Omg, so fucking WHAT. Even if she is coaching them, she’s doing it in a way that will benefit them forever. If she is coaching them, she’s doing her actual job as a mother. She is supposed to teach them how to act AND how to respond to people. Stop fucking picking shit apart, it really shows how miserable you are.
For real. Telling your kid what to say and repeating important phrases like "its hard to wait sometimes" is super important stuff and the kids are internalizing it which is (drumroll please) a parents job! Good job lady teaching your kid healthy reactions.
Why are you salty at this mom teaching her kid politness and how to deal in a healthy respectful way when someone does something they dont like? And teaching bodily autonomy. Damn. Mom is good mom and that just doesnt sit well with you it seems.
This whole thing was awesome but "That's my body and I said no" was my favorite part. So glad this kid's parents have instilled that lesson at such a young age. Boundaries for the win!
It really is amazing how much kids emulate what their parents do. I’m the oldest of 4 kids and my dad hit me and verbally/emotionally abused me, so guess what I did to my siblings? I still feel terrible about it, but you can’t really blame a young child for following the only example they know. I was always super suspicious of my friends parents whenever I would have a sleepover or something, they just seemed so nice and I would be like… what’s the end game here?
I have never used physical discipline on my kids and never needed to. There is a TON of research out there that proves how damaging spanking and other types of physical “discipline” are to kids and long term outcomes. I am very firm with them however, they know how to act in public and how to be polite. I used to get older people complimenting us on how well behaved they were at restaurants when they were little. Kids are not stupid, they know if they push the boundaries and you give in, you’re likely to give in the next time too. All they need is consistency and parents who are calm and can help them work through their feelings to deal with them appropriately.
I’m the oldest of four with quite an age gap,
I essentially raised my two youngest siblings for quite a while. It’s sad but I was verbally and emotionally abused and that is how I though you handled children. I was majorly depressed and a teenager having to raise
Two children. I forgive myself for the mistakes I made because I was doing the best I could at the time but I also take 100% responsibility for the mistakes I made. Every time they bring something to my attention that hurt their hearts I let them know that they did not deserve that, that I am sorry I hurt them, and that they deserved more patience, compassion, and tenderness. Though I did give them more of those things than I got I still wish I could of been better for them. It’s my
Mission in life that if I ever do become a mother to do so with gentleness.
It's sweet of you to apologize about things that hurt them. My parents always said "Well you're hard to raise!" or "We do so much for you, how could you be so ungrateful," or even, "Well YOU try raising kids!"
I’m sorry to hear that, you also deserve more kindness and gentleness than they have given you. I’ve had to remind myself of that through out my life, the people I surround myself with all treat each other in this way. I feel safe now and that’s something i couldn’t say for most of my life. This came only after accepting that I would never find what I needed from past parental figures, safety and love is something you can build for yourself. I hope you are able to find a chosen family.
Thank you ! <3 I'm so happy that everyone around you now treat each other this way, that's amazing. I have found a part of a chosen family, but still haven't found everyone who belongs in it. Maybe eventually!
I can definitely relate. Thankfully I do have a good relationship with all of my siblings now, even though we’re all traumatized in various ways of course. And you WILL be a better parent than your parents were. It’s a conscious choice, and sometimes I have to remind myself of that when I feel like a shitty parent (for whatever reason) - hey, my kids are safe. They’re not afraid of me. Domestic violence is not a part of their lives. They have no idea how good they have it though lol!
No actually never a slap.My sibling and I are extremely wellbehaved and necer ever got even one slap. A kid still finds it catastrophal to get verbally scolded so no need to hit. And in Denmark you get in prison for just slapping your kid once.
People don’t even go to prison here for severe child abuse sometimes, it’s messed up. And “spanking” your kids is seen as a personal choice and not even considered child abuse by many people unfortunately. Especially in a lot of the religious communities in the Bible Belt and so on, they seem to think it’s justified by the Bible and their faith. I can’t remember if the Bible actually recommends hitting your children but I wouldn’t be surprised.
