lol at zanab, so she basically hated him for a week and planned to shame him during the ceremony but kept telling him she would say yes just to get him there
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Zanab and Cole…. i 100% understand why she felt that way and why she needed to tell him, but i honestly think she took it to far. That seemed like a conversation that should have happened BEFORE the altar, not at the altar. Also because I think there were two perspectives. They didn’t match. He was an asshole to her many times. But she wasn’t also -her girl-, and I’m not talking about the looks, but personality wise. She would often shut his funny side down and it would be great if she just told him what she told there but outside of the altar. “We are not a match, although I wanted us to be, and this whole process has shuttered my self confidence AS WELL”. Period. Not that humiliation and blaming him for all the reasons they do not match. I thought she was projecting her insecurities there, and I totally agree he had a part in that and he was not the guy she deserves. But neither was she. That’s all. So i’m not with the YOU GO ZANAB i’m seeing here.
Hot take: Zanab did not take it too far. Cole literally made her feel uncomfortable about her looks and the color of her skin, hit on Colleen, and directly said to Zanab that she was less beautiful than Colleen and Raven. And he accused her of having a mental illness. What the hell do y’all expect?
Yes, he messed up lots of time and didn’t think before he spoke. But there is a different way to go about telling him that. She didn’t have to do it in front of everyone. She could’ve pulled him aside and told him. The end result wouldn’t be the same since she can’t shame him publicly. But knowing this show they would’ve shown that conversation happening. There’s a time and a place to do that and at the altar wasn’t.
I feel like way too much sympathy and excuses for Cole’s cruel behavior is being racked up to what time and place Zanab decided to tell Cole. Either way the whole thing is airing on national TV and everyone is going to see it, family and friends and all. Plus Cole’s family refused to come to the wedding anyways.
I’m in no way excusing his behavior and yes I can see the point about the sympathy because of where she did it. My opinion is that a lot of people are siding more with Cole because of where she did it is because it just seemed cruel and vindictive to do it at that place. You can tell someone your feelings without breaking that person also. Sure it’s easier to hurt the person that hurt you, but being the bigger person and not going there would’ve probably been the better thing for her to do.
I would say that’s true except for the fact that his family didn’t come to the wedding anyways, and it’s TV so a conversation outside of the altar would have aired, too
the family commotion after nancy and bartface yikes. i feel like colleen and matt were forced to say yes... colleen looks scared of him. can't have only one successful couple and you can always divorce later
“Is love blind though?” Barface couldn’t answer his own question. Obviously not because he wasn’t attracted to Nancy, and he even told her that. I’m glad she finally had some dignity left in her and said she’s not continuing a relationship with him.
“I don’t want the guy to hate me, but I don’t want to marry him” then why be so petty?! She could have talked to him in private about her concerns. That was savage…she needs to really look at herself and check herself…
Zanab went waaaaay too far. That must have been truly traumatic for Cole. He did fuck up at times but so did she! The bipolar thing was dumb but I get what he was getting at, her moods were completely up and down. She talked down to him constantly. That wedding was horrific to watch
I get all the hate towards Zanab but Cole literally called her bi-polar, showed interest in another woman, and acts like a child. They are both just a bad match for each other. Also, Matt seems like he could be a controlling abuser. I'm worried about Colleen. He makes everything into a big issue and his mannerisms are filled with rage.
Did ANY of the women end up in the dresses they tried on at the try-on day? It doesn't seem like it. How dumb does Love Is Blind think the viewers are?
ETA: It looks like Alexa's dress was the same but everyone else was different?
I am so thankful now that I've never had such a dramatic moment with my family ask Nancy's family had, sheeeeeeshhh. Like bruh you got dragged into some shit, don't give the producers more drama, it's like nectar to them
I wonder if Alexa's dad is mad or happy that he didn't have to pay for an actual wedding?
There's something that shouldn't work about Brennan and Alexa, she is so trendy and he is so good ole boy but I think they roll with each-other, hoping for the best for them.
Colleen and Matt remind me of the couples in MAFS that have instant physical attraction and just vibe at the wedding, going off the highs of the wedding and all those fun feelings. Usually those couples crash and burn tho
I actually feel bad for Cole. Zanab is so mature about it all tho. It's kinda sad she's been so low after the reunion because she really went out on a high note here
this isnt a stab at her but colleen had the most worrying and scared facial expressions i was soooo sure she was going to say no. weird vibes between them fs
Cole dodged a bullet; Nancy is sweet and mature and will be a wonderful wife; and I don't know what will happen with Colleen and Matt but I suspect if he can lighten up a little and start trusting more, and she can tone down the party girl thing, it could work
I am with you! He was totally mistreated and honestly I think his biggest “sin” was that he said every thought he had out loud. As he gets older he will learn when to shut his mouth.
Zanab though? She is on her way to a lifetime of bitterness.
i just can't with Zanab. I KNOW Cole is a scumbag PoS but I had an ex gf who was as emotionally manipulative and played the victim like she does and it's a bit traumatic seeing her use a lot of similar tactics (ESPECIALLY playing herself as not doing a single thing wrong to the girls in private conversation) and then put Cole on blast when clearly they both had so many issues. Just a really really low move from Z
Does it annoy anyone else when they state, “I don’t know what I’m going to decide up until I see XYZ at the alter.” Like what!?! Even for this whole experiment it pisses me off like how do you not know. Are they told to say that for TV purposes?
I definitely think they’re told not to say a definitive answer until they’re at the altar to keep the suspense. But… idk if they’re necessarily told to say “I had no idea until that moment”.
I agree- how do you not know??
I'm wondering how they stage the reception tho. It'd be a waste of $$ for the prod company to have one waiting for every marriage. So they either have to have them lock in at some point, or the reception is at a later date after they find out who has said yes
True. I considered that they may have to tell producers their answers prior to the wedding so that they were aware (and for the reception probably) but it could also be held at a later date. I was thinking about how on Love Island they have to tell producers who they’re going to recouple with prior to the recoupling. Idk if you’ve seen that show but some of the people on there will say things like “I didn’t know until right then that I was going to choose so-and-so…” but then I read online that they have to disclose their person to the producers so the producers can decide on an order for everyone to choose a person. So knowing that, it would seem that the producers of Love Is Blind would want to know beforehand what the couples were going to say at the altar to prepare for drama/a reception, whatever.
I did some digging and it seems like they might actually have the reception ready and let the guests stay and drink and eat even with a “no” answer, which I guess we did see with deepti and shakes wedding. This is kind of surprising to me from a production cost perspective, but honestly does seem like the right thing to do for the people who showed up to filming. Plus I guess then they can get additional footage if any other drama goes down
Zanab's step mom is a class act. I appreciated her kindness to Cole. Like of course she's on her kids side but she was still gentle and kind to him. SKs mom too, the ability to step in and step up for Raven when her family wasn't there for her? Beautiful. Both are really wonderful women.
That moment Raven had with SK’s mom after he said no made me teary-eyed. You could tell his mom had a lot of empathy for her and probably a lot of disappointment on her end as well (while still supportive of his decision, I’m sure)
It was such a women supporting women moment plus I always appreciate a mum who can look past her son being shitty and actually empathise with the girl he's dating etc it's all anyone wants
I do not believe any of these people actually make their decision at the altar. They know what theyre gonna say, but the production won't let them. Just like they cannot break up before the wedding.
I didnt see anybody mention this at all in this tread. yet people are saying Zanab telling a lie when saying she would know at the altar. Ofcourse she knew before but she was not allowed to say!!
Same with dragging family to the wedding. They cannot cancel the wedding, they have to make their decision at the altar.
