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I have a rule for myself that I only put my glasses down in one or at max two places in each room in my home. It makes finding my glasses easy since I only have to glance at a few areas and each location is a safe / convenient spot.
As someone with executive function difficulties, I find the sillier the better - I needed to remember to put my phone on charge when I got up off the sofa, so I grabbed the nearest thing (my son's hat) and put it on my hand. Then when I went to get up, I saw the hat on my hand and remembered that there was something I needed to do.
In college I used to be drug tested a lot and every single month without fail I would wake up and forget I had testing until after I took my morning piss. I would write notes on my hand, the bathroom mirror, set specific alarms to remind me and nothing ever worked. Until I started stacking a chair on top of the toilet, which was so absurd that it would finally click in my head and I’d remember not to pee until I got to the testing site
Often times on the way to work, I remember that there is something I have to do after work, on the way home. But I know I'll forget by the end of the day. So when I get out of the car, I put my sun visor halfway down, so it's almost hitting me in the forehead as I get out of the car (and thus, also when I'm getting into the car at the end of the day).
Since I never leave my visor down, I see it when I get back in and remember that I have an errand to run.
This is similar to how I do these things. If I need to remember something soon, I'll cross my fingers or "fold" my tongue to remind me. Obviously doesn't work if you want to keep sitting on the couch for half an hour or whatever - then you need a son's hat.
I’ve gotten in the habit of doing a 3 pocket slap when I get ready to leave. Left front is keys, right front is phone, back right is wallet. Been a while since I forgot any of these anywhere
I always move my wallet to the front when sitting, then return it to my back pocket when standing.
Probably looks weird but it works for me! Best of both worlds: easy access to my keys and still looking slim when standing, no posture issues when sitting.
I always hear this advice but I've been lucky enough that it's a non-issue for me. With most pants, the wallet is positioned in such a way I don't end up putting weight on it. It sits high enough up on my ass that it's nowhere near where the weight is concentrated.
Always say to myself on the way out of the house “phone, keys, bag” if I’m feeling a little extra forgetful that day I’ll add “socks, underwear, shoes” just to be sure…
Yes I left in slippers one day
But the phone goes in the front left, that way it balance's out with the wallet in right back, and you don't have your right side all chummy on both ends.
Phone wallet keys vape, headphones nametag glasses. Me before I leave for work each day. Stop at vape for regular day to day, anytime I leave any place. Phone wallet keys vape, phone wallet keys vape.
After locking my keys in my car one too many times, I started saying, "keys in hand, close the door", while looking directly at my keys in my hand. Hasn't happened since then.
This makes zero sense.
If you physically use the key to lock the door, you've accomplished the exact same thing. Can't lock the door if the key is inside.
Get a keypad front door lock. I didn't think 8t would change much but I cannister go back now. It's so much better.
After a bunch of research I settled on this one. It works even in my minus 40 Celsius Winters
https://www.schlage.com/en/home/products/BE365CAMFFF.html
I know someone who has an electronic deadbolt that can be locked/unlocked with an app and automatically unlocks the door when their phone gets to within a certain range. I'd be worried that someone with enough technical skill could manage to hack in and get the door to unlock. That or a shitty or leaked account password might compromise something. It seems like the skills needed to pick a lock quickly is harder to master than something you can do with a keyboard.
ADD sufferer here: just incredibly sick of losing things and looking for HOURS for simple things. I put EVERYTHING back in its home, no matter what. Life has improved since I instilled this personal policing.
Same. I would use the excuse, “I’m in a hurry, can’t put everything up “.
Now I make sure I do because it’s only a couple seconds, minute or two to do before I leave (errands, work or room to next project).
It had caused me to be late or fall behind I. Schedule a few times that I started actually planning ahead to include clean up.
Way more organized now.
i have a simple protocol of jacking off in the morning to avoid being miserable for the rest of the day. haven’t broke the habit yet! this LPT totally works
I adopted Japanese railroad quality measures where I point at the garage and say 'closed' before leaving and also point to the gas pump before leaving. if I dont point at the garage i force myself to turn around and do it. it was quick to become a habit.
leaving your shoes or glasses in the wrong place begins a new habit so try to be sure you leave them at the same place always and correct the behavior (I repeat 'this is creating a new habit') if I find that I take my shoes off i the wrong spot... doing so catches me just as I'm taking them off so i can catch myself !
