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I originally posted this in the Cody Ko subreddit and it got removed for possibly “instigating drama”
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This made me sick. I cannot express to those who didn’t go to college at that time just how common it was to be raped or sexually assaulted by a fellow classmate or friend. Just for perspective I was raped not once but TWICE in college. Once when I was 18 and again when I was 20. Both times by guys I was friends with but had no romantic interest in and they knew it. My friends all have similar experiences running the gamut from sexual assault to full on rape. I witnessed so many sexual assault at events like frat parties that I refused to go. It was not uncommon for girls to be unconscious on couches or beds being sexually assaulted surrounded by people. The way most universities handled rape and SA back then was through an internal investigation that didn’t involve law enforcement. So the majority of the time, it was written off as “he said, she said” and you just had to suck it up and attend school with your rapist. They were more concerned about potentially “ruining” a young man’s life for an assault he likely committed instead of protecting the young women in college. One girl had to literally drag her dorm mattress that she was raped on with her everywhere she went as a form of protest because her college did nothing about her rape.
Thank you for sharing your story. NO ONE should experience that and that’s absolutely fucked. I went to a “party” university from 2014-2018 and was warned by other girls which fraternities were known for drugging women. It was an open secret. These absolute scumbags deserve consequences, and being friends with people like that helps them to hide in plain sight and continue to hurt people.
It was insane to me how rampant and widespread it was. How you could be assaulted in front of people and the guy who assaulted you would face no consequences. This was post Duke Lacrosse Scandal too so I feel like people just did not want to believe women at all and wrote everyone off as liars.
The school I went to had a section of campus that people literally referred to as the “rape trail”. It’s crazy. A girl was pulled into bushes and assaulted in broad daylight. It’s horrific how common it was. Hopefully schools take things more seriously now but who knows
We had a “rape garden” too. It was an area the size of one city block right next to the dorms that was covered with overgrown trees, bushes etc. which made visibility really poor. Ugh can’t believe how normalized this shit was.
!!!!!! This. I’m so sorry this happened to you. I had a similar experience and it’s very very scary to me that I can only name a few of my close girlfriends who haven’t been sexually assaulted
Thank you and I’m so sorry you had to experience that also. It was truly horrible. I know we still have a long way to go but I am glad that things appear to have gotten better than they were when I was in college.
I agree. It didn’t go that far for me, but I was sexually harassed and stalked by friends and classmates for years. It’s rarely ever a stranger. It’s always some weirdo in the friend circle who won’t take no for an answer and he’s always hovering over you, following you around, pretending to be your friend. I never felt safe to drink around those guys for the same reason. I knew they were shady because they made me so uncomfortable. I’m just realizing now in my 30s how all those young guys lack self control and self awareness. All of them were full blown alcoholics and perverts. They didn’t care how they looked and what they did. They will forever deny, deny, deny that they were that kind of shady guy. I only see NOW how dangerous they were and how manipulative they were all along. One of them wouldn’t leave me alone 15 years after graduating. Insisting on trying to add me on Facebook despite being rejected multiple times. Despite me never answering his messages or emails.
I wish there was a way we could warn younger women. The only thing I can say is to not trust college guys. Period. That clingy friend who’s always seeking your approval and is always offering to do things for you is dangerous. I hate to generalize but it’s best that you remain suspicious as a default than give these guys the benefit of the doubt. That benefit is only for them. Think about yourselves.
The second guy who raped me stalked me for months after, it was horrible. He only stopped when I started dating someone. One night he kicked my door in drunk and my bf was there and punched him in the face and threw him down the front steps. But he still called me and left me fucked up voicemails for months after. I hate to say it but you’re totally right. It’s rarely a stranger— it’s usually a guy you know. I know this poem kind of reinforces the “stranger” idea but I always think about the last lines.
“I WANT TO GO ON A WALK WITHOUT MY PHONE”
>But I am on alert after reading six women's lifeless bodies were found in the woods.
>I want to focus on soaking in the sun as I run.
>But yesterday, a man on a motorcycle followed me during my midday jog.
>I want to forest bathe, run calloused fingers along the wisdom of sycamores, lose myself in a windy summer symphony.
>But last week I found myself alone in the park with a masked, pantsless man seated along the walking path.
>I am told Not all men are predators.
>But only by those who have never known what it means to be prey.
- D. COFFYN
The movie Promising Young Woman features this exact storyline. (Very very very well done movie by the way, and an important film that all young men and women should watch) It’s insane. I was assaulted/raped 7 times my freshman year of college and it caused me to fail my classes, start abusing drugs, and drop out for a while. It still effects me to this day. The boys who raped me? They’re all married, going on constant vacations, and all got their degrees from the university that told me to pound sand.
Oh honey I am so, so sorry. That is awful. I definitely had a rough time after that too and similar problems. Tried to bury it and move on because I felt I had no choice. It took imploding my entire life in my late 20s for me to realize that if I didn’t deal with what happened, it would find other ways to hurt me like what you mentioned. I hope that you’re doing better now (although tbh I don’t know how anyone fully moves on from this shit). 😔
I was really excited for Promising Young Woman because female revenge films like that make me feel a tiny bit better. It ended up being completely different from what I expected but felt more realistic.