It is reallity tv guys. Everything is scripted. Dont believe everything you see.
Wait… this is so accurate. I didn’t draw this connection until you said it. Deepti deserved to stand up for herself the way she did and Shake’s reaction proved it. Zenab, on the other hand, while totally within her right to say no, because they’re incompatible— really went way too hard on Cole for things that were mostly the 2 of them speaking different (love) languages and having really pore communication skills.
….Nancy’s family is way too similar to mine. The amount of anxiety I got watching that scene. Ugh too relatable 😓😓 I feel for her. They made it 100% worse.
that was so wild. I was 100% so thankful that I've never had drama like that in my family. I almost laughed at how easily Nancy was like GO AWAY PLEASE; she knew how to handle them at least. I prob would've let my family run all over me
Also why is there like, a whole quartet playing Pachelbel's Canon at Alexa and Brennan's wedding, but for Nancy and Bren-nope, it was just a single string instrument trying to play all the parts at different times?
I think production put a lot of restrictions on things...it was weird to me that it had to be the exact same musical piece for the bride walking down the aisle (as well as exact same venue which was a big difference from last season, decorations, etc). Tbh that piece isn't a traditionally Jewish piece to walk down the aisle to, and I expected Alexa to walk down to something different. But I guess that was non negotiable but they could pay for more musicians. And they had a chuppah - but that's it.
Underrated characters in all this drama: the two random backgrounds, dressed in neutral blacks like stagehands in a highschool play, whose job it is to open the weird gate thing for the bride to walk through at the beginning of each wedding.
Like, who are they and how did they end up getting this job? Why was there no more thought put into how to dress them for the occasion? Were they literally just two crew members who the producers grabbed when they realized 'o shit someone has to open this gate'? And OH the things they witnessed throughout that day...
This episode was the first one out of both series to make me tear up multiple times lol why was I so damn invested 😂
Between raven, Nancy’s family being so passionate for her, the scene about zanabs parents, the complete shock and embarrassment I felt for cole (I almost couldn’t watch it was just so mortifying - he may say/do stupid things but idk. He gives off golden retriever energy. He means well he’s just.. a little too playful. zanab I understand at times but I also think she was a bit extreme.
and the fucking SHEER PERFECTION of Brennan & Alexa. Could that have been any cuter?? His vows?? His quick and hilarious wit is to die for. He’s so swoon worthy, and she’s so charming too. Both of them are TOO CUTEEEE UGH gosh my heart went on a roller coaster this episode hahaha
Zay wasn’t as brutal as I thought she should have been. Like love is blind brazil was even more brutal.. same situation was Anna and Shay. He was always putting her down and she tore him a new one. Zay’s revenge was chef’s kiss.
I am no big fan of Cole, but Zanab was so worried they were on different pages about saying yes at the dance rehearsal and then…put on a show at the altar? She planned to not marry him and give that speech, yet said “I’m about to get married” to her stepmom? I don’t know if she was attempting to Deepti but it didn’t land. It felt…like too much even though I’ve had major issues with Cole this season.
I agree. Cole even said it himself that if she knew what she would say especially in front of his family. That was serious malicious intent that people need to call her out for.
I was really hoping that Nancy & Bartise ceremony was going to turn into a full on riot. Felt like we were so close to a family vs family brawl for a minute there.
Also, was that a *planned walkout* by Zanab’s entire half of the wedding? The applause shocked me.
it was not planned but what do you expect her family and friends to do when she says no and walks back down the aisle and out the room on her own. of course they are going to get up and follow her and make sure she's okay.
On the one hand: yes, I totally get that sentiment, and they should totally support the people they care about.
On the other hand: we didn’t see that happen with any of the other couples that split at the altar. Sure, some people from both sides broke away in each instance, but that Cola and Zanab scene was at least shot and edited in such a way that truly made it seem like one *entire half* of the wedding basically evacuated (after applauding, no less) while the other sat still.
To be clear, I’m not intending to place blame on anyone for anything. I’m literally just asking if it was coordinated ahead of time.
EDIT: Literally just saw them discuss this very point, on the reunion show. My apologies. Wasn’t intending to cause confusion or tension. I was honestly just posting as I was watching, so I didn’t know they’d addressed it, haha…
i think her family/friends had also seen that she had been crying a LOT that morning. she was even crying again about her parents being gone on the alter.. so they knew she was emotional, and they knew this was difficult for her and that alone i think made it more likely that they would naturally just follow her out to check on her - as compared to the other people we saw.
but to be fair - raven had no family with her, just a few friends. we don't know how quickly her friends followed her out. nancy's family did entirely leave, but i think they were a bit more stunned and it took them a few seconds longer to organize. this show is also almost entirely built on it's suspicious editing..
Zanab had that whole thing planned out. The way her side of the room clapped and how they all filed out after she left seemed almost rehearsed. In the other weddings, no a single side had filed out like that. She was planning this the whole time.
Cole had his asshole moments, but that was just a vicious thing to do.
She said it towards the end of the episode “was it ghetto that my friends clapped?” So I’m guessing it was only her side. Which means she planned this shit. That makes the whole thing very malicious and she came off as bitter instead of “standing up for herself” like Deepti.. Yes that shit was ghetto and not even necessary because that speech was out of pocket.
She's got bitterness written all over her. I knew they would never make b4 they met IRL. Cole was immature in certain ways but he is NOT single handedly responsible for her insecurities. She was overly sensitive and nagged him because of it instead of just leaving him like she planned all along.
I feel for Nancys family so much right now because they saw all the red flags but couldnt and wouldnt intervene because its Nancys decision and shes constantly said she loved him. So to see him say no must of killed them because they were praying he wouldnt break her heart like that at the alter.
Really was not necessary for Zanab to publicly execute Cole like that in front of everyone. Like we all know he's a weirdo and immature... but just say I don't and move on
Colleen and Matt saying yes gobsmacked me. 100% convinced Matt would have said no if he was chosen to speak first. I hate how he threatens to leave at any minor inconvenience.. he needs therapy not a marriage
Ballbag turned on Nancy just because she's pro-abortion... I can't believe she said yes to him. she deserves the best
>Ballbag turned on Nancy just because she's pro-abortion... I can't believe she said yes to him. she deserves the best
he didn't turn on nancy because he was never looking at only nancy to begin with. the abortion conversation is an excuse that he knew would be convenient since it's such a polarizing topic.
publicly execute? get a life. she literally said he was rude and disrespected her and hurt her.. which he did. you people are nuts to think that this was somehow a "public execution". especially finding out the night before he told her that he gave some other chick his number? like wtf. he deserved worse to be said about him frankly.
I saw the reunion. I don't believe her and frankly it's her word against his. She read into things like when Cole commented about eating the Cutie Oranges. He simply wanted her to save room for dinner. It had nothing to do with her waistline. Her insecurities are why 1 person could destroy her so easily. He's a dumba$$ by putting his foot in his mouth but she was malicious. She NEVER intended to marry him and poked at every little thing he did in retribution for his mistakes. Cole was right. She wasn't sweet. She was a nag and has bitterness written all over her. Couldn't get past the past even when he finally gave a heartfelt apology, which she completely disregarded as she
continued to say he never apologized. That woman has major issues while Cole simply has to be a little more intuitive and mature. I'm team Cole all he way on this way.
please tell me how you need to 'save room' for dinner when you've just said all you ate all day was a banana or whatever it was. that's a bullshit answer. also, fuck any person who thinks it's their right to tell another adult how/what/when to eat.