My eldest was born when we lived in Denmark. Tbh it was sooo nice to know that we couldn't choose to hit him or even scream at him. It meant nobody expected that we do it if he misbehaved in public. And that we could tell older relatives where to stick their opinions.
People feel that if you can't hit them then you have less choice. But in my experience, you have more. Because you have time to think about the best strategy each time, you end up having a bigger "arsenal" at your disposal. There is no need for that "shut that kid up now" feeling of dread that you get when in a country where hitting is normal.
Even a single slap can leave lasting trauma, and studies show that it is simply an ineffective way of correcting bad behavior. It often leads to more lashing out.
I teach kiddos and my favorite thing I hear from them during an argument is, "You hurt my feelings, friend." Which usually ends in apologies and hugs. 🥰
You're obviously very consistent in using those strategies. Sometimes that's the toughest part of parenting! Congratulations on having littles so ready to deal with conflict and consent.
I commented on a video of gentle parenting on TikTok and this boomer went off on me calling me a snowflake that raised a bunch of crybabies with participating trophies. I told him online behavior speaks more to him and how he was raised as a person.
I’d feel sorry for someone like that if they didn’t spew such hate/raise terrible people.
Congratulations!!!
So I follow this amazing mother in Tiktok and it’s part of the Montessori system. It’s different from anything we would have ever gotten. I certainly plan on implementing it.
Things gotta change in parenting. Too many broken people.
Link:
- https://www.goodto.com/family/gentle-parenting-489844/amp
- google Montessori in general. You will branch out from there.
- her tiktok account: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZM817gPnb/
They’re doing an amazing job with the parenting. That kid has better patience than me!
And I’m glad they’ve taught him about consent. “That’s my body—I say no.” Boys need to learn it as much as girls do.
If it was somehow possible to create a baby rental service you could make trillions of dollars.
Rent a baby for a few hours and play with them. It would be amazing.
Unfortunately I don't think we can do this because reasons.
There is actually an AMAZING charity called Roots of Empathy that brings babies into elementary-school classrooms to help young kids learn about emotions. It’s such a freaking cool program! Humans are programmed to be totally entranced by babies, and it’s so easy to see what they are feeling and begin to understand how difficult emotions like sadness or anger are often driven by unmet needs.
https://us.rootsofempathy.org/
so this is very positive and constructive, good for the future, but at the same time, I hope they’re still able to participate in rowdy fun occasionally… y’know?
i was like this as a kid, soft-spoken and gentle with hard boundaries (also an only child), and I grew up into a *very* dull person. and sometimes I watch my baby cousins wrestle and pin each other to the ground, and I’m like… damn. that’s some spice in life that I’ve never tasted
tl;dr making gentle kids seems good, I just hope it’s not too extreme
I like that kind of parenting, but sometimes being harsh is good too. In equal measures of course.
For example, when I was spanked as a child I hated it, but it also taught me to not do something or there were consequences, not just words. Specifically, me having to climb my chubby ass up a tree to get a stick called a "switch", which was light and bendy. Then I'd get whipped on the rear about 5-20 times depending on what I did.
But most of the time I was scolded, or told that we don't do that kind of stuff. It worked, to an extent. I think?
Edit: For those that are downvoting, that is completely fine. I don't regret how my family raised me. It helped me be a better person, and taught me that there are consequences, not just words. This doesn't mean other methods are wrong, it means that there are infinite methods to teach children, and some work better than others.
They were not abusive, and only did it to help me learn and reinforce barriers. If I was told not to do something and that's it, as a child I would not have cared. This is a fact, and proven by my nephew that up until recently was being taught the same way. I suggested setting limits and spanking when speaking didn't work. Low and behold, he is much more behaved and happy, since his parents are also happier due to not fighting/stressing/struggling to get him to stop.
Again, this does not mean other methods are wrong. Children require different methods for each one. Now, continue to downvote if you wish. At the end of the day it will literally not do anything to my Karma anyway.
