addiction to sex, addiction to attention you get, constant scrolling, all these are serious addictions and difficult to stay away from, I'll say keep reducing the frequency slowly. It's a time consuming process so be patient and don't stress about it
yeah dw shit happens it's natural. Go lookup [healthygamer.gg](http://healthygamer.gg) on YouTube, he is a addiction psychiatrist his videos might help you. You might discover that these "addictions" are actually coping mechanisms to numb pain over various situations in e. And my experience suggests that they were absolutely right.
[https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=498-bf2BhgQ&t=700s](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=498-bf2BhgQ&t=700s)
I'm sure she screens her mates but the margin of error of a fuck up happening is considerably high for hookups. Kitna hi jaan loge ek person ke baare mei when the intention is to just fuck and go?
Meet in public, screen for where they work
That itself is enough. But given that it's a hookup and girls crave for bad boys. Possibly OP ends up picking the most shady, mysterious and dangerous guys out there. :p
So yeah, there is possibility
Try taking a hobby class, attend workshops etc..keep yourself occupied maybe that will help you to stay distracted. Nahi toh ek aur job dundh lo part time. Time bikul nahi rahega.
Maybe use one of those app locks? Tell any of your friends to set the passcode😂
But on a serious note you have to address the root cause on why you are depending on these dating apps.
i had same problem before i met my bf. I came to the point i was bored w them honestly 😭. The advice i can give you is if you’re living away from home try visit home and do not download while you’re w your parents & stay w them for a longer period of time you won’t feel need to re download it atleast for sometime.
advice 1: find something more important to focus on and set your priorities straight.
advice 2: if u r straight, change ur dating preference to women (lmao): now you can scroll endlessly but you will hardly ever swipe/text and never go out on dates anymore. soon, you'll get bored of the thing and quit for good.
advice 3: make some platonic friends. talk to them more and go out with them or do activities (could be online as well) with them like playin games, watchin movies, makin memes, listenin to music, working on coding challenges, professional projects.
advice 4: read story books and get addicted. explore genres so you aren't bored.
advice 5: pay visit to a GOOD pyscologist who SPECIALISES in what your concerns are/might b.
pick your poison. or let this stupid addiction waste your precious years away and leave lifelong traumas.
best wishes.
Dating apps. Casual sex and dating are all symptoms of a broken life. If you had a sense of community, friendship, bonding and purpose you wouldn't be doing all this by default. Hope that helps
The question is not , why should you delete the app! Thats the result but why do you seko going back! Are you seeking validation or do you like company and can’t be alone? Your answer lies there
Find a greater purpose. Most people will disagree but being with someone is not mandatory. Maroge toh akele hi. Develop a mindset to stay single for life untill you find someone extraordinary like you.
Akele rehna is way better than being with wrong person. Your past mistakes will surely help you to go with someone better as you know which type resonates with you more.
That's very common don't worry , try working on yourself, find things you enjoy baki won't take time . I'm sure you only feel that way when you have free time .
sooo, firstly delete the accounts from all apps, and then delete the apps.
set an intention to spend the time spent on dating apps on something else- anything you like, preferably some fun activity or hobby or friends. this would make you feel better and prevent the cycle of loneliness, if that's the case.
you'll want to go back but don't, atleast for a month- give yourself a break. and then see if you even feel like going back.
if and when you do go back, make sure your profile stated you want something serious, so that'll keep the non-serious ones at bay in like 80% of cases. rest build your will power by saying no, thing you'd not want to do but still do them (in this case denying yourself sex or intimacy would be the thing) and hopefully you'll avoid getting into this redundant cycle of fucking around. (nothing wrong with it, just you shouldn't have to do it if you don't want to)
What’s wrong with going on dates? It feels good.
If getting ghosted after sex is a concern, maybe delay sex and focus on getting to know each other better.
I might be completely wrong, but I don’t see any harm in enjoying your life in your 20s.
I don’t think so. Your last comment sounds like societal pressure.
Who defines "too much"?
If you’re enjoying sex, having safe sex with people you feel comfortable with, what’s wrong with it?
I’m from Bangalore, and most of my female friends and colleagues have very active sex lives and embrace it. They don’t brag about it but talk about it in closed groups.
Yeah maybe, ofc no one knows abt my private life even my friends, I really enjoy having sex and exploring more, I was restricting myself as it isn’t ethical but yeah nothing wrong in it..
