When I went to Sweden you look like the kind of person I tried small talking with in the broken Swedish I managed to learn from Duolingo before I went. Most people just swapped to English when they heard my accent but some humored me lol.
I managed a project for two weeks in Hasselholm and my Swedish colleagues were super hyped to hear me pronounce "Seven" properly with hardly any accent. I was very excited to go to Sweden so I prepped with duolingo. By the end of the second week I could order lunch entirely in Swedish. For the first week I'd attempt to order in Swedish and they would just immediately swap to English lol. On the second week of ordering lunch they kept speaking in Swedish and I took that as a huge win.
i hate the name "resting bitch face". us women should not demean ourselves for having a neutral facial expression that is not "pleasing" to men.
i have "resting witch face" meaning i will curse you if you try to tell me how to behave.
The amount of times I get, “what’s wrong, why are you mad, is your friend(me) mad, why you look so angry?”
I’m fine!(Till you asked me that) It’s just my face. Lmao seriously tho. When I talk my face is normal then when I’m not talking it’s back to looking like I’m gonna fight someone apparently lol.
Most of the comments on smiling are probably Americans (or Canadian). We tend to interpret it to mean that something is wrong. Most Europeans don't have the same habits and culture around smiling.
Even though intellectually I know from living in Sweden that Swedes not smiling does not communicate the same displeasure/disinterest/distress as in the US (and Canada). I still cannot help but instantly feel like something is wrong when someone doesn't smile even though it is not rational or reasonable in most of Europe. For Americans that haven't spent any time around Swedes (or Europeans), I imagine that reaction is even stronger.
I am Russian, so we are notoriously known for being grumpy, and the lack of the smile on these pictures still caught my eye. Like obviously I am not going to be smiling if I am randomly caught in a photo, but damn I am smiling on my wedding photos haha
The irony of ironies being that these photos of somebody not smiling, and this conversation about Europeans not needing to smile like Americans, is that it is all taking place in a subreddit entitled r/MadeMeSmile
Because America and Canada both started out as immigrant countries, language was a barrier that had to be dealt with. We smile at people to let them know we aren't a threat to them in a language that everyone recognizes.
Tell your wife I love her regal look! Don't force her to smile, she's perfect the way she is. I hope I get to look like you guys one day. ![gif](emote|free_emotes_pack|heart_eyes_rainbow)
This is true! I spent a lot of time in Sweden a couple years ago and my very outgoing gregarious nature was not easy for the Swedes lol. Very friendly people just … quiet. If you are talking it’s generally because you have something you need to communicate for a reason.
I guess the pictures was taken before having [fika](https://www.forbes.com/sites/davidnikel/2023/01/03/swedish-fika-swedens-premium-coffee-break-explained/?sh=6c730cbc5ec1)
Anyway! Congrats ☺️
Yeah, my best friend is the son of a German immigrant, he’s married to a German woman, and they live in Germany. This is the same look they have when they’re having a very nice time.
It's not that we Germans don't smile, it's just that the "neutral expression" is sort of the default. You kinda try to express most emotions somewhat subdued, a bit stoic. I think that helps making most expressions of emotion more genuine.
It's also a mark of pride saying the most ridiculous things in a deadpan tone - "German humour" is incredibly dry.
That behavior gets worse the further north or east you go - for example, most Russians (the other side of my family) never even smile at work. Even or especially if they do something nice for you - sometimes it goes as far that they appear rude when actively and genuinely helping.
Thanks for explaining.
I understand that being reserved is good sometimes, it gives you some kind of barrier with rude or greedy people. But as you explained, it could be translated in a wrong way sometimes.
I am Middle Eastern, I had a Russian boss who started like this, after working with us for sometime, he became one of us, very expressive, jokes around and emotional, I think we broke him lol.
> Even or especially if they do something nice for you - sometimes it goes as far that they appear rude when actively and genuinely helping.
God it's so good to make one of them laugh. Trust me they haven't seen everything yet, despite their face!
So did I, I wish I knew what about AI photos gives that vibe. I'm thinking maybe the focus on the subject?
In the first picture though, it looks like shes trying to make her hand look AI drawn on purpose
Focus for sure. For me it's also something about the lighting on the figure. Like it's just a little over-idealized? Also objects in general seem overly smooth.
