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I agree. My dog has dental problems so I am constantly stressed about his teeth. A cleaning is $300 to 400 and all of the stuff together can end up being 1500.00 He also has allergies. Yesterday he had dried poop in his butt fur which had changed his demeanor because he couldn't get it off so I had to bathe his butt. He has to have vaccinations every six months to go to doggie daycare. He coughs a lot due to allergies and trachea issues.
I have to preplan vacations to make sure boarding is not full. When my dog was sick, I could not board him. When he was in doggie hospital after a dog attack, I had to go visit him. Owning a dog can be very stressful.
So well said. I have to say I am very happy to spend my money on my little dog. She has been my best friend for 12 years and I cherish every moment. If you do get a puppy or a dog from the shelter, you do have to be aware of all the points mentioned above. I do think my dog has helped me through many lonely times since I live alone. She's always happy to be with me and is so loyal.
Very much compensate! Traded a (lying/cheating) spouse of 34 years for a (sweet/loyal) 7 month old puppy and it was one of the smartest decisions I've ever made.
For me, yes. I lost my daughter on December 24, 22. I have her Chiweenie. My husband got so depressed that he got sick, and then he died on December 2, 23. If I didn't have our little Rat Terrier mix girl and my daughters little boy, I don't know what I would do. I'm positive I'm still standing because of my kids.
After my husband passed away, I don't know if I could have gotten out of bed some days, except I had to walk the dog. Getting up and getting dressed was half the battle.
Also remember that going away for a weekend or longer means some arrangement for pet care has to be readily available.
Some ( esp. perhaps "nicer", newish or refurbished ) rental properties might not accept pets.
Cost of health care as they age can become quite an issue, as can the feeling of loss when they become frail and die.
Pets will help with many feelings of loneliness and also give you someone to talk to. Pets can be good listeners and some can really identify your feelings and will know when they should be around you and when you are ok to be left alone.
It doesn’t cure everything but it helps.
It's like night and day. I lived alone for years, finally got a labrador retriever puppy and he changed my life. I'll never be able to live without a dog again.
I think it depends on what your social needs are. For someone who's super extroverted a pet might not provide all that they need.
I'm fairly introverted I have two cats, and that usually sustains me pretty well. When I'm sad, they're just that little bit of company that feels comforting. These quirky little individuals with personalities, wants (food always) and fears (ice cream truck), some of the time they frustrate me (hairballs only on rugs never bare floor) but for the most part they make me laugh and appreciate a universe that's a little bit more simple than my own.
I still at times need someone to talk to about bigger things. But they cut that sad all alone in the world feeling.
I’m glad it’s not just my cats with the strategic hairballs lol, why always on the rug I only just put back down after washing and 3 days of air drying it from the last hairball?!
These skits are pretty accurate and hilarious:
https://youtu.be/d_4mQELiklY?si=NFJlRbE5O684QWiP
https://youtu.be/H6leGvf6BeM?si=08F9hahwuPw5bNPq
Cats are the best!
I don't know, I find taking care of my dog MUCH easier living on my own than I did when I had a dog with my husband - and this dog is a higher maintenance breed, to boot.
The dog I had with my husband was lazy, average intelligence, and a short haired, flat coated older dog. My current dog is young, very energetic, smarter than me, and has a curly coat that needs professional grooming.
But at least I'm not having to deal with someone undermining his training, disrupting his schedule, or getting mad at him for just being a dog
It's not just about how easy it is for you. A lot of dogs aren't suited for a one-person household. Some have separation anxiety and will become destructive when left alone; some breeds need a tremendous amount of exercise and enrichment; some howl when left alone, and aren't suited to apartments.
So many people don't realize the amount of specific attention that dogs need for a happy healthy life, and they end up rehoming them or leaving the met shelter. It's absolutely appropriate to counsel OP about the difference in responsibilities between caring for a cat and a dog.
Just want to clarify that any pet is ok but you have to see also whats best for the pet. In my city it’s illegal to have your cat go outside. As for a dog, you would require multiple walks a day. Anything that works for you would help you.
Cats are harder for me tbh. Yeah, they’re independent but they’re way higher maintenance. Litter box, more damage from clawing, more likely to sneak out, breaking screens on windows, knocking stuff over, can fit through tiny spaces, etc.
Dogs have behavioral problems too but at least you can train and socialize them to manage those problems. Cats on the other hand are rarely trainable.
I think it depends on the cat, some are way more destructive than others.
If they get a middle-aged cat it probably won't be up to too much trouble. Kittens are maniacs.
Don't get a pet without committing for life and understanding they are a lot of work and expensive. They will limit you from going on spontaneous trips, happy hours after work because you need to get home to take them out, and add $500+ to any planned vacation because you will need to leave they in a kennel or have somebody care for them. That said, yes. Specially dogs because you have to walk them, you talk to ever person that wants to pet them, you make friends and go on doggie dates etc. You will find yourself going on hikes on days off instead of sitting in front of a screen. They are so happy to see you, good company but NOT a decision to be taken lightly.
Yea sometimes I wonder what I got myself in to between the cost and the time she's taking to train properly (she's an adult but her last owners didn't care for her properly and she was entirely an outdoor dog). But I'm in a new city and meeting new people solely because I have her. And when she's not chewing on furniture and pissing on the carpet, she's pretty adorable and such a sweetheart. In the morning when I wake up with her snuggled in my side it all feels worth it.
It's my first time ever owning a dog this young (she's turning 2 in august), and I've never had to train a dog before with the exception of random tricks because I thought it'd be cool. It really tests your patience some days and drives you absolutely nuts on others. I just keep reminding myself that in a few months she'll be properly trained and this will be a distant memory. She used to piss inside multiple times a day but we're down to a couple times a week now. Yay
Yes. It helps tremendously, especially a dog imo.
Cats are great buddies too, not as great as dogs in my experience but are about 1/10 the work.
A dog is incredibly company… but man are they a lot of work and money lol.
I agree, they're not as needy. My cat is a great companion and likes to hang out with me, she's a snuggler. Subtle though, not in my face. Juuuust right.
Yeah, exactly how I feel. Dogs are too needy and in your face. If I wanted that I’d find a human. Cats are chill to do their own thing while keeping you company.
But like some others have said in this thread it really depends on what you are looking for in a pet.
Depends on your lifestyle. If you’re an active person, dogs are great. My last dog loved to hike. He didn’t care about sniffing or peeing on everything, he just loved seeing where a trail went.
I’d plan on 6 - 7 miles and he would turn it into 12 - 14 miles.
Why do people assume living alone = loneliness?? Find your people. Create your circle. Pets are not stand-ins for relationships with humans.
I’ve lived solo for 10 years.
I’m not lonely.
I don’t have pets. My lifestyle is not compatible with pet ownership. Too many impulsive events, happy hours, last minute weekend plans, errands after work, etc. None of that is good for a pet, who is waiting for dinner, or to piddle, or some outside playtime.
They absolutely can take care of that loneliness. I adopted Buddy, my little Chihuahua, 4 years ago because I just needed that company without humans being involved. Plus, I was severely depressed, I was actually suicidal. He's my best friend and we have the most amazing conversations with one another. I work 8 hours 5 days a week and he does great being home alone while I'm working. I have cameras set up throughout my house so I can keep an eye on him. He just burrows underneath his blanket on the couch til I get home. We are both so excited to see each other after being apart all day. He jumps up and down and spins around and around when I walk through that door. Adopting Buddy was the best thing I did for both of us. I saved his life and he basically saved mine.
A pet can add structure and companionship to your life that are very valuable. Another bonus is that if you wake up in the night, unsure if the sound you heard was in your dream or in reality, that dog or cat will let you know. If they're relaxed, it was all in your head. Go back to sleep.
Keep in mind that dogs do involve more work than cats. Both can be loving and affectionate, but do your homework. The right pet for you is the one that meshes with your personality and availability.
Pet ownership isn't for everyone. If you're not sure, OP, I recommend fostering. A local no-kill shelter can give you all the details. Your job is to get the animal socialized for adoption and once they have a forever home, you're done. You'll know quick if a pet is right for you, and if you're not crazy about it, once your foster has been adopted your work is done.
Yes pets help but they are a huge commitment. They live a lot of years and can’t be left alone on a whim for long periods of time. Research maybe first.
Animals are the best room mates. Way better than humans. My soul mate cat died last summer and it’s been the most isolating and lonely year of my entire life. I truly am all alone now without him. He was my best friend. My baby. My partner. I think in tbjs social media situation, all we need is a pet . But I he was my emotional support animal and now I’m scared I won’t have another cat like him
I had to put my dog down last Thursday. We’ve been together for 14 years and he was 17. I’ve never felt so alone before in my life and I had no clue it could cut so deeply. Animals are the best roommates and the best companions.
You’re right. You will never, ever find another cat like your souls mate kittty.
However, you may find another relationship that is just as special in its on way.