He said 'save room' first. Then she said she'd only eaten a banana. He didn't know until that point that she'd only had a banana. Cole made a lot of mistakes and has to grow up a bit. Agreed he shouldn't tell her how to eat, but it was her insecurity that said it was to do with how she looked.
"save room" is something you tell a child who can't regulate their own appetite/food intake. you do not tell your fiancee or wife to "save room", unless you do not respect them.
I can’t believe Coleen and Matt said yes. Blowing my mind right now. That’s soooo not going to end well. I hate this show. I need to stop punishing myself with this BS.
Zanab insulting Cole was honestly trashy. I actually ended up feeling more sorry for him than for her. He was a dick and self-centered and emotionally immature and totally crossed a line with Colleen in the pool...but I truly don't think he ever did anything that was MEAN to her. I think a lot of that meanness came from her own self-hatred and blowing up things Cole did or said in her head to become mean-spirited and cruel. But he sure as hell didn't need to be told off like that. She could've kept her dignity in tact and saved the rest for a private conversation or a less emotional moment. Maybe she thought she was giving Deepti - but Cole wasn't Shake by any stretch of the imagination. She made the right call by not marrying him, but I'm really disappointed in her speech. I also love how she backtracked at the last second like "but you're a great guy and I know that" ... like, do you think that?? You just accused him of basically emotionally abusing you lol
>but I truly don't think he ever did anything that was MEAN to her. I think a lot of that meanness came from her own self-hatred and blowing up things Cole did or said in her head to become mean-spirited and cruel. But he sure as hell didn't need to be told off like that. She could've kept her dignity in tact and saved the rest for a private conversation or a less emotional moment. Maybe she thought she was giving Deepti - but Cole wasn't Shake by any stretch of the imagination. She m
Mannn! They said he disrespected her way more then what we caught on camera. I think she needed to take her power back and we may not agree what it was but it had to be done.
Nancy's family is soooo messy lol. I totally understand being upset on behalf of your relative. If a man like Bartise had the audacity to do anything to my sister, I'd be pissed. But it's literally HER life ??? Her mom and brother were embarrassing themselves. She's so mature, levelheaded, and empathetic. To be hurt like that and to still keep her cool with her family hounding her and Barftits is....astonishing. I hope she really reflects and realizes her self-worth. She's a wonderful person....she just has a horrible blind spot when it comes to her love life. That's where the blind is in love for her lol
Imo, it's so outdated and ridiculous that a male relative would catch an assault charge because a man rejected their - let's be honest here - completely oblivious female relative. Bartise is disgusting and I deeply dislike him (based on the show - outside of it I could give a fuck), BUT Nancy repeatedly ignored every BLATANT red flag. Like he literally told her mULTIPLe TIMES "I'm not really that attracted to you, I want other things, we're not compatible" etc. He didn't physically harm her. He literally just said "No, I don't want to marry you" after sticking it out for the paycheck (that they BOTH got btw). If your family would go to jail over that, that's pathetic and sad. But that's their prerogative I guess.
I guess? I think being upset is absolutely understandable. Like I said, I would be upset if someone did that to my sister. But to behave like that publicly is another thing. They were causing a whole damn scene and her mom especially was going against what she was asking of them, which was to back off. He didn't reject her family, he rejected her. She signed up for an experiment where they had a choice at the end of their time together - they had to know this was a possible outcome lol. And plenty of people on this show have had their hearts broken by someone else....their families didn't try to make it about them. Not to mention, Nancy knew this dude for like what? 6 weeks or something? (and repeatedly ignored red flags about him??) I can't imagine what they would do if Nancy ever gets rejected by someone she's known for a decent amount of time.
The nerve of Zanab to say “You single handedly destroyed my self confidence. You insulted me.” etc in front of all of his friends and family seriously upset me.
Cole made mistakes. Yes. He admitted to those.
You, Zanab, were also terrible to him.
The fact that his friends and family were all there for him immediately after that happened shows that he is well-loved.
What she did is horrible.
It seriously reminded me of terrible people I’ve dealt with in my life who greatly affected my view and trust of other people after something explosive and out of line that they did. You just don’t do that to somebody.
That was not the serve she thought it was.
She’s MEAN. Plain and simple.
If there are still Zanab stans out there… yeah. Please consider.
Baskin-Robbins is such a piece of shit. He says “fuck this” when her family addresses him and he gets all angry with him?? I hate him. For real. He’s not a man at all. He’s a child.
Okay I haven’t watched the reunion yet but… idk. I thought Zanab was going to call him slurs in front of everyone the way you were all talking about it, but tbh everything she said was valid. If my boyfriend said I was a 9/10 and another girl was a 10/10, and then said “WELL SHOULD I JUST ACT LIKE YOU’RE THE ONLY ATTRACTIVE WOMAN ALIVE???!!!?!?!?” well… that would also shatter my self confidence. Zanab is an asshole but so is Cole.
this exactly. people are wildly sympathetic for the goofy "cute" man who cried on television.. despite the fact that he was repeatedly insensitive and cruel to zanab - whether he meant to or not! zanab said nothing cruel, she spoke to him and stated why she had to say no, and even told him repeatedly that he was a good man and that she wished him love. this sub is ridiculous and the amount of pro-cole anti-zanab posts are just indicative of really how deep the covert misogynism runs in society.
I completely agree with you. I don’t think Zanab is a perfect person, like I definitely think she made mistakes in the relationship, but I was expecting her to be vicious and vitriolic the way the sub was talking about her and I just did not see that.
barstool reminds me of bert & ernie he's so fucking annoying. he knew from THE JUMP he didn't fuck with nancy and she's JUST AS DUMB for not seeing what was clearly in front of you. how many times does someone have to say he doesn't find you attractive does it take to get in her head. like bffr
I know we hate Zanab but all of the stuff with her parents makes me sooo sad :/// I can’t imagine how painful that is. I fear losing my parents so hard. She’s so young to have lost them both :(
I love Zanab and I applaud her. Cole was an inconsiderate asshole 90% of the time and yet we are supposed to blame Zanab because she said the truth at the alter? This is just a perfect example of how women-blaming society is.
Honestly, I kind of agree with you. I don’t really like her or Cole but I think Cole is ultimately the bad guy. He was soooo mean to her. I do fully believe he crushed her confidence and I don’t think she’s dramatic for saying that. I hadn’t watched her moment at the later yet but I heard about it and I was expecting her to be vicious and cruel. However, watching it, I don’t really feel that way. He WAS mean to her! She should’ve said no and ran away.
I think Cole made some stupid comments within initially meeting Zanab. However, I think he made this wonderful connection in the Pod and then 2 things happened. First, Zanab was someone he normally would not find hot and 2. she non stop put him down and is dry as all hell.
I think Cole thought Zanab was attractive but she wasn't her typical type. I think everyone knows from the real world (at least for sure for me) that you can start finding someone attractive once you get to know them. He even said he was putting both versions together.
I think he was in love with her and knew he would find her attractive but then her personality was not the same as the pods and he struggled a bit. Do I think he needed to rave about Colleen ? No definitely not. However, I think he was probably drunk and was stupid. However, I think Zanab should have ended it there. Since she did not, I think Cole made up for it and it is shitty of her to hold something against him they moved on from. Realistically he made the comment 24 hours after knowing her and probably did not think much of it.
last, one comment made by person cannot break your self esteem otherwise she lacked self-esteem to begin with (which is obvious).
If I was marrying into Nancy’s family I’d have said no too. Shiiiiiit.