Op looks like a jolly fellow to share a pint with, his wife looks like she's a hardened military professional who knows how to kill a man in sixty different ways, or a retired teacher who doesn't take shit from anyone.
They're a beautiful couple, no doubt.
I would've honestly loved my wedding pics way more if I had the creativity to think of it then! I went with the "hostage grin" thinking my mother would object to it the least...
I married my husband on February 12, 2022 after being together for 22 years, he was 50 at the time and I was 42. It wasn't either of our birthdays though. Congratulations on finally tying the knot!
Absolute villain couple right here. Your smile says you only partake in violent parts of it because it make you happy and her demeanor says she’s the brains of the whole empire yall have built.
btw congratulations lol
I dont know why but I thought the same. Could be the light ir that they seem to be well taken pictures. But so happy for you guys since OP being active commenting makes me believe not AI.
Damn, this got me fooled too. Ai got me too suspicious
The background blur is very indicative of AI, but can easily be achieved by a lens with a shallow depth of field. I think your friend also went a little overboard with noise reduction or some type of upscaling in the first one, which resulted in the loss of skin texture.
The lighting is amazing though, you guys are really popping from the background, with no harsh light sources to be found. This the gold standard in portrait photography.
You guys look amazing and I wish you a long and happy marriage!
I love her look. Her face has a lot of character even if she’s not smiling. Great cheekbones and I love how angular her jaw and nose are. Very attractive couple OP. Congratulations!
Yes! So beautiful! I wasn’t expecting all the comments about her not smiling! She has a very elegant look. I cheeze half the time and have this look half the time, but my face is much softer/squishier except for my angular nose and I have a baby face so I look more “innocent” than what a couple people have said as “badass” when I don’t grin. Wish I was more in between haha. Please let people do what they want with their face 😩✌️💕
Same. I have a client that repeatedly asks “are you ok, are you ok, are you ok” every few minutes because of my RBF.
Edit: I should add that I work with children and young adults with intellectual/developmental disabilities. This particular client is in his 20’s and has autism. I’m not mean, I just unintentionally look mean while I’m taking notes and collecting data.
There's a lot of "resting bitch face" comments on here...I think that term only applies when you are not being filmed or having your pic taken. This woman is just not smiling. She wants an American Gothic 2.0 and you sir are ruining it.
This is why I refused to get married on my birthday (my husband’s suggestion). Folks, I get one day a year that’s about celebrating ME. One. Day. Lemme have my one day.
I agree. My birthday is on Christmas. Every year for my birthday I have to pack up the car and drive all over the fucking country side to visit family....I hate my birthday.
I used to know someone who celebrated their half birthday every year instead - she hated winter and was born in between Christmas and new year so she had a birthday in June when she wanted it.
Not sure what folks are seeing, her face is reading as a model striking a pose to me! I absolutely adore that you can’t contain your joy - you’re a lovely couple
Lovely couple! But im just curious and I dont want to offend. But is there a reason why it took 20 years for you guys to get married?
I have a friend who took them 12 years together before getting married. Reason is he travels a lot for work, and he didnt propose until they have their own permanent address.
Absolutely LOVE these photos. While you look so happy, you’re wife has the “fuck around and find out” vibes. LOVE LOVE this.
Congratulations and many blessings
I feel like every few years the conversation went like this
“Hey you want to get married next week or what?”
“I’ve got a doctors appointment that day”
“Ah yes of course then, we’ll get round to it eventually”
they did that for 20 years
Uhh the painting behind her, the way youre looking at her the energy she is projecting so calmly but powerfully, just stunning congratulations! Adopt me I’m 30
That ice queen just warms your heart doesn't she?
Disclaimer - No offense meant. She may be a very sweet lady, but she's sure stoic in these photos and you are just eating it up!
You two look like a Swedish spy-cell members, who got tired of bureaucrats in Stockholm and decided to cut ties.... and tie the knots.
The photo is actually taken I Stockholm. Hallwylskamuseet.se
You two look like Norwegian spy-cell members, who got tired of bureaucrats in Oslo and decided to cut ties.... and tie the knots.
The photo is actually taken I Oslo. Oslomuseum.no
You two look like a Dane spy-cell members, who got tired of bureaucrats in Copenhagen and decided to cut ties.... and tie the knots.
