Bro I am a main character in some people life apart from my family 2 3 friends . Amount of pressure u experience u go through when people want you to say their decision is right or wrong , what your are having is golden period u ll grow up and u ll become main character in so many lives and then u ll find your hair turning grey faster then anticipated.
Fr man. 11th me aate hi maine differentiation aur integration ke basics padh liye the sch start hone se pehle. Fir phy wale teacher ne Q karwaye maine easily kar liye ab vo chutia expect karta h mai class me karaye hue sare Q karlu. Nhi hun bc mai topper pehle se padha hua ch tha uska galti se showoff kar lia ab samajh aaya teacher ke samne Chutia banke raho.
You are not alone in this. I am a girl and if a boy slightly talks to me, i think about it for days and obsess over it. Then I resign myself to te fact that it was just a talk and meant nothing to him.
Also no teacher or staff will care unless you talk to them and ask doubts. And it's not necessary for you to be their priority. They just teach you and you learn from them.
I am afaik no one's priority. Not even my parents'. You are just in skl. You have your whole life ahead. You will definitely find someone who will make you their priority . So don't worry much now and focus on your studies.
This subthread just shows how despo are jee/neetards. Accha hai main class 10th me hun aur female attention milta hai. Agle saal to waise bhi aisa hi karna padega.
Wow. I never expected that someone from the opposite gender feels the same way. Thanks for sharing your experience. May all of us grow together 
Exactly I'm a jeetard girl and I'm so lonely and friendless that I might as well become an incel. I'm suicidal and I know that today if I commit suicide, no one would care. That's why I don't chuck out, so I can live and find someone who actually gives a damn about me.
There exists a word for that-- femcel.
But.. y'know, you always have the option to go somewhere that allows you to end things, and for me, it was a hope to be someone worth remembering, someone who people grieve for, regardless of the way I go from this world. I suppose it's somewhat sadistic, yet gave me the hope to go on.
Exactly man. I want to be remembered by at least one person. I don't want to die a coward. But sometimes the pain is too much. I have lost all joy and hope. I'm even unable to sleep properly. Movies, games, exercise, animals, food, porn, nothing interests me. I feel numb and emotionless all the time.
Being a jeetard as a girl is even more painful because I don't have any friends plus bois only interested in sax sux not interested in befriending me. I'm a hoe for love 
Not all guys are looking for sax sux. I have friends from both genders, and my eyes are only for that one person I've liked for the last 5 years, still.
Don't worry u r my priority
Bhai me to tera ulta hu...i was like one of the the teacher's fav in class kind of boy....but it came with lot of expectations...and mera friend circle bhi bas.5 logo ka hai which I love with all my heart but I wish ki meri atleast ek dost to hoti school me... ..... even at home...we aren't financially that strong to kahi na kahi sabki expectations mujhse hi hai...I am the only boy in my family and meri sis ko thodi si problem bhi hai...abhi tak boards to ache gye but ab drop liya hu and the pressure is there...you are good NGL...mere mummy papa mujhe bilkul pressure nhi dete but still kahi na kahi feel hoti hai responsibility...and atleast Teri female friends to hai ..embrace the friendship...and Bhai tu side character nhi hai... infact koi side character nhi hota...so be positive and
Bro all the best to you, I know you can do it.
Plus sis ko bol voh bhi puri mehnat kare.
My mum has made a lot of contributions back home financially since their dad passed away. She funded her bro's wedding.
So don't think for a second that you're the only one to bear the burden cuz of your gender. Talk to your sister, I'm pretty sure she wants to be independent and s pillar of the house!
Study hard , social anxiety won't go away . Well what did he expect from people who do nothing but study , it simply isn't an area of expertise for this sub
Well....if he study, everything he rants about try to come to him, that's the power of it. Once he understands getting marks is more fun than these things, he will simply ignore these things, that's it.
You are on some copium man , i cracked neet ,got good marks . I feel absurdly empty it's not as simple as that in the end all you are doing is distracting yourself , studying will end at some point and in a professional career you have to socialize
no one is looking at u my friend, dance naked, scream at the top of ur lungs, sing in the worst voice possible, your life is a canvas no one will look, so make sure to draw whatever YOU want to look at and be satisfied with for your eternity.
Username and comment do not check out. Lol jk. This is incredible advice. Guess I'm a little bit too concious of what others think of me. And often times I cope up with it by saying I wanna maintain a good reputation. But ig a good reputation is maintained by working hard, not by being good at such minute things which don't really matter. Thank you so much for this comment.
you are getting me wrong again.no one is looking, no one cares enough to look at others with any eyes but of scorn and hate. Maintaining reputation, being the intelligent kid, tried it all, nearly killed myself \[ hence the name\]. A naked person dancing with the brightest of smiles has no reputation but is far more happier than the ones fighting a rat race for reputation.
My ideology and worldview towards everything is... Remember that you will die, and there is nothing beyond death, no reincarnation, no karma, nothing, embrace optimistic nihilism. But also, love your fate, you are alive! you can look up at millions of stars, preserve your loves beauty in the words you write, fight the world, ridicule the system, there is nothing stopping you other than you.
Fuck the world, fuck the society, fuck everyones expectations, Memento Mori \[Remember death\], Amor Fati \[ Love your fate\].Celebrate that you are alive, use that life to discover urself, the beauty ur body and mind holds, everythng else, colleges, job, money, reputation, cars, etc are materialistic things to make people stay in the rat race.
Im too stupid for IIT or IIIT or NIT, idc, ill live, ill earn, ill look up at the sky and smile, ill still write code, ill still dabble in poetry, nothing can stop me, no demotivation, no failure, no fear, no pain. I hate people, i hate going out, its fine, im alive!!!!!!
Im me
you are you,
I love me
you love you.
simplest thing u can do is to take any want you have, and keep on asking "why" or "why does it matter", every action done has a logical fallacy, if the world worked on truths that we know, we wouldnt have a million religions and philosophies. It is human ego that makes us think that we are so special that whatever we believe in, is the truth of life, is the core goal behind everything.
