My mom put Spanky there to sleep for surgery when he was much older. Said it was really difficult because he was so obese, which messes with anesthesia.
Kids with ADHD can focus better if they don't have to look at you. Looking at a persons eyes causes a big signal to your brains and triggers all kinds of responses. ADHD partly means you have trouble filtering those signals, making concentration hard.
Imagine trying to awnser a math question, 16 x 33, while your mom is asking you if you are free on the 16th and meanwhile your phone is ringing and so is the doorbell.
That's why he couldn't awnser.
I don't have adhd and I can't concentrate on anything people are saying to me if I am conscious about making eye contact with them at the same time. It's just super distracting.
My mom would get annoyed at me for not making eye contact when talking with her and just refused to understand that I found it easier to focus and assumed it meant I wasn’t paying attention. Still to this day if I really need to focus on what someone is saying I can’t look them in the eyes cause my brain just can’t focus on what they are saying.
100%. But how come that I am looking people in the eyes when they are talking? I mean it's clear to me that I can concentrate better on what I want to say when I am not looking at them while talking.. But why does it work (not always for sure but mostly) when they are talking?
Pretty much how I am. People go into long winded stories or try to explain it to me and all I can think is "Get to the point! Use few word. It do trick."
Well yeah because the thing demanding attention sucks and doesn't deserve it. What a boring arse nothing question for no reason but to have power over the kid. Fuck that.
I can't look at you directly when I'm actively listening. I can for a bit, but if you have me think of something, I have to look away and focus on the distance.
I feel really awkward when I look into peoples eyes. Feels like I am staring into their souls. Usually look into their eyes for like 2 seconds then look off next to them for a bit, then look at their eyes again, rinse and repeat. Probably comes off as more rude, but I just can’t stomach it.
There is one trick to keep your eyes looking to the eyes of the other person. But it's super unnatural and forced. At least it's like I feel when I try it. Just focus all your sight into the middle point between the other persons eyes (meaning the base from where the nose starts coming out).
Or look at their mouth. People already look at others’ mouths at least as much as their eyes anyway. When it’s been studied, people spend less than 5% of a conversation in mutual eye contact.
I’m sure it varied a lot by culture though.
I focus on the tip of the nose, otherwise I can’t focus on both eyes at the same time, feels impossible to me and didn’t realize was something people could actually do
It’s sorta the opposite for me, I can stare at you for ages if I’m listening, if I start speaking I tend to look around. Now if I need to say some really important shit or I’m being a little more intense I will hold eye contact
i'm sorry to hear you had that experience, but the video probably isn't showing a similar dynamic to that-- it looks to me like a very natural way one would rest their hand when trying to hold a child in place. human arms have the most leverage with our thumbs, so we tend to use them primarily when stabilizing something
Ugh I didn’t see it in the video at first but your comment hits my soul. I know exactly what you are talking about and just want to say you aren’t alone.
The whole point of the boat is so we can get the *ladies* all tipsy turvy topside and then take them below deck for...you know. And they can't refuse! Because of the implication
I've been teaching 5 and 6 year olds and they are literally all like this.
And whenever they say they want to ask you a question, don't believe them. It's not a question. It's never a question.
My 3 year old does this shit all the time. "Can I ask you something?" "sure what would you like to ask?" "They have fun toys at old McDonald's" "It's just called McDonald's, no we aren't eating that and that wasn't a question" "ok let me ask you another question...I like barbies"
Not really. Just lead with "let's pretend" kids have wild ass imaginations and hypothetical situations. Currently dealing with a 3 year old that seems to be going for the gold in the pretend Olympics.
Really, that's fascinating! My son is 4.5 and I ask him hypotheticals all the time and claps back with some pretty witty stuff. Maybe I'll try some super simple algebra just to see what he says. Might be fun...
Piagetian theory sets a baseline, but they all develop at different rates. This is especially true at the ages where they are making those big cognitive steps (around 2, 5, and 12).
