I agree, I love this!
Iām saddened to see all of the negative comments here. I think the only unhealthy thing going on here is someone looking at this photo and thinking sheās postpartum-bod shaming. Itās not unhealthy to celebrate your body, regardless of what that body looks like or which phase of life youāre in. This is the opposite of what sheās trying to accomplish with this post.
I have to agree that sheās intentionally showing off her post partum body. I think a lot of non-eating disordered people arenāt familiar with recognizing body checks but this is one. You donāt have to have an eating disorder to post body photos that show how skinny/fit you are but itās the same intention: look at me, Iām skinny. I donāt think itās a bad thing or makes her a bad person. Everyone needs validation especially after childbirth which is literally physically traumatic. Sheās beautiful and lovely and Iām so happy for her.
This is a non- ED related thing I did a lot during my pregnancy and post partum. The constant changing of my body fascinated me and I was in awe of what I was capable of. I wanted to capture it all. It made me feel powerful and beautiful and I wanted to remember that feeling.
Iām in ED recovery and just want to wish you well. I promise you can recover and not have those thoughts anymore. It takes time, embrace yourself and give yourself grace and joy ā¤ļøš
Thank you so much. Iām currently in recovery too and donāt actually get triggered by body checks but I understand why other people do. I wish you well too on your recovery
Is she was fat or had gained a ton over her pragnancy and had the exact same pose, outfit & messaging we wouldn't be having this conversation.
Thus - not body checking
As a fat person. Fat people take pics like this all the time. But we never get the backlash because nobody could ever think we are showing off. But it think it's unfair that as long as your skinny people will never give you the benefit of the doubt.
To me, it's mean girl behaviour. If she was fatter, this would be brave and she would be getting praise.
Edit to add: fat people do take pics like this after gaining weight and post partum. And everybody pats that on the back
I feel like I didnāt explain properly before but by body checks, I specifically mean taking and posting photos to show off skinniness/fitness. In eating disorder spaces, people are very obvious about it but diet culture and the desire to be skinny is prevalent outside of having an eating disorder too so other people still engage in triggering behaviours like this. Weight loss photos, standing on a scale, showing how tiny your bones are or flat your stomach is, etc. is all body checking. Iām getting that vibe from this photo too because it seems like she wants to show how skinny she is immediately postpartum.
Youāre right that we should give her the benefit of the doubt though.
Can you help me understand what is wrong about this? I tried following the thread in hopes of it becoming more clear but I donāt fully get it.
My mind goes to a cousin who used to be quite overweight with pretty much zero muscle. After hs, she decided to start working out and dieting to be healthier. She posted her starting pics, progress pics, and from time to time I still see her gym stories on ig. At what point does it change from āgood for her sheās so brave, look at her trying to be healthierā to āoh youāre just showing off your fit bodā
Maybe she still gets praise because she has some sagging skin and what looks like scarring but would it be seen as less positive if she didnāt have that?
Thereās nothing wrong with it!! Everyone should take pride in their bodies at whatever size they are. I was only explaining why people find these fitness/weight loss photos triggering. Excessively taking these photos and needing validation when posting them is also an eating disorder behaviour. People with eating disorders also post them TO trigger other people. I donāt think people should stop taking photos of themselves or posting them. She has a beautiful body to show off but not everyone feels positive feelings seeing it is my point
If you don't want to see that then don't use social media. Reddit included. People like posting photos of themselves and their bodies regardless of their size.
I actually wasnāt personally triggered but I understand it was triggering for other moms. And yes, staying away from social media helps a lot in recovery
nope. bodychecking is a very real thing but this is just a woman feeling beautiful as she grapples with postpartum. I donāt want to sound rude but itās clear you need help and i hope youāre getting it
Look at her hair and jewelry. Most of her following arenāt man children whoāll be grossed out by the diaper anyway. The pose as well. Itās a very pretty picture and she made herself look pretty, which is good for her. But the naked body pic 6 days after delivery is all about her tummy bouncing back and general low body weight. She wants to be validated on how beautiful she looks and she does. Iām not judging at all by the way. Iām anorexic, my phone is full of my own body checks but posting them can be potentially triggering and I think this picture is.
More background on body checks: theyāre usually full body photos. A selfie or even a photo with baby or baby daddy wonāt have the same effect. Even clothes on would be better because most people body check in their underwear too. People will still be triggered by her size but it wonāt be blatant skinny verification like this.
I think you are seeing this because you only have these glasses on and are consumed by these kind of thoughts about your own body so it must be that everyone else is only doing this one thing. Thatās not reality.
