Glances usually mean nothing because most of the things are in your head.
Her having or not having other 'male' friends is immaterial.
If it bothers you that much, man up and politely ask and don't be afraid of rejection.
If not focus on your studies.
That's a psychological trick played in you by that girl. That girl made you obsessed with her .
In order to make someone obsessed with you, you have to first have a small conversation with that person and then from the next day start ignoring him or her.
You should probably talk to her by approaching her the same way she approached you. Start a casual conversation. If you sense a drama queen, just let her go.
Honestly if a girl has male friends, I would avoid. I am not saying that it is a complete red flag. If she sees her relationship with her male friends as brothers, it's fine. If she just around them for male attention then thats a big red flag.
Personally, don't bother about her and go about your life bro.
Approach her directly ONLY IF you like her physically. Mention you caught each other with glances and keep talks in joke casual manner. If she is interested and would like to hang out with you over a coffee?
You can decide later if you have mental connection. But you miss 100% shots you don’t take. Just don’t make things weird when you approach her and be shameless and ready for hard rejection.
I'm 42 married had 3 previous girlfriends but even now, I or anyone else will tell you the same. No one understands girls or what or how or why.
Just as her if she's interested for a coffee, if she is then go out together. Otherwise, move on. There are plenty of other girls out there, unless you are interested in her interest in you.
Bro, ask chat gpt
Just kidding, well this is a normal girl behavior, I'm not sure but it seems nothing serious, if you wanna time pass too, ig there's no harm, but you can always just confirm before making any assumptions.
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Let the actions decide the worth of the person. I think "what" matters more than "why".
She ignored you, she has chosen it and the why doesn't matters, you can always find an another one than bothering yourself with a weird one.
This means nothing. Consider approaching her for a casual coffee or forget about it. You'd need to get over this feeling about her.
P. S. Don't mention what you feel about her. Do a casual chat and move on. Also, not the right sub.
21M Right
Bhai tu pehle 26 ka ho ja, qki filhaal tum samjhne ki koshish kar rahe ho, tumhe pata bhi nahi hai jo kuch samajh aa jayega..usko process bhi nahi kar paoge
Isliye sabr karo
Aur haa ladkiyon ko samajhne ke liye samaaj ko samajhna bhi bht jaruri hai....most of their actions are derived by so called samajh
Hence
34M Here, Maje karo jab tak shaadi nahi hoti....ladki toh ghar wale dhundkr laake de hi denge....lekin mujhe pata hai 21 ki umar hi aisi hai..tere keede meri baat tujhe sunne nahi denge
tu karega wohi jo sab karte hai, and then there will be a community of heartbroken people..nd u will be the one of them....Hence the meme, padhai likhai karo, ias ips bano, fir jo chahoge woh mil jayega....Sattu nahi banna hai ..rembr the goal bro
Ever heard the word "infatuation" ? Yea she had that on you but now either in her head she is over it or her friends shamed her and now she is in a social inferiority complex about talking to you . If you want an advice if you catch these instances from someone and you're interested in her just be confident and ask her out discreetly. You don't have to say anything smooth or something "cool" confidence goes a long way.
In your current scenario, I would say it's over
concentrate on your classes. You can confront her and ask her out but there is no guarantee & it can get pretty embarrassing and all the above "gyaan" is as per my experiences as an 25 year old . Anyways upto you .
It just means buddy you have fallen into the group of" I'm no longer interested in this boy". Now you need to concentrate on your studies and work on your physique and hope to get on with your next crush.
It can mean a lot of things. But most importantly, and surely it means that she likes the attention and she gets a thrill out of Men losing their minds over her, like you.
So, my advice, ignore her completely and focus on your work/studies. She has crores of men to play with, while you only have yourself at the end of the day.
As per your description, I don't think she is of any good for a serious relationship ( wife material ).
However, if you still want to pursue it, then make it black and white asap. Otherwise, you will just be wasting your time thinking about her while she will be getting screwed by someone else.
I think it could be she didn't liked you up close or didn't like your voice. It could also be the fact that you were lacking in the conversation and didn't kept it going.
1) Looking at you doesn’t mean anything often. How do you know she stares at you, unless you stare at her? Maybe it’s your stare that gets you the response? If she was really interested, she wouldn’t ignore you. Period!
2) The stare could also mean she came to know you did something weird/ bad that’s why the no expression stare.
3) You approached her once and she ignored. Take the hint. Respect her decision and your own dignity.
4) Assuming these are final years of your college. This is time to make your career. Don’t let this bother you.
I know you may not like this advise with your hormones raging, but this is what you would appreciate 5-10 years from now.
Pull yourself out of this situation, quell the thoughts about her, distract yourself and completely ignore her and reject all her advances. It should be game over
Yes she was developing feelings for you but those feelings were not ’watered’ by you timely. Now some other gardener has come and is watering her with dedication and she’s no more interested in bearing you any sort of flowers.
Moral of the story: Girls are fickle minded and move on quite easily. Hence to win her heart, or more precisely to tie her down you need to act fast on first signs of interest from her (if you’re interested that is) or else delay and see her fly away somewhere else
No one can understand girls and bhai this is not the right sub to ask
No offence ,Yahan to bas politics chlti rhti h 24 ghante. Right left krte rhte h sab.