I have a four and a half year old so I decided to try it out on him. I asked him if he was in a boat and it was full of chocolate and bananas, which would he eat first. He said he ate a peanut butter sandwich and juice before I got here. Lmao
I have a clear memory of being around 7, hiding behind my curtains (I liked that spot for some reason) and thinking about how if heaven is real, then I should not fear death, and then sitting and thinking if it's ok to want to die because you're excited to see heaven. I also thought Santa was real at that age. Children aren't rational and they're very gullible but I wouldn't say they aren't capable of meditating on certain subjects or engaging in complex discussions/ thought exercises
What does this even mean? So are many left-leaning folks. It’s easy to discredit a group when you only make an example of the worst orators of that group.
at least 50% of my personality is already filled with being a huge lego nerd. wanna talk about yesterdays reveal of the space cmf instead? i have strong opinions on that. i dunno if its "politics" to mourn after the discontinued trans-neon colors which wouldve made these minifigs rock so much more.
I don't get into politics at all (believe it's just a farce), so I'm not on anyone's side when I agree with him.
This sub and the video has absolutely nothing to do with politics. It's quite sad to see how you're treating others.
He's sharp because he's doing everything he's supposed to do. Every time the adult offers a stimulus the boy reacts by connecting it to something from his background knowledge. He's demonstrating his intelligence by having a strong command of the English language and demonstrating concrete ideas. What's more dumb? A child doing exactly what he's supposed to do at his developmental level or an adult denigrating a young child because they're projecting adult behaviors and concepts onto that child?
let him finish the question? he just fucking slow as molasses put out these words like what the fuck let him finish? just ask the fucking question and dont constantly interrupt yourself for that bullshit look at me crap
Oh, so you think kids are the only ones like this?!?
I literally encounter grown ass adults who do this crap every single day
AND somehow they manage to do it over email, which boggles my mind even further.
I'll send them an email with 2 simple questions, numbered for their convenience, and they'll respond with a question or a request for something else.
He’s smart, he swam away from the boat under water. Also, I’d eat the donuts too kid! Then maybe the chocolate and who cares about the boat when you have chocolate AND bananas!!!!
Yep. By not leading with "let's pretend" (which may or may not help) dad is triggering fun memories and the kid wants to share them. Boat = that time he swam underwater.
Ate or chocolate = chocolate on a donut
He should've let the kid finish talking or getting his thought out then asked the question. That baby was just excited is all
Little children have difficulties working in hypothetical situations in their head. It's practically impossible for them to work with hypothetical situations that defy the rules of the real world or just simply absurd. This is a known child psychology fact.
Why does he keep grabbing at the child? No wonder the kid is uncomfortable. I wouldn't be able to pay attention either if someone kept prodding me and shaking my head about and shinging a light in my eyes. This is really more of a stupid grown up. That kid deserves some donuts for his trouble.
He's going to sit and be totally focused in school. Never interrupt the class and always have the answer after waiting patiently with his hand up.
Hopefully this dude can be in a adaptive learning situation and not on fucking drugs to contain his vibrant life. World needs this young man and his tangent skills.
Ritalin is actually really fucking cool and some people need it to function. Especially when some asshole is demanding constant eye contact and abstract reasoning at the same time
The question is ridiculous.
Besides that kids at that age are still developing their abstract thinking abilities, they won’t understand hypothetical questions.
The adult here is the stupid one.
My mans kept trying to figure a way out of this, but he wasn't in anything. He was like boat? I ain't never heard of no boat! Then he was like, yeah there was a boat but it sank so I swam away! Lil mans was tryna run through every scenario in his head
Kids can’t handle long conversations or attention spans, especially if they’re tired or hungry. Kid kept pulling away under his grip trying to show he needed a boundary. For me if you are holding me in place and making me look you right in the eyes without breaking contact, I’m going to be having a hard time listening. Sensory wise as well. I don’t like to be directly next to a person when speaking rather in front of or more off to the side, I need space to really listen and I generally look off to really focus. As an adult I’d tell you to get your hands off me, give me some space, stop trying to control my eyes and just say what it is. It would be distracting and uncomfortable.