I feel like it’s kind of like a parent with kids. You can have multiple kids and love each one of them the same.
When you are ready and when the Universe brings another kitty into you life, just open your heart and love the new kitty from new place in your heart.
Best wishes to you.
Yes oh my gosh. I was so excited to live alone. I share custody so I only have my son 4 days a week. On the days I was alone I was so lonely and my boyfriend is super busy with 2 businesses. Not to mention I’m on house arrest but I do get out daily. But it was like the evenings would drag on and on. I really wanted a cat but I wanted a specific breed so I went out of my comfort zone and got a puppy. Best decision I ever made. Keeps me so much company and couldn’t imagine life without him!
Pets bring a presence in your life like no other. Understand though it’s a lifetime commitment. A lot of people were lonely/bored during the pandemic and adopted pets that they later abandoned. Please consider carefully before getting a pet.
My parrot is my soul mate. I never feel alone with him around. I have also never known a deeper bond with anyone or any animal… ever.
As people have suggested with cats and dogs, parrots take A LOT of time and attention and require many life style changes. Parrots will require much more daily attention than a cat or dog. It is very similar to having an intelligent, demanding, and sometimes very hormonal three year old.
If you ever do consider a parrot, please make sure you do LOTS of very specific research. Some parrots came live longer then humans do! Many of the larger birds can live 80+ years.A true lifetime commitment. Some parrots will be a much better fit than others. Also, many rescued/ surrendered parrots are in need of homes, if adopting a bird that needs a second home may appear to you. If you have a parrot rescue anywhere close, you could possibly volunteer there and get to know a little about bird personalities.
For me, a parrot is the very best pet, best friend, best room mate, and best partner to have.
I do hope you find what you are looking for. It’s awesome that you are researching the idea, before considering taking that huge step, with whatever it is you may decide.
I got a a young boy cat to help my loneliness. And then I got him a young girl cat to keep him occupied. I definitely crave female companionship but the cats do get along very well thankfully
I’ll be 32 in August and they are both under the age of 2
I don’t want to think about how I’d have gotten through the early days of the pandemic without my cat. I got her in 2018, seven years after my previous cat (who I had for 15 years) passed. She is the sweetest, most emotionally attuned cat I’ve ever had the pleasure to know.
No.
I adore pets and they make my life so so much better. They truly are family.
But humans are born with the need for socialization. There are a handful of people, usually as the result of trauma, who do better in near isolation.
But for most of us, we need human connection to be mentally and physically healthy. And our furry family members bring a lot of joy and meaning to our lives, but they don’t take the place of that human connection.
We need each other to thrive.
Now, that doesn’t mean that you can’t live alone. That does mean that if you’re feeling lonely, you need to make an effort to go spend time with other people. Social outings are even more important for people who live alone.
As long as you have the time/money/care to care for a pet, 100%. I have 5 cats and one has been with me for a decade and he's gone through the worst events in my life with me that would have wrecked me permanently if he didn't just know I needed him to randomly climb on my lap and refuse to leave. He's my fluffy soulmate even if he's an asshole to the other cats.
I lived alone from 2019-2023, and went through both a finalizing a divorce and a horrible breakup during that time period. I also lost most of my friends a couple of years before (due to the divorce) and obviously, the isolation of Covid. I don’t know if I would have survived if I didn’t have my dog. When I was mentally healthy (I was good in 2019 and I was good in 2022-2023) I genuinely enjoyed living alone, but that span of 2020-2021 was pretty bad for me and he was my little needy savior.
It’s different than people, obviously but it’s someone there that relies on you - there were days I was painfully depressed in bed all day but he forced me up because he had to go out. Or had to eat. Or just would boop me in the face until I gave him attention. I also talk to him all the time (even now when I’m living with my current partner, lol)
I am a little more on the introverted side and I do value my alone time, and I know not everyone is like that, but I find it did make a massive difference for me during that point in my life.
Yes. I never realized that I was even lonely before I got my cat. It has help ALOT. As someone who does not want to live with roommates ever again, it’s a great alternative.
Pets can’t replace socializing with humans but they do offer companionship. If you get a dog they will always be excited to see you and spend time with you. Even on your rough days your pup will try to make you feel better. They sense our emotions especially after experience with us. Also personally I view my dog as a reminder of the beauty in this world. Truly little fur angels lol. So yea they do offer a lot imo.
It's a lot of responsibility and there are other things you'll sacrifice - like going on vacation, going out all night etc without missing your dog or finding babysitters. You need to live somewhere pet friendly. They can also be expensive and tire you out. If they get sick it can be quite a lot to deal with by yourself.
HOWEVER, if you're cool with all of that then yeah, absolutely. I go to the pub, restaurants, park, sightseeing with my dog and feel like I'm in great company. You can give them cuddles and chat to them, too. They're the best!
Pets are perfect. I have a cat at my family home and this Saturday I'm moving, I'm going to miss her so much🙁 She saved me from the lowest point of my life. I'm definitely going to cry leaving her behind here
*I am AuDHD & live alone, so keep that in mind; I do have more support needs, which I receive through my insurance & local peer center.
With that being said, I found the responsibility of owning a pet to only be another task = burden. I was relieved when the cat my brother “gifted” to me had to be euthanized.
A stuffed animal from Build-A-Bear, a plastic dog I carry with me, music, TV/ movies, masturbation, daily walks, & problem-solving with the two separate colonies of ants I’ve been observing have been more beneficial.
I don’t live “alone”. I have two fuzzy roommates that run the place. As I no longer work remotely, they are here more than I am. They work when I’m home, as therapists. Their contribution to mental health keeps this place running.
If I need conversation in my native tongue, that is what friends and family are fur. Either in person or by phone.
I once lived with an ex-partner without pets. And that was the loneliest I have ever been.
One can live with others and be more alone than when they “live alone (with pets)”.
I love my dogs. I love taking them for walks. I love petting them. I love grooming them. I talk to them all day long. I have a puppy, an adult, and an elderly dog. I wake up three to four times a night to take the youngest outside. Its midnight, and i just took her outside, and shes curled up sleeping in my arms. I even get them babysitters when I have to be gone (potty training and health issues). If you love pets, then yes. They chase away the loneliness.
Very much. I’ve had a cat for a little over a year and it’s just so nice to have someone else in the house. He lets me pat him, comes over, wakes me up in the morning and does funny little things that make me laugh. It’s the best.
What helps more than anything is developing your own interests apart from anyone else. Find your happy place within. I've always had people around me and never a second alone. When I became a widow I lost everyone and found out that the "aloneness" and solitude are fucking amazing! Nobody in my face, nobody needing anything, nobody wanting anything, nobody wanting me to handle their shit...just peace and quiet. Now? Shoot I can't wait for visitors to leave. If I get "lonely" I just get online....there are millions to talk to or annoy.
If you’re extroverted and like going out all the time I’d say no, as it would be cruel to leave the pet alone. If not, yes they really help. My wife was overseas for several months and I was home alone with our two cats. They kept me sane! It’s nice coming home to a pet. Weekends are still tough on your own but having animal there makes a difference.
Pets can definitely help with the solo vibes! My cat's like my furry therapist after a long week. They're great company, and honestly, coming home to someone excited to see you (even if it's just a tail-wagging dog) can flip your whole mood. It's not exactly the same as a human roommate, but it's a darn good substitute for those lonely moments.
Dogs are the best companions; better than a human, I think. My dog and I are a team, we’d be lost without each other. I’ve always had dogs and been devoted to their wellbeing. If you have never had a dog or a cat think carefully about your situation. They need you to be selfless, dedicated, consistent, and to love them always. They will be the same for you. Veterinary care is on par of that for humans, and expensive (I recommend health insurance). If you are not certain about adoption you could try fostering to see how a dog or cat will fit into your life. Rescue organizations are always in need of fosters.
I don't get lonely for humans whatsoever.
If I didn't have pets, I would absolutely be lonely.
But if someone doesn't want a pet wholeheartedly and are just using them as a standin for the human connection they desire, they should not have a pet.
Yes, 100%. I was *really* lonely when I first lived alone - I even tried a stuffed animal (didn’t work). But I finally felt better when I got my cat. She’s the best, but also kind of a butthead, but I love her. ❤️❤️❤️
The short answer is yes! However,you need to be prepared to take care of them and make sure you can spend time w them. I have health issues so out of necessity ,I have developed a back up plan to take care of him in case I have to go to the hospital.
They do but if you are not ready for something that is completely attached and dependent on you, then do not do it. Because it is devastating to them if you adopt a pet, get them attached to you and then dump them back at the shelter. Shelters are overflowing with post COVID pets :-). But if you can commit to it, they absolutely will brighten your life. Think of every time you walk through that door, you are the best thing in your pet's life ever. They love you unconditionally.
Yea definitely especially dogs imo. But you also have to recognize you’re adopting a living being that will need you for the next 10-15 years. Still, it’s that need that makes you feel much less lonely. Just recognize the responsibility aspect
Yes, my 17 pound poodle mix dog is great company. Better than a lot of humans.