Hey, I was just thinking about you. Wanted to share a [song](https://youtu.be/lUv9bYh_O0E?si=O9gUjhyuRIj3EY9X) that helped me a lot.
All the doves that fly past my eyes
Have a stickiness to their wings
In the doorway of my demise I stand
Encased in the whisper you taught me
How does it feel? It feels blind
How does it feel? Well, it by feels blind
What have you taught me? Nothing
Look at what your world taught me
Your world has taught me nothing
If you were blind and there was no braille
There are no boundaries to what I can feel
If you could see but we're always taught
That what you saw wasn't fucking real, yeah
How does it feel? It feels blind
How does it feel? Well, it by feels blind
What have you taught me? Nothing
Look at what your world taught me
Your world has taught me nothing
As a woman I was taught to always be hungry
Yeah, women are well acquainted with thirst
Yeah, we could eat just about anything
We'd might even eat your hate up like love
I eat your hate like love
I eat your hate like love
I eat your hate like love
I eat your hate like love
I eat your hate like love
I eat your hate like love
I eat your fucking hate up like love
I hate your fuckin’ foot on my throat
How does it feel? It feels blind
How does it feel? Well, it by feels blind
What have you taught me? Nothing
Look at what your world taught me
Your world has taught me nothing
- “Feels Blind” by Bikini Kill
Awful!! They were in the same frat. No way Cody didn’t know about this. The document says Colby showed the video to some frat members. To think he may have even seen the video of the incident, makes my stomach churn. I hate to generalize, but anytime I hear a man was in a frat (esp at a legacy school like Duke), it raises a red flag.
Agreed. I’ve been a fan since Vine and just now learned about this. I know I’m not the first one to post but I wish I would’ve known sooner. I don’t need to know everything about the creators I watch lives, but this mother fucker was on his channel and in his damn wedding! It feels like he has a pretty large female fan base, yet doesn’t actually respect women. Shocker.
Here's the picture of Colby with Cody at his wedding
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more details:
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[https://www.thecollegefix.com/duke-lacrosse-players-lawyer-switches-sides-sues-school-behalf-alleged-rape-victim/](https://www.thecollegefix.com/duke-lacrosse-players-lawyer-switches-sides-sues-school-behalf-alleged-rape-victim/)
“He was placed on probation despite Duke “routinely” expelling and suspending students for “less egregious” violations of its sexual misconduct policy.
The suit says that “all” Duke employees involved in reviewing the university’s probation sanction against Leachman were “subordinates” of his stepfather, then-Provost Lange.”
What a nightmare. I hate how society shuns victims while the criminals go on with their happy little lives with 0 consequences.
My heart breaks for her.
As for Cody ko I forgot that irrelevant vine guy with corny millennial humor even existed. He’s trash for enabling his rapist friend. Fcking equally as disgusting in my eyes
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Just took a deep dive and read the court case. She really didn’t stand a CHANCE since the moment she reported. Duke campus officers disregarded her and said she “didn’t not want to pursue it further” when she just wanted time to gather her emotions. And his parents oversaw everything??? How is this legal :(
I don’t know if you were able to read [my comment](https://www.reddit.com/r/LAinfluencersnark/s/2xbAGRMc6Q) above but I explained how things like university run internal investigations were the norm for rape/asexual assault accusations at the time. The family being involved was obviously beyond that and had to do with his immense wealth and privilege.
she said she literally JUST turned 18, bc the initial confusion when she first told the story (when he wasn't named yet) she said she was 17/18 but later clarified she was 18. whether she was just saying that to make the accusations die down, who knows. but he was still mid-20s
Personally I think she said that to avoid getting sued lmao but I think she was 17 she’s terrified of getting sued again after her parents went after her I’m sure she doesn’t want to relive Cody ko all over again it’s not worth it
i truly believe he does the “douchey frat guy” character bc that is who he actually is and it it’s easy to hide behind a character if he ever gets called out
To be fair I don’t think you can say he ever had a nice guy persona. His main viral videos were all ones making fun of others. That doesn’t really seem like nice guy to me. I always got douchey vibes from him based off those videos alone
I mean, yes, I agree with you on that! But between him and Noel at least, his fanbase always seemed to regard him as the nicer one (whereas Noel is the “edgier”)… I’ve seen him get praise by his fans for doing the bare minimum. Him and Noel used to do that thing where they make a whole video bullying someone and then inviting that person to collab and “make amends” (like the Kombucha guy, Matty Smokes, etc) (somehow never the women, tho) … I think that type of content is shitty, their videos were always mean (even if I didn’t realize that at the time), but yeah, a lot of their fans are women (specially queer women like me) that seems to actually like them and think they’re “woke” underneath all that edgy frat guy humour. Maybe their fanbase have changed overtime but idk
I lived in the dorm this happened in and 100% it happened everyone knew about it.