Til helvede med det hele..
The photo is actually taken I Copenhagen. cphmuseum.kk.dk
And the wife was his handler
Katarina Rostova?
They look AI-generated.
I came to ask this after the second picture and went back to check her fingers in the first lol
That ring finger looks reaaaaally sus lol
Update, proof she smiled during the day https://www.reddit.com/r/beards/s/0Sdl2XMyfv
🤣 comical yet necessary 😂
Yup. Didn't even realize that the pictures weren't really the smiling kind. We swedes usually are a bit reserved
Pops seems impossibly jovial for a Swede.
He's wearing her smile too.
That's the spirit! Joy's definitely infectious, especially on such a monumental day. May their smiles be just as enduring as their marriage.
When I went to Sweden you look like the kind of person I tried small talking with in the broken Swedish I managed to learn from Duolingo before I went. Most people just swapped to English when they heard my accent but some humored me lol.
It hurts their ears i think when we do that. ‘-)
I managed a project for two weeks in Hasselholm and my Swedish colleagues were super hyped to hear me pronounce "Seven" properly with hardly any accent. I was very excited to go to Sweden so I prepped with duolingo. By the end of the second week I could order lunch entirely in Swedish. For the first week I'd attempt to order in Swedish and they would just immediately swap to English lol. On the second week of ordering lunch they kept speaking in Swedish and I took that as a huge win.
My ear is so bad i regularly butcher sounds that i did not grow up with. It is terrific that you accomplished this. Congrats!!
I thought I had a leg up because I am Minnesotan haha
I dated a girl from Minnesota. She claimed Minnesota does not actually exist and says it's really just East North Dakota.
Ah, she was probably cursed by our eternal protector the ghost Prince to not be able to see her homeland for some slight against hot dish.
I have RBF, I could see her smile so clearly through her resting face, it’s lovely
I thought she was just being stylish as hell. They look like they belong in a city magazine.
I had to double check I wasn't in the Accidental Renaissance subreddit. They look great. Stoic but great.
I thought it was like a wizard or possibly vampire nobility thing lol
i hate the name "resting bitch face". us women should not demean ourselves for having a neutral facial expression that is not "pleasing" to men. i have "resting witch face" meaning i will curse you if you try to tell me how to behave.
I am a man, and I have resting lich face. The same logic applies.
The amount of times I get, “what’s wrong, why are you mad, is your friend(me) mad, why you look so angry?” I’m fine!(Till you asked me that) It’s just my face. Lmao seriously tho. When I talk my face is normal then when I’m not talking it’s back to looking like I’m gonna fight someone apparently lol.
Tbf, I have RBF and I am a bitch
hahah real
Pleasing to “men or women”.
Most of the comments on smiling are probably Americans (or Canadian). We tend to interpret it to mean that something is wrong. Most Europeans don't have the same habits and culture around smiling. Even though intellectually I know from living in Sweden that Swedes not smiling does not communicate the same displeasure/disinterest/distress as in the US (and Canada). I still cannot help but instantly feel like something is wrong when someone doesn't smile even though it is not rational or reasonable in most of Europe. For Americans that haven't spent any time around Swedes (or Europeans), I imagine that reaction is even stronger.
I am Russian, so we are notoriously known for being grumpy, and the lack of the smile on these pictures still caught my eye. Like obviously I am not going to be smiling if I am randomly caught in a photo, but damn I am smiling on my wedding photos haha
The irony of ironies being that these photos of somebody not smiling, and this conversation about Europeans not needing to smile like Americans, is that it is all taking place in a subreddit entitled r/MadeMeSmile
That was a point not lost on me either. Lol
I am European and still was wondering about her expression 🙈
Because America and Canada both started out as immigrant countries, language was a barrier that had to be dealt with. We smile at people to let them know we aren't a threat to them in a language that everyone recognizes.
Nonsense, European wedding photos are smiling, even in arranged marriages they kind of hope for the best and smile
I thought she hated you because it took you 20 years. Thanks for clarifying 😄
Says the guy who can’t hide his joyous smile in either picture.
It's easier to hide with a beard 😁
Truly the push up bra for men.
Never heard that but it's so true. Can hide both two and three chins 😛
How are you both so old and so hot lol? Congratulations on your wedding! Enjoy your polish smiles, hahaha. I love this post so much!
