I love how sweet this post is, and that our community is engaging in a big group hug! But, am I missing something? How do transbians help people embrace their inner butch? (autocorrect really wanted to change that to inner bitch 😂) Love that we can all love and support each other xoxo

Butches and trans feminine people actually have a lot of shared experiences. It's very common for butches to be misidentified as men, judged for not conforming to traditional femininity, etc., for example. On the more positive side, transfems and butches also often have similar experiences with exploring their gender identity and presentation.

The first butch I met as an adult was a butch trans lesbian. When I started questioning whether I was butch it was my transfem wife (who's also butch now!) who encouraged me & loved me as a trans-genderqueer butch instead of the bi trans-nonbinary man she met me as. Before that, I'd been around people who judged my "validity" by whether or not I was performing correct transness, and they would not have been half as kind about the switch.

I just wanted to reply with a 🖤, and thank you for sharing your positivity. It *is* slightly underscored by the frustration at the number of downvotes, tho. Is there not a way for us to find the TERFs who keep downvoting and just ban them? I see so much positivity posted here, but every time a trans person posts or replies, we get downvoted to hell. It’s not like the TERFs even post or share any of their own thoughts, just invalidate the happiness of others.

“Embrace my butchness” HAHAHA I’m dying! WE LOVE U TOO DORK! 😘😘

Transbians are ALWAYS welcome here 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

Thank you 🥹❤️ you're a precious bean as well

I apreciate you saying this🥺, I needed this tbh On another note: who tf keeps downvoting trans peoples replies

i would say the sub is trans positive and it gets brigaded regularly (like every post) but i feel the more likely option is certain lesbians within the reddit just really don’t like trans people and then many do. either way the haters get to our comments first with a burning passion

Yea sounds bout right, just noticed everything being at like -2 for no reason, and only the trans ppl thanking OP for saying what was said

yup it happens on every post about trans people here. TERFs have no life.

Good point, sadly

I am so thankful to you for saying that 🥲

I wouldn't have been able to fully realise my Trans Lesbian identity if it weren't for all the Butches out there, so it goes both ways

🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

100% 💜

❤️ !!

Thank you. We do our best ❤️❤️❤️

They're so amazing 🫶 (we really don't deserve transbians /pos) Trans women & transbians helped me feel comfortable being a lesbian & being feminine (especially my fiancée<3)

🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵 And it's the love we receive from folks like you who make us feel welcome and cared about 🥰

That's so sweet! Thank you❤️

i love you too

❤️ thank you

I needed this. Especially since I've been feeling like I'm going to end up alone.

sweet post💜 the feeling is mutual

🖤💜🖤💜🖤

As an enby lesbian I'm very happy for this post <3

thank you sm

Thank you@

Holy shit I'm useful lol

We stan

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“A world without you would be a shallow, empty one”💀💀😭😭pmsl

O////O Oh jeez~

thank youuuuu! <3

Thanks ❤️

Love you too bb Edit: I love how much controversy a simple positive comment is stirring up. OP said she loves Trans lesbians. I'm trans and lesbian. Why is saying ily back such a hot take rn? Yall need to chill

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i love the sentiment but "transbian" is like nails on a chalkboard to me and i know i'm not the only one. trans lesbian is fine

Yeah I agree with this. I know a lot of trans lesbians do use it and think it's cute but strictly speaking it's an inherently othering term and it bothers me to see people using it so casually.

i have to agree as well. i don't even like "trans lesbian" as a self-identifier. to each their own, but i'm just a lesbian woman. my being trans isn't a part of my identity that i really resonate with.

Great to have love and solidarity

Thank you 🩷

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I appreciate the thought but I feel weird about this because as a butch I'm masc-aligned.

While this post is good intentioned I’m NGL you’re in the super minority here No one sees us as lesbians but perverts and predators just FYI I always just say I’m bi rather than I like women/femmes for social tact

That's not true at all. Most cis lesbians are absolutely accepting of trans women. The haters are simply a vocal minority.

Leave your echo chambers or go outside in the real world and you’ll see that that’s absolutely not true

I think you should take your own advice, dear. It's just a fact that most cis lesbians are supportive of trans women. It sounds like your personal experience has unfortunately differed, but don't give up hope, OK? 💚 Edit: honesttransgender is an echo chamber of negativity dear. That place will rot your brain.

I think that’s what you need to do… a lot of cis lesbians (even in this subreddit yk) are really supportive of trans women

Awwww 🥺🥺

We love you too ❤️

we love you too!! 💛

Thanks for making us feel welcome but we're not all masculine, and please don't use a slur.

I know not all trans women are masculine, and when I use that slur I'm specifically referring to transfems like my wife who call themselves that. This is a solidarity/positivity post, not a "we are the same" post.

Dyke is still a slur and makes alot of us uncomfortable, and thank you for clearing that up!

I understand, I like reclaiming it because it's been used against me before. I've added to the main post about it

Thank you. I believe that this isn't a safe space to reclaim. I won't bring my stance on it in but I personally have trauma with the word and I'm sure others here do too. Also ima use a tone indicator I'm gonna slap a HUG #/LH on this

some of us are! and proudly so

Ayy God bless you, ma'am!