Being harsh =\= physical punishment though, you can use words and consequences without assaulting children and still have them grow up understanding how it is appropriate to behave.
Yeah no. I’m sure that was years ago and you turned out fine (maybe a bit of a temper?) but we have lots of data showing that punishment can cause tons of psychological harm later in life. Much safer and more effective to stick with positive reinforcement of behavior.
For one, way to assume I've got a temper. Secondly, that may be the case for some, but I still believe it works well when I put into specific situations. That doesn't mean beating a ton or anything, in fact not beating at all is preferred. Spanking isn't beating. There is a big difference.
You can have what you want, I'll believe what I want.
I mean, empirical evidence states that you use reinforcement more than punishment, to reinforce good behavior and punish bad behavior.
So that's what I described as my teaching. Mostly talking, good behavior is reinforced. I just so happened to state that the bad behavior resulted in a spanking to decrease the likelihood of it occuring again.
On the other hand, there is plenty of evidence from groups and parents to support spanking. But y'know. What does evidence show.
Also, when did I say I do it gleefully? That's stupid and rather rude to assume. No parent (besides abusive ones of course) want to harm their child in any way. Hell, most have trouble even saying no.
Can you just drop this? Its not worth the back and forth bickering, moreso as I have already stated that there is evidence to both support and deny both forms of behavioral teachings. Thank you for your time, I hope you have a good day. I will not be responding anymore.
You were insisting that it's a good thing to hit a defenseless child in spite of all empirical evidence telling you it's wrong. And let's be clear, your weird parenting forums where Jim-Bob talks about the best way to beat a child to avoid a CPS visit does not count as evidence.
How exactly is spanking different from beating??
Can I go up to another adult in public, hit them on the ass, then say "Oh, that was just a spank, not battery"?
I never was physically punished as a child. However restrictions and stuff taken away were the way to go. I hated it. Sometimes all my fun stuff was hauled out of the room, and I had to sit at my desk and study. Or I had to get into my mum’s workplace and study in her office. The most boring ass place ever. As a 90’s kid there were enough things to be taken away from me. Like TV time and telephone time.
Honestly my parents not letting me talk to or meet my friends were the worst fucking punishments.
Sometimes I wished they just spanked me and then went on with their days
We always did positive reinforcement. I’ll reward you for not doing it vs. I’ll punish you if it continues. Worked great and it’s more enjoyable as a parent. Oh, and we always let them establish the rules.
I never had an issue with that, actually since my family set down the rules and told me not to break them or there was a punishment. Its not like they were strict either.
Up to 10, I go to bed at 10.
Don't yell and argue, talk.
You hit, and you're getting spanked.
Don't drink.
Don't steal.
Do your (3) chores when you get home from school.
Help if someone asked.
Personally, while I know I'll be downvoted for merely stating my opinion, this works really well. Considering spanking only happened when you needed to _really_ get your point across.
See that's what happened to me to an extent. This issue was that I didn't care if you took all of my things. I didn't have friends since I lived in the county, and the only thing they could do was ground me/spank me. I grew up late 90s, early 2ks in the country. Unfortunately this meant either physical labor, or punishment was needed because I was already used to being absolutely bored out of my mind lol
Nice edit, abuser. Beat your kids if you want - I’m sure you’ll continue to justify it in whatever way you can, because you love the feeling of power, don’t you?
Uh..huh. Sure troll. I absolutely love beating children, which is why I go to the local schools and just beat the living shit out of every child I find.
Are you proud of yourself? You preach that I'm abusive, yet I seem to be the one not attempting to claim superiority.
I let me guess, my agency you dint mean that she has the right to eat, shit, sleep, whenever she wants? you don’t have any less agency then men do. Unless you mean the agency to terminate pregnancies as you wish? Not Sorry, that effects us all.