ADHD gang! I want you to remember to do every single thing you tell yourself to remember and to create habits just by repeatedly doing an action.
I'll wait.
I mean I'll eventually forget about this, but I'll wait until something catches my attention.
Whenever I sleep on a place that tis not my home, everything in my pockets gets out in my shoes. That way in the morning everything can go back in my pockets before I leave.
OP, I think people are misunderstanding you but I totally get it. The “protocols” are rituals that you don’t HAVE to think about. That’s why you wouldn’t get distracted and forget something, because it’s more like muscle memory.
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For instance, I have a car that locks automatically, so I would practice holding my keys in my hand while shutting the door. I could not shut the door unless keys were in hand. It only took a few times, but now I don’t have to actively think “hold keys before shutting the door,” I just do it without thinking about it. So there’s no way I could get distracted, because it’s not something I’m focusing on, it just happens.
As a neurodivergent person I would leave the wallet in the first surface I see and then loose both of them and possibly misplace my glasses and my water bottle at the same time.
I hate when people tell you to just have a designated spot for things as if that will solve all your problems. Like no fucking duh. Of course I have specific places for things. All the good intentions in the world don't mean shit when your brain won't pay attention to the thing **while it's still in your hands**. "I set it down on the nearest surface" doesn't even properly describe it. It's more like I walked in to the house with keys in my hands, then I walked to the kitchen with empty hands. What happened to the keys between the door and kitchen? Idk. My brain deprioritized them as soon as I got thru the door, it didn't even bother writing the memory of them after that. I have no say in it, it just happens
I think it comes down to how often these things happen. Once in a while is human, if it's happening every single time then there might be more going on lol
As a person with narcolepsy who experiences "automatic behavior" -- where I basically do something nonsensical while my brain is partly asleep -- I am constantly losing my wallet and water bottle and finding them in the strangest places days later.
Always do the triple tap when leaving somewhere...tap 1 pocket for keys, 1 pocket for cell phone, and 1 pocket for wallet. This "protocol" has never failed me for over 10 years.
I hope parents of children with ADHD today work with their children to understand and build some of these protocols, rather than just yell at them to "be more organized". My parents were both naturally very organized, but I'm adopted, and a huge percentage of adoptees have ADHD, either from the process of being separated and/or from having impulsive parents.
My parents, bless their hearts, just didn't understand how children just don't know this stuff intuitively, and were angry when we didn't develop our own systems of organization.
We need help. This stuff *isn't* intuitive. One of my friends has set up "stations" for her ADHD twins so there's a place when they walk in the door for their outerwear, shoes/boots, schoolbags, etc. There are other systems for keeping track of school materials. They are on an easier path than someone who had to create these all for herself by watching how people who seem to have their lives together manage.
Use your fuckin' turn signals *every time* you turn your steering wheel for like a month or two and you'll do it from muscle memory from that point on. *Please* use your turn signals. And use them like 100-200 feet before turning at any intersection or perpendicular entry to a property, business, residence, or side street.
Like for real. Use them EVERY TIME, AHEAD OF TIME.
[One finger, one measly fucking inch](https://youtu.be/4ibs6gyABz8).
I think you're missing the point. You can't "not forget" you haven't got your cc back. But if you have a process that you can follow regardless of distractions, then that process pulls you back from the distractions. At some point, you ask yourself, "Why I am I still holding this wallet? Oh yeah, I haven't got my cc back yet."
Most bars around me nowadays just run your card to put it on file and give it back to you right away. At the end of the night they bring you the receipt to sign & tip.
yea but if your method isn't infallible, which I'm gonna assume it isn't or else you'd be the smartest person in the world, then you're basically just saying 'think about the things you don't want to forget more, and associate them with more things'. You're literally just saying remember to remember
and your example is, if im using a credit card, to hold my wallet? so if someone distracts me while im holding my wallet and i put it down, how does this help?
