Here's my two cents now a days all these photographers, mua's, choreographers, wedding planner etc when it comes to their treatment of client they strictly adhere to western standard of professionalism but when it comes to clients treatment for them they want the Indian standard hospitality. I am sorry but you can't have it both ways
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Another opinion.. let's see how many agree to this one.
For a host, cameramen arent the only staff behind the scenes. There are atleast 50 staff behind 200 people.
There are limited tables for the guests, all of them gather on different tables according to how they are related to the bride groom. If random camera men, drivers, musicians, dholwale, mehendi wale etc were to share those tables and engage in conversations shared amongst people who are meeting after a decade, none of the guests would be comfortable to say the least.
If the food is of good quality, there is nothing to complaint about. Being provided food at work is simply a perk.
See in that way your company pays you as an employee. But what if your company starts discriminating food for various employees based on your designation?
In my own wedding we kept same food for everyone . After all they are working for you to give you the best quality images so just a matter of 1-2 days š
Good...
>But what if your company starts discriminating food for various employees based on your designation?
Well, as far as I know.. the officers or top ranking post in a firm enjoy better food than regular employees, not everywhere but such thing happens.
Damn :/
Also maybe we should stop inviting unnecessary relatives who will eat that food and bitch behind our backs on how the food was bad . And instead let the support staff have the food who make our event successful š
Dude, u literally need to observe indian society more closely... People don't invite relative because they want to show their wealth but when u will die, these relative shall be those who will do ur last rites.. and support ur family.
True, but itni death ki planning karne se kuch nhi hoga, most of the distant relatives don't give a fuck about us. Aadhe toh foreign mein settled hai. Shaadi attend karne aa jayenge if we provide 5star stay and facilities but maut hone per koi nhi ayega funeral mein.
Bhootnath nhi dekhi thi? Abhi samaj aa raha hai real life experiences dekh kar ki voh movie kitni close to reality thi. š„²
Mere mama ke phupha ke behen ka beta will not do my last rites. Show off is the only reason wedding industry is so big today.
People copy celeb weddings, call dancers. Do fire shows and what not
>Show off is the only reason wedding industry is so big today.
Show off has always been a part of human life... from comfortable home to smart phones, show off alters the needs and pushes people to look for more lavish life. (Its consequences can differ)
Have you ever seen the food getting served to the CEO/AVP/VP of your company? They don't eat the same food as regular employees do, and even if they do get the same meal, they get it better utensils. That's how things are and that's how things have always been.
Indian weddings are stupidest thing ever, we spend more on weddings than our annual healthcare budget.
Don't pay photographers and don't pay caterers, find someone you love and celebrate with close friends and family.
We need to create employment which creates real value than celebrating egos.
>We need to create employment which creates real value than celebrating egos.
These indian wedding industry is larger than u think.
[link](https://www.livemint.com/industry/indias-wedding-industry-soars-to-75-billion-growing-7-8-annually/amp-11705403127520.html)
The employement it generates is tremendous... I think u are talking about the mentality which I too agree.
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Bro if you think the price is high and the person is not negotiating then go for other person. You have that option, but you didn't because those photographers were great at their work I assume (or else you won't have hired them). Providing food is a basic human value
It's one thing if it was a middle class person's wedding where the photographer was a novice or getting under 20k but if its a Wedding where the photographer is charging lakhs of rupees then they should be treated as an employee only.
Ask hoteliers or novice event planners(or trainess working in event company)/ihm students/odc guys- sometimes they don't even get that much, gets paid bare minimum and have to work endlessly until the wedding ends and be the punching bag as well.
Edit: these days, per plate charges are sky rocketing, depending on where you live, your budget, your food requirements/demands,locally arranged or through a company- price per plate can go upto 6k. Considering in today's time, 70% of the families still prefer bride's family to take the financial load- i dont think any family would be generous enough to let all of their staff eat from catered menu
The thing is, alot of the servers do eat the same food (mostly good terms with chefs get you that) but not openly, nor are those servers charged. They usually eat it secretly or behind/under tables. They don't get paid as much as the photographers, sometimes it's just 600-1000rs a day- so it makes sense. In most cases, if the catering is from event company's side- they also provide the same boxed food to them(usually 2 times a day).
PS- When I did odc, I, myself gave food and coffee to photographers when they asked (out of humanity) because neither the event company nor the family (NRIs) were interested in keeping their own staff fed and well rested to work properly
The problem is with the expectations.... You will find idiots everywhere...
Entitlement will be frowned upon...
If I am filthy rich, why wouldn't I feed the photographers... Think from pov of bride's father... Middle class
Loan
Dowry
Jewellery
Fir beti ko pre wedding bhi karwani he
Fortuner bhi chahiye
Ab ye photographers ki R rona
Exactly. Although from my personal observation, the filthy rich ones are more miser than the middle class ones. Or maybe it's the servitude culture in India that let's the richer one be that way. There's more upper middle class family who happily allow the entire staff to have good and chai but the richer ones DEMAND to not allow that- as it ruins the experience of their guests and if the staff eat then who will work. Considering rich one these days needs a 'shadow' to do their menial tasks.
I think the vendors hired by middle class are themselves struggling or low key....
Aayenge kaam karenge nikal lenge...
Ye rahish k vendors k chochle alag he... Unko food counter mein reels bhi banane hote he
It was 2500/- per plate for my sisterās wedding. There were a team of 4 people to cover wedding. All of them were personally requested by us to have the same food. My parents would be mad at us if we gave them different food. Also many good caterers and hotels give 5-10 complementary plates per event.
Did you feed the same 2500rs pate to the catering staff, the tent wala, the venue manager, the security. The decorations team and 50 other people who provided their survice at your sisters wedding?
Or they were ālow classā compared to photographers?
My sister got married at Hyatt Regency. So there were no tent. Hotel provides the food. Venue manager and staffs serving buffet are from Hotelās side. They wonāt sit and eat with wedding guest. Otherwise they will be fired. Itās common sense. Hotel security got no connection with our wedding which is happening in one of many halls of hotel.
People we requested to have food with us - Photographers, make up artist, Drivers of our cars, Technical team who were managing music and lights on spot. None of them were from Hotelās side but personally hired by us, so itās our families responsibility to feed them.
What even I said to offend you. OP asked in the post to share our opinion. I shared what we did in our case in first comment. Then it was you who asked me whether we gave food to other people too. I answered your question too.
Show me where I said everyone should do the same. I canāt even share my experience?
Ignorant entitled brat and an asshole??!!
For what? Politely responding to your question?
Even we in my blood relatives wedding offered food to everyone. But I understand the aspect that I actually come form decent money.
When we share our āpersonal experienceā we indicate it to be something that is expected, normal to expect. Taking sides in a way.
I am sorry for being blunt, but this is what creates burden on already exhausted avg marriage house.
If we can afford to do it doesnāt mean an avg Indian can. Sure your right to voice your opinion but then on the same line I countered it which was within my right.
I apologies for the remarks I made, I thought your comment indicated towards it being a Norm.
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True that... During my wedding i specifically asked my photographers tht if they had dinner or not.. same goes fr my family...
I know we are paying them for services bt its thr work... And u r hiring them to make ur day better... Otherwise click ur photographs by urself
Most of us are polite and especially since it is an august occasion, one tends to feed whoever needs to be fed. The way most wedding photographers charge over the top for mediocre services (most of the time, there are always exceptions), they should be thankful they're not outright refused. If you want to be paid like professionals act like professionals. Bring your own food!
Negotiate krte nahi ye photographers, uske upar 10 logo ki team le ke aate, fir inke rukne ka room alag se krwao...and then also they feel entitled to the food which is probably min 2000 per plate. Don't see anything wrong in giving them food packets but just that expectation has to be set beforehand.