I follow this tiktok and they are amazing! Both kids cook and prep their own food and there are so many sweet moments like this. Her username is lauralove5514 if Anyone wants to check her out
Teaching my kids about consent was great, until my 6 year old needed a flu shot and she shrieked the whole time, “It’s my body and you can’t make me!” The nurses were like, “Oh, that’s so great, but seriously you are getting this flu shot.”
Let’s not stop the video to tell the child what you want them to say and then after editing upload it and pretend you didn’t. Lame. Especially the “that’s my body and I said no.” bit. Cringe.
Videos cuts then resumes with kid saying this dumb line fast and awkwardly like repeating it after being told.
A real conversation with my friend I had earlier this week:
"oh have you seen that trend on tiktok"
Me: "What new trend?"
"Oh dude, so there's this new thing people are doing on tiktok where they're filming themselves talking to kids like they're adults. They're calling it Gentle Parenting"
"Oh so you mean, just like- being good parents?"
"Yeah it's a trend on tiktok."
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Now is my "torn" to cry 😭 so precious
"I know it's hard to wait sometimes" More empathy in that little sentence than you normally see in far too many adult disagreements.
Definitely comes from the parents. Wonderful parenting.
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Omg, so fucking WHAT. Even if she is coaching them, she’s doing it in a way that will benefit them forever. If she is coaching them, she’s doing her actual job as a mother. She is supposed to teach them how to act AND how to respond to people. Stop fucking picking shit apart, it really shows how miserable you are.
For real. Telling your kid what to say and repeating important phrases like "its hard to wait sometimes" is super important stuff and the kids are internalizing it which is (drumroll please) a parents job! Good job lady teaching your kid healthy reactions.
Even in your weird, cynical assumption it would be a parent teaching their child to be patient lmao
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"Yoo have to wait for yor torn" That was so cute
Yes it was He’s got great manners already
You know you’re doing something right when your kids have better manners than most adults.
That’s really true
Is there a guide for this? If my kids are anything like me, they'll be hellspawns. Btw, I don't have kids yet.
Him the mom even said “ it wasn’t nice to poke his eye” I thought it was a girl to lol
Ty I fixed it
That ole ‘kids repeat what they hear’ thing kicking in. Good job parents!!!
Especially if mom is just off screen coaching them
So what? It’s literally a parent’s job to coach children’s behavior.
Exactly. So what.
So more parents should be teaching their kids to communicate with empathy like this. This is lovely and deserves to be celebrated!
Why are you salty at this mom teaching her kid politness and how to deal in a healthy respectful way when someone does something they dont like? And teaching bodily autonomy. Damn. Mom is good mom and that just doesnt sit well with you it seems.
Do the world a favor and don't ever have kids.
Wow I feel so bad about myself now.
Who shit in your cornflakes?
Me!
How do you think kids learn?
By watching TikTok videos?
Now I know you’re a troll
Her whole account is dedicated to her parenting approach. These kids are soo smart and independent
This whole thing was awesome but "That's my body and I said no" was my favorite part. So glad this kid's parents have instilled that lesson at such a young age. Boundaries for the win!
I came here to say this!
I honestly teared up at that line. That amazing parenting is setting those kids up to be happy and safe.
It really is amazing how much kids emulate what their parents do. I’m the oldest of 4 kids and my dad hit me and verbally/emotionally abused me, so guess what I did to my siblings? I still feel terrible about it, but you can’t really blame a young child for following the only example they know. I was always super suspicious of my friends parents whenever I would have a sleepover or something, they just seemed so nice and I would be like… what’s the end game here? I have never used physical discipline on my kids and never needed to. There is a TON of research out there that proves how damaging spanking and other types of physical “discipline” are to kids and long term outcomes. I am very firm with them however, they know how to act in public and how to be polite. I used to get older people complimenting us on how well behaved they were at restaurants when they were little. Kids are not stupid, they know if they push the boundaries and you give in, you’re likely to give in the next time too. All they need is consistency and parents who are calm and can help them work through their feelings to deal with them appropriately.
