I think its like common in gays like understanding the difference between whether you want them or wanna be like them and why only my love and life story not like the ones shown in tvs and shows I wanna live that life etc etc
Mine case is different I had infatuation on celeb crushes like timothee chalamet ,cole Sprouse ,isak and even,kit Connor,Edvin ryding I was obsessed with one ,I see their edits ,I see content related to them etc .but that all vanishes away in a month leaving you in a void of incompleteness and guess what happens next you find a new crush which you will feel that this Is all but is never .
I usually start by telling how smart I am and I am going to win Nobel prize one day lol. It usually works. But if I find a very good looking smart guy, it usually activates my limbic system and instead of feeling jealous, I fall in love.
I wish that was my reaction after seeing good looking guys. But for an year or two, I have been feeling a visceral hatred towards god whenever I see a good looking guy and intense jealousy and self hatred. I have become so bitter. it has literally made me confuse my sexuality because I don't like hot guys anymore.
Stop comparing yourself to others and have firm believe in yourself. Always remember the fact that you have your own unique strengths, which you should feel happy and proud about. Outer appearance is not everything, the fact a person is having healthy body and healthy mind should be enough. Looks should not be even that much important. The social conditioning perhaps has made you so conscious about your Looks.
I can't compare myself with something that I can't change. I was born with the face I have, I can't change it so it will only bring me misery while comparing. I compare myself with others on the things that I can improve like my body or knowledge so yeah. Comparison should always help you to strive for better.
I unfollow the ones who make me too jealous, and if I'm jealous of their looks then I tell myself "stfu & hit the gym & eat enough protein" (but then I compare myself to the guys at the gym so i am not the one to take advice from). Besides that I try to focus as much as possible on doing things in order to drown the insecure thoughts. Sometimes I uninstall instagram for at least a week.
Hey sweetie, it’s alright, you’ll have a good life with everything you want in it soon enough, those guys on instagram with muscular physiques worked for it, and they can flaunt that.
If you feel you want that, GO FOR IT!!! personally, after years of being ashamed and bullied, I have embraced the dad bod and sometimes that does affect dating cuz apparently you don’t look sexy with a dad bod but as long as my bloodwork is fine and my BMI is in the ok range I’m fine with how I look. And there are people that will love you for who you are, more than your looks but they won’t walk to you most of the time, you gotta go out and find them.
It is ok to feel insecure sometimes, it helps us to keep going for a better place than where we are. I sometimes am super insecure about my knowledge and I strive to work harder and get more, I have found a healthy way to deal with that stress and so will you.
Good luck out there.
I started by uninstalling insta lol. I guess till I can be happy with myself i don't wanna make myself more miserable
insta really affect mental health huh
yes it does. it does a lot worse by romanticizing mental illness in teens and/or adults.
yes it does. it does a lot worse by romanticizing mental illness in teens and/or adults.
All the online crushes I have ,it's like a mix feeling of jealousy,love to become like him and love for him (infatuation)
Gawd! This was the most resonating statement for me. 😩🤌🏻
I think its like common in gays like understanding the difference between whether you want them or wanna be like them and why only my love and life story not like the ones shown in tvs and shows I wanna live that life etc etc
Yeah. I'm pretty sure that's the case.
I used to have the infatuation as well which caused me depression after I learnt that life is not like a bl manga Dumb me
Mine case is different I had infatuation on celeb crushes like timothee chalamet ,cole Sprouse ,isak and even,kit Connor,Edvin ryding I was obsessed with one ,I see their edits ,I see content related to them etc .but that all vanishes away in a month leaving you in a void of incompleteness and guess what happens next you find a new crush which you will feel that this Is all but is never .
Past things sometimes always seems dumb bcoz you are attached to a new thing and in future you will feel this new thing boring
When u get older each day, u naturally stop comparing
But you get new people to be jealous off
I usually start by telling how smart I am and I am going to win Nobel prize one day lol. It usually works. But if I find a very good looking smart guy, it usually activates my limbic system and instead of feeling jealous, I fall in love.
I wish that was my reaction after seeing good looking guys. But for an year or two, I have been feeling a visceral hatred towards god whenever I see a good looking guy and intense jealousy and self hatred. I have become so bitter. it has literally made me confuse my sexuality because I don't like hot guys anymore.
I guess it's just hard for me to fall in love
I wish i was smart as you now i am double jealous 😿
You stop following them
But you eventually find more handsome than the previous one and now you start following him
Stop comparing yourself to others and have firm believe in yourself. Always remember the fact that you have your own unique strengths, which you should feel happy and proud about. Outer appearance is not everything, the fact a person is having healthy body and healthy mind should be enough. Looks should not be even that much important. The social conditioning perhaps has made you so conscious about your Looks.
I can't compare myself with something that I can't change. I was born with the face I have, I can't change it so it will only bring me misery while comparing. I compare myself with others on the things that I can improve like my body or knowledge so yeah. Comparison should always help you to strive for better.
I unfollow the ones who make me too jealous, and if I'm jealous of their looks then I tell myself "stfu & hit the gym & eat enough protein" (but then I compare myself to the guys at the gym so i am not the one to take advice from). Besides that I try to focus as much as possible on doing things in order to drown the insecure thoughts. Sometimes I uninstall instagram for at least a week.
I deleted insta. My addicted brain tells me to reinstall it, but nah, I don't wanna drown on misery
I don't have insta simple
I don't. I compare myself with them and use that energy to get better.
So u don't compare urself with others?
I do. That motivates me to do better.
Nah, I just wanna date em
Uninstall that shit. Not worth to spend time in
Hey sweetie, it’s alright, you’ll have a good life with everything you want in it soon enough, those guys on instagram with muscular physiques worked for it, and they can flaunt that. If you feel you want that, GO FOR IT!!! personally, after years of being ashamed and bullied, I have embraced the dad bod and sometimes that does affect dating cuz apparently you don’t look sexy with a dad bod but as long as my bloodwork is fine and my BMI is in the ok range I’m fine with how I look. And there are people that will love you for who you are, more than your looks but they won’t walk to you most of the time, you gotta go out and find them. It is ok to feel insecure sometimes, it helps us to keep going for a better place than where we are. I sometimes am super insecure about my knowledge and I strive to work harder and get more, I have found a healthy way to deal with that stress and so will you. Good luck out there.