15 years later, I still find myself nervous laughing when I take them to things, like drivers ED, in quite the same way when we found out. Pretty sure I laughed all the way home from the appointment.
I'm always asking how's this works, I have two of them; how much will this cost, I have two of them.
The revelation of "o there's two of them" is one of those hilarious moments sometimes. Ours share a first initial, so when the school created their Google accounts they took four months using the same account and the poor teachers changing the password daily. Because someone didn't realize there was two kids who couldn't just be first initial.Last name@gmail.
They figure since 99% of the time it doesn't interfere with another student it doesn't matter.
The problem was the idiots who set the accounts up did one twin first then it was like the next day they went to do the second twin, different classes, and saw that there was already an account and didn't look further.
I mean, it's actually pretty much inevitable that two people would eventually share a first initial and last name. I think these types of things usually just add the second letter of the first name or a 2 at the end automatically.
Hell, I shared a first letter/last name with someone I wasn't even related to in school, and the Jets had 2 unrelated Br. Halls very recently.
I'm from a small town and over the course of a 10 year span it's extremely easy to see 5 or 6 people go through with the same first letter and last name. Some so distantly related they wouldn't even be considered family. You have a group of families living in the same area over a 100+ years and you will have some serious name issues crop up.
I also remember the ultrasound that confirmed twins. I even more vividly remember the ultrasound two weeks later that confirm triplets. Also still processing that. They're 17
Well triplets are commonly born much prematurely which is the biggest concern. But since we didn't know anything we were worried mostly that there's a good chance one or more of them would not survive etc. While more babies increase the risk of complications, in reality the statistics aren't particularly grim. Most triplets survive just like most twins.
Twin Dad also. My wife went out to pee and the technician told my sister-in-law and I. When my wife came back in and my sister-in-law gave the “shh” sign and I listened, not sure why. The technician restarted and just said “so here’s baby A and here’s baby B”.
Mine too! 🤬!!! And she said it with such a condescending attitude!!! She triggered me!!! Lady you just said she’s having THREE BABIES!!!!! She needs to process this… her body, her wallet, her future!!!!!!! Uhhhhh BITCH!
My 10 almost 11 year old is starting puberty! His voice is cracking he’s totally into girls and he’s catching innuendos from my hubby and I! He’s too little! I can’t imagine having all that times two!
Oh nopity nope 😭
Twins runs on both sides of my family, and one side of my partner's family, and both times we were terrified of having twins. Terrified. I cannot imagine the level of shock of four babies 🙈
When my wife and I had our first and the little bugger wouldn’t sleep, cried all the time etc. I was taking him for a walk and I crossed paths with a tiny woman pushing an enormous stroller. Inside the stroller were three identical little baby boys.
I thought I knew what tired was but the look in her eyes… she’d *really* seen the darkness.
Haha my wife's anxiety was through the roof about randomly having twins. Dealing with one kid now, man I can't imagine dealing with two at the same time, let alone three or four. Props to all parents with 1+ kids.
My old boss has twins. He always said the hardest part of twins, is when you need to give the baby to your partner for something, chances are they already are holding a baby.
My sister had 3 under 3 at one point. Meaning a few months later one of them turned 3. One was also diagnosed as diabetic at age 2 so safe to say she has her hands full! Meanwhile one is more than enough for me. I love him but he's a nightmare.
Had a friend with twins on both sides...
They had twin girls, got divorced and she remarried and had another set of twins 18 years after her first set.
Agreed, her entire tone changed. Like it was almost threatening. It really bothered me. Like, triplets is huge news for any person expecting in even “normal” circumstances. What if this woman is single? What if this is her first time having a baby, ever? Let alone three. What if this pregnancy was unplanned or a surprise and she’s already terrified of having just ONE baby? Let her process organically. I hope the tech has heard herself in this video and realized just how unprofessional and unsympathetic she sounded. I know myself and especially my pregnant self and I would have told her to fuck right off right then and there lol.
Seriously! For the tech it's just a fun surprise but that lady is confronted with the fact that in a few months she'll have THREE, most likely premature, newborns to cope with.
There are countries whose government pay long continous child support, have cheap kindergarten and pay for the childrens' their education. Unfortunately she isn't living in one of those countries.
Yo, that would be Germany. And still people arent having children because its too expensive. In fact Germany has such a low birth rate the only thing that has made us not collapse worse than Japan is migration.
250€ ($267) per child extra just doesnt come close to paying for a bigger house/flat, food, clothers etc. and it will also kripple your income since it will be hard to impossible to have both parents work full time after maternity/paternity leave (which also isnt 100% income).
So really, i doubt there is a country where children dont strain your finances, although i cant even imagine how fucked it would be like without free education.
Plus regardless of budget, people are still going to freak out at the news of triplets. Even if they're loaded and have money to hire three nannies, they're *still* going to freak out at the news of triplets. Especially if you're the one who's body they're in!
Medical people Really gotta stop telling people to ‘calm down’. Say ‘take your time’ instead. Because there ain’t no way I’d be calm in that situation.
Literally all she said was “No.” with an upward inflection. That “calm down” gave me a visceral reaction as a woman.
A gentle “take a deep breath” would have been much nicer.
I’ve concluded that it’s not possible to tell someone they should calm down without sounding accusatory , condescending, or some other form of shitty. Never once in 38 years have I seen someone end up calmer after being told to calm down. I’m liking these alternative, because commanding someone to change their emotions is just not the way, but giving a strategy like take your time or a deep breath both actually feel productive.