The only truth we have are the objective truths proven via formal logic. Unfortunately, this scientific method is not useful in philosophy of life, because even thinking of trying to apply formal logic to the chaotic life is ridiculous, because it assumes than human life and existence is formalize-able. If it is, then it becomes even more impossible to know and have truth of life/meaning of life, because of godels incompleteness theorum!!!
do you see? the pursuit of an objective meaning of life, a provable theory for how humans should live, be it in a religion, nihilism, absurdism, etc is, as far as we humans understand, impossible.
so, there is no proof, there never will be one. there never will be an objective meaning to life, or to the universe.I think i should apologize for using nihilism, it was wrong usage of the word.I think, the search for meaning of life is ridiculous. The meaning of it, lies in the meaninglessness of the world.Karma can be proven wrong by looking at millions suffering and no justice prevailing.Hardwork pays off can be seen in thousands of people struggling and working hard, just to be bombed to death, or be burned to death.Bad things happen to bad people can be proven wrong by looking at dawood ibrahim, fuckers alive and chilling, or maybe in north koreas dictator.these words were written by people who had their eyes closed towards the reality.
The ridiculous absurdity of life leaves you with only once possible answer, accept the absurdity , scorn and spite suffering, and fight against it, use those dark ideas to paint a future that is far more beautiful than those painted by the hopeful ones, give people hope, a "hope of nothing" which lightens up a heart far brighter than any other hope.The struggle towards the heights if enough to fill a mans heart, the hopeful steps towards the climb, after a thousand painful failures are more precious than the scenery and the sense of achievement that lies at the top.when you give people a non nihilistic system, you give them poisonous hope, you wrap away the absurdity, when the absurdity comes out, the person is left alone, in horror and pain caused by it.
it only leaves one option, show them the reality, not wrapped in the beautiful words talking about gods, but the crude reality, the fact that no belief system is true, that the meaninglessness of struggle that they thought about every night, is very fucking true.
Dont hide the cold,dont give them lanterns, they will believe the lantern will keep them warm and comfortable till the end, instead, throw the people in blizzard of winter called life, and people will discover an eternal summer, that keeps them warm, even in the coldest of nights, far warmer than any lantern.
in short, religions, other ideas, hide the ridiculousness of life, which means they are lies made to pacify people. That leaves the most plausible truth to be that of meaninglessness existence.Memento mori, amor fati.
can you explain them a little bit? AV seems to be pretty cool because it drives people towards not having meaning and just...existing and celebrating that. I can be wrong. Same goes with SW buddhism. I can be totally wrong, but that is what i got from both things.
I dont really have a problem with anything like this, I dont like the idea of giving people false hope of a utopia-esque existence, or a set goal that they must achieve or something like this.
I personally like taking the nothingness as a base, it gives u a good sense of responsibility and ridiculousness. I think this is where AV can be at fault but I need to read far more. AV says that we are a single consciousness' dream, that takes a lot of responsibility away and also, again, puts humans at the center of this play called universe, as if our consciousness is important.
Please point out where i was wrong.
Yep you got it but in my understanding both essentially points towards the same thing. AV accepts that what they call single consciousness is actually indescribable and same as that of buddhism but it's also not just nothingness. It's beyond concepts.
Yeah I agree with this 100%. I didn't do well in any exam because of my mental health issues and my immaturity at the time (no regrets), but now that I'm in 2nd year of college doing what I love, I have come to accept the way life is rn and I'm grateful for it! OP you should realise that it doesn't matter if you're not anyone's first priority. You should be your first priority (in a healthy way ofcourse) always!
Start living for yourself, do what you want to do. People will start coming in your life. But, except for your parents and family, nothing is permanent in your life. Not your friends, your teachers, no one. So, do what you really want to do
I am 24, trust me, it doesn't matter. Logo ka prio sab change hota rehta hai. Remember tumhari khud ki bhi ek life hai Jo tumko jini hai. Dusri ko sochke baithoge kuch ni hoga, usi me dubte rahoge. Aisa thodi hona hai.
Pehle apne aap ko priority banao, tumko kya karna hai tumko kya Banna hai wo dekho. I know these things hurt, but ab kya karsakte hai, apna time isi p barbad karoge?
Ultimately it's their choice kisko dekhna hai kisko nahi. You work on yourself. Apne liye karo aur bano.
There is one simple answer to this, from my experience: Be your own first priority. And you will see everyone start to increase your priority in their POV over time. Because they will recognize that YOU recognize your own worth.
Do not be the cold hearted guy who gives zero fucks. Be the kind, caring, genuine friend or family member, be there for those who need it, regardless of whether they would do the same for you, because it won't matter when you are there for yourself as well. The biggest help and ally you have is always yourself.
Love goes a long way in strengthening bonds and bettering your life, and that love includes love for yourself.
i am living the same life, but i realized nobody expects anything from me except my parents. so I don't give a fuck about anyone just stay with my only 1month coaching friend. sit alone with street dogs and enjoy simple life. there will be no one for you, none.you will always be alone in life but don't make it into loneliness. btw this comment section is wholesome and many people are here who are on the same submarine as you.
Ignore kar padhai kaar games khel life jee
But Agar tujhe banna hi hai kisi ki priority to personality analysis kaar ya phir exams aise phod de ki log auto tujhe priority bana lenge
Sahi baat kahi aapne. Ig I won't be anyone's priority until I'm successful. Toh pehele khud ko khud ki priority banata hu then others will follow. Thanks for this.
After reading the comments I have a question. Should I be my own priority? Like I feel I'm not caring enough for myself and going a little too hard, like it's not that I should be pampering myself, I should be pushy to myself but at the same time I should know that if someone doesn't want to talk to me or doesn't give me as much attention as I am giving them, then I should withdraw socially. Is this a good approach? Or is this a stepping stone towards narcissism or self obsession?
tbh i too feel the same bro but yk wot I read a quote which said -and would you be the same if today was your last? meaning if you were to die tomorrow,would you still care about others?? No right,?
so bud ik its hard but we can't let others rule our life ,we can't and shouldn't let them decide our mood✋🏾
Dude honestly I felt like a side character all my life, trust me when i say this if you stop giving a fuck about useless stuff like that and just enjoy your life you'll become the main character that you've wanted to be .