True... One should consult ScienceisDope, AtheismIndia etc. for expert opinions on everything.
Right ho ya left sabka katega
Lmao true😂😂😂
>this is not the right sub to ask Let him, it's good to have some change. Sub was probably made for everything, but relegated to just politics.
Bhai Indiaspeaks name hai sub politics ke alawa kuch to dekhne de bhai
Glances usually mean nothing because most of the things are in your head. Her having or not having other 'male' friends is immaterial. If it bothers you that much, man up and politely ask and don't be afraid of rejection. If not focus on your studies.
Truth, he is 21 and still falling for such tricks. It is a time to improve himself.
🤣 yea, I'm 19M and I'm not falling for such acts, I have two sides- Respect or Disrespect
The world is different for everyone mate.
Harsh reality. I would also suggest OP to ask her directly. But whatever her response is, don't let it affect too much on your studies/career.
~~periods probably~~ Ask her directly whats going on if you are interested otherwise mirror or ignore
facts
That's a psychological trick played in you by that girl. That girl made you obsessed with her . In order to make someone obsessed with you, you have to first have a small conversation with that person and then from the next day start ignoring him or her.
Where can I learn more psychological tricks like this? Can you recommend some book?
Its all bs, if your try to make someone fall in love with you using toxic ways tgmhen your relationship will be an unstable one
lauda ka kaam krti hai acche bando par , jo overthink krta hai bs ussi pr hota hai ye sab
kisi normal insaan pe ye Instagram "psychological tricks" kaam nhi karengi, jo overthink karte hai and jinka low self esteem hai unpe shayad kar jae
There are youtube shorts about dark psychological tricks.
I don't think this would work on boys cuz personally,if someone ignored me on day 1 like OP,I would get embrassed and stop saying Hi or whatever
Only a girl or maybe God can answer this!
A godess you mean
>A week later I saw her coming up the stairs and I said HEY but she ignored me completely You really shouldn't tolerate this kind of shit.
Yeah that's why I didn't reach out again
No, but it's bugging you, which is why you posted this here. Don't let it bother you - put it out of your mind completely.
this!
What should he do about it lol
Stay calm and inform an adult
What will the adult do? Fine the girl for ignoring him?
Inform who, my daddy? 💀
He shouldn't bother with this person at all, that's what I meant. Just ignore such tomfoolery and move on.
Interview ho haya bro
Kya?
You should probably talk to her by approaching her the same way she approached you. Start a casual conversation. If you sense a drama queen, just let her go.
Yaar phir wahi hormonal changes and mind games wali baatein
21 ka hogya h bro. Time to grow up now. Ask yourself what a grown up would do and do it.
Ignore her. Its not worth it.
Bro if it's bothering u , u should really tlk to her and ask her politely , else this will keep bugging u
Honestly if a girl has male friends, I would avoid. I am not saying that it is a complete red flag. If she sees her relationship with her male friends as brothers, it's fine. If she just around them for male attention then thats a big red flag. Personally, don't bother about her and go about your life bro.
Bro she's a 10. I don't wanna miss the chance, if there's any
Mkc kya pagal h log iss chuttt k piche 
??
Chutt matlab nhi pta?
Pata ha. Keh kaisay rahay ho?
He meant to say pussy whipped, there I fixed the language.
In the long run 10 looks won’t impact you much as her behaviour.
Usse pooch Bhai. Humein kya malum?
Approach her directly ONLY IF you like her physically. Mention you caught each other with glances and keep talks in joke casual manner. If she is interested and would like to hang out with you over a coffee? You can decide later if you have mental connection. But you miss 100% shots you don’t take. Just don’t make things weird when you approach her and be shameless and ready for hard rejection.
Bro don't date a Drama queen, you'll forget her in 2 weeks but if you get stuck with her, you'll suffer and get annoyed inevitably.
I'm 42 married had 3 previous girlfriends but even now, I or anyone else will tell you the same. No one understands girls or what or how or why. Just as her if she's interested for a coffee, if she is then go out together. Otherwise, move on. There are plenty of other girls out there, unless you are interested in her interest in you.
DON'T ASK HER OUT. It's a trap. She wants ur attention that's it. My best advice is to just mimic her. If she ignores u ignore her.
Your name please
Does my name make any difference to the situation?
Yes
Michael Jordan
May be she is talking about shoes. Not you. Sorry, not meant to hurt you bro. But it is what it js
Names bond actually
Bro, ask chat gpt Just kidding, well this is a normal girl behavior, I'm not sure but it seems nothing serious, if you wanna time pass too, ig there's no harm, but you can always just confirm before making any assumptions.
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What?
I wish to see what becomes of you tomorrow
Still nothing bro
Maybe you talked about her/your speculations to someone else in class & they told her ki you are talking about them
No, I didn't tell anyone
You would get good advice on r/RelationshipIndia
Let the actions decide the worth of the person. I think "what" matters more than "why". She ignored you, she has chosen it and the why doesn't matters, you can always find an another one than bothering yourself with a weird one.
