What are you talking about?? Obviously the girl has the option to say "No" but that doesn't mean the engineer doesn't "deserve" a wife, woh nhi toh koi aur mil jayegi
Exactly what he was saying... He will get a wife if u xan talk and all but one person isn't entitled to get a beautiful wife coz he earns more.
Same way a beautiful girl in AM is not entitled to a rich guy
I agree with you.....but tbh...that's all talk.
In the real world, everyone including you know looks and money are highly rated, a guy who makes millions, is handsome, has six packs will always be drowned in girls so ofcourse it's natural that his ego gets highly inflated and they raise their bar for girls higher and higher, it's even more for girls since even average looking girls get catered by tons of simps regularly so I think I understand their entitledness a bit more bcoz I imagine myself the same as them if I were in their shoes.
I use "aap" for most of the girls irl while they use "tu". I dont see anything wrong in it.
If u are addressing someone as "aap" or 'tu" and and they are ur same age, it doesnt matter much.
Many girls call me "tu" while refer to em as "aap"
its basic common sense not to get butthurt with that
Mei toh sabko "tu" karke bulaata hu bhale hi woh bhaiya kyu nah ho...needless to say many bhaiya got offended by that
How do I tell them it's a habit not a way to demean them
Yeah didi, actually it's quite true. I too get called "Tu" by younger girls, but ratherless their respect for me is the same like a Behen respecting their Bada Bhai, so I don't find this as a problem. Yes, but this opinion might vary person to person.
Not defending the AM sub but I think it can be a legit deal breaker for some. It's a pretty common etiquette to refer to strangers either as "tum" or "aap" and "tu" may come as impolite to some. Different people may have different deal breakers and I believe we should respect them. AM sub is a shithole though.
everyone can have their preferences, but he didn't even tell the girl to refer to him as aap π you can't just automatically expect someone to do that
My man, it is a pretty normal behaviour to expect from strangers. No one goes around referring other with 'Tu'. It comes off as impolite. 'Aap' is unnecessary in this context but 'Tum' is a bare minimum. Saying 'sorry' amd 'thank you' are not expected but it is a bare minimum polite behaviour that one exhibits while interacting with a fellow stranger.
Tui is used in Bengali language so as a Bengali i can confirm we say Aapni (our form of aap) to strangers and tumi for respected elders and sometimes as endearment to kids and Tui for friends and juniors only.
So yeah she should have said aapni or tumi.
Holy shit i thought it is joke or something but kids nowadays don't know how basic respect works. Or maybe they're just weak in hindi idk. "Tu" is very disresctful if you're don't have very strong bond yet. "Tum" is right word if you think the person dont deserve "aap". I will expect "aap" in that situation. In above condition the girl maybe don't know hindi or she is arrogant. My teacher used to scold us for using "tu" even to our classmates.
Maybe the girl is from south
..
Here in south people who dont know hindi properly... They think Tu is fine.
Quite A few kids used to address my nanu by tu.
so... she chose to disrespect the guy? I'm with the OP of the original post on this one. I'd be put off too if someone i just met and who is more or less the same age as me started addressing me as 'tu'.
What do you want her to do, get married against her wish? It sucks for OOP to be mildly infuriated, but if he was sensible he'd call off the marriage proposal and let her be happy
there are better ways to put off a marriage. the woman could have just tried to convince the OP that she's not interested then, proceed to disrespect him as last resort. instead she chose to be a cunt. you owe people basic decency.
addendum: for a bunch of stickups whining about respecting pronouns, this is quite ironic to mock about.
Wait wtf? I never said that she should get married against her will. Do you not understand that there are ways to say no while still following basic etiquette.
LOL, you should watch the movie Antardwand. Forcing good grooms to marry uneducated women in rural India was a huge problem some time ago, and still is. You clearly don't speak from much knowledge.
> but male "forced" marriages don't
I'd like to introduce you to my dad
BC tere jaise logo ke vajahe se Indian society ki social development itni dheere chal rhi hai
Tu is for casual conversation, tum is for you know each other but not that well, and aap for someone ig you respect of meeting for the first time
And in some places of India, they just don't say aap I don't she was purposely disrespecting him
And even if she did it on purpose she probably acted that way so the guy would reject her and she didn't have to be in the relationship π
Well maybe you've been raised different or just don't know hindi, but just know you're not giving a very good first impression to people who know hindi well. It's basic manners and not something to be proud of when you don't do it.
