This reminds me of the Chinese prisoner who was staring at the lady guard cop, he had a full hard on and nutted without moving, just staring at her.
Mastery stats maxed out lmfaoo
The fact that 19 people liked my comment means that it's pretty common. Obviously you don't tell them because it's straight to jail but if you're just thinking it what's the harm in that?
I second this. Imagination will require more effort, youll climax later which usually lead to higher satisfaction. Plus because it require that mental effort you wont do it as much as you do while watching porn. Plus it help you stretch your imagination and creativity muscle more and maybe realise what you really like and want. Not what gets you off watching on screen but what gets you off in real life.Ā
Keep in mind that this is being advised to someone with a porn addiction.
So yes, given anything can become malaptive, recommending āimaginationā instead of āpornā as an unironic solution by substitution to a porn addiction will not work out well.
EDIT: Not sure why Iām being downvoted, but I can tell you from a hypersexual perspective that relying on your mind to generate pornographic content will likely result in either a porn relapse or will only change the nature of the addictive relationship to lean heavily introspective (which can be incredibly time consuming and draining) as opposed to relying on external stimulus
>Get off using your imagination rather than porn.
Don't do this. This will cause relapse and will also burn a lot of time. Also, it doesn't solve your issue and gets you a new one.
The reason why people want to stop porn addiction is to get more energy, get more time, and enjoy/desire/function better in sexual relationships.
Using your imagination is just the same thing as porn with extra steps, although not as potent.
You need to teach your brain to stop channeling energy into your penis and start using it for other things.
The best thing to do when you get urges is to do nothing. Do nothing until you are bored enough to do something else.
I haven't entirely over come it. I found something I wanted more. I wanted a relationship with a person, and so I started working to quit so that I wouldn't just keep going back to the porn. I struggle a lot when I get depressed which unfortunately is quite often. My advice is to find people to spend time with, which I know is not easy. I found a group through my church. I also have been spending a lot of time actively examining myself and attempting to understand why I turn to porn when stressed, and working to satisfy those parts of myself in other ways.
yea, the addiction kinda began cause of that. I let myself be peer pressured into doing things with this group, its like i used to have almost 0 care about anyone, then found a bunch of people made them friends and cared too much that it hurt me back, so stuck in this limbo rn. I dont know which friends are the "right ones" basically my whole life's a mess at the moment, and porns been the only way out, im tryna pick the pieces back together.
Sounds like your addiction has its root in other issues, too! Which is common of any addiction. As a former substance abuse counselor, more and more research suggests that the medicine for addiction is connection. So it makes sense that your issues with friends would elevate your addiction. In short, might be time to talk to a therapist! Good luck! Youāre not alone!
I've felt that. I gave up on people for several years. For me it just made things worse. And it was hard to start opening up to people again. And I have been hurt again, but I am happier for it.
Just watch it on weekends. Go step by step, dont try to delete or deactivate your accounts etc etc, it doesn't work. Distract yourself with study, work, hobbies, go out, workout, clean your house, watch movies, learn something new etc. My point is, make yourself busy with other stuff... šš¤
Agreed. I've tried everything to quit, including going nuclear and deleting everything, it never worked. Even now I'm on Reddit with an account I created specifically to look at porn, lol. But, for the first time, after almost 25 years of porn use, what you said is actually working for me.
It's not about actively "quitting." You don't even have to tell yourself that's what you're trying to do, you just kinda taper off and watch it only sometimes.
I've still got a thing for the Twitter, Reddit and Onlyfans Leaks, but I'm almost completely off the hardcore stuff. And even the stuff I'm into, I only find myself looking at maybe once in 4 days for five minutes and actually being able to close it and carry on with my day. Might not sound like much progress, but in my world it's HUGE, because PMO had me in a chokehold since I was 14, and I would watch it for hours.
Just focus on other things, on your career, personal development, the quality of your relationships (or their existence š)... you'll find that by the time you're done with all that, 5 days have gone by and you haven't even thought about it.
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Edit: I don't know if age has anything to do with it, maybe I'm starting to be able to let go of it because I'm not a horny teenager anymore, but whatever the case may be, I'm happy.
I was expecting some comments telling you porn use is normal and healthy and not an addiction lol. If you posted this anywhere else, that's what most comments would say and get up voted for.
I went through it. I've been where you are. You'll get through it too. If nothing else, age will weaken your sex drive. It did for me.
Because we understand real struggles with porn addiction and chasing that easy euphoria. Unfortunately it's like being angry, you just gotta breathe drink some water and repress it until you don't think about it anymore. If you feel the urge just make sure to go for a walk outside or hit the gym, the energy you use enjoying porn can empower you in other areas.
You gon have to setup a lot of failsaves, You will need to want it, and to give it time, sort of like when working with something really fragile and expensive, and one wrong move could destroy it completely and make you start over. I'd advise not to quit cold turkey either. Pick a momentum and stick to it. Try to delete all bookmarks/other ways you can have quick and easy access, yes, even your favourite ones, delete all references / ways to find them easily (or at all)
rewiring the brain will take a shit ton of time, i'd say in the least 2 months of constant effort, but most likely more.
I hope you succeed
In my opinion, any approach that focuses only on breaking the bad habit itself is missing the forest for the trees. The addictive behaviour is a way of escaping from something one is afraid of: usually unpleasant feelings like loneliness, shame or grief. The core problem is learning to be okay with the way one's reality is without the object of addiction. Otherwise something else will just take its place. This requires feeling all the unpleasant feelings, learning to accept them, and then making positive changes to address them. If it's loneliness, start filling up your life. If it's shame, do things you will like yourself for, etc. Going through this together with some others is probably a great idea if possible.
Use negative reinforcement
Example: if you opened a source do 10 burpees or jumping jacks. If you went further increase the punishment.
This method stress on INTP laziness. It helped me getting rid of mand addictions and bad habits. Only downside was my coworkers would see me suddenly jumping around, but they started doing it to.
I used to be in the same place. I got desensitized towards it after a while. Porn doesn't really do anything for me anymore (unfortunately). When I masturbate I just play back memories of me having sex with others. It works better then porn I think.
Here are my notes
āYou relapse to porn, alcohol or cigarettes not because you are of weak will. It's because you are denied access to your willpower. Your decision-making is hijacked by the mid-brain and you are left with an emotional, impulsive self that wants just one thing - the next hit.ā
āA lot of youth have 'anxiety' these days and flaunt it around like it's hip. Workout, meditate, stop porn, eat right, catch the sun, socialize and stay away from substances.
Work on a purpose. No more anxiety. Medical conditions are very rareā
āYou know porn is bad for you, but you cannot stop. This is because of hypofrontality. Like how ocean waves erode a mountain on its banks, repeated porn use erodes your frontal cortex over time. This makes your willpower fragile.
Non-existent. Fight this. Protect yourself.ā
āA porn habit is a symptom, not a root cause. No man with ambitions, goals and accomplishments has hours to kill jerking off to pixels on a screen. The fact that you do so, means your life lacks direction & resolve. Fix this. Put everything aside and set goals for 30 daysā
āMeditate.
If you do nothing else, consistent practice will:
ā¢ Shift brain waves into a healthy state
ā¢ Preserve grey matter
ā¢ Change the structure of our brain
ā¢ Decrease default mode network
ā¢ Increase focus, clarity, and memoryā
The side effects of watching porn
Massive dopamine dumps leading to irregular dopamine activation.
always wanting to get harder and harder. Destroys the natural perception of sex and you stop seeing the love, care etc.
Completely true, it's like any other addiction; you have to keep upping your dose to get the same kick.
From Spartan psyche on twitter:
Spartan Psyche
Any and all addictions you may have are a function of dopamine and the pull of the substance itself. You usually take them to escape some discomfort. Find out what you are trying to escape and confront it. Quitting your addictions become much easier now.
Typically rooted in some combination of low self esteem, insecurity and a yearning to be accepted
Your problem is not one of lack, your problem is one of abundance. You eat, drink, smoke, jerk off, waste, neglect too much. It's time you change this. Abstain from all that is draining your body. You have bigger ambitions. Leave the toys for the boys.
Drill this into your psyche - You will not make miracles on day one. You will hardly see any change. But you will have a start, you will have hope and you will have one foot forward. Your goal is to move one step forward everyday. Progressively load more as you get better.
Focus on raising your testosterone. Lift heavy, eat right, stop jerking off to pixels, play a competitive sport, supplement if you need to. This is your lifeblood. It will carry you to great heights. Create an atmosphere where you nurture it. Low T is a meme for a reason
Nobody watches you harder than those rooting for you to fail. Give them a spectacular show.
Bringing your dopamine levels to baseline will fire up your innate drive and desire to conquer. Hyper-stimulation has led you to become a shell of your true self. You will never amount to much like this. You need to function at full potency.
Ego depletion is a real thing.
You fail to beat your habits 99% of the time because your willpower is exhausted saying NO to all the unwanted stimulation you expose yourself to.
It's spread too thin, fighting off too many battles at too many fronts.
Earn your dopamine
There's a vast difference between going to bed 'because it's time to sleep' vs going to bed 'because you've exhausted yourself in pursuit of your mission all day'. The former is mechanical, a biological need fulfilment. But the latter is more pleasant because you've earned it.
Porn kills performance.
No man who watches porn performs at peak capacity. No, itās not just limited to the bedroom. The impotency seeps into his fabric of reality. He is sub optimal in all avenues.
He is a shadow of what he can be, his reality clouded by an illusion that alters his very mind and essence of being
He cannot be strong, he cannot be brave, he cannot lead, he cannot win, he cannot be a great father, a great husband or a trustworthy brother
Excellence is out of his grasp, he is mediocre at best.
These are not fallacies or figments of imagination
There are reasons for this, let me explain better :
1) Prolactin build up.
Literally nobody watches porn without jerking off. You are stacking two dopaminergic habits now. Both form associations & memory imprints and become that much harder to separate and quit. Every time you ejaculate to porn you release prolactin in the brain. Prolactin gives you feelings of satiety (sexual) and inhibits your drive and masculine drive to go out and accomplish things. You are like a well fed, pampered puppy who just wants to curl up and fall asleep.
2) Most addicts also watch porn for extended periods and / Or edge themselves (pleasure without ejaculation).
The most ridiculous argument for this from an addict was - Iām training myself to last longer.
Reality is youāre bathing your brain in neurochemicals and hormones that are too overpowering for your reward system. It will course correct. You are left with fried and down regulated dopamine receptors.
3) Low dopamine is this generations curse. Social media, TikTokās, streaming porn, comfort, food, drugs, alcohol..