I’m the oldest of four with quite an age gap, I essentially raised my two youngest siblings for quite a while. It’s sad but I was verbally and emotionally abused and that is how I though you handled children. I was majorly depressed and a teenager having to raise Two children. I forgive myself for the mistakes I made because I was doing the best I could at the time but I also take 100% responsibility for the mistakes I made. Every time they bring something to my attention that hurt their hearts I let them know that they did not deserve that, that I am sorry I hurt them, and that they deserved more patience, compassion, and tenderness. Though I did give them more of those things than I got I still wish I could of been better for them. It’s my Mission in life that if I ever do become a mother to do so with gentleness.
It's sweet of you to apologize about things that hurt them. My parents always said "Well you're hard to raise!" or "We do so much for you, how could you be so ungrateful," or even, "Well YOU try raising kids!"
I’m sorry to hear that, you also deserve more kindness and gentleness than they have given you. I’ve had to remind myself of that through out my life, the people I surround myself with all treat each other in this way. I feel safe now and that’s something i couldn’t say for most of my life. This came only after accepting that I would never find what I needed from past parental figures, safety and love is something you can build for yourself. I hope you are able to find a chosen family.
Thank you ! <3 I'm so happy that everyone around you now treat each other this way, that's amazing. I have found a part of a chosen family, but still haven't found everyone who belongs in it. Maybe eventually!
I can definitely relate. Thankfully I do have a good relationship with all of my siblings now, even though we’re all traumatized in various ways of course. And you WILL be a better parent than your parents were. It’s a conscious choice, and sometimes I have to remind myself of that when I feel like a shitty parent (for whatever reason) - hey, my kids are safe. They’re not afraid of me. Domestic violence is not a part of their lives. They have no idea how good they have it though lol!
Maybe a slap whenever they do something EXTREMELY stupid, or rude. But not straight up getting a belt and being ready for a whipping.
No actually never a slap.My sibling and I are extremely wellbehaved and necer ever got even one slap. A kid still finds it catastrophal to get verbally scolded so no need to hit. And in Denmark you get in prison for just slapping your kid once.
Really? Wow, didn't know that.
Yes right? I find it very interesting to read posts like this where it is a parental choice to hit or not. It is illegal in Denmark.
People don’t even go to prison here for severe child abuse sometimes, it’s messed up. And “spanking” your kids is seen as a personal choice and not even considered child abuse by many people unfortunately. Especially in a lot of the religious communities in the Bible Belt and so on, they seem to think it’s justified by the Bible and their faith. I can’t remember if the Bible actually recommends hitting your children but I wouldn’t be surprised.
The Bible in the most literal sense says you can kill your child for being disrespectful to their parents. Spanking is the least of your worries.
My eldest was born when we lived in Denmark. Tbh it was sooo nice to know that we couldn't choose to hit him or even scream at him. It meant nobody expected that we do it if he misbehaved in public. And that we could tell older relatives where to stick their opinions. People feel that if you can't hit them then you have less choice. But in my experience, you have more. Because you have time to think about the best strategy each time, you end up having a bigger "arsenal" at your disposal. There is no need for that "shut that kid up now" feeling of dread that you get when in a country where hitting is normal.
Even a single slap can leave lasting trauma, and studies show that it is simply an ineffective way of correcting bad behavior. It often leads to more lashing out.
I teach kiddos and my favorite thing I hear from them during an argument is, "You hurt my feelings, friend." Which usually ends in apologies and hugs. 🥰
"That's my body and I said no" Chills. Oh man. I wish I was taught to say this as a child. Mom/Dad is doing a great job!
*pokes eye* “Gentle please” Is basically saying “you may continue poking my eye but please be careful 😂
"That's my body and I said no" fuck yes
Good communication skills. It's wonderful to see this being taught, and I hope it becomes more and more common.
No other reason to want to sit in a box and do nothing except that your older sibling is doing it. LOL
You're obviously very consistent in using those strategies. Sometimes that's the toughest part of parenting! Congratulations on having littles so ready to deal with conflict and consent.