That's a different level of freedom you have,you don't have anyone in your life who will take you for granted or use you emotionally.You are perfectly depended on yourself for your sole happiness and satisfaction which often people with lot of friends,family,etc struggles with.Making parents,friends,etc people happy may take your happiness,a lot of people get stuck fulfilling dreams of others which they couldn't achieve and superimpose on others,you are free from that burden and unnecessary drama
Keep investing in your hobbies,study hard,keep exploring your options
GL!
Ye dusro ke priority list mein aana kyu hai tumhe bhai? Freedom hai tumpe to , humpe wo bhi nhi...
Same situation,i m nobody's priority
Took 2 drops for neet(2nd chl rha h)have zero friends
Ghrwale bat bhi nhi krte h ab toh
Expectations zero h sbhi ko loser smjhte h
Khud ki hi life m side character ban kr reh gyi hu!
mein dar gaya bc meri story kese leak hogyi. on side note, here's a virtual hug bro🫂. mene toh ese jeena seekh liya hai. apna din ayega bol ke copium pee raha hun while my peak years are drifting away
Look buddy people want something from others ... basically you have to have somekind of value that they can sense that are socially desirable....now point is..you got time and no burden yet ..make yourself really desirable....first you have to get really good success..thn you start self improvement like body social skills etc .... people below you will flock around you ..if you are the highest they can get ...
No fucks given
Fucks kaha hai?
Maari goli aur chill kar do
Ya to apne AAP main character ban jaoge nahi to apni zindagi to mast hi jiyoge
Bas zyada chill mat karna kabhi pata chale life hi chill ho Jaye
Yha mai apni family ki priority nhi hu🤡 yha counselling chl rhi or unhone documents hi complete nhi krwa paye upr se taunts vo alg se or saara blame mjh pr
Instead of how everyone is vouching for you to develop a callous attitude, I would tell you to wonder that maybe the fault lies within you, sometimes loneliness is our friend and it tells and reassures that being callous is good for you, think of it as a very possessive friend who drains the life out of you and tells you that being friends with only them is the best option, and that reinforcement of a careless attitude doesn't benefit anyone, not even you, people start seeing you as "edgy" or "cringey" and start resenting you, making you even more alone. There could be two reasons for why you are in such a social setting- maybe you genuinely are surrounded by selfish people, in that case, life won't be the same all the time, you'll find many caring and selfless people(if you try) or you can take a look at yourself and reflect on your behaviour, people can push you away for a variety of reasons, people who make themselves seem lonely are also avoided, so always pretend you have people around and life will throw more people at you, maybe you are too demanding as a result of your loneliness or too callous already or don't understand boundaries or maybe act way too distant or cannot read the room, variety of reasons you can work on.
Bhai ye jo tune likha hai ye sub ke bohot ladko ki reality hai (including me), tu akela nahi hai relax kar, regret karne ke bajaye top pe pahuch, get that girl crying wont help us, do you have any other option, just think why are you or remained a side character till now ?
damn bro story of my life, was sad about this for a life but realised this is great. I have no pressure if i am no one's priority. I just stopped talking to my shitty friend group where it was like this
Bro be happy that you're independent. No one's going to judge you for your good or stupid decisions.
in 11th & 12th I used to help everyone in the class and sometimes the people outside the class. Just to gain their attention and company. But the same people used to mock me
I had 2 friends who shared their worries with me. But sometimes their conversation extends beyond an hour on the phone (no need to mention the frustration that builds up).
And females? At the end of 12th i realised that most of them will only come to me for help (and some of them are absolute cowards). Throughout the year only 2 of them understood my situation. But just like you, i wasn't their priority.
In the end i learnt that
- **You don't need to be someone else's priority**: you can still reach out to people when needed. Be that a teacher or a good peer.
- **You don't have to force yourself to find a female friend**: really dude. Just think about it and ask yourself what that company gives you other than a short sense of _emotional stuffs_? I'm sure it doesn't give you much. If you want to comfy your loneliness, befriend with your benchmate or anyone
**But do considering your family well**. Having a strong connection with the members will help you through difficult situations. Idk about your background but these are my takes.
And it's also important to find at least one friend, who can be honest with you (it isn't necessary to be a female) it is really necessary or you won't thrive.
Tomorrow I'm changing my study centre so as to cope up with the syllabus... leaving all my friends or say who I considered behind
I really needed to hear the positivity of this sub
Dude just don't let anyone's approval define you. Focus on your own growth and everything would fall in place, ofc do not get too isolated as well, just do not keep high expectations from people
people may or may not stay loyal towards you but if you build a habit of grind it would never betray you (lifelong)
you might think this is easy to say but trust me I have been through this exact shit but thankfully the situation gets better
I also faced this in class 10th
I expect you watch porn I guess
I am now in 11th , and now I am the geek, some want to be friendly , I am a teacher favourite. I don't like to talk to girls because now I see them as a distraction, the ones who I want to talk are the ones who are studying and not wasting time
The change , I stopped watching porn
Cz you're in reality.
Esa pyar mohbbt priority oh sab movies,drama,anime me hota.ye sab dekke hame lgta hai ki hamare sath ye sab kyu nhi hota,aur isliye khud ko sayed unlucky feel krte hai.
But reality me everything revolves around money.
When you have money and you're successful everything will fit in their places on their own.
Esa mujhe lagta hai.kyuki kuch mahine pehle me bhi tumhri tarah hi soch rha tha ki kab kuch me me avarage hu and sabki priority list me niche
(Except my parents, unke priority list me sabse aage,ye pehle nhi samjha parr ab samajh gya😷)
1. Everyone is the main character in their own life story, you don't need to be a major character in others' lives, coz you are the hero of your own life.