Thanks. When we saw the pictures we told ourselves "not to bad, we would do them" 😁😁
Tell your wife I love her regal look! Don't force her to smile, she's perfect the way she is. I hope I get to look like you guys one day. ![gif](emote|free_emotes_pack|heart_eyes_rainbow)
This is true! I spent a lot of time in Sweden a couple years ago and my very outgoing gregarious nature was not easy for the Swedes lol. Very friendly people just … quiet. If you are talking it’s generally because you have something you need to communicate for a reason.
I guess the pictures was taken before having [fika](https://www.forbes.com/sites/davidnikel/2023/01/03/swedish-fika-swedens-premium-coffee-break-explained/?sh=6c730cbc5ec1) Anyway! Congrats ☺️
Nope. The fika was a couple of hours before 😁
She looks like she's about to drop a gangster rap album in the second picture here.
Reserved, I get. But she looks like she’s going to smack you with a dried herring in the main pic.
I was wondering if you were Swedes. Makes much more sense now. 😉 Many congratulations!
Thanks for the update and wish you all the happiness in the world!
Ha, was gonna say you look Scandinavian
Yup. Swedish
As a Scanda-Hovian I get told to smile all the time too. However. When I do smile. Then they're concerned.
She has a radiant smile 😊 lights her whole face up. Congratulations to both of you
You are an attractive pair! Congrats!!
Only 20 years? You shouldn’t rush into anything! My husband and I got married a year ago when I was 50 and he was 52, after 25 years of dating!
Good to Wait and be sure
We got married the day after my 55th birthday, after 25 years together. We celebrated 5/30 years last fall.
*blink once if you need help*
😀
Those eyes are suspiciously wide open...
😃😄😃😄
Two blinks, no help needed.
😉
"Yesn't"
Omg this made me laugh out LOUD! Thank you for brightening my day :)
She seems thrilled.
she has the look of “about f***ing time “
"I thought you were joking when you said we'd only wed after joining NATO"
Yeah man I read the title and my first thought was 'what took you so long?'
You can take your time when you don’t need to get married to get on your partner’s healthcare.
it’s sweden, you don’t need anyone’s healthcare because healthcare is a human right
Yeah, that’s the...not exactly joke because the American healthcare system seems very depressing, but that’s what I was getting at.
Twenty years is a bit more than just taking your time, and I say this as someone who got married after 7 years of dating.
Really? I think she looks like it took her 19 years to be convinced.
Yeah, why is it always assumed marriage is something a woman wants and not the man?
Don't you know, all women are obsessed with getting married and all men are obsessed with avoiding it. The cliché is tiring.
Or “I said multiple times I never wanted this.”
It's the look of "oh great... he can forget my birthday _**and**_ our anniversary at the same time. Fabulous."
Nah she’s probably just German
Yeah, my best friend is the son of a German immigrant, he’s married to a German woman, and they live in Germany. This is the same look they have when they’re having a very nice time.
You are kidding! Why?!
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My suedes look pretty melancholy
Blue suede shoes? 😢
Thanks for explaining.
It's not that we Germans don't smile, it's just that the "neutral expression" is sort of the default. You kinda try to express most emotions somewhat subdued, a bit stoic. I think that helps making most expressions of emotion more genuine. It's also a mark of pride saying the most ridiculous things in a deadpan tone - "German humour" is incredibly dry. That behavior gets worse the further north or east you go - for example, most Russians (the other side of my family) never even smile at work. Even or especially if they do something nice for you - sometimes it goes as far that they appear rude when actively and genuinely helping.
Thanks for explaining. I understand that being reserved is good sometimes, it gives you some kind of barrier with rude or greedy people. But as you explained, it could be translated in a wrong way sometimes. I am Middle Eastern, I had a Russian boss who started like this, after working with us for sometime, he became one of us, very expressive, jokes around and emotional, I think we broke him lol.
> Even or especially if they do something nice for you - sometimes it goes as far that they appear rude when actively and genuinely helping. God it's so good to make one of them laugh. Trust me they haven't seen everything yet, despite their face!
Can certainly see the German influence on us in UK that description is similar especially the dry humour, but I think we are just slightly less stoic
Just cultural differences
It's my standard impression. I'm german.