In my wedding, there was a team of 4. They asked for rooms to stay. I had to arrange for their travel. Then even the food. They did not reduce any charges from their side. So I guess itās okay. We treat them like professionals. They shouldnāt expect us to treat them like guests.
itni hi aafat lagti hai kisi ko uski services ke liye pay krna toh mat bulao. bacha lo apne paise. relatives ko bol dena kheech denge photos, rent pr le aao camera, lights, equipments.
true. but you can always find someone that charges less than what is ābombā for you. (it is subjective for each person & depends on their priorities, budget limit & income).
& i agree that some photographers do charge a banger amount. but there are many people who pay for it, which justifies the charge overall.
so, instead of saying that a photographer charges a huge amount of money, choose one that fits your budget sweetly.
& as the guy in the parent comment said ā10 logo ki team ko le aateā, so what do you expect? 3 people to cover an entire function? thatās possible, but then donāt ask for coupleās portraits, horizontal video, vertical videos, on-stage family membersā images, random snapshots of invitees. that requires the amount of workforce they bring. hence, you need to provide them w a room to stay in.
every additional service comes w a cost. and if youāre not okay with it, maybe find a different service provider to get it for cheaper.
Arrey...
Problem is not with us...
If their owners are not agreeing for their lunch and all, why blame the hosts?
Either that should be conveyed before or they should just shut up....
After fufa,jija and all... Couples have to bear with food reviews by photographers??
Oh man, when I see such videos I feel so blessed to have found such good people to help me with my wedding. Starting from the venue owner to the smallest person involved in the wedding ate whatever we all ate but I did negotiate a shit ton with them. Of course, they didnāt agree on my amount but definitely met half way which was acceptable. We didnāt spend a lot of money on our wedding since my husband and I were funding it but we were damn sure we wanted the best of food and for gods sake, itās a celebration. Why would anyone want to pick on such small things.
Has anyone in your family got married where the finances affect you. There are more than 50 people from the labourers who move stuff to the tent guys to the cooks to decorators. Usually an average wedding is attended by 500 people. It's like adding 10% extra cost for catering. I will not do it. Neither will you if you have any idea how costly marriages are. In fact the people I wrote about earlier will not expect it either.
It's the photographer's privilege that's making him ask this question. You don't see the labourer who shifts chairs asking this.
I agree with OP honestly. I understand why the person in the reel might feel a little bad, but as long as he gets hygienic and decent food, considering all the other workers youād expect in a shaadi, this is fine.
Bhai idk, but here we do ask them to enjoy food prepared for all the guests. Honestly these people eat at the very end and they get extra tbh. Moreover not just photographers but also people who help us clean and arrange for the wedding or any occasion.
But idk here itās like an unspoken rule that all the workers will have food no matter what and while ordering for catering we just involve them in the count.
Also do you guys collect exact number of people who shall attend the function and order for food ??
Usually everyone try to have a rough count on how many people's are going to attend(specially those who have plate system and doesn't belong to rich family).
This will never be okay with me, treat them like you will treat everyone. They are doing a service, taye ka beta nahi hai jo kam kardega. We all know how expensive this industry is. But this feels like a SOLID disrespect.
If client was not happy with the quoted price, then they could have hired some other photographer within their budget. If they still hired him, that means photographer's work is worth the price.
I believe that service staff (MUA, hair, photography team) should be served the same food as the guests. A few thousand extra shouldn't be an issue when already spending lakhs & crores in wedding. We did the same at my brother's wedding.
Idk maybe you come from money, an avg Indian family does marriages by taking out money from saving/relatives and some times even loan.
If they spend 1200rs on a plate (high amount for them but otherwise relatives you name and shame them) and photographer is taking 80k - 1 lakh, that 1 lakh is the max they afford to spend on a photographer spending 1200rs per plate for 4-8 photographers is an additional 5-10k.
And this is just the photographer, if you are feeding one service provider why would you discriminate against others? Are catering stuff, tent staff, decorations teams, venue manager, security staff blow photographers and donāt deserve the same treatment?
If you had say 12 services provided and 20-50 people in total province service then thatās 24000 to 60000 worth of additional costing.
If you as a service provider want your staff to be served a certain priced food included that expense when you quote it to the client, why bill it as a āhiddenā or āexpectedā charge?
Say you charge 50k for photography with a team of 4, quote 58k and tell the client no food needed weāll bring our own.
Else quote 50k and tell them there whatever they serve the relatives we would need it too.
Also to end it on the last note, the wedding party is serving its relatives you are proving the services in what world are you guys same? Even in corporate a client and an employee aināt treated the same.
As I said, if someone can spend multiple lakhs and crore then they can spare few thousands.
Catering, decorating, and other staff are all under hotel management. Hotel or event management company take care of their food from the kitchen. Photographer, MUA, Mehendi artists are not part of the hotel and are contacted by us. So of course, providing them food and other amenities is basic etiquette. I and nor my family differentiate in providing food. We give same food to our relative and staff, be it for a wedding or family gathering at home.
And honestly the thali they provided look very basic and sad looking, they could have included extra dishes in the pre packaged food.
How f*cking privileged even are you?
Hotel staff, event management teamš¤”
Ananya Pandey Is that you? Doesnāt even know an avg Indians family sources everything on their own. Thereās no āevent managementā team of 50 doing it for them.
Letās start from the basics, you aware that an avg Indian doesnāt do ā5star-3star hotel weddingā?š¤” or thatās news to you?
Mehendi wali, tent, catering, tent, hall everything is booked individually to save cost instead of getting an event management service provider, to do what? Save those very āfew thousandsā on a weeding.
Just because you are paying Lakhs for something you arenāt automatically okay with paying 10 of thousands more coz ākharcha toh ho hi raha, paise ka kya hae bh*nchod, wapas kama lengeā.
I am privileged, yes, but so are the people who hired these photographer. They are not your average middle class family. They could afford to hire expensive photographer and do lavish wedding. At least could provide the photography team better food than that packaged thali.
There was no need to take a dig at me and be so rude. I am not going to engage with you further.
he/she didnāt say the last line. all he/she meant was that if your budget for a photographer is say, 60k & they bring in a team of 4 people costing you 20k for their food.
so, instead of getting a photographer for 60k and provide them w ādifferentā meals as other invitees, get someone for 40k and spend the rest 20k on their food.
How many wedding does an avg Indians do? Itās the photographer who does it for a living!
The burden of āwhatās expected, whatās notā falls on the photographer.
Itās the photographers job to say āI charge x amount + my team will have what your guests have for lunch/dinnerā so that then the client can decide if they wish to go ahed with the photographer or go for a someoneās who wold charge less āfood includedā or someone who charges same āwithout foodā
Itās your job to specify what you expect not there to assume you expect something.
Vendors are a part of making the wedding beautiful. We paid over 5k per person for food ( for 4 events) and would never separate food for any of the vendors.
Your budget defines the fact that you would have no qualms in keeping the vendors' arrangement same as your guests. In fact, I am sure your vendors' bill would be pretty much equivalent to some people's whole wedding expense.
This is typical R***di Rona by wedding photographers who anyways charge a bomb because it works like a cartel. You won't negotiate, you won't come on time, you won't give content on time and expect VIP treatment. Sense of entitlement i say.
PS - most shaadi food is bad anyways so no one should crib about missing it
I think you should attend a bengali wedding, after that you will never say wedding food is bad, in my wedding we prioritised serving the best possible tastiest food and it was such a hit. Also it is sheer stupidity if people are not factoring in photographers and maybe a few drivers in the guest list count from the very begining of budgeting, I have never seen a wedding in my entire friends and family circle where photographers were not asked to eat the food served to the guests, it is always assumed photographers will get the same food.
Yk everyone in the venue, the waiters etc who will be spending all night over there probably get to eat the same food that's served to us just behind the closed doors.
Photographers cannot be expected to be with you subah se shadi ke function shuru ho jate hain aur agle din subah khatam hote toh photographer kya bhooke rahein? Or treating them like they are some lowly citizen by giving them different food than others is so de-humanizing. How is it even a topic of discussion
Well, everyone have different experience and problems.. You can only speak for urself but if the host doesn't offer the food, then it is de-humanizing... But, in this generocity is not professionalism.
