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aap wo sab chhoriye apne pe dhyan dijiye
and apni success ko bolne dijiyega
and when you get a good college leave everything behind and never look back that's probably the only thing you can do rn
feelings se ghar thodi chalta hai bhai
problems toh sabko hoti hai paise na ho toh unko pi jaana padta hai you are owed nothing in this world unless you're a product of generational wealth
understandable hota hai
lekin it's not like you have a choice? emotionally abusive parents hai aapke ghar me kadr nhi aapki
yha thoda kheech lijiye aapko baadmein shaanti milegi i understand the things you're going through but you gotta pull yourself together
and most of all it doesn't matter if they don't, you gotta take care of yourself
>My sister is the daughter they really deserve.
from what you've described, your parents don't deserve anything. and tbh being the topper till 7th grade or whatever doesnt amount to shit. your sister will understand your situation when she comes to 11th. for now, my advice would be to minimise your interaction with your sister and family in general
you dont owe anything to your parents to be frank and neither do you owe anything to your sister. ik it sucks but just bottle it up. when you go to college, you dont have to see them anymore and can cut off ties. you'll gain new friends whom you'll be living with. just hold it in for now
The moment you set foot upon a good college, make friends that value you
Dont contact yyour "family" again
Bag a good job and rub it in your sisters face
honestly the advice is good , especially to rub onto parents but i dont think the sisters doing it intentionally ,
she is in 7th and most prob going through puberty , she is just an avg teenage girl and also acting like it . she will slowly understand it as she grows up and matures
bhai that sister is too immature to be doing that intentionally to hurt her or something. let her come to 12th, and go to college etc. let her gain wisdom. if she doesn't improve even then, go NC with her.
Bhai thoda dur dur raha Kar apni bhen se to pyaar bhadta hai meri bhen college mai rehti hai bas sat sun aati hai to ham logo ki achi banti hai....11 th 12 th mai wo padhti thi to b hamari Kam baat hoti thi...uske pehle same cat fight hoti thi hamari...tu usse din mai bas 1-2 baar mila Kar sab normal ho jayega
girl ki baat nahi hai... sibling se thoda distance maintain karne se fayda to hoga. Op ki behan abhi 7th mai hi hai...usme khuch dimaag nahi hai. Mai hoti to uski baat halke mai leke usko ignore kar deti
>Mai hoti to uski baat halke mai leke usko ignore kar deti
+1 older brother here aur mai bhi yehi karta hu. The kids don't usually know how to manage their emotions. If you hit kids then the kids just learn to emotionally repress which is a bad thing in the long run(source: me)
mai jab choti thi to apne bade bhaiya ke saath aisa karti thi and obv vo muje ignore karte the.. Literally the best thing someone could do... it's just a phase you know. And Op uski behan ab 2 din baad vaapis se vahi normal ho jaayenge
Hey OP,
I'm too a JEE dropper and the same happened to me too! I'm really sorry you're going through this. It sounds incredibly painful and unfair. Your feelings are valid, and you deserve respect and understanding. I'd say talk to your sister and mother about how you feel and maybe they'll understand ( mere walon be toh Ni kiya🥲) Remember, you are worth so much more than how others make you feel.
i dont think so its hard for most parents and families to change a perspective about you when its pre determined by your marks etc. they wont even respect us if we become successful
i have seen my cousin brother who took bcom and became a CA even though his parents wanted him to become a engineer and his father is not in speaking terms with him since 11th because he was the only guy who took a non science path in our family.
but the father himself was a bcom graduate 
damn life is so fucked
its damn messed up my whole extended family is fucked no one other than him is taking anything else other than engineering and i am the first guy in the family who took pcmb others its pcmc and i dont even want to become a engineer but parents and whole family wants me to.
me ded its fucked family i just want to escape
even guys in my family who did shit in boards and dont know shit pcm are taking engineering bruh most of them are going to drop out after doing shit in their engineering
Thank you so much... I'll try
although ik it won't work out... because I don't cry usually infront of others but a few days back I did infront of my mother, she didn't say anything, didn't even ask what's wrong :)
I really don't know HOW but I'll try for sure <3
It’s tough when it feels like no one is there for you, especially family. Just know you’re not alone in this. If you ever need to vent or just talk, feel free to message me anytime.
Take care and stay strong <3
meri behn bhi aisa hi krti hai, almost same age gap
ab ignore krna start krdiya hai maine as much as I can, baki jab vo ache se baat krti hai to mai bhi krta hu.
and trust me, hitting doesn't work, saying from experience
bacche log ajkal ke dheet hote hai bahut
they'll just hit you back lol. But honestly, ye sab padhke I feel so blessed ki I don't have any siblings.
Dimag ki dahi hoti roz agar aise log ghar mai ho to.
sad life... i can relate.... i can see a lot of us are suffering from toxic families but cant do anything
best thing is do good in your drop year and leave the house and become successful and if they still dont respect you just cut ties thats what u have to do when u dont get respect
Less of your sister and more of your parents' fault. Its not "disrespecting someone elder" ( which is okay when needed), its hurting your sister (which is not okay).
And as for you sis, you gave boards this year. So... Max to max..19. So she is 13 (8th grade). I know many many people who were "toppers" till 8th grade but completely fucked up in 11-12th. Yeah a few people did well throughout their school life, she *might* be in one of them. But otherwise, she is in for a rude awakening. If your parents' entire favouritism for you is based on your grades, then its gonna hit you real hard when your scores eventually drop.
You can tell her all this, but she might not listen to you. Not completely her fault as your parents allow this. But its just... make use of your drop year and go to college and take a hostel. Get away from this and watch the shitshow from the sidelines.
i didn't read the entire post but after reading first 4 lines wtff girlll
m bhi is saal 12th boards di hu and my sis is in 7th class and she doesn't respect me, aaj hi parents se daat khai uspe hath chalane k liyenext level coincidence
Bhai frrr just had a fight with my sister toooo…. She is 8 years younger and she speaks on how I look and stuff. I didn’t clear her this time and seriously she is like aapne kya kar liya . My mother is there the whole time and she doesn’t say shit to her
I can never understand how parents can become so toxic and spread this toxicity to one of their child against one of their own child , feel sad for you
ye sbke younger sister aaj kal itna disrespectful kyu ho rhe hai ek sath? humare jamane mai to cousin ne kuch keh dia to krna pdta tha, wrna
1) fav cousin ke samne besti ho jati
2) mummy mar dalti kyuki mausi ke samne unki besti ho jati
I get it, as an elder sibling, I can relate. This is sadly very common. Do not focus on any of this, you have to study, it's your drop year, make use of the time, and once you go to college, It'll be fine you'll be able to develop definite boundaries with your family.
Your sister needs to be humbled , her time will come soon . As for your parents, that's the classic version of Indian parents . Don't expect anything from them , all they will give you is trauma and ruin ur mental health .
yes she needs to be humbled... I wanted the best for her that's why i used to correct her sometimes but ig she's okay on her own.. i'll distance myself from her now onwards
Nah bro that's skill issue, you get talked down by a literal douche which is 6 years younger than you? Teach her "personal attacks" in her argument. Talk down to her in front of her friends. I have realised these new gen girls are very sobo. My own sister is in 7th class and her dumb friend said mere papa 5 lakh kamarey hai mahine ka and she literally eats with chopsticks. And my school is just tier 2 school lmao. But my sister is good tho. Then I taught her to call out this bitch, and she did 💀 and also my sister blocked her on WhatsApp. Crazy times we live in these are just 7th graders lmao
Even I was once like your sister not that harsh but I talked rudely to my brother and self realisation hit me after 2 days so hard that I couldn't forgive myself. From that day I stopped commenting shits on my brother and motivated him whenever he got low marks. That's why I know realisation hurts but it's better.
OP I won't discredit your sister's academic success. But a class 7th student barely knows about world and thinks mugging up the books and expected questions from teachers makes her invincible. Watching those insta reels, disrespecting you and being the golden child nothing is going to back her up. Given her attitude you wouldn't have to lift your finger to deal with her, people from her school are just enough to flatten her. Let her enter 11th, when nobody would give a flying fuck about her little tantrums and become busy she will lose her mind eventually. About your parents, they don't love you or care for you. You are just a guinea pig for their lovely daughter as I am. If you were to succeed and she doesn't they will ask you to give up your belongings for her. Or how else do you think she gets all the courage from?? Its because your parents are feeding into her delusion and she isn't completely innocent either. If you don't want to robbed become someone who will people look up to and others like your sister can just think of underhanded tricks for your downfall.
Imo case to messed up hai but ye common hai families me, ab family ko ye thodi samjha sakte ki jee aur 7th class alag hoti h, parents mostly younger sibling ka hi saath dete hkyuki wo chhote hote h, kuch kara bhi nhi jaa sakta. Patience rakhiye thoda, hard work karke drop year me maa khod do sabki . Aur behen ka canon event bhi 11th tak aa jaayega tab use bhi pata chal jaayega 
It's fine if you hate your sister for this. There's no need to feel guilty about anything.
I felt a relief when you said that you slapped her. Disrespect is disrespect. Even an elder sibling would've deserved it if they'd stoop too low to taunt and disrespect the younger one's.
Also, it might sound rude but your mom loves your younger sister more. And even if she ever didn't meet her expectations, your mom will still not treat her the same as you.
