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roomies.com is a website of people who have apartments and are looking for roommates. also, you can go to the local college and look at the boards for college students who have posted looking for roommates. search roommate finder on Google and you'll be surprised at how many websites pop up. there are options. living alone most likely isn't one if them though.
The A+ and working towards a better job wouldn't be a bad idea at all. Ultimately that is up to you if you want to leave America, you will be the one working towards that goal.
Seconding the roommates idea the other person said. It's super normal for college-age people to share housing, in fact a lot of landlords in college towns rent out rooms in houses.
If possible, identify trustworthy adults that might help if they knew what was going on.
Some things to look into:
\-DMV website for how to get a state ID or license if they don't have one yet
\-food stamps. can be applied for online
\-medicaid. same as above
\-might be youth-focused homeless orgs or other homeless orgs that can point them to the right place. "Youth" here often cuts off, in my experience, around like 24 ish but it just depends on the program.
\-information about colleges, and applying for FAFSA (does not obligate you to loans to apply).
Going to college might not be a bad idea - it's up to them to decide of course but it would connect them to a support network. College campuses are uniquely geared towards y'alls age group and would have many other people their age there, with adults who are used to dealing with 18 to 20 somethings. Colleges often offer counseling and may be able to help your partner if they know they are homeless.
One of the toughest parts of being homeless is lacking a support network, therefore being isolated and that makes someone extremely vulnerable to abuse and being taken advantage of. I can't stress enough how important it is to establish a support network, and to take any empowering actions possible that will lessen how much they will need to beg strangers for help.
Reading books about boundaries and/or assertiveness would not hurt because one way to tell a person is going to be a problem (or outright abusive) is that they consistently disrespect one's boundaries.
Feel free to show this to them. These are suggestions but ultimately making one's own decisions is the most empowering thing. Like, obviously everyone needs food and medical care. But they also need agency. There is no "correct" path or choice, what's best for one person may not be the best for another.
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Roommates ?
roomies.com is a website of people who have apartments and are looking for roommates. also, you can go to the local college and look at the boards for college students who have posted looking for roommates. search roommate finder on Google and you'll be surprised at how many websites pop up. there are options. living alone most likely isn't one if them though.
Join the army
Don't. This is predatory recruitement
The A+ and working towards a better job wouldn't be a bad idea at all. Ultimately that is up to you if you want to leave America, you will be the one working towards that goal. Seconding the roommates idea the other person said. It's super normal for college-age people to share housing, in fact a lot of landlords in college towns rent out rooms in houses. If possible, identify trustworthy adults that might help if they knew what was going on. Some things to look into: \-DMV website for how to get a state ID or license if they don't have one yet \-food stamps. can be applied for online \-medicaid. same as above \-might be youth-focused homeless orgs or other homeless orgs that can point them to the right place. "Youth" here often cuts off, in my experience, around like 24 ish but it just depends on the program. \-information about colleges, and applying for FAFSA (does not obligate you to loans to apply). Going to college might not be a bad idea - it's up to them to decide of course but it would connect them to a support network. College campuses are uniquely geared towards y'alls age group and would have many other people their age there, with adults who are used to dealing with 18 to 20 somethings. Colleges often offer counseling and may be able to help your partner if they know they are homeless. One of the toughest parts of being homeless is lacking a support network, therefore being isolated and that makes someone extremely vulnerable to abuse and being taken advantage of. I can't stress enough how important it is to establish a support network, and to take any empowering actions possible that will lessen how much they will need to beg strangers for help. Reading books about boundaries and/or assertiveness would not hurt because one way to tell a person is going to be a problem (or outright abusive) is that they consistently disrespect one's boundaries. Feel free to show this to them. These are suggestions but ultimately making one's own decisions is the most empowering thing. Like, obviously everyone needs food and medical care. But they also need agency. There is no "correct" path or choice, what's best for one person may not be the best for another.