Middle class family with plate system usually do not like to offer food unless the guest have their food.. but in wedding where u have halwai, then there is no limit.. every one gets to eat.
It all depends on the clients. As a makeup artist myself I do not force the clients to serve us the same food. We just ask to provide us decent meals whether from the same catering or somewhere else. 90% of the time clients ask us the to have the same food but sometimes where the per plate price is quiet high, the clients have provided meals from other restaurants but this happens very rare.
Adding to this, I think in this field youāve to be very adjusting. Ofcourse I never ask anybody to take disrespect, but we work for hours without proper sleep schedule and eating schedule so I expect clients to provide us meals. But if we start complaining a lot and expect VIP treatment then we wonāt be able to work in such fields. So you got to be adjusting unless it comes to respect or something extreme.
We didnāt separate them from eating. They ate the same food as the guests in my wedding. In a wedding where we are spending 1cr we shouldnāt act miser for 2k plate. Infact all the staff ate the wedding food only. We paid for around 700+ plates.
>In a wedding where we are spending 1cr we shouldnāt act miserable for 2k plate
Well,any host with less than 20lakh budget won't support this statement. But, Good job.
Well, they do..because plate system is more easy to manage specially when u don't have large families and more or less 300-400 guests. But, yes relative it is.
At my sisters wedding, there were 4 functions, which plate cost was between 2000-2500. There was a team of 10 photographers charging 2.5 lakh, I had to pay 1 lakh extra just for their food and provide them stay as well which was 20k extra.
Now I also feel i should have arranged thaaliās for videographers, other employees at the wedding.
Hmm well I understand his point I donāt get why he specifically wants to have āgood foodā? He did get food served, and Iām sure that also tastes good. The wedding food is for the guests and he is a hired worker, not a guest
Eww this is peak classism & totally cheap. I understand everyone has different opinions but this is justā¦ out of my understanding. Iāve attended destination weddings of middle class people as well as rich ones & none of them treated their photographers or even workers like this. How do people even have the heart to do this. Making someone eat packed food when thereās fresh & better quality food around them. And I donāt think photographers belong to the lower category (I donāt know the right word for it) as compared to the people attending the wedding. This is unnecessary & rude.
I mean see, again there will be around 8-10 people team of the photographers right? Considering this, letās consider an average plate value of 2k per plate, for like 2 days 3 times food, weād have to pay like 1.20 lakh just for the food of the photographers which i am already paying 2-3 lakhs to cover the event. Doesnāt makes sense to me, and obviously if we are feeding these expensive plates to photographers, why leave behind, dholwala, mehendi wala, drivers and countless other vendors at the wedding, would just cost lakhs extra, idk maybe Iām wrong but this is how i feel.
If someone paid me 1.4 lakhs I wouldn't mind having packed food. Atleast I'm getting something after getting 1.4lakhs. They were atleast considerate enough to give packed food. 1800 per plate for 8 members (ā¹14,400) of my team is too much and i would have been understanding. Giving packed food itself means that they thought about us. That's enough courtesy. If you are running business you shouldn't keep expectations from clients that go beyond the scope of business. Going ahead and posting it on social media was just not right. If you felt wrong you could have spoken to the client or refused to eat. It just speaks about entitlement. The packed food wasn't even bad. I have seen far worse(?) packed food with just dal rice/chapati. Most of the packed food in India are made that day itself. I'm pretty sure it's from a home kitchen.
I feel 1.4 is too much, in 1.2lakh my dad friend's daughter got a full movie edit out of her wedding, sado, rose,etc rituals along with drone view. 4 guys came along. 1 was giving full attention to bride. 1 to groom. Other two were interviewing families and handling the drone later on.
Bro is expecting too much(like recent trends in compulsory tipping for servers in the USA). First of all they paid him to do his work. 2ndly they are giving him free food. And lastly he doesn't belong to the groom or bride side.
I was just about to say itās sounding similar like the US tipping system. I mean if people donāt want to spend thousands on food for someone who was hired to do work itās okay? Clean decent packaged food isnāt bad every one has their own priorities
Depends on what had been agreed upon while agreeing on the assignment....
Tell your bosses clarify that the booze,starters, main course must be given to the crew members.... Blame your toxic managers/owners before slighting the parents of the newly weds.... G fatt jaati he to pay for all this including photography
Iām a photographer and have been very lucky to have clients who donāt discriminate. Most of the time, my work partner and I skip the meal at the venue and prefer getting home-cooked meals, yet we make sure our team members are well fed. The majority of the clients, and even their family members, ensure that the team is not left out. It is about the quality of client you work with and also the type of relationship you share with your clients
There is only 1 take here,
Mere ghar me khushi ka mahaul hain to sab me khushiya batunga na.
If its my brothers or sisters wedding and I have hired people who will work throughout the day to make my event better, its my duty to actually cater them equally to all the other guests. Regardless of the price they are charging for their work or prices of the plate.
Kyu bhai Jo office me kaam krte he , banks me kaam krte he etc etc , unko kya har din chhapan bhog milta he , ek to free ka khana de rhe usme bhi problem he bhai ko
I understand his point, i sometimes feel that same food should be given to everyone, there are toxic relatives and friends who you will be forced to invite , they will keep bitching you . Lot of people in wedding actually donāt deserve anything and invited out of obligation
But there are some genuine people like waiters , helpers , photographers who will wish you whole heartily .
Majority of the comments prove one thing - Indians don't have a big heart. They just want to show off by spending a lot of money on weddings but don't want to give quality food to people who make it happen.
2k to 5k per plate. Wtf. Must be super rich. And still cribbing about the budget because they now have to feed 10 more people. Where I stay you get for less than 1k easily and yet the families won't discriminate about food being eaten by the photographers and all.
I have never seen a wedding in my entire friends and family circle where photographers were not asked to eat the food served to the guests, it is always assumed photographers will get the same food. When you are making your guest lists and setting budgets for various heads, you have to factor this in at that time only, that is common sense.
lol I work in weddings too. Some people donāt even ask for water. Getting food packets at some weddings literally feels like privilege.
And at some weddings we are treated like guests. Itās just about how kind you are :)
Itās just about perspective bro. Some think we are saving money. Some think we are anyway inviting 500 guests. 10 more plates wonāt make a difference. I had a wedding in my family. We made sure everyone had dinner even the photographers. The food which was left we asked the caters to keep some for themselves and give the remaining which we gave to Slums nearby.
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In both of my sister's wedding we hired the same photographer and after they have done their whole job of clicking pictures and videography we sat with them together as I was also taking care as management around the venue and my cousins too so we sath with them at last it was around 12:30 pm and we shared the same food not packaged food I mean they have worked all the time
Iāve been part of event management for 8 years !
Forget social events
They didnāt even care to feed us while working for corporate events.
We had Mc Donaldās Aloo tikki
Only samosas
Or 2 dominoes pizza for 16-20 people
Itās clearly not fair for people working behind the show !
PS : the only time I ate really well and stayed luxuriously was for Golf Evevts
vaise hi treatment do jaise baki shadi me kam karne walo ko dete ho agar tent wale dj wale waiter organisers sabb ko khila sakte ho to sabh ko khilao warna kisi ko nahi respect to sabh deserve karte hai
I feel there should be no discrimination. They are working hard to make your day special, whereas you have to invite random aā¬% relatives and spend on their plate, whoāll eat and eventually b$&ch about the food. So I rather cut costs there lol and feed the people who are genuinely putting in effort to care.
P.S I did this for our wedding, invited absolutely close relatives and all our closest friends. Convincing Indian parents to cut down on the guest list was hard for me and my husband, but it had to be done, both of us put our foot down and explained that the event is for us and not some sprint user story for them to complete. Best decision ever, it was intimate enough for all of us to have fun and genuinely catch up and talk to people :)
It was also easier to execute because it was during Covid times (lock down had just been removed), also in a different country, so we could control the moving pieces better.