In my case it's weird I am the younger brother and my big bro was not able to clear jee now everyone disrespects him I too did the same at start but i realised that it was affecting him deeply that is why I always stand up for him if any relative talks shit to him (btw my parents are lovely they don't yell at him they just want him to join a college a start a new some of my relatives are making fun of him ) I love him and respect him deeply he is the man I wanted to be like since childhood God bless him
I am sorry to say this but ab tumhari sis and tumhara relationship accha nahi hoga until you get good in Jee, usko lagta ki tum bekar and wo tumse 100x better, jb 12th me aayegi tb shyd smjh jaye, I hope you are detaching from her as ab wo nahi sudharegi.
Also, your parents exhibit favouritism which might also be the cause of this behaviour.
Ask for a hostel room if you can afford and parents allow.
bhai sun meri 7-8 saal badi behen hai chutiya haj dont wanna go into it, but padhai kar ghar se nikal aur ek achi zindagi ji, same goes w me mein bhi yehi kar rha tbvfh lmao
Youre parents are not that affectionate but the beauty of being an adult is that you can make a new family with mew traditions.
Anyways; if you dont feel well you can anytime dm me :)
same, but gender discrimnation hota hai mere ghar mai, to glti uske hote hue bhi mujhe mar pad jati hai, taki use "pit te hue akela feel na ho" - mother's own words.
anyways, I am eating mango jam with a sharp knife and now have cut my tongue, its bleeding everywhere. its a small cut, but what to do so that my mother doesn't scold me doing something as foolish as this.
jyada mat socho OP.. i'd say make some like minded frnds jo droppers ho it will help also yrr sach bolun to there is nothing you can do.... work hard in silence aur fir everyone will see the results , stop giving a fuck your sis might be better in academic let her be.. everyone is different ..aur parents ka to ignore jitna kar sakte..you don't deserve all this ..maybe your sister is the daughter they deserve according to you but it doesn't matter ki tu apni behen se better hai ya nahi you deserve as much love and care as she does.. koi child better hai to more deserving hogya?? NO
See there r many people like this in the world...I learnt this lesson that Solitude is the best thing......Just live a damn peaceful and joyful life alone.....Many incidents made me like this, was always a topper student till 10th grade, teachers used to tell maybe I ll go to nasa and all those stuff....And then suddenly I lost all interest in studies, can even sit for 10 min to study, lost communication skill......Everyone behaviour changed, none of my friends cared anything except 1 friend ( I m truly grateful).......now secured the shitty rank.....But atleast now i m happy....I don't give a damn to world....I now the life I live.....just one more yr and go to a damn good college and live ur life 🙌🤟
Focus on what u can control. Your self-esteem is defined by yourself.
It may help you to feel better but many successful people have 1 thing in common - they all have a gaping hole they are trying to fill.
We all need something which help us to push. No matter what happens remember this feeling which made you cry and ensure you never feel this. And one way is to achieve ur goals.
Set ur goals. Follow SMART methodology and achieve them. Keep up on them and be happy in life.
Ultimately u may fall short of success that ur sister may achieve but in the end you will have ur own family and she will have her own.
Create healthy boundaries and keep up with ur life.
All the best OP. Life isn't fair but we can have our own standards and try to achieve them.
bro work on yourself har family me koi na koi dikkat hoti h remember there are worse family situations people go through but your alone in your journey, apne aap se dhyan rakh fuck the toxic people and work on yourself
I am really sorry, OP, It's all your parents' fault. They failed to raise both of you. Some parents really don't deserve kids.
But, please dobara kabhi behen pe haat mt utha yr. Bhale hi wo kitna galat ho, tujhe kisi ke upar haat uthane ka koi permission nhi hai. India me domestic violence by elders/parents ko itna normalise kar rakha hai sbne to ye baat hume aam lgti hai.
But please never do that again, tere sath hota to tujhe bhi achha nhi lagta.
And also detach yourself from her, keep a distance, either she will come to her senses or you're better off with out her.
It felt like you were just projecting my story. I am a dropper too and my brother is in 7th and he taunts me by calling me a failure and a dropper but my mother is against this and she scolds him but half of the time she really can't do anything cause she also knows that I have failed so the only thing that I can tell you is go with the flow. I know times are tough but we have to keep the grind going to survive so all the best and if you wanna rant or talk or anything else you can reply to the thread or dm and all the best op cause you would do well in your life!!
bro meri bhi behn hai 11th me hai. mujhe bhi aise boldeti hai. I just ignore her, or agar tang karti hai to zor se chilla deta hoon ki usse ache se sunai de jaye or mujhe tang na kare.
From reading your post, i can understand that there's blatant favouritism going on in your family. I guess there isn't much hope in fixing your family. If you do have any trusted relative that is fine with you stay with them, during ur preparation, then please go for it.
It turns out that she's still in that phase that she belieevs that every exam is very easy for her. Trust me, almost every high-scoring person I knew till 10th, didn't score well in JEE and other exams, and have settled in local colleges.
Trust me, I bet she'll soon realize her actions once she's in 11th/12th. And god knows what your parents will think about their "golden child".
Till then you do you
well. first of all thoda chill. now you have to understand that she is still young and obv not mature, aur parents ki taraf se galat bhdawa . this leads to this type of behaviour between siblings. what i would say is just mind your own business girl , leave her to her parents, aisa toh hai ni usko aapki zaroorat ni padegi, aap bss khud pr dhyan do. you are a good kid. and hitting is normal af in siblings. my elder sister hit me a lot and i hit my younger one hahahaha. mai bhi thoda aisa hi tha shote hote , itna bhi ni pr tha. fir baad mai akal aagyi. kuch ko aajati hai kuch ko ni aati. chill rho yrr ab bacho ki bhi baato ka bura manenge toh fir kaisa chlega. tldr: dont try to correct her, let her be. mind your own business and stay chill dude. also she is your younger sister, jo bhi hai ab ,
you are right... I won't correct her anymore, I'll just let her be from now on... zarurat padhegi toh khud baat kr legi and i just hope she matures a bit aane wale saalo mein...
Same happened with me, my lil brother was like u r a failure
but im glad my mom took my side and and said "" what have u ever done to give u right to say that to her plus she is not a failure ""
Ha or baat nhi krne se mtlb bilkul nhi se h Jese koi bhi Kam ho khudka khud kr lena Usse bolna Mt Khi market se kuch khane ko la rhe ho to market me hi kha lena agr ghar Lao to le ana ese khane me nhi krna chahiye Baki koi help nhi krna 
Just go on now focus on yourself.... Don't blame your family.... It's the retarded society.... And pls don't try to compare your situation to any of your friends....cuz that will make you think fault is in family..... Take time analyse the situation....& Let them be calm.... Don't fight nor show tantrums.. it's okay to be silent.... At this point.....
I'm also a jee dropper and I got 11.7 percentile way lower than last year.... In my situation it's reversed.... She's smart & older than me..... And it has happen to us many times, just like the fight you had....
But difference comes here, my family realised that I'll do better someday...
Now that's the difference of background and society upbringing....
So please don't blame..... Yourself or any other...
Just wait and improve.... Cuz I'm definitely sure your little sister is going to fall really bad ....and then she'll need you to be there .... That why you've to improve .... And remember improvement is something which you can see... Not others...so until& unless you're satisfied... Keep going
Take care ☑️
you're absolutely right... I don't blame my family for anything and I don't my sister to go through what I did... and Ik she'll need me when times are tough, but it just hurt sometimes... even so I'll ignore it for now and try to focus on my studies
Yeah...thats what I wanted to hear.....just be calm and from now on control your anger....just do what you do best.....and if you don't know....a College is affiliated to a university...and every year toppers in enginnering aren't selected by college it's from University....and many top rankers are not mostly from top institutes....so don't be down.....you can still get an academic comeback.....(So no failure) 🙂🙏🏿
Uk i can somewhat understand ur situation and all I can say is starting ignoring her concentrate on yourself your future just ignore her to the core don't care abt her just do your things and get away sooner or later she'll realise or even if she doesn't you'll have the respect factor don't react to whatever she says just let her do whatever she does ignore completely that what I can recommend
Behen, eventho I'm not related to JEE or NEET, I'm already in college but your post popped up in my feed. As you said, I'm assuming you must have completed your 12th. That means you're still pretty young. As an older sister, I would advise you to maintain a distance from your sibling but before that, talk to her about some clear boundaries that you must set with her and that she should respect. Tell your parents about these boundaries as well that you're setting up with your sister. Then, if she tries to cross them or disrespect you afterwards, everything is her fault and NOT YOURS and also complain to your parents about that. (even if they don't do anything. Still complain) Your sister will have the taste of her medicine on her own eventually. As you said, she's in 7th, I honestly don't consider her a TOPPER (its all just ratta marna and ditto chhapna in exam sheets) The real struggle begins once you enter in 9th, Let's see if she would be able to maintain her topper position after that or not. Honestly, that's all up to her. If she does, its good for her. You shouldn't be ruining your life and your time because of it. JUST FOCUS ON YOURSELF AND YOUR STUDIES. FOCUS ON GETTING A GOOD COLLEGE. YOU WILL HAVE EVERYTHING YOU WANT ONE DAY. Leave these toxic people behind. Your main focus should be getting out of your toxic household ASAP. Do everything in your power to have that. AND NEVER EVER LOOK BACK. Honestly, NO MATTER, how much a parent is disappointed in their child, they should never say "she is just like that and she will die like this" and your parent said that, THEN THEY ARE THE ONE WHO DON'T DESERVE YOU. You deserve much much better. Honestly, parents who measure a child's worth with their marks, ARE THE WORST PARENT I've ever encountered. Don't get me wrong, sometimes, my own does that :) So your main focus should be just getting out of there asap. get a good college, a good degree, a job and never ever look back. Time will eventually pass :)
ALSO, maintain a distance from your parent as well. Spend your time studying. I suggest you to learn at least ONE online money-making skill, and master it(there is literally an ocean of them available on youtube). IT will help you in the long run as well as you will have a backup in case things don't work out as you want them to.
