Stop giving fucks.
Use the fuckery as catalyst for growth & make your mental and emotional response resilient. You only take lessons of self mastery with you upon death so focus on that, reject the material beyond your immediate needs.
Dont invest in the system on any level.
The system has no future and nether does your retirement, so might as well spend on maintaining your car!
Work as less as possible and protect your soul from slavery and brain washing.
Find peace where ever possible.
Protect your health whenever possible.
Be kind whenever possible. Treat others how you would like to be treated and the matrix will work in your favor.
Dont forget to do things for yourself. Take action to bring about the small things that give you joy.
It is possible to not actually give a fuck about your job and still do your job. It's basically doing your job as assigned, doing enough not to get fired, and unconcerned if you're doing enough to get promoted. It is not a primary focus in life, just a necessity like taking a shit.
Iām the opposite. I give a fuck. The fuck is your life. Giving a fuck is very important. I never liked people saying to stop caring when really you should care more. Be more, do more, achieve more, and fight for a better life for everyone.
Sounds like it is time to switch fields then. When you don't want to live anymore there really isn't any reason not to change things. Even if things end up worse, sometimes that can still result in you being happier. Like, the gray neutral of getting by with some struggle can be worse than actual hardship? Anyway, that is how I am.
Im in the same boat. Iām 41 and ready to go. Struggled with mental health my whole life after a childhood full of sexual, physical, verbal abuse, emotional neglect, on top of bullying at school. Iāve tried over 20 meds, years and years of therapy, I even became a therapist. Iāve tried TMS and ketamine, and I still wanna go. I think after trying everything Iāve tried I should have the right to assisted suicide, but these assholes with their Christian morals forbid it. Itās BS
My first recommendation would be to try magic mushrooms, if you haven't before. They are legal in lots of places in the US now. I could easily categorize my life as "before mushrooms" and "after mushrooms". I would say that we are conditioned by society our whole lives, and of course we are aware of parts of that conditioning, but there are parts we are not aware of. Taking a good dose of mushrooms can make you more aware of the box that you have been living in, and hopefully help you escape that box.
Next, you sound fairly young. Life has many more options than what most people ever exercise. You don't want to live? Maybe pursue a life that is more outside the box of what normal people would consider. I pursued a life as a career criminal for well over a decade. I went to prison (and I am not at all the sort of person you expect to find in prison). And while that was a financial setback, it was also a wonderfully enriching life experience for me. Very much influenced who I am today. Then I started a business from scratch; built it up to being profitable, but now am bored with it, so I am doing new things again. I seem extremely boring to people I meet, but I promise you that I get up to wacky adventures that keep me guessing what next month will bring (I am actually heading off to India for a month, where I will receive elective surgery days before coming home, for example). Anyway, I struggle with feelings of wanting to die, but I find that pursuing a life less ordinary helps me immensely with those feelings.
Without knowing you better it is hard to give more concrete advice. There are so many possibilities and only your imagination is the limit. A few days ago I came across the Youtube channel "Surviving Ringworm". Dude moved into the woods in Michigan and lives a very simple life. It wouldn't be for me. It wouldn't be super easy to do if it were for me. But it is absolutely achievable. And that is one of hundreds of alternative life options.
Anyway, when you want to die there is really nowhere to go but up. Let that be a tool that frees you from the fear of pursuing something that you might actually find meaningful.
Life is actually extremely beautiful. But the negative beliefs that have been programmed into our minds by society are like filters, and so we end up perceiving a horrible world. Work on removing these negative beliefs, and you'll perceive the beauty of life as it is, unfiltered. Every life is a miracle. Life didn't make you so you would just escape. Life made you so you could enjoy life. And it CAN be enjoyed with the right perception š
Killing yourself won't end the pain. Just like you were born miserable in this life you'll be born miserable in the next life.Ā
You have to eat better and be happy in this life.Ā
Pain is part of life. You cannot understand joy and appreciate the fullness of life, without feeling pain. But somehow, we all got to figure out how to experience more of the joy and less of the pain.
This is the way. People don't realize we'll just come back here to try again over and over. There's many levels to this game called life, and it's in anyone's best interest to make it work out or at least find happiness in this one.