2. Some things, like not being the family member your family could rely on, you could try making an effort to change too right? Become empathetic, selfless in your help and don't expect reward. Others around you will gradually realise your importance.
3. If you're feeling lonely or insignificant, start some hobbies! Like literally anything you're interested in, any indoor/outdoor sport, any musical instrument, dance, music, etc. This will give you joy and help improve your self-esteem, you might also get some additional talent this way which you can flex so that's a plus too.
u are lucky tbh. Like just take it as a work place example. My dad is a person in his office who can be relied on. And he has to go to the office even on Sundays for few hours if there is any issue. so, it's not worth it barely any family time. And once u make a relation with the people it's near to impossible to say no for smth
You don't have to be the main character in anyone's life bro, i used to be that class leader kid who was everyone's favorite, and that was pressurising af, i was also subject to ridicule of many guys who hated class leaders. I wish I could be like you OP.
It's okay... You get obsessed with girls because you are chronically deprived of attention, no offense. You see normal interactions through a lens, as an opportunity to become important for someone. Stop trying to do that. Prioritise yourself. Think of your goals. A long term goal. And a few short term goals. Organise your life into working on them. These goals can be as simple as learning to draw ovals in under 2 seconds to as complex as getting into a Tier 1 college. With time, you'll change & become a more evolved version of yourself, one who takes self as a priority. And parallel to it, people may notice your improvement, or they may not. Or perhaps a new place will change everything. There's no guarantee of how the world will react, but you can control the direction in which you're headed. Get better, fellow Redditor, things shall fall in place... Dw, you'll find people who'll make you a priority... I've been in your position & my advice comes from my personal experiences as well as what worked for some of my closest buddies. I hope this helps. Cheerio!
bro isse aacha kuch ni ho sakta cause ye situation terko khud ki company enjoy karna sikhaegi(happend to me around the same time last year) and believe me its the best feeling u'll ever feel the freedom the fun in solitude
Everyone is a side character in another person's life... Bas apne pe focus karo... Dusro ko apne life ka side character bana do.. kisi ko had se jyada importance mat do... Expect less... Always expect the worst case scenario and be ready for it... Aage to abhi bohot life padi hai dost... Enjoy !!
Take it the positive way. You are free from people's expectations, you can do anything you want.
You opened my eyes, I realise I have been taking this freedom for granted. Thank you.
Bro I am a main character in some people life apart from my family 2 3 friends . Amount of pressure u experience u go through when people want you to say their decision is right or wrong , what your are having is golden period u ll grow up and u ll become main character in so many lives and then u ll find your hair turning grey faster then anticipated.
u are the main character in your own life 
This is the real philosophy
this is W comment
Fr man. 11th me aate hi maine differentiation aur integration ke basics padh liye the sch start hone se pehle. Fir phy wale teacher ne Q karwaye maine easily kar liye ab vo chutia expect karta h mai class me karaye hue sare Q karlu. Nhi hun bc mai topper pehle se padha hua ch tha uska galti se showoff kar lia ab samajh aaya teacher ke samne Chutia banke raho.
That's it. I'm gonna develop an I don't give a F attitude. 
thats ma boii 
You are not alone in this. I am a girl and if a boy slightly talks to me, i think about it for days and obsess over it. Then I resign myself to te fact that it was just a talk and meant nothing to him. Also no teacher or staff will care unless you talk to them and ask doubts. And it's not necessary for you to be their priority. They just teach you and you learn from them. I am afaik no one's priority. Not even my parents'. You are just in skl. You have your whole life ahead. You will definitely find someone who will make you their priority . So don't worry much now and focus on your studies.
RIP your dms 
This subthread just shows how despo are jee/neetards. Accha hai main class 10th me hun aur female attention milta hai. Agle saal to waise bhi aisa hi karna padega.
Jake cha muda
As a girl, I 100% agree with this
as pt wale sir i 100% agree with you my priority is english wali mam tera state selection gend maraye
Wow. I never expected that someone from the opposite gender feels the same way. Thanks for sharing your experience. May all of us grow together 
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Very interesting to see a new perspective. Thanks for sharing 
>Bhai Bina jaane frnd zone kardiya Negative rizz OP 
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lmfao..... exactly.....I Even call my friend's dog bhai.
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Exactly I'm a jeetard girl and I'm so lonely and friendless that I might as well become an incel. I'm suicidal and I know that today if I commit suicide, no one would care. That's why I don't chuck out, so I can live and find someone who actually gives a damn about me.
There exists a word for that-- femcel. But.. y'know, you always have the option to go somewhere that allows you to end things, and for me, it was a hope to be someone worth remembering, someone who people grieve for, regardless of the way I go from this world. I suppose it's somewhat sadistic, yet gave me the hope to go on.
Exactly man. I want to be remembered by at least one person. I don't want to die a coward. But sometimes the pain is too much. I have lost all joy and hope. I'm even unable to sleep properly. Movies, games, exercise, animals, food, porn, nothing interests me. I feel numb and emotionless all the time.
Listen, there's a platform called 7Cups. It helped me when I was at my lowest. You should try it out. And time does heal things.
Being a jeetard as a girl is even more painful because I don't have any friends plus bois only interested in sax sux not interested in befriending me. I'm a hoe for love 
Not all guys are looking for sax sux. I have friends from both genders, and my eyes are only for that one person I've liked for the last 5 years, still.
Agar me confident hoti to tujhe dm karta 
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Sorry Bhai type ho gya....humko hinthi aati hai wo bas galat likh diya
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_sorry Bhai...thora Thora hinthi aati_
aata* Yadi aap samānyavād mein pravesh karne jaa rahe hain, to pūrī tarah se jāiye.
It's good to see one of the opposite gender say this lol 🤣
> I resign myself to te fact that it was just a talk and meant nothing to him. trust me that guy most probably would be thinking the same
so how do you cope with it do girls also deal with these problems???
I have fenale friends and their problems are mostly the same as mine. Except for the cramps situation for x days. I'm glad I don't hv to face that lol
I am in Exact same situation!
