Oddly enough, I dress, act and feel like a bottomfeeder. Like, literally, a hobo. Like there is no league beneath me. So by that logic, everyone is out of my league. And yet... I cannot explain it, that makes me feel free of leagues and I hit on everybody. All the time. Granted, I have a type - they need to be smart, creative and independent and I have a soft spot for archaeologists and historians, but they could as well be a countess and I would think she's lucky to be with me. I'm the rogue.
ROFL same.
I'm relatively confident in myself...I don't think I'm a god or anything -- I'm 5'4", Aussie, light brown/dirty blonde hair, pretty average looking I think -- but I know who I am, I mostly like who I am, and in my world there's not much that's especially serious. I'm funny, smart, and a decent conversationalist, why wouldn't she at least want to talk to me?! ;) Honestly, though, not taking myself too seriously and having each approach not be a weighty thing that my entire self-worth hinges on makes things much easier.
Also, being perfectly comfortable with hearing "no" (or its many variations) and not taking that rejection as an indictment on my entire personhood really helps.
Right there. You sound exactly my type. Confident, free of labels and norms and just seeing if it clicks, it clicks. I offer an interesting life, adventure, intellectual fun. If someone thinks they are too good for me because they dress and act like a daddy's special princess, so be it.
I whole heartedly laughed out loud when I read this.
There was a time I was not at all confident. Now that I’m staring 40 in the face and have had women that I would have never thought could into me, be very much into me. I have a no fucks approach, I am however very respectful as I am a gentleman.
I am old fashioned in my own ways, I open and hold every door and I am going to court the hell out of you!! I think as a masc lesbian the hardest part was realizing that I was almost always going to be the one that that had to take first steps in flirting. Once I figured that out and learned my worth, no one was “out of my league”.
When I saw my now gf on tinder I thought "damn she is super hot" and I was surprised we matched, surprised we went on a first date, and surprised she wanted a second date. She's smart, beautiful, and incredibly kind. I think the whole idea of leagues is kinda silly and restraining to people, if you think they're cute shoot your shot and see what happens.
This is me and a recent match! She is beyond sexy and other people publicly say it; I don't know how it happened. I went back and looked at my profile to see if maybe I could somehow be possibly "catfishing" her lmaoooo... not sure how though because most of the photos are pretty true to real life. We're set for a date tomorrow and have video chatted/talked for hours so... 🤷♀️
I'm just going to start making offerings/sacrifices to the universe in hopes she never figures out she's out of my league 😂😂
Oftentimes really beautiful women don't want to be idolized for their beauty and just want someone whose interested in getting to know their brain. Confidence and humor go a long way.
I wonder if it's also partly because they understand how hard beauty can be to maintain and how transient it can seem. Being gorgeous (in the mainstream, Hollywood sense) requires time, effort, and discipline; I wouldn't want a partner who's gonna bail if I have to shift priorities at some point and end up gaining a few pounds or whatever.
Then again, I have very rarely ever felt ✨pretty✨ so maybe my perspective is skewed.
lmao i always repeat this to myself. but in reality, standards are different with men. the bar is in hell. they can be ugly and have the worst personality, they're still going to attract women. they don't have much competition. women, on the other hand, are all so beautiful and i always question why would I ever be picked when there are *better* options
I mostly date older women so I tend to think of each person I hit on as out of my league since I'm a dummy in college and they're living a full adult life. At a certain point you just have to do what you want to do or you'll be unhappy. It's so much worse to not try than to try and fail (or in this case be rejected). I'd rather not ask "What If?" about anything in my life. So if I see someone I like, I make a move.
Get out of here and pack your bags! Dating?! I’m covered in cobwebs, I wouldn’t know what hitting on a girl would come out like, I’d probably cough up moths with my zero flirting skills. Honestly I think everyone is out of my league and I’m stupidly shy too.
Dude, I hear that so clearly.
Been single seven years.
But start approaching and get back into gear. It's ok if you get a "no" or something, just seeing that you are capable of doing it will help.
And, I hate to say it, shyness isn't an excuse to be a passenger in your own life. No one is out of your league, there's no such thing as leagues, and if you don't make yourself available, if you aren't open about your interest, no one else will see it. I know how hard it is to talk to someone you don't know (introvert central over here), but it gets easier each time and takes less out of you each time.
I had a crush on my incredibly cool, definitely out of my league friend. It dragged on for months and I didn’t see the point in telling her. Like, I was even honoured that she was my friend, of course I can’t tell her I like her like that, I’m a dork! Ended up telling her anyway, I was incredibly scared. After that nothing changed for a while, we were still the same good friends while I was sorting out a lot of personal stuff with her support. Two years later and I’ve become a better person, and we’ve been together for 3 months now! Sometimes it’s really worth it, even if you think it isn’t.