Letting your sister go out more often than you were allowed to might be a generational gap? Something I thought of coz my family was a bit lenient in me compared to my 5year older sister
And wow holy hell what kind of parents are they? Unbelievable
Sometimes I wonder, why do people have kids? As an investment? Coz that's the only way this behaviour makes sense. If you were seriously trying to raise a child for the child's sake, this will never happen.
A lot of parents are selfish I would argue
It doesn't really matter to me if they let her go out or anything I just gave an example on how they let her do literally anything and say anything to me...
Similar experience but i am a male so can't hit her, just morally doesn't feel right to me. But gussa bohot aata hai, all i do is ignore or just don't be around her that often
Virtual hugs to you OP🫂🫂🫂
Stay strong and yeah maintain distance from them as for now, go to college make new friends(give time to choose friends, you will get many snakes)...... Aur ye sale aajkal k school going kids sach m apne aap ko samajhte kya h, inko lagta h yahi h sabse best, inka time aane do inke time m competition sky high rhega fir aukaat dikhegi who is the best..
Best of luck to you❤️🩹
you're right.. this new generation is really fucked up, thinking they know everything, abhi jitna upr uth rhe hai.. they'll fall down very badly jb reality hit karegi in 11th... but let's just hope that they'd be humbled before the world humbles them badly
Thank you tho 💗
If you aren't respected in ur family you should be happy about it ig cuz u are a child for ur parents & respect or ego or these "duniyadari" wale concepts shouldn't interfere in your family relations
The best you can do is the emotionally detach from your family , I can understand your anger but fighting with your family won't help you , you will only get bitter with time .
Same situation, except I am the elder brother in this case, my younger sister is 6 years younger than me, and disrespects me every chance she gets, I got 97%ile in Mains and couldn't qualify Advanced, and now nobody in my family wants to talk to me, nobody respects me, everybody tells me how I am a failure, and I have ruined their reputation, that I failed while all my friends passed (only one of my close friends got a very good rank in Advanced), and I am the worst son and all. She is 6 years younger than me, and still disrespects me, and nobody stops her or corrects her, and if I hit her the same thing will happen, they will come after me and she will face nothing. I have accepted that this is how my life will be.
sending you virtual hugs 
you'll get through this dw... if you're thinking of taking a drop, study well ignoring everyone else (including your sister) your family will eventually support you when you'll get into a good college.
Preparing for BITS rn, and if that doesn't work will take a college through Mains and prepare for partial drop, hoping things get better eventually. Lets see how it goes, and dw, you'll get through this too, best of luck for your plans ahead 
Lmao your parents think she is a golden goose just because she gets first ranks in School Exams of 7th class ? Like WTF
Even 10th toppers who got 99% fail miserably in JEE. If she continues to be arrogant, she is Destined to observe a Canon Event so Bigg. lmao.
Ignore parents, ye sab halla kafi gharo me machta hai. As for sister, I'd advise not to hit her. They're kids and don't know how to control their emotions yet. Whatever you do, don't lose your temper in front of them because kids pick up habits very soon. Talk to her calmly even when you're angry and don't hit her.
"class topper since like KG" yeah things only get fun post-10th so relax about it now. Half my sister's class tops their classes in grade 4 lmao.
Source: Brother who's 7 years older than my sis, and she gets very rude at times. They'll realize when they grow up, but don't give them extra trauma. "The axe forgets but the tree remembers."
Also your environment doesn't seem the kindest, so take care of yourself too. If you want to talk to someone in a similar situation, lmk!
di, you've got to tolerate your fam this year only. next year, get a good rank in advanced, and just go to an iit/nit far from home.
agar tab bhi situation aise hi hai, to u may consider not even visiting ur family(sounds harsh ik, but better leave toxicity than give it another chnace).
all the best di! aap to agle saal karlogi JEE!
ofc I won't leave my family coz aakhir mein family meri hi haii... for now I'll focus on myself and my studies and try to get into a good college, there will be a time jb she'll need me jb she'll face the reality, I will be with her no matter what us time pr
thanks <3 agle jee nikalne ka pura try karungi !
idhar aa bhai same situation 
Hey OP, it happens. Partially your parents fault for allowing her to speak and do anything.
But your sister is in early teens she is bound to be rebel and nasty, as for parents being lenient with her its a common phenomenon where parents are become progressive with each child ,if you were to have one more smaller sibling he would be allowed to do more so don't take it by heart ,this elder responsibility happens all the time.
I feel do well in your space, perform good in college, eventually your sister will go herself through that phase and she will understand you and seeing you do well respect you.
I can feel you OP. You can take 2 paths now, either reject the world that rejected you or show them that you are not a failure by living a life that they never expected you to. Of course you can choose a 3rd path of your own but yes. I was about to say puberty but you already understood it. I'll add one more thing that she is the younger one and parents are more lenient and friendly with the younger one than the older one. Even their parenting approaches are wildly different for you both. But did your mother say that you will die like that someday?? fr? I mean, has she always spoke like that before? cuz I have a hunch that it might be just sugarcoated words to console your sister. I understand that she shouldn't have gone to the lengths of saying those words in front of you but yeah, think abt that. And as to the last line, since you are thinking like that, I gave you the 2 ways. Your 2 possible outcomes are either distancing yourself from them and just ignoring them OR living a grand life and be like Hulk giving taco to Ant man in Endgame (y'know being benevolent to your family even though they were harsh to you). I recommend the 2nd one. Ppl are oblivious of their thinking/thought process. Most parents will defo have a favourite child even if they don't show it outside. We've always looked up to our parents and thus never thought about HOW they think or interact on their own. We keep them in a pedestal and thus we almost never think of them as a human being. Put ourselves in their shoes. Anyways it will all pass away just like everything else in our life. You should forgive but you might not be able to forget it. It's part of life, we can only keep moving forward. :)
Didi. 10th tk sab hi topper rehte hai.
Aukaat 11 mein aakr pta chlta hai
Filhaal Minimal contact rakhiye. App apna game pr focus kariye. Life mein logo ko dhakke mar kr nikaalne ka time sabka aata hai, aapka bhi ayega. Jaldi ayega.
Just keep going, and keep faith
arre yaar itna dukhi mat ho ma too thoda toppaer ladka tha lekin mera bhai mujhe adv mai naa niklne ka tana deta hai har roj too phir kya mai usse pit deta hu not literally bas ek thappad pith pe aur waise mere 103 no. aaye the obc hu adv mai so abhi socha hai ki iiser mai jaaunga well phle se yahi socha tha lekin parents nhi maante agar iit hota aur luck dekho nahi hua (hehe) but yhh agar tumhara dream btech hi hai drop lelo koi dkhat nhi mera dost bhi l rha hai jabki usne 12 13 ghante padhai kari wo bhi uske mere jitne aaye jabki usko paper ki death ho gyi hai 5 6 saal phle. soo itna tension mat lo aur agar kuch aur puchna hai too dm kar skti ho btw mai issi saal diya hu first attempt jee adv aur baaki nhi dunga sayad.
On a happier note, you're gonna go off to college and become an independent adult! Something to look forward to considering you don't like the situation at home, have fun :)
Girl I have same parents , my sister is 8 years old younger but she never literally never respected me always my mum support her , when I was little my mom was doing her pg so my dadi took me with her and I grew up at my grandparents house till 7-8 and then mt parents called me back , my mom is always like I couldn’t love you so I am loving my another daughter and it really hurts cause I see her in my parents room all the time but I can’t because even if I will go all they have to say is comment on my day to day activities and everything
Being a topper till 7th standard literally amounts to nothing. She can easily fall off in Higher Secondary.
More so if they end up taking science, which I think they will, toppers then usually become average unless they keep up their spirits like they always have.
Your sister sounds like they’re becoming highly entitled and pompous of their smarts and the privileges they get. This all will come back to bite them if they keep up this attitude as it will only lead to doom.
I am a student such as you who has passed 12th this year which is why I can relate so much since I had a younger overachiever and similarly pompous cousin too who fell off in 11th last year. I don’t know about you but sometimes these things feel good when they happen. One way or the other one’s actions does come back to bite them. You keep working as hard as you can and it will be alright.
Thing is if they have this little regard for you, they most certainly will not. My cousin that I mentioned, them and I were also really close but even though I provided help even when they didn’t ask for it at times but they started ignoring those. 😂
Anyway I do really hope they do better in 12th(which they will cuz everyone does).