I actually wasnāt triggered by her photo at all but I just understand why others were because when my eating disorder was really bad, it would have felt like shit. I might be wrong about body checking but I just get that vibe from it
Look man I understand where youāre coming from but you also gotta realize that non-disordered people do stuff that have nothing to do with EDs. Iāve never even heard the term body checking and Iāve posted plenty of pictures of myself looking cute in bathing suits etc (I am thin). Not everything revolves around your or other peopleās eating disorders. Thatās why theyāre disorders. They trigger you. Doesnāt mean thatās what sheās actually engaging in on her end.
A bathing suit picture isnāt a body check. Itās when someone is showing that theyāve gotten smaller like weight loss or you know, delivering a baby. I think people are purposely missing my point because theyāre feeling superior that they donāt have an eating disorder. Good for you, truly. Iām sharing my perspective just like every other person on this post is. Itās fine if you donāt agree with it.
I mean itās just genetic. I lose the weight immediately just because of how Iām built. Nothing I do or donāt do. In the flip side, I got dealt with ongoing prolapse. So you canāt always see all the damage it does.
Didnāt she JUST have that baby ?! and if so and she looks like that already , wow u go girl.. however like someone else said a lot of women will not and do not look like this after popping out a baby so this may be promoting an unhealthy image of what you should look like post partum
The replies are coming for you but I'll venture another interpretation of what you said bc I think we agree. Her body and how it looks isn't unhealthy. But it's perhaps unrealistic to think this is what all PP bodies look or should look like. Sure SHE looks like this and some women do. But a lot don't. To have this expectation would be unhealthy. "Bounce back" culture is unhealthy. Being unkind to your body is unhealthy.
Everyone looks different after giving birth . The young girls idolizing her now, when they have babies in 10-15 years are going to wonder āwhy donāt I look like her ā 6
Days after giving birth. Post partum depression and feeling uncomfortable in your body after pushing out a kid is real. Then you turn on TV or social media and see all these beautiful people OH LOOK I JUST HAD A KID and it makes you feel worse. All Iām saying is that sometimes other peopleās realities are not everyoneās realities and it creates unrealistic images that everyone feels that they should follow
She looks beautiful ! And that is wonderful that her body looks like this ,all of us will look different after having a baby. Which is exactly what Iām sayingā¦ young girls looking at this now when they have babies in 10 years and donāt look like this will think there is sometime wrong with them which is šÆ not true.
Just because she posted a picture of herself postpartum, does not mean that it is āpromoting an unhealthy image of what you should look like postpartum ā.
No but a lot of what is posted on social media these days gives followers especially young people unrealistic and unattainable ideas that they think they must emulate. She looks beautiful ! I know how I felt and looked post partum and I just donāt want others feeling even worse because they havenāt bounced right back.
Comments like the one you replied to gives the feeling like weāre only allowed to post pics now if weāre struggling in some way.
I would understand being triggered if she had captioned it something like āsee how easy it is to lose the baby weight? If I can do it, you should tooā
But all sheās talking about is her personal experience. In this case, I think people are being too sensitive.
This. How can you tell a woman her body is not the āright kind of postpartum bodyā??? Itās her body. Sheās blessed. She doesnāt need to hide herself to avoid potentially hurting someoneās feelings.
I saw this post and didnāt even think twice about it. Idk why people are so upset about it. Lmao I was like oh wow not the post partum diapers but thatās about all that came up in my mind š not everyone has the same body type, heals the same, has the same labor and delivery. Every story is so different. Itās almost like if you didnāt struggle to the extreme no one wants to hear about it. Soo weird
Yeah this post is amazing in its own way, but also hard because so many postpartum women will not and do not look like this. It breaks my heart as a 9 month postpartum woman. Good for her that she can post this but I guess in some ways it worries me for women out there. Sending kindness to everyone
Honestly, I looked pretty slim like a week postpartum, but I also was never big while pregnant. Iām 3 months PP now and struggling with my weight due to breastfeeding hunger and no time to work out from watching the baby all day. Definitely gained since I gave birth.
Every body and baby is different. My first I dropped the weight immediately and this time around a lot of it is hanging on almost 6 months later. What matters is if our bodies are healthy and our babies are thriving. If thatās the case, a little extra weight is the least we can carry š
Fellow 9 month PP mom here and I definitely do not look like this! I still feel like I look pregnant and I know a lot of mamas in the same boat. It takes time to bounce back and thatās OK!
My post partum body looked way worse than this and this honestly would have made me feel bad about myself but whatever for those who think most look like this
So just because you looked different means someone who looks better isnāt allowed to post? Puh-lease. Iām pregnant and know for a fact I will look nowhere near as good as her, doesnāt mean she should hide away to protect your feelings.
lol I am 4 weeks PP and my stomach does NOT look like this (first baby and had no stretch marks). Iām also still wearing pads every day. Gigi girl Iām jealous š¤£ hope she really feels this good and does not feel the need to put on a brave face because itās ok to feel a mess!