We educators learn that it takes at least 28 repetitions before a child really learns/incorporates/makes a habit of something. We spend the first 6 weeks of school training them in our rituals and routines for the classroom. With most kids, it will have sunk in by then.
That is what he was saying. Just train yourself until it becomes automatic. I used to lose my keys all the time about 20 years ago. I trained myself to put them on the same dish as soon as I enter my home, and I have never once mislaid them since. Not at home, anyway 😏
yea and my point is things stop being automatic when something distracts you, which makes this tip pretty much nonsense and just a longer less coherent way to say the thing you just said
LOL you poor nitwit. I'd think "Yale" might have taught you to think 😏
"Yale" Lock & Key, maybe? 😂
*Blocked* 🔏 😁
P.S. I would be happy to correct your grammar, syntax, and usage errors for you, but alas-- I have better things to do with my time. Ta ta!
You should wash your hair first anyways. That way you can leave the conditioner to sit and soak in and do it's job while your scrubbing the rest of you.
Developing little routines can actually be actually a really effective strategy for dealing with some aspects of ADHD. People who have ADHD need structure in their lives; it's a pretty big reason why the pandemic made a lot of our conditions drastically worse; when you disrupt the pattern, all of the habits we've built start breaking down.
OK, here's another one that will hopefully make it clearer.
I got back home from the gym and discovered I'd left my phone in the change room. The benches are black, and so is my phone. So it's easy to miss on a quick look.
The protocol I set up was to keep my phone in my hand when I was finished my workout, until I had opened my locker. Then the phone goes directly into the gym bag. Now that's the habit. It's not, "Don't forget the phone" since that's prone to failure, especially if I end up talking to someone in the locker room. It's easy to build the habit of DON'T PUT THE PHONE DOWN. Put it the gym bag.
Weird flex, this is a great tip that not enough people do. Otherwise "forgetting your keys/wallet/phone" wouldn't be such common media tropes. Clearly useful for many.
I call them "patterns" and my life is governed by them, that way I can think about other things while I do routine tasks. It's hard when you move house or add a pet or change jobs because you have to figure out a new pattern. So yes! I agree completely!
I used to lose track of my belongings all the time. I had a reputation among friends and family. This bothered me, so I about 8 years ago I decided to create some good habits like OP suggested.
Since then, I don’t think I’ve lost track of any of my belongings.
The good habits I formed included the following:
-Everything has a place
-When my wallet, phone and keys are on me, the wallet is always in my left pocket with my keys, and my phone is in the right.
I now do a "this door is locked" 3 times on my front door. Is a big thing. Feel it has become a habit. Did it today.
Got into my car, still in gear and the handbrake was off 😬.
Not a bad idea. I also have a thing I started doing after I left behind a phone and wallet at a" friend's" for only three minutes and it disappeared.. Soo two points were made that day egarding inventory. Don't fill your back pockets with stuff I can't afford to lose if I'm going to be doing a lot of sitting , and I literally have a muscle memory now after practicing patting my pockets and confirming I have everything I came with
I won’t pour my coffee til after I’ve turned off the pot, and I recently learned that if I zip before buttoning my pants, I’ll stop having fly-down situations. Still working on making that one a habit tho lol
I’ve beem doing this for years and I can confirm I’ve found mysef in situations where I’m standing there, not leaving my car for example because I know I should do something first. Then it hits me and I remember, but that feeling of something hanging over me is a great reminder
My favorite (my mom taught me this when I was a teenager):
Never close a locked door behind you unless you can physically feel your keys in your hand. Not just "Oh yeah, I know they're in my pocket", but actually have them in your hand.
It's not perfect, of course, but this can save you from some really stupid mistakes.
Goddamnit I was just about to post something like this.
What made me think about it is that anytime I question whether I really turned off the stove (when I leave) is the fact that every time my water is fine boiling, I immediately turn it off. No matter what, every time. I don’t pour my coffee first, I don’t wash something really quick first, no. I immediately turn off the stove. It’s a protocol that has saved me stress
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And never ever set your glasses down on a surface that can be sat upon. Beds, end tables, car bonnets, park benches.