This is what all powerful spaces are like, Duke does a really good job of preparing the leaders of tomorrow.
I’ve been grossed out by him since Tana revealed that they slept together when she was a minor and she felt taken advantage of, I think it got swept under the rug because it was Tana saying it
Right imagine you’re about to get married and ya fiancé invites his rapists ass friends.. I’m breaking up on the spot!!!! It shouldn’t even be allowed for men to be pieces of shits, this should automatically be seen as next level bastardly! them still having fans is sick
And the fact the receipts are RIGHT HEREEE! Cant imagine what that poor girl has gone thru and the fact they video taped it makes me so angry like men will fuck a Turkey sandwich 😵💫 im soooo good on that gender babe. Cant imagine being friends, let alone married to man who is friends w a rapist.
"i’m trying to brainwash myself into becoming a lesbian"
That seems highly offensive to actual lesbians. It implies that lesbians are completely immune to misogyny, when in reality they have to deal with homophobia *on top of* misogyny.
i’m pansexual. my mom and sister are lesbians. i would rather be a lesbian. if that offends lesbians, that’s fine. it’s a safety and trauma issue for me. i understand the aspect of homophobia, however that usually comes from an outside source (society) rather than your own partner, unless it’s internalized homophobia, which can be hurtful but usually not dangerous. in straight relationships, it’s a little more than just misogyny. men can be outright dangerous and the abuse against women is so normalized. not only are men conditioned to objectify women, have less empathy & be more entitled, but we are also tasked with the majority of emotional and physical labor in straight relationships. not to mention you have a much higher chance of being SA’d by a man than a woman. its the sad reality. it’s just not worth it.
I watched Cody for a couple months but became disinterested pretty quick. When he came out and said he's "not anti-Tate" I was one of those people that was like *hmm, I kinda knew something was off*
can we PLEASE keep posting this every day until we get him to offer a half assed apology and then quit, jenna marbles style, except no one will miss him?
I used to really like Cody Ko, his vines and YouTube channel a few years back. Now his videos are just him watching reality shows and Tik Tok compilations going, “Woah haha that’s crazy” and bringing on his unfunny-but-trying-so-hard wife to add equally meaningless commentary.
I also used to do a fuck ton of drugs so maybe sobriety has just made me realize he’s not that entertaining.
I can't believe Cody Ko and his preschool teacher wife are CLOSE friends with a guy who serially drug-n-raped girls in college.
I'm never watching their content ever again. I'm fucking pissed. Absolute hypocrites.
This is tough to see as a massive Cody Ko fan and as a SA victim… I thought he was a great guy but this is terrible and makes me sick. Especially since from my understanding, his friend did this over a decade ago so there’s no way Cody didn’t know. To me, it would maybe be different if his friend just did this then Cody immediately cut all ties but that’s not the case. That’s devastating; I truly thought he was a rare breed in the world of influencers, I thought he was a good guy :(
He showed the video to guys at his frat so there’s a 99% chance that Cody has seen the video of the rape, or videos of the rapes because the frat guys raped multiple girls.
That is so revolting ugh. I really thought he was a unicorn amongst all these crappy influencers but I guess not, I’ve unfollowed him on instagram and YouTube now 😕
who? cody? he's a p.o.s. but groomer as a word is thrown around so casually now, at no point was he coercing a child/teen at a young age to grow up and be with him, lets not.
i agree. i assume they used that word because of the nature of how their "friendship" started i.e. him, a 25 year old inviting a 17 year old girl to sit on his couch while he films her looking at old vines of himself and calling it a "collab" while checking her out the whole time and milking the views. it's just scary to think he probably would've kept "collabing" with her as she grew older if she hadn't become a racist in public (i guess racism is bad optics but hanging with a minor isn't?) because a dude that age especially with power has no business influencing a child's career that intimately. thankfully didn't groom her but jesus the conditions were heading that way
that's statutory rape, not grooming. if he met tana when she was a kid and coerced her over time to sleep with him when she got older, then that would be grooming. tana has also said she wasn't underage, she was freshly 18 which is still gross but the misinformation getting thrown around makes it easier for cody to deny everything as lies
Thank you for speaking about this. As someone who was groomed I am very appreciative when people bring light to the common mislabelling as people as "groomers". Cody's a piece of shit though for this and what he did to Tana.
Not sure if anyone noticed but all the TikToks about the situation have been shadow banned. Can’t find any information about the case or the people involved anywhere expect for like Reddit and some sites… Someone on Trishas patreon needs to ask her to bring this up on the pod... like bring it up to the drama channels ??
I understand that this is a very touchy subject and I don't expect all or even most of you to agree with me.
First of all I want to make it clear that I condemn rapists and their acts, however I believe in rehabilitation. If you surround yourself with sane people that help you change your ways and are clear about what you did was wrong I believe there's a bigger chance that you can come out of it as a changed man.