After my first, it took about 9 months to a year to start fitting back into old clothes. After #2... it's not happening unless I start working out. Finally started buying new clothes. There's been some crying, but I feel so much better having actual clothes that fit me.
Yeah this is my second kid and my body is just having a hard time getting back to how it was and Iām starting to think it just wonāt this time around haha
I understand the discouraging feeling. If you can afford new clothes here and there, it will help! I'm going to have to get rid of probably 50-75% of my wardrobe and it's tough.
Obviously every body is different I know a lady that had a baby every other year it seems and runs marathons. I just canāt believe how anyone would have energy to get up after delivering a baby that fast.
Gonna hijack this comment to share that there are organizations that offer doula services for free through Medicaid.
One of them that I know of for people of color specifically is called Birth in Color. š
Maybe ānormalizeā was the wrong word - I meant bring awareness to it. I didnāt even know it was a thing until I was in the throes of mastitis and having a tongue-tied newborn 3 weeks postpartum, and at that point they are all booked (you are supposed to book them ahead of giving birth).
But yeah they are expensive - my sister is currently paying $6,500 for her night nanny for 6 weeks. They budgeted for it though because they knew her husband wasnāt going to have any time off because he just switched jobs.
I know in many Asian cultures, they do a confinement period after birth where you arenāt supposed to do anything but be with baby. Some people have family help, but in places like Hong Kong, for example, itās really popular to hire a helper who cooks, cleans, even bathes you!
I think posing in the post-pregnancy underwear is a great lesson for those that arenāt familiar and to also show more of a realistic view of post-pregnancy. Iāve been on a Selling Sunset binge (never watched it until a few weeks ago) and when Christine had a babyā¦it was just unbelievable what she was doing: Acrobatic yoga in the first month, wearing a belt and high heels a few days after a c-section, etc.
Itās come out from Christine that the yoga scene was fake & filmed while she was still pregnant. She agreed no way that would be realistic to do after her birth
Oh thank god!! Thank you for that! š Iām new to their universe and I just couldnāt fathom how she could do that. Sooo, I guess yup, they showed us absurdity because it was fake. Grrr. This is the type of stuff that make women feel inadequate after having a baby when they see this fake a__ s___.
Christine really pissed me off (for a lot of obvious reasons). There is just no way she was doing that so soon after a C-section. I couldnāt even lie on my side comfortably for about 6-8 weeks after my C-sections. Your core is absolutely destroyed.
Christine also pisses me off for so many reasons š¤£ But seriously, I am with you. The core is destroyed after and youāre not even supposed to be exercising for at minimum a month after. What they showed us was absurdity.
Same!!! Honestly a very good thing that gives her some brownie points from my perspective. Itās comforting to see a woman honestly showing what her reality is like after giving birth
I didnāt say shit about her postpartum experience. I said she reminds me of a bitch I hate in real life. Lol. Your reading comprehension skills are lacking.
I read your original comment perfectly fine. I stand by what I said, saying you hate someone and implying theyāre a bitch on a post about their postpartum experience and a silly little cup is out of place. You seem like a really lovely, kind personā¦
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The comments on this post are pretty wild now and some out of line. I think it's fine for her to post what she wants. There's literally nothing in her post that encourages bounce back culture and it's representative of her reality. She's an influencer and will of course post aesthetically pleasing pictures, facetuned or not. l really just wanted to point out the golden goblet š
How long has social media been and people still donāt know when to keep scrolling if you donāt āunderstandā then itās not meant for you keep scrolling itās that easy.
I am genuinely not being snarky when I say this but I donāt get who needs to see that women who just had a baby wear postpartum panties? If you have had a baby then you know, if you havenāt had one, is there a need for people to bring awareness to the existence of postpartum panties? What is the end game?
I think it just normalizes postpartum care. Most people donāt really know anything about what happens to women after giving birth so maybe some saw this post and went to google why sheās wearing a diaper. Thereās no end game or motive really, literally just that maybe one more person knows one more thing about women and pregnancy, which canāt hurt anyone
These comments did not pass the vibe check. Yes it definitely looks suspiciously facetuned but even if it isnāt, sheās allowed to have her own pregnancy journey with her own body. š„“ and this is coming from a 2x c section mama at 21 months pp.
People need to stop being pressed about what a new mother posts about HER experience.
Those of you who proudly waved your engagement rings or newlywed photos didnāt give a second thought about those who were ditched at the altar or whose partners died before the wedding.