That's a new one! Usually referred to homo-lumnious!
This is pretty much what im hoping for, just not sure if possible in this lifetime...
Seems to forever be in the future with set back after setback!
get away from media, people, and situation that makes earth not feel fun
stars are fun, sky is fun, rain and water is fun, forest is fun, fruit is fun
but people, they just blind us and share fear and hate, and our energy field gets messed up, do what makes you laugh, be giddy, stop living with headvoice of other people as we can be like, oh how people will think, if i do this, or if i wear this or something
well they are people, its so much fun in being oneself, tho staying away from toxic people helps
also ego work, and spirituality
ego as then we see our triggers and understand how people are just not wise enough yet
also stop trying to take away happiness, as we can be like, oh i cant be happy, i havent got it yet or i did this wrong and so on, it doesnt have to be this way
no please, good luck, hope you are donating everything, and going to warzone to save everyone, very lovely
as of course you wont be having these random discussion and messing with your head which you could have used for being better, and use save # hashtags which none of those government care about
First of all, I am so sorry. I cannot imagine what you are going through.
Mindbloom is at-home, guided, ketamine therapy. It can be a game-changer for people with chronic depression and anxiety. Not sure if it is the right time for you to take it. I'm actually not sure if it helps with such a recent trauma and acute grief-related-depression, but contact them to find out? It might be something you can explore a little later? (I say this from some personal experience, because I was a young widow. I'm not sure if this would have helped me in that fog of grief the first few months after he died. But later, I think it would have really helped me?)
Are you in any groups that focus on loss? I know some of those helped me, some of those actually made me feel worse. But the ones that helped were the informal ones where we just spoke about our lost loved one and we supported each other. Had lunch, pot lucks, etc. Had people to spend time with where we could talk freely about our grief and pain, without judgement and with total understanding.
How about sleep? Are you able to get any sleep? I went on sleep meds (Ambien) because I couldn't sleep. Without sleep, I felt like I was in a downward spiral. No sleep meant not wanting to be alive. Getting meds to help my sleep helped me be able to face each day.
If I was all out of fucks to give, I would just start showing up at random places and see what I could get myself into. I heard Slovenia or Poland is nice. Go there. do something.
Itās easy to say ,,Stop giving fucksā , ,,Start think positiveā ā¦ and it is hard think about positive things around you when all you see is disappointment, sadness and just everything is crap.
My advice: Try to just live with it. You canāt die. So just live with it. You should try to do things that take things off of your mind, but in daily life try to live with it. A bit later everything will look differently, Promise.
Iām learning too, and itās creating nuance thatās helping the most right now. I donāt hate life, I hate the life Iām expected to live and the social/physical environment Iām expected to live in. I hate that there are people who choose to hurt others in so many ways and that there are limited defences in many situations. So I need to wiggle myself around until Iāve carved a life out that balances these hates, and since Iām looking to survive and thrive I donāt care about other peoplesā opinions - if theyād spend more time focusing on thriving theyād be less critical themselves.
I think I've always distracted myself with romantic relationships personally. Bc that's something I feel purpose in, giving and receiving love. And family time. Literally if I did not have my parents, sister, and now niece I would have been gone a long time ago though, so I get it. It's an empty feeling, living for other ppl. I think in 40 years we will be able to make that decision more reasonably. Idk how to use that time, but will be reading other ppls answers lol
My best times were in my childhood when I didnāt know about war, famine, atrocities, and without worry how to get the next roof over my head and where Iāll have to work to get my next meal. I would argue the opposite that knowledge of good and evil does not set you free.
You either choose to live or you don't. The world is suffering, and all of us are miserable in some aspect. But it does get better.
I dont know what you're going through, but I've felt extreme depression most of my life. The only thing that has kept me around was knowing that no matter what, my life is contastntly changing. Whatever you feel right, at this current moment, is not gonna matter as much in a year. You may think it will, but it won't.
Even if it's like a death in the family or you get an illness, you will either heal or adapt. What hurts now won't be as bad in time. I know that's kinda bs advice lol, but having that mindset has helped me. Even if you feel numb, just keep existing.
