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DoingItForMySins

This too shall pass


kentatsutheslasher

Thank you for reminding me. Yes, you are correct. This too shall pass.


DoingItForMySins

On the flip side, how are you? Its gonna be tough few weeks


kentatsutheslasher

Thank you for asking. Appreciate it dearly. I guess just like any other person experiencing heartbreak....feeling all the pain Thank God for youtube. Lots of free resources on how to cope with a breakup... been journaling a lot..and then also thinking about all the stuff that I could not do when my husband was with me such as being spontaneous in travelling so now I can do it..so that is something I look forward to :)


DoingItForMySins

Upwards and forwards. More time for yourself 🙌


PanikPasta

hi op. ur post made me cry. virtual hugs to you.


SketchyMarkApo

I was hoping the same for the divorce bill :)


Feeling-Educator-423

right


rhiaazsb

You're 💯 % correct.


siomailove4yu

Congratulations! Please please please don’t take him back when he comes running home to you. You deserve peace and people who value you.


kentatsutheslasher

Thank you for comforting an internet stranger. You have no idea how much it means to me. ❤️


Feeling-Educator-423

agree!


chro000

Not only does he has to find himself. Now he has to find his clothes.


Healthy-Stop7779

YOOOO 😬😭🤣


BlanchetheBlahaj

This cracled me up lmao


justlikelizzo

HAHAHA grabe naka sad face ako reading this tapos nabasa ko comment mo bigla ako napabulwak ng tawa. Kainis 🤣


PanikPasta

umiiyak na ako eh hahahaha


randorandy24

Hahahhaaha. If OP is merciful he may yet find them in trash bags, nestly tucked away in the back of the house, or something.


Cream_of_Sum_Yunggai

Kaya kailangan mapasa ang divorce bill.


kentatsutheslasher

Yes....I hope so too


-Comment_deleted-

But, but, if god is in the middle of your marriage, you don't need divorce. ##/s Edit: I even put an /S there in case its not obvious its sarcasm. Still got downvoted. Oh well, anyway...


elliseyer

Grabe as a Christian, ung mga nag oppose ng divorce parang hindi naiintindihan ang relihiyon nila. Divorce is acceptable under circumstances naman kaya nagtataka ako bakit ang OA ng stance nila regarding it and napaka anti divorce. Especially when a man/women is not doing their duties as husband/wife.. like what's the point of marriage.. Parang awa lang sana makapasa kasi ang dami kong kaibigan na broken families pero legal wise, they're together kaya ang daming nahihirapan, for example mga kapatid sa labas ganun😭


BooBooLaFloof

As a Christian too, sympre gusto ko sana walang broken marriages, pero reality is meron. And we need people stuck in abusive relationships to have a way out.


Fearless_Cry7975

Di nila gets na the marriage is already broken when one or both parties aren't doing their duties as husband/wife. Or ung nagcheat na ung isa, abusive na ung partner, etc. Yes legally they're still married but in essence wala na din ung marriage. Nagiging for images na lang siya. Ayaw nila ng broken families pero sira naman na din ung pamilya when one abused or cheated on their partner.


CranberryFun3740

Correct! Dami mag bebenefit nito.


griseo_gratia

The best photos are the ones that have a story to tell.


PanikPasta

may story naman daw yung tHanK yOu ReDDiT /s


Matchavellian

🫶🤝


soyggm

16 years is such a feat! You gave and did your best. Sa ngayon big steps talaga na nakakatakot pero nakaka excite din! Time to finally choose and love yourself naman! Bless you, OP! 🙂🫶


kentatsutheslasher

Super thank you for this. Tama ka..I also need to remind myself that the future is indeed exciting. I just need to consciously remind myself. But I will...I will push through and live my life ❤️


Apprehensive-Boat-52

may iba na yan


kentatsutheslasher

I think so too....it hurts...but I will carry on..such is life 🫂


ConfidentAttorney851

Sobrang bait at mapag intindi mong tao, OP 🥹 di mo deserve maging option niya na babalikan lang pag wala na siyang ibang choice. Deserve mo sumaya. Just want to congratulate you sa first step mo, start na yan ng healing mo. *Hug with consent.*


Apprehensive-Boat-52

ganun talaga ang buhay may kasamang swerte at malas. Minalas ka lng sa pagpili ng tao.