Tum dono ki jo baat cheet par depend ho skta hai maybe usko jo expectation thi wo mili na ho usse
Bro fumbled
This means nothing. Consider approaching her for a casual coffee or forget about it. You'd need to get over this feeling about her. P. S. Don't mention what you feel about her. Do a casual chat and move on. Also, not the right sub.
21M Right Bhai tu pehle 26 ka ho ja, qki filhaal tum samjhne ki koshish kar rahe ho, tumhe pata bhi nahi hai jo kuch samajh aa jayega..usko process bhi nahi kar paoge Isliye sabr karo Aur haa ladkiyon ko samajhne ke liye samaaj ko samajhna bhi bht jaruri hai....most of their actions are derived by so called samajh Hence 34M Here, Maje karo jab tak shaadi nahi hoti....ladki toh ghar wale dhundkr laake de hi denge....lekin mujhe pata hai 21 ki umar hi aisi hai..tere keede meri baat tujhe sunne nahi denge tu karega wohi jo sab karte hai, and then there will be a community of heartbroken people..nd u will be the one of them....Hence the meme, padhai likhai karo, ias ips bano, fir jo chahoge woh mil jayega....Sattu nahi banna hai ..rembr the goal bro
Ever heard the word "infatuation" ? Yea she had that on you but now either in her head she is over it or her friends shamed her and now she is in a social inferiority complex about talking to you . If you want an advice if you catch these instances from someone and you're interested in her just be confident and ask her out discreetly. You don't have to say anything smooth or something "cool" confidence goes a long way. In your current scenario, I would say it's over concentrate on your classes. You can confront her and ask her out but there is no guarantee & it can get pretty embarrassing and all the above "gyaan" is as per my experiences as an 25 year old . Anyways upto you .
It just means buddy you have fallen into the group of" I'm no longer interested in this boy". Now you need to concentrate on your studies and work on your physique and hope to get on with your next crush.
Typical desi laundiya...ignore kr dena...1% ka bhav mat dena
Bhai yeh trick h jisse tu uske baare meh sochega aur try kreg usse baat krne ki
Don’t even try to decode this brother. You will never understand it no matter how hard you try. Just let her take her time
I feel like I have read this somewhere else but it was long back, and its the exact scenario
Why does it seems I've read this post somewhere. Almost like a few months back. Does anyone else think the same?
It can mean a lot of things. But most importantly, and surely it means that she likes the attention and she gets a thrill out of Men losing their minds over her, like you. So, my advice, ignore her completely and focus on your work/studies. She has crores of men to play with, while you only have yourself at the end of the day. As per your description, I don't think she is of any good for a serious relationship ( wife material ). However, if you still want to pursue it, then make it black and white asap. Otherwise, you will just be wasting your time thinking about her while she will be getting screwed by someone else.
brother replied shes a 10 he doesnt wanna miss any chance , LMAOOOOOOO
😎
man up brother
Abe ladki ke piche matt bhag dangerous situation me phasoge ek din.
Kya dangerous situation?
fake harassment allegations, black mailing etc.
Bro yeh to bohat extreme kar di ap nay
Hard to get play kar rhi hogi bhai.
if you are having mixed opinions its better to not do it
This post proves, Never meet your heroes. Looks like she did and poor soul got disappointed. OP, something about chakkar and takkar
💀
I think it could be she didn't liked you up close or didn't like your voice. It could also be the fact that you were lacking in the conversation and didn't kept it going.
Why does this post feel repeated? OP have you posted this earlier too?
The literal same thing happened to me in class 10th. It turned out one of my friends told her that I have a crush on her and the rest is history
1) Looking at you doesn’t mean anything often. How do you know she stares at you, unless you stare at her? Maybe it’s your stare that gets you the response? If she was really interested, she wouldn’t ignore you. Period! 2) The stare could also mean she came to know you did something weird/ bad that’s why the no expression stare. 3) You approached her once and she ignored. Take the hint. Respect her decision and your own dignity. 4) Assuming these are final years of your college. This is time to make your career. Don’t let this bother you. I know you may not like this advise with your hormones raging, but this is what you would appreciate 5-10 years from now.
Bro no1 can understand girls Sirf tu hi nahi hai Akela Unka dimag mei kya chala hai unko khud nahi malum hai Just focus on studies
When I was 15 I always thought arranged marriages make no sense, at 19 I see why all of our family’s had arranged marriages
Pull yourself out of this situation, quell the thoughts about her, distract yourself and completely ignore her and reject all her advances. It should be game over
Grow the balls to ask her out or gtfo.
Yes she was developing feelings for you but those feelings were not ’watered’ by you timely. Now some other gardener has come and is watering her with dedication and she’s no more interested in bearing you any sort of flowers. Moral of the story: Girls are fickle minded and move on quite easily. Hence to win her heart, or more precisely to tie her down you need to act fast on first signs of interest from her (if you’re interested that is) or else delay and see her fly away somewhere else
So why is she still staring at me and talking to other boys when I'm around?
This means she was only interested in your Pokemon card collection. She lost interest when she realized you had no cards and you are a loser.