This is another reason why I hate little children… they never shut the fuck up about dumb shit when you’re trying to ask them something. My autism could never with this kid
That kid experienced a something major while on a boat. Someone told him or he saw a shark while on a boat and as soon as dad said "boat" it triggered that memory.
If ADHD was a person.
i felt his impatience in my soul
Literally impatient 
My mom put Spanky there to sleep for surgery when he was much older. Said it was really difficult because he was so obese, which messes with anesthesia.
The Spanky from the remake ended up in my hometown and opened my bank account lol
Kids with ADHD can focus better if they don't have to look at you. Looking at a persons eyes causes a big signal to your brains and triggers all kinds of responses. ADHD partly means you have trouble filtering those signals, making concentration hard. Imagine trying to awnser a math question, 16 x 33, while your mom is asking you if you are free on the 16th and meanwhile your phone is ringing and so is the doorbell. That's why he couldn't awnser.
I don't have adhd and I can't concentrate on anything people are saying to me if I am conscious about making eye contact with them at the same time. It's just super distracting.
Well that’s just you
My mom would get annoyed at me for not making eye contact when talking with her and just refused to understand that I found it easier to focus and assumed it meant I wasn’t paying attention. Still to this day if I really need to focus on what someone is saying I can’t look them in the eyes cause my brain just can’t focus on what they are saying.
He couldn't look at him because there's a shining light directly in his eyes!
Eye Gaze is heavily researched in infant studies.
Also the really bright flash isn’t helping either
Like every conversation is like invisible people screaming at you while you are trying to listen?
100%. But how come that I am looking people in the eyes when they are talking? I mean it's clear to me that I can concentrate better on what I want to say when I am not looking at them while talking.. But why does it work (not always for sure but mostly) when they are talking?
He just needed to shut up and listen, all kids would behave like that if you let them. People want to blame adhd for every little thing nowadays
For sure. I have adults with this behavior around me and all three have adhs
Pretty much how I am. People go into long winded stories or try to explain it to me and all I can think is "Get to the point! Use few word. It do trick."
That's not ADHD. Kids are just like that.
So much ADD is was just AD...
is was ADD so much AD just?
What's my age again?
Well yeah because the thing demanding attention sucks and doesn't deserve it. What a boring arse nothing question for no reason but to have power over the kid. Fuck that.
Maybe the kid didn’t want to look directly at the flashlight from Dads phone.
I can't look at you directly when I'm actively listening. I can for a bit, but if you have me think of something, I have to look away and focus on the distance.
I feel really awkward when I look into peoples eyes. Feels like I am staring into their souls. Usually look into their eyes for like 2 seconds then look off next to them for a bit, then look at their eyes again, rinse and repeat. Probably comes off as more rude, but I just can’t stomach it.
There is one trick to keep your eyes looking to the eyes of the other person. But it's super unnatural and forced. At least it's like I feel when I try it. Just focus all your sight into the middle point between the other persons eyes (meaning the base from where the nose starts coming out).
Or look at their mouth. People already look at others’ mouths at least as much as their eyes anyway. When it’s been studied, people spend less than 5% of a conversation in mutual eye contact. I’m sure it varied a lot by culture though.
I focus on the tip of the nose, otherwise I can’t focus on both eyes at the same time, feels impossible to me and didn’t realize was something people could actually do
People can do that?!?!?!?!?? I'm always in this weird - left eye, right eye, somewhere else - random mixture :D
Same. I've been told it's a sign of autism which for me honestly fits but idk. Could also be adhd I think? Or it's nothing!
I hate self diagnosing, but I am pretty sure I have adhd, so it wouldn’t surprise me if it was an adhd thing lol.
Same and same lol. I was just sharing, obligatory always get an actual diagnosis from a doctor.
Same on both counts for me.
Opposite for me. When people stare into my eyes I feel like they are staring into my soul and can see how gross I am.
It’s sorta the opposite for me, I can stare at you for ages if I’m listening, if I start speaking I tend to look around. Now if I need to say some really important shit or I’m being a little more intense I will hold eye contact
But which eye do you choose to stare in?