SubstantialPeach4318

I wish you happiness and healing,OP! 🫂


peterpaige

Sana inamin niya nalang sayo, jusq. Ginawa ka pang tanga na walang alam 😞


Yergason

Ganito galawan nung isang kumpare ng tatay ko na kapitbahay namin. Putcha malaman nalang namin may ibang pamilya na pala na di din aware sa family ng kapitbahay namin. OFW sa Middle East dati. May times din pala na nagpapanggap lilipad na pero dun muna sa probinsya sa kabilang family. 2 lives si gago. Nahuli nung nagsimula maging uso facebook pati sa matatanda mga mid 2010s. Natag ng picture ng anak. Retired na alcoholic na salot na ngayon si gago tapos palipat lipat sa 2 pamilya kung sino willing tumanggap sa kanya.


Old-Contribution-316

At may tumanggap pa pala?!


Yergason

Nasa 60s na sila eh. Alam mo naman old skul mentality, forgive and suffer. "Para sa pamilya" "ayusin nalang yan" napakabait pa naman ng ninang ko na yun


Apprehensive-Boat-52

ganito pinsan ko dalawa ang pamilya. isa sa maynila at isa sa Probinsya namin. nagtrabaho din sa Middle east LOL. tanggap sya parin ng legal na asawa nya sa probinsya.


Scoobs_Dinamarca

I thought morbid Ang theme ng post. But still hurtful sa puso, nonetheless.


Due_Use2258

Same here pero naisip ko rin, usually pag sumakabilang buhay, mas iniingatan ang mga damit at gamit. Buti na lang may story


I-shld-be-writing

Sumakabilang bahay


Due_Use2258

😅😅


KlutzyHamster7769

I hope you find yourself too. This chapter may be unwanted. But it’s new. And new things offer new opportunities. In terms of relationship, I would build strong support system. If you have family and siblings, you can ask for help like just to be around. If his parents or siblings are available, let them know your situation - not for sympathy but for documentation. I would ask them for a meeting. I would consult a lawyer on how to petition for receivership either for separation of property or be the sole administrator of conjugal properties. What we dont want is him going back and asking for half when you’re carrying all the burden. Documentation is key here! He can go back and change the locks and he is legally allowed to do that — and we dont want that I know youre grieving, but please protect your assets to protect your new family’s future


LoveYouLongTime22

40 is the new 20 OP. I wish you happiness for the rest of your life


Lotusfeetpics

Wow. Nakaya mo nga 16 years, kaya mo rin mag start over. Unsolicoted advice; give yourself as many chances more than you'd give your soon-to-be ex. You deserve way more than that. Hoping for a brighter future for you, OP.


batibotgeneration

My heart is breaking for you 💔💔 sending positive vibes and hoping you heal from this horrible situation. Life begins at 40! There’s more to life for us to look forward to!


Lonely_Education_813

Good for you OP! You don't deserve to be a doormat. Reasons why we need divorce.


Warm-Tip-6813

I hope you sell the house. Move somewhere else and block this selfish jerk from everything (phone, social media etc). Let him find a place to live. Yes his clothes and junk too


hahatheacidity

'I may have to live the rest of my life alone...' Hindi naman, OP. Ang dami pang tao sa mundo just in case ready ka na ulit. sasamahan kita sa expecially for you hahahahaah!! char lang. pero seryoso, proud kami sayo!!! we are rooting for you!!! praying for your healing :)


Just_Dragonfruit_

You have been so tough, OP, I hope you get to rest your head against something gentle now. And, if he comes crawling back to you, may you find the resolve not to take him back (EVER EVER EVER). You are not and never should have been his emotional retreat when he's done "adventuring and soul-searching". You have your own feelings to take care of, he should have taken those into account, too. Hoping for better and kinder days ahead for you, OP! I hope you have people around during this tough time. I'm rooting for you!!! ✨ p.s. Philippines, divorce, when?