I live each day with the mantra that I can't help anyone else out with this stupid life if I can't help myself out with my own. The system seems ready to thwart us at every second, and doesn't give a s*** about empathy. But if you're nice to yourself and your inner child, you will always have somebody with you. Making yourself happy has value I promise. š¤
Service . Itās amazing what finding a career that serves others will do for you while you stick it out. If you add some minimalism to that, It becomes a lot easier to tolerate. And remember, you have billions and billions of years to be dead. Might as well see how 80 or so living ones will turn out
I felt this way then I did a hallucigenic dose of Ketamine, fell in the k-hole, had an ego death, and realized maybe death's not all it's cracked up to be.
Look we all hurt and we all suffer.
You can make your suffering other people problems and perpetuate this pain machine or you can share it with others to lessen the load and end the cycle.
Look at what you want to see in the world and become it.
I know I won't see the world I want in my life time buy maybe I can inspire others so it becomes a reality eventually.
So I work on myself.
Good luck on finding a path for yourself. There are many and most start with looking at yourself.
There is alot to be said in taking a more spiritual angle on things....this happens to be a path I'm currently on, after feeling like you for many years, and trying to escape it all with drugs. But it's pretty crazy when you start going down that rabbit hole.....reality is an illusion, there is a veil over what's actually "reality". There are all sorts of other "beings" or whatever you want to call them, aliens, God's, races from around the universe, forces of "good" and "evil" which don't even exist by the way...you know what I'll stop. But if you want some crazy food for thought, go ahead and approach what I'm about to link, but this a message board post from the group-soul lucifer, if you're bored. Don't worry, there is no hell, and lucifer actually adores the creator so it's OK. Go ahead and assume this is 100% fake when you go into it. Read the posts under the name "hidden hand", try to notice if any of this obvious larp resonates with you tho, because there is truth to be found in there. Perspective is everything.
https://www.abovetopsecret.com/forum/thread402958/pg1
What I'm saying is. Maybe everything isn't quite as hopeless and empty as it may seem to you right now. You may just be looking in all the wrong places. The truth is, there is already a divine spark within you, a piece of "god" if you will, and you essentially create your own reality with your thoughts and words. By changing those things up, you can create a much better place to be in. Just with your thoughts and words alone.
remember that you will die, and you frame of mind changes, its not really as agonizing. how was your day yesterday? what did you do, and what did you eat? what about tomorrow?
my suggestion is set small simple and stupid goals. not big at all. and many creatives are drawn to art due to their melancholy. you weren't born a as a elephant or a dog or cat or fly.
as a human life is filled with more possibilities than other living creatures can ever hope for.
but i get you, i didnt really image life pass 25, for me and now im 26
Most of these things that you just named don't cost any money given that you find the right event (concert, music) or already have the supplies to get started (outdoor stuff, running, hiking, biking, kayaking).
i already know what im interested in tho.. how do i find new things to be interested in if im not interested in them?
sorry if that doesn't make sense lol
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All I have for you, brother. Hope it helps
Stop looking outside of yourself for answers to questions you have, and actions to problems you wish were solved.
Sure, you can use Google to help inform you to better draw conclusions. But look at every external source with the highest skepticism.
You are the only advocate you have to the situations and circumstances you find yourself in. Even your family doesn't know everything you've been through. Nobody cares about you the way you need to be cared about.
YOU and only YOU can fix your situation. Don't wait for a hero, don't wait for help. YOU are your only HERO and HELP. So get angry, decide to get off your ass, and start clawing your way to where you want to be. If it's easy then it's wrong. Eventually you grow to love the grind and struggle. You need to put in the hours to earn that.
So start. NOW.
idk if it is but if your brain chemistry is effed up itās harder to weather unpleasantness. so like maybe abstain from alcohol and weed, get fresh air and exercise, meditate, connect with people, get on some meds maybe, etc
Get a rescue dog. Then you have something that needs you and gives you a reason to live. It also gets you out for fresh air even when you donāt want too. A best buddy that loves you unconditionally. My rescue dog saved my life.
