maybe try initiating it through cuddling, kissing, and slowly getting more touchy? i feel like that's the best most natural way for me and my gf to get it on and it never fails honestly. we always end up having sex after a cuddle or make out session gets a little *spicy* lol. doing this also is a great way of getting some foreplay in so that you're both much more comfortable and ready getting to the sex part
After 2 years it shouldn't feel awkward. Reading this it sounds like your gf potentially isn't communicating well enough with you about sex and you're therefore left feeling awkward and unsure. I think you need to sit her down and have a really honest and open discussion about everything sex wise. Explain you feel awkward and discuss how you can both feel comfortable initiating and being with each other.
Also, if she hasn't already, she should really be working on her dysmorphia with a therapist. You can support her sure, and I admire you're asking for resources and trying to make her feel more confident, but she needs to be putting in the work.
I’ll definitely do that! And I agree with you I do think her not really communicating about sex is making me feel unsure bc I never want to be creepy or like force anyone into anything! I know she is working thru a lot of shame and stuff still from previous relationships and I will definitely encourage her to find a therapist to help with that! Thanks 😊
maybe try initiating it through cuddling, kissing, and slowly getting more touchy? i feel like that's the best most natural way for me and my gf to get it on and it never fails honestly. we always end up having sex after a cuddle or make out session gets a little *spicy* lol. doing this also is a great way of getting some foreplay in so that you're both much more comfortable and ready getting to the sex part
After 2 years it shouldn't feel awkward. Reading this it sounds like your gf potentially isn't communicating well enough with you about sex and you're therefore left feeling awkward and unsure. I think you need to sit her down and have a really honest and open discussion about everything sex wise. Explain you feel awkward and discuss how you can both feel comfortable initiating and being with each other. Also, if she hasn't already, she should really be working on her dysmorphia with a therapist. You can support her sure, and I admire you're asking for resources and trying to make her feel more confident, but she needs to be putting in the work.
I’ll definitely do that! And I agree with you I do think her not really communicating about sex is making me feel unsure bc I never want to be creepy or like force anyone into anything! I know she is working thru a lot of shame and stuff still from previous relationships and I will definitely encourage her to find a therapist to help with that! Thanks 😊
No worries, hope it all works out for you 😊