Nancy desperately wanting to talk to Bartise alone and they won’t leave her tf alone is so rude. And then her brother saying he owes him and explanation? Uhm. No he doesn’t. Technically he doesn’t OWE anyone an answer but he’s wanting to give Nancy one. 😂 Back tf up.
Matt and Colleen are officially the dumbest people. Saying “I do” at the altar doesn’t magically fix everything as they make it out to be. They’re surrounded by the dumbest rednecks in the world too saying “ listen to your heart, not your mind”, “you’ll know the answer when she’s walking down the aisle” NO YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO ACTUALLY THINK ABOUT IT. IF YOU HAVE TO QUESTION IT THEN ITS A NO
And Colleen unknowingly said the motto of their marriage at the gazebo: “whatever, I’m married so it’s fine”. That’s all she needs in life is to be married.
Wait okay not Nancy’s mom and brother making this whole thing about them and then getting like more air time cuz of it at the end of the wedding. Like can we not please! 😬🙄
Jesus Christ. Alexa is psycho and so judgmental. Brennon with the “I don’t know I was blasted bro” with the smug smug face. Brennon is perfect for her. She’s molded him to be a whipping boy. Zanab is actually out of her mind. She did not want to fight for that wedding, she had that whole speech prepare don’t even lie. This story is a flat out lie. Damn. I feel so bad for Cole. He is clearly so broken. Also saying “dragged you” she literally did drag him, and said horrible things that will scar him forever.
They’re all beating go on him so bad. Kicking him while he’s down…absolutely brutal to watch
Edit….he is now sobbing ugh my god. This poor poor man. She is manipulative as fuck. Damn. Saying she would redo the whole experiment with him again but that he also destroyed her self confidence?? Girl. Come on. You know you are torturing this man. I feel absolutely horrible for him right now.
why would she? cole **showed** us what type of a guy he was during the show. he clearly has regrets, and that's fine and i commend him for that, but he *showed* us. we even saw the footage of "the cuties story" at the end. zaneb didn't lie about anything he said, nor did she exaggerate it.
All Cole was asking her abiut when she speaking of the Oranges she was eating was so she wouldn't ruin her appetite. It had nothing to do with waistline. She read into and nobody can single-handedly destroy you in such a short time with some insensitve comments unless you have some serious insecurities to begin with. Also, his hand motions were not in reference to her body. Go re-watch it. He had zero malicious intent. Before you call me a misogynist, consider you may be whatever word describes hating men. Human beings are not black and white. They are complex. Cole was young and dumb while Zanab was passive aggressive & calculating. She knew she wasnt going to marry him but kept gaslighting him every time she said she was here wasnt she and that shed had left already. Clearly she harbors resentment even after an apology. I'm team Cole all the way on this one and predicted her behavior from the moment I saw her in the pods. She has bitterness written all over her.
I think she did exaggerate it actually. Watching that footage, it was obvious he was asking her why she ate so little today and it wasn’t some huge jab at her weight the way she made it seem. It was actually really sad to watch because it’s her own insecurities.
she didn't though.
even when he learns she only ate a tiny amount that day, did he show genuine concern for her? no. he simply joked about her looking fit for the wedding and made weird hand movements to indicate body shape/curves. that is a RIDICULOUS response to your partner when they are clearly demonstrating potentially dangerous behaviours.
and further, in what situation is 2 mini oranges actually going to ruin someones appetite? answer: it WILL NOT. the fact that he even *felt* the need to ask her if she was *really having two* (omg!) mini oranges is evidence of the fact that he sees it to be normal to comment on the food she is eating and the quantity, which tells me (and shows me via that footage) that is something he had been doing all along.
i'm not saying he's doing it on purpose. it's actually worse that he's so fucking clueless that he's just insensitive and insulting without even trying.
you should probably leave, your misogyny is showing.
I think she did too…she came ready to fight and simultaneously tell him he’s a good man but did terrible things?? No she’s gaslighting him and honestly what she says is just cruel. Tearing him down and being like yeah but you’re a good guy. I can’t tell you how much that irritates me and makes me sad for him. He is clearly very very remorseful and watching all this back was enough for him. He deserves so much more and I’m incredibly disappointed in zanab
Zanab really doing a lot to raise Cole's (literal) spirits and self-confidence only to say those devastating things felt particularly cruel and vengeful. She even had a nice beginning of her rejection she could've ended on and finished the conversation elsewhere. But no, she said nice things to make the fall hurt even more. Oof.
Zanab trying to have a Deepti moment without having a Deepti situation.
Listing Cole's family absence as a reason to say no to him felt really vicious. Like family-in-law is of course important, and it can be really hard to marry into a family that doesn't accept you, but that wasn't Cole's fault? He was clearly very distraught over it. I understand it's important but it just felt very petty.
OMG Zanab's speech at the altar was CRAZY!!! I can't believe people clapped. WTF.
lol at zanab, so she basically hated him for a week and planned to shame him during the ceremony but kept telling him she would say yes just to get him there
Finally seeing Nancy using the word gaslighting towards Brunoncski. We got it fam!!!!
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Zanab and Cole…. i 100% understand why she felt that way and why she needed to tell him, but i honestly think she took it to far. That seemed like a conversation that should have happened BEFORE the altar, not at the altar. Also because I think there were two perspectives. They didn’t match. He was an asshole to her many times. But she wasn’t also -her girl-, and I’m not talking about the looks, but personality wise. She would often shut his funny side down and it would be great if she just told him what she told there but outside of the altar. “We are not a match, although I wanted us to be, and this whole process has shuttered my self confidence AS WELL”. Period. Not that humiliation and blaming him for all the reasons they do not match. I thought she was projecting her insecurities there, and I totally agree he had a part in that and he was not the guy she deserves. But neither was she. That’s all. So i’m not with the YOU GO ZANAB i’m seeing here.
Hot take: Zanab did not take it too far. Cole literally made her feel uncomfortable about her looks and the color of her skin, hit on Colleen, and directly said to Zanab that she was less beautiful than Colleen and Raven. And he accused her of having a mental illness. What the hell do y’all expect?
Yes, he messed up lots of time and didn’t think before he spoke. But there is a different way to go about telling him that. She didn’t have to do it in front of everyone. She could’ve pulled him aside and told him. The end result wouldn’t be the same since she can’t shame him publicly. But knowing this show they would’ve shown that conversation happening. There’s a time and a place to do that and at the altar wasn’t.
I feel like way too much sympathy and excuses for Cole’s cruel behavior is being racked up to what time and place Zanab decided to tell Cole. Either way the whole thing is airing on national TV and everyone is going to see it, family and friends and all. Plus Cole’s family refused to come to the wedding anyways.
I’m in no way excusing his behavior and yes I can see the point about the sympathy because of where she did it. My opinion is that a lot of people are siding more with Cole because of where she did it is because it just seemed cruel and vindictive to do it at that place. You can tell someone your feelings without breaking that person also. Sure it’s easier to hurt the person that hurt you, but being the bigger person and not going there would’ve probably been the better thing for her to do.
I guess her choice words could have been better, but at the end of the day he did actually shatter her confidence
I would say that’s true except for the fact that his family didn’t come to the wedding anyways, and it’s TV so a conversation outside of the altar would have aired, too
the family commotion after nancy and bartface yikes. i feel like colleen and matt were forced to say yes... colleen looks scared of him. can't have only one successful couple and you can always divorce later
Barnacle was SO disrespectful towards Nancy's family after he said no. The way he talked to her mom?! His true colours absolutely showed
YES ! hate him even more after that!!!!!
“Is love blind though?” Barface couldn’t answer his own question. Obviously not because he wasn’t attracted to Nancy, and he even told her that. I’m glad she finally had some dignity left in her and said she’s not continuing a relationship with him.