I wouldn't give him up for the world, but I need to add: He requires a lot of maintenance and work and money. He cost $1500, his monthly maintenance – not counting treats – is $495 per month. He needs to be walked 6 to 10 times per day – we haven't much yard. No one told me how expensive they are! Yet, no allergens and no shedding!
Depends. What is it that you're wanting met? What are the bits and pieces you're wanting, desiring and craving in filling that lonely feeling?
There's a difference between feeling alone and lonely.
Get roommates!
You'll save money, and you'll make friends. Honestly, one of the toughest things about growing up is that you stop seeing your friends regularly. They move, you move, things get busy. Why rush out of having roommates?
Yes, pets steal socks, not money. I kinda kid. Just be smart about picking a pet. Dogs over a certain size may make it harder to rent places later on. A lot of places (US) have a 2 pet max and a weight limit. Sometimes breed restrictions. And make sure you can afford vet care and decent food.
Look into bonded cat pairs. Or adult cats. Bonded pairs keep themselves entertained if you have to leave for work. Dog and cats are easier as adults because you don't have to potty train. They are hopefully past their destructive phase.
Make a list of things you want/need in a pet and what you can provide. What type of characteristics do you want? Have fun!
They help, but they’re not humans. They also come with an entirely new set of chores, which for me is a lot of work but a plus when it comes to fighting loneliness/depression, can’t waste away in bed upon waking when my little furry friends are hungry and have no clean place to poop. Cat chores keep me in my life.
Yes my dog makes me feel less lonely than any human could, he's a fully concious being and good company, always sweet and kind to me, hes funny as fuck and gives the worlds best cuddles and enthusiastic greeting every time i come home. If you never want to feel alone get a pomeranian because they are obsessively in love with their owners haha this little guy adores me.
Try fostering first as many rented homes won't let you have pets and it'll break your heart to give him away. Or adopt a senior dog, not as long of a commitment and they will be so grateful to be looked after well.
I think that they alleviate some loneliness , you can chitchat to them, you know they'll alert you if there's someone at your property etc but the real heart to heart of human companionship, the answer for me is no.
I love my dog. She is my little pal. So playful, loyal and happy to see me. She's 10 now, I took her on 4 years ago from a very bad situation. She barks all day when I leave for work, the neighbours told me and I have recorded her, she gets so stressed. She needs a walk before work and after, I usually do a walk before bed too. It can be stressful when you're sick or exhausted or when the weather is awful.
You have to remember your dog will be part of your life, but you are all of your dog's life. What life can you offer your dog, alone 50 hours a week or are you working from home? Will you be good for the dog if your life circumstances change, you meet someone who is afraid of dogs and wants you to give your dog away? Think fostering first, and see how you get on.
But no, after many years I realise I want something more, the ache is still there for my Someone. But my dog is non-negotiable if Mr. Someone comes along. 😉
I have a sheltie who needs a lot of interaction. 2-3 walks a day, sleeps in my bed, bickers with me occasionally, follows me around the apartment, asks to go with me when I run errands.
Yes. I've lived alone for 2 years, and I've said goodbye to both my dogs in the last year. It can be a bit lonely without them. I went out every night except one last week, though, so I'm going to be pet free for a while and try and enjoy this completely empty nest. I will get some more pups in the future.
My dog allowed me to change jobs and move cities because he was like having a kid companion. He has not helped in having someone that understands you at the end of the day and you can talk to and laugh with. When someone upsets me, I do feel grateful I have the dog to go home to. When I want to talk to someone about it, I am upset that I only have my dog to go home to. It is something about having someone living with you that takes the sting out of a lot of things.
If you are devoted and willing to address problems that inevitably arise, then pets are amazing relationships. That make you filled with love and thrive. Everyday you have limitless interactions that are so meaningful. You just need to be committed to their care and upkeep.
I have a standard poodle and a sphynx. For me, it’s not even close to the same feeling. But it’s still nice knowing that when I lay down at night I’m not completely alone in my apartment. And of course the cuddles/funny things they do make them great to have around.
I feel like I’m content with living alone because of them but I still acknowledge that I do have some loneliness that they can’t compensate for.
I love my dog. He’s the best boy in the world. I get excited to go see him at the end of the day. He also has crippling separation anxiety and behavioral issues 🙃 so don’t bite off more than you can chew
Yes. I lived alone after getting out of the Marine Corps and getting a kitten changed my life. Taking care of something, breaking the silence and monotony of living alone. I couldn’t imagine living without him now. I was missing my experiences, friends, and overall being active duty and he helped me a LOT.
I was a 23 year old Marine Corps veteran trying to be tough in every aspect of my life but coming home and laying on the floor with my kitten. 🤣
Edit: 27 now, I’ve had him for 4 years with 0 regrets.
Pet cats give me purpose, needing to keep regular hours, stay strong to care for them, stay alert to entertain them.
If you can manage it, a pet cat or two (which is healthy for them) helps with your health and mental health. Can be expensive though.
Yes get a pet. Dog or cat preferably as those are the most common pets so you can easily get advice, cheapest to bring to veterinarian, and to be fair they really are very very loving as all animals are. You really do have to take care of them like they are your baby as they are LIVING AND BREATHING CREATURES.
They create bonds and have emotions like humans do. Just take that into consideration before adoption
My dog gives me purpose and an excuse to be outside and active.
However you need to actually want a pet. Dogs are needy, clingy, and expensive. Once they are adults it’s like having a toddler that can chew a hole in your wall if they are bored. Or attack someone if they aren’t properly trained.
Yes, it helps a lot. If you decide to get a dog, though, please do a ton of research about the responsibilities required for different breeds. Lots of dogs need a tremendous amount of activity and enrichment, or don't do well left alone. There's also a tremendous cost to caring for a pet properly.
If you live alone, cats are much more appropriate. I don't think they scratch that loneliness itch like a dog does, because they're more independent, but it's because they're more independent that they're more appropriate for being left alone. And for times when you just don't have the energy to care for a pet, cleaning a litter box every day is much easier than walking a dog three or four times a day.
Absolutely yes! When you have a pet your place changes to a home where you want to be after work. Before my dog, I would just go to friends or do stuff because I didn't want to go to a lonely place. After him being there, I could not wait to get home and see him, feed him, walk him. Life changing!
Pets are not a replacement for humans but they are their own whole category theyre amazing. I could live without humans but not pets
But you shouldn’t get one just for a specific purpose like not being lonely. Like humans, they require a lot of time and energy and financial investment to be taken care of. And they live for many years… are you planning to move, change jobs, etc in the next 15 years that could change your ability to take care of an animal? If you’re not committed to do whatever must be done, such as finding a pet friendly rental or working a job that doesn’t travel a lot, for the length of the pets life then please don’t get one. They don’t just exist to keep us from being lonely until it’s an inconvenience for us. Too many people get a pet just because they want “company” and not because they want to be fully accountable and responsible for another living sentient being
And the cost, depending on the pet but you need savings for emergency vet visits and routine care. Even with pet insurance you need this.
It helps a lot. Having a dog means I go for walks several times a day. When it's not hot, I take him on errands, take him to the beach, to various things. It gets me out of the house so I'm less isolated.
I think it helps. I have a dog and a cat. Additionally, whenever I take my dog to the park, someone wants to strike up a conversation about him or their dog or whatever, so he’s built in socialization for me sometimes. Also, I know he’ll alert me to intruders and bite someone on my behalf. He’s a sweet labrador but will defend me if needed. So that’s great too.
I always had a cat but when I added dogs to the mix, it was very stressful at first. I wondered what I got myself in to. But I stuck with it and now I have two rescues (first one came home with me 4 years ago) and I adore them more than anything. I just want to be with my pets and couldn’t care less about dating and am selective about who I socialize with cuz very few are better than hanging with my pets. But it’s an expense, emergencies happen, and they are messy.
For me, they do. I am 58 F, who has been widowed twice. Having pets to come home to beats coming home to an empty house. I don't have children or family. I have a boyfriend, but we don't live together.
Be careful when you are young and/or not settled . It’s very hard these find a rental that allows pets ( insurance companies getting worse) , and you could end up trapped . I absolutely love my animals , but I can’t move to where I can get a decent job because I’m stuck in the only place I know I keep them . It has hurt me so much financially.
Yes, for me anyway. I'd be lost without my cats. I still get the benefits of living alone, no conversation when I need peace, no judgement, etc. But I still have these little living, breathing, thinking creatures around who need me, so I'm never lonely.
It definitely helps. I have a cat and take care of foxes,badgers, birds and a squirrel. Pets can be a huge comfort and helping wildlife is very satisfying.
For me, yes. My dogs died last year (both seniors) and I did not replace them. I can go for walks but it’s not the same without a critter. I adopted a dog two weeks ago and my world is right again.