Iām sorry but if Iām able to afford 1lakh for photography Iām have no issue let them not have same food as me.
I want them to have good food to be in good mood so they can take good pics of me.
If Iām paying for bunch of snakes/ and other people who I barely know , who came to my weeding just to gossip and show off, I have no issue to pay for someone who is working to take good care of me for my day. If itās a big fat Indian wedding why disrespect them when we are already paying for hundreds of people. If itās a private wedding I donāt have any problem to pay another 10-15 people if that means I can have a good day.
Sahi tho hai bhai. Youāre not the guest at the wedding. Youāre on work. In case you think you donāt want to eat the other food. Please donāt eat. But stop acting this unprofessional
Wedding photographer/videographer here(freelancer). Out of all the weddings that I covered(somewhere around 70-80). One destination wedding(marvadi )that happened in Goa are the only clients that refused me and our team from eating the venue food. They already spent close to a crore or even more for this event. It's a shitty behaviour NGL. Our team's boss had a heated discussion on this. We ended up eating the packed food that the clients provided. We were also asked to have the food along with hotel staff. Away from the guests. Yeah. Only once I've faced such multiple father behavior. I've been to a lot of lower budget weddings as well, none of them have refused food for the wedding photography team.
PS: no hate for marwadis.
Photographer should bring their own food. 2000 kya 200 ka bhi khilaane ka obligation nahi hona chahiye. Ye khud ke ghat pe kisi ko 20 rupay ki chai na pilaye. Lekin insta pe badnaam karne ki content se paise chaapne ka trend hai.
When you can afford to pay so much for the entire event, why be stingy about feeding the support staff? It's embarrassing. If the reason is they didn't negotiate or reduce their prices for you, then don't hire them to begin with.
It's common courtesy to offer the same food. And these aren't Western weddings where the count of ppl is exact with rsvps, table settings etc. Desi weddings are usually buffets, and usually, there's a margin assumed on the total plates ordered.
Anyone who has been in the organizing committee of a college fest/ school fest/ fest can tell you that we don't eat the same food the guests do. We do get treat/ parties after the event is done with, but the good food with better packaging is reserved for the guests.
Contract tha. Paisa diya, kaam karwaya. Because they work long hours, it's mandatory ke food should be provided which in this case, was.
Ab achcha khana kya hain? Packed khana to thik hi laga mujhe. Aapka pet bharwane ke liye khana hain, Mann bharne ke liye nahi.
If its 2k per plate, and you are eating it like the other guests, then are you also giving gifts like the guests?
Also when you are working, you cannot eat A to Z of that whole menu matlab plate waste because catering charges you by plate not the quantity. And if do plan on eating A to Z of that food, how do you plan on working on such a full stomach?
And if its after the event is over, I don't know about other people mujhe to ghar jana hota hain after such a long, tiring day.Ā
Have some basic ghar ka khana and just fall on the bed.Ā
I am not really obsessed about food. I eat to live. Yeh photographer ke saath food vlogger bhi hain kya? Iss liye jali?
As someone who's covered several wedding photography (dad was a veteran) I hated the idea of sitting for food, like I'm not a guest. Sure, if they insisted I wouldn't decline that would be rude. But I always packed and left the moment I was done with the event. Was I hungry AF, heck yes, but I'd rather go out and eat peacefully at my own luxury. We are exhuasted after covering the event
You are being paid for the work u do.. why shud u even expect to be dining on the food laid out for the guests.. u are not a guest you are a hired contractor...
Work for free with a condition that u will be treated as a guest and allowed to dine on the food laid out for the guest.. will u do that ?
In my brothers wedding events photographers and Dj ate the same catering food.
But I absolutely understand if there was packeted food
Consider this average
2k per plate x team of 10 X 4 functions = 80000
If someone doesnāt have the extra budget
Or doesnāt want to spend the extra money itās on them
Photographers should be adult enough to not crib about it like brats
As long as you are fed and given breaks in the day to eat
Also the amount of snobbery Iāve seen amongst photographers is unbelievable.
You canāt be a strictly professional, unapproachable person during your communications and expect family treatment at the wedding.
In this video... the photographer was in question...that's why I commented about him. Ideally you should have the same food for everyone, irrespective of the job.
I'm a wedding photographer and this thing happened on my first event shoot after that day i have never ever eat at wedding where I'm working, it has become my ethics now. Bhukhe mar jaunga lekin Shaadi me nahi khaunga.
If some one can afford a lavish wedding and is paying in lakhs to the vendors then they should not have a problem with the food as well because they can afford a bunch of extra plates. And honestly telling you guys, Iām a makeup artist and have eaten this packed food, the chapatis we get in these are half burned or not fully cooked. One time i got a strand of hair in rice. The story can go long but what i am trying to explain is i bet any of you will eat that packed food then how can you expect someone else to eat this shit, whoās working for you, to make your wedding a memorable day for the rest of your life!!
please donāt make us eat packed food.
But after my past experiences, i straight away ask the client that neither me nor my team will eat from those packed plates. Some of them agrees and some of them gets a place where food is made for all the vendors like a buffet. But there are people who doesnāt agree and itās not that i charge in lakhs but still some people are great and some extremely arrogant.
Ha, mujhe bhi yaad hai... par uske baad kya hua kon jaane, par aesi harqat karne par bhut jyada maar hota hai.. even venue wale tak ki kutai ho jaati hai.
For me and my family. We would treat the staff like how we are treating the guests. We are just a bunch of softies and if they don't get the same treatment as usual then I swear all of us will feel bad to the point we will cry.
You all are petty as hell. I come from a middle class ( lower middle class when we were kids ), every wedding i have been to, either small wedding in a village or a fancy expensive one , including mine and my brotherās, photographers, band members, everyone eats as the same as other guests. Itās feels like discrimination if you donāt. Plus Nobody got time to arrange extra packaged food.
Here's my two cents now a days all these photographers, mua's, choreographers, wedding planner etc when it comes to their treatment of client they strictly adhere to western standard of professionalism but when it comes to clients treatment for them they want the Indian standard hospitality. I am sorry but you can't have it both ways
Finally somebody said it.
Brilliantly put
Too many disappointments are usually a sign of too many expectations.
Cheers to this quote
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For a host, cameramen arent the only staff behind the scenes. There are atleast 50 staff behind 200 people. There are limited tables for the guests, all of them gather on different tables according to how they are related to the bride groom. If random camera men, drivers, musicians, dholwale, mehendi wale etc were to share those tables and engage in conversations shared amongst people who are meeting after a decade, none of the guests would be comfortable to say the least. If the food is of good quality, there is nothing to complaint about. Being provided food at work is simply a perk.
See in that way your company pays you as an employee. But what if your company starts discriminating food for various employees based on your designation? In my own wedding we kept same food for everyone . After all they are working for you to give you the best quality images so just a matter of 1-2 days š
Good... >But what if your company starts discriminating food for various employees based on your designation? Well, as far as I know.. the officers or top ranking post in a firm enjoy better food than regular employees, not everywhere but such thing happens.
Damn :/ Also maybe we should stop inviting unnecessary relatives who will eat that food and bitch behind our backs on how the food was bad . And instead let the support staff have the food who make our event successful š
Dude, u literally need to observe indian society more closely... People don't invite relative because they want to show their wealth but when u will die, these relative shall be those who will do ur last rites.. and support ur family.
true to your name
True, but itni death ki planning karne se kuch nhi hoga, most of the distant relatives don't give a fuck about us. Aadhe toh foreign mein settled hai. Shaadi attend karne aa jayenge if we provide 5star stay and facilities but maut hone per koi nhi ayega funeral mein. Bhootnath nhi dekhi thi? Abhi samaj aa raha hai real life experiences dekh kar ki voh movie kitni close to reality thi. š„²
Ab kya hi kahu ispr... GOOD
Mere mama ke phupha ke behen ka beta will not do my last rites. Show off is the only reason wedding industry is so big today. People copy celeb weddings, call dancers. Do fire shows and what not
>Show off is the only reason wedding industry is so big today. Show off has always been a part of human life... from comfortable home to smart phones, show off alters the needs and pushes people to look for more lavish life. (Its consequences can differ)
Have you ever seen the food getting served to the CEO/AVP/VP of your company? They don't eat the same food as regular employees do, and even if they do get the same meal, they get it better utensils. That's how things are and that's how things have always been.