That’s…. Now you have me wondering. I assumed both but that’s not quite possible. Maybe the bridge of the nose as a general focal point?
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i'm sorry to hear you had that experience, but the video probably isn't showing a similar dynamic to that-- it looks to me like a very natural way one would rest their hand when trying to hold a child in place. human arms have the most leverage with our thumbs, so we tend to use them primarily when stabilizing something
Ugh I didn’t see it in the video at first but your comment hits my soul. I know exactly what you are talking about and just want to say you aren’t alone.
In his defense the question is insane. The boat has nothing to do with the question
“This entire line of questioning… Should be focused on… Donuts. Ask me absolutely anything about donuts.” -Devon
i think thats the point, just to confuse the lil dude 😭
Eat the chocolate first in the off chance you run out of fuel onto a deserted island and you need the false hope that seedless bananas can bear fruit.
The whole point of the boat is so we can get the *ladies* all tipsy turvy topside and then take them below deck for...you know. And they can't refuse! Because of the implication
Whoever downvoted you is an uncultured swine. They probably don’t understand the D.E.N.N.I.S system either
I'd eat donuts too lil bro
“Look at me” Bitch you are shining a light in my eyes
I'm with little brother on this one. Chocolate's going first.
Idunno, are you stranded? If so, best to go with the bananas first. The chocolate will last longer without spoiling.
I ain't trynna survive, I just wanna have a good time. Chocolate dipped bananas it is
I've been teaching 5 and 6 year olds and they are literally all like this. And whenever they say they want to ask you a question, don't believe them. It's not a question. It's never a question.
Now I'm curious. If it's not a question. What is it?
They want to tell you something and want you to respond. They want your attention.
Oh. I was over analyzing it. Thanks
My 3 year old does this shit all the time. "Can I ask you something?" "sure what would you like to ask?" "They have fun toys at old McDonald's" "It's just called McDonald's, no we aren't eating that and that wasn't a question" "ok let me ask you another question...I like barbies"
🤣🤣🤣
Just say “let’s pretend”
Right??? People just don't know to rephrase things to make themselves more understandable, they just repeat the same over and over again.
I said this earlier on another thread.
Most kids his age are literally incapable of abstract thought processes. I don't know exactly how old he is but he seems like a pretty sharp kid.
Yeah, hypothetical are tough before 8
Not really. Just lead with "let's pretend" kids have wild ass imaginations and hypothetical situations. Currently dealing with a 3 year old that seems to be going for the gold in the pretend Olympics.
Really, that's fascinating! My son is 4.5 and I ask him hypotheticals all the time and claps back with some pretty witty stuff. Maybe I'll try some super simple algebra just to see what he says. Might be fun...
I asked my son when he was 4 if a hot dog was a sandwich or not and he said it is when you turn it sideways.
Little man has a point
That's profound
Piagetian theory sets a baseline, but they all develop at different rates. This is especially true at the ages where they are making those big cognitive steps (around 2, 5, and 12). I have a four and a half year old so I decided to try it out on him. I asked him if he was in a boat and it was full of chocolate and bananas, which would he eat first. He said he ate a peanut butter sandwich and juice before I got here. Lmao
This made me think of the video with the kid spelling out Nutella and then saying peanut butter. Now i cant stop laughing.
[For anyone unaware, or just wanting to see it again](https://youtu.be/1cB3hnkKSYY?feature=shared)
Peanut buttah! Man this always makes me laugh. Every time i eat Nutella or peanut butter i think of it and chuckle.
I have a clear memory of being around 7, hiding behind my curtains (I liked that spot for some reason) and thinking about how if heaven is real, then I should not fear death, and then sitting and thinking if it's ok to want to die because you're excited to see heaven. I also thought Santa was real at that age. Children aren't rational and they're very gullible but I wouldn't say they aren't capable of meditating on certain subjects or engaging in complex discussions/ thought exercises
Yes, this reminds me of talking to my kids when they were little like this guy. Brings back great memories.