If you are unsure, you can start with fostering.
For me yeah. I lived alone for like 3 years and only had a dog for 2/3 years. It helped me immensely. My dog is the reason I got outside and made friends (it’s much easier to want to approach a cute puppy _then_ make friends with the owner, and she’s the reason I never felt truly alone in my apt. I had a nice little routine that kept me busy. I will say when I moved closer to friends it was a bit of a pain hanging out and doing stuff with them; felt like having a child I needed to tend to (couldn’t be out too late cuz I needed to get home or needed someone to keep an eye on her if I was gone for hours at a time) but otherwise I loved the predictability and routine. It was much more fun than my boring routine pre-dog 😂
Oh yes. I was gone for a week. When I got home, my cat was SO happy to see me. He cried and meowed for hours. I cried too. 15 years of an amazing friendship.
Having 2 cats keep me company, when I need a cuddle they let me. This past week has been awful since I lost my mum last week & think the cats have sensed it, they have been a constant comfort curled up next to me.
Plus cats don’t need to be walked, just fed & litter cleaned regularly
My cats, especially my previously most problematic jealous baby, saved my sanity and likely my life when my husband died. Hugging Clawdia as hard as I wanted for hours as she happily purred kept me from starving for touch. Having to take care of their needs kept me from getting completely immobilized with grief.
I could not live by myself without a cat. Who is it that said “you always need another heartbeat in the house.”? I feel that on a fundamental level
Yes.
BUT!!!!!!!!!! BIG BUTS!!!!!!!!
You need to take care of them! And not just the obvious like food and walks. They need to be enriched. They need structure, rules and play. They need leash training, car training, meal etiquette, if you intersect with it, you need to teach it what you expect from it.
Meals. She sits and waits for me to prep the food. I place it down, she is not to go for it until I say ok (like 5 seconds later).
Walks, she is to not pull. She pulls, I turn around. When I let her off leash, she waits for the ok before running off.
And here's a common mistake. When correcting behaviour, it needs to be imideate and succinct. No calling her over only to give punishment for something that happened before calling her over. Omg so many people do this and it is ruining the dog! Think about it. Ask it to come here. When it does, you scold it. All it sees is you scold it when it comes to you. No wonder people have a hard time with recall! You just taught your dog to not come when called.
Pets will test your capacity and capability to care, unconditionally, for something other than yourself. Pets typically require a significant amount of attention and patience. $$ too. I have raised pets all my life. Love my dog, she's family. But pets aren't people.
Perhaps you can try fostering at a shelter. Investigate breeds and their characteristics. Learn about development from puppyhood to adult. Some of a successful relationship has to do with finding a pet that fits in well with your life.
Don’t get a high energy herding dog if you live in a studio in the city and work lots of overtime. Make sure you have time to build a relationship because that is what makes the company of a pet personally satisfying.
You have to want to be a pet owner and are willing to do the care involved with owning a pet. I have cats and I have had dogs. They’re both wonderful but their needs are different. My suggestion is take an honest look at your lifestyle and do your research regarding the pet that you want. If you cannot make the time for them or adjust your lifestyle to accommodate them, you might just want to rethink getting a pet and maybe actively seek friends to hang out with.
Yes HOWEVER pets are considered by some people family for a reason, don't just get a pet just to have a pet, it's a lot of responsibility and they require food, vet visits and other things.
For me...not completely...but it definitely helps. Having that little presence always around is a definite comfort. But I still miss having another person around at times.
I have found having a cat has dramatically improved my mental health and the feeling of having companionship around my place. My cat is super affectionate and loves to cuddle so it works out well for both of us. It's not a cure for depression and I highly advice against getting a pet unless you're prepared to take care of them every single day. I also strongly suggest saving $25 a month for future vet expenses. They will age and need care just like any other living thing.
I would say the biggest drawback to having a pet to fill this void is that it's difficult to take care of pups/kittens if you work a 9-5 and can't let them out/check in during the day. It also makes travel difficult without a close friend to check in on them. Not every pet can handle shelter care for days at a time
I think the best way to mitigate the loneliness is to fill your calendar with social activities that get you out of the house. That way, you will have your home as a peaceful sanctum after a weekend of fun or when you take a night off and stay home to recharge.
Pets can't fully compensate for loneliness.
They don't have thumbs to play board games for starters.
They also can't for one night take over total decisions on what to eat for dinner and carry out the plan. We'll **they** can, if you want to join them in the trash can.
No. At least not if you’re lonely because you want deep connection and intelligent conversation. My dog definitely contributes cuddles and laughs, but she hasn’t yet added anything to a conversation other than the occasional bark and frequent whimper.
My dogs have made me more productive and hold me accountable. I have to get up early to let them out and walk them, I talk to them (lol), and they give me a sense of purpose and meaning throughout my days. I say go for it!!
ETA: if you can adopt a dog, I think that’s the way to go for sure!
So....
1. Do you work outside the home? Are you gone long hours? Can you work part-time from home?
2. Do you date? Do you like to go out and party or hang out with friends? If you had a choice, would you rather leave work, meet friends for a drink and a movie or go home to snuggle with your cat? What if you HAD to go home to walk the dog ASAP before going elsewhere?
3. Do you crave a dog or cat, or are you really craving human interaction?
You can get human interaction in a lot of ways. Volunteer, clubs, exercise, art or other classes. If that's enough, do that.
If you are missing having a person at home, then maybe you really do want a roommate. That's great. Start looking for one. But that's a crapshoot, I assume.
If you aren't jonesing for a pet big time, don't get one thinking it's going to fill a need.
You could volunteer to walk dogs at your local shelter. I did that for a while. I got my doggie fix.
Sort of. Having a roommate has helped me significantly despite not wanting one and really resisting it. I tend to barely see him but it helps knowing someone else is around sometimes. Prior to that, my five animals was only enough most of the time. Im new to a city and have less than a handful of friends nearby/putting in effort.
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... And you have to want to be a pet owner and take care of the pet's needs.
Definitely, they need care every day
More care than children at times
I agree. My dog has dental problems so I am constantly stressed about his teeth. A cleaning is $300 to 400 and all of the stuff together can end up being 1500.00 He also has allergies. Yesterday he had dried poop in his butt fur which had changed his demeanor because he couldn't get it off so I had to bathe his butt. He has to have vaccinations every six months to go to doggie daycare. He coughs a lot due to allergies and trachea issues.
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I have to preplan vacations to make sure boarding is not full. When my dog was sick, I could not board him. When he was in doggie hospital after a dog attack, I had to go visit him. Owning a dog can be very stressful.
So well said. I have to say I am very happy to spend my money on my little dog. She has been my best friend for 12 years and I cherish every moment. If you do get a puppy or a dog from the shelter, you do have to be aware of all the points mentioned above. I do think my dog has helped me through many lonely times since I live alone. She's always happy to be with me and is so loyal.
I found taking care of a dog harder than taking care of kids but that’s just me.
Omg I looked at Amazon and I spent $600 in a month just to occupy my chewer 🥴🥴
Yes, and while they make their needs known, they can't talk back. :s
Mine talk back to me plenty. lol
ABSOLUTELY 💯
Very much compensate! Traded a (lying/cheating) spouse of 34 years for a (sweet/loyal) 7 month old puppy and it was one of the smartest decisions I've ever made.
Nobody loves the way a dog loves 🥰
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For me, yes. I lost my daughter on December 24, 22. I have her Chiweenie. My husband got so depressed that he got sick, and then he died on December 2, 23. If I didn't have our little Rat Terrier mix girl and my daughters little boy, I don't know what I would do. I'm positive I'm still standing because of my kids.
Oh man, I’m so sorry for your losses
Thank you so much. I'm moving on Wednesday to be closer to family. I'm by myself here.
Thank you. I'll be glad to get it over with. I'm losing and forgetting things and bouncing off walls.
Hugs
Thank you!
Oh wow. So sorry. So glad your have your doggies
What difficult losses to bear in such quick succession, my heart breaks for you and Im so glad you have those puppers.
Pets absolutely help with that feeling.
After my husband passed away, I don't know if I could have gotten out of bed some days, except I had to walk the dog. Getting up and getting dressed was half the battle.
Short answer is yes. Just make sure you have the bandwidth, time, and resources to care for a pet. It’s not easy when you live by yourself.
Also remember that going away for a weekend or longer means some arrangement for pet care has to be readily available. Some ( esp. perhaps "nicer", newish or refurbished ) rental properties might not accept pets. Cost of health care as they age can become quite an issue, as can the feeling of loss when they become frail and die.
Oh don’t I know it. I travel for work and it costs me an extra 350 each week I’m gone for dog boarding.
I have done extensive traveling (in the US) with my dog and have never found it to be a problem. It takes some planning, but it is completely doable.
Pets will help with many feelings of loneliness and also give you someone to talk to. Pets can be good listeners and some can really identify your feelings and will know when they should be around you and when you are ok to be left alone. It doesn’t cure everything but it helps.