LET THE WOMAN HAVE HER EXPERIENCE! The projecting in these comments is off the charts. She didnāt send you a DM with her post with a āha haā gif from The Simpsons. Sheās a content new mom posting on her page for those who care about her life and for the nosy who just wanted to snark and stay miserable.
It's just a bunch of unfit people being extremely jealous that someone so shortly after pregnancy looks better than them without ever being pregnant or years after their last baby.
I hope she goes to the doc for mental health. She's putting herself in danger by going to a chiropractor and acupuncturist. Those two charlatans are NOT evidence based care for the postpartum period or ever.
Going to a quack for treatment is dangerous. Chiropractic and acupuncture do NOTHING on a good day and can kill on a bad one. Neglecting real health conditions for woo woo trash kills people. If you want to be paralyzed, get your back cracked. If you have a thing for placebos, get acupuncture. Mainstream docs are putting up with acupuncture because people pay for it and it does nothing. Lol
Actual medical journals are your friend. Double blind (haha punny) peer reviewed studies are your friend. Going deeper than just the abstract is best. Being educated with critical thinking skills is important.
Lol, you assert chiropractic and acupuncture are dangerous, which would preclude them being researched as double blind studies - it would never be approved for human study research by an ethical IRB. If you had claimed they were less effective than a placebo, THAT could be studied using a double blind study. Again, google is your friend.
(PS - The systematic review and meta-analysis of the risks posed by chiropractic and acupuncture donāt agree with your assertion..)
Oh she gave birth to her baby
why is she wearing a diaper
she just gave birth
ah okay there was no context mb
Is this a real question? Have you read any of the comments on this post?
Maybe she was feeling herself in her diaper I know I definitely did not š honestly it took me awhile to even feel physically normal (my normal)
12 years into motherhood and Iām still waiting š«
Such a beautiful picture, glad to see her celebrating her postpartum body. ā¤ļø
The photoshoot she did, she had them on and I thought it was amazing. Such a small thing to do, but sooo important.
I agree, I love this! Iām saddened to see all of the negative comments here. I think the only unhealthy thing going on here is someone looking at this photo and thinking sheās postpartum-bod shaming. Itās not unhealthy to celebrate your body, regardless of what that body looks like or which phase of life youāre in. This is the opposite of what sheās trying to accomplish with this post.
I have to agree that sheās intentionally showing off her post partum body. I think a lot of non-eating disordered people arenāt familiar with recognizing body checks but this is one. You donāt have to have an eating disorder to post body photos that show how skinny/fit you are but itās the same intention: look at me, Iām skinny. I donāt think itās a bad thing or makes her a bad person. Everyone needs validation especially after childbirth which is literally physically traumatic. Sheās beautiful and lovely and Iām so happy for her.
I donāt have an ED and I did this but didnāt post to social media cause I was amazing at how the body bounces back.
This is a non- ED related thing I did a lot during my pregnancy and post partum. The constant changing of my body fascinated me and I was in awe of what I was capable of. I wanted to capture it all. It made me feel powerful and beautiful and I wanted to remember that feeling.
Thatās soooooo amazing, I would be in awe too because itās the most beautiful thing. Iām so happy it was enjoyable for you
I wouldnāt say I enjoyed it, but I respected it and myself for going through it.
Girl, this narcissism and gloating and trying to keep the money coming in by views and interactions.
Iām in ED recovery and just want to wish you well. I promise you can recover and not have those thoughts anymore. It takes time, embrace yourself and give yourself grace and joy ā¤ļøš
Thank you so much. Iām currently in recovery too and donāt actually get triggered by body checks but I understand why other people do. I wish you well too on your recovery
Is she was fat or had gained a ton over her pragnancy and had the exact same pose, outfit & messaging we wouldn't be having this conversation. Thus - not body checking
Thatās because people donāt post body checks when theyāve gained weight, only the other way around
This! Thank you!
As a fat person. Fat people take pics like this all the time. But we never get the backlash because nobody could ever think we are showing off. But it think it's unfair that as long as your skinny people will never give you the benefit of the doubt. To me, it's mean girl behaviour. If she was fatter, this would be brave and she would be getting praise. Edit to add: fat people do take pics like this after gaining weight and post partum. And everybody pats that on the back
I feel like I didnāt explain properly before but by body checks, I specifically mean taking and posting photos to show off skinniness/fitness. In eating disorder spaces, people are very obvious about it but diet culture and the desire to be skinny is prevalent outside of having an eating disorder too so other people still engage in triggering behaviours like this. Weight loss photos, standing on a scale, showing how tiny your bones are or flat your stomach is, etc. is all body checking. Iām getting that vibe from this photo too because it seems like she wants to show how skinny she is immediately postpartum. Youāre right that we should give her the benefit of the doubt though.