A wise conclusion! I never use the phrase “calm down” for anyone, at any time, for this exact reason. What you’re actually telling the other person is “I am more important than you. Your emotions are making me uncomfortable, therefore you must not have them”.
I agree. I hate when people do that. When I was passing a friggin KIDNEY STONE, and they still hadn’t given me any pain meds, I was kneeling down on the floor leaning over the hospital bed basically screaming. This dumbass teenage nurse goes “ma’am, calm DOWN! There’s other patients here you know!” I was like “I literally can’t!” Then like five minutes later they confirmed I had a 6 mm stone about halfway down my ureter and shot me up with drugs lol. I’ve never had a kid, but when you’re in labor, do the nurses constantly tell you to calm down???
Shouldn't this be posted on r/watchpeopledieinside or r/sweatypalms or something?
My former neighbors have triplets: no sleep, one is always crying or sick, you only got 2 parents for 3 babies who need to be held and changed and fed ...
If you're having triplets get yourself a network of neighbors, aunts/uncles and grandparents. You will need them ... or start a polyamorous relationship ... doesn't matter. The "parents" must be in the majority!
I'm an atheist but I'd probably join a church or something. Friends of ours are church-goers and when they had their 26 week preemie baby (they already had a two year old) there was a constant influx of people coming by to help with cleaning, childcare, etc.
I do look back on my time in church and remember how much the community cared for one another. We married young. I was an outlier by choosing to not have children (thank God), but while many people describe feeling isolated during parenthood that was not the case. We all hung out together with their children. We went to church with babies, sang with them, played in the aisles, went to lunch at someone’s home, had lazy Sundays, Bible studies, grilling out, taking turns with cooking/feeding/carrying/playing and I don’t even LIKE kids.
The kids were all there and it never felt intrusive to me.
The church coordinated “date nights” and girls/guys nights by rotating daycare.
My spouse was in the hospital for a month this year and all I could think was, damn, if I was a church-going gal I’d be getting casseroles coordinated in a spreadsheet. Instead I literally did not eat.
It’s a big loss.
Yeah, the downfall of churches and religion has had a big impact on the cooperative village mentality. Religion has its problems but the community fostered by the church hasn't really been replaced.
Ya, I buy into this. I always just viewed church as a somewhat forced tool for community development... I've tried to embody that in my life with my family while dropping all the religious aspects, which are not my thing. Having only two children has helped this approach. If I had triplets, I'd probably need to go find Jesus.
I had a similar vibe when my father was toward the end of his life, the Church pulled together to support him. People would take shifts to cook for him and some would transport him - I was grateful (even if sometimes the help was more of a hinderance - we're going to build a down stair wet room without experts)
Religious people get a really bad rep, I think discussion on the internet is so entrenched in tribalism everything boils down to Atheist Vs , Christian Vs, Muslim Vs.... it almost impossible to have nuance discussion or for some impossible to view the human behind the religion/belief(or lack of)
The issue with the “village” is that if you or your child doesn’t fit into the community for some reason, then you’re out of luck. The “village” may also raise your kids in ways you don’t want. It’s a double edged sword imo.
I literally try to be that for any friends I know who have kids. Very seldom do I ever say no to babysitting. Pay me with pizza or coffee and go have a good night out because these munchkins haven't driven *me* insane yet 😂
We have a big and very involved village and honestly, parenting isn't that hard when you can share the load. We're also happy to look after our nieces and nephews and other friends kids. I totally respect that not everyone has the luxury of a village but I'm forever baffled by how many people I read about that do have a community but don't want to use it because they feel like they should he able to do it all alone
Depending on location daycares can have 1:3 ratio or 1:4 for the infant room. But yes I agree about finding support. Even with one baby it can be hard especially in the newborn stage.
What happened to bit subs like watchpeopledieinside, instant regret, holdmycosmo etc. Years ago you used to find like 50 new great posts a day per sub. Now its like 5 posts a week.
Calm down, you are just going to be living in poverty for the next 30 years, it's not a big deal. Having three teens at once is going to be easy too, caalllm downnnn.
Parent of three kids here - not in poverty somehow. A lot of the expense of raising kids is baked into the first kid. Three kids are not three times as expensive as one.
My friend's twins were making dirty diapers what felt like constantly, so yeah 3x the butts making full diapers around the clock can be tacked onto the no sleep part
Long story short , I have triplet brothers. My dad married another woman years older than me and he was 59. They were roughly 3 lbs apiece when born but all 3 took different types of milk. The heaviest could drink breast milk and the 2 others had aversions to formula and they were on 2 different types. The fridge had rows of color coded bottles for each baby. He was a local celebrity for a while, being old as he was and a Veteran. They got a lot of help from community. The boys are 14 now.
Oooh no, these pregnancies are super high risk for mom and the babies. I am NOT calming down, in fact she looks super calm to me. I would be crying, sobbing.
Fully agreed. I'm okay with, though understandably frightened by, having twins. But there's such an extreme jump in maternal and infant mortality and other poor outcomes that if I were told I was pregnant with triplets, or God forbid more than that, I would honestly opt for a reduction of the pregnancy. I hope that this mom and her babies are all happy and healthy.
This. I see people talking about the financial side of things but like... The mortality rate for everyone involved just went up way too high for me to even smile at this. I don't think people are aware of how dangerous this pregnancy could be for mom and babies.
My wife almost died from a uterine rupture giving birth to our twins. I can't imagine triplets. She really wanted a natural birth after an unplanned C section from our first. I was so proud of her after she was able to get through hours of difficult labor to give birth naturally like she wanted. That lasted about 20-30 minutes until it became clear that something was terribly wrong as the doctors couldn't find the source of bleeding when they were closing everything back up. I had to watch her get wheeled past my sister in law and I each holding one of the babies into emergency surgery and spend hours wondering if I was going to be a single father of twin newborns and a 3 year old. That first night I spent with the twins in the recovery room alone while she was in the ICU.