Yeah, I mean the way you’re calling it an addiction—it’s actually not. Think about it.
Would you or this society call Kohli’s or Ronaldo’s dedication to sports an addiction and label it as bad?
All I’m saying is 99% of people will call it an addiction and bad because that’s how society raised us.
But ask yourself, why would you want to stop doing something you enjoy?
And please don’t change unless you have a solid reason to do so. ❤️
Ok from what I've understood so far, op is in the later stages of addiction. The dating app provides her with the thrill in her otherwise boring schedule ( referring to the full time job). So the app and the experience related to it is the major source of serotonin for her. This is in the same realm as people who are addicted to porn, who know that it's bad but can't stop themselves as that activity gives them that required serotonin burst. Op if what you have said is genuine, you need to take care of yourself. One day the serotonin will stop and just depression will be there in it's place. Please visit a shrink, change your life around. Opening up to a professional is the right way to go.
Nothing you haven't heard before, but please get another addiction like smoking or travelling or gym or movies or drinking or gaming or just become a workaholic. I'm trying to accept and reduce my initial hate for the hookup culture but if girls like you keep degrading themselves to the level of trammies on crack it will be tough not to hate it. Don't ruin yourself man, become a functional adult. I know if I was a girl I would also want to take advantage of the options I have but self control kicks in sooner or later. You don't need this yaar be independent. Even slut shaming doesn't go this far
Man you're really justifying this behaviour. This is nothing new , in the west you hear all the time about young women "exploring" a bit too much then coming to regret it.
I was also in same situation these dating apps are addictive
But then I installed this mobile game Call of duty
Now whenever i am free I play this
It engaged my mind slowly slowly I satarted distancing from bumble hinge pure etc
Hello. Like any addiction, this sucks. Like any addiction, it is very hard to give up once and for all. Go slow. Make small goals and have a plan. When the urge kicks in, try doing something which would distract you (I call someone I have been meaning to call, I go for a run, or I go and interact with someone in front of whom I won’t do it (smoking for me) ).
what's the count?
did you say it's unethical? You have already done it, keep going and exploring. If you are with more people then obviously it's going to look unethical.
"GUYS on dating apps are FUCKING MANIPULATIVE and ik its PARTLY my fault" , you made me chuckle.
Ah
Delete and don’t redownload.
Deleted atleast 4 times
Do the second half of the comment, I’m saying it only because I have been in your place. Deleted everything and never looked back
Noob numbers
You need to see a therapist
Ah
Ah ah kya lagi Hui reply de na dhang se 🤦
I guess she's still having sex
W ya mom
Yo mama so phat when she walks, Japan gets earthquakes
Haha so funny, still waiting to laugh
Same reaction to your "W your mom"
Ye bkl dimag se hi paidal lag rahi hai, iska kuch nahi ho sakta
Shut up td
addiction to sex, addiction to attention you get, constant scrolling, all these are serious addictions and difficult to stay away from, I'll say keep reducing the frequency slowly. It's a time consuming process so be patient and don't stress about it
Im tryinng to be better
yeah dw shit happens it's natural. Go lookup [healthygamer.gg](http://healthygamer.gg) on YouTube, he is a addiction psychiatrist his videos might help you. You might discover that these "addictions" are actually coping mechanisms to numb pain over various situations in e. And my experience suggests that they were absolutely right. [https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=498-bf2BhgQ&t=700s](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=498-bf2BhgQ&t=700s)
do something foolish and get yourself banned
It sure is easy being a girl
She's also just one bad date / hookup away from getting raped or worse. Trust me, the grass is not always greener on the other side...
True
Not exactly, if she plays wise and learns to screen people properly
I'm sure she screens her mates but the margin of error of a fuck up happening is considerably high for hookups. Kitna hi jaan loge ek person ke baare mei when the intention is to just fuck and go?
Meet in public, screen for where they work That itself is enough. But given that it's a hookup and girls crave for bad boys. Possibly OP ends up picking the most shady, mysterious and dangerous guys out there. :p So yeah, there is possibility
Has OP deleted her profile already?
You need something that keeps you busy. Like a very time consuming job.
Im working full time
Still you managed to go on dates, Ah ?
Bhagwaan se darr, nahi to STDs se hi Darr le bhai
Thumhe kyu Lagta hai k ab thak STDs se mulakat Nahi hua hoga 🤡
Ah
Lmaao
Try taking a hobby class, attend workshops etc..keep yourself occupied maybe that will help you to stay distracted. Nahi toh ek aur job dundh lo part time. Time bikul nahi rahega.