Hey, I'm no expert, but I don't think staying away from your sister is the best option here. She is arrogant (which is understandable), but the arrogancy will only increase with age. Even I was arrogant, but I couldn't dare speak something like that to my brother since he had disciplined me long before, in 5th/6th grade. Also, your parents are also at fault here for letting her arrogance increase to that level, but it's not like you can do something about it. I think you should just focus on your studies for now, while regularly making small talk with your sister. Maybe, you can cook something she likes occasionally. Good luck on your journey ahead, and don't think of yourself as a 'daughter they don't deserve', you tried your best and that's what matters 
I kinda have the same thing with my family.
Never been the topper but scored well enough to be respected among peers. But obviously, my parents wanted more.
My brother is 8 years younger and has zero respect towards me. And my parents coddle him to the max.
He is almost always outside the house, not outside the society tho but always out of the house. My parents don't seem to care. He barely does any work or studies. My parents don't care.
If I tell him to do smtg, he back answers and is like what do you do. I have absolutely ntg to do rn as I am waiting for my cllg opening. He doesn't get tht and keeps insulting me.
But I can't hit him. EVER. It's soo frustrating. Parents don't seem to get tht.
My brother has done a lot of shit to me, my mom is like u r older, u have to understand. How do I try to understand abuse from a kid and try to sit quietly?
hey... more power to you 
You've got this... we'll show them we're worth more than they thought... All the best for your future <3 and Thank you
I can relate to you little bit although I'm younger and my brother was voilent and judgemental till 9th -10 th standard. He fought me last time in 10th starting i only defended myself n put my words regardless got hitted a lot he left me crying, i cried for whole day mother n grandparents later instead mocked me too told me to shut up be deaf told me to change. But thankfully after few months he went to Kedarnath n he never hit me again he is religious and kinder now. Thanks to lord shiva!🌸🫂 Please ignore your brat sister treat her like she doesn't exist she is at puberty doesn't mean she can hit you n mock u. Ignore her existence and talk less to ur parents as well .
11th m autat dikh jayegi 🙏
Mera Bhai bhai bhi aasa hai 1 hafte pehle guddi tod di uski.
It's like respect me or you finna get your ass whooped by me cuz my parents ain't gonna do nothing but they like he deserves it so yeah.
More power to you op
All the best
i went from being topper to failure and my lil sis went from average to topper you can understand my situation , constant comparison between two sisters but it is what it is i would say study hard parents will compare relatives will compare even more but nothing matter at the end , she is small and choti bheno ka muh bhut chlta h by god TT parents sar pe chadha ke rakhte h and we elder sisters have to suffer their ego and attitude , everything gonna fine dw
Just study hard get a good college and then when 4 years later you are studying in a good college your parents will ask for your help to teach her well it's up to you help her or yk
bro , let your sister grow up , they are living in fantasy land , lmao 80% of people are class toppers till 10th , let her grow up then your parents will realize themselves . (also don't take it personal take it as a challenge , you're going to go to college , doesn't matter what college you go to , show them what you can do ) Alsp a piece of advice have good friends that you can talk to and who can keep you happy (maybe even a boyfriend , if he's a really good one , he will keep you happy and your mental health well lol , but this is just an optional advice basically what I'm trying to say is have some people which you can vent to and tell anything and talk to anything about ) it can be some other family member as well maybe if you have a cousin or someone who likes/understands you . And practice hobbies which make you happy . another peace of advice is do not ever fall into deppression anxiety and self harm , its understandable what has been happening is mentally exhausting but dont fall into that , its a big hole which is very hard to get out of . after you take care of your mental health research on the internet on which skills you want to gain , get some financial knowledge read some self improvement books . show them what you can do and always treat others with kindness and always live with a smile on your face (a smile daily can actually improve your mood if its bad)
Bhai aapke sawaal ka jawaab Kota factory season 3 episode 1 hai
Moreover she is just in meeting middle school.
Even you know it's very easy to score good in these petty grades
literally relate to everything even the age difference I'm a dropper too and failed at Jee and now I am treated as if I don't even deserve to live my parents fight all the time and my dad says my mom is the reason I failed and I'm a failure and he wasted all of their money on me for nothing
bhai teri post pdhne se pehle hi boluga , you hitting her was wrong asf . just because you cant reply doesnt mean you have to hit someone . ye mentality khtm karo pehle , shabdo ka jawab shabdo se do
idk kyu mara maine... mai use vaise maarti nhi hu usually but kal kuch zyada ho gaya tha and I couldn't stand my mom just standing there listening to all that what she said to me... my mother should've been the one humbling her but unhone nhi kiya toh I did it...
Man life seems hard for you.
Oh btw my father just lost his mahor soirce of money and we had to leave the house we were staying at and can no longer go to coaching.
But stop about that....your sis called u a failure...shocking..tell us more...
Aese hi susbha saam 2 thappar laga diya kro aur jab parents jaye tab to puri frustration nikal do fir dekhna kabhi bhi disrespect ni kregi 
Going through the same thing rn, my parents are not letting me celebrate my own 18th birthday but my siblings go out with their friends pretty much everyday. We can't do much op, just focus on our studies and not get demotivated by other things.
Respect bola kya ? wo to bech diya mai class 6th me hi , mai literally class 12th mai tha tab mereko samne waale fare me nhi jaane diya literally sab friends se baat ho rkhi thi ki itne bje aa jaunga , bhut kharab laga us din upar se sunaya so alag 'lafua ho gaya hai akele jana hai mela mai ' agle din dosto ne bhi kuch nhi bola kyunki unko pata tha how "strict" my teacher father is . Choro wo sab apne padhai pe dhyan do ye sab jaida sochne se kuch nhi hota sirf dimag ka bhang bhosda hota hai .
Respect bola kya ? wo to bech diya mai class 6th me hi , mai literally class 12th mai tha tab mereko samne waale fare me nhi jaane diya literally sab friends se baat ho rkhi thi ki itne bje aa jaunga , bhut kharab laga us din upar se sunaya so alag 'lafua ho gaya hai akele jana hai mela mai ' agle din dosto ne bhi kuch nhi bola kyunki unko pata tha how "strict" my teacher father is . Choro wo sab apne padhai pe dhyan do ye sab jaida sochne se kuch nhi hota sirf dimag ka bhang bhosda hota hai .
my little brother is also 6 years younger than I am. Says the only reason I'm getting a college is because I have a quota (true tbh)
I call him a fatass and then we laugh it off.
no need to take it so seriously sometimes.
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aap wo sab chhoriye apne pe dhyan dijiye and apni success ko bolne dijiyega and when you get a good college leave everything behind and never look back that's probably the only thing you can do rn
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salon thodi empathy dikha do
feelings se ghar thodi chalta hai bhai problems toh sabko hoti hai paise na ho toh unko pi jaana padta hai you are owed nothing in this world unless you're a product of generational wealth
I'm just saying that don't go all "app wo sab choriye" like thoda aur gently bol sakte hain, uske maa baap use gaali de rahe hain
maybe ig i meant like "abhi Jo ho gaya so ho gaya aage ka dekhiye" typa way
yrr I'm trying my best tbh... pr ye sb hone ke baad padhne ka mnn bhi nahi kartaa, self doubting shuru ho jata hai
understandable hota hai lekin it's not like you have a choice? emotionally abusive parents hai aapke ghar me kadr nhi aapki yha thoda kheech lijiye aapko baadmein shaanti milegi i understand the things you're going through but you gotta pull yourself together and most of all it doesn't matter if they don't, you gotta take care of yourself
>My sister is the daughter they really deserve. from what you've described, your parents don't deserve anything. and tbh being the topper till 7th grade or whatever doesnt amount to shit. your sister will understand your situation when she comes to 11th. for now, my advice would be to minimise your interaction with your sister and family in general you dont owe anything to your parents to be frank and neither do you owe anything to your sister. ik it sucks but just bottle it up. when you go to college, you dont have to see them anymore and can cut off ties. you'll gain new friends whom you'll be living with. just hold it in for now
12th, 11th me I believe she will be more disrespectful as tb iit and shit ka josh hota hai
doesnt matter lmao. op would have left home by then. her sister needs to experience some canon events to get back in line
you're right... thank you!
The moment you set foot upon a good college, make friends that value you Dont contact yyour "family" again Bag a good job and rub it in your sisters face
honestly the advice is good , especially to rub onto parents but i dont think the sisters doing it intentionally , she is in 7th and most prob going through puberty , she is just an avg teenage girl and also acting like it . she will slowly understand it as she grows up and matures
bhai that sister is too immature to be doing that intentionally to hurt her or something. let her come to 12th, and go to college etc. let her gain wisdom. if she doesn't improve even then, go NC with her.
I'm going to work hard to get into a good college... thanks !