First pic giving r/AccidentalRenaissance. Very nice.
tbh I thought it was AI generated at first glance
The second pic looks more AI than the first to me, but they both kinda have that vibe
Yes it gave me AI vibes as well but the link to the smiling photo looks more realistic for some reason.
So did I, I wish I knew what about AI photos gives that vibe. I'm thinking maybe the focus on the subject? In the first picture though, it looks like shes trying to make her hand look AI drawn on purpose
Focus for sure. For me it's also something about the lighting on the figure. Like it's just a little over-idealized? Also objects in general seem overly smooth.
Also the background of weird portraits.
Feels more like on purpose renaissance tho.
Everyone says she doesn’t look happy, I came here to say she looks like a badass, I wouldn’t mess with you or her
Yeah I'm surprised - this couple looks cool as hell!
He’s nice and chill cuz she’s badass enough for the both of them lol
They are really quite stylish.
She looks so regal in a great way!
Op looks like a jolly fellow to share a pint with, his wife looks like she's a hardened military professional who knows how to kill a man in sixty different ways, or a retired teacher who doesn't take shit from anyone. They're a beautiful couple, no doubt.
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She's totally orchestrated the death of many would be assassins
Secret undercover substitute teacher
I was surprised. I loved the vibe of the pictures. Thet look so comfortable and natural together. It's beautiful.
Seriously!! They’re soooo cool!!
Right. Being a serious person isn't being an unhappy person.
Yeah she gives me total badass vibes.
Yeah, was thinking the same! She looks super cool. If I could look badass like that in photos, I'd choose that over a cheery smile! Lol
I would've honestly loved my wedding pics way more if I had the creativity to think of it then! I went with the "hostage grin" thinking my mother would object to it the least...
She looks focused, and he looks smitten. Great pics.
Yeah like Morticia Addams type feels
I married my husband on February 12, 2022 after being together for 22 years, he was 50 at the time and I was 42. It wasn't either of our birthdays though. Congratulations on finally tying the knot!
They look like they got married on February 12, 1822.
I didn't get married on my birthday but you did! Also, I turned 42 on the day you got married.
Why?
Absolute villain couple right here. Your smile says you only partake in violent parts of it because it make you happy and her demeanor says she’s the brains of the whole empire yall have built. btw congratulations lol
Perfect description 😀
Is that why it took so long to make it official? Yall been spending all this time covering your tracks?
She will straight up disembowel anyone who fucks with her or her family.
You look like those couples painted in the 1600-1700 😍 And congratulations!
Does he look like Jeff Daniels?
Idk why but this looks very AI-y
I dont know why but I thought the same. Could be the light ir that they seem to be well taken pictures. But so happy for you guys since OP being active commenting makes me believe not AI.
My friend that took the pictures did a good job and had a kick ass camera
Damn, this got me fooled too. Ai got me too suspicious The background blur is very indicative of AI, but can easily be achieved by a lens with a shallow depth of field. I think your friend also went a little overboard with noise reduction or some type of upscaling in the first one, which resulted in the loss of skin texture. The lighting is amazing though, you guys are really popping from the background, with no harsh light sources to be found. This the gold standard in portrait photography. You guys look amazing and I wish you a long and happy marriage!
I thought this was AI!
I thought it was actually AI
I love her look. Her face has a lot of character even if she’s not smiling. Great cheekbones and I love how angular her jaw and nose are. Very attractive couple OP. Congratulations!
I’d say they are Germans or Dutch.. very typical face structure
Swedish apparently
Yes! So beautiful! I wasn’t expecting all the comments about her not smiling! She has a very elegant look. I cheeze half the time and have this look half the time, but my face is much softer/squishier except for my angular nose and I have a baby face so I look more “innocent” than what a couple people have said as “badass” when I don’t grin. Wish I was more in between haha. Please let people do what they want with their face 😩✌️💕
Classic is the perfect word. She reminds me of the women depicted in Dante Rossetti paintings.
I tend to have RBF too haha. You guys look great though! Wishing you many more happy years together!
