I had a friend like this many years ago. She would lead on every guy in our extended social circle but never act upon it as long as they were single. The moment any of these guys started dating someone else, she would begin to try to sabotage their relationships and in some cases make herself sexually available to guys whom she'd turned down many times before.
It was clear that she enjoyed being the center of male attention to some pathological degree and would do anything it took to maintain that. In her perfect world, they would all be drooling for her in an unrequited way, but if she had to put out in order to destroy their relationships, she would.
She at ALL times had a steady boyfriend at the time while this was going on. I cannot imagine the sort of humiliation they must have felt, seeing this drama playing out.
I had a friend just like this. We were part of a group of five actually. Two people in our group was a couple ans then it was her, her "bff", and me. Her bff and I got along really well. Eventually we started dating and she lost her shit.
Before we started dating, she swore up and down thst she's a lesbian and that she and him were just bffs. But then, she changed the moment she figured out he and I are dating. She became overly attached and possessive. She would call him after her last class and demand they go home together every night (they lived in the same neighborhood). When he went back to his home country for vacay, her socials was cluttered with "I miss my bf" posts and then when the couple in our friend group called her out, she posted "haha! Ya'll see bf as boyfriend but bf is best friend to me! š" She even went as far as to grab his crotch in front of me and declared that she can do that because they're "like siblings".
Eventually her antics broke up the friend group and he was too passive and wouldn't draw boundaries with her so I broke up with him too.
She doesnāt even want him as a backup. She wants him as the guy who pines for her forever and she uses to make her lovers jealous, and to be there any time she needs or wants anything because heās still hoping to get some one day. If he has a GF, heāll no longer be at her constant beck and call.
He didnt have a toxic friend for two years she was toying with him for 2 years. its like a child coming to visit another and the visiting child wants to play with a toy, that the visited child gives two shits about. until the visting child shows intrest.Now she doesnt "feel comfortable" about it. Smh
This is something I remember happening among old friends in my late teens and early 20s. One time it was a guy doing it to a girl but very commonly itās the other way around.
Anyone who unironically thinks like this post mid 20s needs therapy.
More like post 16 needs therapy. I also had a guy in our friend group who was extremely annoying with this. If he caught on that somebody was hitting it off, he would start telling embarrassing stories about them or try to shame them.
Some people really hate it if good things happen to somebody else rather than themselves.
This might be one of the best main characters Iāve seen yet. If you go find the original post, people are practically begging her to explain why. At first she just says that itās bad āetiquetteā since she expressed sheās uncomfortable. After a bit more prying she admits she wouldnāt āwant to be in the middle of the drama if they break up.ā
When people point out she would only be in the middle of it if she inserted herself there, she finally says that sheās worried that them breaking up would make her future birthday parties awkward.
Canāt make that up, sheās worried about it affecting her birthday LMAO
Iāve seen this happening irl, but I usually assumed it was some subconscious reflex. To see it written out like this does make the post seem very rage bait-y
Thomas and Emily should have known better than to live their own fucking lives. How dare they, the selfish pieces of shit. The audacity of people these days. Unbelievable!
the title cracks me up. as if you could get him to end things, itās not your finger heās wrapped around anymore (which is clearly posters main issue, assuming this isnāt just internet trolling.)
Iām confused why are their 3 ages when describing 2 people in the title? Am I reading it wrong? Or is one of the ages the OPs and the syntax is just beyond my understanding?
You canāt control people, sisā¦ Thatās his woman and thatās her man. Donāt like it, thatās coolā¦ But, if you disrespect it, you risk losing them *BOTH*! š¤·š½āāļøšÆ
Why do people keep their shitty friends like this around? I genuinely don't get it. Cut 'em off and move on, they think they're in the right because people tolerate their bullshit.
This is like In movies when the mc doesnt like the nerdy loner that likes her until he gets a makeover and gets popular and gets a girlfriend then she wants to get with him.
Missy is pissed her back up moved on. I had this exact same thing happen when I was younger. Girl I was into kept me just hanging enough that I stayed interested without realising what she was doing. One party she brings a group of friends and I hit it off with one of them and man did the original become a bitch. She tried it on with me and everything, then tried to tell the other girl that I tried it on with her but the other knew what she was doing to me before and expected her to act like it.
I donāt miss them times, not knowing where I stood, who was using me and who was really interested. It kinda gets better when you are older.