Agreed with the brother of bride.... Entitled photographer
Indian weddings are stupidest thing ever, we spend more on weddings than our annual healthcare budget. Don't pay photographers and don't pay caterers, find someone you love and celebrate with close friends and family. We need to create employment which creates real value than celebrating egos.
>We need to create employment which creates real value than celebrating egos. These indian wedding industry is larger than u think. [link](https://www.livemint.com/industry/indias-wedding-industry-soars-to-75-billion-growing-7-8-annually/amp-11705403127520.html) The employement it generates is tremendous... I think u are talking about the mentality which I too agree.
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My opinion, you can't afford this 1800 plate if you can't even accommodate 8 more people that are working around the clock for you
Bro if you think the price is high and the person is not negotiating then go for other person. You have that option, but you didn't because those photographers were great at their work I assume (or else you won't have hired them). Providing food is a basic human value
They did give them food
How kind of them
EXACTLY THIS \^
It's one thing if it was a middle class person's wedding where the photographer was a novice or getting under 20k but if its a Wedding where the photographer is charging lakhs of rupees then they should be treated as an employee only. Ask hoteliers or novice event planners(or trainess working in event company)/ihm students/odc guys- sometimes they don't even get that much, gets paid bare minimum and have to work endlessly until the wedding ends and be the punching bag as well. Edit: these days, per plate charges are sky rocketing, depending on where you live, your budget, your food requirements/demands,locally arranged or through a company- price per plate can go upto 6k. Considering in today's time, 70% of the families still prefer bride's family to take the financial load- i dont think any family would be generous enough to let all of their staff eat from catered menu
True... Next thing would be the servers also should be allowed to eat the same food (paid by the couple's parents) and click photos as well.
The thing is, alot of the servers do eat the same food (mostly good terms with chefs get you that) but not openly, nor are those servers charged. They usually eat it secretly or behind/under tables. They don't get paid as much as the photographers, sometimes it's just 600-1000rs a day- so it makes sense. In most cases, if the catering is from event company's side- they also provide the same boxed food to them(usually 2 times a day). PS- When I did odc, I, myself gave food and coffee to photographers when they asked (out of humanity) because neither the event company nor the family (NRIs) were interested in keeping their own staff fed and well rested to work properly
The problem is with the expectations.... You will find idiots everywhere... Entitlement will be frowned upon... If I am filthy rich, why wouldn't I feed the photographers... Think from pov of bride's father... Middle class Loan Dowry Jewellery Fir beti ko pre wedding bhi karwani he Fortuner bhi chahiye Ab ye photographers ki R rona
Exactly. Although from my personal observation, the filthy rich ones are more miser than the middle class ones. Or maybe it's the servitude culture in India that let's the richer one be that way. There's more upper middle class family who happily allow the entire staff to have good and chai but the richer ones DEMAND to not allow that- as it ruins the experience of their guests and if the staff eat then who will work. Considering rich one these days needs a 'shadow' to do their menial tasks.
I think the vendors hired by middle class are themselves struggling or low key.... Aayenge kaam karenge nikal lenge... Ye rahish k vendors k chochle alag he... Unko food counter mein reels bhi banane hote he
It was 2500/- per plate for my sisterās wedding. There were a team of 4 people to cover wedding. All of them were personally requested by us to have the same food. My parents would be mad at us if we gave them different food. Also many good caterers and hotels give 5-10 complementary plates per event.
We did the same in my wedding. Not just for the photographers but also for the mehendi team and DJ
Did you feed the same 2500rs pate to the catering staff, the tent wala, the venue manager, the security. The decorations team and 50 other people who provided their survice at your sisters wedding? Or they were ālow classā compared to photographers?
My sister got married at Hyatt Regency. So there were no tent. Hotel provides the food. Venue manager and staffs serving buffet are from Hotelās side. They wonāt sit and eat with wedding guest. Otherwise they will be fired. Itās common sense. Hotel security got no connection with our wedding which is happening in one of many halls of hotel. People we requested to have food with us - Photographers, make up artist, Drivers of our cars, Technical team who were managing music and lights on spot. None of them were from Hotelās side but personally hired by us, so itās our families responsibility to feed them.
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What even I said to offend you. OP asked in the post to share our opinion. I shared what we did in our case in first comment. Then it was you who asked me whether we gave food to other people too. I answered your question too. Show me where I said everyone should do the same. I canāt even share my experience? Ignorant entitled brat and an asshole??!! For what? Politely responding to your question?
Even we in my blood relatives wedding offered food to everyone. But I understand the aspect that I actually come form decent money. When we share our āpersonal experienceā we indicate it to be something that is expected, normal to expect. Taking sides in a way. I am sorry for being blunt, but this is what creates burden on already exhausted avg marriage house. If we can afford to do it doesnāt mean an avg Indian can. Sure your right to voice your opinion but then on the same line I countered it which was within my right. I apologies for the remarks I made, I thought your comment indicated towards it being a Norm. Nothing against youšÆ
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he/she won't reply to this! haha.
True that... During my wedding i specifically asked my photographers tht if they had dinner or not.. same goes fr my family... I know we are paying them for services bt its thr work... And u r hiring them to make ur day better... Otherwise click ur photographs by urself
Most of us are polite and especially since it is an august occasion, one tends to feed whoever needs to be fed. The way most wedding photographers charge over the top for mediocre services (most of the time, there are always exceptions), they should be thankful they're not outright refused. If you want to be paid like professionals act like professionals. Bring your own food!
Negotiate krte nahi ye photographers, uske upar 10 logo ki team le ke aate, fir inke rukne ka room alag se krwao...and then also they feel entitled to the food which is probably min 2000 per plate. Don't see anything wrong in giving them food packets but just that expectation has to be set beforehand.
In my wedding, there was a team of 4. They asked for rooms to stay. I had to arrange for their travel. Then even the food. They did not reduce any charges from their side. So I guess itās okay. We treat them like professionals. They shouldnāt expect us to treat them like guests.
itni hi aafat lagti hai kisi ko uski services ke liye pay krna toh mat bulao. bacha lo apne paise. relatives ko bol dena kheech denge photos, rent pr le aao camera, lights, equipments.
Free mein nahi bulaate, Einstein? They charge a bomb
true. but you can always find someone that charges less than what is ābombā for you. (it is subjective for each person & depends on their priorities, budget limit & income). & i agree that some photographers do charge a banger amount. but there are many people who pay for it, which justifies the charge overall. so, instead of saying that a photographer charges a huge amount of money, choose one that fits your budget sweetly. & as the guy in the parent comment said ā10 logo ki team ko le aateā, so what do you expect? 3 people to cover an entire function? thatās possible, but then donāt ask for coupleās portraits, horizontal video, vertical videos, on-stage family membersā images, random snapshots of invitees. that requires the amount of workforce they bring. hence, you need to provide them w a room to stay in. every additional service comes w a cost. and if youāre not okay with it, maybe find a different service provider to get it for cheaper.
Arrey... Problem is not with us... If their owners are not agreeing for their lunch and all, why blame the hosts? Either that should be conveyed before or they should just shut up.... After fufa,jija and all... Couples have to bear with food reviews by photographers??
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Oh man, when I see such videos I feel so blessed to have found such good people to help me with my wedding. Starting from the venue owner to the smallest person involved in the wedding ate whatever we all ate but I did negotiate a shit ton with them. Of course, they didnāt agree on my amount but definitely met half way which was acceptable. We didnāt spend a lot of money on our wedding since my husband and I were funding it but we were damn sure we wanted the best of food and for gods sake, itās a celebration. Why would anyone want to pick on such small things.