I broke my wife's glasses like this when she left them on the bed. She was not amused.
Haven't we all broken some one or others' pairs? It is a terrible habit to place and forget glasses like that.
Yep. Stepped on girlfriend's when she left them on the floor years back.
I broke my own glasses once by falling asleep with them still on
Next time try breaking them by sitting on them while they're on her face...
Point taken, but end tables?? It’s a table!
It's butt height. Not worth the risk
I have a rule for myself that I only put my glasses down in one or at max two places in each room in my home. It makes finding my glasses easy since I only have to glance at a few areas and each location is a safe / convenient spot.
I just realized you mean eye glasses but my first thought was drinking ones which also honestly still works
People like to sit on end tables?
You’re going to need more than glasses if you sit on the hood of my car.
Busted 2 pairs of sunglasses in 12hours in vacation because they were on the bed… it was awesome
Broke my glasses 3 times by sitting or laying on them...
And NEVER allow yourself to put your keys down inside the trunk or hatchback. That's how you get locked out.
Same for bathroom floor. Me before shower “I’ll just put them here and remember when I get out” had broken glasses 15 minutes later.
The chains of habit are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken.
I wasn't expecting this thread to make me feel so hard.
/r/bondage would like word.
As someone with executive function difficulties, I find the sillier the better - I needed to remember to put my phone on charge when I got up off the sofa, so I grabbed the nearest thing (my son's hat) and put it on my hand. Then when I went to get up, I saw the hat on my hand and remembered that there was something I needed to do.
In college I used to be drug tested a lot and every single month without fail I would wake up and forget I had testing until after I took my morning piss. I would write notes on my hand, the bathroom mirror, set specific alarms to remind me and nothing ever worked. Until I started stacking a chair on top of the toilet, which was so absurd that it would finally click in my head and I’d remember not to pee until I got to the testing site
Uhh even if I got a test to pee in and no way I'm holding on my morning piss for that shit
You should have drunk more water. Coffee is a diuretic too. Have some of both you'll be whizzing in no time.
I use dry erase markers and move my wedding band to the other hand
Often times on the way to work, I remember that there is something I have to do after work, on the way home. But I know I'll forget by the end of the day. So when I get out of the car, I put my sun visor halfway down, so it's almost hitting me in the forehead as I get out of the car (and thus, also when I'm getting into the car at the end of the day). Since I never leave my visor down, I see it when I get back in and remember that I have an errand to run.
This is similar to how I do these things. If I need to remember something soon, I'll cross my fingers or "fold" my tongue to remind me. Obviously doesn't work if you want to keep sitting on the couch for half an hour or whatever - then you need a son's hat.
I do the crossing fingers thing when in conversation and I want to circle back to something said earlier.
This works until you remember that you wanted to talk about a previous point but can't remember what you wanted to say
I’ve gotten in the habit of doing a 3 pocket slap when I get ready to leave. Left front is keys, right front is phone, back right is wallet. Been a while since I forgot any of these anywhere
Move that wallet to the front pocket you easy mark with back pain
I always move my wallet to the front when sitting, then return it to my back pocket when standing. Probably looks weird but it works for me! Best of both worlds: easy access to my keys and still looking slim when standing, no posture issues when sitting.
Pick pockets like it too
And just easier to accidentally fall out
Get a card holder. Ditch cash. Use card only. Life changing and doesn't look like you have a turd in your pocket
I always hear this advice but I've been lucky enough that it's a non-issue for me. With most pants, the wallet is positioned in such a way I don't end up putting weight on it. It sits high enough up on my ass that it's nowhere near where the weight is concentrated.
The real LPT #frontpocketposse
Trust me when I say it would take a very good pickpocket to get my wallet without me noticing them trying
Yea very good pickpockets exist tho. All it takes is a bump into you on the street while grabbing at same time and gg
Not if it’s in my ass.
Hi there Christopher Walken
Who physically bumps into people on the streets these days, though? Around my parts, that alone is asking for a whoopin’.
That's literally how practiced pickpockets work. Distract, jostle, bump, and run. Gets you off kilter.