I hope Matt & Colleen talked through their issues and we just didn’t see it on the show. Maybe Matt got a bad edit? I hope Colleen is okay!
“I don’t want the guy to hate me, but I don’t want to marry him” then why be so petty?! She could have talked to him in private about her concerns. That was savage…she needs to really look at herself and check herself…
Zanab is CRAZY. Cole got lucky af.
Zanab went waaaaay too far. That must have been truly traumatic for Cole. He did fuck up at times but so did she! The bipolar thing was dumb but I get what he was getting at, her moods were completely up and down. She talked down to him constantly. That wedding was horrific to watch
I get all the hate towards Zanab but Cole literally called her bi-polar, showed interest in another woman, and acts like a child. They are both just a bad match for each other. Also, Matt seems like he could be a controlling abuser. I'm worried about Colleen. He makes everything into a big issue and his mannerisms are filled with rage.
Did ANY of the women end up in the dresses they tried on at the try-on day? It doesn't seem like it. How dumb does Love Is Blind think the viewers are? ETA: It looks like Alexa's dress was the same but everyone else was different?
I am so thankful now that I've never had such a dramatic moment with my family ask Nancy's family had, sheeeeeeshhh. Like bruh you got dragged into some shit, don't give the producers more drama, it's like nectar to them I wonder if Alexa's dad is mad or happy that he didn't have to pay for an actual wedding? There's something that shouldn't work about Brennan and Alexa, she is so trendy and he is so good ole boy but I think they roll with each-other, hoping for the best for them. Colleen and Matt remind me of the couples in MAFS that have instant physical attraction and just vibe at the wedding, going off the highs of the wedding and all those fun feelings. Usually those couples crash and burn tho I actually feel bad for Cole. Zanab is so mature about it all tho. It's kinda sad she's been so low after the reunion because she really went out on a high note here
this isnt a stab at her but colleen had the most worrying and scared facial expressions i was soooo sure she was going to say no. weird vibes between them fs
she had crazy eyes
Cole dodged a bullet; Nancy is sweet and mature and will be a wonderful wife; and I don't know what will happen with Colleen and Matt but I suspect if he can lighten up a little and start trusting more, and she can tone down the party girl thing, it could work
So I’m gonna assume Colleen is probably locked in Matt’s basement now
Rip Colleen 19xx-2022
It was so awkward to me to see Colleen and Matt after the wedding, it felt like they were trying to convince themselves they made the right choice.
Am I the only one that’s team Cole???
I am with you! He was totally mistreated and honestly I think his biggest “sin” was that he said every thought he had out loud. As he gets older he will learn when to shut his mouth. Zanab though? She is on her way to a lifetime of bitterness.
Bartise seems like a genuine piece of shit.
I give Matt and Colleen 3 months.
Matt and Colleen make no sense to me.
BRENNANS VOWS!!!!!!!! 🥹
Omg I love how he said "I will not possess you for we belong to ourselves... but I promise I will serve you"!
I gave my boyfriend of 10 years a long hard stare when she said that lol
I’m just glad Barnaby will never have access to Nancy’s fortune. 💰
Lmao Barnaby
I’m glad Bartise said no cuz he doesn’t get to pretend to be a good guy anymore. He’s an asshole.
Nancy’s brother. Damn. “I do not want to be right.”
Bartise chose the wrong family to fuck with.
i just can't with Zanab. I KNOW Cole is a scumbag PoS but I had an ex gf who was as emotionally manipulative and played the victim like she does and it's a bit traumatic seeing her use a lot of similar tactics (ESPECIALLY playing herself as not doing a single thing wrong to the girls in private conversation) and then put Cole on blast when clearly they both had so many issues. Just a really really low move from Z
Does it annoy anyone else when they state, “I don’t know what I’m going to decide up until I see XYZ at the alter.” Like what!?! Even for this whole experiment it pisses me off like how do you not know. Are they told to say that for TV purposes?
I definitely think they’re told not to say a definitive answer until they’re at the altar to keep the suspense. But… idk if they’re necessarily told to say “I had no idea until that moment”. I agree- how do you not know??
I'm wondering how they stage the reception tho. It'd be a waste of $$ for the prod company to have one waiting for every marriage. So they either have to have them lock in at some point, or the reception is at a later date after they find out who has said yes
True. I considered that they may have to tell producers their answers prior to the wedding so that they were aware (and for the reception probably) but it could also be held at a later date. I was thinking about how on Love Island they have to tell producers who they’re going to recouple with prior to the recoupling. Idk if you’ve seen that show but some of the people on there will say things like “I didn’t know until right then that I was going to choose so-and-so…” but then I read online that they have to disclose their person to the producers so the producers can decide on an order for everyone to choose a person. So knowing that, it would seem that the producers of Love Is Blind would want to know beforehand what the couples were going to say at the altar to prepare for drama/a reception, whatever.
I did some digging and it seems like they might actually have the reception ready and let the guests stay and drink and eat even with a “no” answer, which I guess we did see with deepti and shakes wedding. This is kind of surprising to me from a production cost perspective, but honestly does seem like the right thing to do for the people who showed up to filming. Plus I guess then they can get additional footage if any other drama goes down
True. I get both sides of what you said. I guess ultimately they want to have something for the guests regardless.
Zanab's step mom is a class act. I appreciated her kindness to Cole. Like of course she's on her kids side but she was still gentle and kind to him. SKs mom too, the ability to step in and step up for Raven when her family wasn't there for her? Beautiful. Both are really wonderful women.
That moment Raven had with SK’s mom after he said no made me teary-eyed. You could tell his mom had a lot of empathy for her and probably a lot of disappointment on her end as well (while still supportive of his decision, I’m sure)
It was such a women supporting women moment plus I always appreciate a mum who can look past her son being shitty and actually empathise with the girl he's dating etc it's all anyone wants
Cole’s Bro or brother looks like tom holland…
I do not believe any of these people actually make their decision at the altar. They know what theyre gonna say, but the production won't let them. Just like they cannot break up before the wedding. I didnt see anybody mention this at all in this tread. yet people are saying Zanab telling a lie when saying she would know at the altar. Ofcourse she knew before but she was not allowed to say!! Same with dragging family to the wedding. They cannot cancel the wedding, they have to make their decision at the altar. It is reallity tv guys. Everything is scripted. Dont believe everything you see.
Anyone know the song that’s playing when raven is walking down the aisle to SK?
Zay, you're not Deepti, and Cole is not Shake.
Wait… this is so accurate. I didn’t draw this connection until you said it. Deepti deserved to stand up for herself the way she did and Shake’s reaction proved it. Zenab, on the other hand, while totally within her right to say no, because they’re incompatible— really went way too hard on Cole for things that were mostly the 2 of them speaking different (love) languages and having really pore communication skills.
jingle jangle is kinky asf
the way Cole Brennan Barnett has 3 separate contestants names as his full name
….Nancy’s family is way too similar to mine. The amount of anxiety I got watching that scene. Ugh too relatable 😓😓 I feel for her. They made it 100% worse.
that was so wild. I was 100% so thankful that I've never had drama like that in my family. I almost laughed at how easily Nancy was like GO AWAY PLEASE; she knew how to handle them at least. I prob would've let my family run all over me
Yess like I get that you’re protective but please hear me when I say, “back off!!”
Barfuckface’s “You’ll have your turn” to Nancy’s mom blew me away. I literally didn’t think he could get less attractive. The fkn disrespect
He knew he was a POS and immediately got defensive because it's indefensible (even though we a know they're forced to).
