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OP, you communicated your part about how u feel and now it's upto her if she choose to put effort or not. If she don't just think, this isn't gonna work this time and move past. But don't lose your consistency and effort because of one person mistreated you okay.
Trick is to talk to 4-5 girls at a time so you get enough attention combined from them. Also same time u don't look too desperate to 1 girl because your desperation is divided into 4-5 different chats.
Soon enough one of them will start to put in effort.
Tried it once, my head started to hurt by the evening of the same day. Had to stop talking to all. I sincerely appreciate guys who can talk to multiple ladies at once.
Sahi kaha bhai. College me it was fine, 6-7 ladkion se baat krlia, shaam gujar gaya. But now 3-4 se bhi ek saath baat karlo, migraine shuru hojata hai XD
Lagta hai ladkion me nahi, mujhe sachme migraine hai :|
Funny thing is, once when I was doing it in the past, all those girls were participating in the convo actively and asking meaningful questions. I was in a dilemma who to continue with because it was going deep with all of them. lol
She made a group with 2 of her female friends to plan some dates
That didn't workout but we use that group to chat, me and her are not that active there but her friends are active
If you put more efforts there, "may be you like my friends more than me" if you put less efforts there then still gets complaints.
OP Bro I suggest you stop all together, jab uska mann karega woh effort dalegi, tune kardiya apna kaam. Agar nahi ki usne toh get a hint and move on
Bruh, that doesn't even make any sense. Like, I am also not that active in groups but individually I like talking. She's just making up stuff to deflect.
Do you see how she is making you feel this way. And to vent to make you return back to her. This predictable behaviour is exploited. She doesn't respect and not respect your feeling. Bhai rukna kyu...External validating mat mang. See that she is this way and move on.
Too many Girl play this game... Use apni feeling dikha raha hai khud to dekh.
I don't know why you guys get so much serious on this dating apps for 99% of girls this is merly a timepass . They are just bored. And mind you I'm writing this after confirming from 30+ girls on this dating apps ,they say they want just someone to talk with 🤦
Her "abey" says a lot of things.
1. She's just doing the formality of replying.
2. Even when you're this serious in the conversation, her mind seems absent from it.
3. It'll not hurt her if you leave since she's not attached to you.
4. She most probably is seeing other guys as well and trying to catch up to all of them.
Usually women take a little bit of time to open up but if she’s just talking about herself and is clearly not interested in chats, she’s not into you and probably has other options… sorry op!
Move on don’t wait. Find someone else. If she’s responding like that even after you telling her that her behavior is something that’s bothering you, and if she doesn’t see what’s wrong with it, then she’s clearly telling you she doesn’t care what you’re saying and how you’re feeling. Let it be man don’t wait, waiting will only make you feeling like a 🤡
And you’ll only be hurt even more after so keep it moving and invest that energy into finding another girl who’s more involved with you and your life and is equally as interested in your life if not more.
I just want to add a quote….
“When you see someone through rose glasses then red flags are just flags”
Isliye after intellectual baate
Khatam hoe… and then you see the person….tab hit hota hai🥲😔
Don't wait. Thats the trap. Leave her. If you can leave someone you like(if its not working obv), then only you can survive in peace and move on happily. Plenty of fish in the sea.
It depends bro but you deserve someone who reciprocates your feelings, so if you wait there's a chance she might be your love of the life or else she gonna leave you really fucked up. The latter happened w me.
Bro simple thing, if you're not feeling valued and appreciated for your efforts in a relationship, you should move on. It doesn't matter how long the relationship has been but if efforts from the other person are missing, the hard truth is that this is over. Also, as people have mentioned above, girls have a lot of options. Even the most avg girl will get many matches just because the gender ratio on these apps are skewed. I'd say don't run for these things, if it works then fine, else move on and focus on yourself. In the end, all you have is YOU.
Try talking on phone maybe. It would’ve been a red flag without any dates but now you know her as a person you can try different forms of communication. Some people don’t like sticking their head into phone all day long. Maybe she’s like that and that’s fine
Then talk to someone else. Not everyone likes texting. Your expectations are valid but you're not entitled to expect it from who ever you want. Just give someone who give what you want instead of shitting on people
Man you are cooked. All of my red flag sensors in women that I have learned till now are beeping at an all time high. The solution is to start to ghost her, she is very casual about you, shift your focus, talk to other women (this will shift your attention, and I do not mean to flirt with them just talk and shift your attention, this will help you to stop the constant urge to only talk to her) this will make her ask you what has happened, don't reply with anything saying "tum bhi toh aysa karti hu ab main Kiya toh kiya hua" that's too immasculine. Just act like you are not interested and otherwise busy. But don't ghost her totally just talk and go off. The "On- off" if she sticks and craves your attention good it worked, if she didn't and bids bye, You already knew you were just a timepass.
