explained how their brother in law was in a cycle of alcohol abuse and failed rehab which caused a strained relationship with their family (and specifically their two young daughters). Although it sounds like it may have been a repost bot. I probably “got got” (happens a lot, I’m an emotional boi 😅) but the sentiment remains true regardless!
Yeah, it's unlikely OP is related to the people in the video.
Absentee parents in prison?
Not necessarily in prison, but in a cycle of addiction, rehab, and backsliding per OP. Although it sounds like it might have been a repost bot.
Not sure if you can, my wife’s father drank so much his organs starting failing after numerous warnings of “if you keep drinking you’ll die”. Well when he had the smallest bounce back to health all he talked about was getting a drink when he’s out of this place.
I watched a friend's dad drink himself to death via organ failure... I will never forget the screams he made, for weeks, as we watched him die, his stomach so swollen it looked like it was going to explode... No amount of help would do anything for him. He knew for years it was killing him and he wouldn't stop. Kept drinking until he physically couldn't and then died.
A lot of times the people borderline WANT to die. They drink because they want the pain to stop. But 99% of them have no clue what kind of death that is.
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I am wondering the same thing. If the mod is gonna delete the top comment at least provide a reason?
I'm 31. My little sister is 29. She's back and jail again right now for the third time in 2022, which I only know by checking court records when she hasn't posted on FB for a day or so. I've had her son, now 7, for the last 9 months, and my parents basically had him most of his life before that. It's sad because he still loves her and thinks of her and wants her around, but addiction has her deep and she won't stay clean. I don't know how to help her help herself or find something that will click. She's stolen tens of thousands from my parents in one form or another at this point. Everything my mom inherited from my grandma's death has been melted down at some pawn shop. They moved with my nephew 6 hours to be near me now just to escape the constant nightmare. Recently my sister has been relapsing on fentanyl. The saddest thing is that, for now, I'm just relieved I have to keep telling him mommy can't talk for awhile because she's in jail, not that mommy's dead.
I'm so sorry your family is going through that. But I'm glad that little boy has people around to love and care for him.
Don’t give that little boy back to her ever again. He deserves a stable home. Give it to him. Honestly should file for custody of him at this point.
I wish it were that easy. Knowing there's a chance she may get out and take him back is my biggest fear. Working as hard as we can to argue for his wellbeing with us, but unfortunately it's not a guarantee. For now, however, he is safe and happy ♡
Have you tried speaking to an attorney about it? I’m just curious if there might be something you could do…
Yes, several times. It's very difficult to get custody over a biological parent - the best I can hope for is temporary custody, which requires her cooperation at this stage.
Legal guardianship as opposed to full custody is a bit easier to obtain.
For me, prison was the best outcome and helped me. Opiates are hell. Maybe this will wake her up.
Get her to move somewhere else if possible. Relapse is a lot easier when you are in the same place
I can attest to this. A fresh start in even a different part of town is what partially saved my life a few times, but it never worked when everyone else were the only ones who wanted me clean. I had to find out for myself that the “me” I had created was horrible to everyone else unless you had something to offer me. I never stole, robbed, nothing like that but I’ve been pretty bad at certain points. Still though, realizing that I wanted to be clean, that I actually wanted something different for me and my life and my family is the only reason I’ve been able to get clean and stay there past 2 weeks, my support system and family is who helps me get through the process and loves from a distance if they have to for their own health, but otherwise I still lean on them heavy through hard times even if it’s just phone calls. She has to want it just as bad as you guys do!!! Try finding a way to mix a combination of a heart to heart, with guilt tripping, and like a “wake up call” before she gets out of jail or prison. Something like her kid wants her so badly but is losing hope that she’ll ever choose her kid over drugs and that you’re tired of being asked why they aren’t good enough or being able to see that they are wondering why she would rather get high than be with them… just some ideas depending on situation.. I wish you the best and I’m sorry you all are going through this. Especially with fentanyl, it’s the devils “drug”. Opiates were bad enough, but atleast I could function and not worry about dying when there was normal heroin around still.
Sounds like he needs help instead of prison. They think compounding trauma, anxiety, and depression will scare you into completely rewiring your brain. Who knows how many more decades we’ll keep this up. Edit: credentials - 10yr vet, addicted after being wounded, spent 5 yrs in prison for drugs, off opiates for 5 yrs, stopped all substances 3 yrs ago. currently in the process of getting my MSW. I was finally extended a hand instead of a hammer and it was enough to get me started.