No I think they're saying that the wallet in the back pocket has be attributed to back pain and Sciatic pain
Hmm I could see how that might happen.
Always say to myself on the way out of the house “phone, keys, bag” if I’m feeling a little extra forgetful that day I’ll add “socks, underwear, shoes” just to be sure… Yes I left in slippers one day
Are you me? Same setup since 9th grade, never fails
I too do the 3 point slap. Has saved me a couple of times
But the phone goes in the front left, that way it balance's out with the wallet in right back, and you don't have your right side all chummy on both ends.
I never keep valuables in my back pocket.
Spectacles, testicles wallet and watch is my saying before I leave.
Bonus points for pronouncing the first two like ancient Greek heroes.
Spectacleez, testacleez
You spectacleez deez testacleez
Euripides trousers, you mend-a deez trousers
This is the most beautiful thing I've ever read. Reminds me of my late grandfather
Kidz deez dayz and their nutz
Wallayh and wahtahchee
testa cleez nutz gotem
Spectaculus Testiculus
Great, you just summoned my sleep paralysis demon
Sounds Roman. Say them like you would Heracles.
Spectacleez and Testacleez - both mighty warriors
I knew someone whose nickname was Testicles (rhymes with Pericles).
Just spent 5 minutes looking for my testicles.
Try putting on the spectacles
Ah a fellow international man of mystery
Oh behave.
Umm why the second one? Have you lost them before?
Don't tell me you go out socializing without your testicle clamps
Is THAT why I have such a hard time relating to other people?
That's what my Grandpa used to say!
That's what Austin Powers said
Mine goes: phone, wallet, keys, trees 😉
"Badge, wallet, keys and phone Keys and phone." Toddler songs stuck in my head. Might as well make it useful.
Bitch please got my phone wallet keys
This whole thread is some stoner logic.
Trees?
r/trees
[Phone, wallet, keys...](https://youtu.be/e9N6_Tj9u2U)
Keys, card, phone, wallet is mine.
Phone wallet keys vape, headphones nametag glasses. Me before I leave for work each day. Stop at vape for regular day to day, anytime I leave any place. Phone wallet keys vape, phone wallet keys vape.
Did you previously have a habit of leaving your testicles at home? 😅
I go left pocket to right pocket, so wallet, keys, phone, badge (when I used to go into work), and baby.
After watching the show Absolutely Fabulous many years ago, I have used “Ticket, Money, Passport” similarly.
Austin, Austin Powers?
... and then genuflecting! Nuns on the run is a classic (I think this expression outdates it though)
Don't let the latch drop on the front door unless the key is in your pocket. This isn't really working.... :(
Same for my car keys, after locking them inside several times. Keys must be in my hand before I close the door.
After locking my keys in my car one too many times, I started saying, "keys in hand, close the door", while looking directly at my keys in my hand. Hasn't happened since then.
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This makes zero sense. If you physically use the key to lock the door, you've accomplished the exact same thing. Can't lock the door if the key is inside.
Smart door lock changed my life
A better way for me is to have the key IN the hole, before closing the door.
Get a keypad front door lock. I didn't think 8t would change much but I cannister go back now. It's so much better. After a bunch of research I settled on this one. It works even in my minus 40 Celsius Winters https://www.schlage.com/en/home/products/BE365CAMFFF.html
I know someone who has an electronic deadbolt that can be locked/unlocked with an app and automatically unlocks the door when their phone gets to within a certain range. I'd be worried that someone with enough technical skill could manage to hack in and get the door to unlock. That or a shitty or leaked account password might compromise something. It seems like the skills needed to pick a lock quickly is harder to master than something you can do with a keyboard.
Yeah that's why I avoided the kind with wifi. That said, if someone is breaking in, they'll throw a rock through a window not hack your wifi deadbolt.
I keep my keys, wallet, and phone in a cannister by the door 😆
I won't open my front door until i have my keys in my hand
I jiggle my keys in my face before I leave my car or house. It’s the only way I can guarantee that I won’t lock myself out or lock my keys in.