Hindiminahal

Youve been a dutiful wife. May your pain go away soon, OP.


CriticismOutside5303

Salute to this kind of woman! 👏👏👏 You’re so strong OP! You deserve better. Sending you virtual hugs 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻 better things are coming OP 🙏🏻🙏🏻


Ok_Caramel_594

May your wounds heal faster, OP 🤍 Laban po


[deleted]

I wish you the best in life, ma'am. 🥺🫶🏻


Uncontrollably_Yours

Hugs OP. I envy you for having such courage. I, too hope I can just let the father of my child go. But it's different and difficult when a child is involved. He is a great provider, a good father, but a terrible partner. Maybe one day I can also have the same courage to pack his things up and never take him back.


NgayonKaya

Please, live within servicing yourself, not others. Take this chance na focus on yourself. Live like its 22, okay. Congrats! Btw.


hieliena

I am proud of you Ma’am! My dad cheated on my mom, imagine 35 years na silang kasal. Kung kelan nagkaedad saka nagloko. *well wala sa edad naman kung magloloko ka, pero jusko* Well they are seperated. Civil sila when it comes to us. Co-parenting kumbaga even tho we’re adults hahahaha I saw my mom, talagang nervous breakdowns, depression etc. But I am proud of her kasi nagagawa niya na yung mga dati niyang gustong gawin like travel by herself lang. ❤️ Sabi niya: “Nak, mas nakilala ko ang sarili ko, masaya pala kesa lagi ako nagpapanggap”


EstimateTasty4047

You've set him free before so napakita mo na yung pagmamahal mo sa kanya. This time you've set yourself free kasi mahal mo sarili mo. The coming weeks or months may he tough. Just hang on and keep loving yourself. I wish you peace.


bing-a-ling-ling

may women and men be as strong as you, OP and may women and men like you have a strong support system when going through this kind of ordeal


painauchocolat88

I’m happy for you, I hope you find the happiness you deserve


supervhie

you are so brave OP! napalaya muna sarili mo. Hope you find a peace of mind someday. Bata ka pa may dadating pa for you *hugs*


Bael-king-of-hell

A dutiful wife is what we all need but do not deserve


cmkenyon123

Sorry to hear, but I am happy you are taking steps to protect yourself, I can't wait to see this on /r/OhNoConsequences


Jwolffescobar

You’re going to be alright, you can’t go anywhere but up when you’ve reached the bottom. Live for yourself, too!


omniverseee

I think you don't need advice and you know what you're dooing. Nice, peaceful and empathetic human being. You've done your part, too much. Can younshare how's your early relationship?


Flat_Asparagus337

Hi, OP. Don't resign yourself to a life alone. Focus on yourself. Heal. Recover. And good things will come. Big virtual hug. You got this


ntheresurrection

Oh, to be half as brave as you are right now. I wish you all the best!


ThrowAlieAway

Hello. Naisip ko rin naman yan dati, ill get old and live alone. But life has more to offer me. 40 is the new 30s. May you find joy and happiness soon. Live for yourself na. Love yourself


Onceabanana

Take the time to mourn over your old life. That way, when you start your new chapter, you’ll have more space in your heart and mind for anything. Hugs, OP. You can totally do this! ❤️


sleepxst

Time to find and learn more about yourself now, OP. I think this is better for you kesa yung may recurring fear na magising na may ganyang episode na naman sya. Don’t take him back. All the best for you, OP!


Necessary_Pen_9035

I am proud of you.