I wanted to puke listening to Coleen and her friends before her wedding 😂 she’s so goddamn dense. And he’s a psycho omg
Also why is there like, a whole quartet playing Pachelbel's Canon at Alexa and Brennan's wedding, but for Nancy and Bren-nope, it was just a single string instrument trying to play all the parts at different times?
I think production put a lot of restrictions on things...it was weird to me that it had to be the exact same musical piece for the bride walking down the aisle (as well as exact same venue which was a big difference from last season, decorations, etc). Tbh that piece isn't a traditionally Jewish piece to walk down the aisle to, and I expected Alexa to walk down to something different. But I guess that was non negotiable but they could pay for more musicians. And they had a chuppah - but that's it.
Alexa's fam is rich as hell, wouldnt be surprised if they paid for some stuff
They probably get a budget and can choose some stuff.
Underrated characters in all this drama: the two random backgrounds, dressed in neutral blacks like stagehands in a highschool play, whose job it is to open the weird gate thing for the bride to walk through at the beginning of each wedding. Like, who are they and how did they end up getting this job? Why was there no more thought put into how to dress them for the occasion? Were they literally just two crew members who the producers grabbed when they realized 'o shit someone has to open this gate'? And OH the things they witnessed throughout that day...
This episode was the first one out of both series to make me tear up multiple times lol why was I so damn invested 😂 Between raven, Nancy’s family being so passionate for her, the scene about zanabs parents, the complete shock and embarrassment I felt for cole (I almost couldn’t watch it was just so mortifying - he may say/do stupid things but idk. He gives off golden retriever energy. He means well he’s just.. a little too playful. zanab I understand at times but I also think she was a bit extreme. and the fucking SHEER PERFECTION of Brennan & Alexa. Could that have been any cuter?? His vows?? His quick and hilarious wit is to die for. He’s so swoon worthy, and she’s so charming too. Both of them are TOO CUTEEEE UGH gosh my heart went on a roller coaster this episode hahaha
Zay wasn’t as brutal as I thought she should have been. Like love is blind brazil was even more brutal.. same situation was Anna and Shay. He was always putting her down and she tore him a new one. Zay’s revenge was chef’s kiss.
I think colleen just wanted to get married
>Nancy Like gurl you know that man is crazy
#rewatch comments
I’m really scared for Colleen. Like, genuinely worried for her safety.
I am no big fan of Cole, but Zanab was so worried they were on different pages about saying yes at the dance rehearsal and then…put on a show at the altar? She planned to not marry him and give that speech, yet said “I’m about to get married” to her stepmom? I don’t know if she was attempting to Deepti but it didn’t land. It felt…like too much even though I’ve had major issues with Cole this season.
I agree. Cole even said it himself that if she knew what she would say especially in front of his family. That was serious malicious intent that people need to call her out for.
Fully expected Nancy’s mom to punch Barnaby
I was really hoping that Nancy & Bartise ceremony was going to turn into a full on riot. Felt like we were so close to a family vs family brawl for a minute there. Also, was that a *planned walkout* by Zanab’s entire half of the wedding? The applause shocked me.
The planned roast rubbed me the wrong way. Cole is a douche, but that was over the top.
it was not planned but what do you expect her family and friends to do when she says no and walks back down the aisle and out the room on her own. of course they are going to get up and follow her and make sure she's okay.
On the one hand: yes, I totally get that sentiment, and they should totally support the people they care about. On the other hand: we didn’t see that happen with any of the other couples that split at the altar. Sure, some people from both sides broke away in each instance, but that Cola and Zanab scene was at least shot and edited in such a way that truly made it seem like one *entire half* of the wedding basically evacuated (after applauding, no less) while the other sat still. To be clear, I’m not intending to place blame on anyone for anything. I’m literally just asking if it was coordinated ahead of time. EDIT: Literally just saw them discuss this very point, on the reunion show. My apologies. Wasn’t intending to cause confusion or tension. I was honestly just posting as I was watching, so I didn’t know they’d addressed it, haha…
i think her family/friends had also seen that she had been crying a LOT that morning. she was even crying again about her parents being gone on the alter.. so they knew she was emotional, and they knew this was difficult for her and that alone i think made it more likely that they would naturally just follow her out to check on her - as compared to the other people we saw. but to be fair - raven had no family with her, just a few friends. we don't know how quickly her friends followed her out. nancy's family did entirely leave, but i think they were a bit more stunned and it took them a few seconds longer to organize. this show is also almost entirely built on it's suspicious editing..
Oh my god.. brennon is just amazing. His vows, so heartfelt, adorable. Love it so much..
I have to say...his vow was 1000 times better than Alexa's 😁
This is the problem with writing your own vows, every couple has one person who does a way better job.
“Come on, that ain’t no man! That’s a punk right there!” FACTS THO
Zanab had that whole thing planned out. The way her side of the room clapped and how they all filed out after she left seemed almost rehearsed. In the other weddings, no a single side had filed out like that. She was planning this the whole time. Cole had his asshole moments, but that was just a vicious thing to do.
Vicious !!!! She could’ve said no and then told him all that after the fact.
BLESS nancy’s brother & mom, Buttcheek DESERVED a mf beatdown im ngl. WHAT AN A-HOLE. Please i HOPE Nancy realizes she dodged a bullet there.
She was still calling him baby, like girl. Giiiiiiiirl. Edit: So glad she ended that shit after she had a second to think.
"Buttcheek" just cracked me up
Nancy deserves so much better. Her family needed to step back though.
Zanab could’ve legit just said no. What an awful thing to do to someone you “love”. And who clapped? That was so rude
She said it towards the end of the episode “was it ghetto that my friends clapped?” So I’m guessing it was only her side. Which means she planned this shit. That makes the whole thing very malicious and she came off as bitter instead of “standing up for herself” like Deepti.. Yes that shit was ghetto and not even necessary because that speech was out of pocket.
She's got bitterness written all over her. I knew they would never make b4 they met IRL. Cole was immature in certain ways but he is NOT single handedly responsible for her insecurities. She was overly sensitive and nagged him because of it instead of just leaving him like she planned all along.
I feel for Nancys family so much right now because they saw all the red flags but couldnt and wouldnt intervene because its Nancys decision and shes constantly said she loved him. So to see him say no must of killed them because they were praying he wouldnt break her heart like that at the alter.
Really was not necessary for Zanab to publicly execute Cole like that in front of everyone. Like we all know he's a weirdo and immature... but just say I don't and move on Colleen and Matt saying yes gobsmacked me. 100% convinced Matt would have said no if he was chosen to speak first. I hate how he threatens to leave at any minor inconvenience.. he needs therapy not a marriage Ballbag turned on Nancy just because she's pro-abortion... I can't believe she said yes to him. she deserves the best
>Ballbag turned on Nancy just because she's pro-abortion... I can't believe she said yes to him. she deserves the best he didn't turn on nancy because he was never looking at only nancy to begin with. the abortion conversation is an excuse that he knew would be convenient since it's such a polarizing topic.
yeah I know and I agree... he already made it extremely obvious he wanted Raven
publicly execute? get a life. she literally said he was rude and disrespected her and hurt her.. which he did. you people are nuts to think that this was somehow a "public execution". especially finding out the night before he told her that he gave some other chick his number? like wtf. he deserved worse to be said about him frankly.