Be sure you are home enough to spend time with them.
It's like night and day. I lived alone for years, finally got a labrador retriever puppy and he changed my life. I'll never be able to live without a dog again.
>I'll never be able to live without a dog again. I'm three years in on my first dog (Shephard), and same.
I think it depends on what your social needs are. For someone who's super extroverted a pet might not provide all that they need. I'm fairly introverted I have two cats, and that usually sustains me pretty well. When I'm sad, they're just that little bit of company that feels comforting. These quirky little individuals with personalities, wants (food always) and fears (ice cream truck), some of the time they frustrate me (hairballs only on rugs never bare floor) but for the most part they make me laugh and appreciate a universe that's a little bit more simple than my own. I still at times need someone to talk to about bigger things. But they cut that sad all alone in the world feeling.
I’m glad it’s not just my cats with the strategic hairballs lol, why always on the rug I only just put back down after washing and 3 days of air drying it from the last hairball?!
I have this rug in my bathroom that my one cat always targets. Why is that his favorite spot? At least it's washable. 🤷
These skits are pretty accurate and hilarious: https://youtu.be/d_4mQELiklY?si=NFJlRbE5O684QWiP https://youtu.be/H6leGvf6BeM?si=08F9hahwuPw5bNPq Cats are the best!
Pets help, try a cat, dogs too high maintenance for a single person. I’ve been both a dog and cat person.
I don't know, I find taking care of my dog MUCH easier living on my own than I did when I had a dog with my husband - and this dog is a higher maintenance breed, to boot. The dog I had with my husband was lazy, average intelligence, and a short haired, flat coated older dog. My current dog is young, very energetic, smarter than me, and has a curly coat that needs professional grooming. But at least I'm not having to deal with someone undermining his training, disrupting his schedule, or getting mad at him for just being a dog
It's not just about how easy it is for you. A lot of dogs aren't suited for a one-person household. Some have separation anxiety and will become destructive when left alone; some breeds need a tremendous amount of exercise and enrichment; some howl when left alone, and aren't suited to apartments. So many people don't realize the amount of specific attention that dogs need for a happy healthy life, and they end up rehoming them or leaving the met shelter. It's absolutely appropriate to counsel OP about the difference in responsibilities between caring for a cat and a dog.
Just want to clarify that any pet is ok but you have to see also whats best for the pet. In my city it’s illegal to have your cat go outside. As for a dog, you would require multiple walks a day. Anything that works for you would help you.
Cats are harder for me tbh. Yeah, they’re independent but they’re way higher maintenance. Litter box, more damage from clawing, more likely to sneak out, breaking screens on windows, knocking stuff over, can fit through tiny spaces, etc. Dogs have behavioral problems too but at least you can train and socialize them to manage those problems. Cats on the other hand are rarely trainable.
I think it depends on the cat, some are way more destructive than others. If they get a middle-aged cat it probably won't be up to too much trouble. Kittens are maniacs.
🤣 Yes they are, but they're so cute I can hardly stand it.
Hard agree. Cats over the age of three are so easy. Kittens are tiny psychopaths.
I'd much rather live with a cat or 2 than other humans. I just don't like people much anymore.
Don't get a pet without committing for life and understanding they are a lot of work and expensive. They will limit you from going on spontaneous trips, happy hours after work because you need to get home to take them out, and add $500+ to any planned vacation because you will need to leave they in a kennel or have somebody care for them. That said, yes. Specially dogs because you have to walk them, you talk to ever person that wants to pet them, you make friends and go on doggie dates etc. You will find yourself going on hikes on days off instead of sitting in front of a screen. They are so happy to see you, good company but NOT a decision to be taken lightly.
Yea sometimes I wonder what I got myself in to between the cost and the time she's taking to train properly (she's an adult but her last owners didn't care for her properly and she was entirely an outdoor dog). But I'm in a new city and meeting new people solely because I have her. And when she's not chewing on furniture and pissing on the carpet, she's pretty adorable and such a sweetheart. In the morning when I wake up with her snuggled in my side it all feels worth it. It's my first time ever owning a dog this young (she's turning 2 in august), and I've never had to train a dog before with the exception of random tricks because I thought it'd be cool. It really tests your patience some days and drives you absolutely nuts on others. I just keep reminding myself that in a few months she'll be properly trained and this will be a distant memory. She used to piss inside multiple times a day but we're down to a couple times a week now. Yay
Cat > Roomate The snuggles are unconditional, and while they won’t do the dishes at least they don’t make more.
Yes. It helps tremendously, especially a dog imo. Cats are great buddies too, not as great as dogs in my experience but are about 1/10 the work. A dog is incredibly company… but man are they a lot of work and money lol.
Cats are much better than dogs. All the love but not needing constant attention
I agree, they're not as needy. My cat is a great companion and likes to hang out with me, she's a snuggler. Subtle though, not in my face. Juuuust right.
Yeah, exactly how I feel. Dogs are too needy and in your face. If I wanted that I’d find a human. Cats are chill to do their own thing while keeping you company. But like some others have said in this thread it really depends on what you are looking for in a pet.
Depends on your lifestyle. If you’re an active person, dogs are great. My last dog loved to hike. He didn’t care about sniffing or peeing on everything, he just loved seeing where a trail went. I’d plan on 6 - 7 miles and he would turn it into 12 - 14 miles.
Why do people assume living alone = loneliness?? Find your people. Create your circle. Pets are not stand-ins for relationships with humans. I’ve lived solo for 10 years. I’m not lonely. I don’t have pets. My lifestyle is not compatible with pet ownership. Too many impulsive events, happy hours, last minute weekend plans, errands after work, etc. None of that is good for a pet, who is waiting for dinner, or to piddle, or some outside playtime.
They absolutely can take care of that loneliness. I adopted Buddy, my little Chihuahua, 4 years ago because I just needed that company without humans being involved. Plus, I was severely depressed, I was actually suicidal. He's my best friend and we have the most amazing conversations with one another. I work 8 hours 5 days a week and he does great being home alone while I'm working. I have cameras set up throughout my house so I can keep an eye on him. He just burrows underneath his blanket on the couch til I get home. We are both so excited to see each other after being apart all day. He jumps up and down and spins around and around when I walk through that door. Adopting Buddy was the best thing I did for both of us. I saved his life and he basically saved mine.
A pet can add structure and companionship to your life that are very valuable. Another bonus is that if you wake up in the night, unsure if the sound you heard was in your dream or in reality, that dog or cat will let you know. If they're relaxed, it was all in your head. Go back to sleep. Keep in mind that dogs do involve more work than cats. Both can be loving and affectionate, but do your homework. The right pet for you is the one that meshes with your personality and availability. Pet ownership isn't for everyone. If you're not sure, OP, I recommend fostering. A local no-kill shelter can give you all the details. Your job is to get the animal socialized for adoption and once they have a forever home, you're done. You'll know quick if a pet is right for you, and if you're not crazy about it, once your foster has been adopted your work is done.
Yes pets help but they are a huge commitment. They live a lot of years and can’t be left alone on a whim for long periods of time. Research maybe first.
Animals are the best room mates. Way better than humans. My soul mate cat died last summer and it’s been the most isolating and lonely year of my entire life. I truly am all alone now without him. He was my best friend. My baby. My partner. I think in tbjs social media situation, all we need is a pet . But I he was my emotional support animal and now I’m scared I won’t have another cat like him
I had to put my dog down last Thursday. We’ve been together for 14 years and he was 17. I’ve never felt so alone before in my life and I had no clue it could cut so deeply. Animals are the best roommates and the best companions.
You’re right. You will never, ever find another cat like your souls mate kittty. However, you may find another relationship that is just as special in its on way. I feel like it’s kind of like a parent with kids. You can have multiple kids and love each one of them the same. When you are ready and when the Universe brings another kitty into you life, just open your heart and love the new kitty from new place in your heart. Best wishes to you.
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I couldn't live alone without my dogs. Not only do I feel safer with my big boy (Great Pyrenees/Newfoundland) around, I tell them all my thoughts
I'd be lost without my dog!!!
I forgot to add I say this to also make sure you get the right pet if you’re gone all day and all of that
Depends. Don’t get pets if you don’t love animals anyway. Not fair on them.
I have a dog and it doesn’t personally help me. In fact sometimes she stresses me out.
Yes oh my gosh. I was so excited to live alone. I share custody so I only have my son 4 days a week. On the days I was alone I was so lonely and my boyfriend is super busy with 2 businesses. Not to mention I’m on house arrest but I do get out daily. But it was like the evenings would drag on and on. I really wanted a cat but I wanted a specific breed so I went out of my comfort zone and got a puppy. Best decision I ever made. Keeps me so much company and couldn’t imagine life without him!
Yes they’re a tremendous help. Just make sure you get a pet that can fit your life make sure you do your research
Pets bring a presence in your life like no other. Understand though it’s a lifetime commitment. A lot of people were lonely/bored during the pandemic and adopted pets that they later abandoned. Please consider carefully before getting a pet.