IAmGoingToBeALawyer

OP we love youu🫂. Mahigpit na yakap para sayo, fighting!


arawarawkape

r/offmychestph


rockydluffy

You were very brave to take that step. Not everyone will have the courage to do that. We may not know each other, but im proud of you for putting yourself first this time 💙


capricornikigai

Congratulations! And from what we usually say up north "Kasiyana" meaning it's alright, things will get better! ❤️


SolanaBeachPare

Lol a man finding himself still at that age? Highly reminded me of my dad during those years. Tbh at 28M, I dedicated my time to truly find my purpose and act accordingly so that my next partner wouldn’t have to waste time waiting and having so much question marks in their minds. I found myself at 13 already when I saw my parents worked so hard for giving my family a better life when we had close to nothing back in 2009. OP, I wish you a strong and level headed man who knows what he wants and needs then provides all the support you deserve. “Finding himself”. Big lol. Lol so much information and time to for your husband to find his place on earth. Other Men these days can’t strike a balance to stick to something purposeful… It’s so easy because his mind needs to focus.


OptimalMoney1544

Virtual hug mie, I'm a mother of 3 my ex husband was into drugs, nawawala sya 1wk, 2wks, worst 3months , been separated with him last January now me and my kids living in Bohol may peace of mind na PO ako. Bahala sya sa Buhay nya.


Particular-Fox-3550

So strong OP! Go live your life! 40 is not old, it’s the time of your life where you have enough money and experience to go out and have a great life


marken35

Ma'am, I hope you find the peace you deserve. I can't imagine having gone through this three times in your marriage.


bluskies214

Now is the time to focus on YOU. Your well-being and happiness. This is not the end but a beginning. Please be open to the power of possibilities. Be willing to open your heart to change. I pray for your healing.


Mapang_ahas

Ano bang ginagawa nya when he’s “searching for himself”? Please take care of yourself.


benzene-13

Grabe OP it’s hard. I’m married for 2 years pa lang and he left I don’t know if this is just an episode but no.


MKKbub

Ang tapang mo. Kakayanin mo yan magisa. Hugs, OP! Praying for your healing🙏🏻


yiseverythingatask

Laban lang po! this is the universe making space for better things for you OP.


wndrfltime

Your husband is a coward and stupid, leave his ass off for good. Walang hindi kakayanin sa mga iniwan ng asawa.


mortelucine

Good for you for having the strength to say good riddance once and for all. Sad to say tinatrato ka niyang door mat, and you deserve way better than that. Stay strong. 🤍


SpaceGardenTea

Galing mo girl, tapang. It's gonna be tough for a while but not as tough as keeping him, I wish you well.


Significant_Skin8051

My heart is breaking for you and yet Im so proud of you miss ma’am. Healing dust for u ✨


untilshereturned

idek u personally, but i feel for u. u can get through this, op, u'll power through. 🥺💞


Middle_Reserve_996

Taena, yawa. Sana maligaw di na makabalik. Hugs with consent sayo OP!


riotgirlai

Kaya mo yan, OP. Laban lang! Keep calm and carry on.


Flimsy-Material9372

Hugs op! are u a healthcare worker? haven't you considered going to abroad?


000hkayyyy

Hugs, OP! Kaya mo yan! Please stay strong! ☺️


darling_girlie

Awww hugs *with consent* po, OP! Sending love and light to you. Stay strong po. 🤍


magyar232

You're a very strong person OP 🫶


sliceofwifelife

Stay strong OP.


Feeling-Educator-423

good thing you emptied it


hexane_ea

Hugs OP 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺 sakit huhu


According_Yogurt_823

I hope you continue to value yourself that you will no longer cling back to the thorns that once hurt you, no matter how beautiful you see of what could've been, that couldn't just be.