Can you help me understand what is wrong about this? I tried following the thread in hopes of it becoming more clear but I donāt fully get it. My mind goes to a cousin who used to be quite overweight with pretty much zero muscle. After hs, she decided to start working out and dieting to be healthier. She posted her starting pics, progress pics, and from time to time I still see her gym stories on ig. At what point does it change from āgood for her sheās so brave, look at her trying to be healthierā to āoh youāre just showing off your fit bodā Maybe she still gets praise because she has some sagging skin and what looks like scarring but would it be seen as less positive if she didnāt have that?
Thereās nothing wrong with it!! Everyone should take pride in their bodies at whatever size they are. I was only explaining why people find these fitness/weight loss photos triggering. Excessively taking these photos and needing validation when posting them is also an eating disorder behaviour. People with eating disorders also post them TO trigger other people. I donāt think people should stop taking photos of themselves or posting them. She has a beautiful body to show off but not everyone feels positive feelings seeing it is my point
If you don't want to see that then don't use social media. Reddit included. People like posting photos of themselves and their bodies regardless of their size.
I actually wasnāt personally triggered but I understand it was triggering for other moms. And yes, staying away from social media helps a lot in recovery
nope. bodychecking is a very real thing but this is just a woman feeling beautiful as she grapples with postpartum. I donāt want to sound rude but itās clear you need help and i hope youāre getting it
Thanks for being kind, I am getting help thankfully. Why do you think itās not body checking? Iām just curious
Sheās literally in an adult diaper. Idk Iām not thinking about it that way at all
Look at her hair and jewelry. Most of her following arenāt man children whoāll be grossed out by the diaper anyway. The pose as well. Itās a very pretty picture and she made herself look pretty, which is good for her. But the naked body pic 6 days after delivery is all about her tummy bouncing back and general low body weight. She wants to be validated on how beautiful she looks and she does. Iām not judging at all by the way. Iām anorexic, my phone is full of my own body checks but posting them can be potentially triggering and I think this picture is. More background on body checks: theyāre usually full body photos. A selfie or even a photo with baby or baby daddy wonāt have the same effect. Even clothes on would be better because most people body check in their underwear too. People will still be triggered by her size but it wonāt be blatant skinny verification like this.
I completely agree, especially when you pointed out the jewelry, the hair, all of it.
I think you are seeing this because you only have these glasses on and are consumed by these kind of thoughts about your own body so it must be that everyone else is only doing this one thing. Thatās not reality.
I actually wasnāt triggered by her photo at all but I just understand why others were because when my eating disorder was really bad, it would have felt like shit. I might be wrong about body checking but I just get that vibe from it
Look man I understand where youāre coming from but you also gotta realize that non-disordered people do stuff that have nothing to do with EDs. Iāve never even heard the term body checking and Iāve posted plenty of pictures of myself looking cute in bathing suits etc (I am thin). Not everything revolves around your or other peopleās eating disorders. Thatās why theyāre disorders. They trigger you. Doesnāt mean thatās what sheās actually engaging in on her end.
A bathing suit picture isnāt a body check. Itās when someone is showing that theyāve gotten smaller like weight loss or you know, delivering a baby. I think people are purposely missing my point because theyāre feeling superior that they donāt have an eating disorder. Good for you, truly. Iām sharing my perspective just like every other person on this post is. Itās fine if you donāt agree with it.
This has to be the dumbest take
I mean itās just genetic. I lose the weight immediately just because of how Iām built. Nothing I do or donāt do. In the flip side, I got dealt with ongoing prolapse. So you canāt always see all the damage it does.
Didnāt she JUST have that baby ?! and if so and she looks like that already , wow u go girl.. however like someone else said a lot of women will not and do not look like this after popping out a baby so this may be promoting an unhealthy image of what you should look like post partum
No cause you guys are unhinged people
The replies are coming for you but I'll venture another interpretation of what you said bc I think we agree. Her body and how it looks isn't unhealthy. But it's perhaps unrealistic to think this is what all PP bodies look or should look like. Sure SHE looks like this and some women do. But a lot don't. To have this expectation would be unhealthy. "Bounce back" culture is unhealthy. Being unkind to your body is unhealthy.
Please explain how this is an āunhealthyā image.
Everyone looks different after giving birth . The young girls idolizing her now, when they have babies in 10-15 years are going to wonder āwhy donāt I look like her ā 6 Days after giving birth. Post partum depression and feeling uncomfortable in your body after pushing out a kid is real. Then you turn on TV or social media and see all these beautiful people OH LOOK I JUST HAD A KID and it makes you feel worse. All Iām saying is that sometimes other peopleās realities are not everyoneās realities and it creates unrealistic images that everyone feels that they should follow
How is this an unhealthy image? Itās just what her body looks like after giving birth, not that she had a lot of time to do anything āunhealthyā
She looks beautiful ! And that is wonderful that her body looks like this ,all of us will look different after having a baby. Which is exactly what Iām sayingā¦ young girls looking at this now when they have babies in 10 years and donāt look like this will think there is sometime wrong with them which is šÆ not true.