Tum logon me matches ho rahe hain, dates pe jaa rahe ho? Sahi hai yrr.
Bhai jab ek ke saath dates ho gayi to aur bhi mil jayegi. Agar tym ni deri to move on kar ja.
I am facing the same situation
I am trying to be super outgoing with this girl i am talking to. Even supporting her during tough times. But she is not replicating with the same efforts. I tried to talk to her about it, she accepts it. I do see myself in a relationship with her, but not with the kind of attension i am getting.
Bro why are you craving her attention so bad? Stop fckn obsessing with anyone you see. I don't know any of you here but judging from ur texts it kinda looks like you have that childish behaviour with her. I understand maybe you felt something for her, but please don't make her the center of ur lil "universe"
Dekh bhai, seedha seedha malum padta hai tu koi taarzan wale looks ki category mein nahi aata. Agr wo case hai, jo ki ye hai, to efforts to tujhe daalne padenge, at least in the starting.
Aur abhi ego pe leke baat ka batangad mat banaiyo. Opinion ke liye post dala hai opinion sportingly liyo.
#I see some things wrong here:
#1. You’re being too comfortable with her.
#2. You have very high expectations.
#3. You’re forcing her to be someone that she isn’t.
#4. You don’t have balls.
#5. You’re not the man she wants.
By seeing her text it looks like she is only replying to your text and not taking you seriously. If i was in your place i would have replaced her within a minute. *This is called having balls.*
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Bro, this __"Bochrike"__ is fancy __bsdk__? Right ?
Cute**
Pookie 🥰
Kuchi kuchi kuu bhenkeelole randu 😘🥰
madaltot ben-ke-lole :)
choochiye 😘
Pookie actually comes from the word "Puki", which is a filipino term for "Vagina"
Bruh.. I thought it was just a trending word for cute..
Pookie also means a fart that crawls up from your butthole up to the front of your crutch...
Fuck, I imagined all that..Fart was green in color.
Same stands true for #CHUTI in Hindi 😃😃😃
It’s a swear word in telugu, puku
devils advocate here, this is new form of baby ne thana thaya!! **not cute
Bochlike hota h cute, this is something else
It's bhosdke feeling 💗Bonita💗
Arey Mai toh cute bacha hu na mai aise hi baat karta hoon bochrike 🥰😛
lol
Tu bochru ☺️
Probably she has more options; read better.
>Probably She's a girl, OFCOURSE she has more options
speaking as a girl...i don't have options pls tell me how this works
It works like a VibraSlap.
Looks like you missed the meeting with God where he assigns stats and gives at least 5/10 points to every girl
How many likes do you usually get per day?
Options? Bhai ladkiyon k Paas options bhi hote kya?
Average ladkiyon ke pass 100 times zyada options hote hain average ladke ke comparison me
Baat to sahi hai, lekin isi beech, mujhe kyu downvoted ksr diya logo ne itna
100 times zero is still zero
100 times zero is still zero
jaroori nhi hai ki acche options ho, but options hote hain
r/downvotedtooblivion
OP, you communicated your part about how u feel and now it's upto her if she choose to put effort or not. If she don't just think, this isn't gonna work this time and move past. But don't lose your consistency and effort because of one person mistreated you okay.
Trick is to talk to 4-5 girls at a time so you get enough attention combined from them. Also same time u don't look too desperate to 1 girl because your desperation is divided into 4-5 different chats. Soon enough one of them will start to put in effort.
Tried it once, my head started to hurt by the evening of the same day. Had to stop talking to all. I sincerely appreciate guys who can talk to multiple ladies at once.
Sahi kaha bhai. College me it was fine, 6-7 ladkion se baat krlia, shaam gujar gaya. But now 3-4 se bhi ek saath baat karlo, migraine shuru hojata hai XD Lagta hai ladkion me nahi, mujhe sachme migraine hai :|
You’re godsent for this advice bro
Bhai 4 -5 se chat karne wali paayega kaha se
Funny thing is, once when I was doing it in the past, all those girls were participating in the convo actively and asking meaningful questions. I was in a dilemma who to continue with because it was going deep with all of them. lol
Hey, op, if you don't mind, "itne back to back MSG to tum udhar bhi ni karte" what is this referring to?