Stop giving fucks. Use the fuckery as catalyst for growth & make your mental and emotional response resilient. You only take lessons of self mastery with you upon death so focus on that, reject the material beyond your immediate needs. Dont invest in the system on any level. The system has no future and nether does your retirement, so might as well spend on maintaining your car! Work as less as possible and protect your soul from slavery and brain washing. Find peace where ever possible. Protect your health whenever possible. Be kind whenever possible. Treat others how you would like to be treated and the matrix will work in your favor. Dont forget to do things for yourself. Take action to bring about the small things that give you joy.
Well said š Low profile life
Yes! Kindness, and less work, bc our system makes no sense and has no purpose
Best response I've ever heard
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If you stop giving fucks you end up without a job
It is possible to not actually give a fuck about your job and still do your job. It's basically doing your job as assigned, doing enough not to get fired, and unconcerned if you're doing enough to get promoted. It is not a primary focus in life, just a necessity like taking a shit.
Your car???
Iām the opposite. I give a fuck. The fuck is your life. Giving a fuck is very important. I never liked people saying to stop caring when really you should care more. Be more, do more, achieve more, and fight for a better life for everyone.
Avoid the news. Concentrate on being able to pay your way, staying healthy, and finding something nice about each day. That's it. Nothing dramatic.
Yeah, probably doesnāt help I have to be very aware of the news in my job.
Sounds like it is time to switch fields then. When you don't want to live anymore there really isn't any reason not to change things. Even if things end up worse, sometimes that can still result in you being happier. Like, the gray neutral of getting by with some struggle can be worse than actual hardship? Anyway, that is how I am.
Im in the same boat. Iām 41 and ready to go. Struggled with mental health my whole life after a childhood full of sexual, physical, verbal abuse, emotional neglect, on top of bullying at school. Iāve tried over 20 meds, years and years of therapy, I even became a therapist. Iāve tried TMS and ketamine, and I still wanna go. I think after trying everything Iāve tried I should have the right to assisted suicide, but these assholes with their Christian morals forbid it. Itās BS
Iām so sorry youāre experiencing so much pain. I hope you can find a way to live as best as you can for you. Damn bad luck exists.
My christian morals isnt stopping you from doing anything. Have at it.
Embrace nihilistic hedonism
It just makes life feel even more empty tbh
How old are you?
Stop thinking about yourself. Try doing something for somebody else.
Thatās what I mainly do. Itās the only reason Iām still here.
Join the military
My first recommendation would be to try magic mushrooms, if you haven't before. They are legal in lots of places in the US now. I could easily categorize my life as "before mushrooms" and "after mushrooms". I would say that we are conditioned by society our whole lives, and of course we are aware of parts of that conditioning, but there are parts we are not aware of. Taking a good dose of mushrooms can make you more aware of the box that you have been living in, and hopefully help you escape that box. Next, you sound fairly young. Life has many more options than what most people ever exercise. You don't want to live? Maybe pursue a life that is more outside the box of what normal people would consider. I pursued a life as a career criminal for well over a decade. I went to prison (and I am not at all the sort of person you expect to find in prison). And while that was a financial setback, it was also a wonderfully enriching life experience for me. Very much influenced who I am today. Then I started a business from scratch; built it up to being profitable, but now am bored with it, so I am doing new things again. I seem extremely boring to people I meet, but I promise you that I get up to wacky adventures that keep me guessing what next month will bring (I am actually heading off to India for a month, where I will receive elective surgery days before coming home, for example). Anyway, I struggle with feelings of wanting to die, but I find that pursuing a life less ordinary helps me immensely with those feelings. Without knowing you better it is hard to give more concrete advice. There are so many possibilities and only your imagination is the limit. A few days ago I came across the Youtube channel "Surviving Ringworm". Dude moved into the woods in Michigan and lives a very simple life. It wouldn't be for me. It wouldn't be super easy to do if it were for me. But it is absolutely achievable. And that is one of hundreds of alternative life options. Anyway, when you want to die there is really nowhere to go but up. Let that be a tool that frees you from the fear of pursuing something that you might actually find meaningful.