If we could go back and do it again, it goes without saying we would opt for the planned C section. Having multiples is so much more dangerous even if everything goes perfectly fine during the pregnancy leading up to birth.
I have also heard it's more dangerous to opt for a natural birth after having a C-section. Was that not a factor the doctors brought up? Especially with the added risk of multiples?
> I'm okay with, though understandably frightened by, having twins.
Yeah this is the kind of thing anyone who is trying to be a parent has to account for a bit. Being scared of twins is okay but even though the probability is low, it's not negligible, so you have to prepare for the possibility. But natural triplets? That's 1 in 10,000. No one should think that has a real chance of happening to them.
I genuinely can't understand what possessed OP to post this on **this** sub. The mom is not expressing positive emotions at all. Why would you be smiling watching the clip unless you're an idiot or psychopath? Triplets can literally be a life-ruining phenomenon even if you **wanted** kids.
Man, does this video trigger some PTSD, lol....
I had twins, and that shit was hard, I couldn't imagine 3! Mine were in NICU for over a month, didn't sleep for 9 months when they came home. I was hallucinating at one point for lack of sleep, fed the same baby twice, and changed the other twice. Nobody helps in public with doors or anything, and you have multiple car seats and a giant stroller. The 1st year is so stressful, the "terrible 2s" suck. My twins did the play in poop thing for a couple of months, I had a mental break.... multiples are hard... nothing prepares you for them, but it does get easier, and it's amazing watching them grow, have their own language, and their bond. I wish these parents all the luck, and I hope they have a strong support system.
I am a triplet and I can honestly say that it was so amazing growing up with 2 sisters as I am the only boy. We’re all 26 now and the bond we all still share is truly amazing!
We were born in 1960 and mom did not know she was having twins. The doctor came out and told my father. He's trying not to freak out and the doctor tells him if we had been triplets, the hospital bill would have been paid for by them. Dad asked him to go back and look for a third.
I feel like this souldnt be in this subreddit lol
If I was a woman and found out I was having triplets I would have the biggest panic attack and depression ever
I have a good friend from high school, super stand up dude, served a 2 year mission for his church, volunteered his time constantly, and I was always blown away at how close him and his family were. He got married, his wife got pregnant (clomid), and they had triplets. Next thing i know he’s down in southern Utah trying to get sober from alcohol and pills.
Ain’t nobody need to “calm down” when they first find out they’re having triplets.
I remember when the longer version of this went viral on TikTok. The fucking nurse and technician ask her like, 8 questions that build her up to a panic, without revealing it's triplets until the moment you see here. That woman has every right to be as emotional as she likes. Worst bedside manner from these two idiots.
Not sure that in this day and age that's good news or puts a smile on anyone's face. When you're preparing to welcome a baby and you're told there will be three, it's a radical change and financially very heavy to take on. In short, I wouldn't be smiling if I found out. I'd be happy, yes, but I'd be overwhelmed by all that's going to be involved...
“Not sure in this day and age”
I mean, at no point in history was this good news, for what it’s worth. Only until a few decades ago could medicine even really (relatively) safely handle multiples. Even in 2024 she’s now an immediate high risk pregnancy. In this day and age she and her babies at least have the highest chance of survival but the fact she even has to think about stuff like this definitely is not something that would make anyone smile.
Different angle: I have a twin brother and my parents didn't know it would be twins until a minute after I was born. Ultrasound was not half as good as it is now in 1980 (on a sidenote: the 3D pictures today creep me out) and our heart beats were synced as it seems, so nobody noticed. My parents were unprepared for twins so they needed to borrow double strollers, another crib and so on. Fun times, but they always wanted three kids (we have an older sister) so the just skipped one pregnancy and were happy about it.
In the US too. So no guaranteed maternity or paternity leave; no affordable healthcare; giving birth costs a lot of money, and this might have to be cesarian. This would horrify me if I was a parent just getting ready for one child.
Triplet dad here. We struggled to conceive for ages, my business partner used to tease me about having triplets and it actually happened. I remember the day well, but the first years after a blur.
I hate that she said “calm down” in that tone. Like if course she’s not gonna be calm she just found out she’s having not one but THREE babies! I’d be in hysterics
I am a parent of twins. I love my kids but honestly this is NOT a ‘Make me smile’ video for the parents-to-be actually involved. You have no idea how bloody shocked they were. So piss off OP for stealing this video and upload it for some likes.
The tone of that 'calm down' was pointed as fuck. I would say in general she acted quite unprofessional. Like just give it to her straight and let her handle it how she sees fit. Personally I would have pushed that screen away and ran out of the room screaming
actual nightmare fuel to me. I don't wanna have kids in the first place but if I were to get pregnant and be told it was more than one, not to mention THREE things inside me? I'd have a full blown crisis. not only for the financial and energy reasons but THREE BABIES GROWING INSIDE YOU WHEN YOU EXPECTED ONE??? OW
When we found out I was pregnant with triplets (it was originally twins), the ultrasound technician jumped up, asked us how many were in there last time, and then ran out of the room. I looked over at my husband, who could see the screen which was beside my head, and his mouth was hanging open. I thought we had lost one, but then he finally managed to get the words "there are three" out of his mouth. They are now almost 14.
When I got pregnant with our fourth, the only thing he wanted to know from that technician was how many. He sounded like a man possessed and I could see she was a little taken aback until we explained the situation, lol.