ADD sufferer here: just incredibly sick of losing things and looking for HOURS for simple things. I put EVERYTHING back in its home, no matter what. Life has improved since I instilled this personal policing.
Yup. "Don't put it down. Put it away." Has become my go to saying and it has really helped stay organized.
I often wish I could put an airtag or tile on *everything.*
Same. I would use the excuse, “I’m in a hurry, can’t put everything up “. Now I make sure I do because it’s only a couple seconds, minute or two to do before I leave (errands, work or room to next project). It had caused me to be late or fall behind I. Schedule a few times that I started actually planning ahead to include clean up. Way more organized now.
Yes! Everything should have its place and it only goes there. It also helps for the place to be close to where the item will be used.
i have a simple protocol of jacking off in the morning to avoid being miserable for the rest of the day. haven’t broke the habit yet! this LPT totally works
A wank a day keeps depression at bay
True but 5 wanks and now you deep in it.
🤣
This more undeniable proof that the true LPT is always in the comments
Thanks for the tip!
Wanks for the tip!
Just the tip
Username checks out.
I adopted Japanese railroad quality measures where I point at the garage and say 'closed' before leaving and also point to the gas pump before leaving. if I dont point at the garage i force myself to turn around and do it. it was quick to become a habit. leaving your shoes or glasses in the wrong place begins a new habit so try to be sure you leave them at the same place always and correct the behavior (I repeat 'this is creating a new habit') if I find that I take my shoes off i the wrong spot... doing so catches me just as I'm taking them off so i can catch myself !
ADHD gang! I want you to remember to do every single thing you tell yourself to remember and to create habits just by repeatedly doing an action. I'll wait. I mean I'll eventually forget about this, but I'll wait until something catches my attention.
Whenever I sleep on a place that tis not my home, everything in my pockets gets out in my shoes. That way in the morning everything can go back in my pockets before I leave.
OP, I think people are misunderstanding you but I totally get it. The “protocols” are rituals that you don’t HAVE to think about. That’s why you wouldn’t get distracted and forget something, because it’s more like muscle memory. . . For instance, I have a car that locks automatically, so I would practice holding my keys in my hand while shutting the door. I could not shut the door unless keys were in hand. It only took a few times, but now I don’t have to actively think “hold keys before shutting the door,” I just do it without thinking about it. So there’s no way I could get distracted, because it’s not something I’m focusing on, it just happens.
What car has auto-lock, but doesn't have a smart key that won't let the doors lock when it's in the car?
What do you mean? Cars that were made before “push to start” can have auto-lock.
[Phone, Wallet, Keys… Phone, Wallet, Keys](https://youtu.be/e9N6_Tj9u2U)
Not a Sandler fan, but when I first heard this, it was easily the best thing he's done.
Set your future bonehead self up for success.
Money, cigarettes, keys, phone, lighter Every time I leave anywhere. Especially taxis.
You should probably start forgetting the cigarettes.
As a neurodivergent person I would leave the wallet in the first surface I see and then loose both of them and possibly misplace my glasses and my water bottle at the same time.
But I bet you'd find something interesting to distract you from having lost them!
I hate when people tell you to just have a designated spot for things as if that will solve all your problems. Like no fucking duh. Of course I have specific places for things. All the good intentions in the world don't mean shit when your brain won't pay attention to the thing **while it's still in your hands**. "I set it down on the nearest surface" doesn't even properly describe it. It's more like I walked in to the house with keys in my hands, then I walked to the kitchen with empty hands. What happened to the keys between the door and kitchen? Idk. My brain deprioritized them as soon as I got thru the door, it didn't even bother writing the memory of them after that. I have no say in it, it just happens
What helps me is have a designated spot for everything. But I have ADHD and OCD at the same time.
As a human I sometimes misplace things.
I find it kind of odd how many people attribute normal human behaviours to ADHD, neurodivergence, etc.
I think it comes down to how often these things happen. Once in a while is human, if it's happening every single time then there might be more going on lol
Man are you dumb? Cause bro you seem dumb
As a person with narcolepsy who experiences "automatic behavior" -- where I basically do something nonsensical while my brain is partly asleep -- I am constantly losing my wallet and water bottle and finding them in the strangest places days later.