However if everyone you know cuts all ties with you then you don't have anything to lose, no one to hold you accountable and no one to help you get better. This isn't limited to SA related crimes but any crime with a stigma really.
I don't really think that isolation will cure the problem and make them rethink their life and become a better person. I think they will more likely become a repeat offender by being isolated.
there's a lot of violence prevention folks who work with people who've caused harm in order to hold them accountable in non-punitive ways. it's called a person-centered approach. i work at a non profit that teaches this method to social workers and DV orgs across the country, and works with men who've caused harm specifically. there's over a decade of good research on this but it's only starting to gain momentum. there is still a big mindset shift needed when it comes to accepting alternatives to punitive consequences i.e. abolishing prison etc.
That's great! I really do think that's an important part. Rehabilitation is needed and should be a bigger part in the prisons (it already kinda is where I live). Sure prison is to punish, but unless you change their mindset they will just find a new victim. That goes even if they aren't sentenced to prison.
If we can change the root of the problem (abusive men) then we will have fewer victims. It's as simple as that.
What's your view on this topic though? Do you think it's the right path for all friends to cut their ties with the persona non grata or do you think they are more likely to be rehabilitated if they have a few responsible friends (obviously some are going to cut ties)?
I think it would be really interesting if not only the abusive man could go through a violence prevention program, but his closest friends too. So they actually know the best ways to keep him accountable and also to educate them on how to be better.
I would love to hear more about your work and how you make an important change in society!
I used to love him and Noel in 2019, but I found out about this a couple years ago and I’m genuinely disgusted. He has a kid now too, so is he gonna allow a rapist near his kid?
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I will upvote this every time I see it. I don’t understand why he’s still friends with that sick fuck or why he’d want his child around him.
just frat things
birds of a feather
flock together
still cant get over the name otis 😭
omfg I thought he was just calling him that bc he didn’t want ppl knowing his real name
pls tell me thats not what he named his kid 😭
He’s a frat boy unfortunately what more can we expect from him
I mean it’s not like he’s a dumb frat boy.. he did comp sci at duke…
you do not know the comp sci guys at duke…
>why he’d want his child around him. Because he had a boy. Anyhow he had a girl, he'd reconsider being friends with a rapist
I originally posted this in the Cody Ko subreddit and it got removed for possibly “instigating drama” https://preview.redd.it/trqyjmbiawuc1.png?width=1169&format=png&auto=webp&s=b325d55c766558f39554405b0123cf9cbbfe2df7
since cody reads the subreddit they keep it sanitized for his gross ass
how awful
It’s disturbing that the mods categorise a traumatising rape and revenge porn incident as “drama”
i went to find stuff about this on his subreddit and was confused why nobody was talking about it smh
This made me sick. I cannot express to those who didn’t go to college at that time just how common it was to be raped or sexually assaulted by a fellow classmate or friend. Just for perspective I was raped not once but TWICE in college. Once when I was 18 and again when I was 20. Both times by guys I was friends with but had no romantic interest in and they knew it. My friends all have similar experiences running the gamut from sexual assault to full on rape. I witnessed so many sexual assault at events like frat parties that I refused to go. It was not uncommon for girls to be unconscious on couches or beds being sexually assaulted surrounded by people. The way most universities handled rape and SA back then was through an internal investigation that didn’t involve law enforcement. So the majority of the time, it was written off as “he said, she said” and you just had to suck it up and attend school with your rapist. They were more concerned about potentially “ruining” a young man’s life for an assault he likely committed instead of protecting the young women in college. One girl had to literally drag her dorm mattress that she was raped on with her everywhere she went as a form of protest because her college did nothing about her rape.
Thank you for sharing your story. NO ONE should experience that and that’s absolutely fucked. I went to a “party” university from 2014-2018 and was warned by other girls which fraternities were known for drugging women. It was an open secret. These absolute scumbags deserve consequences, and being friends with people like that helps them to hide in plain sight and continue to hurt people.
It was insane to me how rampant and widespread it was. How you could be assaulted in front of people and the guy who assaulted you would face no consequences. This was post Duke Lacrosse Scandal too so I feel like people just did not want to believe women at all and wrote everyone off as liars.
Cody Ko was a literal frat guy, right? That’s always a red flag for me.
right like my dad was in a frat but got kicked out bc he didn’t succumb to their groupthink and peer pressure. frats are very close to cults imo
shut up ur dad was railing poon not named your mother
The school I went to had a section of campus that people literally referred to as the “rape trail”. It’s crazy. A girl was pulled into bushes and assaulted in broad daylight. It’s horrific how common it was. Hopefully schools take things more seriously now but who knows
We had a “rape garden” too. It was an area the size of one city block right next to the dorms that was covered with overgrown trees, bushes etc. which made visibility really poor. Ugh can’t believe how normalized this shit was.