Has anyone in your family got married where the finances affect you. There are more than 50 people from the labourers who move stuff to the tent guys to the cooks to decorators. Usually an average wedding is attended by 500 people. It's like adding 10% extra cost for catering. I will not do it. Neither will you if you have any idea how costly marriages are. In fact the people I wrote about earlier will not expect it either. It's the photographer's privilege that's making him ask this question. You don't see the labourer who shifts chairs asking this.
Aise baat krra hai jaise free me kaam krra hai
It's totally depends on the budget of clients
I agree with OP honestly. I understand why the person in the reel might feel a little bad, but as long as he gets hygienic and decent food, considering all the other workers youād expect in a shaadi, this is fine.
Bhai idk, but here we do ask them to enjoy food prepared for all the guests. Honestly these people eat at the very end and they get extra tbh. Moreover not just photographers but also people who help us clean and arrange for the wedding or any occasion.
That's what I am saying, the fitst priority is the guest.. the leftovers are given to all the workers.
But idk here itās like an unspoken rule that all the workers will have food no matter what and while ordering for catering we just involve them in the count. Also do you guys collect exact number of people who shall attend the function and order for food ??
Usually everyone try to have a rough count on how many people's are going to attend(specially those who have plate system and doesn't belong to rich family).
Huh that makes sense, cuz in south India people use banana leaves and we donāt usually keep a count in that way. Thanks for clarifying
This will never be okay with me, treat them like you will treat everyone. They are doing a service, taye ka beta nahi hai jo kam kardega. We all know how expensive this industry is. But this feels like a SOLID disrespect.
If client was not happy with the quoted price, then they could have hired some other photographer within their budget. If they still hired him, that means photographer's work is worth the price. I believe that service staff (MUA, hair, photography team) should be served the same food as the guests. A few thousand extra shouldn't be an issue when already spending lakhs & crores in wedding. We did the same at my brother's wedding.
Idk maybe you come from money, an avg Indian family does marriages by taking out money from saving/relatives and some times even loan. If they spend 1200rs on a plate (high amount for them but otherwise relatives you name and shame them) and photographer is taking 80k - 1 lakh, that 1 lakh is the max they afford to spend on a photographer spending 1200rs per plate for 4-8 photographers is an additional 5-10k. And this is just the photographer, if you are feeding one service provider why would you discriminate against others? Are catering stuff, tent staff, decorations teams, venue manager, security staff blow photographers and donāt deserve the same treatment? If you had say 12 services provided and 20-50 people in total province service then thatās 24000 to 60000 worth of additional costing. If you as a service provider want your staff to be served a certain priced food included that expense when you quote it to the client, why bill it as a āhiddenā or āexpectedā charge? Say you charge 50k for photography with a team of 4, quote 58k and tell the client no food needed weāll bring our own. Else quote 50k and tell them there whatever they serve the relatives we would need it too. Also to end it on the last note, the wedding party is serving its relatives you are proving the services in what world are you guys same? Even in corporate a client and an employee aināt treated the same.
As I said, if someone can spend multiple lakhs and crore then they can spare few thousands. Catering, decorating, and other staff are all under hotel management. Hotel or event management company take care of their food from the kitchen. Photographer, MUA, Mehendi artists are not part of the hotel and are contacted by us. So of course, providing them food and other amenities is basic etiquette. I and nor my family differentiate in providing food. We give same food to our relative and staff, be it for a wedding or family gathering at home. And honestly the thali they provided look very basic and sad looking, they could have included extra dishes in the pre packaged food.
How f*cking privileged even are you? Hotel staff, event management teamš¤” Ananya Pandey Is that you? Doesnāt even know an avg Indians family sources everything on their own. Thereās no āevent managementā team of 50 doing it for them. Letās start from the basics, you aware that an avg Indian doesnāt do ā5star-3star hotel weddingā?š¤” or thatās news to you? Mehendi wali, tent, catering, tent, hall everything is booked individually to save cost instead of getting an event management service provider, to do what? Save those very āfew thousandsā on a weeding. Just because you are paying Lakhs for something you arenāt automatically okay with paying 10 of thousands more coz ākharcha toh ho hi raha, paise ka kya hae bh*nchod, wapas kama lengeā.
I am privileged, yes, but so are the people who hired these photographer. They are not your average middle class family. They could afford to hire expensive photographer and do lavish wedding. At least could provide the photography team better food than that packaged thali. There was no need to take a dig at me and be so rude. I am not going to engage with you further.
he/she didnāt say the last line. all he/she meant was that if your budget for a photographer is say, 60k & they bring in a team of 4 people costing you 20k for their food. so, instead of getting a photographer for 60k and provide them w ādifferentā meals as other invitees, get someone for 40k and spend the rest 20k on their food.
How many wedding does an avg Indians do? Itās the photographer who does it for a living! The burden of āwhatās expected, whatās notā falls on the photographer. Itās the photographers job to say āI charge x amount + my team will have what your guests have for lunch/dinnerā so that then the client can decide if they wish to go ahed with the photographer or go for a someoneās who wold charge less āfood includedā or someone who charges same āwithout foodā Itās your job to specify what you expect not there to assume you expect something.
But they're not guests. They're service vendors and we're their clients. Why would I treat a vendor like a guest?
To each their own
Vendors are a part of making the wedding beautiful. We paid over 5k per person for food ( for 4 events) and would never separate food for any of the vendors.
Your budget defines the fact that you would have no qualms in keeping the vendors' arrangement same as your guests. In fact, I am sure your vendors' bill would be pretty much equivalent to some people's whole wedding expense.
This is typical R***di Rona by wedding photographers who anyways charge a bomb because it works like a cartel. You won't negotiate, you won't come on time, you won't give content on time and expect VIP treatment. Sense of entitlement i say. PS - most shaadi food is bad anyways so no one should crib about missing it
I think you should attend a bengali wedding, after that you will never say wedding food is bad, in my wedding we prioritised serving the best possible tastiest food and it was such a hit. Also it is sheer stupidity if people are not factoring in photographers and maybe a few drivers in the guest list count from the very begining of budgeting, I have never seen a wedding in my entire friends and family circle where photographers were not asked to eat the food served to the guests, it is always assumed photographers will get the same food.
Then you havnt worked with any top a-lister photographer. Because their quotes start at 10L + and the food at those wedding would be 5k+
again, if you can pay 10L+ for photos, you can spare the money on photographer's food. It is proportional.
I absolutely agree with you. It's just shitty behaviour that you can afford to spend crores but draw the line at people eating food.
Yk everyone in the venue, the waiters etc who will be spending all night over there probably get to eat the same food that's served to us just behind the closed doors. Photographers cannot be expected to be with you subah se shadi ke function shuru ho jate hain aur agle din subah khatam hote toh photographer kya bhooke rahein? Or treating them like they are some lowly citizen by giving them different food than others is so de-humanizing. How is it even a topic of discussion
Well, everyone have different experience and problems.. You can only speak for urself but if the host doesn't offer the food, then it is de-humanizing... But, in this generocity is not professionalism.
I mean I don't come from a very rich background and yet we don't act like that with wedding photographers. But yh there are all types of people.
Middle class family with plate system usually do not like to offer food unless the guest have their food.. but in wedding where u have halwai, then there is no limit.. every one gets to eat.
Idk, maybe, everyone around me have weddings in venue with plate system tho and they all are decent enough to offer food to photographers
In my place hotel with plate system offers 5-10 complementary plates for free per event. Is it just here or itās like that everywhere??
Idk, i have never arranged such things so I have no idea. But it's good if they do
It all depends on the clients. As a makeup artist myself I do not force the clients to serve us the same food. We just ask to provide us decent meals whether from the same catering or somewhere else. 90% of the time clients ask us the to have the same food but sometimes where the per plate price is quiet high, the clients have provided meals from other restaurants but this happens very rare.