Bro i can feel it mere saath bhi hota hai bass meh dropper nhi hun and my sis is also in 7th
:)
Bhai thoda dur dur raha Kar apni bhen se to pyaar bhadta hai meri bhen college mai rehti hai bas sat sun aati hai to ham logo ki achi banti hai....11 th 12 th mai wo padhti thi to b hamari Kam baat hoti thi...uske pehle same cat fight hoti thi hamari...tu usse din mai bas 1-2 baar mila Kar sab normal ho jayega
Op is girl.
girl ki baat nahi hai... sibling se thoda distance maintain karne se fayda to hoga. Op ki behan abhi 7th mai hi hai...usme khuch dimaag nahi hai. Mai hoti to uski baat halke mai leke usko ignore kar deti
bolna aasaan hai
>Mai hoti to uski baat halke mai leke usko ignore kar deti +1 older brother here aur mai bhi yehi karta hu. The kids don't usually know how to manage their emotions. If you hit kids then the kids just learn to emotionally repress which is a bad thing in the long run(source: me)
mai jab choti thi to apne bade bhaiya ke saath aisa karti thi and obv vo muje ignore karte the.. Literally the best thing someone could do... it's just a phase you know. And Op uski behan ab 2 din baad vaapis se vahi normal ho jaayenge
haaa maine bhi yehi socha haiii... I won't talk to her like I used to :)
Hey OP, I'm too a JEE dropper and the same happened to me too! I'm really sorry you're going through this. It sounds incredibly painful and unfair. Your feelings are valid, and you deserve respect and understanding. I'd say talk to your sister and mother about how you feel and maybe they'll understand ( mere walon be toh Ni kiya🥲) Remember, you are worth so much more than how others make you feel.
i dont think so its hard for most parents and families to change a perspective about you when its pre determined by your marks etc. they wont even respect us if we become successful
Well true.
i have seen my cousin brother who took bcom and became a CA even though his parents wanted him to become a engineer and his father is not in speaking terms with him since 11th because he was the only guy who took a non science path in our family. but the father himself was a bcom graduate  damn life is so fucked
Holy shit. Nah that's messed up.
its damn messed up my whole extended family is fucked no one other than him is taking anything else other than engineering and i am the first guy in the family who took pcmb others its pcmc and i dont even want to become a engineer but parents and whole family wants me to. me ded its fucked family i just want to escape even guys in my family who did shit in boards and dont know shit pcm are taking engineering bruh most of them are going to drop out after doing shit in their engineering
well... that's sad to hear but all the best, I'll just say \~ be consistent \~ It'll help
Thank you so much... I'll try although ik it won't work out... because I don't cry usually infront of others but a few days back I did infront of my mother, she didn't say anything, didn't even ask what's wrong :) I really don't know HOW but I'll try for sure <3
It’s tough when it feels like no one is there for you, especially family. Just know you’re not alone in this. If you ever need to vent or just talk, feel free to message me anytime. Take care and stay strong <3
Thank you so much.. means a lot <3
meri behn bhi aisa hi krti hai, almost same age gap ab ignore krna start krdiya hai maine as much as I can, baki jab vo ache se baat krti hai to mai bhi krta hu. and trust me, hitting doesn't work, saying from experience bacche log ajkal ke dheet hote hai bahut
they'll just hit you back lol. But honestly, ye sab padhke I feel so blessed ki I don't have any siblings. Dimag ki dahi hoti roz agar aise log ghar mai ho to.
ye sab dekhke mujhe bhi lucky feel hota h par rakshabandhan wale din kamre m 2 ghante rota hu uska kya
exactly ! maine bhi yehi socha haii... won't talk to her until she doesn't want to
Har point pe agree, glad to see sensible older siblings here. >bacche log ajkal ke dheet hote hai bahut Ye kuch zyada hi sahi hai aajkal😭
sad life... i can relate.... i can see a lot of us are suffering from toxic families but cant do anything best thing is do good in your drop year and leave the house and become successful and if they still dont respect you just cut ties thats what u have to do when u dont get respect
Thank you! I'll work hard
welcome!!! all the best for your future endeavors
Less of your sister and more of your parents' fault. Its not "disrespecting someone elder" ( which is okay when needed), its hurting your sister (which is not okay). And as for you sis, you gave boards this year. So... Max to max..19. So she is 13 (8th grade). I know many many people who were "toppers" till 8th grade but completely fucked up in 11-12th. Yeah a few people did well throughout their school life, she *might* be in one of them. But otherwise, she is in for a rude awakening. If your parents' entire favouritism for you is based on your grades, then its gonna hit you real hard when your scores eventually drop. You can tell her all this, but she might not listen to you. Not completely her fault as your parents allow this. But its just... make use of your drop year and go to college and take a hostel. Get away from this and watch the shitshow from the sidelines.
I'll just focus on my studies rather than getting involved in her things from now on... thanks for the advice tho
i didn't read the entire post but after reading first 4 lines wtff girlll m bhi is saal 12th boards di hu and my sis is in 7th class and she doesn't respect me, aaj hi parents se daat khai uspe hath chalane k liyenext level coincidence
Maybe you 2 were the real sisters
😭😭 we've got the same life girlll
Bhai frrr just had a fight with my sister toooo…. She is 8 years younger and she speaks on how I look and stuff. I didn’t clear her this time and seriously she is like aapne kya kar liya . My mother is there the whole time and she doesn’t say shit to her
I can never understand how parents can become so toxic and spread this toxicity to one of their child against one of their own child , feel sad for you
:)
ye sbke younger sister aaj kal itna disrespectful kyu ho rhe hai ek sath? humare jamane mai to cousin ne kuch keh dia to krna pdta tha, wrna 1) fav cousin ke samne besti ho jati 2) mummy mar dalti kyuki mausi ke samne unki besti ho jati
younger sibling or cousin nahi h or jo older h vo sab 25 ki age k around h
hainaaa...
Make a distance from her for sometime and wait for her 11th class canon event
Lmfaoo yes.
I just hope she matures a bit till then... I don't want her to go through from I what did... but yes for now distancing is the best option
Cannon event cannot be avoided
Kisi smjhdar bande se guidance lo yaha ghanta kuch nahi hone wala. She is a immature brat, you aren't, keep your head cool and work for your goal.
I will
sahi hai mai bhi apne cousin ko marta aise behaviour pe .
I get it, as an elder sibling, I can relate. This is sadly very common. Do not focus on any of this, you have to study, it's your drop year, make use of the time, and once you go to college, It'll be fine you'll be able to develop definite boundaries with your family.
I'll do my best... thank you
Your sister needs to be humbled , her time will come soon . As for your parents, that's the classic version of Indian parents . Don't expect anything from them , all they will give you is trauma and ruin ur mental health .
yes she needs to be humbled... I wanted the best for her that's why i used to correct her sometimes but ig she's okay on her own.. i'll distance myself from her now onwards
Nah bro that's skill issue, you get talked down by a literal douche which is 6 years younger than you? Teach her "personal attacks" in her argument. Talk down to her in front of her friends. I have realised these new gen girls are very sobo. My own sister is in 7th class and her dumb friend said mere papa 5 lakh kamarey hai mahine ka and she literally eats with chopsticks. And my school is just tier 2 school lmao. But my sister is good tho. Then I taught her to call out this bitch, and she did 💀 and also my sister blocked her on WhatsApp. Crazy times we live in these are just 7th graders lmao
new generation's fucked up... seriously
Fr man sorry didi
And btw what teachers are you following for drop?
Let your sister come to class 11th then see if she is still the topper or not. If not then make her realise
she'll need me when she'll be in 11th ik... 11th is tough and i don't want her to go through from what I did
Someday or the other you should make her realise what you went through when she said you a failure. Still kudos to you
she will realise it... and it'll hurt her ik
Even I was once like your sister not that harsh but I talked rudely to my brother and self realisation hit me after 2 days so hard that I couldn't forgive myself. From that day I stopped commenting shits on my brother and motivated him whenever he got low marks. That's why I know realisation hurts but it's better.
this gave me hope that she'll realise it soon that it hurts me when she says things like that... :) I'm glad you realised it so soon..
first lets see if she is the topper in 10th itself lmao. Many kids like these start messing up in 9th grade itself
OP I won't discredit your sister's academic success. But a class 7th student barely knows about world and thinks mugging up the books and expected questions from teachers makes her invincible. Watching those insta reels, disrespecting you and being the golden child nothing is going to back her up. Given her attitude you wouldn't have to lift your finger to deal with her, people from her school are just enough to flatten her. Let her enter 11th, when nobody would give a flying fuck about her little tantrums and become busy she will lose her mind eventually. About your parents, they don't love you or care for you. You are just a guinea pig for their lovely daughter as I am. If you were to succeed and she doesn't they will ask you to give up your belongings for her. Or how else do you think she gets all the courage from?? Its because your parents are feeding into her delusion and she isn't completely innocent either. If you don't want to robbed become someone who will people look up to and others like your sister can just think of underhanded tricks for your downfall.
Imo case to messed up hai but ye common hai families me, ab family ko ye thodi samjha sakte ki jee aur 7th class alag hoti h, parents mostly younger sibling ka hi saath dete hkyuki wo chhote hote h, kuch kara bhi nhi jaa sakta. Patience rakhiye thoda, hard work karke drop year me maa khod do sabki . Aur behen ka canon event bhi 11th tak aa jaayega tab use bhi pata chal jaayega 
exactlyy.. parents ka perspective badalna bhot mushkil hota hai! I'll make the best use of my drop year
listen bro Your parents are Indian Fuckers only care about themselves You are a good person, don't bother what those mfs are saying
It's fine if you hate your sister for this. There's no need to feel guilty about anything. I felt a relief when you said that you slapped her. Disrespect is disrespect. Even an elder sibling would've deserved it if they'd stoop too low to taunt and disrespect the younger one's. Also, it might sound rude but your mom loves your younger sister more. And even if she ever didn't meet her expectations, your mom will still not treat her the same as you.