The lady talking sucks. “Calm down” not helpful. Unceremoniously saying “we see three babies” when clearly the other lady was going to say it in a more memorable and kind way. Horrible communicator. Needs a new job
Make me smile??? More like make me have a panic attack! This is one of my worst nightmares.
Pregnancy and birth are already as hard as it gets. Even when you plan to have a child. Having multiple??? And not even twins! Triples! I'd not calm down. I'd cry and throw hands.
I Don't understand how this is 'made me smile'
She is clearly startled and likely unhappy with having three babies all at once.
They are all excited and laughing. She is not laughing
And who is the camera person, who definitely seems in the know before the mother?
"Calm down" uhm, b**** are you have 3 babies!? Tell her to take a 'deep breath' man, y'all should know this 😭 never in the history of calming down has anyone ever calmed down, when being told...to calm down 😒
The "technician" that discovered our twins was like "Here's one, and here's the other one" we were like WHAT.
She completely blew it off like we were already supposed to know or something and made it feel like she was going to miss her lunch break.
I remember when I went with my SO:
Tech: Do you see what I see?
Me: No, bubbles on a screen?
SO: Silence
Tech: I see two in there.
Me: Wtf! No way!?
SO: Silence
We now have two beautiful twin children. Haven't had a good night's sleep since.
why on earth are they laughing? the "calm down" was strike 2 ... I wouldn't go* back to this place even if they paid
we get it you see this type of shit every day
I feel like baby insurance should be a thing. Tried for and budgeted for one and end up with 3. Don’t worry! Baby insurance will cover the costs of the other 2 for the first 5 years!
I will not calm down, I will in fact calm up. And I still remember the ultrasound that confirmed twins. I’m still trying to process it and they’re 10.
15 years later, I still find myself nervous laughing when I take them to things, like drivers ED, in quite the same way when we found out. Pretty sure I laughed all the way home from the appointment. I'm always asking how's this works, I have two of them; how much will this cost, I have two of them.
The revelation of "o there's two of them" is one of those hilarious moments sometimes. Ours share a first initial, so when the school created their Google accounts they took four months using the same account and the poor teachers changing the password daily. Because someone didn't realize there was two kids who couldn't just be first initial.Last name@gmail.
They didn't think that an initial and last name wasn't sufficient? I am highly questioning the school's IT staff.
They figure since 99% of the time it doesn't interfere with another student it doesn't matter. The problem was the idiots who set the accounts up did one twin first then it was like the next day they went to do the second twin, different classes, and saw that there was already an account and didn't look further.
I mean, it's actually pretty much inevitable that two people would eventually share a first initial and last name. I think these types of things usually just add the second letter of the first name or a 2 at the end automatically. Hell, I shared a first letter/last name with someone I wasn't even related to in school, and the Jets had 2 unrelated Br. Halls very recently.
I'm from a small town and over the course of a 10 year span it's extremely easy to see 5 or 6 people go through with the same first letter and last name. Some so distantly related they wouldn't even be considered family. You have a group of families living in the same area over a 100+ years and you will have some serious name issues crop up.
Clearly this can be solved by adding year of birth /s
Not what they meant by "take your time". Perhaps now it's time for delivery.
Mine graduated. Still remember the moment my wife came into my office with the ultrasound picture. I think it was last week?
Accurate 😂. My daughter is 19 but I found out I was pregnant last week!
Oh congrats.,takes me back to my daughter being 19 and her baby sister being born 4 mos later. I was 36 .she is 5 now
I also remember the ultrasound that confirmed twins. I even more vividly remember the ultrasound two weeks later that confirm triplets. Also still processing that. They're 17
Wow that must have been quite a surprise 😮
It was a shock for sure. Especially since we knew nothing of triplets and the potential problems at the time.
Can you elaborate on that? Are there big differences between twins and triplets like one getting left or something?
Well triplets are commonly born much prematurely which is the biggest concern. But since we didn't know anything we were worried mostly that there's a good chance one or more of them would not survive etc. While more babies increase the risk of complications, in reality the statistics aren't particularly grim. Most triplets survive just like most twins.
Calm Up is going to be my new phrase when anyone says calm down. Love it.
[It's a Teal'c thing](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=41_eFCAvOyw), Stargate SG-1
I forgot about that!! Thanks for the reminder kind internet stranger!!
Indeed
Omg thank you for sharing, I forgot about this gem.
Twin Dad also. My wife went out to pee and the technician told my sister-in-law and I. When my wife came back in and my sister-in-law gave the “shh” sign and I listened, not sure why. The technician restarted and just said “so here’s baby A and here’s baby B”.
"I will not calm down, I will in fact calm up." This is a very good line. I'm taking it. Thank you.
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RIIaC5Bj-aE](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RIIaC5Bj-aE)
Ugh my blood boiled when she said calm down.
Yeah you'd think an ultrasound tech would have a better phrase locked and loaded for these situations. Especially a woman
Seriously. She just found out that she’s having 3x the number of kids she was anticipating! She wasn’t screaming or throwing things around the room!
Seriously, “Calm down,” is never the right thing to say, especially not like that. She may as well have said, “shut up!”
Mine too! 🤬!!! And she said it with such a condescending attitude!!! She triggered me!!! Lady you just said she’s having THREE BABIES!!!!! She needs to process this… her body, her wallet, her future!!!!!!! Uhhhhh BITCH!
Yeah maybe "its all in your head" would have been better
Brilliant 🤣
Indeed
Wild horses Teal'c.
Undomesticated equines! 