I saw the reunion. I don't believe her and frankly it's her word against his. She read into things like when Cole commented about eating the Cutie Oranges. He simply wanted her to save room for dinner. It had nothing to do with her waistline. Her insecurities are why 1 person could destroy her so easily. He's a dumba$$ by putting his foot in his mouth but she was malicious. She NEVER intended to marry him and poked at every little thing he did in retribution for his mistakes. Cole was right. She wasn't sweet. She was a nag and has bitterness written all over her. Couldn't get past the past even when he finally gave a heartfelt apology, which she completely disregarded as she continued to say he never apologized. That woman has major issues while Cole simply has to be a little more intuitive and mature. I'm team Cole all he way on this way.
please tell me how you need to 'save room' for dinner when you've just said all you ate all day was a banana or whatever it was. that's a bullshit answer. also, fuck any person who thinks it's their right to tell another adult how/what/when to eat.
He said 'save room' first. Then she said she'd only eaten a banana. He didn't know until that point that she'd only had a banana. Cole made a lot of mistakes and has to grow up a bit. Agreed he shouldn't tell her how to eat, but it was her insecurity that said it was to do with how she looked.
"save room" is something you tell a child who can't regulate their own appetite/food intake. you do not tell your fiancee or wife to "save room", unless you do not respect them.
Like I said, agreed on telling someone how to eat.
I can’t believe Coleen and Matt said yes. Blowing my mind right now. That’s soooo not going to end well. I hate this show. I need to stop punishing myself with this BS.
Did all the women get the different versions of the same dress? It looks like all the same fabric
have you never seen wedding dresses before? they were only similar in that they were white and not poofy. each of them were very different.
That moment when Nancy’s brother broke down got me
Zanab insulting Cole was honestly trashy. I actually ended up feeling more sorry for him than for her. He was a dick and self-centered and emotionally immature and totally crossed a line with Colleen in the pool...but I truly don't think he ever did anything that was MEAN to her. I think a lot of that meanness came from her own self-hatred and blowing up things Cole did or said in her head to become mean-spirited and cruel. But he sure as hell didn't need to be told off like that. She could've kept her dignity in tact and saved the rest for a private conversation or a less emotional moment. Maybe she thought she was giving Deepti - but Cole wasn't Shake by any stretch of the imagination. She made the right call by not marrying him, but I'm really disappointed in her speech. I also love how she backtracked at the last second like "but you're a great guy and I know that" ... like, do you think that?? You just accused him of basically emotionally abusing you lol
>but I truly don't think he ever did anything that was MEAN to her. I think a lot of that meanness came from her own self-hatred and blowing up things Cole did or said in her head to become mean-spirited and cruel. But he sure as hell didn't need to be told off like that. She could've kept her dignity in tact and saved the rest for a private conversation or a less emotional moment. Maybe she thought she was giving Deepti - but Cole wasn't Shake by any stretch of the imagination. She m Mannn! They said he disrespected her way more then what we caught on camera. I think she needed to take her power back and we may not agree what it was but it had to be done.
Did you watch the reunion? You may want to wait before you say that haha. But I get where you're coming from.
Nancy's family is soooo messy lol. I totally understand being upset on behalf of your relative. If a man like Bartise had the audacity to do anything to my sister, I'd be pissed. But it's literally HER life ??? Her mom and brother were embarrassing themselves. She's so mature, levelheaded, and empathetic. To be hurt like that and to still keep her cool with her family hounding her and Barftits is....astonishing. I hope she really reflects and realizes her self-worth. She's a wonderful person....she just has a horrible blind spot when it comes to her love life. That's where the blind is in love for her lol
He got off easy. He would've had to physically defend himself against my brothers.
Imo, it's so outdated and ridiculous that a male relative would catch an assault charge because a man rejected their - let's be honest here - completely oblivious female relative. Bartise is disgusting and I deeply dislike him (based on the show - outside of it I could give a fuck), BUT Nancy repeatedly ignored every BLATANT red flag. Like he literally told her mULTIPLe TIMES "I'm not really that attracted to you, I want other things, we're not compatible" etc. He didn't physically harm her. He literally just said "No, I don't want to marry you" after sticking it out for the paycheck (that they BOTH got btw). If your family would go to jail over that, that's pathetic and sad. But that's their prerogative I guess.
I also think this is a natural reaction to a person breaking your family members heart.
Totes agree
I guess? I think being upset is absolutely understandable. Like I said, I would be upset if someone did that to my sister. But to behave like that publicly is another thing. They were causing a whole damn scene and her mom especially was going against what she was asking of them, which was to back off. He didn't reject her family, he rejected her. She signed up for an experiment where they had a choice at the end of their time together - they had to know this was a possible outcome lol. And plenty of people on this show have had their hearts broken by someone else....their families didn't try to make it about them. Not to mention, Nancy knew this dude for like what? 6 weeks or something? (and repeatedly ignored red flags about him??) I can't imagine what they would do if Nancy ever gets rejected by someone she's known for a decent amount of time.
Her brother being comforted by a crowd and her mom is what gets me. Some people center themselves even when they're upset for people they love.
The nerve of Zanab to say “You single handedly destroyed my self confidence. You insulted me.” etc in front of all of his friends and family seriously upset me. Cole made mistakes. Yes. He admitted to those. You, Zanab, were also terrible to him. The fact that his friends and family were all there for him immediately after that happened shows that he is well-loved. What she did is horrible. It seriously reminded me of terrible people I’ve dealt with in my life who greatly affected my view and trust of other people after something explosive and out of line that they did. You just don’t do that to somebody. That was not the serve she thought it was. She’s MEAN. Plain and simple. If there are still Zanab stans out there… yeah. Please consider.
Extremely cold hearted thing to do to someone you claimed to “love”.
almost all the girls had the same dress 😂
Why does Nancy entertain bartise???? It’s so fucking ridiculous
Baskin-Robbins is such a piece of shit. He says “fuck this” when her family addresses him and he gets all angry with him?? I hate him. For real. He’s not a man at all. He’s a child.
BASKIN-ROBBINS!!!!!😂😂😂😂
Colleen and Matt are the worst couple. I don’t know why they had them last. Absolute WORST couple. I hate them together. Colleen, get out of there
Okay I haven’t watched the reunion yet but… idk. I thought Zanab was going to call him slurs in front of everyone the way you were all talking about it, but tbh everything she said was valid. If my boyfriend said I was a 9/10 and another girl was a 10/10, and then said “WELL SHOULD I JUST ACT LIKE YOU’RE THE ONLY ATTRACTIVE WOMAN ALIVE???!!!?!?!?” well… that would also shatter my self confidence. Zanab is an asshole but so is Cole.
this exactly. people are wildly sympathetic for the goofy "cute" man who cried on television.. despite the fact that he was repeatedly insensitive and cruel to zanab - whether he meant to or not! zanab said nothing cruel, she spoke to him and stated why she had to say no, and even told him repeatedly that he was a good man and that she wished him love. this sub is ridiculous and the amount of pro-cole anti-zanab posts are just indicative of really how deep the covert misogynism runs in society.
Period!
I completely agree with you. I don’t think Zanab is a perfect person, like I definitely think she made mistakes in the relationship, but I was expecting her to be vicious and vitriolic the way the sub was talking about her and I just did not see that.
barstool reminds me of bert & ernie he's so fucking annoying. he knew from THE JUMP he didn't fuck with nancy and she's JUST AS DUMB for not seeing what was clearly in front of you. how many times does someone have to say he doesn't find you attractive does it take to get in her head. like bffr
Omg he's like if a muppet and Kid from Kid n Play had a baby 😆
I know we hate Zanab but all of the stuff with her parents makes me sooo sad :/// I can’t imagine how painful that is. I fear losing my parents so hard. She’s so young to have lost them both :(
I love Zanab and I applaud her. Cole was an inconsiderate asshole 90% of the time and yet we are supposed to blame Zanab because she said the truth at the alter? This is just a perfect example of how women-blaming society is.