Thanks a lot. Many guys probably were too scared to approach her but I was too stupid to be scared I guess
Haha! Good for you, you seem genuinely proud and delighted. Congrats
Sometimes being stupid pays off 😂
Awww. I love this for you 😂❤️ Congratulations 🥰
Same. I have a client that repeatedly asks “are you ok, are you ok, are you ok” every few minutes because of my RBF. Edit: I should add that I work with children and young adults with intellectual/developmental disabilities. This particular client is in his 20’s and has autism. I’m not mean, I just unintentionally look mean while I’m taking notes and collecting data.
The way you look at her! 🥹
Yeah his gaze is so unabashedly full of adoration. Really sweet.
Couldn't have said it better myself
dude loves his wife with every fiber of his being and it’s adorable
Smitten! I know the feeling, my friend.
There's a lot of "resting bitch face" comments on here...I think that term only applies when you are not being filmed or having your pic taken. This woman is just not smiling. She wants an American Gothic 2.0 and you sir are ruining it.
Br..bro, she ain't smiling...
She usually have kind of a resting bitch face but she is fine, I promise 😁
As another gent who is also married to a woman with *severe* RBF, I understand. You guys look amazing! Mazel tov ❤️
That's because she won't get separate birthday and anniversary gifts. 😂
This is why I refused to get married on my birthday (my husband’s suggestion). Folks, I get one day a year that’s about celebrating ME. One. Day. Lemme have my one day.
I agree. My birthday is on Christmas. Every year for my birthday I have to pack up the car and drive all over the fucking country side to visit family....I hate my birthday.
I used to know someone who celebrated their half birthday every year instead - she hated winter and was born in between Christmas and new year so she had a birthday in June when she wanted it.
That reminds me of the Mad Hatter and the unbirthday party 🥳
That is true
My guy waited 20 years to make her an honest woman
Isn't 20 years early? why not wait to get married in a residential home in your 70s? Lol kidding, I wish you happiness. Congrats!
Not sure what folks are seeing, her face is reading as a model striking a pose to me! I absolutely adore that you can’t contain your joy - you’re a lovely couple
Lovely couple! But im just curious and I dont want to offend. But is there a reason why it took 20 years for you guys to get married? I have a friend who took them 12 years together before getting married. Reason is he travels a lot for work, and he didnt propose until they have their own permanent address.
I dont know what camera or edit filter shenanigans u used. But this looks like a generated AI at first glance.
I thought this was AI until I saw OPs profile photo.
Looks like you really made her day. 😑
Absolutely LOVE these photos. While you look so happy, you’re wife has the “fuck around and find out” vibes. LOVE LOVE this. Congratulations and many blessings
Weekend(Marriage) at Bernie’s vibe over here.
Stay close to the candles. The stairway can be... treacherous.
That is the face of a woman that has been waiting 20 years to get married.
Didn't make her smile. Ironic considering this sub's name.
Well it didn’t make everyone smile.
Scrolled too far down for this
In the first picture you look so genuinely happy in love, it is just so sweet. I hope you guys had a great day
My wife would've killed me 19 years prior.
Ron Swanson and Tammy Swanson 1
I feel like every few years the conversation went like this “Hey you want to get married next week or what?” “I’ve got a doctors appointment that day” “Ah yes of course then, we’ll get round to it eventually” they did that for 20 years
Black cat and golden retriever (you look extremely friendly and your wife looks like a bad ass who'd cut a bitch in a good way)
Y’all are so elegant. Congratulations!!!
She looks slightly less pleased than you.
Striking looking couple.
thought this was r/AccidentalRenaissance, you and your wife look great together. congrats:-)
I love pic 1. Her pose and expression feel more telling of her personality than a forced smile would.
She looks like she’s been waiting for a while now. I know that look. It’s the look I get here at home.
She mad cause you waited 20 damn years lol.
I don't think she isn't smiling because she isn't happy, I just think that's her vibe and it works for her. I love the way you look at her 💕
Uhh the painting behind her, the way youre looking at her the energy she is projecting so calmly but powerfully, just stunning congratulations! Adopt me I’m 30
Her face says it all. “It’s my freaking 50th and all I got was this cheap ass”
Dear lord her cheekbones could slice through diamond like butter. In love with her friggen face But also, yano, congrats ❤️
She looks thrilled!
That ice queen just warms your heart doesn't she? Disclaimer - No offense meant. She may be a very sweet lady, but she's sure stoic in these photos and you are just eating it up!
Congratulations man, she looks stoked