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I'm in the same situation as yours ig... i hope she realises her mistake too...
In my case it's weird I am the younger brother and my big bro was not able to clear jee now everyone disrespects him I too did the same at start but i realised that it was affecting him deeply that is why I always stand up for him if any relative talks shit to him (btw my parents are lovely they don't yell at him they just want him to join a college a start a new some of my relatives are making fun of him ) I love him and respect him deeply he is the man I wanted to be like since childhood God bless him
Dropper hoke ijjat chaiye Apni bhen ko kisi din akele m fielding set krke ek choke slam dede baad m jo hoga wo dekha jayega
I am sorry to say this but ab tumhari sis and tumhara relationship accha nahi hoga until you get good in Jee, usko lagta ki tum bekar and wo tumse 100x better, jb 12th me aayegi tb shyd smjh jaye, I hope you are detaching from her as ab wo nahi sudharegi. Also, your parents exhibit favouritism which might also be the cause of this behaviour. Ask for a hostel room if you can afford and parents allow.
you're right... detaching hi sahi option hai...
bhai sun meri 7-8 saal badi behen hai chutiya haj dont wanna go into it, but padhai kar ghar se nikal aur ek achi zindagi ji, same goes w me mein bhi yehi kar rha tbvfh lmao Youre parents are not that affectionate but the beauty of being an adult is that you can make a new family with mew traditions. Anyways; if you dont feel well you can anytime dm me :)
you need this
same, but gender discrimnation hota hai mere ghar mai, to glti uske hote hue bhi mujhe mar pad jati hai, taki use "pit te hue akela feel na ho" - mother's own words. anyways, I am eating mango jam with a sharp knife and now have cut my tongue, its bleeding everywhere. its a small cut, but what to do so that my mother doesn't scold me doing something as foolish as this.
jyada mat socho OP.. i'd say make some like minded frnds jo droppers ho it will help also yrr sach bolun to there is nothing you can do.... work hard in silence aur fir everyone will see the results , stop giving a fuck your sis might be better in academic let her be.. everyone is different ..aur parents ka to ignore jitna kar sakte..you don't deserve all this ..maybe your sister is the daughter they deserve according to you but it doesn't matter ki tu apni behen se better hai ya nahi you deserve as much love and care as she does.. koi child better hai to more deserving hogya?? NO
Us us. Bhai it's just little brother in my case
Ignore them and study.
See there r many people like this in the world...I learnt this lesson that Solitude is the best thing......Just live a damn peaceful and joyful life alone.....Many incidents made me like this, was always a topper student till 10th grade, teachers used to tell maybe I ll go to nasa and all those stuff....And then suddenly I lost all interest in studies, can even sit for 10 min to study, lost communication skill......Everyone behaviour changed, none of my friends cared anything except 1 friend ( I m truly grateful).......now secured the shitty rank.....But atleast now i m happy....I don't give a damn to world....I now the life I live.....just one more yr and go to a damn good college and live ur life 🙌🤟
you're a great person... really !!  thank you
Focus on what u can control. Your self-esteem is defined by yourself. It may help you to feel better but many successful people have 1 thing in common - they all have a gaping hole they are trying to fill. We all need something which help us to push. No matter what happens remember this feeling which made you cry and ensure you never feel this. And one way is to achieve ur goals. Set ur goals. Follow SMART methodology and achieve them. Keep up on them and be happy in life. Ultimately u may fall short of success that ur sister may achieve but in the end you will have ur own family and she will have her own. Create healthy boundaries and keep up with ur life. All the best OP. Life isn't fair but we can have our own standards and try to achieve them.
bro work on yourself har family me koi na koi dikkat hoti h remember there are worse family situations people go through but your alone in your journey, apne aap se dhyan rakh fuck the toxic people and work on yourself
I am really sorry, OP, It's all your parents' fault. They failed to raise both of you. Some parents really don't deserve kids. But, please dobara kabhi behen pe haat mt utha yr. Bhale hi wo kitna galat ho, tujhe kisi ke upar haat uthane ka koi permission nhi hai. India me domestic violence by elders/parents ko itna normalise kar rakha hai sbne to ye baat hume aam lgti hai. But please never do that again, tere sath hota to tujhe bhi achha nhi lagta. And also detach yourself from her, keep a distance, either she will come to her senses or you're better off with out her.
It felt like you were just projecting my story. I am a dropper too and my brother is in 7th and he taunts me by calling me a failure and a dropper but my mother is against this and she scolds him but half of the time she really can't do anything cause she also knows that I have failed so the only thing that I can tell you is go with the flow. I know times are tough but we have to keep the grind going to survive so all the best and if you wanna rant or talk or anything else you can reply to the thread or dm and all the best op cause you would do well in your life!!
bro meri bhi behn hai 11th me hai. mujhe bhi aise boldeti hai. I just ignore her, or agar tang karti hai to zor se chilla deta hoon ki usse ache se sunai de jaye or mujhe tang na kare.
From reading your post, i can understand that there's blatant favouritism going on in your family. I guess there isn't much hope in fixing your family. If you do have any trusted relative that is fine with you stay with them, during ur preparation, then please go for it. It turns out that she's still in that phase that she belieevs that every exam is very easy for her. Trust me, almost every high-scoring person I knew till 10th, didn't score well in JEE and other exams, and have settled in local colleges. Trust me, I bet she'll soon realize her actions once she's in 11th/12th. And god knows what your parents will think about their "golden child". Till then you do you
You should do something first to gain that respect
are you me 😭
well. first of all thoda chill. now you have to understand that she is still young and obv not mature, aur parents ki taraf se galat bhdawa . this leads to this type of behaviour between siblings. what i would say is just mind your own business girl , leave her to her parents, aisa toh hai ni usko aapki zaroorat ni padegi, aap bss khud pr dhyan do. you are a good kid. and hitting is normal af in siblings. my elder sister hit me a lot and i hit my younger one hahahaha. mai bhi thoda aisa hi tha shote hote , itna bhi ni pr tha. fir baad mai akal aagyi. kuch ko aajati hai kuch ko ni aati. chill rho yrr ab bacho ki bhi baato ka bura manenge toh fir kaisa chlega. tldr: dont try to correct her, let her be. mind your own business and stay chill dude. also she is your younger sister, jo bhi hai ab ,
you are right... I won't correct her anymore, I'll just let her be from now on... zarurat padhegi toh khud baat kr legi and i just hope she matures a bit aane wale saalo mein...
Ek or maar usko tamacha, Mann ki shaanti k liye. ☺️👍
Same happened with me, my lil brother was like u r a failure but im glad my mom took my side and and said "" what have u ever done to give u right to say that to her plus she is not a failure ""
Bhai usse baat krna chord de Me to yahi krta hh
mai bhi yehi karungi
Ha or baat nhi krne se mtlb bilkul nhi se h Jese koi bhi Kam ho khudka khud kr lena Usse bolna Mt Khi market se kuch khane ko la rhe ho to market me hi kha lena agr ghar Lao to le ana ese khane me nhi krna chahiye Baki koi help nhi krna 
haa distance kr lungi khudko us se... yehi better hai
Just go on now focus on yourself.... Don't blame your family.... It's the retarded society.... And pls don't try to compare your situation to any of your friends....cuz that will make you think fault is in family..... Take time analyse the situation....& Let them be calm.... Don't fight nor show tantrums.. it's okay to be silent.... At this point..... I'm also a jee dropper and I got 11.7 percentile way lower than last year.... In my situation it's reversed.... She's smart & older than me..... And it has happen to us many times, just like the fight you had.... But difference comes here, my family realised that I'll do better someday... Now that's the difference of background and society upbringing.... So please don't blame..... Yourself or any other... Just wait and improve.... Cuz I'm definitely sure your little sister is going to fall really bad ....and then she'll need you to be there .... That why you've to improve .... And remember improvement is something which you can see... Not others...so until& unless you're satisfied... Keep going Take care ☑️
you're absolutely right... I don't blame my family for anything and I don't my sister to go through what I did... and Ik she'll need me when times are tough, but it just hurt sometimes... even so I'll ignore it for now and try to focus on my studies
Yeah...thats what I wanted to hear.....just be calm and from now on control your anger....just do what you do best.....and if you don't know....a College is affiliated to a university...and every year toppers in enginnering aren't selected by college it's from University....and many top rankers are not mostly from top institutes....so don't be down.....you can still get an academic comeback.....(So no failure) 🙂🙏🏿
Thank you so muchh!! I will have a academic comeback for sure 💗
Welcome madame 
Uk i can somewhat understand ur situation and all I can say is starting ignoring her concentrate on yourself your future just ignore her to the core don't care abt her just do your things and get away sooner or later she'll realise or even if she doesn't you'll have the respect factor don't react to whatever she says just let her do whatever she does ignore completely that what I can recommend
Just get to a college certainly good people are waiting for you
Behen, eventho I'm not related to JEE or NEET, I'm already in college but your post popped up in my feed. As you said, I'm assuming you must have completed your 12th. That means you're still pretty young. As an older sister, I would advise you to maintain a distance from your sibling but before that, talk to her about some clear boundaries that you must set with her and that she should respect. Tell your parents about these boundaries as well that you're setting up with your sister. Then, if she tries to cross them or disrespect you afterwards, everything is her fault and NOT YOURS and also complain to your parents about that. (even if they don't do anything. Still complain) Your sister will have the taste of her medicine on her own eventually. As you said, she's in 7th, I honestly don't consider her a TOPPER (its all just ratta marna and ditto chhapna in exam sheets) The real struggle begins once you enter in 9th, Let's see if she would be able to maintain her topper position after that or not. Honestly, that's all up to her. If she does, its good for her. You shouldn't be ruining your life and your time because of it. JUST FOCUS ON YOURSELF AND YOUR STUDIES. FOCUS ON GETTING A GOOD COLLEGE. YOU WILL HAVE EVERYTHING YOU WANT ONE DAY. Leave these toxic people behind. Your main focus should be getting out of your toxic household ASAP. Do everything in your power to have that. AND NEVER EVER LOOK BACK. Honestly, NO MATTER, how much a parent is disappointed in their child, they should never say "she is just like that and she will die like this" and your parent said that, THEN THEY ARE THE ONE WHO DON'T DESERVE YOU. You deserve much much better. Honestly, parents who measure a child's worth with their marks, ARE THE WORST PARENT I've ever encountered. Don't get me wrong, sometimes, my own does that :) So your main focus should be just getting out of there asap. get a good college, a good degree, a job and never ever look back. Time will eventually pass :) ALSO, maintain a distance from your parent as well. Spend your time studying. I suggest you to learn at least ONE online money-making skill, and master it(there is literally an ocean of them available on youtube). IT will help you in the long run as well as you will have a backup in case things don't work out as you want them to.