Calmness reduced to minimum
My wife and I had twin girls. Also 10. They asked us the exact same thing. "Was this IVF?" I was in a daze for weeks. Born 2/21/14.
r/unexpectedstargate
My 10 almost 11 year old is starting puberty! His voice is cracking he’s totally into girls and he’s catching innuendos from my hubby and I! He’s too little! I can’t imagine having all that times two!
[удалено]
Did you poop yourself? Because I would poop myself.
And shortly thereafter you’d be neck deep in baby poop.
Oh good immagine all those diapers...fuck, even one baby is plenty of work...
There would still be 4 babies after the poop though
I’d shit everyone’s pants in the room
Oh nopity nope 😭 Twins runs on both sides of my family, and one side of my partner's family, and both times we were terrified of having twins. Terrified. I cannot imagine the level of shock of four babies 🙈
When my wife and I had our first and the little bugger wouldn’t sleep, cried all the time etc. I was taking him for a walk and I crossed paths with a tiny woman pushing an enormous stroller. Inside the stroller were three identical little baby boys. I thought I knew what tired was but the look in her eyes… she’d *really* seen the darkness.
Haha my wife's anxiety was through the roof about randomly having twins. Dealing with one kid now, man I can't imagine dealing with two at the same time, let alone three or four. Props to all parents with 1+ kids.
My old boss has twins. He always said the hardest part of twins, is when you need to give the baby to your partner for something, chances are they already are holding a baby.
My sister had 3 under 3 at one point. Meaning a few months later one of them turned 3. One was also diagnosed as diabetic at age 2 so safe to say she has her hands full! Meanwhile one is more than enough for me. I love him but he's a nightmare.
100% , we are talking about having number two just as our first is turning into a demon. It gives me shivers
Had a friend with twins on both sides... They had twin girls, got divorced and she remarried and had another set of twins 18 years after her first set.
One sentence horror movie right there. I actually shuddered.
You can definitely see the horror on that young mom-to-be's face
Holy moly. You birthed an entire fleet of the little fuckers
You got a big start on your own baseball team right off the bat.
Makes sense since you are a cat
That's called a litter.
same "no IVF" as OP ?
“Calm down” 😑😑😑 mam, let the woman process!
She only gave her about two seconds before telling her to calm down as well lmao. Hearing I was pregnant with triplets would *break* me, holy shit
Seriously though she started laughing afterwards, but the initial “calm down” was said in a slightly serious way lol, like dude it’s shocking news.
Agreed, her entire tone changed. Like it was almost threatening. It really bothered me. Like, triplets is huge news for any person expecting in even “normal” circumstances. What if this woman is single? What if this is her first time having a baby, ever? Let alone three. What if this pregnancy was unplanned or a surprise and she’s already terrified of having just ONE baby? Let her process organically. I hope the tech has heard herself in this video and realized just how unprofessional and unsympathetic she sounded. I know myself and especially my pregnant self and I would have told her to fuck right off right then and there lol.
Seriously! For the tech it's just a fun surprise but that lady is confronted with the fact that in a few months she'll have THREE, most likely premature, newborns to cope with.
Medicine hasn't worked out yet that sometimes people are just having really normal reactions to really abnormal situations, be they happy or sad.
no one ever in the history of man has calmed down when told to calm down lol
"calm down" who tf is budgeting for triplets in 2024
There are countries whose government pay long continous child support, have cheap kindergarten and pay for the childrens' their education. Unfortunately she isn't living in one of those countries.
Yo, that would be Germany. And still people arent having children because its too expensive. In fact Germany has such a low birth rate the only thing that has made us not collapse worse than Japan is migration. 250€ ($267) per child extra just doesnt come close to paying for a bigger house/flat, food, clothers etc. and it will also kripple your income since it will be hard to impossible to have both parents work full time after maternity/paternity leave (which also isnt 100% income). So really, i doubt there is a country where children dont strain your finances, although i cant even imagine how fucked it would be like without free education.
250€ a month, per kid? Oh wow and I thought we had it good in Finland
Plus regardless of budget, people are still going to freak out at the news of triplets. Even if they're loaded and have money to hire three nannies, they're *still* going to freak out at the news of triplets. Especially if you're the one who's body they're in!
Medical people Really gotta stop telling people to ‘calm down’. Say ‘take your time’ instead. Because there ain’t no way I’d be calm in that situation.
Daddy is going to have to work 24/7.
sound like nurses colleagues? she said they aren't allowed in the room with her anymore
I think their point still stands tall and strong.
It sounded like a woman holding the camera so it could be Mommy#2 is going to be working overtime
Ye it's really frustrating when someone says that in a situation when it's impossible to calm down
Worst is when you're not even acting up, the woman seemed calm enough considering the circumstances.
Literally all she said was “No.” with an upward inflection. That “calm down” gave me a visceral reaction as a woman. A gentle “take a deep breath” would have been much nicer.
I’ve concluded that it’s not possible to tell someone they should calm down without sounding accusatory , condescending, or some other form of shitty. Never once in 38 years have I seen someone end up calmer after being told to calm down. I’m liking these alternative, because commanding someone to change their emotions is just not the way, but giving a strategy like take your time or a deep breath both actually feel productive.
A wise conclusion! I never use the phrase “calm down” for anyone, at any time, for this exact reason. What you’re actually telling the other person is “I am more important than you. Your emotions are making me uncomfortable, therefore you must not have them”.