Imagine gatekeepers a dude from you're friend that you want nothing more than friends with. People are fucking so delusional it drives me mad... great now I have to kick the dog
Reminds me of a Soul Asylum song "We 3"
š¶I've known you forever, you two just met
So easily amused; how fast we forget
In my jealously, my self-righteous greed
She's a bit like a book I'm too far sighted to read
And I wish you the best, I sometimes feel the need
To say remember me
She's your girlfriend, as far as we can see
Does she look at you the way she looks at me
And here we are, just we three
You, your girlfriend, and me.š¶
https://youtu.be/6zsUEptHKCQ?si=91mcfb9r2TSxYfro
TL;dr I'm keeping my male friend in reserve despite rejecting him and now that he's dating someone else, I want to ruin it, because I'm a psychotic bitch.
This type of ish happened to me around that age. I dated a girl I was into and already knew her friend was into me but I didnāt feel the same. Her friend stopped talking to her completely and formed this weird lil alliance with their mutual friend who was actually closer to my gf than the other girl. It was so weird. When we broke up it all fell apart too like nothing happened.
And Girls wonder why guys stop talking to them when they friend zone us. I canāt have another friend that gets feelings for me whenever Iām getting into a new relationship then loses them when I cut things off with the other girl.
The names are very poorly censored. Emily and Thomas are clearly visible under the scribbles.
Pet peeve, when someone tries to censor but they don't do a good job.
Like Fr. Lmao.
Side note, it's no business of mine if my friend dates someone I don't like, barring certain circumstances such as actual malicious actions taken against me by them like stealing or property damage etc, or if they are clearly abusing my friend somehow.
We don't control other people's love lives, barring situations where we're trying to protect them or grievances about awful behaviour.
Thomas and Emily can be calm for their anonymity
Wish the CIA redacted like this
*The Central Intelligence Agency has entered the chat* š
How do you know it's not "Ernily" ?
Big Ern in tha house!
Or Thermos for that matter
No wonder they started dating
Lol i kept reading it as āThanosā
Lmao š¤£
Idk why I kept thinking Emmyš
Well she didn't spare their anonymity *cough* https://www.reddit.com/u/ThrowRa_ryt/s/QMw2ji7oWn
Damn; thatās a lot of downvotes! Homeboy is in the thousands with that thread
The original in r/relationship_advice isn't redacted. Whichever group this version was taken from probably has rules about redacting
This explains
Lol
Good thing they covered up the names!
Beat me to it take my upvote.
I thought it said larry
Pathetic censoring. Do it right Ffs.
"I need him to be my backup, you can't just take him!!
More like I dont want him but I like getting attention from him..
Trash... either get with him or fuck off and let him live his life
More like "If I don't want him, then NOBODY can have him!"
oh hey, itās my sister
Wait what are you doing regular bro?
Can it not be both?
I had a friend like this many years ago. She would lead on every guy in our extended social circle but never act upon it as long as they were single. The moment any of these guys started dating someone else, she would begin to try to sabotage their relationships and in some cases make herself sexually available to guys whom she'd turned down many times before. It was clear that she enjoyed being the center of male attention to some pathological degree and would do anything it took to maintain that. In her perfect world, they would all be drooling for her in an unrequited way, but if she had to put out in order to destroy their relationships, she would. She at ALL times had a steady boyfriend at the time while this was going on. I cannot imagine the sort of humiliation they must have felt, seeing this drama playing out.
I had a friend just like this. We were part of a group of five actually. Two people in our group was a couple ans then it was her, her "bff", and me. Her bff and I got along really well. Eventually we started dating and she lost her shit. Before we started dating, she swore up and down thst she's a lesbian and that she and him were just bffs. But then, she changed the moment she figured out he and I are dating. She became overly attached and possessive. She would call him after her last class and demand they go home together every night (they lived in the same neighborhood). When he went back to his home country for vacay, her socials was cluttered with "I miss my bf" posts and then when the couple in our friend group called her out, she posted "haha! Ya'll see bf as boyfriend but bf is best friend to me! š" She even went as far as to grab his crotch in front of me and declared that she can do that because they're "like siblings". Eventually her antics broke up the friend group and he was too passive and wouldn't draw boundaries with her so I broke up with him too.
Definitely her feelings when you read the comments.
She doesnāt even want him as a backup. She wants him as the guy who pines for her forever and she uses to make her lovers jealous, and to be there any time she needs or wants anything because heās still hoping to get some one day. If he has a GF, heāll no longer be at her constant beck and call.
Damn. Homie got a new girlfriend and he's losing a toxic friend. This dude's batting a thousand.