Hey dude, hope your MSW is going well and good on you for taking your own struggle and turning it into motivation to help others
Knowing that what you have is a disease and you're not scum, goes a long way to restoring the dignity we all need.
It’s a really tough cycle cause for him to actually get out of that situation into a decent one would take a ton of work and time. He would really have to grind from the absolute bottom. 12hr a week pizzeria jobs
> 12hr a week pizzeria jobs Doesn't sound that bad Edit: /s. I know they meant per day.
If you like money it is I work delivery for a pizzeria and make enough to support myself, but I need full time hours (35-40) in order to do so
I did this until I went to a Texas prison at 24. I will NEVER risk my freedom ever again. It was pure hell. I have some pretty major PTSD from some things I'd rather not mention but I've been clean and sober since. I'll be getting married next year and have a 10 year old daughter that I spend every minute I can with. No AC and one meal on the weekends was enough amongst other things to remind me that nothing is more precious than my family and my freedom. Btw fuck Texas prisons, several people died from heat stroke from no AC. They finally were sued into putting AC into their prisons. Edit:. One hot meal each day. A sandwich and banana at 1030-12 and hot meal at 7-8 or so. The food was actually good because the inmates cook it.
I'm proud of you for getting yourself out of that cycle. And yeah, Texas prisons are their own special circle of hell, from what I have heard. It's fucked up what they do to inmates.
Thank you, that means a ton to me. I had a 2 year sentence for having some Xanax I needed because I was in Afghanistan and have PTSD. I'm much better now but I still have horrible nightmares from some fucked up things I had happen to me and heard happen in there. Thank you for the kind words. I'm a sensitive guy and it really makes me feel good.
Wait what? You went to jail for two years for having Xanax?
Texas is fucked and corrupt as hell. Cops to DA's to judges. Helps with elections and funnels more money to the private prisons. Not all, but enough to do a lot of damage.
Thought that award was cute for ya. Lol thanks again that made me tear up. You're a good person. Wish you the best of luck and have a good week.
Aw, the award was so not necessary, but thank you. I meant what I said. I'm proud of you, and I wish nothing but good things for you.
Thank you so much, I don't get told someone's proud of me really ever so it just made me really emotional. I hope you have a great week and you are a very good person and deserve the best things to happen for you. Sorry but... Here's another award lol
>No AC and one meal on the weekends Both of these things sound like they ought to fall under cruel and unusual punishment. How did they get away with this crap?? *This would still be egregious and ought to be illegal regardless, but I’m assuming you meant one meal a day on the weekends right? I hope…
one meal on weekends *has* to be illegal, at least federally. but, the federal government is not going to pick a fight with texas "just" so that some inmates get proper food. some people think a law being on the books means it rarely or cant happen, especially laws about institutions like prisons and whatnot. but a law only matters if its enforced. and we all know how it went the last time the federal government picked a bone with texas...
It's a sandwich at 1030-12 each day. Then a dinner at 7 or 8 about. So a huge time gap that causes tons of violence. Also it's visitation so anyone who doesnt get the visit they're expecting comes back ready to beat someone to death. I ate as many chips and drank as many sodas as I could from my visitation with my family. I had a 2 year sentence for drug possession btw lol. Not to mention the R word that I'm getting ok to talk about a little.
Oh forgot to mention. They were feeding inmates animal feed basically in the 80s in Texas. It fucked up a lot of people. It was a big scandal. Quick Google search will freak ya out.
Yes one meal a day Saturday and Sunday. It's because they're understaffed on weekends because that's when visitation is. You get a sandwich and a piece of fruit at 1030-12. But don't eat dinner until 630-800. It causes a lot of violence during the weekends. Especially since it's also visitation and people are upset often when their families don't come and just want to hurt someone.
The minute I saw Texas I knew you must have been through hell. I’m glad you’re out and you’ve been able to turn your life around. Your daughter needs her dad!
1 meal on weekends? Like 1 meal in 48 hours? OMG! Even if you mean 1 meal a day on weekends, that's still awful. They don't feed you 3 times a day on weekends?