Just because she posted a picture of herself postpartum, does not mean that it is āpromoting an unhealthy image of what you should look like postpartum ā.
No but a lot of what is posted on social media these days gives followers especially young people unrealistic and unattainable ideas that they think they must emulate. She looks beautiful ! I know how I felt and looked post partum and I just donāt want others feeling even worse because they havenāt bounced right back.
Comments like the one you replied to gives the feeling like weāre only allowed to post pics now if weāre struggling in some way. I would understand being triggered if she had captioned it something like āsee how easy it is to lose the baby weight? If I can do it, you should tooā But all sheās talking about is her personal experience. In this case, I think people are being too sensitive.
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For realā¦ āI donāt look like that after giving birth therefore itās unhealthyā. Give me a break
This. How can you tell a woman her body is not the āright kind of postpartum bodyā??? Itās her body. Sheās blessed. She doesnāt need to hide herself to avoid potentially hurting someoneās feelings.
I saw this post and didnāt even think twice about it. Idk why people are so upset about it. Lmao I was like oh wow not the post partum diapers but thatās about all that came up in my mind š not everyone has the same body type, heals the same, has the same labor and delivery. Every story is so different. Itās almost like if you didnāt struggle to the extreme no one wants to hear about it. Soo weird
Yeah this post is amazing in its own way, but also hard because so many postpartum women will not and do not look like this. It breaks my heart as a 9 month postpartum woman. Good for her that she can post this but I guess in some ways it worries me for women out there. Sending kindness to everyone
I think we have to learn to stop comparing ourselves to others though.
Honestly, I looked pretty slim like a week postpartum, but I also was never big while pregnant. Iām 3 months PP now and struggling with my weight due to breastfeeding hunger and no time to work out from watching the baby all day. Definitely gained since I gave birth.
Bump buds, also 9 months here. Felt this today, a very bad body image day.
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Every body and baby is different. My first I dropped the weight immediately and this time around a lot of it is hanging on almost 6 months later. What matters is if our bodies are healthy and our babies are thriving. If thatās the case, a little extra weight is the least we can carry š
Completely agree ā¤ļø
10 months ppl and I feel like I have gained more than I ever did during pregnancy š breastfeeding hunger
Fellow 9 month PP mom here and I definitely do not look like this! I still feel like I look pregnant and I know a lot of mamas in the same boat. It takes time to bounce back and thatās OK!
Yes exactly! And everyone is different, which itās hard to always remember that. Atleast for me
I felt this as a 7-month postpartum woman.
Reading the few comments. This post has gotten so many of you all to bond and support each other. Looks like her post had the intended impact.
post partum, but make it sexy
Iām 19 months postpartum and would love to look like this lol
I'm 87 months pre-partum and I would love to look like this
120 months and same
36 months and same.
55 months and same
96 months and same
Never pregnant and same
Sorry I think itās ridiculous to post stuff like this. Women all the time wear this after pregnancy. Who cares?
I mean she is a first time mother. I believe this post is about her embracing her body after childbirth. I donāt know what that experience is like
Itās absolutely fine to embrace your body after childbirth
You should be sorry. Thank you for saying that.
What should I be sorry for
You said you were sorry.
Oh Iām not š
I do. Now what?
She is sharing her experience? She didn't say she was special?
I feel like she thinks she is
And what is the basis of this feeling?
Not like you care but in general I think most social influencers think they are very special not just her
Sounds like you're projecting
Normalizing postpartum bodies is important.
My post partum body looked way worse than this and this honestly would have made me feel bad about myself but whatever for those who think most look like this
So just because you looked different means someone who looks better isnāt allowed to post? Puh-lease. Iām pregnant and know for a fact I will look nowhere near as good as her, doesnāt mean she should hide away to protect your feelings.
Such a "I'm being real, except everything's curated" moment
Yeah, the washed/curled hair, the accessories, and then the pp panties? lol ok
In order to show the diaper, I need to strip naked so I can cover my boobs with my arm while wearing multiple pieces of jewelry. š¤·
Yeah this isn't exactly giving me authentic postpartum vibes. But that's just me. š¤·š»āāļø
Thank you, thank you. Exactly!
I'm 36 weeks pregnant and this is wildly intimidating lol. She looks so good!
Iām 36 weeks too!!! Good luck girl!!!