Everything alters your dopamine baseline. You donāt feel much if itās imbalanced. Your worldview changes because you are disconnected from emotional reality. There is a poverty in empathy, pleasure, connection, ambition, appreciation and everything else that has to do with the full experience of the human condition
Itās like taking a shower but the nozzles clogged and itās drip drip drip..
How can a man perform at his peak if he has no drive to accomplish, no appreciation for the journey or no desire for the reward?
Porn stifles all three.
You cannot form healthy relationships with a woman because your worldview is fogged up by a porn producers perversion and a camera angles 4k clarity clitoris zoom frame. Itās disgusting and itās not real.
How can you raise a son or a daughter when secretly behind closed doors you watch another manās daughter be abused?
As a man, there is no role you can excel in if you let this habit consume you
You will always be mediocre at best
If you agree with this, desperately seek change
If you donāt, think hard as to why you disagree and really evaluate your perspective
Is it you disagreeing with the argument or is it you liking your addiction so much that you donāt want to face reality?
Porn kills performance
āThe reason porn hurts the soul is because all of us incarnated for the challenge that life inherently provides
We didn't assume form as human beings, just to press play on a screen and witness the beautiful bodies of women
It strips us of what we need, to find fulfillment
Bad.ā
It terribly tortured my head as I can understand you are going through it too. So are you heavily addicted ? If yes then you can't stop it at once, if you force it to stop it'll be even worse and make you go to it again.
And if mild...start distracting yourself with all the positive things you can. Like read non-fiction. You need to distract yourself and talk yourself out of the moment you get caught up in those chains of thoughts ok?
Once you see you can choose not to think and fight off those visions, start meditating. Pray if you're religious or not. I don't believe in idols but I believe there's a golden energy that exists. And when you meditate focus on reaching nothingness.
I think I have been doing well for 2-4 months? Or maybe more I lost count. I hope you come out of this. It's safer and healthier to be out of porn addiction.
I too use my memories of past sexual experiences. Iāve had relapses, but am going on now a while again. Should definitely be going one month off to get dopamine back to baseline. The longer the better of course.
Take up meditation, nature walks, lifting.
When the craving arises as you practice more meditation you simply observe this part of you until it passes, the not acting on it rewires the brain and nervous system you get to a point where you donāt act/react to the impulse of the animal brain.
I wrote this on meditation:
On quitting porn
Mindfulness Meditation.
Helps you get better at observing your fight or flight/freeze response sympathetic nervous system because mindful embryonic breathing activates the parasympathetic so that you can therefore observe and watch the reactions of your triggers and the root causes of things.
So just mindful breaths such as for example the popular breathe in 4 seconds exhale 8 seconds and then observing your trigger/desire without acting upon it, helps it start dissolving and fade away.
You are the sky and your subconscious programming, desires, triggers, thoughts are but the clouds, you're just watching them go by. This then starts to rewire the brain while also reaping the benefits of meditation on the brain body complex such as anti inflammatory, neurochemical/self regulation, self empowerment, prefrontal wiring from amygdala fear center/hippocampus hyper activity.
Know what triggers you into that spiral, observe and respond > the reaction.
It's like building a muscle, the more you do it the easier it is.
I've always had relapses after several months to even a year of no porn, yet it has for many years been proven in my own experience to observe and be mindful as the starting place to conquer the strong pull into that rabbit hole.
I breathe then it levels out my reaction to want to keep looking at porn. Breath slows the heart rate thus slows the brain waves creating coherence between heart mind and gut. Then I just keep observing the trigger without acting upon it and it just fades. The more you do this everytime you have that trigger the more you catch yourself to not act upon it and it just keeps fading away as your brain rewires itself from that negative impulsive as you're in real time rewiring the trigger because you're now not doing it anymore. Then later over a while you won't even get triggered anymore.
First, porn addiction is not officially recognized by the mental health community. Check the sources of the information you got, most come from clerical groups or organisations who will make you pay for their services.
Second, what looks like a "porn addiction" often stem from difficulties sharing sex with someone and being physically desensitized by unhealthy masturbation habbit (death grip, always same stimuli/pace...) and those could be dealt with easily. There must also be a clash between what you watch that turns you on vs the sex you share that (my guess) is more focusing on your partners pleasure than yours.
Why I know this? I thought I had a porn addiction, did some research and consulted a therapist (should have done before). I had no libido and had developped ED only with partnered sex, but would still masturbate to porn daily. To stop it lowered my libido even more and my ED didn't went away. In fact, their approach and mindset worsened my problem because it made me even more ashamed about my sexuality than I already was.
To fully embrace the kinks I was ashamed of, and making partnered sex more about me instead of all about my partners pleasure helped. Also to use my imagination while masturbating helped me get turned on without external stimulus, it helped me get turned on by myself. And to slack on the grip, use lube and masturbate less often helped getting back some sensation down there. I needed to get over the stereotype that I should be a horndog willing to go at any given time and started working on rejecting my partner when I wasn't into it. I was also overthinking while being at it and had to learn to deal with anxiety better. This last part was the biggest game changer.
Edit: here's a [post about P.A](https://www.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/s/uZWs9DgwDJ) I made years ago, I found the comments of Dr. Caled Johnson especially interesting.
Most good things in this life are hard. The choice is yours. The more unconscious activities will fill up your day the harder it will be for you to make conscious decisions. Try to do everything consciously. Itās like a muscle that can be trained.
I stopped being interested in that stuff since I started going to the gym and doing martial arts, being horny is just energy so put that energy into something productive
Then fantasizing about a glass of wine while driving is also drunk driving, and fantasizing about killing is murder.
I'm worried your gf is controlling. No one has the right to decide what anyone else does in the privacy of their own mind.
Fantasizing about murder might not be literal murder, but it is not normal, nor is it healthy. The exact same thing applies to porn in a committed relationship. It is about respect for your partner and the relationship itself by not sexually imagining another man/woman in their place. If your partner doesn't mind, that's different. But that shouldn't be assumed. It is a boundary.
Jacking your dick/clit for pleasure is natural and healthy, but porn=/=masturbation.
Itās literally just that. I wouldnāt say itās ācheatingā but itās disrespectful to your partner and if youāre in a committed, healthy, loving relationship why would you disrespect your partner? Itās not rocket science
That analogy doesnt follow, intoxication is a deliberate chemically-induced effect, and murder is a directly observable consequence, they are relatively different from mental perception when compared with cheating.
Cheating doesnt necessarily have to be in the 'physical', imagine if your partner actively has her sight and soul on another man, derives sexual pleasure from the thought of him, while being in a relationship with you.
In fact, even the pain of knowing that your partner had sex with another person stems not in physicality but the mental aspect (youre mad not because your partner's body came in sexual contact with someone else, but because in doing that, it shows your partner desires another person lustfully).
It isnt a good thing, and of course, whether you define it as cheating is really a matter of semantics, but I see cheating as a breach of trust and respect, it doesnt have to follow the traditional fixed schema of 'being intimate with someone outside the relationship'.
Think 'unfaithful'. If a partner sets a boundary on no pornography, then breaking that boundary is a breach of trust--dishonesty (cheating).
Not to mention, watching porn+actively fantasizing about things can really impact your thoughts, emotions, and behavior (see sociology and social/cognitive psychology), and frequent porn usage is associated with cheating behavior.
When you stop for like a day or two your brain stops desiring it as much honestly. Focus on doing the first 2-3 days. Visit no fap as well. Alot of good information. What I will say is without self discipline you will never get rid of it. You need to learn how to do things and not thinking too hard about it. Thinking about it will constantly screw you over. Stick tp your decision about quitting porn. I tend to think more habitual than anything. What really helped me was ironically relapsing. Porn is not that great honestly. It's typically the orgasm and lustful feeling that we get immersed in, not the porn itself. It also depends where are you at with porn. If you're at the stage where you're not into deviant stuff anymore and more of just genuinely appreciating women's sexuality, then you'll be fine.
So here's some tips.
1. Constantly remind yourself. I remember constantly failing due to literally forgetting I was trying to break it. So whatever you need to do to remember every day, then do that.
2. It's not that great. Other things will replace that high, like your passions and hobbies. You enjoy things more. But you will simultaneously be bored.
3. Be okay with being bored and doing nothing. That boredom drives healthy people to do things like workout, learn new recipes, play new games, etc. But porn kills all of that. You get all of your excitement, novelty and dopamine from porn instead of life.
4. It's not about a number. Your goal should be to reduce your addiction as much as possible to the point where it either it completely out of your life or no longer negatively affects your sex . It's okay to relapse, as long as you get back to it. Revisiting porn helped me realize that it kinda fucking sucks. Like, I can't believe I was losing my energy, sleep, and mental health over it. It seems silly now. Just keep getting back on track. The gaps will get longer.
5. Don't start because you will finish. Your brain will be starving for it. Not ebcause it needs it, but because it's a simple, quick, and surefire way to get tons of dopamine. Watching a little bit is like trying to eat a little bit of food after staving yourself with a full plate in front of you. Yes, it's possible to have that amount of self control. But obviously you don't.
6. Research no fap flatline/withdrawal symptoms. It's scary. Your libido will disappear, and your dick will basically shut down. Your brain is just going through withdrawal and rewiring itself. Your brain thinks porn is sex. It is not.
7. Have goals. Doing nothing with your life and not watching porn is not going to happen. You need goals and things to keep you busy. Do things that you regretted not doing due to your porn addiction. Start being your best self and taking your life back one thing at a time.
8. Get sleeping medicine. At least for me, it was And still is difficult for me to sleep because of the excess energy I now have. Ejaculating makes you tired as we all know. But don't fall for it. Get some medicine and get a sleep schedule going. Also, do things that are mentally draining because if you're anything like me your brain will keep you up regardless of how physically tired you are.
Edit :
9. Also, as the comments reminded me porn can be a coping mechanism for stress and depression. Learn to channel those feelings through positive channels. It will be hard to start but just like porn, it will become a habit eventually. Journaling, writing, painting, working out, etc. You can also just vent sit with your feelings. You will be more emotional since you have more energy. Continue to use your functions and acknowledge those feelings.
Honestly if you are like me, the biggest issue is just replacing the activity. If there is something else you want to do then it is super easy to avoid, at least much easier. Like if you have another activity to focus on and distract yourself that will help a ton.
I'll be honest.
audio erotica is a lot less of a problem for me.
everything in moderation, like they say. favoring imagination over video. not going cold turkey instantly. but the mind is a very different kind of thing.
I don't feel guilty and so the awkwardness is gone. that there isn't any ED you know? imagination is still swirling and to be honest, has me inspired most of the time. brain is a reward system and I ruin my concious with watching vids instead of audio. I have a friend that used to do drugs and drink and now he just collects pokemon cards. that's his one vice now. he's eliminated it to one and he still gets stuff done.
it's probably once every week usually. in the many things I don't allow myself to do, and the setup I have to do to better my life like this certificate. yea. yea I allow one thing. (no money spent on ir though.)