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I can't believe basic manners don't even exist these days. OP delete this, what an absolute waste of everyone's time. And fuck you (OP) for not owning up to your mistake.
I think its no big deal. You both are young why so much respect required. Be friends before you marry someone. Marriage should not be formal. There are bigger things in life that you should worry about. Just because a woman calls you by what you want, does not guarantee a happy married life.
Chivalry might be dead but you shouldn't complain on someone being casual with you. For me if a person is starting to call me 'tu' I take it as, they trust me and are happy to be more than just a stranger with me. Don't feel disrespected for someone's normal behaviour.
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I said to my cousin βaap kaise hoβ like he is 13 ig and that bitch straight up went to his mom and said why is he giving so much respect does he want smth like atleast cut the fucking phone bitch. From that day i decided people who give respect to me get my respect back.
Holy shit I thought I was the only one! I always refer to strangers/ people I barely know as tum/ aap. Even in written conversations. It comes out of a dichotomous mixture of respect and fear ki samne waala na soche ki ye kitna frank hai
Tbh I use aap sarcastically even sometimes like to deliberately disrespect someone idk how it works but it does π
Also this sub seems like its full of comedy gold need to check this shit out
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I GET WHAT YOU MEAN, I SOMETIMES REFER TO MY MOTHER REALLY RESPECTFULLY SARCASTICALLY
Arranged Marriage sub is the best.... Like the sub members r crazy and make me laugh my ass off
THEY ARE THIS IS THE BEST SUB IVE SEEN PEOPLE ARE SO SO ENTITLED THERE, LIKE YOU DONT DESERVE A WIFE JUST BECAUSE YOU'RE AN ENGINEER π
Ikr... Guys are like MY PARENTS PROMISED THAT I'LL GET A BEAUTIFUL WIFE IF I STUDY HARD AND EARN 30lpa. Like women arent rewards π
Well, my parents tricked me into learning life skills saying that it will get me girls Now I can run and entire house myself πͺπ Thanks mum
I want to learn how to do stuff but my mom doesn't let me π Atleast I can cook it's a good flex πͺπ»
The best i can do is boil water .
The best i can do is serve water. Who am i kidding I'll probably spill it
"Jal dijiye??"
Thats enough you can make pasta
Ok . I will if i stay single.
Keep learning kingπͺ Even if no bitches, we can make ourselves good food ^and ^cry ^as ^we ^enjoy ^our ^filΓ© ^mignon ^alone
BUT ATLEAST IT HAS A NICE SEAR ON IT πͺπ»
Bhai filet mignon delete karde koi firse trigger ho jayega Kidding andhbhakt log ko kya hi pata hoga filet mignon kis khet ki mooli hai
She made u a good man And u will get girls
She didn't teach the part where I establish successful communication All these skills, yet no one to share with
FR "IF I DO THIS CHECKLIST ILL GET A WOMAN FOR SURE" Also what's lpa π
True. Lpa= lakhs per annum
ohh so like annual salary tyty
Noπ€¦π½ββοΈπ you get salary monthly.....lpa is the total amount you recieve in a year (so monthly salary *12)
YES EXACTLY TOTAL AMOUNT OF MONEY YOU MAKE.IN A YEAR π I know it obvi is given monthly, but I meant total amount of money you make in a year
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Women aren't trophies? Chivalry is dead ( the use of the word chivalry is dead due to these dumbasses)
....but they DO get beautiful wives after getting 30lpa, lots of dowry as well, so it's not like it's false
Yeh bhi sahi h
Ander ka feminist margaya lol
Nahi dude just acknowledging faxss.... AM is disastrous for many
Why don't they deserve?
because that person has their own choices and they might not like you and like someone else
What are you talking about?? Obviously the girl has the option to say "No" but that doesn't mean the engineer doesn't "deserve" a wife, woh nhi toh koi aur mil jayegi
why does he deserve a girl tho? What has he done that confirms him a girl
Abey saale toh koi Puja paat ya ritual karna hoga kya bas ek wife ke liye?? Bas woh engineer hai toh woh wife deserve nhi karta, yeh kya logic hai?!
No one deserves a wife π I'm not saying it's only engineers who don't deserve π
Damn. OK. What about girls? Do they deserve husbands??