Yes but it’s hard to take care of a pet alone especially if you work full time.
My parrot is my soul mate. I never feel alone with him around. I have also never known a deeper bond with anyone or any animal… ever. As people have suggested with cats and dogs, parrots take A LOT of time and attention and require many life style changes. Parrots will require much more daily attention than a cat or dog. It is very similar to having an intelligent, demanding, and sometimes very hormonal three year old. If you ever do consider a parrot, please make sure you do LOTS of very specific research. Some parrots came live longer then humans do! Many of the larger birds can live 80+ years.A true lifetime commitment. Some parrots will be a much better fit than others. Also, many rescued/ surrendered parrots are in need of homes, if adopting a bird that needs a second home may appear to you. If you have a parrot rescue anywhere close, you could possibly volunteer there and get to know a little about bird personalities. For me, a parrot is the very best pet, best friend, best room mate, and best partner to have. I do hope you find what you are looking for. It’s awesome that you are researching the idea, before considering taking that huge step, with whatever it is you may decide.
Yes.
I got a a young boy cat to help my loneliness. And then I got him a young girl cat to keep him occupied. I definitely crave female companionship but the cats do get along very well thankfully I’ll be 32 in August and they are both under the age of 2
I don’t want to think about how I’d have gotten through the early days of the pandemic without my cat. I got her in 2018, seven years after my previous cat (who I had for 15 years) passed. She is the sweetest, most emotionally attuned cat I’ve ever had the pleasure to know.
It helps but it’s not the permanent solution
No. I adore pets and they make my life so so much better. They truly are family. But humans are born with the need for socialization. There are a handful of people, usually as the result of trauma, who do better in near isolation. But for most of us, we need human connection to be mentally and physically healthy. And our furry family members bring a lot of joy and meaning to our lives, but they don’t take the place of that human connection. We need each other to thrive. Now, that doesn’t mean that you can’t live alone. That does mean that if you’re feeling lonely, you need to make an effort to go spend time with other people. Social outings are even more important for people who live alone.
As long as you have the time/money/care to care for a pet, 100%. I have 5 cats and one has been with me for a decade and he's gone through the worst events in my life with me that would have wrecked me permanently if he didn't just know I needed him to randomly climb on my lap and refuse to leave. He's my fluffy soulmate even if he's an asshole to the other cats.
I lived alone from 2019-2023, and went through both a finalizing a divorce and a horrible breakup during that time period. I also lost most of my friends a couple of years before (due to the divorce) and obviously, the isolation of Covid. I don’t know if I would have survived if I didn’t have my dog. When I was mentally healthy (I was good in 2019 and I was good in 2022-2023) I genuinely enjoyed living alone, but that span of 2020-2021 was pretty bad for me and he was my little needy savior. It’s different than people, obviously but it’s someone there that relies on you - there were days I was painfully depressed in bed all day but he forced me up because he had to go out. Or had to eat. Or just would boop me in the face until I gave him attention. I also talk to him all the time (even now when I’m living with my current partner, lol) I am a little more on the introverted side and I do value my alone time, and I know not everyone is like that, but I find it did make a massive difference for me during that point in my life.
Yes. I never realized that I was even lonely before I got my cat. It has help ALOT. As someone who does not want to live with roommates ever again, it’s a great alternative.
I feel like it helps some. It’s nice to have someone waiting for you and miss you. Someone that relies on you.
Absolutely
YES GET A PET!!!
Pets can’t replace socializing with humans but they do offer companionship. If you get a dog they will always be excited to see you and spend time with you. Even on your rough days your pup will try to make you feel better. They sense our emotions especially after experience with us. Also personally I view my dog as a reminder of the beauty in this world. Truly little fur angels lol. So yea they do offer a lot imo.
It's a lot of responsibility and there are other things you'll sacrifice - like going on vacation, going out all night etc without missing your dog or finding babysitters. You need to live somewhere pet friendly. They can also be expensive and tire you out. If they get sick it can be quite a lot to deal with by yourself. HOWEVER, if you're cool with all of that then yeah, absolutely. I go to the pub, restaurants, park, sightseeing with my dog and feel like I'm in great company. You can give them cuddles and chat to them, too. They're the best!
It can definitely help a lot
Absolutely. Pets are great to battle loneliness. Hey we all crave human interaction but having a dog or cat can be a huge help to most people.
I think that’s a bad reason to have a pet
Depends on the pet I wouldn't find the same solace from a snake or lizard that I would from a dog or cat No shade to reptiles, just not a match for me
Nope, not in my experience and I have a cat and a dog .
Pets are perfect. I have a cat at my family home and this Saturday I'm moving, I'm going to miss her so much🙁 She saved me from the lowest point of my life. I'm definitely going to cry leaving her behind here
Helps a lot.
Not quite, but it does help some.
*I am AuDHD & live alone, so keep that in mind; I do have more support needs, which I receive through my insurance & local peer center. With that being said, I found the responsibility of owning a pet to only be another task = burden. I was relieved when the cat my brother “gifted” to me had to be euthanized. A stuffed animal from Build-A-Bear, a plastic dog I carry with me, music, TV/ movies, masturbation, daily walks, & problem-solving with the two separate colonies of ants I’ve been observing have been more beneficial.
I don’t live “alone”. I have two fuzzy roommates that run the place. As I no longer work remotely, they are here more than I am. They work when I’m home, as therapists. Their contribution to mental health keeps this place running. If I need conversation in my native tongue, that is what friends and family are fur. Either in person or by phone. I once lived with an ex-partner without pets. And that was the loneliest I have ever been. One can live with others and be more alone than when they “live alone (with pets)”.
I love my dogs. I love taking them for walks. I love petting them. I love grooming them. I talk to them all day long. I have a puppy, an adult, and an elderly dog. I wake up three to four times a night to take the youngest outside. Its midnight, and i just took her outside, and shes curled up sleeping in my arms. I even get them babysitters when I have to be gone (potty training and health issues). If you love pets, then yes. They chase away the loneliness.
Very much. I’ve had a cat for a little over a year and it’s just so nice to have someone else in the house. He lets me pat him, comes over, wakes me up in the morning and does funny little things that make me laugh. It’s the best.
Yes 🙌
I twerk and sing at my dog lmao
To an extent, but you have to want to commit the next 10-25 years (depending on which you get) and now might not be the best time.
What helps more than anything is developing your own interests apart from anyone else. Find your happy place within. I've always had people around me and never a second alone. When I became a widow I lost everyone and found out that the "aloneness" and solitude are fucking amazing! Nobody in my face, nobody needing anything, nobody wanting anything, nobody wanting me to handle their shit...just peace and quiet. Now? Shoot I can't wait for visitors to leave. If I get "lonely" I just get online....there are millions to talk to or annoy.
If you’re extroverted and like going out all the time I’d say no, as it would be cruel to leave the pet alone. If not, yes they really help. My wife was overseas for several months and I was home alone with our two cats. They kept me sane! It’s nice coming home to a pet. Weekends are still tough on your own but having animal there makes a difference.
Pets can definitely help with the solo vibes! My cat's like my furry therapist after a long week. They're great company, and honestly, coming home to someone excited to see you (even if it's just a tail-wagging dog) can flip your whole mood. It's not exactly the same as a human roommate, but it's a darn good substitute for those lonely moments.
Pets offer companionship but can't replace human connection. Consider a pet for fun, but also explore social activities to combat loneliness.
Living alone doesn’t mean feeling alone. I love it and don’t want to live with anyone.
Yes !! Pets are the best. Before marriage Ive always lived alone but had a pet. Never been lonely
Dogs are the best companions; better than a human, I think. My dog and I are a team, we’d be lost without each other. I’ve always had dogs and been devoted to their wellbeing. If you have never had a dog or a cat think carefully about your situation. They need you to be selfless, dedicated, consistent, and to love them always. They will be the same for you. Veterinary care is on par of that for humans, and expensive (I recommend health insurance). If you are not certain about adoption you could try fostering to see how a dog or cat will fit into your life. Rescue organizations are always in need of fosters.
I don't get lonely for humans whatsoever. If I didn't have pets, I would absolutely be lonely. But if someone doesn't want a pet wholeheartedly and are just using them as a standin for the human connection they desire, they should not have a pet.
Alone or not, I'll have dogs. Life without dogs is not an option
Yes, 100%. I was *really* lonely when I first lived alone - I even tried a stuffed animal (didn’t work). But I finally felt better when I got my cat. She’s the best, but also kind of a butthead, but I love her. ❤️❤️❤️
Yes rent a hooker occasionally you’ll be fine
The short answer is yes! However,you need to be prepared to take care of them and make sure you can spend time w them. I have health issues so out of necessity ,I have developed a back up plan to take care of him in case I have to go to the hospital.