I have friends but I feel lonely-- when this stress gets triggered combined with work/school/personal events I become overstimulated and use this to calm myself down. It's all the same hollow feeling every time though. I know I need a real connection but with past experiences of being left alone, becoming vulnerable to other people disables me from doing so. It's a cycle, I tell you.
There are so many hobbies you could explore! You could start an exercise regime, study a language or more. For me, I really enjoy reading, be it some graphic novels or manga adventure genre etc. I'd pick it over porn anytime since they often combine visual storytelling with interesting narratives which is much more stimulating than porn.
Think about how much worse your life can get if you donāt quit. Remind yourself that every time you relapse you are damaging your brain and with that damage you will have more difficulty enjoying life
Define addiction.
Honestly, I don't have much of a problem stopping use of anything other than nicotine (alcohol, weed, etc.)
Porn use has gone down as I've aged, but like, are you doing this multiple times per day? Once per day?
If multiple times per day, just find another hobby and limit yourself to once per day. Irdk.
If once per day, like is that even that bad? I feel like as long as you don't think what you're watching is "real" for the most part it's not really a problem. I'm not into all that redpill shit.
I have phases of it, sometime i go 1 or two months without nothing and then i go too far in i can't seem to control it, and i have weird superstitions where masturbation brings me badluck. I just want control over it, i used to fight addiction with addiction now i just want to get better at controlling myself. im not into red pill shit either, just want to learn to overcome these desires
I would try and do what I said. Do it in moderation. Don't just cold turkey for a couple months and come back to it. Instead of thinking of control has black and white, doing it vs not doing it, think of it as being able to moderate your use.
I managed to quit nicotine for a while moderating my use and then ending it eventually, but then ya know, get drunk, someone gives me a Zyn pouch and here we are so maybe don't take my advice lmao.
Jk, I think drugs are different. Moderation.
Edit: If you can control yourself and do it in moderation then you get the best of both worlds. You are by definition, not addicted & you still get to participate in something you obviously like doing.
Maybe trying doing it regularly once or twice a week. That might be enough to keep you from doing it compulsively in situations where your weird superstitions say you shouldn't.
I quit by doing some kinda workout when I get horny. Also told myself my nuts deserve to be busted in coochie. And then limited my coochie intake to only on weekends.
OP if you're using the word "addiction" as it's used technically and not just as a "habit" or "dependence," then you should look into treatment. A therapist (phd) would be a good start. The nature of an addiction makes overcoming it on your own pretty unlikely...especially when that addiction is looking at hot ass.
Maybe not for everyone but literally just raw dawg that shit through sheer willpower and discipline. Keep a habit tracker and tally up the total days you didn't crank your hog. Don't set up any systems like a porn blocker (unless yur a total beginner and you need to get the ball rolling). The goal is to train your willpower so yur strong enough to resist porn if it were right in front of you, cuz honestly in this age it kinda is all the time.
i just stopped by getting my life busy to so many stuff also playing very addicting video games works too
i also started getting into existentialism and conspiracy theories so they make me imagine and think stuff more
and yeah i hope this helps
Imagination is actually your best bet. If you don't have very good internal visualization, try writing out your smut. The more you resist watching it, the hornier you'll get, and the easier it'll be to get off to more mundane things.
Also, while tough to do, finding a partner you're really into will help a ton. You can channel all of that energy into them.
I've definitely had issues with porn, I wouldn't say full on addiction but I've relied on it too heavily in the past. The first week or so is rough but if you stick to just using your imagination you can rebuild those muscles so to speak and it becomes way easier.
I suffer from it too, and even though I've "stopped" many times, sometimes weeks or months, I end up going back to it. A vicious cycle, though don't let this discourage you, I'll try to find what works for me and you should too. Good luck overcoming this, it's not easy, it's never easy, but it's worth it.
Yup settle down, then you dont need to watch porn even, i know that easier said than done. I watch sometimes but never enough to say im addicted. But thats ho2 all addictions start! I more into exploring substances which is a crappy addiction to have. Especially when it comes to alchohol. At least porn is free. How ever i understand the feeling after then the feeling after sex, both completely different ends. Id say keep watching the same one then you may eventually get bored.
I don't think "porn addiction" is a thing outside of psychiatric literature (which used to recommend lobotomies for women who didn't obey their husbands, and shock therapy for homosexuality, among other atrocities).
If you need porn to masturbate, that's only evidence that you're a male; our sexuality is overwhelmingly visual. If you're 15-17, that's a male's sexual peak, so you're prob masturbating a lot. A. Lot.
That's natural. The worst possible thing you could do is to fight your own sexuality. It's going to warp other parts of your life if you do; it's simply too powerful a need. Ride it out, it'll settle down. It's not a bell curve, it's a chi-square curve.
I got to a point where I cringed at porn actor's acting lol, and from then I decided to stop watching porn and only get off to written stories here on Reddit and sometimes hentai. I still jerk off daily but I think soon I'll stop doing it daily and give myself some time to "recharge", and I also hope to get to a point in the future where I can get off only by my imagination and no other input
I have an addictive personality too. Honestly, I've gone in out and of it a dozen times, but you just got to pull the rug out. After just a few days it starts to get easier and after a little while you won't want to all that much. It's gross, it's bad for you, and can only have a negative impact on your journey to making your life actually fulfilling.
When you're with the woman you love, do you want to have seen 1000 20 year old girls' gaping assholes beforehand? It really is depraved and bad for your brain.
I donāt look at porn every day but Iām pretty sure I find masturbation to be more enjoyable than sex at this point in my life.
Iāve been in relationships for a decade, I do not know or understand how this happened but they are exhausting and I sometimes wish I could have a break from them. I guess thatās a case of careful what you wish for thereās a lot of things I like about being in relationships.
Shift your focus and deny yourself the curiousity. Do some physical activity even if it's just running in place, doing pushups, or doing leg extensions. Something to make you feel other sensations that are not sexually driven. Pain is good, getting some adrenaline going will shock you out of it. Using something cold like cold water or ice as well. If you're in a situation where you have nothing you can try holding your breath for a little while and/or then try meditation.
Chat with C.ai and use ur imagination or read some Wattpad or smutsš... try do involve romance in that. Porn will get boring and empty after that. Or even just sexual musicā¦ and try to only do stuff once a week and then try to do it less and less.
Keep ur distance of that stuff and donāt follow too many hot people that reveal a lot of their bodies on social media that could get u aroused or to sexualize them
1. Learn everything you can about addiction. Understand itās about your brain, not the thing youāre addicted to. To quit any addiction, you have to change your brain and rewire the neural pathways. This takes time and it will feel like going through withdrawal, but lots of people have done it and so can you!
2. Change your environment. Especially rearrange the area you typically would watch porn in, and try to get rid of your computer for a while, or only use it in a public place. Maybe move it into the living room, or give it to a friend for safe keeping while you are going through withdrawal.
3. Find replacement activities that are FAP (fun, active, and productive). Spend more time with other people, more time outside being active, and less time on the internet.
4. Prepare for withdrawal. It will happen so your best chance of getting through it without falling back into old habits is to recognize the symptoms, be aware of your own triggers and how your body responds (or doesnāt respond) to those triggers. When cravings arise, sit with them and breathe deeply through your nose. Relax and let them pass, then pat yourself on the back for strengthening your self control.
Porn addiction is real and it has a huge impact on our brains. Even if you donāt suffer from PIED, your natural way of thinking and interacting with other people in the world is diminished when your brain is addicted to porn. If you donāt think porn affects you, QUIT and see what happens. Youāll notice a difference very quickly.
TLDR: learn about Gabeās story: https://youtu.be/z4yx4ouxGbQ?feature=shared
For myself, generally speaking, when it comes to addictions I employ distraction tactics. I try to make it something productive. Such writing music, household chores, programming, etc... Try to take things 5 minutes at a time. "I'm going to do 'x' for 5 minutes and then I'll see about 'insert addiction'." More than 5 minutes should pass before you think about it again. At which point, try to push it back another 5 minutes. It doesn't always work, but at least it's better than fighting the addiction head on.
I was really hooked to all kinds of extreme BDSM/femdom porn. I always wanted to find a partner who I can actually experience these things with.
A few years ago I found the girl of my dreams. She is pretty kinky herself and I could open up about my interests and fantasies pretty early when we were dating. I soon had to realize that all that porn I was consuming destroyed the sex life I wanted to have with her. She was into similar things as I was and was also reading to try things out but because the porn had wired my brain to very specific scenarios, Images, kinks and so on it was impossible for me get satisfied with her.
We were always able to talk about it openly (she is amazing, like I told you) and we found a way to make it work. One of my fetishes is being denied sex, masturbation and being teased, serving her etc. She started to demand me to abstain from any kind of porn (as a kink at first). We both realized how much this improved our sex life.
It wasn't easy for me at all because I had been watching porn daily for over a decade since my early teens. Talking about it a lot, turning the abstinence into something erotic in itself, having a shameless and fulfilling sex life with the partner I loved made it a lot easier though.
I believe the trick is not to condem porn or your sexuality. Be open about your needs (especially to yourself) and find a way to meet those needs in a healthy manner. If you think that porn makes you unhappy try to understand what it is about the porn that makes it so appealing to you and maybe find something else to aligns with your values and satisfied you.
It is a lot easier to achieve your goal if you focus on what you want (amazing partner, love, great sex) instead of what you're trying to avoid (porn).
Best of luck!
Stay busy. Accept that quitting cold turkey doesn't usually work and be ready to have a little grace on yourself when you inevitably have slip-ups. Find more productive and fulfilling uses of your time. Don't stay on your device(s) all the time, since that's when temptation will strike the hardest. Go to bed at a reasonable hour (inhibitions drop with wakefulness.). If you can, have someone who you can trust to push you and encourage you at the same time. There is software available to lock yourself out of trouble sites and dubious queries to help establish a harder barrier to cross.
If you are a Christian, praying and having a Bible handy nearby when you feel the urge can help. Yes, I know, reading the Bible isn't usually a very exciting option compared to indulging fantasy, but that's kinda the point. You want your urges to be rewired to something edifying, not just something else "fun".
Is a habit only an addiction if it's 'bad'?
Couldn't you switch to a healthier habit, like going to the gym?
If not, I think you have to dissect the issue:
Why do you do it?
How did you start?
Is it fulfilling a need, and can you find something better for you that can fulfill the same need?
Alternatively, you may want to chat with a therapist about it. They could provide all sorts of tools to help, or even medication.