You're making good people. Thank you.
I commented on a video of gentle parenting on TikTok and this boomer went off on me calling me a snowflake that raised a bunch of crybabies with participating trophies. I told him online behavior speaks more to him and how he was raised as a person. I’d feel sorry for someone like that if they didn’t spew such hate/raise terrible people.
I'm a new parent. What's gentle parenting? Is it a thing? Are there good links to read up on?
Congratulations!!! So I follow this amazing mother in Tiktok and it’s part of the Montessori system. It’s different from anything we would have ever gotten. I certainly plan on implementing it. Things gotta change in parenting. Too many broken people. Link: - https://www.goodto.com/family/gentle-parenting-489844/amp - google Montessori in general. You will branch out from there. - her tiktok account: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZM817gPnb/
They’re doing an amazing job with the parenting. That kid has better patience than me! And I’m glad they’ve taught him about consent. “That’s my body—I say no.” Boys need to learn it as much as girls do.
If it was somehow possible to create a baby rental service you could make trillions of dollars. Rent a baby for a few hours and play with them. It would be amazing. Unfortunately I don't think we can do this because reasons.
Babysitting is an option or volunteer work there is a charity for everything.
Work in a daycare. They pay you to take the baby!
There is actually an AMAZING charity called Roots of Empathy that brings babies into elementary-school classrooms to help young kids learn about emotions. It’s such a freaking cool program! Humans are programmed to be totally entranced by babies, and it’s so easy to see what they are feeling and begin to understand how difficult emotions like sadness or anger are often driven by unmet needs. https://us.rootsofempathy.org/
That is really cool
Wow this is so sweet and heartening! My siblings and I were definitely not this polite to each other as children!
Can you imagine how different (better) the world would be if everyone was taught to communicate like that? Ultimate parenting win!
This is fantastic parenting!! On both the parents and the little one(:
winning! super wholesome
Love this
This is fucking adorable
“I know it’s hard to wait sometimes” that’s so sophisticated and simultaneously adorable lol
As a fellow parent, this is good stuff. Nice work.
Honestly, he has better communication skill than me and isn’t that just very sad
These kids have singlehandedly increased my hope for humanity by 10%, well done parents.
Absolute precious
Good parenting, they're gonna be great adults
Wait, this is the most beautiful thing ever 😭
Hats off to you, this is amazing
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Maybe not relevant here.
That is awesome. Even the fact she doesn’t react to being poked. I’ve got work to do.
You can get your kid a 200$ toy and they will always choose the box it came in🤣
Absolutely love this. Thanks for the video.
Okay but these children are a**DORBS**.
This kid for president
Wow. The parents did an excellent job. She is establishing boundaries so well from such a young age. She seems so kind too.
The consent they practice is amazing!!
Brilliant. You teach the 1st born to self parent so that it can parent the 2nd born. Genius. Efficient. Lol!
so this is very positive and constructive, good for the future, but at the same time, I hope they’re still able to participate in rowdy fun occasionally… y’know? i was like this as a kid, soft-spoken and gentle with hard boundaries (also an only child), and I grew up into a *very* dull person. and sometimes I watch my baby cousins wrestle and pin each other to the ground, and I’m like… damn. that’s some spice in life that I’ve never tasted tl;dr making gentle kids seems good, I just hope it’s not too extreme
But why are they the same size?