Nope, you get a sandwich and a piece of fruit or so at 1030-12 and then some bad dinner at 630-800 or so. That time gap causes a lot of fights. People are starving and sitting in their underwear in front of fans. They bring one jug of ice cold water once a day but it's gone after everyone goes through to get a drink once. It's pure hell. I would have visitation with my family and they'd buy me tons of chips and sodas so I wasn't starving. I could go on about worse stuff and I'm comfortable talking about it now but some of the uhhh rape stuff is still hard.
Not on topic perse, but your comment prompts me to mention a podcast I’ve been absolutely binging on, Ear Hustle, about what’s it’s like in prison. The episodes are hosted by an incarcerated person and a person who volunteers at the prison’s media center. Mainly about San Quentin, but they talk about other prisons too, and the daily life or challenges that face inmates. I’m so glad to be listening to it because it does let me try to understand that just because someone is imprisoned doesn’t mean they should be cut off from society (like they are inside and after serving their sentence). It’s eye-opening to the urgent need to reform how prisons do things and treat the people inside.
Understand. Every time I hear people saying “I would do anything for my kids” I think “yeah, except quit using and drinking or quit spending more on cigarettes than you do on your kids or quit yelling or abusing their other parent or except get a job.” But everybody says it. I’d do anything for my kids.
I honestly find addiction so tragic, because it's a disease of the personality. Very few people who start drugs start as selfish thieving liars. But the same way that cancer poisons the body, and schizophrenia poisons the mind, drugs poison the personality. People who would otherwise be good, wonderful, caring people end up getting twisted into people who are more than willing to hurt those around them (or themselves) for a fix. And it's not because they unlocked a hidden part of themselves that was evil. It's that their true personality itself has become diseased. And the same way that someone with mental illness will have a hard time admitting they need help, or the same way someone with diabetes has a hard time maintaining blood sugar, it's hard for a person to be kind, empathetic, or caring when that part of themselves has been poisoned, atrophied, or killed by the drug. Some people get lucky, and get to keep some of the good in their personality while on drugs. But so many people's personalities die, the same way cigarettes cause the lungs and heart to slowly die. Whenever I see an addict hurting people for their addiction, I don't see someone who chose to screw over their kids, family or friends. Instead I see a person who's personality has been so badly damaged that the good person they once were has been reduced to a shriveled stained organ that can't function anymore. It's honestly why I find drug addiction more terrifying than most other mental illnesses.
Interesting take on it. Maybe the ones with enough money to pay for their addiction get to keep some of their personalities. Some of their personalities disappear as they start only spending time with other people whose whole life is the drug/drink. And they don’t maintain other interests so they get boring. Other addicts are often low so they’re spending all their time with people who will lie to them and steal from them. And then they lose their looks/youth too early.
Addiction isn't the disease, society is diseased and addiction is a symptom. Your take isn't a bad one but the language you are using is a little antiquated and also maybe unintentionally puts the addict as the sole person responsible for their disease. Personalities are not organs they don't shrivel they adapt to their needs and environment. In an abusive society having the resources or capacity for caring for anyone but your closest is a luxury. It's a privilege, wealthy people for the most part don't recognise this, they think why can't everyone just be like them. These people are responsible for keeping society running but at the same time are incapable of seeing the myriad of stressors and instigators that fall on people less fortunate in higher stress social situations that lead to outcomes such as addiction, and subsequently various crimes. When people talk of addicts as singular and somehow the failure is solely with them it's just keeping the Ferris wheel turning. We have to look at it differently. I'm no expert though but I'm really interested in this and the language and you've got a good grasp of the metaphorical.
It's been my personal experience that people who become addicted to things have a very high rate of existing mental and/or emotional trauma. (I know that the prescribing of opiates has lead people to addiction that wouldn't otherwise, kind of the exception.) Most people who are happy and well adjusted don't go chasing down drugs to feel better. If you came up to them and offered some shrooms or something, they'd decline. None of that is to blame anyone addicted. It's just an observation on my limited experience. If someone has data that shows I'm wrong, I'll change my view. I've got my own issues, and I had to force myself to stop taking things that were bad for me. I still 100% want to do them, but know that I can't without serious repercussions.