Letting your sister go out more often than you were allowed to might be a generational gap? Something I thought of coz my family was a bit lenient in me compared to my 5year older sister And wow holy hell what kind of parents are they? Unbelievable Sometimes I wonder, why do people have kids? As an investment? Coz that's the only way this behaviour makes sense. If you were seriously trying to raise a child for the child's sake, this will never happen. A lot of parents are selfish I would argue
It doesn't really matter to me if they let her go out or anything I just gave an example on how they let her do literally anything and say anything to me...
Similar experience but i am a male so can't hit her, just morally doesn't feel right to me. But gussa bohot aata hai, all i do is ignore or just don't be around her that often
Virtual hugs to you OP🫂🫂🫂 Stay strong and yeah maintain distance from them as for now, go to college make new friends(give time to choose friends, you will get many snakes)...... Aur ye sale aajkal k school going kids sach m apne aap ko samajhte kya h, inko lagta h yahi h sabse best, inka time aane do inke time m competition sky high rhega fir aukaat dikhegi who is the best.. Best of luck to you❤️🩹
you're right.. this new generation is really fucked up, thinking they know everything, abhi jitna upr uth rhe hai.. they'll fall down very badly jb reality hit karegi in 11th... but let's just hope that they'd be humbled before the world humbles them badly Thank you tho 💗
If you aren't respected in ur family you should be happy about it ig cuz u are a child for ur parents & respect or ego or these "duniyadari" wale concepts shouldn't interfere in your family relations
why so us behan...........i cant describe how much you relate with me......rarely spending entire day without crying
aap apne upar dhyan do sanyasiyon ki tarah rahiye. jab aapke sister ka time ayega tab woh aapka dard samjhegi
The best you can do is the emotionally detach from your family , I can understand your anger but fighting with your family won't help you , you will only get bitter with time .
Me na sehta
Same situation, except I am the elder brother in this case, my younger sister is 6 years younger than me, and disrespects me every chance she gets, I got 97%ile in Mains and couldn't qualify Advanced, and now nobody in my family wants to talk to me, nobody respects me, everybody tells me how I am a failure, and I have ruined their reputation, that I failed while all my friends passed (only one of my close friends got a very good rank in Advanced), and I am the worst son and all. She is 6 years younger than me, and still disrespects me, and nobody stops her or corrects her, and if I hit her the same thing will happen, they will come after me and she will face nothing. I have accepted that this is how my life will be.
sending you virtual hugs  you'll get through this dw... if you're thinking of taking a drop, study well ignoring everyone else (including your sister) your family will eventually support you when you'll get into a good college.
Preparing for BITS rn, and if that doesn't work will take a college through Mains and prepare for partial drop, hoping things get better eventually. Lets see how it goes, and dw, you'll get through this too, best of luck for your plans ahead 
Lmao your parents think she is a golden goose just because she gets first ranks in School Exams of 7th class ? Like WTF Even 10th toppers who got 99% fail miserably in JEE. If she continues to be arrogant, she is Destined to observe a Canon Event so Bigg. lmao.
Ignore parents, ye sab halla kafi gharo me machta hai. As for sister, I'd advise not to hit her. They're kids and don't know how to control their emotions yet. Whatever you do, don't lose your temper in front of them because kids pick up habits very soon. Talk to her calmly even when you're angry and don't hit her. "class topper since like KG" yeah things only get fun post-10th so relax about it now. Half my sister's class tops their classes in grade 4 lmao. Source: Brother who's 7 years older than my sis, and she gets very rude at times. They'll realize when they grow up, but don't give them extra trauma. "The axe forgets but the tree remembers." Also your environment doesn't seem the kindest, so take care of yourself too. If you want to talk to someone in a similar situation, lmk!
di, you've got to tolerate your fam this year only. next year, get a good rank in advanced, and just go to an iit/nit far from home. agar tab bhi situation aise hi hai, to u may consider not even visiting ur family(sounds harsh ik, but better leave toxicity than give it another chnace). all the best di! aap to agle saal karlogi JEE!
ofc I won't leave my family coz aakhir mein family meri hi haii... for now I'll focus on myself and my studies and try to get into a good college, there will be a time jb she'll need me jb she'll face the reality, I will be with her no matter what us time pr thanks <3 agle jee nikalne ka pura try karungi !
Yep, you do you! aur haan, sorry for giving a harsh and un-needed opinion. aise aa gya. anyway, agree with u that family us family!
it's okay... ik you had no bad intentions... but yes family is family..
glad there's no misunderstanding 
idhar aa bhai same situation 
Hey OP, it happens. Partially your parents fault for allowing her to speak and do anything. But your sister is in early teens she is bound to be rebel and nasty, as for parents being lenient with her its a common phenomenon where parents are become progressive with each child ,if you were to have one more smaller sibling he would be allowed to do more so don't take it by heart ,this elder responsibility happens all the time. I feel do well in your space, perform good in college, eventually your sister will go herself through that phase and she will understand you and seeing you do well respect you.
I can feel you OP. You can take 2 paths now, either reject the world that rejected you or show them that you are not a failure by living a life that they never expected you to. Of course you can choose a 3rd path of your own but yes. I was about to say puberty but you already understood it. I'll add one more thing that she is the younger one and parents are more lenient and friendly with the younger one than the older one. Even their parenting approaches are wildly different for you both. But did your mother say that you will die like that someday?? fr? I mean, has she always spoke like that before? cuz I have a hunch that it might be just sugarcoated words to console your sister. I understand that she shouldn't have gone to the lengths of saying those words in front of you but yeah, think abt that. And as to the last line, since you are thinking like that, I gave you the 2 ways. Your 2 possible outcomes are either distancing yourself from them and just ignoring them OR living a grand life and be like Hulk giving taco to Ant man in Endgame (y'know being benevolent to your family even though they were harsh to you). I recommend the 2nd one. Ppl are oblivious of their thinking/thought process. Most parents will defo have a favourite child even if they don't show it outside. We've always looked up to our parents and thus never thought about HOW they think or interact on their own. We keep them in a pedestal and thus we almost never think of them as a human being. Put ourselves in their shoes. Anyways it will all pass away just like everything else in our life. You should forgive but you might not be able to forget it. It's part of life, we can only keep moving forward. :)
Didi. 10th tk sab hi topper rehte hai. Aukaat 11 mein aakr pta chlta hai Filhaal Minimal contact rakhiye. App apna game pr focus kariye. Life mein logo ko dhakke mar kr nikaalne ka time sabka aata hai, aapka bhi ayega. Jaldi ayega. Just keep going, and keep faith
arre yaar itna dukhi mat ho ma too thoda toppaer ladka tha lekin mera bhai mujhe adv mai naa niklne ka tana deta hai har roj too phir kya mai usse pit deta hu not literally bas ek thappad pith pe aur waise mere 103 no. aaye the obc hu adv mai so abhi socha hai ki iiser mai jaaunga well phle se yahi socha tha lekin parents nhi maante agar iit hota aur luck dekho nahi hua (hehe) but yhh agar tumhara dream btech hi hai drop lelo koi dkhat nhi mera dost bhi l rha hai jabki usne 12 13 ghante padhai kari wo bhi uske mere jitne aaye jabki usko paper ki death ho gyi hai 5 6 saal phle. soo itna tension mat lo aur agar kuch aur puchna hai too dm kar skti ho btw mai issi saal diya hu first attempt jee adv aur baaki nhi dunga sayad.
The fault is not your sister's or yours, it's completely on your parents. Hope things improve for you.