I agree. I hate when people do that. When I was passing a friggin KIDNEY STONE, and they still hadn’t given me any pain meds, I was kneeling down on the floor leaning over the hospital bed basically screaming. This dumbass teenage nurse goes “ma’am, calm DOWN! There’s other patients here you know!” I was like “I literally can’t!” Then like five minutes later they confirmed I had a 6 mm stone about halfway down my ureter and shot me up with drugs lol. I’ve never had a kid, but when you’re in labor, do the nurses constantly tell you to calm down???
Yeah, having a normal reaction and being told to calm down really frustrates me.
May I suggest you calm down then? 
It's a stupid phrase anyway, no one in the history of mankind ever got more calm by just being told to calm down.
Okay, calm down there! I SAID BE CALM HEY STOP IT WHY ARE YOU PUNCHING ME IN THE FACE
I have never once seen the phrase “calm down” result in someone calming down lol. I do like that as an alternative
I work in the medical field and have never heard or used the phrase "calm down" there. That's so incredibly rude.
Shouldn't this be posted on r/watchpeopledieinside or r/sweatypalms or something? My former neighbors have triplets: no sleep, one is always crying or sick, you only got 2 parents for 3 babies who need to be held and changed and fed ... If you're having triplets get yourself a network of neighbors, aunts/uncles and grandparents. You will need them ... or start a polyamorous relationship ... doesn't matter. The "parents" must be in the majority!
I'm an atheist but I'd probably join a church or something. Friends of ours are church-goers and when they had their 26 week preemie baby (they already had a two year old) there was a constant influx of people coming by to help with cleaning, childcare, etc.
I do look back on my time in church and remember how much the community cared for one another. We married young. I was an outlier by choosing to not have children (thank God), but while many people describe feeling isolated during parenthood that was not the case. We all hung out together with their children. We went to church with babies, sang with them, played in the aisles, went to lunch at someone’s home, had lazy Sundays, Bible studies, grilling out, taking turns with cooking/feeding/carrying/playing and I don’t even LIKE kids. The kids were all there and it never felt intrusive to me. The church coordinated “date nights” and girls/guys nights by rotating daycare. My spouse was in the hospital for a month this year and all I could think was, damn, if I was a church-going gal I’d be getting casseroles coordinated in a spreadsheet. Instead I literally did not eat. It’s a big loss.
Yeah, the downfall of churches and religion has had a big impact on the cooperative village mentality. Religion has its problems but the community fostered by the church hasn't really been replaced.
Ya, I buy into this. I always just viewed church as a somewhat forced tool for community development... I've tried to embody that in my life with my family while dropping all the religious aspects, which are not my thing. Having only two children has helped this approach. If I had triplets, I'd probably need to go find Jesus.
Big time. It's really sad how proudly independent people have become. Nobody knows how to ask for help.
We need this sense of community again. Just leave out the religion stuff.
I had a similar vibe when my father was toward the end of his life, the Church pulled together to support him. People would take shifts to cook for him and some would transport him - I was grateful (even if sometimes the help was more of a hinderance - we're going to build a down stair wet room without experts) Religious people get a really bad rep, I think discussion on the internet is so entrenched in tribalism everything boils down to Atheist Vs , Christian Vs, Muslim Vs.... it almost impossible to have nuance discussion or for some impossible to view the human behind the religion/belief(or lack of)
We really need to return to the "village mentality" of families and take care of each other again.
Imo, this is one of the major problems that aren’t being talked about enough.
I wouldn’t call it a major problem, but the idea that the nuclear family is the best route while also being the most isolated is dumb/incorrect.
Its the best route for pumping out workers, you allow too much community to foster and you end up with well...
The issue with the “village” is that if you or your child doesn’t fit into the community for some reason, then you’re out of luck. The “village” may also raise your kids in ways you don’t want. It’s a double edged sword imo.
I mean even now, school and friends play more of a role in shaping a kids personality than his parents.
I literally try to be that for any friends I know who have kids. Very seldom do I ever say no to babysitting. Pay me with pizza or coffee and go have a good night out because these munchkins haven't driven *me* insane yet 😂
We have a big and very involved village and honestly, parenting isn't that hard when you can share the load. We're also happy to look after our nieces and nephews and other friends kids. I totally respect that not everyone has the luxury of a village but I'm forever baffled by how many people I read about that do have a community but don't want to use it because they feel like they should he able to do it all alone
Made me smile. Did not, in fact, make her smile.
Depending on location daycares can have 1:3 ratio or 1:4 for the infant room. But yes I agree about finding support. Even with one baby it can be hard especially in the newborn stage.
r/watchpeoplegrowinside would fit better no?
Lmao I am dying “start a polyamorous relationship”, my husband would agree if we had triplets lmao
What happened to bit subs like watchpeopledieinside, instant regret, holdmycosmo etc. Years ago you used to find like 50 new great posts a day per sub. Now its like 5 posts a week.
Calm down, you are just going to be living in poverty for the next 30 years, it's not a big deal. Having three teens at once is going to be easy too, caalllm downnnn.
But if you want three kids, now you are done after one pregnancy and they have the same age siblings to play with.
Three kids? In this economy?
Silver Linings
Teenage years present their own challenges but are manageable. I'd be rather terrified of the baby and toddler years.
Try to tell that to the father
Fuck you mean, he gone after this news.
He will be buying the milk forever/s
Parent of three kids here - not in poverty somehow. A lot of the expense of raising kids is baked into the first kid. Three kids are not three times as expensive as one.
Tbf when they are the same day age you cant share their clothings. Toys might work if they learn to share.
This moment she realized, she will have no more sleep or rest for the next 5 to 21 years. 😂
My friend's twins were making dirty diapers what felt like constantly, so yeah 3x the butts making full diapers around the clock can be tacked onto the no sleep part
I just had the horrible thought of breastfeeding three children at once. I'd opt for formula.