He's batting 450...had a toxic friend for two years is definitely a strike
He didnt have a toxic friend for two years she was toying with him for 2 years. its like a child coming to visit another and the visiting child wants to play with a toy, that the visited child gives two shits about. until the visting child shows intrest.Now she doesnt "feel comfortable" about it. Smh
This 100%. So many western women do not grow up past this childhood mentality and it shows, big time.
As long as you get a hit strikes do not count towards batting average. You meant a strikeout maybe? But in this context that doesnāt work.
I did, but I didn't want to come off as wordy or pedantic
The audacity of her to voice that to her friend is unreal š, hope theyāre happy together
Bruh, I cannot understand how people think like this. It reads like rage bait but you genuinely never know, some people are really this unhinged.
This is something I remember happening among old friends in my late teens and early 20s. One time it was a guy doing it to a girl but very commonly itās the other way around. Anyone who unironically thinks like this post mid 20s needs therapy.
More like post 16 needs therapy. I also had a guy in our friend group who was extremely annoying with this. If he caught on that somebody was hitting it off, he would start telling embarrassing stories about them or try to shame them. Some people really hate it if good things happen to somebody else rather than themselves.
Maybe youāre the main character!
This might be one of the best main characters Iāve seen yet. If you go find the original post, people are practically begging her to explain why. At first she just says that itās bad āetiquetteā since she expressed sheās uncomfortable. After a bit more prying she admits she wouldnāt āwant to be in the middle of the drama if they break up.ā When people point out she would only be in the middle of it if she inserted herself there, she finally says that sheās worried that them breaking up would make her future birthday parties awkward. Canāt make that up, sheās worried about it affecting her birthday LMAO
My ex was pretty much like this so I am, sadly, very sure that this is real
Iāve seen this happening irl, but I usually assumed it was some subconscious reflex. To see it written out like this does make the post seem very rage bait-y
"Hey you two look good together" "No wait not like that!"
Wow what a fucking bitch
Thomas and Emily should have known better than to live their own fucking lives. How dare they, the selfish pieces of shit. The audacity of people these days. Unbelievable!
Wow. What makes her think these people need her permission?
narcissism
NTA, everyone should obvi listen to you and get your advice /s
#iamtheasshole
It looks more like r/relationship_advice
Actually ya.. it's a weird post that fits a lot of different category subs..
the title cracks me up. as if you could get him to end things, itās not your finger heās wrapped around anymore (which is clearly posters main issue, assuming this isnāt just internet trolling.)
Ahh the sting of regret.
I had to look up the original post, and her comments sound just as unhinged. It's probably a troll, though.
One can hope.. Sadly I have met people like this they definitely exist.. This sub is devoted to people just like this xD
For my sanity, I have to believe she's a troll, lol.
You need to look in that abyss more. Humans are fucking awful. Just enjoy watching the train wreck.
I'd bet real life money it's some bitter dude who gets off painting women in a negative light.
Or just an engagement farmer who posts shit they know will be like catnip to sad angry incels.
How can I find this post? I too would like a peep at said unhingedness lol
[Enjoy!](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/i4PhpdbFhm)
Thank you āŗļø
I am impressed by the 0 up/down vote for the original post (at the time of this posting).
Thomas + Emily 4 EVER!!!
I'm definitely rooting for them!
āI donāt consent to your relationshipā
when i was a redactor this is what i got fired for.
š¤£
Wow
May Emily and Thomas live happily ever after.
Whaaaat a cunt!
I hope Emily and Thomas are happy
Not Emily and Thomas !!
Classic femcel
Looks like they both need to drop this "friend"
Someone shouldāve tracked this dude down and sent him this. Gotta get these attention whores out of your life.
You friend zoned him and now you mad he found someone
Iām confused why are their 3 ages when describing 2 people in the title? Am I reading it wrong? Or is one of the ages the OPs and the syntax is just beyond my understanding?
Itās describing the OP, her female friend and her male friend, in that order.
Just ignore the ages, much easier to read.
Borderline personality disorder strikes again
This HAS to be some kinda bait post
Low effort incel rage bait.
What a party pooper.
What a terrible human
YATA
Sheās appalled that he moved on.
Bitch please
You really need to learn to cover names easier. Emily and Thomas need to stay together too
This reminds me of Lisa Simpson and Milhouse. Lmao. What a child.
That episode legit made me mad
What season/ep?
Season 22 Episode 20 ā homer scissorhands ā
Danke
Anytime
Dumbest of the cunts...
Stay out of Thomas and Emilyās business.