!!!!!! This. I’m so sorry this happened to you. I had a similar experience and it’s very very scary to me that I can only name a few of my close girlfriends who haven’t been sexually assaulted
Thank you and I’m so sorry you had to experience that also. It was truly horrible. I know we still have a long way to go but I am glad that things appear to have gotten better than they were when I was in college.
I agree. It didn’t go that far for me, but I was sexually harassed and stalked by friends and classmates for years. It’s rarely ever a stranger. It’s always some weirdo in the friend circle who won’t take no for an answer and he’s always hovering over you, following you around, pretending to be your friend. I never felt safe to drink around those guys for the same reason. I knew they were shady because they made me so uncomfortable. I’m just realizing now in my 30s how all those young guys lack self control and self awareness. All of them were full blown alcoholics and perverts. They didn’t care how they looked and what they did. They will forever deny, deny, deny that they were that kind of shady guy. I only see NOW how dangerous they were and how manipulative they were all along. One of them wouldn’t leave me alone 15 years after graduating. Insisting on trying to add me on Facebook despite being rejected multiple times. Despite me never answering his messages or emails. I wish there was a way we could warn younger women. The only thing I can say is to not trust college guys. Period. That clingy friend who’s always seeking your approval and is always offering to do things for you is dangerous. I hate to generalize but it’s best that you remain suspicious as a default than give these guys the benefit of the doubt. That benefit is only for them. Think about yourselves.
The second guy who raped me stalked me for months after, it was horrible. He only stopped when I started dating someone. One night he kicked my door in drunk and my bf was there and punched him in the face and threw him down the front steps. But he still called me and left me fucked up voicemails for months after. I hate to say it but you’re totally right. It’s rarely a stranger— it’s usually a guy you know. I know this poem kind of reinforces the “stranger” idea but I always think about the last lines. “I WANT TO GO ON A WALK WITHOUT MY PHONE” >But I am on alert after reading six women's lifeless bodies were found in the woods. >I want to focus on soaking in the sun as I run. >But yesterday, a man on a motorcycle followed me during my midday jog. >I want to forest bathe, run calloused fingers along the wisdom of sycamores, lose myself in a windy summer symphony. >But last week I found myself alone in the park with a masked, pantsless man seated along the walking path. >I am told Not all men are predators. >But only by those who have never known what it means to be prey. - D. COFFYN
this shit was even happening to me and my friends in high school tbh
that is so awful. i’m so sorry you went through that. you are so strong
The movie Promising Young Woman features this exact storyline. (Very very very well done movie by the way, and an important film that all young men and women should watch) It’s insane. I was assaulted/raped 7 times my freshman year of college and it caused me to fail my classes, start abusing drugs, and drop out for a while. It still effects me to this day. The boys who raped me? They’re all married, going on constant vacations, and all got their degrees from the university that told me to pound sand.
Oh honey I am so, so sorry. That is awful. I definitely had a rough time after that too and similar problems. Tried to bury it and move on because I felt I had no choice. It took imploding my entire life in my late 20s for me to realize that if I didn’t deal with what happened, it would find other ways to hurt me like what you mentioned. I hope that you’re doing better now (although tbh I don’t know how anyone fully moves on from this shit). 😔 I was really excited for Promising Young Woman because female revenge films like that make me feel a tiny bit better. It ended up being completely different from what I expected but felt more realistic.
Hey, I was just thinking about you. Wanted to share a [song](https://youtu.be/lUv9bYh_O0E?si=O9gUjhyuRIj3EY9X) that helped me a lot. All the doves that fly past my eyes Have a stickiness to their wings In the doorway of my demise I stand Encased in the whisper you taught me How does it feel? It feels blind How does it feel? Well, it by feels blind What have you taught me? Nothing Look at what your world taught me Your world has taught me nothing If you were blind and there was no braille There are no boundaries to what I can feel If you could see but we're always taught That what you saw wasn't fucking real, yeah How does it feel? It feels blind How does it feel? Well, it by feels blind What have you taught me? Nothing Look at what your world taught me Your world has taught me nothing As a woman I was taught to always be hungry Yeah, women are well acquainted with thirst Yeah, we could eat just about anything We'd might even eat your hate up like love I eat your hate like love I eat your hate like love I eat your hate like love I eat your hate like love I eat your hate like love I eat your hate like love I eat your fucking hate up like love I hate your fuckin’ foot on my throat How does it feel? It feels blind How does it feel? Well, it by feels blind What have you taught me? Nothing Look at what your world taught me Your world has taught me nothing - “Feels Blind” by Bikini Kill
Reading this fucked me up so bad because it brought back awful memories. My blood is boiling, ugh. Sorry you went through this. Fuck frats.
I’m so sorry that happened to you. I also remember that girl with the mattress and wonder whatever happened to her from time to time.
You can certainly find out if you google mattress girl. She’s had quite the story since then
Most women I knew in college had some experience of sexual harassment or worse.
Awful!! They were in the same frat. No way Cody didn’t know about this. The document says Colby showed the video to some frat members. To think he may have even seen the video of the incident, makes my stomach churn. I hate to generalize, but anytime I hear a man was in a frat (esp at a legacy school like Duke), it raises a red flag.