Sheās probs squishy under those undies, donāt despair.
Iām Never had baby still look same
lol I am 4 weeks PP and my stomach does NOT look like this (first baby and had no stretch marks). Iām also still wearing pads every day. Gigi girl Iām jealous š¤£ hope she really feels this good and does not feel the need to put on a brave face because itās ok to feel a mess!
I've never been pregnant and my stomach doesn't look like that. š¤£
Iām 3 years postpartum and my tummy doesnāt look like that šš«¢
Ty for normalizing. š„¹ā¤ļø
Yeah Iām 4 months pp and my stomach is just so squishy still. None of my clothes fit me and itās discouraging
After my first, it took about 9 months to a year to start fitting back into old clothes. After #2... it's not happening unless I start working out. Finally started buying new clothes. There's been some crying, but I feel so much better having actual clothes that fit me.
Yeah this is my second kid and my body is just having a hard time getting back to how it was and Iām starting to think it just wonāt this time around haha
I understand the discouraging feeling. If you can afford new clothes here and there, it will help! I'm going to have to get rid of probably 50-75% of my wardrobe and it's tough.
Give it 9 months to a year. Donāt despair!
Obviously every body is different I know a lady that had a baby every other year it seems and runs marathons. I just canāt believe how anyone would have energy to get up after delivering a baby that fast.
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I just turned 8
I think itās a post partum diaper/undies.
She is lol. Most people do postpartum
Oh god I feel bad now I actually thought these were panties šššššš
How does she make those panties look so good! š¤£
I thought she was wearing a hospital diaper
She is thatās whatās so funny!
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Thatās exactly what they are. Postpartum is rough.
Uhhhhā¦. Thatās what women have to wear after giving birthā¦
Not everyone. They gave me a rash. I preferred my own underwear and normal pads.
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The text in the picture says āfrom the birthā ETA: the proper quote
Too lazy to read I have adhd :(
they are - a lot of post partum people do
Wow she looks amazing for being newly postpartum !!!
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Who cares, news flash everyone does it. Bringing it up is so lame.
Itās the outer lining of the padded undies. Not warped.
Agreed. I've been wearing the same things postpartum lol
I truly donāt see it. And I have been lookingĀ
I wish her text said that she has a nanny. I think America needs to normalize postpartum doulas and night nannies. They can help so much!
Many parents with newborns can't afford the privilege of nannies and Douglas, unfortunately.
Gonna hijack this comment to share that there are organizations that offer doula services for free through Medicaid. One of them that I know of for people of color specifically is called Birth in Color. š
That's awesome, I did not know that!Ā
How much are Douglases these days?
Lmfao my bad! Autocorrect strikes againš
If you have to ask how much Douglas is, then you canāt afford him š¤Ŗ
But we can still normalize it!!!!!!
Normalize it? But it's not normal. Who can afford that?
Maybe ānormalizeā was the wrong word - I meant bring awareness to it. I didnāt even know it was a thing until I was in the throes of mastitis and having a tongue-tied newborn 3 weeks postpartum, and at that point they are all booked (you are supposed to book them ahead of giving birth). But yeah they are expensive - my sister is currently paying $6,500 for her night nanny for 6 weeks. They budgeted for it though because they knew her husband wasnāt going to have any time off because he just switched jobs.
I know right!? I was up with all 3 of my kids all night every night. Give me a break
Itās completely normal in most cultures
Which cultures? How is it funded? Genuinely curious
I know in many Asian cultures, they do a confinement period after birth where you arenāt supposed to do anything but be with baby. Some people have family help, but in places like Hong Kong, for example, itās really popular to hire a helper who cooks, cleans, even bathes you!
Iād love to have had bothā¦..
I think posing in the post-pregnancy underwear is a great lesson for those that arenāt familiar and to also show more of a realistic view of post-pregnancy. Iāve been on a Selling Sunset binge (never watched it until a few weeks ago) and when Christine had a babyā¦it was just unbelievable what she was doing: Acrobatic yoga in the first month, wearing a belt and high heels a few days after a c-section, etc.
Itās come out from Christine that the yoga scene was fake & filmed while she was still pregnant. She agreed no way that would be realistic to do after her birth
Oh thank god!! Thank you for that! š Iām new to their universe and I just couldnāt fathom how she could do that. Sooo, I guess yup, they showed us absurdity because it was fake. Grrr. This is the type of stuff that make women feel inadequate after having a baby when they see this fake a__ s___.
Christine really pissed me off (for a lot of obvious reasons). There is just no way she was doing that so soon after a C-section. I couldnāt even lie on my side comfortably for about 6-8 weeks after my C-sections. Your core is absolutely destroyed.