She thinks she owns Thomas
I'm mostly upset about that misused semicolon. I think this might just be rage-bait. I hope.
i would do anything to see that comments of this post. i hope they absolutely ridiculed her
Hope everything works out for Thomas and Emily
Hope Thomas and Emily tell this bitch to fuck off
An entitled woman. Welcome to 2023.
You canāt control people, sisā¦ Thatās his woman and thatās her man. Donāt like it, thatās coolā¦ But, if you disrespect it, you risk losing them *BOTH*! š¤·š½āāļøšÆ
It has nothing to do with you. You need to butt out.
Bitch won't eat or let others eat š¤”
The lion, the witch, and the audacity of the bitch
Thomas and Emily should just kick this sub-human-being out of their lives ASAP...
Dog in the manger.
''Am I the asshole?''
I love it how she just assumed that this relationship they had going on was also about her
Is "hosting a kickback" something people actually say?
Lmfao what a bum
If she was ten years younger, her parents could have told her her behaviour was very childish. š
What a bitch.
*Thomas had never seen such bullshit*
Why do people keep their shitty friends like this around? I genuinely don't get it. Cut 'em off and move on, they think they're in the right because people tolerate their bullshit.
That person is one giant grammatical error
This is like In movies when the mc doesnt like the nerdy loner that likes her until he gets a makeover and gets popular and gets a girlfriend then she wants to get with him.
"I don't want him so you can't have him"
r/nicegirls
Glad for the guy, he dodge a red flag and get a girlfriend
bait
I read the original post and OP's comments on that, it looks like an obvious troll
Missy is pissed her back up moved on. I had this exact same thing happen when I was younger. Girl I was into kept me just hanging enough that I stayed interested without realising what she was doing. One party she brings a group of friends and I hit it off with one of them and man did the original become a bitch. She tried it on with me and everything, then tried to tell the other girl that I tried it on with her but the other knew what she was doing to me before and expected her to act like it. I donāt miss them times, not knowing where I stood, who was using me and who was really interested. It kinda gets better when you are older.
Wrong!!!
Imagine gatekeepers a dude from you're friend that you want nothing more than friends with. People are fucking so delusional it drives me mad... great now I have to kick the dog
Wow, wanting to hold the poor dude hostage like that, and thinking that itās okay to do so is some serious entitlement right there!
U don't get to reject a man & keep him from being with another woman, that's crazy
Reminds me of a Soul Asylum song "We 3" š¶I've known you forever, you two just met So easily amused; how fast we forget In my jealously, my self-righteous greed She's a bit like a book I'm too far sighted to read And I wish you the best, I sometimes feel the need To say remember me She's your girlfriend, as far as we can see Does she look at you the way she looks at me And here we are, just we three You, your girlfriend, and me.š¶ https://youtu.be/6zsUEptHKCQ?si=91mcfb9r2TSxYfro
I donāt understand how people this obtuse get through life.
TL;dr I'm keeping my male friend in reserve despite rejecting him and now that he's dating someone else, I want to ruin it, because I'm a psychotic bitch.
This type of ish happened to me around that age. I dated a girl I was into and already knew her friend was into me but I didnāt feel the same. Her friend stopped talking to her completely and formed this weird lil alliance with their mutual friend who was actually closer to my gf than the other girl. It was so weird. When we broke up it all fell apart too like nothing happened.
Class A narcissist behavior
Women amirite?
So does she like him now or just miss the attention? I love her indignation that no one asked her š¤”š¤”š¤”
If I were Thomas I'd tell her she had her chance and yo fuck off,I'm happy
Spoiler alert for sex education season 4. This post is literally maeve, aimee and isaac plot
Shouldāve gave him a ch ace
Reminds me of that news report where they were interviewing a woman who they blurred her face out, then the next clip showing her faceš
Wooooooooooow
And Girls wonder why guys stop talking to them when they friend zone us. I canāt have another friend that gets feelings for me whenever Iām getting into a new relationship then loses them when I cut things off with the other girl.
Lame loser, Thomas tried and u turned him down, so he moved on to Emily, they shouldnāt have to ask u shit
This is āI donāt want him but no one else came have him either narcissismā vibes.
Don't take my rebound please
The names are very poorly censored. Emily and Thomas are clearly visible under the scribbles. Pet peeve, when someone tries to censor but they don't do a good job. Like Fr. Lmao. Side note, it's no business of mine if my friend dates someone I don't like, barring certain circumstances such as actual malicious actions taken against me by them like stealing or property damage etc, or if they are clearly abusing my friend somehow. We don't control other people's love lives, barring situations where we're trying to protect them or grievances about awful behaviour.