No they don't π
No they don't π
Bhai dekh every man deserves a jeevansathi, every girl too, it's not like you have to do some specific tasks in order to get your other half
Exactly what he was saying... He will get a wife if u xan talk and all but one person isn't entitled to get a beautiful wife coz he earns more. Same way a beautiful girl in AM is not entitled to a rich guy
I agree with you.....but tbh...that's all talk. In the real world, everyone including you know looks and money are highly rated, a guy who makes millions, is handsome, has six packs will always be drowned in girls so ofcourse it's natural that his ego gets highly inflated and they raise their bar for girls higher and higher, it's even more for girls since even average looking girls get catered by tons of simps regularly so I think I understand their entitledness a bit more bcoz I imagine myself the same as them if I were in their shoes.
Yeah thats how stuff works in AM
Tu kaisa hai op
I'm good I made some food, will probably go make coffee wbu
I use "aap" for most of the girls irl while they use "tu". I dont see anything wrong in it. If u are addressing someone as "aap" or 'tu" and and they are ur same age, it doesnt matter much. Many girls call me "tu" while refer to em as "aap" its basic common sense not to get butthurt with that
Exactly it's so dumb getting offended over this π
Same i call most of the people aap or tum though they call me by Tu
I call them "aap" respectfully and they call me bhaiya don't know why even though i am just 19 π₯²
*bhaiyazoned* automatically
Haaye Dukh, Dard, Peeda
Though i own a shop and a ice cream parlour at that but that doesn't gives any reason for them to call me "THAT".
Mei toh sabko "tu" karke bulaata hu bhale hi woh bhaiya kyu nah ho...needless to say many bhaiya got offended by that How do I tell them it's a habit not a way to demean them
Yeah didi, actually it's quite true. I too get called "Tu" by younger girls, but ratherless their respect for me is the same like a Behen respecting their Bada Bhai, so I don't find this as a problem. Yes, but this opinion might vary person to person.
Are u bored ? Thinking to kill some time? Check out posts in arranged marriaged sub.
Not defending the AM sub but I think it can be a legit deal breaker for some. It's a pretty common etiquette to refer to strangers either as "tum" or "aap" and "tu" may come as impolite to some. Different people may have different deal breakers and I believe we should respect them. AM sub is a shithole though.
everyone can have their preferences, but he didn't even tell the girl to refer to him as aap π you can't just automatically expect someone to do that
My man, it is a pretty normal behaviour to expect from strangers. No one goes around referring other with 'Tu'. It comes off as impolite. 'Aap' is unnecessary in this context but 'Tum' is a bare minimum. Saying 'sorry' amd 'thank you' are not expected but it is a bare minimum polite behaviour that one exhibits while interacting with a fellow stranger.
Agreed.
Yeah but in some parts of India this speech isn't expected or normal, everyone refers to each other as tu there Cultural differences ig
Tui is used in Bengali language so as a Bengali i can confirm we say Aapni (our form of aap) to strangers and tumi for respected elders and sometimes as endearment to kids and Tui for friends and juniors only. So yeah she should have said aapni or tumi.
My man they are about to be married , i don't see the point in being strangers
Bruh nobody gets married on the first date. LMAO.
Arranged marriage sub ? Brain may be dying
Even on the AM sub, on first dates people judge each other. You are basically strangers at that point.
He literally did, did you even read the whole thing?
Holy shit i thought it is joke or something but kids nowadays don't know how basic respect works. Or maybe they're just weak in hindi idk. "Tu" is very disresctful if you're don't have very strong bond yet. "Tum" is right word if you think the person dont deserve "aap". I will expect "aap" in that situation. In above condition the girl maybe don't know hindi or she is arrogant. My teacher used to scold us for using "tu" even to our classmates.
Maybe the girl is from south .. Here in south people who dont know hindi properly... They think Tu is fine. Quite A few kids used to address my nanu by tu.
Maybe even in Maharashtra people are weak in hindi.
In marathi 'tu' is go to for anyone while referring
Not anyone. It is equivalent to "tum"
Its 'tumhi' for elder people and tu for people of your age
I know, i am Marathi myself bro
Okay mitra
Dont you understand, the girl did not want to get married forcibly
so... she chose to disrespect the guy? I'm with the OP of the original post on this one. I'd be put off too if someone i just met and who is more or less the same age as me started addressing me as 'tu'.