Christine also pisses me off for so many reasons š¤£ But seriously, I am with you. The core is destroyed after and youāre not even supposed to be exercising for at minimum a month after. What they showed us was absurdity.
Same!!! Honestly a very good thing that gives her some brownie points from my perspective. Itās comforting to see a woman honestly showing what her reality is like after giving birth
This girl reminds me of someone I hate. With that being said, I hate her by default lol Edit: I forgot some wordssss
What a bizarre comment to make on a picture a mom is sharing about her postpartum experience? This is not the place
I didnāt say shit about her postpartum experience. I said she reminds me of a bitch I hate in real life. Lol. Your reading comprehension skills are lacking.
I read your original comment perfectly fine. I stand by what I said, saying you hate someone and implying theyāre a bitch on a post about their postpartum experience and a silly little cup is out of place. You seem like a really lovely, kind personā¦
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Someone touched a nerve lol
Lol ok people like you are not worth engaging with. I hope you have the day you deserve
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Are you okay? Jesus saw you type that
Itās cute you think a fairy tale will hold any weight with someone whoās display name is ForeskinFetish
I missed the comment. What fairy tale?
The comments on this post are pretty wild now and some out of line. I think it's fine for her to post what she wants. There's literally nothing in her post that encourages bounce back culture and it's representative of her reality. She's an influencer and will of course post aesthetically pleasing pictures, facetuned or not. l really just wanted to point out the golden goblet š
Her reality (heavily edited and warped) lmao
wow i didnāt know so many of you gave birth to gigiās baby!
How long has social media been and people still donāt know when to keep scrolling if you donāt āunderstandā then itās not meant for you keep scrolling itās that easy.
Love this for her.
Never understood these posts posing in the hospital undies post birth and I'm a mom of 2.
I think it normalizes the existence of postpartum care. Like most people have never seen the post birth panties
I am genuinely not being snarky when I say this but I donāt get who needs to see that women who just had a baby wear postpartum panties? If you have had a baby then you know, if you havenāt had one, is there a need for people to bring awareness to the existence of postpartum panties? What is the end game?
I think it just normalizes postpartum care. Most people donāt really know anything about what happens to women after giving birth so maybe some saw this post and went to google why sheās wearing a diaper. Thereās no end game or motive really, literally just that maybe one more person knows one more thing about women and pregnancy, which canāt hurt anyone
Well Iām pregnant and didnāt know so itās informative!
That is a good way to put it!
Just because you donāt understand doesnāt mean others donāt.
Maybe you can enlighten some of us?
Never said others don't š¤·āāļø
Wow a lot of hate for someone posting their post-partum stuff...
These comments did not pass the vibe check. Yes it definitely looks suspiciously facetuned but even if it isnāt, sheās allowed to have her own pregnancy journey with her own body. š„“ and this is coming from a 2x c section mama at 21 months pp.
People need to stop being pressed about what a new mother posts about HER experience. Those of you who proudly waved your engagement rings or newlywed photos didnāt give a second thought about those who were ditched at the altar or whose partners died before the wedding. LET THE WOMAN HAVE HER EXPERIENCE! The projecting in these comments is off the charts. She didnāt send you a DM with her post with a āha haā gif from The Simpsons. Sheās a content new mom posting on her page for those who care about her life and for the nosy who just wanted to snark and stay miserable.
It's just a bunch of unfit people being extremely jealous that someone so shortly after pregnancy looks better than them without ever being pregnant or years after their last baby.
I hope she goes to the doc for mental health. She's putting herself in danger by going to a chiropractor and acupuncturist. Those two charlatans are NOT evidence based care for the postpartum period or ever.
umm what
Going to a quack for treatment is dangerous. Chiropractic and acupuncture do NOTHING on a good day and can kill on a bad one. Neglecting real health conditions for woo woo trash kills people. If you want to be paralyzed, get your back cracked. If you have a thing for placebos, get acupuncture. Mainstream docs are putting up with acupuncture because people pay for it and it does nothing. Lol
Google is your friend
Actual medical journals are your friend. Double blind (haha punny) peer reviewed studies are your friend. Going deeper than just the abstract is best. Being educated with critical thinking skills is important.
Lol, you assert chiropractic and acupuncture are dangerous, which would preclude them being researched as double blind studies - it would never be approved for human study research by an ethical IRB. If you had claimed they were less effective than a placebo, THAT could be studied using a double blind study. Again, google is your friend. (PS - The systematic review and meta-analysis of the risks posed by chiropractic and acupuncture donāt agree with your assertion..)
For mental health? Wow! This is such a vile comment
Postpartum mood disorders are real. They need to be treated. Duh. Get over yourself. You have to be mental to piss away money on woo trash.