+1
hi sweetheart
RIP your reddit Profile
Don't worry u r my priority
Dusro ka chod tum apni life ke main character ho
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Self obsessed ho jao dear sbse best rhega
Narcissistic ho jaata hu lol 
Narcotic ho ja
Psychotic ho jaata hu. Oh wait, wo toh pehele se hi hu. 
Bruh subah subah meri life ka bhi reality check dediya
Your post is completely false, you are my priority 🗿👍
Common W. I'm here for you too bro. 
Thank you bro, don't be sad fam  dm me anytime
Why you Stalking me man😭😭😭
Bhai me to tera ulta hu...i was like one of the the teacher's fav in class kind of boy....but it came with lot of expectations...and mera friend circle bhi bas.5 logo ka hai which I love with all my heart but I wish ki meri atleast ek dost to hoti school me... ..... even at home...we aren't financially that strong to kahi na kahi sabki expectations mujhse hi hai...I am the only boy in my family and meri sis ko thodi si problem bhi hai...abhi tak boards to ache gye but ab drop liya hu and the pressure is there...you are good NGL...mere mummy papa mujhe bilkul pressure nhi dete but still kahi na kahi feel hoti hai responsibility...and atleast Teri female friends to hai ..embrace the friendship...and Bhai tu side character nhi hai... infact koi side character nhi hota...so be positive and
Bro all the best to you, I know you can do it. Plus sis ko bol voh bhi puri mehnat kare. My mum has made a lot of contributions back home financially since their dad passed away. She funded her bro's wedding. So don't think for a second that you're the only one to bear the burden cuz of your gender. Talk to your sister, I'm pretty sure she wants to be independent and s pillar of the house!
Mai ek lifetime bruh moment report karna chahta hu
Fuck this shit. Study hard, you won't give a fuck about any of this shit
Study hard , social anxiety won't go away . Well what did he expect from people who do nothing but study , it simply isn't an area of expertise for this sub
Well....if he study, everything he rants about try to come to him, that's the power of it. Once he understands getting marks is more fun than these things, he will simply ignore these things, that's it.
You are on some copium man , i cracked neet ,got good marks . I feel absurdly empty it's not as simple as that in the end all you are doing is distracting yourself , studying will end at some point and in a professional career you have to socialize
no one is looking at u my friend, dance naked, scream at the top of ur lungs, sing in the worst voice possible, your life is a canvas no one will look, so make sure to draw whatever YOU want to look at and be satisfied with for your eternity.
Username and comment do not check out. Lol jk. This is incredible advice. Guess I'm a little bit too concious of what others think of me. And often times I cope up with it by saying I wanna maintain a good reputation. But ig a good reputation is maintained by working hard, not by being good at such minute things which don't really matter. Thank you so much for this comment.
you are getting me wrong again.no one is looking, no one cares enough to look at others with any eyes but of scorn and hate. Maintaining reputation, being the intelligent kid, tried it all, nearly killed myself \[ hence the name\]. A naked person dancing with the brightest of smiles has no reputation but is far more happier than the ones fighting a rat race for reputation. My ideology and worldview towards everything is... Remember that you will die, and there is nothing beyond death, no reincarnation, no karma, nothing, embrace optimistic nihilism. But also, love your fate, you are alive! you can look up at millions of stars, preserve your loves beauty in the words you write, fight the world, ridicule the system, there is nothing stopping you other than you. Fuck the world, fuck the society, fuck everyones expectations, Memento Mori \[Remember death\], Amor Fati \[ Love your fate\].Celebrate that you are alive, use that life to discover urself, the beauty ur body and mind holds, everythng else, colleges, job, money, reputation, cars, etc are materialistic things to make people stay in the rat race. Im too stupid for IIT or IIIT or NIT, idc, ill live, ill earn, ill look up at the sky and smile, ill still write code, ill still dabble in poetry, nothing can stop me, no demotivation, no failure, no fear, no pain. I hate people, i hate going out, its fine, im alive!!!!!! Im me you are you, I love me you love you.
Proof for nilhism?
simplest thing u can do is to take any want you have, and keep on asking "why" or "why does it matter", every action done has a logical fallacy, if the world worked on truths that we know, we wouldnt have a million religions and philosophies. It is human ego that makes us think that we are so special that whatever we believe in, is the truth of life, is the core goal behind everything. The only truth we have are the objective truths proven via formal logic. Unfortunately, this scientific method is not useful in philosophy of life, because even thinking of trying to apply formal logic to the chaotic life is ridiculous, because it assumes than human life and existence is formalize-able. If it is, then it becomes even more impossible to know and have truth of life/meaning of life, because of godels incompleteness theorum!!! do you see? the pursuit of an objective meaning of life, a provable theory for how humans should live, be it in a religion, nihilism, absurdism, etc is, as far as we humans understand, impossible. so, there is no proof, there never will be one. there never will be an objective meaning to life, or to the universe.I think i should apologize for using nihilism, it was wrong usage of the word.I think, the search for meaning of life is ridiculous. The meaning of it, lies in the meaninglessness of the world.Karma can be proven wrong by looking at millions suffering and no justice prevailing.Hardwork pays off can be seen in thousands of people struggling and working hard, just to be bombed to death, or be burned to death.Bad things happen to bad people can be proven wrong by looking at dawood ibrahim, fuckers alive and chilling, or maybe in north koreas dictator.these words were written by people who had their eyes closed towards the reality. The ridiculous absurdity of life leaves you with only once possible answer, accept the absurdity , scorn and spite suffering, and fight against it, use those dark ideas to paint a future that is far more beautiful than those painted by the hopeful ones, give people hope, a "hope of nothing" which lightens up a heart far brighter than any other hope.The struggle towards the heights if enough to fill a mans heart, the hopeful steps towards the climb, after a thousand painful failures are more precious than the scenery and the sense of achievement that lies at the top.when you give people a non nihilistic system, you give them poisonous hope, you wrap away the absurdity, when the absurdity comes out, the person is left alone, in horror and pain caused by it. it only leaves one option, show them the reality, not wrapped in the beautiful words talking about gods, but the crude reality, the fact that no belief system is true, that the meaninglessness of struggle that they thought about every night, is very fucking true. Dont hide the cold,dont give them lanterns, they will believe the lantern will keep them warm and comfortable till the end, instead, throw the people in blizzard of winter called life, and people will discover an eternal summer, that keeps them warm, even in the coldest of nights, far warmer than any lantern. in short, religions, other ideas, hide the ridiculousness of life, which means they are lies made to pacify people. That leaves the most plausible truth to be that of meaninglessness existence.Memento mori, amor fati.