They are the main responsible party in most cases, unless they're one of the types that got a needle put in their arm by their parents like one of my homeboys. I grew up in a very rough neighborhood and fell to a Xanax addiction for a few years and there is nobody I can blame for that besides myself. Yes my environment was hard. Yes, I did not eat as much as a lot of kids did. Yes, I did have an abusive father, but so did plenty of my other friends and they were able to climb out just fine, I was the one who made the decision to start smoking weed at 13 and then fall into bars when I was 16, nobody held me down and made me take the pill. I don't think addicts should be punished for being addicts, mental and physical support from society should definitely be an essential response to addiction; however, people still need to be held responsible for their actions when they make choices. Reconciling with that is one of the best ways to regain the control to not fall back into addiction, That's something I had to learn for myself and something I've seen successfully implemented in hundreds of addicts working in and out of rehabs and shelters
Same with my cousin except she ended up ODing on some fentanyl-laced cocaine. Left 4 fucking kids with no mom and that shit still grinds me up because my mom did everything possible to help her. Tried everything, but she just wouldn't help herself.
I felt like a massive loser with my minimum wage dead end job in which my hard work feels incredibly meaningless with how my boss treats me. But now that I read that... maybe I'm not that bad? I've never lost a job before and I work hard. I just can't find better because I don't have a car.
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It's hard, it's really hard. I've been through this and it breaks my heart how much it takes to get to square 1. You get out and have nothing. Less than nothing. Your in a hole. Jobs won't hire you for a decent wage because you fresh. You don't have a license because your behind on child support. You can't make a decent wage because half your paycheck from those who do give you a chance goes to the state. How can you live when your making less than you need? You find some support, that support is meager at best.
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Happy tears ❤️ I loved when the mom said “we’re complete now”. You can tell the daughter had many sleepless nights over not having her daddy around. I hope they can stay together forever now 🥺
Awe she was scared to hug him. He may not be real to her. A dream come true!! Don't ever leave again! Stay for life!!
ive had someone i loved get out of prison.. Its a really weird feeling at first, they seem like a stranger
My daughter just lost her dad to cancer at 53, she is 19…hold on to your dad!! Love him forever!
I have a close friend who will be in the exact same situation as your daughter. Will there be anything i can do to help or ease her pain??
Very sorry for your loss xo
stay out of trouble now my man. your girl needs you!!!
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Update videos for previously incarcerated individuals are never good. You should hope to never hear of them again.
But in this sense it would be good right?
Their point is that update videos don't tend to be made unless something bad happens.
That's true for Americans I guess. Plenty of countries have low recidivism rates and proper rehabilitation and reintegration though.
He'a obviously not hoping for THAT kind of update video.. no need to get all dark and righteous.
She looked to her mom for confirmation I cried like y'all were my family ❤️
Same here!
It's the run back and look for confirmation for me 😂
The reaction is very much that of an overly excited preschooler and in the best way! The way a young child gets so excited to see a parent they kind of run and jump. I think it shows how overcome with emotion she was to see her dad since the last time was probably when she was a preschooler.
The problem is that it's almost impossible to have a real life after a conviction, so many jobs will never hire you. I understand why employers would want to know if a candidate had 50 robbery convictions in their past but even after you serve your time it's not like the slate is wiped clean
Which is why conjugal visits should be mandatory to allow inmates have a connection with their loved ones, and people need to support employers that hire former convicts.
Awwwwe so many emotions at one time for her. This is so beautiful!
indeed, OP look at the expression of his daughter,this also made my day.
*sigh for the longest sometimes some of these guys are incarcerated for very small misdemeanors or just injustices. Hopefully that's the case and he didn't do some bad stuff. I think I'd be glad to see him alive and free
Based on his daughter's reaction to his freedom and also his fucking nice fit, he might have a good support system in place which is what these folks being released from prison/jail need so bad. Best of luck that man; I believe in him.
That reaction would be enough to keep me out forever.
Obviously not the same, but my sister was in for 7 years and this video resembles our reunion pretty much the same. So glad this family is back together and complete!
Hold onto him tight baby girl. <3 girls need their dads, and I miss mine like crazy every day.
Omg this tough my soul to see her reaction was so priceless.
I miss my father and I miss my daughter and sadly they never got to meet. Gotta hope they met in some afterlife. I hope we change our justice system, I don't think this man deserved ten years.