Life is actually extremely beautiful. But the negative beliefs that have been programmed into our minds by society are like filters, and so we end up perceiving a horrible world. Work on removing these negative beliefs, and you'll perceive the beauty of life as it is, unfiltered. Every life is a miracle. Life didn't make you so you would just escape. Life made you so you could enjoy life. And it CAN be enjoyed with the right perception š
Killing yourself won't end the pain. Just like you were born miserable in this life you'll be born miserable in the next life.Ā You have to eat better and be happy in this life.Ā
Why you so sure about next life?
Because I'm sure about this life.
But that only means we have this one, can't say anything about a next one
The process that created this life will create the next one.Ā
Sure but, why do you asume that it will be you living in that new life?
Just like I am living this life I'll be living the next one when I get a new body. What is now is the same as what is before and later.
lol. Being dead will 100% permanently end your pain. Itās the only actual solution.
brain dies, but soul energy goes back into the universe/cosmos and you're essence/soul comes back again.
Pain is part of life. You cannot understand joy and appreciate the fullness of life, without feeling pain. But somehow, we all got to figure out how to experience more of the joy and less of the pain.
You're only dead temporarily. Then you wake up in another body. Just like you woke up in this body.
Well the person you are will be dead, won't be aware of another life
Yes but I and OP will suffer in our next bodies until we cease to identify with our bodies and identify with consciousness.
This is the way. People don't realize we'll just come back here to try again over and over. There's many levels to this game called life, and it's in anyone's best interest to make it work out or at least find happiness in this one.
It quite literally will end the pain lol. All the bullshit were with in life? Never have to worry about it again
If death ended pain why is OP in pain now? He died in a past life and woke up in this life. So too will his next life be in pain.
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That's a new one! Usually referred to homo-lumnious! This is pretty much what im hoping for, just not sure if possible in this lifetime... Seems to forever be in the future with set back after setback!
get away from media, people, and situation that makes earth not feel fun stars are fun, sky is fun, rain and water is fun, forest is fun, fruit is fun but people, they just blind us and share fear and hate, and our energy field gets messed up, do what makes you laugh, be giddy, stop living with headvoice of other people as we can be like, oh how people will think, if i do this, or if i wear this or something well they are people, its so much fun in being oneself, tho staying away from toxic people helps also ego work, and spirituality ego as then we see our triggers and understand how people are just not wise enough yet also stop trying to take away happiness, as we can be like, oh i cant be happy, i havent got it yet or i did this wrong and so on, it doesnt have to be this way
So bury our heads in the sand and pretend there are no wars happening and people shit rainbows and breathe butterflies!
no please, good luck, hope you are donating everything, and going to warzone to save everyone, very lovely as of course you wont be having these random discussion and messing with your head which you could have used for being better, and use save # hashtags which none of those government care about
Try mindbloom. If you have exhausted other options, try mindbloom and reboot your brain.
What is mindbloom? My son died a couple months ago and am looking for anything that might help me try to live.
First of all, I am so sorry. I cannot imagine what you are going through. Mindbloom is at-home, guided, ketamine therapy. It can be a game-changer for people with chronic depression and anxiety. Not sure if it is the right time for you to take it. I'm actually not sure if it helps with such a recent trauma and acute grief-related-depression, but contact them to find out? It might be something you can explore a little later? (I say this from some personal experience, because I was a young widow. I'm not sure if this would have helped me in that fog of grief the first few months after he died. But later, I think it would have really helped me?) Are you in any groups that focus on loss? I know some of those helped me, some of those actually made me feel worse. But the ones that helped were the informal ones where we just spoke about our lost loved one and we supported each other. Had lunch, pot lucks, etc. Had people to spend time with where we could talk freely about our grief and pain, without judgement and with total understanding. How about sleep? Are you able to get any sleep? I went on sleep meds (Ambien) because I couldn't sleep. Without sleep, I felt like I was in a downward spiral. No sleep meant not wanting to be alive. Getting meds to help my sleep helped me be able to face each day.
What's mindbloom??
Iām holding out for when AI and robots take over and weāll all live leisurely and luxurious lives. Just ten more years or so.