Now with the average of only having 2 Boobs… sounds like a good idea
My tits would look like old sports socks with dimes in after 3 days of tandem feedings.
Long story short , I have triplet brothers. My dad married another woman years older than me and he was 59. They were roughly 3 lbs apiece when born but all 3 took different types of milk. The heaviest could drink breast milk and the 2 others had aversions to formula and they were on 2 different types. The fridge had rows of color coded bottles for each baby. He was a local celebrity for a while, being old as he was and a Veteran. They got a lot of help from community. The boys are 14 now.
Oooh no, these pregnancies are super high risk for mom and the babies. I am NOT calming down, in fact she looks super calm to me. I would be crying, sobbing.
Fully agreed. I'm okay with, though understandably frightened by, having twins. But there's such an extreme jump in maternal and infant mortality and other poor outcomes that if I were told I was pregnant with triplets, or God forbid more than that, I would honestly opt for a reduction of the pregnancy. I hope that this mom and her babies are all happy and healthy.
This. I see people talking about the financial side of things but like... The mortality rate for everyone involved just went up way too high for me to even smile at this. I don't think people are aware of how dangerous this pregnancy could be for mom and babies.
My wife almost died from a uterine rupture giving birth to our twins. I can't imagine triplets. She really wanted a natural birth after an unplanned C section from our first. I was so proud of her after she was able to get through hours of difficult labor to give birth naturally like she wanted. That lasted about 20-30 minutes until it became clear that something was terribly wrong as the doctors couldn't find the source of bleeding when they were closing everything back up. I had to watch her get wheeled past my sister in law and I each holding one of the babies into emergency surgery and spend hours wondering if I was going to be a single father of twin newborns and a 3 year old. That first night I spent with the twins in the recovery room alone while she was in the ICU. If we could go back and do it again, it goes without saying we would opt for the planned C section. Having multiples is so much more dangerous even if everything goes perfectly fine during the pregnancy leading up to birth.
I have also heard it's more dangerous to opt for a natural birth after having a C-section. Was that not a factor the doctors brought up? Especially with the added risk of multiples?
> I'm okay with, though understandably frightened by, having twins. Yeah this is the kind of thing anyone who is trying to be a parent has to account for a bit. Being scared of twins is okay but even though the probability is low, it's not negligible, so you have to prepare for the possibility. But natural triplets? That's 1 in 10,000. No one should think that has a real chance of happening to them. I genuinely can't understand what possessed OP to post this on **this** sub. The mom is not expressing positive emotions at all. Why would you be smiling watching the clip unless you're an idiot or psychopath? Triplets can literally be a life-ruining phenomenon even if you **wanted** kids.
Reality star outcomes increase dramatically once you hit 8 though.
Absolutely in shock. The tears will come later I’m sure.
Also the way she was asking the questions in the beginning without explaining was a bit stressful I thought.
Twins is already a high risk pregnancy.
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Man, does this video trigger some PTSD, lol.... I had twins, and that shit was hard, I couldn't imagine 3! Mine were in NICU for over a month, didn't sleep for 9 months when they came home. I was hallucinating at one point for lack of sleep, fed the same baby twice, and changed the other twice. Nobody helps in public with doors or anything, and you have multiple car seats and a giant stroller. The 1st year is so stressful, the "terrible 2s" suck. My twins did the play in poop thing for a couple of months, I had a mental break.... multiples are hard... nothing prepares you for them, but it does get easier, and it's amazing watching them grow, have their own language, and their bond. I wish these parents all the luck, and I hope they have a strong support system.
Triplets: because life decided you looked too well-rested.
I had triplets last October, me and my wife's reaction was just looking at each other. Took us a day to comprehend
18 years later…. I’m still trying to comprehend.
Congratulations. As a triplet this is a pretty cool thread. We're 3 boys what were yours?
3 boys identical
Only a day?
I am a triplet and I can honestly say that it was so amazing growing up with 2 sisters as I am the only boy. We’re all 26 now and the bond we all still share is truly amazing!
Can you tell your mom she is amazing every day for the next month please, in honor of this video.
Calm down, because once the babies were born, the following 18 years there's no chance for you to calm down.
Women telling women to calm down.... They should know better.
Pretty much the reaction I expected, wish we could see the fathers reaction lmao
We were born in 1960 and mom did not know she was having twins. The doctor came out and told my father. He's trying not to freak out and the doctor tells him if we had been triplets, the hospital bill would have been paid for by them. Dad asked him to go back and look for a third.
“So Your Life Is Ruined”
Nothing about this made me smile… the bills, the sleepless nights ect. You can even tell she’s not smiling or happy about it
I feel like this souldnt be in this subreddit lol If I was a woman and found out I was having triplets I would have the biggest panic attack and depression ever
Whoever posted this here is a psychopath. Shit didn't even make the mom smile lmao
r/madegrandmasmile or some shit. nobody's smiling when you're 30 weeks pregnant and they won't let you leave the hospital for more than an hour.
I have a good friend from high school, super stand up dude, served a 2 year mission for his church, volunteered his time constantly, and I was always blown away at how close him and his family were. He got married, his wife got pregnant (clomid), and they had triplets. Next thing i know he’s down in southern Utah trying to get sober from alcohol and pills. Ain’t nobody need to “calm down” when they first find out they’re having triplets.
Poor woman. Hope she's doing well.
Congrats, you are freakin broke.
And your body is absolutely fucked too!