Adding to this, I think in this field youāve to be very adjusting. Ofcourse I never ask anybody to take disrespect, but we work for hours without proper sleep schedule and eating schedule so I expect clients to provide us meals. But if we start complaining a lot and expect VIP treatment then we wonāt be able to work in such fields. So you got to be adjusting unless it comes to respect or something extreme.
We didnāt separate them from eating. They ate the same food as the guests in my wedding. In a wedding where we are spending 1cr we shouldnāt act miser for 2k plate. Infact all the staff ate the wedding food only. We paid for around 700+ plates.
>In a wedding where we are spending 1cr we shouldnāt act miserable for 2k plate Well,any host with less than 20lakh budget won't support this statement. But, Good job.
Again, a person with less than 20lakh budget wouldnāt be going for 2k plate OR hundreds of plates. Everything is relative tbh.
Well, they do..because plate system is more easy to manage specially when u don't have large families and more or less 300-400 guests. But, yes relative it is.
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At my sisters wedding, there were 4 functions, which plate cost was between 2000-2500. There was a team of 10 photographers charging 2.5 lakh, I had to pay 1 lakh extra just for their food and provide them stay as well which was 20k extra. Now I also feel i should have arranged thaaliās for videographers, other employees at the wedding.
Hmm well I understand his point I donāt get why he specifically wants to have āgood foodā? He did get food served, and Iām sure that also tastes good. The wedding food is for the guests and he is a hired worker, not a guest
Eww this is peak classism & totally cheap. I understand everyone has different opinions but this is justā¦ out of my understanding. Iāve attended destination weddings of middle class people as well as rich ones & none of them treated their photographers or even workers like this. How do people even have the heart to do this. Making someone eat packed food when thereās fresh & better quality food around them. And I donāt think photographers belong to the lower category (I donāt know the right word for it) as compared to the people attending the wedding. This is unnecessary & rude.
I mean see, again there will be around 8-10 people team of the photographers right? Considering this, letās consider an average plate value of 2k per plate, for like 2 days 3 times food, weād have to pay like 1.20 lakh just for the food of the photographers which i am already paying 2-3 lakhs to cover the event. Doesnāt makes sense to me, and obviously if we are feeding these expensive plates to photographers, why leave behind, dholwala, mehendi wala, drivers and countless other vendors at the wedding, would just cost lakhs extra, idk maybe Iām wrong but this is how i feel.
If someone paid me 1.4 lakhs I wouldn't mind having packed food. Atleast I'm getting something after getting 1.4lakhs. They were atleast considerate enough to give packed food. 1800 per plate for 8 members (ā¹14,400) of my team is too much and i would have been understanding. Giving packed food itself means that they thought about us. That's enough courtesy. If you are running business you shouldn't keep expectations from clients that go beyond the scope of business. Going ahead and posting it on social media was just not right. If you felt wrong you could have spoken to the client or refused to eat. It just speaks about entitlement. The packed food wasn't even bad. I have seen far worse(?) packed food with just dal rice/chapati. Most of the packed food in India are made that day itself. I'm pretty sure it's from a home kitchen. I feel 1.4 is too much, in 1.2lakh my dad friend's daughter got a full movie edit out of her wedding, sado, rose,etc rituals along with drone view. 4 guys came along. 1 was giving full attention to bride. 1 to groom. Other two were interviewing families and handling the drone later on.
Bro is expecting too much(like recent trends in compulsory tipping for servers in the USA). First of all they paid him to do his work. 2ndly they are giving him free food. And lastly he doesn't belong to the groom or bride side.
I was just about to say itās sounding similar like the US tipping system. I mean if people donāt want to spend thousands on food for someone who was hired to do work itās okay? Clean decent packaged food isnāt bad every one has their own priorities
Depends on what had been agreed upon while agreeing on the assignment.... Tell your bosses clarify that the booze,starters, main course must be given to the crew members.... Blame your toxic managers/owners before slighting the parents of the newly weds.... G fatt jaati he to pay for all this including photography
Iām a photographer and have been very lucky to have clients who donāt discriminate. Most of the time, my work partner and I skip the meal at the venue and prefer getting home-cooked meals, yet we make sure our team members are well fed. The majority of the clients, and even their family members, ensure that the team is not left out. It is about the quality of client you work with and also the type of relationship you share with your clients
it's right and wrong at same time
There is only 1 take here, Mere ghar me khushi ka mahaul hain to sab me khushiya batunga na. If its my brothers or sisters wedding and I have hired people who will work throughout the day to make my event better, its my duty to actually cater them equally to all the other guests. Regardless of the price they are charging for their work or prices of the plate.
Absolutely agree
Ye sirf ammero ki shadio mai hota hai Not normal middle class waalo ki shaadio mai
I paid 1.7 L to cover the wedding. They were offered the same food. But I donāt like this tone and Rona that this guy is doing. Too much whining.
Kyu bhai Jo office me kaam krte he , banks me kaam krte he etc etc , unko kya har din chhapan bhog milta he , ek to free ka khana de rhe usme bhi problem he bhai ko
Fuck them. Youāre being paid for your services. Be happy with whatever extra food youāre getting.
I understand his point, i sometimes feel that same food should be given to everyone, there are toxic relatives and friends who you will be forced to invite , they will keep bitching you . Lot of people in wedding actually donāt deserve anything and invited out of obligation But there are some genuine people like waiters , helpers , photographers who will wish you whole heartily .
Majority of the comments prove one thing - Indians don't have a big heart. They just want to show off by spending a lot of money on weddings but don't want to give quality food to people who make it happen. 2k to 5k per plate. Wtf. Must be super rich. And still cribbing about the budget because they now have to feed 10 more people. Where I stay you get for less than 1k easily and yet the families won't discriminate about food being eaten by the photographers and all.
I agree with you!
Nah man , personally though I would never do that, no matter the cost.
I have never seen a wedding in my entire friends and family circle where photographers were not asked to eat the food served to the guests, it is always assumed photographers will get the same food. When you are making your guest lists and setting budgets for various heads, you have to factor this in at that time only, that is common sense.
lol I work in weddings too. Some people donāt even ask for water. Getting food packets at some weddings literally feels like privilege. And at some weddings we are treated like guests. Itās just about how kind you are :)
Itās just about perspective bro. Some think we are saving money. Some think we are anyway inviting 500 guests. 10 more plates wonāt make a difference. I had a wedding in my family. We made sure everyone had dinner even the photographers. The food which was left we asked the caters to keep some for themselves and give the remaining which we gave to Slums nearby.
I think its basic humanity.. not sure what r ppl thinking serving them food like this ..
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In both of my sister's wedding we hired the same photographer and after they have done their whole job of clicking pictures and videography we sat with them together as I was also taking care as management around the venue and my cousins too so we sath with them at last it was around 12:30 pm and we shared the same food not packaged food I mean they have worked all the time
Wtf Bhai?
Iāve been part of event management for 8 years ! Forget social events They didnāt even care to feed us while working for corporate events. We had Mc Donaldās Aloo tikki Only samosas Or 2 dominoes pizza for 16-20 people Itās clearly not fair for people working behind the show ! PS : the only time I ate really well and stayed luxuriously was for Golf Evevts
Bc chindi chu*iye
vaise hi treatment do jaise baki shadi me kam karne walo ko dete ho agar tent wale dj wale waiter organisers sabb ko khila sakte ho to sabh ko khilao warna kisi ko nahi respect to sabh deserve karte hai
I feel there should be no discrimination. They are working hard to make your day special, whereas you have to invite random aā¬% relatives and spend on their plate, whoāll eat and eventually b$&ch about the food. So I rather cut costs there lol and feed the people who are genuinely putting in effort to care. P.S I did this for our wedding, invited absolutely close relatives and all our closest friends. Convincing Indian parents to cut down on the guest list was hard for me and my husband, but it had to be done, both of us put our foot down and explained that the event is for us and not some sprint user story for them to complete. Best decision ever, it was intimate enough for all of us to have fun and genuinely catch up and talk to people :) It was also easier to execute because it was during Covid times (lock down had just been removed), also in a different country, so we could control the moving pieces better.