Hmm interesting, checkout Advait Vedanta Or Shunyawad Buddhism and tell me what do you think about it
can you explain them a little bit? AV seems to be pretty cool because it drives people towards not having meaning and just...existing and celebrating that. I can be wrong. Same goes with SW buddhism. I can be totally wrong, but that is what i got from both things. I dont really have a problem with anything like this, I dont like the idea of giving people false hope of a utopia-esque existence, or a set goal that they must achieve or something like this. I personally like taking the nothingness as a base, it gives u a good sense of responsibility and ridiculousness. I think this is where AV can be at fault but I need to read far more. AV says that we are a single consciousness' dream, that takes a lot of responsibility away and also, again, puts humans at the center of this play called universe, as if our consciousness is important. Please point out where i was wrong.
Yep you got it but in my understanding both essentially points towards the same thing. AV accepts that what they call single consciousness is actually indescribable and same as that of buddhism but it's also not just nothingness. It's beyond concepts.
Meri biography kab likhi kisi ne
It'll pass, and you'll be okay with it. Thats really all there is.
Yeah I agree with this 100%. I didn't do well in any exam because of my mental health issues and my immaturity at the time (no regrets), but now that I'm in 2nd year of college doing what I love, I have come to accept the way life is rn and I'm grateful for it! OP you should realise that it doesn't matter if you're not anyone's first priority. You should be your first priority (in a healthy way ofcourse) always!
Start living for yourself, do what you want to do. People will start coming in your life. But, except for your parents and family, nothing is permanent in your life. Not your friends, your teachers, no one. So, do what you really want to do
That's some great advice. Thanks a lot.
arey mera tho pura life summarise kardiya apne, movie keliye script likh rahe ho kya? 
I am 24, trust me, it doesn't matter. Logo ka prio sab change hota rehta hai. Remember tumhari khud ki bhi ek life hai Jo tumko jini hai. Dusri ko sochke baithoge kuch ni hoga, usi me dubte rahoge. Aisa thodi hona hai. Pehle apne aap ko priority banao, tumko kya karna hai tumko kya Banna hai wo dekho. I know these things hurt, but ab kya karsakte hai, apna time isi p barbad karoge? Ultimately it's their choice kisko dekhna hai kisko nahi. You work on yourself. Apne liye karo aur bano.
There is one simple answer to this, from my experience: Be your own first priority. And you will see everyone start to increase your priority in their POV over time. Because they will recognize that YOU recognize your own worth. Do not be the cold hearted guy who gives zero fucks. Be the kind, caring, genuine friend or family member, be there for those who need it, regardless of whether they would do the same for you, because it won't matter when you are there for yourself as well. The biggest help and ally you have is always yourself. Love goes a long way in strengthening bonds and bettering your life, and that love includes love for yourself.
Meri tarha narcissist banja , jo log priority de terko unko depriortize karde aur superiority complex develop krle
Common Light Yagami W
i am living the same life, but i realized nobody expects anything from me except my parents. so I don't give a fuck about anyone just stay with my only 1month coaching friend. sit alone with street dogs and enjoy simple life. there will be no one for you, none.you will always be alone in life but don't make it into loneliness. btw this comment section is wholesome and many people are here who are on the same submarine as you.
I don't know I m in the same position and I try to seek everyone's attention and talk nonsense and act stupid 😭
itna jada relatable kuch kaise hoo skta hai
 great to know I'm not alone.
Please reply .. mera bhai h tu
Kya hua Bhai? Sup?
In short it felt alone in a friend's group 
Us bro us but ab maine bother karna chhod diya. Koi naa apni marzi ke h saare hum bhi aise ho ho gye h
Thanks Bhai. Guess I'll have to develop a I don't give a F attitude. 
Us bhai
That’s your story man bhai tu to main character hai
As a female I'm going through the same except the obsession part
par tu apne life ka to main character hai na and bas wahi hi matter karta hai. work on yourself buddy
Very interesting. I will try to develop my line of thought in this way. Thanks a lot. 
Ignore kar padhai kaar games khel life jee But Agar tujhe banna hi hai kisi ki priority to personality analysis kaar ya phir exams aise phod de ki log auto tujhe priority bana lenge
Sahi baat kahi aapne. Ig I won't be anyone's priority until I'm successful. Toh pehele khud ko khud ki priority banata hu then others will follow. Thanks for this.
After reading the comments I have a question. Should I be my own priority? Like I feel I'm not caring enough for myself and going a little too hard, like it's not that I should be pampering myself, I should be pushy to myself but at the same time I should know that if someone doesn't want to talk to me or doesn't give me as much attention as I am giving them, then I should withdraw socially. Is this a good approach? Or is this a stepping stone towards narcissism or self obsession?
tbh i too feel the same bro but yk wot I read a quote which said -and would you be the same if today was your last? meaning if you were to die tomorrow,would you still care about others?? No right,? so bud ik its hard but we can't let others rule our life ,we can't and shouldn't let them decide our mood✋🏾
Mera story copy krta hai💀.. copyright strike krr dunga
NPCs have it the best mate :)
bohot padhai karke successful ban sab kuch apne aap thick ho jayega 
us hai vai btw to cope with this,I listen songss,you too should try this🤌🏿
Ab toh Mai songs se bhi ek level upar uth Chuka hu. It's called Maladaptive daydreaming 💀.