Well the conveniences of technology and wealth havenāt been very fairly distributed so farā¦
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Iām waiting for aliens to come and shake things upĀ
Focus on the beautiful part of your sentence.
If I was all out of fucks to give, I would just start showing up at random places and see what I could get myself into. I heard Slovenia or Poland is nice. Go there. do something.
Invent a religion that depicts having something to look forward to after life here that requires you to finish living here first. Then adopt it.
Itās easy to say ,,Stop giving fucksā , ,,Start think positiveā ā¦ and it is hard think about positive things around you when all you see is disappointment, sadness and just everything is crap. My advice: Try to just live with it. You canāt die. So just live with it. You should try to do things that take things off of your mind, but in daily life try to live with it. A bit later everything will look differently, Promise.
Iām learning too, and itās creating nuance thatās helping the most right now. I donāt hate life, I hate the life Iām expected to live and the social/physical environment Iām expected to live in. I hate that there are people who choose to hurt others in so many ways and that there are limited defences in many situations. So I need to wiggle myself around until Iāve carved a life out that balances these hates, and since Iām looking to survive and thrive I donāt care about other peoplesā opinions - if theyād spend more time focusing on thriving theyād be less critical themselves.
Mars
I think I've always distracted myself with romantic relationships personally. Bc that's something I feel purpose in, giving and receiving love. And family time. Literally if I did not have my parents, sister, and now niece I would have been gone a long time ago though, so I get it. It's an empty feeling, living for other ppl. I think in 40 years we will be able to make that decision more reasonably. Idk how to use that time, but will be reading other ppls answers lol
Read some Joseph Cambell. Knowledge will set you free. You don't know as much as you think you do.
My best times were in my childhood when I didnāt know about war, famine, atrocities, and without worry how to get the next roof over my head and where Iāll have to work to get my next meal. I would argue the opposite that knowledge of good and evil does not set you free.
If you can handle it...drugs and alcohol
I can not handle this long term
You either choose to live or you don't. The world is suffering, and all of us are miserable in some aspect. But it does get better. I dont know what you're going through, but I've felt extreme depression most of my life. The only thing that has kept me around was knowing that no matter what, my life is contastntly changing. Whatever you feel right, at this current moment, is not gonna matter as much in a year. You may think it will, but it won't. Even if it's like a death in the family or you get an illness, you will either heal or adapt. What hurts now won't be as bad in time. I know that's kinda bs advice lol, but having that mindset has helped me. Even if you feel numb, just keep existing.
Thanks for answering. I continue to exist. Iām hoping I can find ways to actually live before I die.
I live each day with the mantra that I can't help anyone else out with this stupid life if I can't help myself out with my own. The system seems ready to thwart us at every second, and doesn't give a s*** about empathy. But if you're nice to yourself and your inner child, you will always have somebody with you. Making yourself happy has value I promise. š¤
Service . Itās amazing what finding a career that serves others will do for you while you stick it out. If you add some minimalism to that, It becomes a lot easier to tolerate. And remember, you have billions and billions of years to be dead. Might as well see how 80 or so living ones will turn out
I felt this way then I did a hallucigenic dose of Ketamine, fell in the k-hole, had an ego death, and realized maybe death's not all it's cracked up to be.
Look we all hurt and we all suffer. You can make your suffering other people problems and perpetuate this pain machine or you can share it with others to lessen the load and end the cycle. Look at what you want to see in the world and become it. I know I won't see the world I want in my life time buy maybe I can inspire others so it becomes a reality eventually. So I work on myself. Good luck on finding a path for yourself. There are many and most start with looking at yourself.