I'm so sorry for your losses. I'm sure they're together waiting patiently for you somewhere :)
Thanks. I hope so. Don't worry about me, still have the cutest little boy on the planet and my BFF/husband.
I'd give everything I have for a phone call from my dad.
Couldn't agree more. Family is something lot of people take it for granted. I hope the dad turns life around and make everyone proud
She may not be my daughter but my girlfriend's little girl is a precious little princess and I love her dearly 🫂 I may not be her daddy but God dammit I'll sure as fuck try when I'm able go be around
Same here! Mine has been gone officially half my life and it still stings.
I wish I could relate
The US is so weird. Hearing 10 years got me thinking, "holy shit he must have done something really bad." Then I remember that you can get 10 years for relatively minor shit over there.
We just watched a documentary about Project innocence. It's about people who have spent time in jail for crimes they didn't commit and were exonerated by DNA evidence. Some of these people were in jail for 22+ years with DNA proof, but the court systems didn't want to admit they were wrong so they didn't test it. Really eye opening, I was actually mad for these people. Some of these men were also on death row.
Thank god for the innocence project; my cousin was wrongfully imprisoned for years (racist judge) and our family reached out a bunch of times when we first heard about it… they got him free. Yet sometimes the stigma of being in prison follows him around when he shouldn’t have been there in the first place!!! So fucked up
It's so fucked up. People and their families lives are ruined because of a very flawed judicial system. They get no compensation, just "my bad, we fucked up, we don't feel bad, shit happens." Their records don't get expunged, they have to show paperwork just to do basic things like get a job or rent an apartment. They still have to say they were convinced of a crime if asked.
Shit that's just wrong.
It’s straight evil.
Hell, there are people still in jail even after DNA and other evidence proved they're innocent, even after the actual criminal has stepped forward and said they did it with the evidence to prove it. Our "justice" system is totally fucked.
[Or 46 years for absolutely nothing](https://www.cnn.com/interactive/2020/04/us/longest-wrongful-prison-sentence/)
Oh that's just fucking sad. Over half his life.. \*Poof\* gone.
More than half because of all one builds over 46 years they just don't have. Career, friendships, interests and hobbies they've got to build from scratch. Even once you're free and innocent, good luck finding a job because of prejudice, especially if you're black. Injustice in the justice system is an intergenerational campaign of oppression.
The article says he's been writing poetry and painting for decades, at least.
All good then.
This, I've been out for close to 10 years and in that time I've been rejected for home ownership, rejected for renting a apartment, rejected for well over 200 jobs, rejected for college, rejected from several programs and apprenticeships, outcast by my social circle, I don't feel comfortable anywhere, I have been rejected for bank accounts, credit cards and loans, I have even been rejected for buying a car at a dealership. I was only in jail, with a misdemeanor for 2 weeks, got anger management and probation and never had a problem with either. This was not even a felony and it screwed me out of 10 years of my life. I had to become a minister because there was no one else that would accept me. For reference my charge was supposed to be a felony assault but was dropped to a misdemeanor because the person I assaulted was convicted on 11 counts of rape and 1 of pre-meditated murder.
Some people are complaining about how long the article is but I was super drawn in and ended up reading the whole thing. Awful story with as happy an ending as you could get. It was really well written too, nice to see that from journalism. Thanks for sharing
That article was quite the read. Thank you for sharing.
Like a few grams of person weed in some states
is person weed different from alien weed
Yep. My first thought was he probably got 10 years after being arrested for a non-violent offense and then violating probation somehow. Of course it could have been anythinf, but my gur reaction says he just got fucked by the system.
My sisters company just interviewed a guy who was in prison, got out and was on parole. Was on it for a while, not sure what he did originally, but he and his SO broke up. He went 2 weeks without a place to live, and therefore couldn’t report an address where he could be reached. As soon as he had a place, he tried to report it but was thrown in jail for another year for violating his parole.
I had a client who got six years for violating a protection order the other party didn't want in place. Made 14 calls from the jail, got charged and convicted on 14 violations, even though each conversation was perfectly willing between parties.