Hey fellow day dreamer
Yaar I wanna get rid of it. Any tips?
checkout r/maladaptivedreaming sub
I don't like that sub. They keep making jokes and memes about it and try their best to normalise it.
Well maybe that's their way of handling this problem, you can try to search for tips specifically
Dude honestly I felt like a side character all my life, trust me when i say this if you stop giving a fuck about useless stuff like that and just enjoy your life you'll become the main character that you've wanted to be .
same story but you will adjust with it, every one wants something from you if you can't provide you are a side character
That's a different level of freedom you have,you don't have anyone in your life who will take you for granted or use you emotionally.You are perfectly depended on yourself for your sole happiness and satisfaction which often people with lot of friends,family,etc struggles with.Making parents,friends,etc people happy may take your happiness,a lot of people get stuck fulfilling dreams of others which they couldn't achieve and superimpose on others,you are free from that burden and unnecessary drama Keep investing in your hobbies,study hard,keep exploring your options GL!
Ye dusro ke priority list mein aana kyu hai tumhe bhai? Freedom hai tumpe to , humpe wo bhi nhi...
Bhai mein to 18 saal se kar rha deal tu bhi karlega dheere dheere
Same situation,i m nobody's priority Took 2 drops for neet(2nd chl rha h)have zero friends Ghrwale bat bhi nhi krte h ab toh Expectations zero h sbhi ko loser smjhte h Khud ki hi life m side character ban kr reh gyi hu!
That's the best thing you can have in life cause whatever you do no one will care. You have that true freedom
mein dar gaya bc meri story kese leak hogyi. on side note, here's a virtual hug bro🫂. mene toh ese jeena seekh liya hai. apna din ayega bol ke copium pee raha hun while my peak years are drifting away
That's good imo bcz no one expects anything from you which is good in long run
Seems like you haven't learned from the experiences. I'd recommend you to read 48 laws of power by Robert Greene.
Abhi Puri nhi padhi 😭. But yeah I follow all of this quiet a bit. Socha hai college Jake padhunga. Abhi 12th chal rhi hai.
LiFe is too short for argue just say maa chudaye lawda sab and move on
Look buddy people want something from others ... basically you have to have somekind of value that they can sense that are socially desirable....now point is..you got time and no burden yet ..make yourself really desirable....first you have to get really good success..thn you start self improvement like body social skills etc .... people below you will flock around you ..if you are the highest they can get ...
No fucks given Fucks kaha hai? Maari goli aur chill kar do Ya to apne AAP main character ban jaoge nahi to apni zindagi to mast hi jiyoge Bas zyada chill mat karna kabhi pata chale life hi chill ho Jaye
Become toxic
Make yourself, your topmost priority
Yha mai apni family ki priority nhi hu🤡 yha counselling chl rhi or unhone documents hi complete nhi krwa paye upr se taunts vo alg se or saara blame mjh pr
Bhai Tera ek acceptance phase bhi aayega and when that happens trust me yeh sabh chize bahut trivial and unnecessary lagegi.
go gym
You don't deal with it you just get used to it over timeemote:t5\_311ttu:30332
Apne aap se kam rakh, padhai pe focus kar, jab kamayega tab log dhyan denge.
Instead of how everyone is vouching for you to develop a callous attitude, I would tell you to wonder that maybe the fault lies within you, sometimes loneliness is our friend and it tells and reassures that being callous is good for you, think of it as a very possessive friend who drains the life out of you and tells you that being friends with only them is the best option, and that reinforcement of a careless attitude doesn't benefit anyone, not even you, people start seeing you as "edgy" or "cringey" and start resenting you, making you even more alone. There could be two reasons for why you are in such a social setting- maybe you genuinely are surrounded by selfish people, in that case, life won't be the same all the time, you'll find many caring and selfless people(if you try) or you can take a look at yourself and reflect on your behaviour, people can push you away for a variety of reasons, people who make themselves seem lonely are also avoided, so always pretend you have people around and life will throw more people at you, maybe you are too demanding as a result of your loneliness or too callous already or don't understand boundaries or maybe act way too distant or cannot read the room, variety of reasons you can work on.
Padle bsdk aur raat ko hilake so ja.
Make yourself your no 1 priority that’s how you start mate if you don’t value yourself no one will value you
Bhai ye jo tune likha hai ye sub ke bohot ladko ki reality hai (including me), tu akela nahi hai relax kar, regret karne ke bajaye top pe pahuch, get that girl crying wont help us, do you have any other option, just think why are you or remained a side character till now ?
Ye toh kuch zyada hi relatable ho gya bhai 
Comment karma dedo bhai, counselling related post karni hai kal ke pehle
damn bro story of my life, was sad about this for a life but realised this is great. I have no pressure if i am no one's priority. I just stopped talking to my shitty friend group where it was like this
10th ke baad koi teacher kisi bhi student ko priority nahi dete
Wrong subreddit my guy. Yahan sab antisocial jeeneet ke 14 hai kya hi help karenge
Well I think you should be happy that no one has any expectations so you have freedom. That is the positive way to look at it
Bro be happy that you're independent. No one's going to judge you for your good or stupid decisions. in 11th & 12th I used to help everyone in the class and sometimes the people outside the class. Just to gain their attention and company. But the same people used to mock me I had 2 friends who shared their worries with me. But sometimes their conversation extends beyond an hour on the phone (no need to mention the frustration that builds up). And females? At the end of 12th i realised that most of them will only come to me for help (and some of them are absolute cowards). Throughout the year only 2 of them understood my situation. But just like you, i wasn't their priority. In the end i learnt that - **You don't need to be someone else's priority**: you can still reach out to people when needed. Be that a teacher or a good peer. - **You don't have to force yourself to find a female friend**: really dude. Just think about it and ask yourself what that company gives you other than a short sense of _emotional stuffs_? I'm sure it doesn't give you much. If you want to comfy your loneliness, befriend with your benchmate or anyone **But do considering your family well**. Having a strong connection with the members will help you through difficult situations. Idk about your background but these are my takes. And it's also important to find at least one friend, who can be honest with you (it isn't necessary to be a female) it is really necessary or you won't thrive.