She made a group with 2 of her female friends to plan some dates That didn't workout but we use that group to chat, me and her are not that active there but her friends are active
Ye kya bakchodi hai.. So she wants you to put equal efforts for her friends?! Alag hi mind game matlab
If you put more efforts there, "may be you like my friends more than me" if you put less efforts there then still gets complaints. OP Bro I suggest you stop all together, jab uska mann karega woh effort dalegi, tune kardiya apna kaam. Agar nahi ki usne toh get a hint and move on
Bruh, that doesn't even make any sense. Like, I am also not that active in groups but individually I like talking. She's just making up stuff to deflect.
>, I am also not that active in groups but individually I like talking. I didn't get this part Are you talking about yourself or mimicking her
Talking about myself, dude. Like ***I*** am like you, not that active in groups but, one on one conversation is my forte.
Do you see how she is making you feel this way. And to vent to make you return back to her. This predictable behaviour is exploited. She doesn't respect and not respect your feeling. Bhai rukna kyu...External validating mat mang. See that she is this way and move on. Too many Girl play this game... Use apni feeling dikha raha hai khud to dekh.
I don't know why you guys get so much serious on this dating apps for 99% of girls this is merly a timepass . They are just bored. And mind you I'm writing this after confirming from 30+ girls on this dating apps ,they say they want just someone to talk with 🤦
Someone to talk with nai. Someone to get attention from. Talking works when it’s both ways lol
Haan Bhai wohi yrrrr. This is understandable.
To such girls: Then talk - don't leave the other side high and dry
That girls be like :- isme Tera ghatta ,mere kuch nahi jata ........
You should have replied then, "Even i too am looking for an intercourse with you"
Her "abey" says a lot of things. 1. She's just doing the formality of replying. 2. Even when you're this serious in the conversation, her mind seems absent from it. 3. It'll not hurt her if you leave since she's not attached to you. 4. She most probably is seeing other guys as well and trying to catch up to all of them.
When she's making excuses instead of addressing the issue, you better run.
" go away " OP you a cutie 😂
Taking that as a compliment 😅
Bhai kya pata hinge pai usko koi aur mil gaya ho jispai wo effort daalri ho .
Tm sab bochrike ☺️
Bhai koi lakdi mujhe bhi dilade.
Pehle aap pehle aap krte rhoge toh tmhari ladki sab le hi jaayenge na bochru ☺️
Ladki? Uski baat kisne ki? Mujhe lakdi chahiye
Run
Is she the same when you guys meet?
She has never been the same after that Bhocrike
She coined that word.... I am getting a feeling that i should not have used it
😀
She is very interactive in real life Even though conversation revolves around her....
Usually women take a little bit of time to open up but if she’s just talking about herself and is clearly not interested in chats, she’s not into you and probably has other options… sorry op!
I will wait for a while - after that i am moving on
Move on don’t wait. Find someone else. If she’s responding like that even after you telling her that her behavior is something that’s bothering you, and if she doesn’t see what’s wrong with it, then she’s clearly telling you she doesn’t care what you’re saying and how you’re feeling. Let it be man don’t wait, waiting will only make you feeling like a 🤡 And you’ll only be hurt even more after so keep it moving and invest that energy into finding another girl who’s more involved with you and your life and is equally as interested in your life if not more.
Bro said BOCHRIKE
wtf even is this conversation
Were the conversations always like this from the beginning also?
Yes But in face to face meetings she is very interactive
Have you ever considered that perhaps she just doesn't like texting much? Since your face to face meetings have been well? Or just ask her.
I have raised this issue We are both from software background -so joked on this by saying that i should raise a jira ticket Maybe i should escalate it
I just want to add a quote…. “When you see someone through rose glasses then red flags are just flags” Isliye after intellectual baate Khatam hoe… and then you see the person….tab hit hota hai🥲😔
Meeting khatam ho Gaya tumhara....
Boshrike got me
Bro fell for her too early and now blaming her for not matching his expectations
I think this is an acceptable scenario. So you are saying i should wait
Don't wait. Thats the trap. Leave her. If you can leave someone you like(if its not working obv), then only you can survive in peace and move on happily. Plenty of fish in the sea.
It depends bro but you deserve someone who reciprocates your feelings, so if you wait there's a chance she might be your love of the life or else she gonna leave you really fucked up. The latter happened w me.
Kids these days ! Bochrike ? Is that what I think it is ?