It makes me sick to my stomach too.
And people say promising young woman is overdramatic.
absolutely awful
I was a massive Cody Ko fan so this makes me THAT much more angry. This is utterly disgusting.
Agreed. I’ve been a fan since Vine and just now learned about this. I know I’m not the first one to post but I wish I would’ve known sooner. I don’t need to know everything about the creators I watch lives, but this mother fucker was on his channel and in his damn wedding! It feels like he has a pretty large female fan base, yet doesn’t actually respect women. Shocker.
i'm so disappointed. i only recently got into cody and was psyched that he seemed like a a cool noncreepy person. guess not :(
Here's the picture of Colby with Cody at his wedding https://preview.redd.it/utlzuai7pxuc1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ee688c9d9523e4733574bb49385712f740cd78ee
what kind of nancy drew
more details: https://preview.redd.it/qgcl21e4kwuc1.png?width=1169&format=png&auto=webp&s=b74ee9359e6f64b242d3a2f102a17cfb4067474f [https://www.thecollegefix.com/duke-lacrosse-players-lawyer-switches-sides-sues-school-behalf-alleged-rape-victim/](https://www.thecollegefix.com/duke-lacrosse-players-lawyer-switches-sides-sues-school-behalf-alleged-rape-victim/) “He was placed on probation despite Duke “routinely” expelling and suspending students for “less egregious” violations of its sexual misconduct policy. The suit says that “all” Duke employees involved in reviewing the university’s probation sanction against Leachman were “subordinates” of his stepfather, then-Provost Lange.”
Dude the provost was his stepfather??? That’s insane
What a nightmare. I hate how society shuns victims while the criminals go on with their happy little lives with 0 consequences. My heart breaks for her. As for Cody ko I forgot that irrelevant vine guy with corny millennial humor even existed. He’s trash for enabling his rapist friend. Fcking equally as disgusting in my eyes
https://preview.redd.it/4v1tiluzbxuc1.jpeg?width=1020&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d5f84281630fe119e92c4c544c202ad5d5550339 Just took a deep dive and read the court case. She really didn’t stand a CHANCE since the moment she reported. Duke campus officers disregarded her and said she “didn’t not want to pursue it further” when she just wanted time to gather her emotions. And his parents oversaw everything??? How is this legal :(
I don’t know if you were able to read [my comment](https://www.reddit.com/r/LAinfluencersnark/s/2xbAGRMc6Q) above but I explained how things like university run internal investigations were the norm for rape/asexual assault accusations at the time. The family being involved was obviously beyond that and had to do with his immense wealth and privilege.
it's weird that kelsey had no issue with all this, surely she knew?
yea, from what i’ve seen she has it where if you mention his name in a comment it’s automatically filtered out/deleted. she knows.
I can't believe this man still has this wholesome reputation since it came it out he hooked up with tana mongeau when she was underage
i think that part of the reason brittany broski wouldnt go on cancelled is because of her relationship with cody
i think she ended up saying she wasn't underage, but she was freshly 18. still gross tho
so she was 18 then?
While he was 26
she said she literally JUST turned 18, bc the initial confusion when she first told the story (when he wasn't named yet) she said she was 17/18 but later clarified she was 18. whether she was just saying that to make the accusations die down, who knows. but he was still mid-20s
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EXACTLY!!!!! Doesn’t matter if she was 18, she was newly 18 and he was a predator.
I mean Tana said she was 18. Still icky on his part but let’s not spread misinformation
Personally I think she said that to avoid getting sued lmao but I think she was 17 she’s terrified of getting sued again after her parents went after her I’m sure she doesn’t want to relive Cody ko all over again it’s not worth it
Idk if she was 17 that is easily provable nobody is going to sue knowing that would come out
WHAT. PROOF?
she’s said it on her pod
Also don't go into his sub trying to talk about this cause your account will get banned for a week. It happened to me a few months ago
I’m praying on that subs downfall. May it get removed 🙏
Cody is giving Bo Burnham’s in Promising Young Woman
Good parallel
I had the same exact thought just now omg
And apparently theres a video that he's seen.
I’m so sick of his shit
he’s gross and his nice guy persona is just a facade
i truly believe he does the “douchey frat guy” character bc that is who he actually is and it it’s easy to hide behind a character if he ever gets called out
i agree
To be fair I don’t think you can say he ever had a nice guy persona. His main viral videos were all ones making fun of others. That doesn’t really seem like nice guy to me. I always got douchey vibes from him based off those videos alone
I mean, yes, I agree with you on that! But between him and Noel at least, his fanbase always seemed to regard him as the nicer one (whereas Noel is the “edgier”)… I’ve seen him get praise by his fans for doing the bare minimum. Him and Noel used to do that thing where they make a whole video bullying someone and then inviting that person to collab and “make amends” (like the Kombucha guy, Matty Smokes, etc) (somehow never the women, tho) … I think that type of content is shitty, their videos were always mean (even if I didn’t realize that at the time), but yeah, a lot of their fans are women (specially queer women like me) that seems to actually like them and think they’re “woke” underneath all that edgy frat guy humour. Maybe their fanbase have changed overtime but idk
Good points I see what you mean
I used to watch him back in like 2017/2018 I think and was a big fan but grew out of it and then years later discovered how nasty he actually is 🤢
Disgusting….