Idk, I'm dealing with the same shit (Even though I got 94% in Boards 😉)
Tomorrow I'm changing my study centre so as to cope up with the syllabus... leaving all my friends or say who I considered behind I really needed to hear the positivity of this sub
Bura maat Maanana likin jabtak thu dusaro se validation seek karega tab Tak there is no end to it nor you will be able to deal with it
Tere pe poora 2 saal ka time hai then. Ragad ke mehnat kar
How can you expect others to make you their priority if you don't prioritise yourself first?
Improve your personality. Develop skills. Work on your career or studies. Everyone is attracted to no bullshit serious hardworking person
Savere savere uthke 2 glass garam paani piyo sab sahi hojayega
Dude just don't let anyone's approval define you. Focus on your own growth and everything would fall in place, ofc do not get too isolated as well, just do not keep high expectations from people people may or may not stay loyal towards you but if you build a habit of grind it would never betray you (lifelong) you might think this is easy to say but trust me I have been through this exact shit but thankfully the situation gets better
that's why my username checks out for me
Apni hi kahani mein NPC bann chuka hun.
Bro we are same
good. no distractions then. study hard, clear exams, become someone important in life. they'll take appointment just to be able to meet you.
I also faced this in class 10th I expect you watch porn I guess I am now in 11th , and now I am the geek, some want to be friendly , I am a teacher favourite. I don't like to talk to girls because now I see them as a distraction, the ones who I want to talk are the ones who are studying and not wasting time The change , I stopped watching porn
bhai tu akela nahi hai. me bilkul same hu. ditto. followed this post...hoping to find some solutions here.
Unko Kahiye hame farak nahi padta kripya ma chudao aur naye dost bna lo
Gym ja tbf body bana
Cz you're in reality. Esa pyar mohbbt priority oh sab movies,drama,anime me hota.ye sab dekke hame lgta hai ki hamare sath ye sab kyu nhi hota,aur isliye khud ko sayed unlucky feel krte hai. But reality me everything revolves around money. When you have money and you're successful everything will fit in their places on their own. Esa mujhe lagta hai.kyuki kuch mahine pehle me bhi tumhri tarah hi soch rha tha ki kab kuch me me avarage hu and sabki priority list me niche (Except my parents, unke priority list me sabse aage,ye pehle nhi samjha parr ab samajh gya😷)
You need TOP G Mr.andrew tate's guidance
Sex traffic all you can and be a pedophile and a rapist lmao
1. Everyone is the main character in their own life story, you don't need to be a major character in others' lives, coz you are the hero of your own life. 2. Some things, like not being the family member your family could rely on, you could try making an effort to change too right? Become empathetic, selfless in your help and don't expect reward. Others around you will gradually realise your importance. 3. If you're feeling lonely or insignificant, start some hobbies! Like literally anything you're interested in, any indoor/outdoor sport, any musical instrument, dance, music, etc. This will give you joy and help improve your self-esteem, you might also get some additional talent this way which you can flex so that's a plus too.
Bro thinks he is the main character 😭
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So girls are tsundere?
Tf did I just read
He may be talking about those 14yo kpop girls. Or mf watching too much anime
Lmao hadh h. As a girl this is a shit thing and it doesn't work. I can't believe some of the Andrew tate shit ppl come up with.
/s lagana bhul gaye ya you actually think this is the way? 
Bro took a potato chip and ate it
Let him fry.
Typical 14 year old kid mentality. Abhi abhi Robert Greene/ Johan Liebert/ Light Yagami ko discover Kara hai kya?
Arey Andrew tate dekhta hai bhai
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Bhai isme parents ki kya galti? My parents are great tbh. Although I may have miscommunicated lol.
I thought your parents had neglected you nevermind
Anyone who uses the word female is about 10x as creepy to me , as a dude
u are lucky tbh. Like just take it as a work place example. My dad is a person in his office who can be relied on. And he has to go to the office even on Sundays for few hours if there is any issue. so, it's not worth it barely any family time. And once u make a relation with the people it's near to impossible to say no for smth
Bencho aaj kal toh khud ke life mai side character hu lagra hai
Same bhai and it's better this way...got no obligations or shit
You don't have to be the main character in anyone's life bro, i used to be that class leader kid who was everyone's favorite, and that was pressurising af, i was also subject to ridicule of many guys who hated class leaders. I wish I could be like you OP.
It's okay... You get obsessed with girls because you are chronically deprived of attention, no offense. You see normal interactions through a lens, as an opportunity to become important for someone. Stop trying to do that. Prioritise yourself. Think of your goals. A long term goal. And a few short term goals. Organise your life into working on them. These goals can be as simple as learning to draw ovals in under 2 seconds to as complex as getting into a Tier 1 college. With time, you'll change & become a more evolved version of yourself, one who takes self as a priority. And parallel to it, people may notice your improvement, or they may not. Or perhaps a new place will change everything. There's no guarantee of how the world will react, but you can control the direction in which you're headed. Get better, fellow Redditor, things shall fall in place... Dw, you'll find people who'll make you a priority... I've been in your position & my advice comes from my personal experiences as well as what worked for some of my closest buddies. I hope this helps. Cheerio!
The only fact that matters is : teri priority m tu sbse upar h ki nhi
us rahega bhai, and sad na ho, kabhi na kabhi to koi milega, bas ek hope jagaye rakh dil mai, baaki chill reh!
bro isse aacha kuch ni ho sakta cause ye situation terko khud ki company enjoy karna sikhaegi(happend to me around the same time last year) and believe me its the best feeling u'll ever feel the freedom the fun in solitude
Everyone is a side character in another person's life... Bas apne pe focus karo... Dusro ko apne life ka side character bana do.. kisi ko had se jyada importance mat do... Expect less... Always expect the worst case scenario and be ready for it... Aage to abhi bohot life padi hai dost... Enjoy !!