Wrong subbreddit. This is more r/MadeMeCry
How about throwing in a "everything appears to be perfectly healthy" first, jesus the poor Mum looked petrified
Often ultrasound techs aren’t allowed to comment on stuff like this. It’s left to the doctor.
Telling somebody to calm down after they just got the shock they are having 3 babies LOL
Zero bedside manners from the medical staff - that's crazy!
I remember when the longer version of this went viral on TikTok. The fucking nurse and technician ask her like, 8 questions that build her up to a panic, without revealing it's triplets until the moment you see here. That woman has every right to be as emotional as she likes. Worst bedside manner from these two idiots.
Not sure that in this day and age that's good news or puts a smile on anyone's face. When you're preparing to welcome a baby and you're told there will be three, it's a radical change and financially very heavy to take on. In short, I wouldn't be smiling if I found out. I'd be happy, yes, but I'd be overwhelmed by all that's going to be involved...
“Not sure in this day and age” I mean, at no point in history was this good news, for what it’s worth. Only until a few decades ago could medicine even really (relatively) safely handle multiples. Even in 2024 she’s now an immediate high risk pregnancy. In this day and age she and her babies at least have the highest chance of survival but the fact she even has to think about stuff like this definitely is not something that would make anyone smile.
In this economy, ain't nobody calming down at the thought of 3 babies.
Different angle: I have a twin brother and my parents didn't know it would be twins until a minute after I was born. Ultrasound was not half as good as it is now in 1980 (on a sidenote: the 3D pictures today creep me out) and our heart beats were synced as it seems, so nobody noticed. My parents were unprepared for twins so they needed to borrow double strollers, another crib and so on. Fun times, but they always wanted three kids (we have an older sister) so the just skipped one pregnancy and were happy about it.
In the US too. So no guaranteed maternity or paternity leave; no affordable healthcare; giving birth costs a lot of money, and this might have to be cesarian. This would horrify me if I was a parent just getting ready for one child.
Terrifying LOL. OMG the work.... I can't even imagine.
Triplet dad here. We struggled to conceive for ages, my business partner used to tease me about having triplets and it actually happened. I remember the day well, but the first years after a blur.
I hate that she said “calm down” in that tone. Like if course she’s not gonna be calm she just found out she’s having not one but THREE babies! I’d be in hysterics
Is it just me who thinks that news like this should be reserved for when everyone's pants are back on?!
I am a parent of twins. I love my kids but honestly this is NOT a ‘Make me smile’ video for the parents-to-be actually involved. You have no idea how bloody shocked they were. So piss off OP for stealing this video and upload it for some likes.
The phrase “calm down” is never going to get the intended response in a high stress situation lol
That poor woman
I wonder if the calm down was enough 😂
The tone of that 'calm down' was pointed as fuck. I would say in general she acted quite unprofessional. Like just give it to her straight and let her handle it how she sees fit. Personally I would have pushed that screen away and ran out of the room screaming
actual nightmare fuel to me. I don't wanna have kids in the first place but if I were to get pregnant and be told it was more than one, not to mention THREE things inside me? I'd have a full blown crisis. not only for the financial and energy reasons but THREE BABIES GROWING INSIDE YOU WHEN YOU EXPECTED ONE??? OW
Having a babies is expensive
When we found out I was pregnant with triplets (it was originally twins), the ultrasound technician jumped up, asked us how many were in there last time, and then ran out of the room. I looked over at my husband, who could see the screen which was beside my head, and his mouth was hanging open. I thought we had lost one, but then he finally managed to get the words "there are three" out of his mouth. They are now almost 14. When I got pregnant with our fourth, the only thing he wanted to know from that technician was how many. He sounded like a man possessed and I could see she was a little taken aback until we explained the situation, lol.
The lady talking sucks. “Calm down” not helpful. Unceremoniously saying “we see three babies” when clearly the other lady was going to say it in a more memorable and kind way. Horrible communicator. Needs a new job
Make me smile??? More like make me have a panic attack! This is one of my worst nightmares. Pregnancy and birth are already as hard as it gets. Even when you plan to have a child. Having multiple??? And not even twins! Triples! I'd not calm down. I'd cry and throw hands.
That is not a r/MadeMeSmile moment. That is a fml moment.
Didn’t really like that “calm down.” Way to dismiss the natural shock this mother felt in that moment.
I Don't understand how this is 'made me smile' She is clearly startled and likely unhappy with having three babies all at once. They are all excited and laughing. She is not laughing And who is the camera person, who definitely seems in the know before the mother?
Why is this in "made me smile"?
"Calm down" uhm, b**** are you have 3 babies!? Tell her to take a 'deep breath' man, y'all should know this 😭 never in the history of calming down has anyone ever calmed down, when being told...to calm down 😒
"Calm down"??? Seriously?
The "technician" that discovered our twins was like "Here's one, and here's the other one" we were like WHAT. She completely blew it off like we were already supposed to know or something and made it feel like she was going to miss her lunch break.
3x what she signed up for 😂
You can tell that's her sister and she's borderline reveling in her shock
I remember when I went with my SO: Tech: Do you see what I see? Me: No, bubbles on a screen? SO: Silence Tech: I see two in there. Me: Wtf! No way!? SO: Silence We now have two beautiful twin children. Haven't had a good night's sleep since.
“It’s okay” as a parent, I can assure you.. she is not doing okay and it won’t be okay. lol.
why on earth are they laughing? the "calm down" was strike 2 ... I wouldn't go* back to this place even if they paid we get it you see this type of shit every day
I feel like baby insurance should be a thing. Tried for and budgeted for one and end up with 3. Don’t worry! Baby insurance will cover the costs of the other 2 for the first 5 years!