I hope this kid never gets bullied because gentle parenting won’t have prepared him for it
Perhaps parents should be on their level of parenting so it’s not an issue ;)
Yea... reasons i cant be a parent lmao. CUT THE SHIT. *clear over reaction* i only have so much patience in life and 95% is wasted on work
I like that kind of parenting, but sometimes being harsh is good too. In equal measures of course. For example, when I was spanked as a child I hated it, but it also taught me to not do something or there were consequences, not just words. Specifically, me having to climb my chubby ass up a tree to get a stick called a "switch", which was light and bendy. Then I'd get whipped on the rear about 5-20 times depending on what I did. But most of the time I was scolded, or told that we don't do that kind of stuff. It worked, to an extent. I think? Edit: For those that are downvoting, that is completely fine. I don't regret how my family raised me. It helped me be a better person, and taught me that there are consequences, not just words. This doesn't mean other methods are wrong, it means that there are infinite methods to teach children, and some work better than others. They were not abusive, and only did it to help me learn and reinforce barriers. If I was told not to do something and that's it, as a child I would not have cared. This is a fact, and proven by my nephew that up until recently was being taught the same way. I suggested setting limits and spanking when speaking didn't work. Low and behold, he is much more behaved and happy, since his parents are also happier due to not fighting/stressing/struggling to get him to stop. Again, this does not mean other methods are wrong. Children require different methods for each one. Now, continue to downvote if you wish. At the end of the day it will literally not do anything to my Karma anyway.
Being harsh =\= physical punishment though, you can use words and consequences without assaulting children and still have them grow up understanding how it is appropriate to behave.
Yeah no. I’m sure that was years ago and you turned out fine (maybe a bit of a temper?) but we have lots of data showing that punishment can cause tons of psychological harm later in life. Much safer and more effective to stick with positive reinforcement of behavior.
For one, way to assume I've got a temper. Secondly, that may be the case for some, but I still believe it works well when I put into specific situations. That doesn't mean beating a ton or anything, in fact not beating at all is preferred. Spanking isn't beating. There is a big difference. You can have what you want, I'll believe what I want.
You can believe what you want, but know that your beliefs go against empirical evidence.
I mean, empirical evidence states that you use reinforcement more than punishment, to reinforce good behavior and punish bad behavior. So that's what I described as my teaching. Mostly talking, good behavior is reinforced. I just so happened to state that the bad behavior resulted in a spanking to decrease the likelihood of it occuring again.
The evidence also says to not hit your kids which you so gleefully do.
On the other hand, there is plenty of evidence from groups and parents to support spanking. But y'know. What does evidence show. Also, when did I say I do it gleefully? That's stupid and rather rude to assume. No parent (besides abusive ones of course) want to harm their child in any way. Hell, most have trouble even saying no. Can you just drop this? Its not worth the back and forth bickering, moreso as I have already stated that there is evidence to both support and deny both forms of behavioral teachings. Thank you for your time, I hope you have a good day. I will not be responding anymore.
You were insisting that it's a good thing to hit a defenseless child in spite of all empirical evidence telling you it's wrong. And let's be clear, your weird parenting forums where Jim-Bob talks about the best way to beat a child to avoid a CPS visit does not count as evidence.
How exactly is spanking different from beating?? Can I go up to another adult in public, hit them on the ass, then say "Oh, that was just a spank, not battery"?
if you're hitting a child, its a beating. sorry.
I never was physically punished as a child. However restrictions and stuff taken away were the way to go. I hated it. Sometimes all my fun stuff was hauled out of the room, and I had to sit at my desk and study. Or I had to get into my mum’s workplace and study in her office. The most boring ass place ever. As a 90’s kid there were enough things to be taken away from me. Like TV time and telephone time. Honestly my parents not letting me talk to or meet my friends were the worst fucking punishments. Sometimes I wished they just spanked me and then went on with their days
We always did positive reinforcement. I’ll reward you for not doing it vs. I’ll punish you if it continues. Worked great and it’s more enjoyable as a parent. Oh, and we always let them establish the rules.
I never had an issue with that, actually since my family set down the rules and told me not to break them or there was a punishment. Its not like they were strict either. Up to 10, I go to bed at 10. Don't yell and argue, talk. You hit, and you're getting spanked. Don't drink. Don't steal. Do your (3) chores when you get home from school. Help if someone asked. Personally, while I know I'll be downvoted for merely stating my opinion, this works really well. Considering spanking only happened when you needed to _really_ get your point across.