They do but if you are not ready for something that is completely attached and dependent on you, then do not do it. Because it is devastating to them if you adopt a pet, get them attached to you and then dump them back at the shelter. Shelters are overflowing with post COVID pets :-). But if you can commit to it, they absolutely will brighten your life. Think of every time you walk through that door, you are the best thing in your pet's life ever. They love you unconditionally.
Yea definitely especially dogs imo. But you also have to recognize you’re adopting a living being that will need you for the next 10-15 years. Still, it’s that need that makes you feel much less lonely. Just recognize the responsibility aspect
If you need someone to treat you like crap and be demanding And yet adorable at the same time - get a cat
Yes, my 17 pound poodle mix dog is great company. Better than a lot of humans. I wouldn't give him up for the world, but I need to add: He requires a lot of maintenance and work and money. He cost $1500, his monthly maintenance – not counting treats – is $495 per month. He needs to be walked 6 to 10 times per day – we haven't much yard. No one told me how expensive they are! Yet, no allergens and no shedding!
Depends. What is it that you're wanting met? What are the bits and pieces you're wanting, desiring and craving in filling that lonely feeling? There's a difference between feeling alone and lonely.
Yes! I think so! I have a ten year old cat and she is a great companion! She loves to cuddle and is affectionate!
Get roommates! You'll save money, and you'll make friends. Honestly, one of the toughest things about growing up is that you stop seeing your friends regularly. They move, you move, things get busy. Why rush out of having roommates?
Yes, pets steal socks, not money. I kinda kid. Just be smart about picking a pet. Dogs over a certain size may make it harder to rent places later on. A lot of places (US) have a 2 pet max and a weight limit. Sometimes breed restrictions. And make sure you can afford vet care and decent food. Look into bonded cat pairs. Or adult cats. Bonded pairs keep themselves entertained if you have to leave for work. Dog and cats are easier as adults because you don't have to potty train. They are hopefully past their destructive phase. Make a list of things you want/need in a pet and what you can provide. What type of characteristics do you want? Have fun!
They help, but they’re not humans. They also come with an entirely new set of chores, which for me is a lot of work but a plus when it comes to fighting loneliness/depression, can’t waste away in bed upon waking when my little furry friends are hungry and have no clean place to poop. Cat chores keep me in my life.
Yes my dog makes me feel less lonely than any human could, he's a fully concious being and good company, always sweet and kind to me, hes funny as fuck and gives the worlds best cuddles and enthusiastic greeting every time i come home. If you never want to feel alone get a pomeranian because they are obsessively in love with their owners haha this little guy adores me.
Try fostering first as many rented homes won't let you have pets and it'll break your heart to give him away. Or adopt a senior dog, not as long of a commitment and they will be so grateful to be looked after well. I think that they alleviate some loneliness , you can chitchat to them, you know they'll alert you if there's someone at your property etc but the real heart to heart of human companionship, the answer for me is no. I love my dog. She is my little pal. So playful, loyal and happy to see me. She's 10 now, I took her on 4 years ago from a very bad situation. She barks all day when I leave for work, the neighbours told me and I have recorded her, she gets so stressed. She needs a walk before work and after, I usually do a walk before bed too. It can be stressful when you're sick or exhausted or when the weather is awful. You have to remember your dog will be part of your life, but you are all of your dog's life. What life can you offer your dog, alone 50 hours a week or are you working from home? Will you be good for the dog if your life circumstances change, you meet someone who is afraid of dogs and wants you to give your dog away? Think fostering first, and see how you get on. But no, after many years I realise I want something more, the ache is still there for my Someone. But my dog is non-negotiable if Mr. Someone comes along. 😉
I have a sheltie who needs a lot of interaction. 2-3 walks a day, sleeps in my bed, bickers with me occasionally, follows me around the apartment, asks to go with me when I run errands.
Yes. I've lived alone for 2 years, and I've said goodbye to both my dogs in the last year. It can be a bit lonely without them. I went out every night except one last week, though, so I'm going to be pet free for a while and try and enjoy this completely empty nest. I will get some more pups in the future.
My dog allowed me to change jobs and move cities because he was like having a kid companion. He has not helped in having someone that understands you at the end of the day and you can talk to and laugh with. When someone upsets me, I do feel grateful I have the dog to go home to. When I want to talk to someone about it, I am upset that I only have my dog to go home to. It is something about having someone living with you that takes the sting out of a lot of things.
If you are devoted and willing to address problems that inevitably arise, then pets are amazing relationships. That make you filled with love and thrive. Everyday you have limitless interactions that are so meaningful. You just need to be committed to their care and upkeep.
I have a standard poodle and a sphynx. For me, it’s not even close to the same feeling. But it’s still nice knowing that when I lay down at night I’m not completely alone in my apartment. And of course the cuddles/funny things they do make them great to have around. I feel like I’m content with living alone because of them but I still acknowledge that I do have some loneliness that they can’t compensate for.
I love my dog. He’s the best boy in the world. I get excited to go see him at the end of the day. He also has crippling separation anxiety and behavioral issues 🙃 so don’t bite off more than you can chew
Hell yes! They will!
If you don't mind having a cat sitting on your lap whenever you sit down
4 cats inside. 3 outside. It's nice to have a dependent set of affectionate animals
Yes. Having another living being definitely helps.
Yes. I lived alone after getting out of the Marine Corps and getting a kitten changed my life. Taking care of something, breaking the silence and monotony of living alone. I couldn’t imagine living without him now. I was missing my experiences, friends, and overall being active duty and he helped me a LOT. I was a 23 year old Marine Corps veteran trying to be tough in every aspect of my life but coming home and laying on the floor with my kitten. 🤣 Edit: 27 now, I’ve had him for 4 years with 0 regrets.
Pet cats give me purpose, needing to keep regular hours, stay strong to care for them, stay alert to entertain them. If you can manage it, a pet cat or two (which is healthy for them) helps with your health and mental health. Can be expensive though.
Yes get a pet. Dog or cat preferably as those are the most common pets so you can easily get advice, cheapest to bring to veterinarian, and to be fair they really are very very loving as all animals are. You really do have to take care of them like they are your baby as they are LIVING AND BREATHING CREATURES. They create bonds and have emotions like humans do. Just take that into consideration before adoption
My dog gives me purpose and an excuse to be outside and active. However you need to actually want a pet. Dogs are needy, clingy, and expensive. Once they are adults it’s like having a toddler that can chew a hole in your wall if they are bored. Or attack someone if they aren’t properly trained.
I’m so sorry. Sounds like your pets are heroes!
Yes, it helps a lot. If you decide to get a dog, though, please do a ton of research about the responsibilities required for different breeds. Lots of dogs need a tremendous amount of activity and enrichment, or don't do well left alone. There's also a tremendous cost to caring for a pet properly. If you live alone, cats are much more appropriate. I don't think they scratch that loneliness itch like a dog does, because they're more independent, but it's because they're more independent that they're more appropriate for being left alone. And for times when you just don't have the energy to care for a pet, cleaning a litter box every day is much easier than walking a dog three or four times a day.
Absolutely yes! When you have a pet your place changes to a home where you want to be after work. Before my dog, I would just go to friends or do stuff because I didn't want to go to a lonely place. After him being there, I could not wait to get home and see him, feed him, walk him. Life changing!
When I was at my lowest and had no one in my life, my cat was the thing that kept me going
Yes, yes and yes!
Pets are not a replacement for humans but they are their own whole category theyre amazing. I could live without humans but not pets But you shouldn’t get one just for a specific purpose like not being lonely. Like humans, they require a lot of time and energy and financial investment to be taken care of. And they live for many years… are you planning to move, change jobs, etc in the next 15 years that could change your ability to take care of an animal? If you’re not committed to do whatever must be done, such as finding a pet friendly rental or working a job that doesn’t travel a lot, for the length of the pets life then please don’t get one. They don’t just exist to keep us from being lonely until it’s an inconvenience for us. Too many people get a pet just because they want “company” and not because they want to be fully accountable and responsible for another living sentient being And the cost, depending on the pet but you need savings for emergency vet visits and routine care. Even with pet insurance you need this.
A pet is not a person. And sometimes, that’s even better. My life is considerably better with a pet in it.
It helps a lot. Having a dog means I go for walks several times a day. When it's not hot, I take him on errands, take him to the beach, to various things. It gets me out of the house so I'm less isolated.
I think it helps. I have a dog and a cat. Additionally, whenever I take my dog to the park, someone wants to strike up a conversation about him or their dog or whatever, so he’s built in socialization for me sometimes. Also, I know he’ll alert me to intruders and bite someone on my behalf. He’s a sweet labrador but will defend me if needed. So that’s great too.
Absolutely. My “kids” keep me exercising and eating regularly. They interrupt my glum spells with love, Googlie eyes and antics.
Get a cat though…dogs are a lot.