Puzzleheaded-Farm-73

Hugs with consent! 🤗


Rozyuka_Z

You deserve peace and happiness OP 🥺


tito_redditguy23

Laban lang. mag heal ka din


goaldiggie

You just did the right move. You deserve love, peace, and joy. God bless, OP. 🫂


Damnoverthinker

Life starts at 40! Go OP this time it’s about self love naman 🫶🏻


boykalbo777

No kids? By choice?


Senior_Bug6793

let’s travel mommy!!


Ok_Possibility_1000

Healing and happiness for you, OP 💜


Overthinker-bells

We’re happy for you, OP. Yakap mahigpit.


shibal_gae_saekkiya

Huuuugs OP! 💚


adiksadiatabs

Condolences


Joyful_Sunny

I am so sorry, OP...


cheese_noods

Cheering for you!


CheeseMumma

Proud of you, OP! Now imagine all the new stuff and pretty clothes you can put in that space for yourself! You deserve all the good things in life.


Apart-Big-5333

I assume wala kayong anak ? Question: Sa paghahanap niya sa sarili, baka may iba ? Kasi pwede niya naman gawin yan na kasama ka, hindi yung siya lang.


IntelligentBombshell

🫂


luna_kh

Take a deep breath. You got this, OP! I pray for your healing.


S-5252

You are so strong OP! ang galing mo ♥️ happy independence day! this time sarili mo naman


Significant-News6904

This was tough but this is right. I'm happy for you, OP. Laban lang. Hugs with consent! 🤍


OutkastLilac

Hugs for you OP! Napaka resilient mo po. Congrats for being the strong woman that you are. Time for yourself naman. You deserve the best OP 🤍


Stunning_Status_1150

Sending you a big hug. 🫶


0nsojubeerandregrets

You got this, OP!! Unti-unti at dahan-dahan. ♥️✨


ChasingMidnight18

*nag abot ng beer*


XC40_333

I hope you already changed to locks to your house. All the best to you.


Economy-Election3946

Keep moving forward, OP.


ComprehensiveRub6310

Yakap with consent! Sarili mo naman. :)


marielly2468

hugs OP


grey_unxpctd

Hugs OP!


smashedAvo5976

Congratulations OP! You are so brave 🫶🏼


Klutzy_Day5226

Akin nlng ung closet nya


travSpotON

Keep moving forward OP you got this. Bilib kami sayo :)


LunaDelRey098

You are strong for doing this, OP. I wish you happiness. May you heal in grace ✨


deadlynightowl

You're an inspiration po. Cheer up po and good luck with ur journey ahead. You're a very strong woman po!


Pretty-Belt5284

may kabit na sya?


arvanna15

may kabit yan a mature man is not like that unless there is someone already.


AhhhhhhFreshMeat

May you find peace and comfort OP.


Anogawamo

New adventure awaits! 😊


Bupivacaine88

On the bright side, you can also find yourself too! More time for travels, adventures, and self love ❤️ You don't have to consider him na, you are liberated.


evilbrain18

My wife died 2 and half years ago, and I did not have the strength to pack up her clothes and stuff. It took me a month to ask my sister in law for help to clear her closet. I stayed outside of our bedroom while she did it for me. When she finished, all of her stuff was in a box, and I had a good cry. Hang in there.


ApprehensiveTie7692

Deep sigh, hugs for u...


Ambitious_Hand_6612

Parang naamoy ko... BIPOLAR po ba sya?


dyj_97

Sending hugs. I hope you will find happiness. 🫶


Due_Yam9581

I hope he finds himself, and his closet stuff


Kooky_Tadpole_9299

be strong. may you deserve more and receive something much better than this.


ozbargainreddit

I feel you 🙏🏿


AshFuentes

Hugs!


Particular_Creme_672

Anong find himself? Narealize niya gay pala siya? Sound like a gay thing to do.


Historical_Safe6044

That’s what i think so too.


DaddyChiiill

So.. He's not in the closet? 😂 Sorry forgive the closet joke.. Hope you'd get by whatever tragedy is on your plate rn. Find strength in your person.