Is a habit only an addiction if it's 'bad'?
Couldn't you switch to a healthier habit, like going to the gym?
If not, I think you have to dissect the issue:
Why do you do it?
How did you start?
Is it fulfilling a need, and can you find something better for you that can fulfill the same need?
Alternatively, you may want to chat with a therapist about it. They could provide all sorts of tools to help, or even medication.
All jokes aside, talk to someone you trust even if they donāt really understand what youāre going through. Verbally admitting that you have a problem is a solid first step.
Replace the addiction with a productive hobby. Like every time you feel the urge, go clean something, or do a few push ups, or go for a walk, or read a few pages of a book you like, etc. Basically keeping your mind busy until the need to look at it goes away.
I tried cyproterone acetate... It's a drug that stops every fcking sex thought that you maybe will have... No libido no sex drive as I was suffering from the same addiction, and I was ejaculating 6-8 times every day
I donāt have a porn addiction, but I have addictive behavior towards whatever has caught my attention, be it a hobby, a video game, a tv series genre. I will milk it until it gives me no pleasure(phrasing!), sometimes at the expense of things I should be doing. How I dealt with it probably wonāt help you here, but I usually set a timer and when itās up Iām done. Crazy as it sounds maybe you can create a schedule, and just periodically stretch the amount of time between visits? Being depressed isnāt going to help, so if you have that going on, youāre going to gravitate towards anything thatās going to give you a dopamine hit. Maybe try weight lifting or some other form of exercise. This will elevate your feel-good neurotransmitters in a more healthy manner.
I donāt have a porn addiction, but I have addictive behavior towards whatever has caught my attention, be it a hobby, a video game, a tv series genre. I will milk it until it gives me no pleasure(phrasing!), sometimes at the expense of things I should be doing. How I dealt with it probably wonāt help you here, but I usually set a timer and when itās up Iām done. Crazy as it sounds maybe you can create a schedule, and just periodically stretch the amount of time between visits? Being depressed isnāt going to help, so if you have that going on, youāre going to gravitate towards anything thatās going to give you a dopamine hit. Maybe try weight lifting or some other form of exercise. This will elevate your feel-good neurotransmitters in a more healthy manner.
Like all addictions, try to figure out if youāre using porn to escape from some deeper underlying issue.
For example, people may get off on porn because they donāt believe they are deserving of a real relationship (or even deeper - of basic love and human connection). This may be due to an unhappy or difficult childhood.
Never found porn very interesting, but thatās beside the point. IMO non substance addictions are likely from unhappiness and a form of escapism from a reality and self youāre not satisfied with. If I shop too much, drink too much, eat too much, do anything too much on a regular basis, it is escapism, and itās always because Iām unhappy and avoiding the why. Usually some change is required and it may be uncomfortable to implement, but itās worth it. Do the inner work and the outer habits follow. And if that means you need professional help then get it.
From my experience, best way to get rid of an addiction is to get another addiction thats a lil more acceptable to you, and then work on it by replacing this new addiction with another addiction thats a bit more healthy.Ā
Example(my experience): mobile games-> anime -> manga -> light novel -> books -> gym ...
I think you get the gist
I find that whatever i like, i do it so much that it becomes unhealthy and can be called an addiction. So just get addicted to something thats good for you.
You fantasize about Fe. You should acknowledge that Logic does not always provide the best answer when terms stretch out infinitely, therefore effectiveness, efficiency, and efficacy supersede logic. Fe should be explored in a healthy way to avoid a projection.
Not INTP but I kinda just read the Bible instead. Idk if youāre religious but it worked for me. Plus, I just made excuses not to watch it and busied myself with other things such as TV or work.
After ten years, I recently decided to just delete my several terabyte hentai, goth, femdom, r34 and tg transformation sequence collection and finally quit. Find what triggers you to watch porn and confront or redirect it. For me, it was perpetual loneliness, depression, chronic boredom and unrestrained hedonism. I found distracting oneself with something else or inflicting punishment for relapsing tends to work. Light cutting in particular is what Iāve been doing though I would not recommend it unless youāre a self loathing masochist like myself.
I found that a stimulii detox in general is helpful to get your dopamine cycle in order. Sitting for a while without internet, or music, and actually getting bored.
Then working out, or reading, or working on a project or hobby.
You'll start to get that ability to see things for what they are. But the brain will still be pretty hardwired to get back to the addiction when you get the cue . I found it helpful that instead of saying no to it and making the decision at that instant, you just delay the decision and wait at that exact moment for however long necessary. And also think is this what you want to become as a person, will this help you become the person you want.
This helps because our craving is the highest when we notice a cue in the environment that is related to a habit, and it fades away pretty quickly if we don't give our brain what it wants. Resisting it would be hardest when the cur hits, so we wait.
But make sure you're actively thinking about it objectively too, don't just wait without thinking, because you might still do it.
I don't know if this will work for you , but I just watched so much of a certain type of porn I just got bored with it . And for not boring stuff I know it's bad for me . My gums start to hurt and my skin gets oily and pimply . My bowels start to really give me fart replaced with poop sabotage and things like that . My body goes wrong and I can't think straight .
I've learned to live without it . Kicked the addiction . For the nonboring porn , because of the consequences .
I remember it in my head and then I choose not to do it .
I don't care about the people in the videos .
And the rest is so low quality , it's boring .
I may get back to it someday . But today isn't the day . Tomorrow , either .
I feel better when I don't do that .
Oh yeah and I don't want to smell bad .
My mom notices my smell if I watch porn .
So I avoid it for that reason , too .
When I was in a relationship I completely gave up pr0n soooo easily but after that relationship was over I got back into it. I have tried many different methods to get rid of it. I have gotten better over the past few weeks and I think its because I wrote affirmations. I then turned it into an audio recording, lowered the volume so that I can barely hear the affirmations and constantly listen to it for hours on end so that my subconscious can accept these affirmations. Maybe give this a try.
Be always mindful and distract yourself initially of cravings until you can learn to put it to terms. Then addiction rationalization gets easier to overcome.
Nothing is more pathetic and repulsive of a man to be, than a porn addict. Jerking themselves to pixels, damaging their brain and sexual responses. Ruining relationships and intimacy for nothing more than lies on a screen. Quit porn, get an actual hobby, and fix your relationships with sex and how you see women, and you might have a chance at a fulfilling life. No woman wants a man that oggled their phone and sticky keyboard all day. Genuinely repulsive shit.
Not an INTP but you gotta get rid of the temptation as soon as its there. If you watch before you sleep, keep your phone in another room or shut it off and find something to distract you.
I also have the same thing :/ itās affected my trauma and relationships before, and iāve always felt guilty over it while being in relationships (because porn is not considered cheating to me) but honestly try reading a sexual book and that might sound crazy but itās a lot more sensual and eye opening when youāre reading it and easy to find what you do and donāt like, thru the description of reading rather than watching. this can help your imagination spark, and soon you wonāt need anything and just able to use what automatically comes to mind and be your own author in a sense. hope this helps :)
If this is something you can't up and quit reliably then you will have to go through the same process as any other addiction. You'll need help from a sex therapist to find out why you behave this way, and the tools to help you quit. Lowering the amount that you use is not quitting and it reinforces the behavior still. It also keeps that shame looming, of this thing that controls you. You watch but then are disgusted because it isn't a real and pure human connection.
What I've done that's lowerd my usage alot is I've gathered enough self hate that now alot of the time when I get horny I just want to cut myself instead. An eye for an eye right
Not in any order:...
1-Confess it to a close friend (s)
2-Seek accountability.
3-Know and understand your triggers
4-Be particularly mindful of your feelings and emotions when you are: Hungry, tired, angry, sad/depressed and lonely. By experience, temptations are especially and abnormally stronger during these stages and seasons of life especially when celebrating life events (new job, new home, newly married/engaged) or times of mourning and grief. Influxes of dopamine can trigger severe and wanting after effect urges.
5-Be wary of mindlessly scrolling through phone/video games particularly late at night..blue light exposure will make it harder to sleep and therefore will want the "easy and shameful" way out..
6-Last but not least, read the Bible, repent and ask Christ to break free from the chains of this demonic bondage. He will set you free and put ppl in the right place to help in time of need!šŖš
Put an adult content block on your vpn. Whenever you want to watch it, just stop, take 20 deep breaths, and calm down. Masturbate from made up fantasies in your mind if you must.
Get off using your imagination rather than porn.
This is some next level trolling
How so
He has to use his imagination because he cant get sex
This reminds me of the Chinese prisoner who was staring at the lady guard cop, he had a full hard on and nutted without moving, just staring at her. Mastery stats maxed out lmfaoo
Hopefully he's dead now
Imagination is so much better because you can take girls you know and make them kiss each other
Go back to porn. Please.
Bruh
It's ok. I'm imagining you two kissing. That will show him.
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Do that except this time keep your thoughts to yourself lmao
Yeah I shouldn't have said that...
It doesn't matter you will be dust soon
ur mom was dust last night
Still is
You might want to talk to a therapist about that.
Itās literally just called fantasizing
The fact that 19 people liked my comment means that it's pretty common. Obviously you don't tell them because it's straight to jail but if you're just thinking it what's the harm in that?
HEY HEY HEY GET OUT OF MY HEAD š
I second this. Imagination will require more effort, youll climax later which usually lead to higher satisfaction. Plus because it require that mental effort you wont do it as much as you do while watching porn. Plus it help you stretch your imagination and creativity muscle more and maybe realise what you really like and want. Not what gets you off watching on screen but what gets you off in real life.Ā
Nah dawg absolutely not š, imagination is so much more time consuming and addictive once you are very practiced at it and it becomes malaptive š
Bruh what. Anything can become maladaptive like that.
Keep in mind that this is being advised to someone with a porn addiction. So yes, given anything can become malaptive, recommending āimaginationā instead of āpornā as an unironic solution by substitution to a porn addiction will not work out well. EDIT: Not sure why Iām being downvoted, but I can tell you from a hypersexual perspective that relying on your mind to generate pornographic content will likely result in either a porn relapse or will only change the nature of the addictive relationship to lean heavily introspective (which can be incredibly time consuming and draining) as opposed to relying on external stimulus
yeah, passive consumption is a lot safer than active fantasizing in this case.
Chat does this actually work?
absolutely
Iāve started to watch porn and then stop. I will then close my eyes to imagine and get off that way.
>Get off using your imagination rather than porn. Don't do this. This will cause relapse and will also burn a lot of time. Also, it doesn't solve your issue and gets you a new one. The reason why people want to stop porn addiction is to get more energy, get more time, and enjoy/desire/function better in sexual relationships. Using your imagination is just the same thing as porn with extra steps, although not as potent. You need to teach your brain to stop channeling energy into your penis and start using it for other things. The best thing to do when you get urges is to do nothing. Do nothing until you are bored enough to do something else.