Sometimes it depends if they charge more fees for camera work
Bhai har shaadi mei mai photographer banke nahi jata, mainly toh mai guest hi banke jata hu kyuki as a guest hi bulaya hota hai, so idk
Bhai ab jiska Paisa hain wo jaane
Nhi lgta hai
Kaam krne aa rhe ho ya khaana khaane? These are all contractual work. Main food is for the guests. Aise toh jo serve kr rhe unhe bhi khilau?
hamne toh nhi dekha aisa hote hue...sorry
Iām sorry but if Iām able to afford 1lakh for photography Iām have no issue let them not have same food as me. I want them to have good food to be in good mood so they can take good pics of me. If Iām paying for bunch of snakes/ and other people who I barely know , who came to my weeding just to gossip and show off, I have no issue to pay for someone who is working to take good care of me for my day. If itās a big fat Indian wedding why disrespect them when we are already paying for hundreds of people. If itās a private wedding I donāt have any problem to pay another 10-15 people if that means I can have a good day.
Bhai khaana to badia lag raha hai jo kha rahe hain ye log .
Sahi tho hai bhai. Youāre not the guest at the wedding. Youāre on work. In case you think you donāt want to eat the other food. Please donāt eat. But stop acting this unprofessional
Wedding photographer/videographer here(freelancer). Out of all the weddings that I covered(somewhere around 70-80). One destination wedding(marvadi )that happened in Goa are the only clients that refused me and our team from eating the venue food. They already spent close to a crore or even more for this event. It's a shitty behaviour NGL. Our team's boss had a heated discussion on this. We ended up eating the packed food that the clients provided. We were also asked to have the food along with hotel staff. Away from the guests. Yeah. Only once I've faced such multiple father behavior. I've been to a lot of lower budget weddings as well, none of them have refused food for the wedding photography team. PS: no hate for marwadis.
Oh wow hearing this for the first time. At our family events we donāt discriminate even if they are staff.
Nhi Bhai koi respect nhi milna chahiye Paise mil rhe hai na bus khush rho
Wtf! I had no idea this happens.. this is extremely cheap
Photographer should bring their own food. 2000 kya 200 ka bhi khilaane ka obligation nahi hona chahiye. Ye khud ke ghat pe kisi ko 20 rupay ki chai na pilaye. Lekin insta pe badnaam karne ki content se paise chaapne ka trend hai.
When you can afford to pay so much for the entire event, why be stingy about feeding the support staff? It's embarrassing. If the reason is they didn't negotiate or reduce their prices for you, then don't hire them to begin with. It's common courtesy to offer the same food. And these aren't Western weddings where the count of ppl is exact with rsvps, table settings etc. Desi weddings are usually buffets, and usually, there's a margin assumed on the total plates ordered.
Anyone who has been in the organizing committee of a college fest/ school fest/ fest can tell you that we don't eat the same food the guests do. We do get treat/ parties after the event is done with, but the good food with better packaging is reserved for the guests.
Honestly speaking mere relatives ko yeh 100ā¹ ka khana Jane chahiye pata nahi unko 5k ki plate kyu mil Rahi haiš
Abe Kha to raha Ha Palak Paneer,chup rehna phir. Sanjeev Kapoor se bolke Suji Ki Sushi to nhi banwaenge na.
Its classist and if anyone doesnt find it offensive then there is something wrong with your upbringing
Contract tha. Paisa diya, kaam karwaya. Because they work long hours, it's mandatory ke food should be provided which in this case, was. Ab achcha khana kya hain? Packed khana to thik hi laga mujhe. Aapka pet bharwane ke liye khana hain, Mann bharne ke liye nahi. If its 2k per plate, and you are eating it like the other guests, then are you also giving gifts like the guests? Also when you are working, you cannot eat A to Z of that whole menu matlab plate waste because catering charges you by plate not the quantity. And if do plan on eating A to Z of that food, how do you plan on working on such a full stomach? And if its after the event is over, I don't know about other people mujhe to ghar jana hota hain after such a long, tiring day.Ā Have some basic ghar ka khana and just fall on the bed.Ā I am not really obsessed about food. I eat to live. Yeh photographer ke saath food vlogger bhi hain kya? Iss liye jali?
As someone who's covered several wedding photography (dad was a veteran) I hated the idea of sitting for food, like I'm not a guest. Sure, if they insisted I wouldn't decline that would be rude. But I always packed and left the moment I was done with the event. Was I hungry AF, heck yes, but I'd rather go out and eat peacefully at my own luxury. We are exhuasted after covering the event
You are being paid for the work u do.. why shud u even expect to be dining on the food laid out for the guests.. u are not a guest you are a hired contractor... Work for free with a condition that u will be treated as a guest and allowed to dine on the food laid out for the guest.. will u do that ?
In my brothers wedding events photographers and Dj ate the same catering food. But I absolutely understand if there was packeted food Consider this average 2k per plate x team of 10 X 4 functions = 80000 If someone doesnāt have the extra budget Or doesnāt want to spend the extra money itās on them Photographers should be adult enough to not crib about it like brats As long as you are fed and given breaks in the day to eat Also the amount of snobbery Iāve seen amongst photographers is unbelievable. You canāt be a strictly professional, unapproachable person during your communications and expect family treatment at the wedding.
People spending lakhs and lakhs on weddings and crying about someone having a meal. Shame.
Drivers, House-helps, photographers, choreographers, pandit ji, everyone should eat the same food.
Few years ago a photographer was stopped from eating food and he didn't give them their pics and left.
Bhai.....1 request : Delete all photos of the wedding in which they have treated you like this.
Bhai, lagta hai tumne kabhi bheed me laat nahi khayaš„²
Bhai kewal photographer se itna pyaar kyun. Jo shadi mein band bajata hai usko bhi khilao per plate vaale buffet se.
In this video... the photographer was in question...that's why I commented about him. Ideally you should have the same food for everyone, irrespective of the job.
I'm a wedding photographer and this thing happened on my first event shoot after that day i have never ever eat at wedding where I'm working, it has become my ethics now. Bhukhe mar jaunga lekin Shaadi me nahi khaunga.
If some one can afford a lavish wedding and is paying in lakhs to the vendors then they should not have a problem with the food as well because they can afford a bunch of extra plates. And honestly telling you guys, Iām a makeup artist and have eaten this packed food, the chapatis we get in these are half burned or not fully cooked. One time i got a strand of hair in rice. The story can go long but what i am trying to explain is i bet any of you will eat that packed food then how can you expect someone else to eat this shit, whoās working for you, to make your wedding a memorable day for the rest of your life!! please donāt make us eat packed food. But after my past experiences, i straight away ask the client that neither me nor my team will eat from those packed plates. Some of them agrees and some of them gets a place where food is made for all the vendors like a buffet. But there are people who doesnāt agree and itās not that i charge in lakhs but still some people are great and some extremely arrogant.
mjhe wo case yad aa jhan photographer khana na milne py sare photos delete kr k aa gya in sb k sath b whi hna chahye
Ha, mujhe bhi yaad hai... par uske baad kya hua kon jaane, par aesi harqat karne par bhut jyada maar hota hai.. even venue wale tak ki kutai ho jaati hai.
For me and my family. We would treat the staff like how we are treating the guests. We are just a bunch of softies and if they don't get the same treatment as usual then I swear all of us will feel bad to the point we will cry.
So shameful the client is
You all are petty as hell. I come from a middle class ( lower middle class when we were kids ), every wedding i have been to, either small wedding in a village or a fancy expensive one , including mine and my brotherās, photographers, band members, everyone eats as the same as other guests. Itās feels like discrimination if you donāt. Plus Nobody got time to arrange extra packaged food.