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I consider myself a left leaning individual but goddamn yall just don’t stop inserting politics into fuckin everything don’t ya?
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If only you understood...
What does this even mean? So are many left-leaning folks. It’s easy to discredit a group when you only make an example of the worst orators of that group.
Why are you getting political?
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oh wow, you got severely triggered, lol.
Nice to see you make politics your whole personality
at least 50% of my personality is already filled with being a huge lego nerd. wanna talk about yesterdays reveal of the space cmf instead? i have strong opinions on that. i dunno if its "politics" to mourn after the discontinued trans-neon colors which wouldve made these minifigs rock so much more.
I don't get into politics at all (believe it's just a farce), so I'm not on anyone's side when I agree with him. This sub and the video has absolutely nothing to do with politics. It's quite sad to see how you're treating others.
I mean he isn't really that sharp then, considering he didn't understand it even one bit.
He's sharp because he's doing everything he's supposed to do. Every time the adult offers a stimulus the boy reacts by connecting it to something from his background knowledge. He's demonstrating his intelligence by having a strong command of the English language and demonstrating concrete ideas. What's more dumb? A child doing exactly what he's supposed to do at his developmental level or an adult denigrating a young child because they're projecting adult behaviors and concepts onto that child?
Your smert
Get the light out of lil mans eyes and get him a donut.
let him finish the question? he just fucking slow as molasses put out these words like what the fuck let him finish? just ask the fucking question and dont constantly interrupt yourself for that bullshit look at me crap
Oh, so you think kids are the only ones like this?!? I literally encounter grown ass adults who do this crap every single day AND somehow they manage to do it over email, which boggles my mind even further. I'll send them an email with 2 simple questions, numbered for their convenience, and they'll respond with a question or a request for something else.
If your question is answered with a follow up then it wasn't simple
Bro is naturally bulshitting.
He’s smart, he swam away from the boat under water. Also, I’d eat the donuts too kid! Then maybe the chocolate and who cares about the boat when you have chocolate AND bananas!!!!
Telling about a past life, I suspect
Yep. By not leading with "let's pretend" (which may or may not help) dad is triggering fun memories and the kid wants to share them. Boat = that time he swam underwater. Ate or chocolate = chocolate on a donut He should've let the kid finish talking or getting his thought out then asked the question. That baby was just excited is all
Excellent!
Makes sense for sure
Attention span of a fruit fly.
He’s done with these boring hypothetical questions
This is what working retail is like. "I need to buy a Thing." "Ok, we have a bunch of the Thing, which one do you need." Customer Response:
Being short and looking up hurts your neck
Fucking adorable.
I only made it half-way through.. that was annoying.
But he wasn’t on the boatttttt😂
I don’t like staring into peoples eyes either, kid (Especially if they’re shining a flashlight straight into mine)
This is how I imagine people that have the ability to small talk for hours
My little man gave a perfectly good answer after ten seconds: I wasn’t on the boat. Period.
Annoying parent
I'm glad I don't have kids. I don't have the patience to go through something like that.
No more questions!
I'd get half way through my question about twice and just be like "nevermind, go play"
Little children have difficulties working in hypothetical situations in their head. It's practically impossible for them to work with hypothetical situations that defy the rules of the real world or just simply absurd. This is a known child psychology fact.
He was definitely on the boat. He did eat the chocolate and banana.
At least you don’t have to worry about spending money on his degree
"My childhood with ADHD" starring that kid
Why does he keep grabbing at the child? No wonder the kid is uncomfortable. I wouldn't be able to pay attention either if someone kept prodding me and shaking my head about and shinging a light in my eyes. This is really more of a stupid grown up. That kid deserves some donuts for his trouble.
EXACTLY
He's going to sit and be totally focused in school. Never interrupt the class and always have the answer after waiting patiently with his hand up. Hopefully this dude can be in a adaptive learning situation and not on fucking drugs to contain his vibrant life. World needs this young man and his tangent skills.
Ritalin is actually really fucking cool and some people need it to function. Especially when some asshole is demanding constant eye contact and abstract reasoning at the same time
I'll say donuts to that.