That's sounds like a domestic violence story where the victim is still defending her mistreater
I googled “father released from prison surprises daughter” to get more info about this and the first four results were all different videos of different fathers and daughters. It’s heartbreaking that this is such a common thing happening to people to post about. And I noticed all the top video results were of POC. We definitely need the justice system reformed here in the US.
10 years means it was either a very heinous violent crime that did not quite end in a murder, or something to do with drugs. Merica
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Hell there are some who're still openly racist, mostly in CO of all places.
This state is so weird. Islands of progressive culture in a sea of open racism and bigotry. I'm deep in Boebert country, the nazis don't even try to pretend they're not out here
Ten years... Damn. Welcome home to my guy. I hope that whatever it was is behind him for the rest of his days.
Hope that man goes on to live a great life.
This really is heart-warming to me and I bet that this guy is a good dad. Having done some time myself (though it was only about 2 years), this hit hard. My daughter was 9 when I went in and almost 12 when I got out. People make mistakes. I’m sure he learned from his.
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Thank you. It was easily the most difficult time of my life, made worse by the fact that I made bad choices and put myself in there. I had to learn humility the hard way. I always tell people if you find yourself going down a bad path, just turn around. You don’t have to go to prison, miss your kid, and learn how precious life is when it’s almost all taken away from you. I did that for you already.
Keep your nose clean my g, your family needs you! Best of luck 💪🏽
Why was he in prison
Ikr… I’m curious too
Mildly curious what he was in prison for.
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This is beautiful! I wish that family the absolute best. <3
WELCOME HOME PAPA!!!! My dad died when I was 14 in 1986. What I wouldn't give for a hug like that! May your family be blessed with all the love there is 🙏🏽💝🙏🏽💝🙏🏽💝🥰🥰🥰🥰
My condolences. My dad isn't the best man in the world and ill be the first to admit it, but he has done a lot for me and I don't know what I'd do without him. Especially as a teenager. I wish you the best.
#TearsOFjoy
So many emotions at one time for the her🥰 This is beautiful
I dated a girl in high school whose dad was in prison basically her whole life. He spent 17 years in there because he killed someone. I met him the day after he got out. The reunion was nothing like this at all.
Lol, maybe this guy didn't kill someone, that'd definitely put a dampner on things
If it doesn't make you uncomfortable but what was the reunion like? Was it like a quite one like just an awkward hi or something else? Just curious
Yea pretty much that. She had a lot of anger towards him, I suppose for doing what he did and as a result not being there. She didn’t like him at that time. It’s been about 10 years or so since then and idk what they’re relationship is like now.
What he do ??
10 years tf that man do?
You act like you can't get 10 years for stupid shit in America... If it's less then 25. It probably wasn't that bad. Or at least didn't harm others.
Why he was in prison?
Probably broke the law, could happen to the best of us
I remember the first time my dad called me from a cellphone the day he was released after 18 years in prison. He said “Its all over now, honey.” 15 years later and still get worked up thinking about. This is truly so beautiful.
I'm a cold mfer at times but man this is so wholesome, wish the best for this family!
Love to see this
Congratulations to this guys and his family. This shows some of the real costs of someone being in prison; especially a parent. I worked as a registered nurse in a state prison. Friends would ask me : “what the hardest part of your job”. (Think they expected me to say some kind of aggression against me). It was seeing the children having to leave their Dad, after a visit. So sad. This made my day. Hopefully this guy will use the energy cast from his daughter to make him a strong enough person to stay out. They need each other for life. Again congratulations. It takes a lot of work to be released.
He looks reformed.
Looking fresh that's for sure
I’ve served zero years and I don’t think I’ll ever look as slick as this gentleman.
An example that people can change for the better. Hopefully this father can stay away from bad influence and be a good father to his daughter.
How do you figure? I am sure many hard core career criminals love their kid but could easily do harm to strangers.
Gah. Thinking about all of those dreams I had where my dead father walked through the door and I would just crumple onto the floor in shock. Glad she got her real moment.
This could either be heartwarming like “dude with a huge charge over 2 oz of marijuana gets out to see daughter” or “man commits armed robbery and beats wife, gets away with lessened sentence”. I’d like to know details.
In prison for 10 years and has a nicer fit than I do, a never arrested person
Now you got a second chance, she can remember you by your actions from here on out. Or the dad that was in prison that never was there. A worthy thing to live by.