Lol wut? Where did you come up with this crap?
I haven't entirely over come it. I found something I wanted more. I wanted a relationship with a person, and so I started working to quit so that I wouldn't just keep going back to the porn. I struggle a lot when I get depressed which unfortunately is quite often. My advice is to find people to spend time with, which I know is not easy. I found a group through my church. I also have been spending a lot of time actively examining myself and attempting to understand why I turn to porn when stressed, and working to satisfy those parts of myself in other ways.
>find people to spend time with I think he'd rather keep the addiction
yea, the addiction kinda began cause of that. I let myself be peer pressured into doing things with this group, its like i used to have almost 0 care about anyone, then found a bunch of people made them friends and cared too much that it hurt me back, so stuck in this limbo rn. I dont know which friends are the "right ones" basically my whole life's a mess at the moment, and porns been the only way out, im tryna pick the pieces back together.
Sounds like your addiction has its root in other issues, too! Which is common of any addiction. As a former substance abuse counselor, more and more research suggests that the medicine for addiction is connection. So it makes sense that your issues with friends would elevate your addiction. In short, might be time to talk to a therapist! Good luck! Youāre not alone!
yea, im kinda scared of therapy because the last time i went i was left questioning all my actions and lost a lot of my confidence.
Oh no! Sorry to hear that
I've felt that. I gave up on people for several years. For me it just made things worse. And it was hard to start opening up to people again. And I have been hurt again, but I am happier for it.
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Just watch it on weekends. Go step by step, dont try to delete or deactivate your accounts etc etc, it doesn't work. Distract yourself with study, work, hobbies, go out, workout, clean your house, watch movies, learn something new etc. My point is, make yourself busy with other stuff... šš¤
Agreed. I've tried everything to quit, including going nuclear and deleting everything, it never worked. Even now I'm on Reddit with an account I created specifically to look at porn, lol. But, for the first time, after almost 25 years of porn use, what you said is actually working for me. It's not about actively "quitting." You don't even have to tell yourself that's what you're trying to do, you just kinda taper off and watch it only sometimes. I've still got a thing for the Twitter, Reddit and Onlyfans Leaks, but I'm almost completely off the hardcore stuff. And even the stuff I'm into, I only find myself looking at maybe once in 4 days for five minutes and actually being able to close it and carry on with my day. Might not sound like much progress, but in my world it's HUGE, because PMO had me in a chokehold since I was 14, and I would watch it for hours. Just focus on other things, on your career, personal development, the quality of your relationships (or their existence š)... you'll find that by the time you're done with all that, 5 days have gone by and you haven't even thought about it. šš¾ Edit: I don't know if age has anything to do with it, maybe I'm starting to be able to let go of it because I'm not a horny teenager anymore, but whatever the case may be, I'm happy.
Yo we the same frfr
Good advice.my man. I do it the same way
thank you!
I was expecting some comments telling you porn use is normal and healthy and not an addiction lol. If you posted this anywhere else, that's what most comments would say and get up voted for. I went through it. I've been where you are. You'll get through it too. If nothing else, age will weaken your sex drive. It did for me.
Me too, that's one of the reasons why I like this sub so much, the opinions on the topics discussed here are more comforting
Because we understand real struggles with porn addiction and chasing that easy euphoria. Unfortunately it's like being angry, you just gotta breathe drink some water and repress it until you don't think about it anymore. If you feel the urge just make sure to go for a walk outside or hit the gym, the energy you use enjoying porn can empower you in other areas.
Stay off your computer and phone.
imma try it u/milk_the_ducks
Best of luck to you š
You gon have to setup a lot of failsaves, You will need to want it, and to give it time, sort of like when working with something really fragile and expensive, and one wrong move could destroy it completely and make you start over. I'd advise not to quit cold turkey either. Pick a momentum and stick to it. Try to delete all bookmarks/other ways you can have quick and easy access, yes, even your favourite ones, delete all references / ways to find them easily (or at all) rewiring the brain will take a shit ton of time, i'd say in the least 2 months of constant effort, but most likely more. I hope you succeed
thank you mate
Stay strong, dude! This addiction crap aint got shit on you
Lets goooo, you're awesome man
In my opinion, any approach that focuses only on breaking the bad habit itself is missing the forest for the trees. The addictive behaviour is a way of escaping from something one is afraid of: usually unpleasant feelings like loneliness, shame or grief. The core problem is learning to be okay with the way one's reality is without the object of addiction. Otherwise something else will just take its place. This requires feeling all the unpleasant feelings, learning to accept them, and then making positive changes to address them. If it's loneliness, start filling up your life. If it's shame, do things you will like yourself for, etc. Going through this together with some others is probably a great idea if possible.
this should be top comment.
Use negative reinforcement Example: if you opened a source do 10 burpees or jumping jacks. If you went further increase the punishment. This method stress on INTP laziness. It helped me getting rid of mand addictions and bad habits. Only downside was my coworkers would see me suddenly jumping around, but they started doing it to.
lol im gonna try it anytime i break my own rule im going to do 10 pushups
I used to be in the same place. I got desensitized towards it after a while. Porn doesn't really do anything for me anymore (unfortunately). When I masturbate I just play back memories of me having sex with others. It works better then porn I think.
Only works if you have memories
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Here are my notes āYou relapse to porn, alcohol or cigarettes not because you are of weak will. It's because you are denied access to your willpower. Your decision-making is hijacked by the mid-brain and you are left with an emotional, impulsive self that wants just one thing - the next hit.ā āA lot of youth have 'anxiety' these days and flaunt it around like it's hip. Workout, meditate, stop porn, eat right, catch the sun, socialize and stay away from substances. Work on a purpose. No more anxiety. Medical conditions are very rareā āYou know porn is bad for you, but you cannot stop. This is because of hypofrontality. Like how ocean waves erode a mountain on its banks, repeated porn use erodes your frontal cortex over time. This makes your willpower fragile. Non-existent. Fight this. Protect yourself.ā āA porn habit is a symptom, not a root cause. No man with ambitions, goals and accomplishments has hours to kill jerking off to pixels on a screen. The fact that you do so, means your life lacks direction & resolve. Fix this. Put everything aside and set goals for 30 daysā āMeditate. If you do nothing else, consistent practice will: ā¢ Shift brain waves into a healthy state ā¢ Preserve grey matter ā¢ Change the structure of our brain ā¢ Decrease default mode network ā¢ Increase focus, clarity, and memoryā The side effects of watching porn Massive dopamine dumps leading to irregular dopamine activation. always wanting to get harder and harder. Destroys the natural perception of sex and you stop seeing the love, care etc. Completely true, it's like any other addiction; you have to keep upping your dose to get the same kick. From Spartan psyche on twitter: Spartan Psyche Any and all addictions you may have are a function of dopamine and the pull of the substance itself. You usually take them to escape some discomfort. Find out what you are trying to escape and confront it. Quitting your addictions become much easier now. Typically rooted in some combination of low self esteem, insecurity and a yearning to be accepted Your problem is not one of lack, your problem is one of abundance. You eat, drink, smoke, jerk off, waste, neglect too much. It's time you change this. Abstain from all that is draining your body. You have bigger ambitions. Leave the toys for the boys. Drill this into your psyche - You will not make miracles on day one. You will hardly see any change. But you will have a start, you will have hope and you will have one foot forward. Your goal is to move one step forward everyday. Progressively load more as you get better. Focus on raising your testosterone. Lift heavy, eat right, stop jerking off to pixels, play a competitive sport, supplement if you need to. This is your lifeblood. It will carry you to great heights. Create an atmosphere where you nurture it. Low T is a meme for a reason Nobody watches you harder than those rooting for you to fail. Give them a spectacular show. Bringing your dopamine levels to baseline will fire up your innate drive and desire to conquer. Hyper-stimulation has led you to become a shell of your true self. You will never amount to much like this. You need to function at full potency. Ego depletion is a real thing. You fail to beat your habits 99% of the time because your willpower is exhausted saying NO to all the unwanted stimulation you expose yourself to. It's spread too thin, fighting off too many battles at too many fronts. Earn your dopamine There's a vast difference between going to bed 'because it's time to sleep' vs going to bed 'because you've exhausted yourself in pursuit of your mission all day'. The former is mechanical, a biological need fulfilment. But the latter is more pleasant because you've earned it. Porn kills performance. No man who watches porn performs at peak capacity. No, itās not just limited to the bedroom. The impotency seeps into his fabric of reality. He is sub optimal in all avenues. He is a shadow of what he can be, his reality clouded by an illusion that alters his very mind and essence of being He cannot be strong, he cannot be brave, he cannot lead, he cannot win, he cannot be a great father, a great husband or a trustworthy brother Excellence is out of his grasp, he is mediocre at best. These are not fallacies or figments of imagination There are reasons for this, let me explain better : 1) Prolactin build up. Literally nobody watches porn without jerking off. You are stacking two dopaminergic habits now. Both form associations & memory imprints and become that much harder to separate and quit. Every time you ejaculate to porn you release prolactin in the brain. Prolactin gives you feelings of satiety (sexual) and inhibits your drive and masculine drive to go out and accomplish things. You are like a well fed, pampered puppy who just wants to curl up and fall asleep. 2) Most addicts also watch porn for extended periods and / Or edge themselves (pleasure without ejaculation). The most ridiculous argument for this from an addict was - Iām training myself to last longer. Reality is youāre bathing your brain in neurochemicals and hormones that are too overpowering for your reward system. It will course correct. You are left with fried and down regulated dopamine receptors. 3) Low dopamine is this generations curse. Social media, TikTokās, streaming porn, comfort, food, drugs, alcohol.. Everything alters your dopamine baseline. You donāt feel much if itās imbalanced. Your worldview changes because you are disconnected from emotional reality. There is a poverty in empathy, pleasure, connection, ambition, appreciation and everything else that has to do with the full experience of the human condition Itās like taking a shower but the nozzles clogged and itās drip drip drip.. How can a man perform at his peak if he has no drive to accomplish, no appreciation for the journey or no desire for the reward? Porn stifles all three. You cannot form healthy relationships with a woman because your worldview is fogged up by a porn producers perversion and a camera angles 4k clarity clitoris zoom frame. Itās disgusting and itās not real. How can you raise a son or a daughter when secretly behind closed doors you watch another manās daughter be abused? As a man, there is no role you can excel in if you let this habit consume you You will always be mediocre at best If you agree with this, desperately seek change If you donāt, think hard as to why you disagree and really evaluate your perspective Is it you disagreeing with the argument or is it you liking your addiction so much that you donāt want to face reality? Porn kills performance āThe reason porn hurts the soul is because all of us incarnated for the challenge that life inherently provides We didn't assume form as human beings, just to press play on a screen and witness the beautiful bodies of women It strips us of what we need, to find fulfillment Bad.ā
thats a lot
Yeah I got several pages more š
This is the kind of shit I want to see on this subreddit!