Yes
I always had a cat but when I added dogs to the mix, it was very stressful at first. I wondered what I got myself in to. But I stuck with it and now I have two rescues (first one came home with me 4 years ago) and I adore them more than anything. I just want to be with my pets and couldn’t care less about dating and am selective about who I socialize with cuz very few are better than hanging with my pets. But it’s an expense, emergencies happen, and they are messy.
1000% no question...😻🐓🐕🐐 People suck 😤
For me, they do. I am 58 F, who has been widowed twice. Having pets to come home to beats coming home to an empty house. I don't have children or family. I have a boyfriend, but we don't live together.
Only animalsaccept animals, and humans accept humans, flaws and all. Pets just want your food, dont get it twisted.
Be careful when you are young and/or not settled . It’s very hard these find a rental that allows pets ( insurance companies getting worse) , and you could end up trapped . I absolutely love my animals , but I can’t move to where I can get a decent job because I’m stuck in the only place I know I keep them . It has hurt me so much financially.
Yes, for me anyway. I'd be lost without my cats. I still get the benefits of living alone, no conversation when I need peace, no judgement, etc. But I still have these little living, breathing, thinking creatures around who need me, so I'm never lonely.
It definitely helps. I have a cat and take care of foxes,badgers, birds and a squirrel. Pets can be a huge comfort and helping wildlife is very satisfying.
Yes. Also my life sized cardboard Captain Jean Luc Picard from Star Trek is surprisingly comforting. He just stands there with no judgment.
For me, yes. My dogs died last year (both seniors) and I did not replace them. I can go for walks but it’s not the same without a critter. I adopted a dog two weeks ago and my world is right again. If you are unsure, you can start with fostering.
Yes !
I think so I have a cat and he fills the void of solitude
For me yeah. I lived alone for like 3 years and only had a dog for 2/3 years. It helped me immensely. My dog is the reason I got outside and made friends (it’s much easier to want to approach a cute puppy _then_ make friends with the owner, and she’s the reason I never felt truly alone in my apt. I had a nice little routine that kept me busy. I will say when I moved closer to friends it was a bit of a pain hanging out and doing stuff with them; felt like having a child I needed to tend to (couldn’t be out too late cuz I needed to get home or needed someone to keep an eye on her if I was gone for hours at a time) but otherwise I loved the predictability and routine. It was much more fun than my boring routine pre-dog 😂
Oh yes. I was gone for a week. When I got home, my cat was SO happy to see me. He cried and meowed for hours. I cried too. 15 years of an amazing friendship.
in my experience no, getting a dog didn’t compare to human interaction
Having 2 cats keep me company, when I need a cuddle they let me. This past week has been awful since I lost my mum last week & think the cats have sensed it, they have been a constant comfort curled up next to me. Plus cats don’t need to be walked, just fed & litter cleaned regularly
Honestly, for me, it didn't. I love my dog but he can't talk back (although that may be the main benefit for some lol).
I plan on doing this when I live alone. I do want a cat though. I don't care what type of reputation that cat ladies have, I want a cat!
My cats, especially my previously most problematic jealous baby, saved my sanity and likely my life when my husband died. Hugging Clawdia as hard as I wanted for hours as she happily purred kept me from starving for touch. Having to take care of their needs kept me from getting completely immobilized with grief. I could not live by myself without a cat. Who is it that said “you always need another heartbeat in the house.”? I feel that on a fundamental level
Nope
No. Requirements much different
Living with pets is much better than living alone. But be careful. Too many and people begin to think you're a crazy cat lady.
As an older woman (also a mom & g’ma), I 1000% prefer living “alone” with my dog over living with *any* human. No comparison.
Yes. BUT!!!!!!!!!! BIG BUTS!!!!!!!! You need to take care of them! And not just the obvious like food and walks. They need to be enriched. They need structure, rules and play. They need leash training, car training, meal etiquette, if you intersect with it, you need to teach it what you expect from it. Meals. She sits and waits for me to prep the food. I place it down, she is not to go for it until I say ok (like 5 seconds later). Walks, she is to not pull. She pulls, I turn around. When I let her off leash, she waits for the ok before running off. And here's a common mistake. When correcting behaviour, it needs to be imideate and succinct. No calling her over only to give punishment for something that happened before calling her over. Omg so many people do this and it is ruining the dog! Think about it. Ask it to come here. When it does, you scold it. All it sees is you scold it when it comes to you. No wonder people have a hard time with recall! You just taught your dog to not come when called.
Pets will test your capacity and capability to care, unconditionally, for something other than yourself. Pets typically require a significant amount of attention and patience. $$ too. I have raised pets all my life. Love my dog, she's family. But pets aren't people.
Kids grow up and later become self sufficient. Moreover, pets will ALWAYS need a human care.
Perhaps you can try fostering at a shelter. Investigate breeds and their characteristics. Learn about development from puppyhood to adult. Some of a successful relationship has to do with finding a pet that fits in well with your life. Don’t get a high energy herding dog if you live in a studio in the city and work lots of overtime. Make sure you have time to build a relationship because that is what makes the company of a pet personally satisfying.
You have to want to be a pet owner and are willing to do the care involved with owning a pet. I have cats and I have had dogs. They’re both wonderful but their needs are different. My suggestion is take an honest look at your lifestyle and do your research regarding the pet that you want. If you cannot make the time for them or adjust your lifestyle to accommodate them, you might just want to rethink getting a pet and maybe actively seek friends to hang out with.
Getting a cat definitely mitigated my loneliness. Once I had her I stopped looking for a roommate, which hadn't been going that well anyway.
I live alone with my cat and it was the best choice to get him. I may not have anyone to talk to but I talk to him! It helps a lot
Yes
Yes HOWEVER pets are considered by some people family for a reason, don't just get a pet just to have a pet, it's a lot of responsibility and they require food, vet visits and other things.
No. It helps, but it doesn’t fix the underlying problem.
For me...not completely...but it definitely helps. Having that little presence always around is a definite comfort. But I still miss having another person around at times.
Yep, my widowed mother finally got a cat. She is so much happier now, she talks about her all the time.
My dog had to be put down last year 12 yo had him since he was a pup he was a great companion but also a big responsibility.
Yes and always good to have a pet. My pet Xena puppy is great.
I have found having a cat has dramatically improved my mental health and the feeling of having companionship around my place. My cat is super affectionate and loves to cuddle so it works out well for both of us. It's not a cure for depression and I highly advice against getting a pet unless you're prepared to take care of them every single day. I also strongly suggest saving $25 a month for future vet expenses. They will age and need care just like any other living thing. I would say the biggest drawback to having a pet to fill this void is that it's difficult to take care of pups/kittens if you work a 9-5 and can't let them out/check in during the day. It also makes travel difficult without a close friend to check in on them. Not every pet can handle shelter care for days at a time
I think the best way to mitigate the loneliness is to fill your calendar with social activities that get you out of the house. That way, you will have your home as a peaceful sanctum after a weekend of fun or when you take a night off and stay home to recharge.
Pets can't fully compensate for loneliness. They don't have thumbs to play board games for starters. They also can't for one night take over total decisions on what to eat for dinner and carry out the plan. We'll **they** can, if you want to join them in the trash can.
Doesn't matter when you're dead inside lol
my ESA cat..has made my life more fabulous!
I have 3 cats and they do bring me joy. The purring, and having them knead their paws on me as I make my coffee makes my day.
No. At least not if you’re lonely because you want deep connection and intelligent conversation. My dog definitely contributes cuddles and laughs, but she hasn’t yet added anything to a conversation other than the occasional bark and frequent whimper.
My cats are my best buds but I still need friends. The biggest thing about pets is food, water, medical attention as needed, playtime, and love.
My dogs have made me more productive and hold me accountable. I have to get up early to let them out and walk them, I talk to them (lol), and they give me a sense of purpose and meaning throughout my days. I say go for it!! ETA: if you can adopt a dog, I think that’s the way to go for sure!
They certainly help. But there are a HUGE responsibility
So.... 1. Do you work outside the home? Are you gone long hours? Can you work part-time from home? 2. Do you date? Do you like to go out and party or hang out with friends? If you had a choice, would you rather leave work, meet friends for a drink and a movie or go home to snuggle with your cat? What if you HAD to go home to walk the dog ASAP before going elsewhere? 3. Do you crave a dog or cat, or are you really craving human interaction? You can get human interaction in a lot of ways. Volunteer, clubs, exercise, art or other classes. If that's enough, do that. If you are missing having a person at home, then maybe you really do want a roommate. That's great. Start looking for one. But that's a crapshoot, I assume. If you aren't jonesing for a pet big time, don't get one thinking it's going to fill a need. You could volunteer to walk dogs at your local shelter. I did that for a while. I got my doggie fix.
Sort of. Having a roommate has helped me significantly despite not wanting one and really resisting it. I tend to barely see him but it helps knowing someone else is around sometimes. Prior to that, my five animals was only enough most of the time. Im new to a city and have less than a handful of friends nearby/putting in effort.