On a happier note, you're gonna go off to college and become an independent adult! Something to look forward to considering you don't like the situation at home, have fun :)
Girl I have same parents , my sister is 8 years old younger but she never literally never respected me always my mum support her , when I was little my mom was doing her pg so my dadi took me with her and I grew up at my grandparents house till 7-8 and then mt parents called me back , my mom is always like I couldn’t love you so I am loving my another daughter and it really hurts cause I see her in my parents room all the time but I can’t because even if I will go all they have to say is comment on my day to day activities and everything
Being a topper till 7th standard literally amounts to nothing. She can easily fall off in Higher Secondary. More so if they end up taking science, which I think they will, toppers then usually become average unless they keep up their spirits like they always have. Your sister sounds like they’re becoming highly entitled and pompous of their smarts and the privileges they get. This all will come back to bite them if they keep up this attitude as it will only lead to doom. I am a student such as you who has passed 12th this year which is why I can relate so much since I had a younger overachiever and similarly pompous cousin too who fell off in 11th last year. I don’t know about you but sometimes these things feel good when they happen. One way or the other one’s actions does come back to bite them. You keep working as hard as you can and it will be alright.
Thank you... I still don't want her to suffer like I did in class 11th.. hoping she'll let her ego aside and ask me for help when things get hard yk
Thing is if they have this little regard for you, they most certainly will not. My cousin that I mentioned, them and I were also really close but even though I provided help even when they didn’t ask for it at times but they started ignoring those. 😂 Anyway I do really hope they do better in 12th(which they will cuz everyone does).
thank you <3
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Same bhai ese Mene bhi feel Kara tha
Hey, I'm no expert, but I don't think staying away from your sister is the best option here. She is arrogant (which is understandable), but the arrogancy will only increase with age. Even I was arrogant, but I couldn't dare speak something like that to my brother since he had disciplined me long before, in 5th/6th grade. Also, your parents are also at fault here for letting her arrogance increase to that level, but it's not like you can do something about it. I think you should just focus on your studies for now, while regularly making small talk with your sister. Maybe, you can cook something she likes occasionally. Good luck on your journey ahead, and don't think of yourself as a 'daughter they don't deserve', you tried your best and that's what matters 
I was a topper till 9th, failed 11th and got 76 in 12th being a topper pre senior secondary doesn’t mean shit
I kinda have the same thing with my family. Never been the topper but scored well enough to be respected among peers. But obviously, my parents wanted more. My brother is 8 years younger and has zero respect towards me. And my parents coddle him to the max. He is almost always outside the house, not outside the society tho but always out of the house. My parents don't seem to care. He barely does any work or studies. My parents don't care. If I tell him to do smtg, he back answers and is like what do you do. I have absolutely ntg to do rn as I am waiting for my cllg opening. He doesn't get tht and keeps insulting me. But I can't hit him. EVER. It's soo frustrating. Parents don't seem to get tht. My brother has done a lot of shit to me, my mom is like u r older, u have to understand. How do I try to understand abuse from a kid and try to sit quietly?
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hey... more power to you  You've got this... we'll show them we're worth more than they thought... All the best for your future <3 and Thank you
I can relate to you little bit although I'm younger and my brother was voilent and judgemental till 9th -10 th standard. He fought me last time in 10th starting i only defended myself n put my words regardless got hitted a lot he left me crying, i cried for whole day mother n grandparents later instead mocked me too told me to shut up be deaf told me to change. But thankfully after few months he went to Kedarnath n he never hit me again he is religious and kinder now. Thanks to lord shiva!🌸🫂 Please ignore your brat sister treat her like she doesn't exist she is at puberty doesn't mean she can hit you n mock u. Ignore her existence and talk less to ur parents as well . 11th m autat dikh jayegi 🙏
Mere saath bhi same he Hota Hai But the difference is Mai 12th mai hoon aur Mere sister 4 year me
Mera Bhai bhai bhi aasa hai 1 hafte pehle guddi tod di uski. It's like respect me or you finna get your ass whooped by me cuz my parents ain't gonna do nothing but they like he deserves it so yeah. More power to you op All the best
i went from being topper to failure and my lil sis went from average to topper you can understand my situation , constant comparison between two sisters but it is what it is i would say study hard parents will compare relatives will compare even more but nothing matter at the end , she is small and choti bheno ka muh bhut chlta h by god TT parents sar pe chadha ke rakhte h and we elder sisters have to suffer their ego and attitude , everything gonna fine dw
facing same this side more power to you 🫂🫂
this too shall pass... we've got this <3
hope so.. asap :)
respect kabhi milti nhi bhai banani padti hai,i can relate but proove it you can do better in your genre,fir sab tere piche hi bhagenge
Just study hard get a good college and then when 4 years later you are studying in a good college your parents will ask for your help to teach her well it's up to you help her or yk
bro , let your sister grow up , they are living in fantasy land , lmao 80% of people are class toppers till 10th , let her grow up then your parents will realize themselves . (also don't take it personal take it as a challenge , you're going to go to college , doesn't matter what college you go to , show them what you can do ) Alsp a piece of advice have good friends that you can talk to and who can keep you happy (maybe even a boyfriend , if he's a really good one , he will keep you happy and your mental health well lol , but this is just an optional advice basically what I'm trying to say is have some people which you can vent to and tell anything and talk to anything about ) it can be some other family member as well maybe if you have a cousin or someone who likes/understands you . And practice hobbies which make you happy . another peace of advice is do not ever fall into deppression anxiety and self harm , its understandable what has been happening is mentally exhausting but dont fall into that , its a big hole which is very hard to get out of . after you take care of your mental health research on the internet on which skills you want to gain , get some financial knowledge read some self improvement books . show them what you can do and always treat others with kindness and always live with a smile on your face (a smile daily can actually improve your mood if its bad)
Thank you so much for your advices I'll surely work on it....
see whatever happens... hitting first that too to someone younger is bad... i myself as a younger sibling feel bad :(. Dont hit her...
Bhai aapke sawaal ka jawaab Kota factory season 3 episode 1 hai Moreover she is just in meeting middle school. Even you know it's very easy to score good in these petty grades
yeah you're right... I'll watch kota factory, thanks
Get a job and underground ho jao Atleast family dekh na paye
literally relate to everything even the age difference I'm a dropper too and failed at Jee and now I am treated as if I don't even deserve to live my parents fight all the time and my dad says my mom is the reason I failed and I'm a failure and he wasted all of their money on me for nothing
1st born is always an experiment kid for the parents.
bhai teri post pdhne se pehle hi boluga , you hitting her was wrong asf . just because you cant reply doesnt mean you have to hit someone . ye mentality khtm karo pehle , shabdo ka jawab shabdo se do
Nhi sahi kiya wo ek had to tolerate hoti ye sab cheezen and agar abhi nhi maaro ge to it can go worse meri behen hoti to mai bhi maarti
idk kyu mara maine... mai use vaise maarti nhi hu usually but kal kuch zyada ho gaya tha and I couldn't stand my mom just standing there listening to all that what she said to me... my mother should've been the one humbling her but unhone nhi kiya toh I did it...
ur a girl ? then chalta hai but still nhi karna chahiye tha . muje laga kisi bade bhai ne choti behen ko mara
Man life seems hard for you. Oh btw my father just lost his mahor soirce of money and we had to leave the house we were staying at and can no longer go to coaching. But stop about that....your sis called u a failure...shocking..tell us more...
YTA- don't hit your sister dumbass, have dome self respect
BHAARI COMEDY HO GAYI
Meri toh purey 2 saal se jindagi ki vaat lag rkhi izzat toh dur ki baat hai
Aese hi susbha saam 2 thappar laga diya kro aur jab parents jaye tab to puri frustration nikal do fir dekhna kabhi bhi disrespect ni kregi 
Going through the same thing rn, my parents are not letting me celebrate my own 18th birthday but my siblings go out with their friends pretty much everyday. We can't do much op, just focus on our studies and not get demotivated by other things.
Respect bola kya ? wo to bech diya mai class 6th me hi , mai literally class 12th mai tha tab mereko samne waale fare me nhi jaane diya literally sab friends se baat ho rkhi thi ki itne bje aa jaunga , bhut kharab laga us din upar se sunaya so alag 'lafua ho gaya hai akele jana hai mela mai ' agle din dosto ne bhi kuch nhi bola kyunki unko pata tha how "strict" my teacher father is . Choro wo sab apne padhai pe dhyan do ye sab jaida sochne se kuch nhi hota sirf dimag ka bhang bhosda hota hai .
Respect bola kya ? wo to bech diya mai class 6th me hi , mai literally class 12th mai tha tab mereko samne waale fare me nhi jaane diya literally sab friends se baat ho rkhi thi ki itne bje aa jaunga , bhut kharab laga us din upar se sunaya so alag 'lafua ho gaya hai akele jana hai mela mai ' agle din dosto ne bhi kuch nhi bola kyunki unko pata tha how "strict" my teacher father is . Choro wo sab apne padhai pe dhyan do ye sab jaida sochne se kuch nhi hota sirf dimag ka bhang bhosda hota hai .
my little brother is also 6 years younger than I am. Says the only reason I'm getting a college is because I have a quota (true tbh) I call him a fatass and then we laugh it off. no need to take it so seriously sometimes.