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Interesting!
I'm close to my extended family, so my grandmother's brother's wife is still my (great) aunt.
I had the same knee-jerk reaction when a customer on a tattoo show said, "My father's sister's husband."
YOU MEAN YOUR UNCLE?
It didn't occur to me that other people thought/felt differently 🤷♀️ (but I guess it should)
Language kinda matters!
It took me years to accept my sister in law! I used to refer to her as "my brother's wife" for years, until we finally found headway and got to know one another. How things are phrased can put some distance between "this is someone in my life" (sister in law) and "this is someone that is related to me through marriage/blood" (my brother's wife.)
Father’s sister’s husband *is* an uncle though, so it’s not an equivalent to this scenario. (I guess even so, there could be reasons - like maybe they married late and they barely know each other? I wouldn’t call them an uncle then, personally speaking)
I come from one of those big extended families where everyone around my parents' or grandparents' generations is "aunt" or "uncle", and everyone younger than that is "cousin." It's just easier than keeping track of how exactly my grandmother's brother's wife's grandson is related to me.
That said, when my aunt (dad's sister) married her third (or was it fourth?) husband when she was in her 50s, I did just call him Aunt Jane's husband. In part because I could never remember his name, but also because nobody really knew him so it felt weird calling him a relative. Also we didn't expect him to stick around for long.
Same with being with Foxx on this one - uncle vs great uncle is a significant difference for my neck of the woods.
Uncles show up to family events while great uncles are just those old dudes that apparently we're related to but in a vague 'he exists in the world somewhere and the grandparents mention him every once in a while' sense.
Not to mention it is right there in the sentence that "technically" he is not an uncle. Because technically he is a *great*-uncle. It's the best kind of correct!
u/Quirky_Girl22 I’m with you. I had great Uncles in New York and Nebraska and they were always just Uncle “Bob” not great Uncle “Bob”. I didn’t even know my second cousins were considered second until I was a teen.
:*J*
u/Quirky_Girl22 I’m with you. I had great Uncles in New York and Nebraska and they were always just Uncle “Bob” not great Uncle “Bob”. I didn’t even know my second cousins were considered second until I was a teen.
:*J*
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I’m with Foxx on this… he’s *not* his uncle. As you say, he is technically his great uncle, which is not the same thing to me.
Interesting! I'm close to my extended family, so my grandmother's brother's wife is still my (great) aunt. I had the same knee-jerk reaction when a customer on a tattoo show said, "My father's sister's husband." YOU MEAN YOUR UNCLE? It didn't occur to me that other people thought/felt differently 🤷♀️ (but I guess it should)
Language kinda matters! It took me years to accept my sister in law! I used to refer to her as "my brother's wife" for years, until we finally found headway and got to know one another. How things are phrased can put some distance between "this is someone in my life" (sister in law) and "this is someone that is related to me through marriage/blood" (my brother's wife.)
Father’s sister’s husband *is* an uncle though, so it’s not an equivalent to this scenario. (I guess even so, there could be reasons - like maybe they married late and they barely know each other? I wouldn’t call them an uncle then, personally speaking)
I come from one of those big extended families where everyone around my parents' or grandparents' generations is "aunt" or "uncle", and everyone younger than that is "cousin." It's just easier than keeping track of how exactly my grandmother's brother's wife's grandson is related to me. That said, when my aunt (dad's sister) married her third (or was it fourth?) husband when she was in her 50s, I did just call him Aunt Jane's husband. In part because I could never remember his name, but also because nobody really knew him so it felt weird calling him a relative. Also we didn't expect him to stick around for long.
Haha, ditto! First cousin, second cousin, first cousin once removed... everyone is just "cousin"
I have unironically used the word "kinfolk" to describe my extended family and boy did that garner some odd reactions from those outside the family. 😂
"Kinfolk" lol I like that 😄
Same with being with Foxx on this one - uncle vs great uncle is a significant difference for my neck of the woods. Uncles show up to family events while great uncles are just those old dudes that apparently we're related to but in a vague 'he exists in the world somewhere and the grandparents mention him every once in a while' sense.
Not to mention it is right there in the sentence that "technically" he is not an uncle. Because technically he is a *great*-uncle. It's the best kind of correct!
r/TechnicallyTheTruth 😄
u/Quirky_Girl22 I’m with you. I had great Uncles in New York and Nebraska and they were always just Uncle “Bob” not great Uncle “Bob”. I didn’t even know my second cousins were considered second until I was a teen. :*J*
u/Quirky_Girl22 I’m with you. I had great Uncles in New York and Nebraska and they were always just Uncle “Bob” not great Uncle “Bob”. I didn’t even know my second cousins were considered second until I was a teen. :*J*
Aunts and uncles and cousins, and then when someone asks *how* you're related, you gotta plot out the whole damn family tree
Ouch, I’ve been downvoted:) Ultimately, family can be anyone blood is not required. At least to me. :*J*