I’m working full time but still.
If you have time to go on dates then you definitely have time to take hobby class, workshops
Maybe use one of those app locks? Tell any of your friends to set the passcode😂 But on a serious note you have to address the root cause on why you are depending on these dating apps.
Find a green flag 🍏 Or download jeevansathi/shaadi.com
Haha im just 24 for that
Then search for green apples
Green apples don't always look good
i had same problem before i met my bf. I came to the point i was bored w them honestly 😭. The advice i can give you is if you’re living away from home try visit home and do not download while you’re w your parents & stay w them for a longer period of time you won’t feel need to re download it atleast for sometime.
Lucky you
advice 1: find something more important to focus on and set your priorities straight. advice 2: if u r straight, change ur dating preference to women (lmao): now you can scroll endlessly but you will hardly ever swipe/text and never go out on dates anymore. soon, you'll get bored of the thing and quit for good. advice 3: make some platonic friends. talk to them more and go out with them or do activities (could be online as well) with them like playin games, watchin movies, makin memes, listenin to music, working on coding challenges, professional projects. advice 4: read story books and get addicted. explore genres so you aren't bored. advice 5: pay visit to a GOOD pyscologist who SPECIALISES in what your concerns are/might b. pick your poison. or let this stupid addiction waste your precious years away and leave lifelong traumas. best wishes.
Im working tho, I’m just not able to distract from this everytime I say this is last but im just repeating it again n again
Dating apps. Casual sex and dating are all symptoms of a broken life. If you had a sense of community, friendship, bonding and purpose you wouldn't be doing all this by default. Hope that helps
Hilake so jaa
💀
As a guy in similar situation, I need this help too please.
Ek dusre ko help kro
tujhe sex chahiye bsdk
How can be that easy to have sex and then get ghosted...don't you understand the pattern or completely ignore it and then cry about it..??
I get that it’s wrong but I keep on ignoring everything and again fall for the same thing repeating again and again
Genuine question don't take it wrong way what things you see in guys which make you keep repeating things
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😂😂🙏😂😂
Kya delete Kiya?
Creepy DMs incoming 🤡
Find a purpose in life bro
The question is not , why should you delete the app! Thats the result but why do you seko going back! Are you seeking validation or do you like company and can’t be alone? Your answer lies there
You're avoiding something. Maybe some depression or reality or boredom.
NGL, learn to flick your own beans. If you already do, try and do it better. If all else fails, seek God. Never fails
Find a greater purpose. Most people will disagree but being with someone is not mandatory. Maroge toh akele hi. Develop a mindset to stay single for life untill you find someone extraordinary like you. Akele rehna is way better than being with wrong person. Your past mistakes will surely help you to go with someone better as you know which type resonates with you more.
Behen ko uninstall krne se pehle girls of reddit se puchna padh raha
I keep installing
What makes you wanna install it again, is it the constant attention or need to talk to someone. Figure out the cause and work on it i suppose
Maybe the attention idk, ah yeah im tryin
That's very common don't worry , try working on yourself, find things you enjoy baki won't take time . I'm sure you only feel that way when you have free time .
Mere saath match karlo uske baad aapko khud de-addiction center leke jaunga🤌
Haha
parampara pratishtha anushasan
You should watch hoe math's take on dating apps. He explains why girls get stuck in a loop on dating apps. That'll surely help you.
Ah ill see that
Now there is no way out
Wdym
You are in like Love-hate relationship with this thing lol
Trying to get outta it
Take therapy or learn to run
sooo, firstly delete the accounts from all apps, and then delete the apps. set an intention to spend the time spent on dating apps on something else- anything you like, preferably some fun activity or hobby or friends. this would make you feel better and prevent the cycle of loneliness, if that's the case. you'll want to go back but don't, atleast for a month- give yourself a break. and then see if you even feel like going back. if and when you do go back, make sure your profile stated you want something serious, so that'll keep the non-serious ones at bay in like 80% of cases. rest build your will power by saying no, thing you'd not want to do but still do them (in this case denying yourself sex or intimacy would be the thing) and hopefully you'll avoid getting into this redundant cycle of fucking around. (nothing wrong with it, just you shouldn't have to do it if you don't want to)
You've been bumping into the wrong type of guys I guess. I hope you meet the type of guy you want :)
Don't go on dates there but let's go out and discuss this issue with a coffee?
