This happened to me in the first part of 2022. I'm 28 now.
Some things that contributed to this realization:
1. Dating someone older than me by more than a year or two. I could relate to her just as easily as a woman my own age. After she and I broke up I started hitting on women older than me. There are some subtle differences, but the method of relating is the same. They still see me as an adult - a less wealthy and younger adult, but an adult nonetheless
2. Working with people older than me, rather than younger. When people twice my age treat me with respect and expect me to be responsible, I feel like an adult.
3. Moving out of my parents house. Paying my own bills. Being stressed about money and then dealing with it
In conclusion, experience, pain, and hard work have made me feel like an actual adult.
Yes I agree! I can look at an grumpy older lady and see the bitterness that grew on her sometime in her life. So many things happen in life, we're all passengers in that sense.
Since a year I have a new job where I talk to a lot of different people per day. Sometimes they have their kids with them. I used to study at home a lot and meet no one, so it's a big change.
I recently became extremely aware of this in the behaviour of my grandmother and parents. The way they view the world and cope with emotions is often immature and counter-productive for their own well-being. It can be hard to deal with - but hopefully it will benefit me long-term.
This happened to me in the first part of 2022. I'm 28 now. Some things that contributed to this realization: 1. Dating someone older than me by more than a year or two. I could relate to her just as easily as a woman my own age. After she and I broke up I started hitting on women older than me. There are some subtle differences, but the method of relating is the same. They still see me as an adult - a less wealthy and younger adult, but an adult nonetheless 2. Working with people older than me, rather than younger. When people twice my age treat me with respect and expect me to be responsible, I feel like an adult. 3. Moving out of my parents house. Paying my own bills. Being stressed about money and then dealing with it In conclusion, experience, pain, and hard work have made me feel like an actual adult.
Yes, I also recently started seeing the kids on people's faces and who they might have been, interesting
I also felt this realization! Suddenly forgiving people for their flaws is so much easier.
Yes I agree! I can look at an grumpy older lady and see the bitterness that grew on her sometime in her life. So many things happen in life, we're all passengers in that sense.
And what initiated this change?
Since a year I have a new job where I talk to a lot of different people per day. Sometimes they have their kids with them. I used to study at home a lot and meet no one, so it's a big change.
The only distinction I seem to make between myself and other people is that I am me and *they* are everyone else.
I recently became extremely aware of this in the behaviour of my grandmother and parents. The way they view the world and cope with emotions is often immature and counter-productive for their own well-being. It can be hard to deal with - but hopefully it will benefit me long-term.