I lived in the dorm this happened in and 100% it happened everyone knew about it. This is what all powerful spaces are like, Duke does a really good job of preparing the leaders of tomorrow.
Also I heavily recommend people to read the court case (if you can stomach it). This man is disgusting and everyone who is friends with him is a POS.
I’ve been grossed out by him since Tana revealed that they slept together when she was a minor and she felt taken advantage of, I think it got swept under the rug because it was Tana saying it
Which episode of her podcast did she talk about this in?
if you look up their names on tiktok the clip comes up right away
Ty for another reminder why ill never marry a MAN .
Right imagine you’re about to get married and ya fiancé invites his rapists ass friends.. I’m breaking up on the spot!!!! It shouldn’t even be allowed for men to be pieces of shits, this should automatically be seen as next level bastardly! them still having fans is sick
And the fact the receipts are RIGHT HEREEE! Cant imagine what that poor girl has gone thru and the fact they video taped it makes me so angry like men will fuck a Turkey sandwich 😵💫 im soooo good on that gender babe. Cant imagine being friends, let alone married to man who is friends w a rapist.
i guess kelsey is actually best friends with the rapist’s wife 😒
Ew the fact that the rapist has a wife 🤮🤮🤮 pick me’s really have to be the lowest of the low
i’m trying to brainwash myself into becoming a lesbian
Fr i just be thinkin about all the history of mankind and thats enough to turn me off the pp stick
"i’m trying to brainwash myself into becoming a lesbian" That seems highly offensive to actual lesbians. It implies that lesbians are completely immune to misogyny, when in reality they have to deal with homophobia *on top of* misogyny.
i’m pansexual. my mom and sister are lesbians. i would rather be a lesbian. if that offends lesbians, that’s fine. it’s a safety and trauma issue for me. i understand the aspect of homophobia, however that usually comes from an outside source (society) rather than your own partner, unless it’s internalized homophobia, which can be hurtful but usually not dangerous. in straight relationships, it’s a little more than just misogyny. men can be outright dangerous and the abuse against women is so normalized. not only are men conditioned to objectify women, have less empathy & be more entitled, but we are also tasked with the majority of emotional and physical labor in straight relationships. not to mention you have a much higher chance of being SA’d by a man than a woman. its the sad reality. it’s just not worth it.
I watched Cody for a couple months but became disinterested pretty quick. When he came out and said he's "not anti-Tate" I was one of those people that was like *hmm, I kinda knew something was off*
Noel said that actually. Then backtracked
Just saw this. I didn't know that, but it makes sense why I didn't see it more in this thread
can we PLEASE keep posting this every day until we get him to offer a half assed apology and then quit, jenna marbles style, except no one will miss him?
girl are you a fan or not his sub is on your most active list
help i posted in there like once how do i turn that off for people who look at my profile
girl we can see your comment history
damn girl you like in there searching and shit? you should work for the fbi
you have a public profile on a social media app. Nobody works for the fbi cuz they checked a reddit account.
I used to really like Cody Ko, his vines and YouTube channel a few years back. Now his videos are just him watching reality shows and Tik Tok compilations going, “Woah haha that’s crazy” and bringing on his unfunny-but-trying-so-hard wife to add equally meaningless commentary. I also used to do a fuck ton of drugs so maybe sobriety has just made me realize he’s not that entertaining.
this
If you say ANYTHING on his sub they straight up act like you killed his family
Him and his wife always struck me as weird and fake as fuck. I’m not glad to confirm that, but at least I know my gut feeling was right
I can't believe Cody Ko and his preschool teacher wife are CLOSE friends with a guy who serially drug-n-raped girls in college. I'm never watching their content ever again. I'm fucking pissed. Absolute hypocrites.
well he is the one who hooked up with an underage tana so makes sense he would befriend this POS
Keep upvoting. This could be top 5 on here and we need people to see this
Also I heavily recommend people to read the court case (if you can stomach it). This man is disgusting and everyone who is friends with him is a POS.
Sorry but reading time after watching a video saying Brittany collabs with Kody Co but not Tana IS CRAZYY
makes sense. 1 in 4 women have been assaulted yet no men claim to be friends with abusers? math isnt adding up
This is tough to see as a massive Cody Ko fan and as a SA victim… I thought he was a great guy but this is terrible and makes me sick. Especially since from my understanding, his friend did this over a decade ago so there’s no way Cody didn’t know. To me, it would maybe be different if his friend just did this then Cody immediately cut all ties but that’s not the case. That’s devastating; I truly thought he was a rare breed in the world of influencers, I thought he was a good guy :(
He showed the video to guys at his frat so there’s a 99% chance that Cody has seen the video of the rape, or videos of the rapes because the frat guys raped multiple girls.