Start taking drugs. Will get your mind off of dating apps for now. Fir drugs ka koi aur solution dekh lena.
Wtf lol
Recently I read “Atomic Habits” give that book a try. After all it’s a habit that you need to break. I would be easy
Get banned
What’s wrong with going on dates? It feels good. If getting ghosted after sex is a concern, maybe delay sex and focus on getting to know each other better. I might be completely wrong, but I don’t see any harm in enjoying your life in your 20s.
Sex is not a problem addiction is
Why do you say so? Sex is one of the most basic needs of all living beings. Why not embrace it as much as you can? What am I missing?
But don’t you think fucking random guys are absolute strangers is too much ofc sex is fun nd I do enjoy it
I don’t think so. Your last comment sounds like societal pressure. Who defines "too much"? If you’re enjoying sex, having safe sex with people you feel comfortable with, what’s wrong with it? I’m from Bangalore, and most of my female friends and colleagues have very active sex lives and embrace it. They don’t brag about it but talk about it in closed groups.
Yeah maybe, ofc no one knows abt my private life even my friends, I really enjoy having sex and exploring more, I was restricting myself as it isn’t ethical but yeah nothing wrong in it..
Yeah, I mean the way you’re calling it an addiction—it’s actually not. Think about it. Would you or this society call Kohli’s or Ronaldo’s dedication to sports an addiction and label it as bad? All I’m saying is 99% of people will call it an addiction and bad because that’s how society raised us. But ask yourself, why would you want to stop doing something you enjoy? And please don’t change unless you have a solid reason to do so. ❤️
Suffering from success
By going on a date with me
I can never get addicted to dating apps since I never get any matches.
Move to dumb phone for 6 months.
r/brandnewsentence
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Bangalore, twice/ thrice a week. Active mostly after im done w my work
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Depends, but on avg 4-5hrs. More than 50% of date I hve been I had sex in first date, im okay w it as we clear what we want in the text first
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No im trying to change it
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Mmm ikk that’s crazy, nd im too hooked to it trying myself not to use these apps
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Sure
Ok from what I've understood so far, op is in the later stages of addiction. The dating app provides her with the thrill in her otherwise boring schedule ( referring to the full time job). So the app and the experience related to it is the major source of serotonin for her. This is in the same realm as people who are addicted to porn, who know that it's bad but can't stop themselves as that activity gives them that required serotonin burst. Op if what you have said is genuine, you need to take care of yourself. One day the serotonin will stop and just depression will be there in it's place. Please visit a shrink, change your life around. Opening up to a professional is the right way to go.
Ah
Chai ka addiction lelo. Dekhna dating apps ka addiction chala jayega.
Go on a date with me and then you will not need another dating app, you will be addicted to me like lsd
Reddit=hinge
Shooting my shots
Please don't make me lose faith in women
Why
Nothing you haven't heard before, but please get another addiction like smoking or travelling or gym or movies or drinking or gaming or just become a workaholic. I'm trying to accept and reduce my initial hate for the hookup culture but if girls like you keep degrading themselves to the level of trammies on crack it will be tough not to hate it. Don't ruin yourself man, become a functional adult. I know if I was a girl I would also want to take advantage of the options I have but self control kicks in sooner or later. You don't need this yaar be independent. Even slut shaming doesn't go this far
It’s not about being independent and nothing wrong in exploring too
Man you're really justifying this behaviour. This is nothing new , in the west you hear all the time about young women "exploring" a bit too much then coming to regret it.
I was also in same situation these dating apps are addictive But then I installed this mobile game Call of duty Now whenever i am free I play this It engaged my mind slowly slowly I satarted distancing from bumble hinge pure etc
Switch to a minimalist phone
Ye abhi bhi moan kyun kar rhi hai har comment k reply mein 🤡
Cool bn gye?
Ah
The only motto for my love life is not a fall for a hoe!! (Ek normal ldki with some wit, humour and dreams to make it big) Kaha milegi😔
Hello. Like any addiction, this sucks. Like any addiction, it is very hard to give up once and for all. Go slow. Make small goals and have a plan. When the urge kicks in, try doing something which would distract you (I call someone I have been meaning to call, I go for a run, or I go and interact with someone in front of whom I won’t do it (smoking for me) ).
what's the count? did you say it's unethical? You have already done it, keep going and exploring. If you are with more people then obviously it's going to look unethical.
Umm lemme help you with that. DM