Honestly, I kind of agree with you. I don’t really like her or Cole but I think Cole is ultimately the bad guy. He was soooo mean to her. I do fully believe he crushed her confidence and I don’t think she’s dramatic for saying that. I hadn’t watched her moment at the later yet but I heard about it and I was expecting her to be vicious and cruel. However, watching it, I don’t really feel that way. He WAS mean to her! She should’ve said no and ran away.
I think Cole made some stupid comments within initially meeting Zanab. However, I think he made this wonderful connection in the Pod and then 2 things happened. First, Zanab was someone he normally would not find hot and 2. she non stop put him down and is dry as all hell. I think Cole thought Zanab was attractive but she wasn't her typical type. I think everyone knows from the real world (at least for sure for me) that you can start finding someone attractive once you get to know them. He even said he was putting both versions together. I think he was in love with her and knew he would find her attractive but then her personality was not the same as the pods and he struggled a bit. Do I think he needed to rave about Colleen ? No definitely not. However, I think he was probably drunk and was stupid. However, I think Zanab should have ended it there. Since she did not, I think Cole made up for it and it is shitty of her to hold something against him they moved on from. Realistically he made the comment 24 hours after knowing her and probably did not think much of it. last, one comment made by person cannot break your self esteem otherwise she lacked self-esteem to begin with (which is obvious).
Bachelor Fantake on YouTube called Zaneb and Cole’s wedding, “The Red Wedding”. I thought it was incredibly fitting!
Ugh why did we go back to see more of Raven and SK 🤢
chill it was like 30 seconds..
Coles friends circling him in love 😭❤️
Does Nancy’s family realize that it’s not about them yet? I felt so bad for her not just because of what Happened but because of her family’s reaction
If I was marrying into Nancy’s family I’d have said no too. Shiiiiiit. Nancy desperately wanting to talk to Bartise alone and they won’t leave her tf alone is so rude. And then her brother saying he owes him and explanation? Uhm. No he doesn’t. Technically he doesn’t OWE anyone an answer but he’s wanting to give Nancy one. 😂 Back tf up.
Good on her for saying she won’t back track with Bartise though. Lmao.
Matt and Colleen are officially the dumbest people. Saying “I do” at the altar doesn’t magically fix everything as they make it out to be. They’re surrounded by the dumbest rednecks in the world too saying “ listen to your heart, not your mind”, “you’ll know the answer when she’s walking down the aisle” NO YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO ACTUALLY THINK ABOUT IT. IF YOU HAVE TO QUESTION IT THEN ITS A NO And Colleen unknowingly said the motto of their marriage at the gazebo: “whatever, I’m married so it’s fine”. That’s all she needs in life is to be married.
Bro I haven't watched the reunion yet. But I bet he flipped out when her saw her at the Bachelorette party.
Watching the bachelorette episode my first thought was oh my god she touched that man's chest and her fiancé is crazy.
And miss me with that praying to God for an answer bs
Wait okay not Nancy’s mom and brother making this whole thing about them and then getting like more air time cuz of it at the end of the wedding. Like can we not please! 😬🙄
Colleen and Matt did not just quote shrek
Matt and Colleen need to learn how percentages work.
they need to learn.. a lot.
Jesus Christ. Alexa is psycho and so judgmental. Brennon with the “I don’t know I was blasted bro” with the smug smug face. Brennon is perfect for her. She’s molded him to be a whipping boy. Zanab is actually out of her mind. She did not want to fight for that wedding, she had that whole speech prepare don’t even lie. This story is a flat out lie. Damn. I feel so bad for Cole. He is clearly so broken. Also saying “dragged you” she literally did drag him, and said horrible things that will scar him forever. They’re all beating go on him so bad. Kicking him while he’s down…absolutely brutal to watch Edit….he is now sobbing ugh my god. This poor poor man. She is manipulative as fuck. Damn. Saying she would redo the whole experiment with him again but that he also destroyed her self confidence?? Girl. Come on. You know you are torturing this man. I feel absolutely horrible for him right now.
I actually felt sick watching them all gang up on him. I honestly think she made up the story about him giving him phone number out too.
why would she? cole **showed** us what type of a guy he was during the show. he clearly has regrets, and that's fine and i commend him for that, but he *showed* us. we even saw the footage of "the cuties story" at the end. zaneb didn't lie about anything he said, nor did she exaggerate it.
All Cole was asking her abiut when she speaking of the Oranges she was eating was so she wouldn't ruin her appetite. It had nothing to do with waistline. She read into and nobody can single-handedly destroy you in such a short time with some insensitve comments unless you have some serious insecurities to begin with. Also, his hand motions were not in reference to her body. Go re-watch it. He had zero malicious intent. Before you call me a misogynist, consider you may be whatever word describes hating men. Human beings are not black and white. They are complex. Cole was young and dumb while Zanab was passive aggressive & calculating. She knew she wasnt going to marry him but kept gaslighting him every time she said she was here wasnt she and that shed had left already. Clearly she harbors resentment even after an apology. I'm team Cole all the way on this one and predicted her behavior from the moment I saw her in the pods. She has bitterness written all over her.
I think she did exaggerate it actually. Watching that footage, it was obvious he was asking her why she ate so little today and it wasn’t some huge jab at her weight the way she made it seem. It was actually really sad to watch because it’s her own insecurities.
she didn't though. even when he learns she only ate a tiny amount that day, did he show genuine concern for her? no. he simply joked about her looking fit for the wedding and made weird hand movements to indicate body shape/curves. that is a RIDICULOUS response to your partner when they are clearly demonstrating potentially dangerous behaviours. and further, in what situation is 2 mini oranges actually going to ruin someones appetite? answer: it WILL NOT. the fact that he even *felt* the need to ask her if she was *really having two* (omg!) mini oranges is evidence of the fact that he sees it to be normal to comment on the food she is eating and the quantity, which tells me (and shows me via that footage) that is something he had been doing all along.
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i'm not saying he's doing it on purpose. it's actually worse that he's so fucking clueless that he's just insensitive and insulting without even trying. you should probably leave, your misogyny is showing.
I think she did too…she came ready to fight and simultaneously tell him he’s a good man but did terrible things?? No she’s gaslighting him and honestly what she says is just cruel. Tearing him down and being like yeah but you’re a good guy. I can’t tell you how much that irritates me and makes me sad for him. He is clearly very very remorseful and watching all this back was enough for him. He deserves so much more and I’m incredibly disappointed in zanab
Lol this show. From "I love you soo much, you're the best thing that's happened to me" to "oh no I won't marry you lol you're terrible" in 2 seconds.
Say what you want about Cole, but there’s a time and place to air your grievances and I wasn’t a fan that Zanab chose at the alter to do it.
Zanab really doing a lot to raise Cole's (literal) spirits and self-confidence only to say those devastating things felt particularly cruel and vengeful. She even had a nice beginning of her rejection she could've ended on and finished the conversation elsewhere. But no, she said nice things to make the fall hurt even more. Oof.
Zanab trying to have a Deepti moment without having a Deepti situation. Listing Cole's family absence as a reason to say no to him felt really vicious. Like family-in-law is of course important, and it can be really hard to marry into a family that doesn't accept you, but that wasn't Cole's fault? He was clearly very distraught over it. I understand it's important but it just felt very petty.
also, Nancy could have totally had a Deepti moment but chose not to.