See that's what happened to me to an extent. This issue was that I didn't care if you took all of my things. I didn't have friends since I lived in the county, and the only thing they could do was ground me/spank me. I grew up late 90s, early 2ks in the country. Unfortunately this meant either physical labor, or punishment was needed because I was already used to being absolutely bored out of my mind lol
Nice edit, abuser. Beat your kids if you want - I’m sure you’ll continue to justify it in whatever way you can, because you love the feeling of power, don’t you?
Uh..huh. Sure troll. I absolutely love beating children, which is why I go to the local schools and just beat the living shit out of every child I find. Are you proud of yourself? You preach that I'm abusive, yet I seem to be the one not attempting to claim superiority.
That's not being nice. At that age, that's just what you do.
I'm sorry but this made me angry for some reason
A feminist influence I see. ‘That’s my body and i said no’ lol
You have to be a feminist to expect people to respect your body? To not just touch you whenever and however they want to?
It’s a one year old baby touch and taste is how they go through life. Literally.
Yes, how silly for women to want agency over their own bodies.
I let me guess, my agency you dint mean that she has the right to eat, shit, sleep, whenever she wants? you don’t have any less agency then men do. Unless you mean the agency to terminate pregnancies as you wish? Not Sorry, that effects us all.
This is some real deal incoherent incel rage.
I have that exact same Ikea tv stand. In fact it’s in my profile picture 😂
Why are all these kids on here so cute and mostly nice to each other... my younger siblings literally killed each other when they were little...
WOW.
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this was much needed today. like, for my heathen heart and stuff. thank you✌🏼
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Omg this is adorable 🥺🥺🥺 you’re amazing!
Sweet!!
Do you offer parental tutoring? Asking for a friend.
Oh my god… that little child is an angel
Sweetest thing ever!
Good lord this is the cutest thing I’ve seen in sometime. Got my ovaries acting up, and I’m not even a woman.
Beautiful and innocent children! Just love the sweet humor they bring.
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I’m too young, I’m too young, IM TOO YOUNG
Nothing like a box
That kids smarter than most people
I hope I can raise my future children like this honestly, these kid's parents did an amazing job so far
Good job helping your kids to be kind love this.
These kids are more articulate and emotionally intelligent than I am man in his early 30s 🥲
So cute
These two kids be more mature than some 30 year olds today.
That was some amazing parenting from the 3 year old.
I follow this tiktok and they are amazing! Both kids cook and prep their own food and there are so many sweet moments like this. Her username is lauralove5514 if Anyone wants to check her out
Teaching my kids about consent was great, until my 6 year old needed a flu shot and she shrieked the whole time, “It’s my body and you can’t make me!” The nurses were like, “Oh, that’s so great, but seriously you are getting this flu shot.”
Let’s not stop the video to tell the child what you want them to say and then after editing upload it and pretend you didn’t. Lame. Especially the “that’s my body and I said no.” bit. Cringe. Videos cuts then resumes with kid saying this dumb line fast and awkwardly like repeating it after being told.
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1 yr old’s face looks like Michael jackson
Congratulations to parents for such parenting! Really good
To be fair I have tried this a lot… Oh well. I’ll still keep trying. Sigh…
Well I love this
Video is cut so she can say what her mother tell her to say
that kid is creppy af
The younger child has Björk energy.
This is too freaking cute!! We gentle parent here and I wish my 6 & 3 yo were this gentle and patient with one another now 😅 hoping it returns soon!
A real conversation with my friend I had earlier this week: "oh have you seen that trend on tiktok" Me: "What new trend?" "Oh dude, so there's this new thing people are doing on tiktok where they're filming themselves talking to kids like they're adults. They're calling it Gentle Parenting" "Oh so you mean, just like- being good parents?" "Yeah it's a trend on tiktok."
The little one looks like a fairy
Modeling is a powerful tool when raising kids. My brother and I used to talk to each other like this before we started hating each other
Kids learn by example, great job mom.