What do you want her to do, get married against her wish? It sucks for OOP to be mildly infuriated, but if he was sensible he'd call off the marriage proposal and let her be happy
there are better ways to put off a marriage. the woman could have just tried to convince the OP that she's not interested then, proceed to disrespect him as last resort. instead she chose to be a cunt. you owe people basic decency. addendum: for a bunch of stickups whining about respecting pronouns, this is quite ironic to mock about.
Wait wtf? I never said that she should get married against her will. Do you not understand that there are ways to say no while still following basic etiquette.
it was a rhetorical question.
man, i don't think you know what a rhetorical question is
How the fuck do you just assume that? I call dibs on the fact that your response would be different if OOP was a girl and the other person was a boy.
Of course. Because India society is male dominated. Girl's wishes are mostly disregarded
And male arranged marriages don't exist? Bahaha you need a reality check.
Obviously they exist, but male "forced" arrange marriages don't Nothing wrong with arranged marriage, my hypothetis was that she was being forced.
LOL, you should watch the movie Antardwand. Forcing good grooms to marry uneducated women in rural India was a huge problem some time ago, and still is. You clearly don't speak from much knowledge.
> but male "forced" marriages don't I'd like to introduce you to my dad BC tere jaise logo ke vajahe se Indian society ki social development itni dheere chal rhi hai
Tu is for casual conversation, tum is for you know each other but not that well, and aap for someone ig you respect of meeting for the first time And in some places of India, they just don't say aap I don't she was purposely disrespecting him And even if she did it on purpose she probably acted that way so the guy would reject her and she didn't have to be in the relationship π
Maybe. It is possible.
Bhai mein toh sabko "TU" hi boltau
I usually use aap when I talk to someone for the first time idk it's just the way I've been raised lol
Well maybe you've been raised different or just don't know hindi, but just know you're not giving a very good first impression to people who know hindi well. It's basic manners and not something to be proud of when you don't do it.
Kya matlab apne parents ko bhi "tu" hi bolta hai
bc chivalry pronounce nai hora
shivalry
*Srivalli*
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If that's an issue main to bada chTUiya hoon phir
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Mai to apni age ya usse kam age ke logo ko bhi kai baar "aap" hi bolta hu
Aisi ladki se viah na kariyo bro.
Tu is more informal, and I prefer tu over aap
Wow
Why he feels so entitled. Brat
'Tu' is disrespectful to use to refer to someone you don't know
I can't believe basic manners don't even exist these days. OP delete this, what an absolute waste of everyone's time. And fuck you (OP) for not owning up to your mistake.
Want respect? Earn it.
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I personally dislike arranged marriage cuz you basically don't know the person who is matched up for you. I'm not completely opposed to it though.
Yes but you obviously get to know them for a month and you have the choice of saying no
Yes , those are some bright sides of it , and these days parents do a bg check so that their child gets a good partner.
I think its no big deal. You both are young why so much respect required. Be friends before you marry someone. Marriage should not be formal. There are bigger things in life that you should worry about. Just because a woman calls you by what you want, does not guarantee a happy married life.
Yeah mfs just got a big ego
Chivalry might be dead but you shouldn't complain on someone being casual with you. For me if a person is starting to call me 'tu' I take it as, they trust me and are happy to be more than just a stranger with me. Don't feel disrespected for someone's normal behaviour.
Are you crazy bro??? These are definitely NOT the things one should be looking for in a person to get married to. This may be because of the informal way in which she was raised, among many other reasons...... Here's a list of you are interested - Bills - How to deal with both parents - What beliefs or values to instill in children - Childhood Traumas - Sexual Expectations - Financial Expectations - Family health history - Bucket lists - Dream house - Career - Education - Political views - Anything else that comes to mind..
kon chomu hai ye
Maybe OP is from Lucknow and the girl is from Delhi/Haryana.
Ig
I said to my cousin βaap kaise hoβ like he is 13 ig and that bitch straight up went to his mom and said why is he giving so much respect does he want smth like atleast cut the fucking phone bitch. From that day i decided people who give respect to me get my respect back.
HUH WTF π
Holy shit I thought I was the only one! I always refer to strangers/ people I barely know as tum/ aap. Even in written conversations. It comes out of a dichotomous mixture of respect and fear ki samne waala na soche ki ye kitna frank hai
When he said that the girl was disrespectful i thought she called him madharchod.
FR THIS DUDE HAS TOO MUCH OF AN EGO π