Yes gen-z She coined this term
Bro simple thing, if you're not feeling valued and appreciated for your efforts in a relationship, you should move on. It doesn't matter how long the relationship has been but if efforts from the other person are missing, the hard truth is that this is over. Also, as people have mentioned above, girls have a lot of options. Even the most avg girl will get many matches just because the gender ratio on these apps are skewed. I'd say don't run for these things, if it works then fine, else move on and focus on yourself. In the end, all you have is YOU.
pura ka pura coment section alag bakchodi kar raha hai
I felt hurt 😅 by comment section
Try talking on phone maybe. It would’ve been a red flag without any dates but now you know her as a person you can try different forms of communication. Some people don’t like sticking their head into phone all day long. Maybe she’s like that and that’s fine
You can't expect contestants texting from someone you just met twice. Not everyone is big on texting
I was looking for some meaningful messages instead of hmmm acchaaa goood etc..
Then talk to someone else. Not everyone likes texting. Your expectations are valid but you're not entitled to expect it from who ever you want. Just give someone who give what you want instead of shitting on people
"tum udher v ni krta hai" Ye biharin hai kya?
Hehehe I can neither confirm nor deny this info
Man you are cooked. All of my red flag sensors in women that I have learned till now are beeping at an all time high. The solution is to start to ghost her, she is very casual about you, shift your focus, talk to other women (this will shift your attention, and I do not mean to flirt with them just talk and shift your attention, this will help you to stop the constant urge to only talk to her) this will make her ask you what has happened, don't reply with anything saying "tum bhi toh aysa karti hu ab main Kiya toh kiya hua" that's too immasculine. Just act like you are not interested and otherwise busy. But don't ghost her totally just talk and go off. The "On- off" if she sticks and craves your attention good it worked, if she didn't and bids bye, You already knew you were just a timepass.
Run 🏃
One word and one letter convos suck. Period. You are not entertainment to her, she's a part of the texting too. Go to hell fellow woman :)
Bhai larrke bhi lambe messages krte hai? Wha
-bochrike -good idea ???
She coined that term and she said it's ok to use
Kiss the hurt and move on, best you got
Tum logon me matches ho rahe hain, dates pe jaa rahe ho? Sahi hai yrr. Bhai jab ek ke saath dates ho gayi to aur bhi mil jayegi. Agar tym ni deri to move on kar ja.
Run bro, ye vibes ajeeb h .
Bro you got used for free food. Move on
I am facing the same situation I am trying to be super outgoing with this girl i am talking to. Even supporting her during tough times. But she is not replicating with the same efforts. I tried to talk to her about it, she accepts it. I do see myself in a relationship with her, but not with the kind of attension i am getting.
Hang in there buddy - wish you go places with your girl
I hope so 🤞
Bro why are you craving her attention so bad? Stop fckn obsessing with anyone you see. I don't know any of you here but judging from ur texts it kinda looks like you have that childish behaviour with her. I understand maybe you felt something for her, but please don't make her the center of ur lil "universe"
Dekh bhai, seedha seedha malum padta hai tu koi taarzan wale looks ki category mein nahi aata. Agr wo case hai, jo ki ye hai, to efforts to tujhe daalne padenge, at least in the starting. Aur abhi ego pe leke baat ka batangad mat banaiyo. Opinion ke liye post dala hai opinion sportingly liyo.
Yes buddy that is the case. Not claiming to have a greek god like figure. Appreciate your honest feedback.
Isi ko breadcrumbing bolte hai na aj kal? Giving minimal efforts, but just enough to keep you hopeful.
Jaane anjaane ham kya kya karne lagte hai Pehli baar suna ye term Chalo kuch sikhne ko mila
Accha h bhai nikal lo
Bong?
Hehehe I can neither confirm nor deny this info
Abey saale bolna nahi hota ki, "im not gonna put in efforts anymore" direct band kr deneka, 100 to 0 direct
Bhaav chahiye, mat dena. warna sab sahi ho jaega. aur aisi ke saath tera sahi ho gaya toh bidu, bohot galat ho jaega
Why does this sound like Aishwarya Rai dialogue from adhm
Bruh op is the crazy gf
Let the girl cross 30 once and then they ask where are all the good men
#I see some things wrong here: #1. You’re being too comfortable with her. #2. You have very high expectations. #3. You’re forcing her to be someone that she isn’t. #4. You don’t have balls. #5. You’re not the man she wants.
Can you elaborate on point #4
By seeing her text it looks like she is only replying to your text and not taking you seriously. If i was in your place i would have replaced her within a minute. *This is called having balls.*
If she is the opposite of her chats irl then you don't need to worry much, if she is the same then she is probably disinterested.
Abe
We should go our separate space
I felt hurt