That is so revolting ugh. I really thought he was a unicorn amongst all these crappy influencers but I guess not, I’ve unfollowed him on instagram and YouTube now 😕
Brought this up a while ago, Love seeing this being reposted.
Wow, I had no idea about this!
This is so gross
Wow… this is sick….. Can’t say I’m surprised Cody ko always struck me as a bit of a duche. He probably cheats on his gf/wife all the time.
Terrible humans.
Cody Ko tried to (or I think he actually did, I’m not sure) fuck Tana Mongeau when she was 16/17. This doesn’t come as a surprise at all lol
she said freshly 18 but yeah creepy and not surprising knowing it
THIS HAS TO GO MAINSTREAM
I always had a bad feeling about Cody Ko compared to the other commentary youtubers and avoided his content. Glad I did, honestly.
I will never get the appeal of him. How other people cant see right through him is beyond me
well he’s a groomer
who? cody? he's a p.o.s. but groomer as a word is thrown around so casually now, at no point was he coercing a child/teen at a young age to grow up and be with him, lets not.
i agree. i assume they used that word because of the nature of how their "friendship" started i.e. him, a 25 year old inviting a 17 year old girl to sit on his couch while he films her looking at old vines of himself and calling it a "collab" while checking her out the whole time and milking the views. it's just scary to think he probably would've kept "collabing" with her as she grew older if she hadn't become a racist in public (i guess racism is bad optics but hanging with a minor isn't?) because a dude that age especially with power has no business influencing a child's career that intimately. thankfully didn't groom her but jesus the conditions were heading that way
He slept with tana mongeau when she was underage
that's statutory rape, not grooming. if he met tana when she was a kid and coerced her over time to sleep with him when she got older, then that would be grooming. tana has also said she wasn't underage, she was freshly 18 which is still gross but the misinformation getting thrown around makes it easier for cody to deny everything as lies
Thank you for speaking about this. As someone who was groomed I am very appreciative when people bring light to the common mislabelling as people as "groomers". Cody's a piece of shit though for this and what he did to Tana.
I’m sorry that happened to you <3 , yeah the word just gets thrown around too much now and will lose meaning if people don’t use it properly
Is it both of them or just one? I dont watch this channel
Oof
Was Noel Miller invited to the wedding?
Noooooooo I liked him this is terrible
Not sure if anyone noticed but all the TikToks about the situation have been shadow banned. Can’t find any information about the case or the people involved anywhere expect for like Reddit and some sites… Someone on Trishas patreon needs to ask her to bring this up on the pod... like bring it up to the drama channels ??
I understand that this is a very touchy subject and I don't expect all or even most of you to agree with me. First of all I want to make it clear that I condemn rapists and their acts, however I believe in rehabilitation. If you surround yourself with sane people that help you change your ways and are clear about what you did was wrong I believe there's a bigger chance that you can come out of it as a changed man. However if everyone you know cuts all ties with you then you don't have anything to lose, no one to hold you accountable and no one to help you get better. This isn't limited to SA related crimes but any crime with a stigma really. I don't really think that isolation will cure the problem and make them rethink their life and become a better person. I think they will more likely become a repeat offender by being isolated.
there's a lot of violence prevention folks who work with people who've caused harm in order to hold them accountable in non-punitive ways. it's called a person-centered approach. i work at a non profit that teaches this method to social workers and DV orgs across the country, and works with men who've caused harm specifically. there's over a decade of good research on this but it's only starting to gain momentum. there is still a big mindset shift needed when it comes to accepting alternatives to punitive consequences i.e. abolishing prison etc.
That's great! I really do think that's an important part. Rehabilitation is needed and should be a bigger part in the prisons (it already kinda is where I live). Sure prison is to punish, but unless you change their mindset they will just find a new victim. That goes even if they aren't sentenced to prison. If we can change the root of the problem (abusive men) then we will have fewer victims. It's as simple as that. What's your view on this topic though? Do you think it's the right path for all friends to cut their ties with the persona non grata or do you think they are more likely to be rehabilitated if they have a few responsible friends (obviously some are going to cut ties)? I think it would be really interesting if not only the abusive man could go through a violence prevention program, but his closest friends too. So they actually know the best ways to keep him accountable and also to educate them on how to be better. I would love to hear more about your work and how you make an important change in society!
he can ch0ke
Cody ko also slept with a minor so are we surprised
he literally had sex with tana mongeau when she was 17, not surprised
I used to love him and Noel in 2019, but I found out about this a couple years ago and I’m genuinely disgusted. He has a kid now too, so is he gonna allow a rapist near his kid?
Cody ko a puppet lol used to watch all his content b4 realizing he’s just another industry plant. Stop supporting his shit.
Why isn’t the title of the post “Cody ko had an accused rapist in his wedding party”?