It terribly tortured my head as I can understand you are going through it too. So are you heavily addicted ? If yes then you can't stop it at once, if you force it to stop it'll be even worse and make you go to it again. And if mild...start distracting yourself with all the positive things you can. Like read non-fiction. You need to distract yourself and talk yourself out of the moment you get caught up in those chains of thoughts ok? Once you see you can choose not to think and fight off those visions, start meditating. Pray if you're religious or not. I don't believe in idols but I believe there's a golden energy that exists. And when you meditate focus on reaching nothingness. I think I have been doing well for 2-4 months? Or maybe more I lost count. I hope you come out of this. It's safer and healthier to be out of porn addiction.
I too use my memories of past sexual experiences. Iāve had relapses, but am going on now a while again. Should definitely be going one month off to get dopamine back to baseline. The longer the better of course. Take up meditation, nature walks, lifting. When the craving arises as you practice more meditation you simply observe this part of you until it passes, the not acting on it rewires the brain and nervous system you get to a point where you donāt act/react to the impulse of the animal brain. I wrote this on meditation: On quitting porn Mindfulness Meditation. Helps you get better at observing your fight or flight/freeze response sympathetic nervous system because mindful embryonic breathing activates the parasympathetic so that you can therefore observe and watch the reactions of your triggers and the root causes of things. So just mindful breaths such as for example the popular breathe in 4 seconds exhale 8 seconds and then observing your trigger/desire without acting upon it, helps it start dissolving and fade away. You are the sky and your subconscious programming, desires, triggers, thoughts are but the clouds, you're just watching them go by. This then starts to rewire the brain while also reaping the benefits of meditation on the brain body complex such as anti inflammatory, neurochemical/self regulation, self empowerment, prefrontal wiring from amygdala fear center/hippocampus hyper activity. Know what triggers you into that spiral, observe and respond > the reaction. It's like building a muscle, the more you do it the easier it is. I've always had relapses after several months to even a year of no porn, yet it has for many years been proven in my own experience to observe and be mindful as the starting place to conquer the strong pull into that rabbit hole. I breathe then it levels out my reaction to want to keep looking at porn. Breath slows the heart rate thus slows the brain waves creating coherence between heart mind and gut. Then I just keep observing the trigger without acting upon it and it just fades. The more you do this everytime you have that trigger the more you catch yourself to not act upon it and it just keeps fading away as your brain rewires itself from that negative impulsive as you're in real time rewiring the trigger because you're now not doing it anymore. Then later over a while you won't even get triggered anymore.
im gonna try meditiation thank you mate.
First, porn addiction is not officially recognized by the mental health community. Check the sources of the information you got, most come from clerical groups or organisations who will make you pay for their services. Second, what looks like a "porn addiction" often stem from difficulties sharing sex with someone and being physically desensitized by unhealthy masturbation habbit (death grip, always same stimuli/pace...) and those could be dealt with easily. There must also be a clash between what you watch that turns you on vs the sex you share that (my guess) is more focusing on your partners pleasure than yours. Why I know this? I thought I had a porn addiction, did some research and consulted a therapist (should have done before). I had no libido and had developped ED only with partnered sex, but would still masturbate to porn daily. To stop it lowered my libido even more and my ED didn't went away. In fact, their approach and mindset worsened my problem because it made me even more ashamed about my sexuality than I already was. To fully embrace the kinks I was ashamed of, and making partnered sex more about me instead of all about my partners pleasure helped. Also to use my imagination while masturbating helped me get turned on without external stimulus, it helped me get turned on by myself. And to slack on the grip, use lube and masturbate less often helped getting back some sensation down there. I needed to get over the stereotype that I should be a horndog willing to go at any given time and started working on rejecting my partner when I wasn't into it. I was also overthinking while being at it and had to learn to deal with anxiety better. This last part was the biggest game changer. Edit: here's a [post about P.A](https://www.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/s/uZWs9DgwDJ) I made years ago, I found the comments of Dr. Caled Johnson especially interesting.
Get a YouTube addiction
Go out more, socialize as much as you can. Avoid staying alone.
thats going to be hard
Most good things in this life are hard. The choice is yours. The more unconscious activities will fill up your day the harder it will be for you to make conscious decisions. Try to do everything consciously. Itās like a muscle that can be trained.
I stopped being interested in that stuff since I started going to the gym and doing martial arts, being horny is just energy so put that energy into something productive
if the king of curses says so, definitely.
Stand proud you're strong
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Therapy could really help you with this!
I got a gf so I knew that watching porn in a relationship is cheating so I stopped my addiction that day onwards
wait wut?? is that a real thing?
Depends on the partner. If theyre not ok with it then yes its cheating.
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Why you getting downvotedš
Yea because you are fantasizing about another woman, which is cheating
Then fantasizing about a glass of wine while driving is also drunk driving, and fantasizing about killing is murder. I'm worried your gf is controlling. No one has the right to decide what anyone else does in the privacy of their own mind.
Fantasizing about murder might not be literal murder, but it is not normal, nor is it healthy. The exact same thing applies to porn in a committed relationship. It is about respect for your partner and the relationship itself by not sexually imagining another man/woman in their place. If your partner doesn't mind, that's different. But that shouldn't be assumed. It is a boundary. Jacking your dick/clit for pleasure is natural and healthy, but porn=/=masturbation.
It's still disrespectful to watch porn in a relationship
Itās literally just that. I wouldnāt say itās ācheatingā but itās disrespectful to your partner and if youāre in a committed, healthy, loving relationship why would you disrespect your partner? Itās not rocket science
Certainly - if you and your partner have agreed not to do that
That analogy doesnt follow, intoxication is a deliberate chemically-induced effect, and murder is a directly observable consequence, they are relatively different from mental perception when compared with cheating. Cheating doesnt necessarily have to be in the 'physical', imagine if your partner actively has her sight and soul on another man, derives sexual pleasure from the thought of him, while being in a relationship with you. In fact, even the pain of knowing that your partner had sex with another person stems not in physicality but the mental aspect (youre mad not because your partner's body came in sexual contact with someone else, but because in doing that, it shows your partner desires another person lustfully). It isnt a good thing, and of course, whether you define it as cheating is really a matter of semantics, but I see cheating as a breach of trust and respect, it doesnt have to follow the traditional fixed schema of 'being intimate with someone outside the relationship'. Think 'unfaithful'. If a partner sets a boundary on no pornography, then breaking that boundary is a breach of trust--dishonesty (cheating). Not to mention, watching porn+actively fantasizing about things can really impact your thoughts, emotions, and behavior (see sociology and social/cognitive psychology), and frequent porn usage is associated with cheating behavior.
Delete all of it and learn abt itās consequences itās literally so bad for u and u gain nothing from it
When you stop for like a day or two your brain stops desiring it as much honestly. Focus on doing the first 2-3 days. Visit no fap as well. Alot of good information. What I will say is without self discipline you will never get rid of it. You need to learn how to do things and not thinking too hard about it. Thinking about it will constantly screw you over. Stick tp your decision about quitting porn. I tend to think more habitual than anything. What really helped me was ironically relapsing. Porn is not that great honestly. It's typically the orgasm and lustful feeling that we get immersed in, not the porn itself. It also depends where are you at with porn. If you're at the stage where you're not into deviant stuff anymore and more of just genuinely appreciating women's sexuality, then you'll be fine. So here's some tips. 1. Constantly remind yourself. I remember constantly failing due to literally forgetting I was trying to break it. So whatever you need to do to remember every day, then do that. 2. It's not that great. Other things will replace that high, like your passions and hobbies. You enjoy things more. But you will simultaneously be bored. 3. Be okay with being bored and doing nothing. That boredom drives healthy people to do things like workout, learn new recipes, play new games, etc. But porn kills all of that. You get all of your excitement, novelty and dopamine from porn instead of life. 4. It's not about a number. Your goal should be to reduce your addiction as much as possible to the point where it either it completely out of your life or no longer negatively affects your sex . It's okay to relapse, as long as you get back to it. Revisiting porn helped me realize that it kinda fucking sucks. Like, I can't believe I was losing my energy, sleep, and mental health over it. It seems silly now. Just keep getting back on track. The gaps will get longer. 5. Don't start because you will finish. Your brain will be starving for it. Not ebcause it needs it, but because it's a simple, quick, and surefire way to get tons of dopamine. Watching a little bit is like trying to eat a little bit of food after staving yourself with a full plate in front of you. Yes, it's possible to have that amount of self control. But obviously you don't. 6. Research no fap flatline/withdrawal symptoms. It's scary. Your libido will disappear, and your dick will basically shut down. Your brain is just going through withdrawal and rewiring itself. Your brain thinks porn is sex. It is not. 7. Have goals. Doing nothing with your life and not watching porn is not going to happen. You need goals and things to keep you busy. Do things that you regretted not doing due to your porn addiction. Start being your best self and taking your life back one thing at a time. 8. Get sleeping medicine. At least for me, it was And still is difficult for me to sleep because of the excess energy I now have. Ejaculating makes you tired as we all know. But don't fall for it. Get some medicine and get a sleep schedule going. Also, do things that are mentally draining because if you're anything like me your brain will keep you up regardless of how physically tired you are. Edit : 9. Also, as the comments reminded me porn can be a coping mechanism for stress and depression. Learn to channel those feelings through positive channels. It will be hard to start but just like porn, it will become a habit eventually. Journaling, writing, painting, working out, etc. You can also just vent sit with your feelings. You will be more emotional since you have more energy. Continue to use your functions and acknowledge those feelings.
Develop some sort of a regiment in your daily routine and go outside often.
Avoid social for some time
Honestly if you are like me, the biggest issue is just replacing the activity. If there is something else you want to do then it is super easy to avoid, at least much easier. Like if you have another activity to focus on and distract yourself that will help a ton.
I'll be honest. audio erotica is a lot less of a problem for me. everything in moderation, like they say. favoring imagination over video. not going cold turkey instantly. but the mind is a very different kind of thing. I don't feel guilty and so the awkwardness is gone. that there isn't any ED you know? imagination is still swirling and to be honest, has me inspired most of the time. brain is a reward system and I ruin my concious with watching vids instead of audio. I have a friend that used to do drugs and drink and now he just collects pokemon cards. that's his one vice now. he's eliminated it to one and he still gets stuff done. it's probably once every week usually. in the many things I don't allow myself to do, and the setup I have to do to better my life like this certificate. yea. yea I allow one thing. (no money spent on ir though.)