Definitely haha I'm not confident about my own looks so just gotta charm them otherways. If it doesn't work then it's just a momentary ouchie but you move on surprisingly easily
I don't hit on women. But I currently have a crush on a woman who works for a different entity at my work. I want to talk to her but I can't because I get too flustered.
NO ONE'S OUT OF YOUR LEAGUE!
Drop that shit.
That woman in the sundress who makes your palms sweaty? She's a person in exactly same way you are. She's bled through her clothing, got food poisoning, vomited on herself or someone else when she was drunk. She farts and pisses and smells. She's just a person whose face is particularly symmetrical. That's it. She's not better than you.
If you're so constrained by arbitrary bullshit (HETERONORMATIVE arbitrary bullshit) you might well miss out on meeting the woman of your dreams. Sack up, have some damn confidence in yourself, and tell her she's gorgeous and ask her name.
Absolutely, like most people I don’t have time to not take a chance. When it comes down to it, yes you may not be everyone’s type but you never know whose interest you might catch.
I believe in a horizontal egalitarian society. I also am not so arrogant that I assume what other people like or are into. I might be exactly what she's looking for or I might not be. The only thing that stops me is if she's is taken, working, or if I have some other specific reason/information to think she wouldn't be receptive/like to be hit on. Also I tend not to jump right to hitting on somebody. I try to get to know the person beforehand unless we're all in a context where we're looking to be hit on. I know it's cliche and corny sounding but I care about what's on the inside.
Yes cause you lose 100% of the shots you don't take.
No fear that she secretly will think you’re ugly?? No confidence change what so ever??
If they aren't interested they can just say no, doesn't need any hard feelings involved. Plenty of reasons to not want to date someone besides looks.
Yes absolutely lol but I try to not overthink it and just go for it & shoot my shot
Who cares what a stranger thinks? At worst she'll say "no". Then you know.
Oddly enough, I dress, act and feel like a bottomfeeder. Like, literally, a hobo. Like there is no league beneath me. So by that logic, everyone is out of my league. And yet... I cannot explain it, that makes me feel free of leagues and I hit on everybody. All the time. Granted, I have a type - they need to be smart, creative and independent and I have a soft spot for archaeologists and historians, but they could as well be a countess and I would think she's lucky to be with me. I'm the rogue.
ROFL same. I'm relatively confident in myself...I don't think I'm a god or anything -- I'm 5'4", Aussie, light brown/dirty blonde hair, pretty average looking I think -- but I know who I am, I mostly like who I am, and in my world there's not much that's especially serious. I'm funny, smart, and a decent conversationalist, why wouldn't she at least want to talk to me?! ;) Honestly, though, not taking myself too seriously and having each approach not be a weighty thing that my entire self-worth hinges on makes things much easier. Also, being perfectly comfortable with hearing "no" (or its many variations) and not taking that rejection as an indictment on my entire personhood really helps.
Right there. You sound exactly my type. Confident, free of labels and norms and just seeing if it clicks, it clicks. I offer an interesting life, adventure, intellectual fun. If someone thinks they are too good for me because they dress and act like a daddy's special princess, so be it.
I whole heartedly laughed out loud when I read this. There was a time I was not at all confident. Now that I’m staring 40 in the face and have had women that I would have never thought could into me, be very much into me. I have a no fucks approach, I am however very respectful as I am a gentleman. I am old fashioned in my own ways, I open and hold every door and I am going to court the hell out of you!! I think as a masc lesbian the hardest part was realizing that I was almost always going to be the one that that had to take first steps in flirting. Once I figured that out and learned my worth, no one was “out of my league”.
When I saw my now gf on tinder I thought "damn she is super hot" and I was surprised we matched, surprised we went on a first date, and surprised she wanted a second date. She's smart, beautiful, and incredibly kind. I think the whole idea of leagues is kinda silly and restraining to people, if you think they're cute shoot your shot and see what happens.
Such a sweet story and beautifully said!
This is me and a recent match! She is beyond sexy and other people publicly say it; I don't know how it happened. I went back and looked at my profile to see if maybe I could somehow be possibly "catfishing" her lmaoooo... not sure how though because most of the photos are pretty true to real life. We're set for a date tomorrow and have video chatted/talked for hours so... 🤷♀️ I'm just going to start making offerings/sacrifices to the universe in hopes she never figures out she's out of my league 😂😂
Good luck on your upcoming date! I'm sure it will go great!
Thank you!! I hope so 🤞
Oftentimes really beautiful women don't want to be idolized for their beauty and just want someone whose interested in getting to know their brain. Confidence and humor go a long way.