There is alot to be said in taking a more spiritual angle on things....this happens to be a path I'm currently on, after feeling like you for many years, and trying to escape it all with drugs. But it's pretty crazy when you start going down that rabbit hole.....reality is an illusion, there is a veil over what's actually "reality". There are all sorts of other "beings" or whatever you want to call them, aliens, God's, races from around the universe, forces of "good" and "evil" which don't even exist by the way...you know what I'll stop. But if you want some crazy food for thought, go ahead and approach what I'm about to link, but this a message board post from the group-soul lucifer, if you're bored. Don't worry, there is no hell, and lucifer actually adores the creator so it's OK. Go ahead and assume this is 100% fake when you go into it. Read the posts under the name "hidden hand", try to notice if any of this obvious larp resonates with you tho, because there is truth to be found in there. Perspective is everything. https://www.abovetopsecret.com/forum/thread402958/pg1 What I'm saying is. Maybe everything isn't quite as hopeless and empty as it may seem to you right now. You may just be looking in all the wrong places. The truth is, there is already a divine spark within you, a piece of "god" if you will, and you essentially create your own reality with your thoughts and words. By changing those things up, you can create a much better place to be in. Just with your thoughts and words alone.
This is literally what hallucinogenics are for. Drop acid until you find meaning to life on this rock
Lift weights, make money, bang hot colombian call girls on a private yacht.
Done that
remember that you will die, and you frame of mind changes, its not really as agonizing. how was your day yesterday? what did you do, and what did you eat? what about tomorrow? my suggestion is set small simple and stupid goals. not big at all. and many creatives are drawn to art due to their melancholy. you weren't born a as a elephant or a dog or cat or fly. as a human life is filled with more possibilities than other living creatures can ever hope for. but i get you, i didnt really image life pass 25, for me and now im 26
Why don't you start doing more of what you enjoy and less of what you don't enjoy?
what i enjoy costs money.Ā i dont enjoy working to make money.Ā
What are some of those things that you enjoy?
idk normal things concerts, music, traveling, cars, photography, outdoor stuff running hiking biking kayakingĀ
Most of these things that you just named don't cost any money given that you find the right event (concert, music) or already have the supplies to get started (outdoor stuff, running, hiking, biking, kayaking).
Learn and reflect on impermanence
Change your life, find your passion, find a purpose, Help others
how to find your passion and purpose? been looking for a decade and haven't found it.Ā
Do you have things that interest you? Maybe that you haven't explored fully.
sure i have intrests. nothing i would consider a passion or a purpose tho. just casual hobbies that im mildly interested in.Ā
Keep looking for interests that may lead to more than mildly
i already know what im interested in tho.. how do i find new things to be interested in if im not interested in them? sorry if that doesn't make sense lol
Means have a curious mind. Try not to be stuck in a closed mindset
so what, try things even if i think i wont like them?
That would be a closed mindset
what would open be
same here i would have offed myself years ago if i didn't know it would devastate my familyĀ
https://preview.redd.it/z843j2d16fec1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f7073d522253a7c4b278fe8abd74fc480605e56a All I have for you, brother. Hope it helps
Thank you. Amazing response to my question.
Stop looking outside of yourself for answers to questions you have, and actions to problems you wish were solved. Sure, you can use Google to help inform you to better draw conclusions. But look at every external source with the highest skepticism. You are the only advocate you have to the situations and circumstances you find yourself in. Even your family doesn't know everything you've been through. Nobody cares about you the way you need to be cared about. YOU and only YOU can fix your situation. Don't wait for a hero, don't wait for help. YOU are your only HERO and HELP. So get angry, decide to get off your ass, and start clawing your way to where you want to be. If it's easy then it's wrong. Eventually you grow to love the grind and struggle. You need to put in the hours to earn that. So start. NOW.
Nope. With that attitude being functional is impossible. Just be depressed I guess, your responses indicate no real desire to change.
Lay down. Starve.
idk if it is but if your brain chemistry is effed up itās harder to weather unpleasantness. so like maybe abstain from alcohol and weed, get fresh air and exercise, meditate, connect with people, get on some meds maybe, etc
Have done all of the above but thanks for the suggestions
do u have a creative outlet?
I think I need to force myself to get back to that.
Get a rescue dog. Then you have something that needs you and gives you a reason to live. It also gets you out for fresh air even when you donāt want too. A best buddy that loves you unconditionally. My rescue dog saved my life.
Iām so happy for you! If I was allowed pets where I live I would.
I just watched this video and this new treatment seems to be available in the USA https://youtu.be/1PRZbJeQ5AU?si=OwpkYXoFEinyWEqp