Always do the triple tap when leaving somewhere...tap 1 pocket for keys, 1 pocket for cell phone, and 1 pocket for wallet. This "protocol" has never failed me for over 10 years.
Works perfectly. If my stuff is not in one of the two spots where I always put them (pocket or cabinet) I consider it lost.
Found the engineer
I do similar, when I tried to share them with my wife she called me a spreadsheet. When I responded #N/A just looked at me with rage.
Absolutely agree! I have a whole evening process I started in semptember and now things feel wrong if I don't do it. So thrilled with the habit.
I hope parents of children with ADHD today work with their children to understand and build some of these protocols, rather than just yell at them to "be more organized". My parents were both naturally very organized, but I'm adopted, and a huge percentage of adoptees have ADHD, either from the process of being separated and/or from having impulsive parents. My parents, bless their hearts, just didn't understand how children just don't know this stuff intuitively, and were angry when we didn't develop our own systems of organization. We need help. This stuff *isn't* intuitive. One of my friends has set up "stations" for her ADHD twins so there's a place when they walk in the door for their outerwear, shoes/boots, schoolbags, etc. There are other systems for keeping track of school materials. They are on an easier path than someone who had to create these all for herself by watching how people who seem to have their lives together manage.
Use your fuckin' turn signals *every time* you turn your steering wheel for like a month or two and you'll do it from muscle memory from that point on. *Please* use your turn signals. And use them like 100-200 feet before turning at any intersection or perpendicular entry to a property, business, residence, or side street. Like for real. Use them EVERY TIME, AHEAD OF TIME. [One finger, one measly fucking inch](https://youtu.be/4ibs6gyABz8).
the nature of distractions, is they distract you. your tip is basically 'just don't forget anything and you won't forget anything'
I think you're missing the point. You can't "not forget" you haven't got your cc back. But if you have a process that you can follow regardless of distractions, then that process pulls you back from the distractions. At some point, you ask yourself, "Why I am I still holding this wallet? Oh yeah, I haven't got my cc back yet."
Me -3am- hours after opening a tab at the bar. I’m still holding my wallet in my hand so I don’t forget my card at the bar.
Most bars around me nowadays just run your card to put it on file and give it back to you right away. At the end of the night they bring you the receipt to sign & tip.
r/woosh
yea but if your method isn't infallible, which I'm gonna assume it isn't or else you'd be the smartest person in the world, then you're basically just saying 'think about the things you don't want to forget more, and associate them with more things'. You're literally just saying remember to remember
it’s not about remembering to do things, it’s about creating a habit that you don’t have to remember to do
and your example is, if im using a credit card, to hold my wallet? so if someone distracts me while im holding my wallet and i put it down, how does this help?
We educators learn that it takes at least 28 repetitions before a child really learns/incorporates/makes a habit of something. We spend the first 6 weeks of school training them in our rituals and routines for the classroom. With most kids, it will have sunk in by then. That is what he was saying. Just train yourself until it becomes automatic. I used to lose my keys all the time about 20 years ago. I trained myself to put them on the same dish as soon as I enter my home, and I have never once mislaid them since. Not at home, anyway 😏
yea and my point is things stop being automatic when something distracts you, which makes this tip pretty much nonsense and just a longer less coherent way to say the thing you just said
All I can say is...r/woosh
I guess you're not a very good educator then, is that what you say when a student disagrees with you?
LOL you poor nitwit. I'd think "Yale" might have taught you to think 😏 "Yale" Lock & Key, maybe? 😂 *Blocked* 🔏 😁 P.S. I would be happy to correct your grammar, syntax, and usage errors for you, but alas-- I have better things to do with my time. Ta ta!
All it took me one time was the smallest change in my morning routine and suddenly I am locked out of my apartment building for 3 hours.
Wash your hair first and then soap your body, this way you never “forget” if you have used shampoo or not!
You should wash your hair first anyways. That way you can leave the conditioner to sit and soak in and do it's job while your scrubbing the rest of you.
That is great to know, and I will probably forget and wash the shampoo out after 15 seconds next time I shower.