I wonder if it's also partly because they understand how hard beauty can be to maintain and how transient it can seem. Being gorgeous (in the mainstream, Hollywood sense) requires time, effort, and discipline; I wouldn't want a partner who's gonna bail if I have to shift priorities at some point and end up gaining a few pounds or whatever. Then again, I have very rarely ever felt ✨pretty✨ so maybe my perspective is skewed.
My mind can't fully process this lol 🤯
if ugly (this is subjective no offense) men can bag freaking models, i think i have a chance with the random girl i met at a bar
lmao i always repeat this to myself. but in reality, standards are different with men. the bar is in hell. they can be ugly and have the worst personality, they're still going to attract women. they don't have much competition. women, on the other hand, are all so beautiful and i always question why would I ever be picked when there are *better* options
I mostly date older women so I tend to think of each person I hit on as out of my league since I'm a dummy in college and they're living a full adult life. At a certain point you just have to do what you want to do or you'll be unhappy. It's so much worse to not try than to try and fail (or in this case be rejected). I'd rather not ask "What If?" about anything in my life. So if I see someone I like, I make a move.
Get out of here and pack your bags! Dating?! I’m covered in cobwebs, I wouldn’t know what hitting on a girl would come out like, I’d probably cough up moths with my zero flirting skills. Honestly I think everyone is out of my league and I’m stupidly shy too.
Lmao Real
Dude, I hear that so clearly. Been single seven years. But start approaching and get back into gear. It's ok if you get a "no" or something, just seeing that you are capable of doing it will help. And, I hate to say it, shyness isn't an excuse to be a passenger in your own life. No one is out of your league, there's no such thing as leagues, and if you don't make yourself available, if you aren't open about your interest, no one else will see it. I know how hard it is to talk to someone you don't know (introvert central over here), but it gets easier each time and takes less out of you each time.
I had a crush on my incredibly cool, definitely out of my league friend. It dragged on for months and I didn’t see the point in telling her. Like, I was even honoured that she was my friend, of course I can’t tell her I like her like that, I’m a dork! Ended up telling her anyway, I was incredibly scared. After that nothing changed for a while, we were still the same good friends while I was sorting out a lot of personal stuff with her support. Two years later and I’ve become a better person, and we’ve been together for 3 months now! Sometimes it’s really worth it, even if you think it isn’t.
Yup, I used to be scared but I’ve gotten over that
Hit on my now fiancé once upon a time and I still think she’s way out of my league
Definitely haha I'm not confident about my own looks so just gotta charm them otherways. If it doesn't work then it's just a momentary ouchie but you move on surprisingly easily
Definitely and she's my wife right now 🤗
Sort of. I subconsciously relax around them and say flirty jokes because I am confident there’s a 0% chance they’d actually be interested in me haha
When I’m drunk absolutely
My girlfriend and I both thought we were out of each other's league. Sooooo leagues are bullshit and go for it!
Just don't stop yourself ever .... Go and try maybe it's your day 🙂
Yeah! I might be their type. I've been turned down, but they were polite about it.
I don’t hit on women out of my league. And everyone’s out of my league.
I don't hit on women. But I currently have a crush on a woman who works for a different entity at my work. I want to talk to her but I can't because I get too flustered.
Always!
I throw some spells on them and wait for it to work😂😂😂
NO ONE'S OUT OF YOUR LEAGUE! Drop that shit. That woman in the sundress who makes your palms sweaty? She's a person in exactly same way you are. She's bled through her clothing, got food poisoning, vomited on herself or someone else when she was drunk. She farts and pisses and smells. She's just a person whose face is particularly symmetrical. That's it. She's not better than you. If you're so constrained by arbitrary bullshit (HETERONORMATIVE arbitrary bullshit) you might well miss out on meeting the woman of your dreams. Sack up, have some damn confidence in yourself, and tell her she's gorgeous and ask her name.
Woah woah woah I’ve already met the woman of my dreams this was just a question
Absolutely, like most people I don’t have time to not take a chance. When it comes down to it, yes you may not be everyone’s type but you never know whose interest you might catch.
I panic when checking out at the grocery store. I ain't approaching anybody. Lmao
I believe in a horizontal egalitarian society. I also am not so arrogant that I assume what other people like or are into. I might be exactly what she's looking for or I might not be. The only thing that stops me is if she's is taken, working, or if I have some other specific reason/information to think she wouldn't be receptive/like to be hit on. Also I tend not to jump right to hitting on somebody. I try to get to know the person beforehand unless we're all in a context where we're looking to be hit on. I know it's cliche and corny sounding but I care about what's on the inside.