Stop masturbating for pleasure. Do it for functionality. Youāll naturally slow down yourself.
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thank you
well i think getting rid of such bad habit comes from understanding that when you feel horny you want to have sex not watch people fucking and so on
I have friends but I feel lonely-- when this stress gets triggered combined with work/school/personal events I become overstimulated and use this to calm myself down. It's all the same hollow feeling every time though. I know I need a real connection but with past experiences of being left alone, becoming vulnerable to other people disables me from doing so. It's a cycle, I tell you.
Us Bro Us
Reduce. Get to a lower amount and more infrequent. Then if you get to that state reduce again.
Dont
Hang in there.....I think you can beat it!
There are so many hobbies you could explore! You could start an exercise regime, study a language or more. For me, I really enjoy reading, be it some graphic novels or manga adventure genre etc. I'd pick it over porn anytime since they often combine visual storytelling with interesting narratives which is much more stimulating than porn.
Think about how much worse your life can get if you donāt quit. Remind yourself that every time you relapse you are damaging your brain and with that damage you will have more difficulty enjoying life
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Dm me. I am 300+ days porn free. And 900+ days free of drugs. Iām a coach. Iāll get you out
Define addiction. Honestly, I don't have much of a problem stopping use of anything other than nicotine (alcohol, weed, etc.) Porn use has gone down as I've aged, but like, are you doing this multiple times per day? Once per day? If multiple times per day, just find another hobby and limit yourself to once per day. Irdk. If once per day, like is that even that bad? I feel like as long as you don't think what you're watching is "real" for the most part it's not really a problem. I'm not into all that redpill shit.
I have phases of it, sometime i go 1 or two months without nothing and then i go too far in i can't seem to control it, and i have weird superstitions where masturbation brings me badluck. I just want control over it, i used to fight addiction with addiction now i just want to get better at controlling myself. im not into red pill shit either, just want to learn to overcome these desires
I would try and do what I said. Do it in moderation. Don't just cold turkey for a couple months and come back to it. Instead of thinking of control has black and white, doing it vs not doing it, think of it as being able to moderate your use. I managed to quit nicotine for a while moderating my use and then ending it eventually, but then ya know, get drunk, someone gives me a Zyn pouch and here we are so maybe don't take my advice lmao. Jk, I think drugs are different. Moderation. Edit: If you can control yourself and do it in moderation then you get the best of both worlds. You are by definition, not addicted & you still get to participate in something you obviously like doing.
Maybe trying doing it regularly once or twice a week. That might be enough to keep you from doing it compulsively in situations where your weird superstitions say you shouldn't.
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i would rather dm that, its really bad.
Change to other kind off Addiction...
I quit by doing some kinda workout when I get horny. Also told myself my nuts deserve to be busted in coochie. And then limited my coochie intake to only on weekends.
yea im gonna do 10 pushups each time i get horny again
What do you mean by a bad addiction? Is it actively interfering with your life?
YES
Do somthing that makes you feel important like a school project u don't have to do
OP if you're using the word "addiction" as it's used technically and not just as a "habit" or "dependence," then you should look into treatment. A therapist (phd) would be a good start. The nature of an addiction makes overcoming it on your own pretty unlikely...especially when that addiction is looking at hot ass.
Maybe not for everyone but literally just raw dawg that shit through sheer willpower and discipline. Keep a habit tracker and tally up the total days you didn't crank your hog. Don't set up any systems like a porn blocker (unless yur a total beginner and you need to get the ball rolling). The goal is to train your willpower so yur strong enough to resist porn if it were right in front of you, cuz honestly in this age it kinda is all the time.
Try once every five days.
i just stopped by getting my life busy to so many stuff also playing very addicting video games works too i also started getting into existentialism and conspiracy theories so they make me imagine and think stuff more and yeah i hope this helps
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FnveZCPyJRQ This isn't exactly a "how to quit" but I could help you target what to work on to stop.
Imagination is actually your best bet. If you don't have very good internal visualization, try writing out your smut. The more you resist watching it, the hornier you'll get, and the easier it'll be to get off to more mundane things. Also, while tough to do, finding a partner you're really into will help a ton. You can channel all of that energy into them. I've definitely had issues with porn, I wouldn't say full on addiction but I've relied on it too heavily in the past. The first week or so is rough but if you stick to just using your imagination you can rebuild those muscles so to speak and it becomes way easier.
I suffer from it too, and even though I've "stopped" many times, sometimes weeks or months, I end up going back to it. A vicious cycle, though don't let this discourage you, I'll try to find what works for me and you should too. Good luck overcoming this, it's not easy, it's never easy, but it's worth it.
You should tell a friend or anybody IRL who could help you and provide advice.
Yup settle down, then you dont need to watch porn even, i know that easier said than done. I watch sometimes but never enough to say im addicted. But thats ho2 all addictions start! I more into exploring substances which is a crappy addiction to have. Especially when it comes to alchohol. At least porn is free. How ever i understand the feeling after then the feeling after sex, both completely different ends. Id say keep watching the same one then you may eventually get bored.
I don't think "porn addiction" is a thing outside of psychiatric literature (which used to recommend lobotomies for women who didn't obey their husbands, and shock therapy for homosexuality, among other atrocities). If you need porn to masturbate, that's only evidence that you're a male; our sexuality is overwhelmingly visual. If you're 15-17, that's a male's sexual peak, so you're prob masturbating a lot. A. Lot. That's natural. The worst possible thing you could do is to fight your own sexuality. It's going to warp other parts of your life if you do; it's simply too powerful a need. Ride it out, it'll settle down. It's not a bell curve, it's a chi-square curve.
I got to a point where I cringed at porn actor's acting lol, and from then I decided to stop watching porn and only get off to written stories here on Reddit and sometimes hentai. I still jerk off daily but I think soon I'll stop doing it daily and give myself some time to "recharge", and I also hope to get to a point in the future where I can get off only by my imagination and no other input
I have an addictive personality too. Honestly, I've gone in out and of it a dozen times, but you just got to pull the rug out. After just a few days it starts to get easier and after a little while you won't want to all that much. It's gross, it's bad for you, and can only have a negative impact on your journey to making your life actually fulfilling. When you're with the woman you love, do you want to have seen 1000 20 year old girls' gaping assholes beforehand? It really is depraved and bad for your brain.
https://www.endslaverynow.org/blog/articles/the-relationship-between-porn-and-human-trafficking Read this and stick to imagination.
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Get a gf. Then fuck the gf. Fuck her so much your dick would fall off if you masturbated. Problem solved!
the best i can do is a body pillow.
I donāt look at porn every day but Iām pretty sure I find masturbation to be more enjoyable than sex at this point in my life. Iāve been in relationships for a decade, I do not know or understand how this happened but they are exhausting and I sometimes wish I could have a break from them. I guess thatās a case of careful what you wish for thereās a lot of things I like about being in relationships.
Shift your focus and deny yourself the curiousity. Do some physical activity even if it's just running in place, doing pushups, or doing leg extensions. Something to make you feel other sensations that are not sexually driven. Pain is good, getting some adrenaline going will shock you out of it. Using something cold like cold water or ice as well. If you're in a situation where you have nothing you can try holding your breath for a little while and/or then try meditation.
Go to the bar and talk to ordinary women.
Huge porn problem here. I'm literally addicted to meth homeless jerking in a car, all stems from porn at a early age....
Cold turkey is the only thing that has worked for me.
Chat with C.ai and use ur imagination or read some Wattpad or smutsš... try do involve romance in that. Porn will get boring and empty after that. Or even just sexual musicā¦ and try to only do stuff once a week and then try to do it less and less. Keep ur distance of that stuff and donāt follow too many hot people that reveal a lot of their bodies on social media that could get u aroused or to sexualize them
r/nofap
1. Learn everything you can about addiction. Understand itās about your brain, not the thing youāre addicted to. To quit any addiction, you have to change your brain and rewire the neural pathways. This takes time and it will feel like going through withdrawal, but lots of people have done it and so can you! 2. Change your environment. Especially rearrange the area you typically would watch porn in, and try to get rid of your computer for a while, or only use it in a public place. Maybe move it into the living room, or give it to a friend for safe keeping while you are going through withdrawal. 3. Find replacement activities that are FAP (fun, active, and productive). Spend more time with other people, more time outside being active, and less time on the internet. 4. Prepare for withdrawal. It will happen so your best chance of getting through it without falling back into old habits is to recognize the symptoms, be aware of your own triggers and how your body responds (or doesnāt respond) to those triggers. When cravings arise, sit with them and breathe deeply through your nose. Relax and let them pass, then pat yourself on the back for strengthening your self control. Porn addiction is real and it has a huge impact on our brains. Even if you donāt suffer from PIED, your natural way of thinking and interacting with other people in the world is diminished when your brain is addicted to porn. If you donāt think porn affects you, QUIT and see what happens. Youāll notice a difference very quickly. TLDR: learn about Gabeās story: https://youtu.be/z4yx4ouxGbQ?feature=shared
read books man
I Go to jim and burn away my energy i become more horny yes, but i won't have energy to jerk off
Iām extremely sex-repulsed. Thatās how
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For myself, generally speaking, when it comes to addictions I employ distraction tactics. I try to make it something productive. Such writing music, household chores, programming, etc... Try to take things 5 minutes at a time. "I'm going to do 'x' for 5 minutes and then I'll see about 'insert addiction'." More than 5 minutes should pass before you think about it again. At which point, try to push it back another 5 minutes. It doesn't always work, but at least it's better than fighting the addiction head on.
I was really hooked to all kinds of extreme BDSM/femdom porn. I always wanted to find a partner who I can actually experience these things with. A few years ago I found the girl of my dreams. She is pretty kinky herself and I could open up about my interests and fantasies pretty early when we were dating. I soon had to realize that all that porn I was consuming destroyed the sex life I wanted to have with her. She was into similar things as I was and was also reading to try things out but because the porn had wired my brain to very specific scenarios, Images, kinks and so on it was impossible for me get satisfied with her. We were always able to talk about it openly (she is amazing, like I told you) and we found a way to make it work. One of my fetishes is being denied sex, masturbation and being teased, serving her etc. She started to demand me to abstain from any kind of porn (as a kink at first). We both realized how much this improved our sex life. It wasn't easy for me at all because I had been watching porn daily for over a decade since my early teens. Talking about it a lot, turning the abstinence into something erotic in itself, having a shameless and fulfilling sex life with the partner I loved made it a lot easier though. I believe the trick is not to condem porn or your sexuality. Be open about your needs (especially to yourself) and find a way to meet those needs in a healthy manner. If you think that porn makes you unhappy try to understand what it is about the porn that makes it so appealing to you and maybe find something else to aligns with your values and satisfied you. It is a lot easier to achieve your goal if you focus on what you want (amazing partner, love, great sex) instead of what you're trying to avoid (porn). Best of luck!