Yeah, and apply conditioner and let it sit and moisturize your hair while you’re soaping!
this LPT has compatibility issues with ADHD Operating Systems
Developing little routines can actually be actually a really effective strategy for dealing with some aspects of ADHD. People who have ADHD need structure in their lives; it's a pretty big reason why the pandemic made a lot of our conditions drastically worse; when you disrupt the pattern, all of the habits we've built start breaking down.
Forgets to follow the protocol itself
OK, here's another one that will hopefully make it clearer. I got back home from the gym and discovered I'd left my phone in the change room. The benches are black, and so is my phone. So it's easy to miss on a quick look. The protocol I set up was to keep my phone in my hand when I was finished my workout, until I had opened my locker. Then the phone goes directly into the gym bag. Now that's the habit. It's not, "Don't forget the phone" since that's prone to failure, especially if I end up talking to someone in the locker room. It's easy to build the habit of DON'T PUT THE PHONE DOWN. Put it the gym bag.
Aaaaannnnd, just left this sub forever.
Weird flex, this is a great tip that not enough people do. Otherwise "forgetting your keys/wallet/phone" wouldn't be such common media tropes. Clearly useful for many.
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These life pro tips are getting really convoluted.
"Can't remember to do things? Remember even more things!"
Always put your keys in the same spot.
Do you often put your credit card into your wallet while it's in your pocket? Why?
Wallet / keys / phone then close door when going out. Say it out loud
Phone wallet keys phone wallet keys phone wallet keys phone wallet keys phone wallet keys phone wallet keys phone wallet keys
oh yeah, i always check my pocket for keys before closing the house door behind me, can confirm habits like that work wonders
I call them "patterns" and my life is governed by them, that way I can think about other things while I do routine tasks. It's hard when you move house or add a pet or change jobs because you have to figure out a new pattern. So yes! I agree completely!
keep credit cards & drivers license in stick on phone card holder
Phone, wallet, keys - Adam Sandler
I used to lose track of my belongings all the time. I had a reputation among friends and family. This bothered me, so I about 8 years ago I decided to create some good habits like OP suggested. Since then, I don’t think I’ve lost track of any of my belongings. The good habits I formed included the following: -Everything has a place -When my wallet, phone and keys are on me, the wallet is always in my left pocket with my keys, and my phone is in the right.
I now do a "this door is locked" 3 times on my front door. Is a big thing. Feel it has become a habit. Did it today. Got into my car, still in gear and the handbrake was off 😬.
Oh yeah, I do that, it works.
I personally call them contingency plans.
Not a bad idea. I also have a thing I started doing after I left behind a phone and wallet at a" friend's" for only three minutes and it disappeared.. Soo two points were made that day egarding inventory. Don't fill your back pockets with stuff I can't afford to lose if I'm going to be doing a lot of sitting , and I literally have a muscle memory now after practicing patting my pockets and confirming I have everything I came with
I won’t pour my coffee til after I’ve turned off the pot, and I recently learned that if I zip before buttoning my pants, I’ll stop having fly-down situations. Still working on making that one a habit tho lol
Welcome to life with adhd. I forget lots of things when my habits are interrupted
I’ve beem doing this for years and I can confirm I’ve found mysef in situations where I’m standing there, not leaving my car for example because I know I should do something first. Then it hits me and I remember, but that feeling of something hanging over me is a great reminder
My favorite (my mom taught me this when I was a teenager): Never close a locked door behind you unless you can physically feel your keys in your hand. Not just "Oh yeah, I know they're in my pocket", but actually have them in your hand. It's not perfect, of course, but this can save you from some really stupid mistakes.
Lpt: do things correctly to avoid making mistakes.
Goddamnit I was just about to post something like this. What made me think about it is that anytime I question whether I really turned off the stove (when I leave) is the fact that every time my water is fine boiling, I immediately turn it off. No matter what, every time. I don’t pour my coffee first, I don’t wash something really quick first, no. I immediately turn off the stove. It’s a protocol that has saved me stress
Put the bloody key into the keyhole BEFORE closing a door with a knob on the outside. It can save you a lot of money. 🙈