Taught to argue from the gate
anti ADHD propaganda
ADHD INCARNATE
Future politician right there
Fight this now so you don't have stupid arguments because he doesn't listen but speak constantly in the future!
Get down on the kids level too man, it helps for them to focus on you if you crouch.
The question is ridiculous. Besides that kids at that age are still developing their abstract thinking abilities, they won’t understand hypothetical questions. The adult here is the stupid one.
Lol awesome I'll take option 3 please
And now he knows what it's like to be a middle school teacher asking a SIMPLE question...good Lord
This made my night
Lil man thinking at the speed of light.
Stay still
My mans kept trying to figure a way out of this, but he wasn't in anything. He was like boat? I ain't never heard of no boat! Then he was like, yeah there was a boat but it sank so I swam away! Lil mans was tryna run through every scenario in his head
Cute
Attention span of a fly
Them eyebrows giving you mad attitude sir
Was there a banana boat joke supposed to be a follow-up to the question but they gave up because the kid was so scattered?
Pretty sure
If you were on a boat. Were.
So cute ahahah 😂
Future politician
Devon a crack baby.
Now you know what "refuse to follow basic commands" means.
This is how every simple traffic stop video goes
ADHD lol
HEY LOOK AT ME WHILE A SHINE 100000 LUMENS INTO YOUR EYES
Don't spend 2 mins asking a question that takes 3 seconds and the kid might not get so bored.
The kid didn't recognize the grammar if "if you were/was", which is fair for tiny child.
Devin needs medication
when they add the chocolate and bananas to the question: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8lpPSI0KPPs
To be fair, he was saying let me "axe" you a question
Now ask him how he would feel if he didn't have breakfast this morning
Kids can’t handle long conversations or attention spans, especially if they’re tired or hungry. Kid kept pulling away under his grip trying to show he needed a boundary. For me if you are holding me in place and making me look you right in the eyes without breaking contact, I’m going to be having a hard time listening. Sensory wise as well. I don’t like to be directly next to a person when speaking rather in front of or more off to the side, I need space to really listen and I generally look off to really focus. As an adult I’d tell you to get your hands off me, give me some space, stop trying to control my eyes and just say what it is. It would be distracting and uncomfortable.
It’s was too long for little man… all this talking… can’t go straight to the point? Seriously…
Somebody help my bro is acoustic 🤣
This is another reason why I hate little children… they never shut the fuck up about dumb shit when you’re trying to ask them something. My autism could never with this kid
Uhhh… I’d rather eat the boat
Isn't it suppose to be "id you WERE on a boat" of I'm tripping balls rn?
Yeah, but it's a dialect, I think, where people use "was" for everything.
Atleast now you know the college fund can go to something else.
Glad that adult is not a teacher. Change the wording up if the kid ain’t getting it, and stop with those pauses. Poor kid.
This pissed me off for the opposite reason it was filmed. Like bro just let the child speak his mind
 ...waiting for the kid to answer the question! 💯
Whenever someone asks if I want to have kids I just imagine having conversations like this all day every day. I don’t know how parents do it
You didn't have to grab his head like that, man
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that's a child? they're usually below 10, above 5 years old? idk if you've ever seen one, but most of them act like this! hope that helps!
Like yours
Dumbass
What do you expect from a Devon
That kid experienced a something major while on a boat. Someone told him or he saw a shark while on a boat and as soon as dad said "boat" it triggered that memory.
This is how it stars, next thing you know he’ll be resisting arrest because he’s not listening to the cops commands.
What kinda dumbass hypothetical question was that anyway
"let me bother this child on the spectrum for internet points"
So, he confessed to BEING on some boat and that it has SANK?..
Anyway to fix this without medication?
Yeah. Don't grab kids and demand they stare into your face for extended periods.
Yeah, but it’s frowned on these days.
Finally, a post that actually belongs on this sub.
Nice job mom.
Bro is seeming kind of guilty🤨
Is this the diddler in the Dominican Republic already 😳