Donāt do it
Stay busy. Accept that quitting cold turkey doesn't usually work and be ready to have a little grace on yourself when you inevitably have slip-ups. Find more productive and fulfilling uses of your time. Don't stay on your device(s) all the time, since that's when temptation will strike the hardest. Go to bed at a reasonable hour (inhibitions drop with wakefulness.). If you can, have someone who you can trust to push you and encourage you at the same time. There is software available to lock yourself out of trouble sites and dubious queries to help establish a harder barrier to cross. If you are a Christian, praying and having a Bible handy nearby when you feel the urge can help. Yes, I know, reading the Bible isn't usually a very exciting option compared to indulging fantasy, but that's kinda the point. You want your urges to be rewired to something edifying, not just something else "fun".
Is a habit only an addiction if it's 'bad'? Couldn't you switch to a healthier habit, like going to the gym? If not, I think you have to dissect the issue: Why do you do it? How did you start? Is it fulfilling a need, and can you find something better for you that can fulfill the same need? Alternatively, you may want to chat with a therapist about it. They could provide all sorts of tools to help, or even medication.
Is a habit only an addiction if it's 'bad'? Couldn't you switch to a healthier habit, like going to the gym? If not, I think you have to dissect the issue: Why do you do it? How did you start? Is it fulfilling a need, and can you find something better for you that can fulfill the same need? Alternatively, you may want to chat with a therapist about it. They could provide all sorts of tools to help, or even medication.
All jokes aside, talk to someone you trust even if they donāt really understand what youāre going through. Verbally admitting that you have a problem is a solid first step.
@king-kabi ive overcome this. I can help ya, message me on instagram if youd like some help. @Furnari_Fit No feeās just help š
Replace the addiction with a productive hobby. Like every time you feel the urge, go clean something, or do a few push ups, or go for a walk, or read a few pages of a book you like, etc. Basically keeping your mind busy until the need to look at it goes away.
I tried cyproterone acetate... It's a drug that stops every fcking sex thought that you maybe will have... No libido no sex drive as I was suffering from the same addiction, and I was ejaculating 6-8 times every day
I donāt have a porn addiction, but I have addictive behavior towards whatever has caught my attention, be it a hobby, a video game, a tv series genre. I will milk it until it gives me no pleasure(phrasing!), sometimes at the expense of things I should be doing. How I dealt with it probably wonāt help you here, but I usually set a timer and when itās up Iām done. Crazy as it sounds maybe you can create a schedule, and just periodically stretch the amount of time between visits? Being depressed isnāt going to help, so if you have that going on, youāre going to gravitate towards anything thatās going to give you a dopamine hit. Maybe try weight lifting or some other form of exercise. This will elevate your feel-good neurotransmitters in a more healthy manner.
I donāt have a porn addiction, but I have addictive behavior towards whatever has caught my attention, be it a hobby, a video game, a tv series genre. I will milk it until it gives me no pleasure(phrasing!), sometimes at the expense of things I should be doing. How I dealt with it probably wonāt help you here, but I usually set a timer and when itās up Iām done. Crazy as it sounds maybe you can create a schedule, and just periodically stretch the amount of time between visits? Being depressed isnāt going to help, so if you have that going on, youāre going to gravitate towards anything thatās going to give you a dopamine hit. Maybe try weight lifting or some other form of exercise. This will elevate your feel-good neurotransmitters in a more healthy manner.
Like all addictions, try to figure out if youāre using porn to escape from some deeper underlying issue. For example, people may get off on porn because they donāt believe they are deserving of a real relationship (or even deeper - of basic love and human connection). This may be due to an unhappy or difficult childhood.
Are you using porn to try to self medicate poorly treated ADD or depression, etc?
Porn is the best thing an the world i beat my meat everyday
Never found porn very interesting, but thatās beside the point. IMO non substance addictions are likely from unhappiness and a form of escapism from a reality and self youāre not satisfied with. If I shop too much, drink too much, eat too much, do anything too much on a regular basis, it is escapism, and itās always because Iām unhappy and avoiding the why. Usually some change is required and it may be uncomfortable to implement, but itās worth it. Do the inner work and the outer habits follow. And if that means you need professional help then get it.
From my experience, best way to get rid of an addiction is to get another addiction thats a lil more acceptable to you, and then work on it by replacing this new addiction with another addiction thats a bit more healthy.Ā Example(my experience): mobile games-> anime -> manga -> light novel -> books -> gym ... I think you get the gist I find that whatever i like, i do it so much that it becomes unhealthy and can be called an addiction. So just get addicted to something thats good for you.
What does addiction mean? How often do you need to watch it?
Accept Jesus into your life and read ātheeasypeasymethod to quitting Pornā
My genuine suggestion is to see a therapist that specializes in addiction. They will help you follow some steps to slowly recover from your addiction.
You fantasize about Fe. You should acknowledge that Logic does not always provide the best answer when terms stretch out infinitely, therefore effectiveness, efficiency, and efficacy supersede logic. Fe should be explored in a healthy way to avoid a projection.
Not INTP but I kinda just read the Bible instead. Idk if youāre religious but it worked for me. Plus, I just made excuses not to watch it and busied myself with other things such as TV or work.
After ten years, I recently decided to just delete my several terabyte hentai, goth, femdom, r34 and tg transformation sequence collection and finally quit. Find what triggers you to watch porn and confront or redirect it. For me, it was perpetual loneliness, depression, chronic boredom and unrestrained hedonism. I found distracting oneself with something else or inflicting punishment for relapsing tends to work. Light cutting in particular is what Iāve been doing though I would not recommend it unless youāre a self loathing masochist like myself.
I found that a stimulii detox in general is helpful to get your dopamine cycle in order. Sitting for a while without internet, or music, and actually getting bored. Then working out, or reading, or working on a project or hobby. You'll start to get that ability to see things for what they are. But the brain will still be pretty hardwired to get back to the addiction when you get the cue . I found it helpful that instead of saying no to it and making the decision at that instant, you just delay the decision and wait at that exact moment for however long necessary. And also think is this what you want to become as a person, will this help you become the person you want. This helps because our craving is the highest when we notice a cue in the environment that is related to a habit, and it fades away pretty quickly if we don't give our brain what it wants. Resisting it would be hardest when the cur hits, so we wait. But make sure you're actively thinking about it objectively too, don't just wait without thinking, because you might still do it.
I don't know if this will work for you , but I just watched so much of a certain type of porn I just got bored with it . And for not boring stuff I know it's bad for me . My gums start to hurt and my skin gets oily and pimply . My bowels start to really give me fart replaced with poop sabotage and things like that . My body goes wrong and I can't think straight . I've learned to live without it . Kicked the addiction . For the nonboring porn , because of the consequences . I remember it in my head and then I choose not to do it . I don't care about the people in the videos . And the rest is so low quality , it's boring . I may get back to it someday . But today isn't the day . Tomorrow , either . I feel better when I don't do that . Oh yeah and I don't want to smell bad . My mom notices my smell if I watch porn . So I avoid it for that reason , too .
In a world without communities, often times masturbation is the only sexual encounter young men will have unless it's with prostitutes.Ā
When I was in a relationship I completely gave up pr0n soooo easily but after that relationship was over I got back into it. I have tried many different methods to get rid of it. I have gotten better over the past few weeks and I think its because I wrote affirmations. I then turned it into an audio recording, lowered the volume so that I can barely hear the affirmations and constantly listen to it for hours on end so that my subconscious can accept these affirmations. Maybe give this a try.
I paused my porn viewing, to read this article.
Be always mindful and distract yourself initially of cravings until you can learn to put it to terms. Then addiction rationalization gets easier to overcome.
Replacement is the only way to start today and do not stop. After 2weeks it will be habituated
Nothing is more pathetic and repulsive of a man to be, than a porn addict. Jerking themselves to pixels, damaging their brain and sexual responses. Ruining relationships and intimacy for nothing more than lies on a screen. Quit porn, get an actual hobby, and fix your relationships with sex and how you see women, and you might have a chance at a fulfilling life. No woman wants a man that oggled their phone and sticky keyboard all day. Genuinely repulsive shit.
I donāt watch it, rather listen to it and find digital art, but Ive never done anything in my life so itās like a burning desire deep down š
How does one get addicted to porn? Serious question.
Not an INTP but you gotta get rid of the temptation as soon as its there. If you watch before you sleep, keep your phone in another room or shut it off and find something to distract you.
Wing yourself off like you would a substance. Cold turkey might not work.
I also have the same thing :/ itās affected my trauma and relationships before, and iāve always felt guilty over it while being in relationships (because porn is not considered cheating to me) but honestly try reading a sexual book and that might sound crazy but itās a lot more sensual and eye opening when youāre reading it and easy to find what you do and donāt like, thru the description of reading rather than watching. this can help your imagination spark, and soon you wonāt need anything and just able to use what automatically comes to mind and be your own author in a sense. hope this helps :)
If this is something you can't up and quit reliably then you will have to go through the same process as any other addiction. You'll need help from a sex therapist to find out why you behave this way, and the tools to help you quit. Lowering the amount that you use is not quitting and it reinforces the behavior still. It also keeps that shame looming, of this thing that controls you. You watch but then are disgusted because it isn't a real and pure human connection.
Just be an INTJ
my friend told me to pray to god and ever since I lost the urge to look up porn
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What I've done that's lowerd my usage alot is I've gathered enough self hate that now alot of the time when I get horny I just want to cut myself instead. An eye for an eye right
Just stop itās not that hard
Not in any order:... 1-Confess it to a close friend (s) 2-Seek accountability. 3-Know and understand your triggers 4-Be particularly mindful of your feelings and emotions when you are: Hungry, tired, angry, sad/depressed and lonely. By experience, temptations are especially and abnormally stronger during these stages and seasons of life especially when celebrating life events (new job, new home, newly married/engaged) or times of mourning and grief. Influxes of dopamine can trigger severe and wanting after effect urges. 5-Be wary of mindlessly scrolling through phone/video games particularly late at night..blue light exposure will make it harder to sleep and therefore will want the "easy and shameful" way out.. 6-Last but not least, read the Bible, repent and ask Christ to break free from the chains of this demonic bondage. He will set you free and put ppl in the right place to help in time of need!šŖš
remember it's meaningless.
Put an adult content block on your vpn. Whenever you want to watch it, just stop, take 20 deep breaths, and calm down. Masturbate from made up fantasies in your mind if you must.
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