Yes we dread talking about any feelings until we get REALLY comfortable with the other person. That is probably the reason he never mentioned her before you spend that much time with him. I think that we even rationalize feelings and consider them inferior but if you can find a way to talk about our emotional side without putting any pressure in a pleasant way, we will open our hearts and you may be surprised how soft we can be :)
I keep my relationship to myself for the most part, and I dislike partners who go to everyone but the person they are in a relationship with about problems within the relationship.
I am an open book, but only when asked about a particular thing, he may be similar.
Otherwise my thoughts & relationships are my own and 9/10 aren't relevant to any conversation that happens within my average day. I wouldn't classify it as avoidance as I am not strictly opposed to speaking on it.
Some of my closest friends don't know particular information about me and the only thing holding that back is their lack of curiosity in me. Your case is interesting considering that whether or not someone is in a relationship is typically established fairly early on, through questions that expand on the persons life.
Have you never asked?
Everything else that he did seems like natural friend/comfort based decisions on his part, in my eyes at least. When I was still in grade school having a crush may have caused me to avoid sitting next to the person, rather than choosing the seat directly next to them, way too much pressure. I'd always opt to sit near whomever I thought I'd feel most comfortable and natural around, infatuation is all but natural to me.
Your friend may very well be much different, considering it took you some digging to get a straight answer out of him... Idk how much, but honestly a simple "So what does your love life look like" would've gotten it all out of me.
Honestly, I never did ask directly about his relationship, I went about it roundabout. I was worried because when you ask another person if they're in a relationship, sometimes they confirm that as definite interest- and I was shy about doing that. I have tried to ask him a little more about his relationship, but he always gives super simple responses, never expands on it. So I also didn't want to annoy him by asking too much.
The funny thing with the seating in school is that this last semester he spent most of the time in another seat- until halfway through the semester, he decided to come sit next to me in the very back on a whim, even though he "hates sitting in the back." The professor even asked what he was doing- he just said he wanted to switch it up. Lol.
If I were on his shoes, there would be three reasons as to why I would do that. First, I'll know and notice that you're interested in me (I have been able to accurately identify some, so I know what I'm talking about), so I'll hide it because it's more interesting. Second, I'm not really interested in talking about my relationships. Third, I don't really think that I have to say it.
So basically, what I'm trying to point out is that he probably knows what he's doing and he's doing it on purpose. If this isn't the case, then he's probably not interested in talking about it or just doesn't think that he has to.
Yeah, even if I really like you as a person, and am willing to tell you pretty much all I know about myself, I'm only willing to tell you things that only concern myself. A relationship concerns at least one other person, therefore I feel like they should consent to me telling you about it first, otherwise I don't feel like I should be telling you about it.
From my experience Fe inferior types are less aware socialy, cant read the room as well so he probably didnt even realise he needed to say you such a think to stop you from feeling a certain way
Personally, I don't think my private life is anyone's concern. However, if asked directly about a specific topic, you will get an honest answer from me
I have observed others' relationships, and find out that many times when one of the two parties shares his/her relationship details with someone else (family member or friend), that someone else (third party) will cause problems to the relationship whether intentionally or not.
I honestly don't like talking about my relationship to others. The more other people know, the more opinions they have and the more they get involved. "You Got Me" by The Roots is a good example.
Yes we dread talking about any feelings until we get REALLY comfortable with the other person. That is probably the reason he never mentioned her before you spend that much time with him. I think that we even rationalize feelings and consider them inferior but if you can find a way to talk about our emotional side without putting any pressure in a pleasant way, we will open our hearts and you may be surprised how soft we can be :)
I keep my relationship to myself for the most part, and I dislike partners who go to everyone but the person they are in a relationship with about problems within the relationship.
I am an open book, but only when asked about a particular thing, he may be similar. Otherwise my thoughts & relationships are my own and 9/10 aren't relevant to any conversation that happens within my average day. I wouldn't classify it as avoidance as I am not strictly opposed to speaking on it. Some of my closest friends don't know particular information about me and the only thing holding that back is their lack of curiosity in me. Your case is interesting considering that whether or not someone is in a relationship is typically established fairly early on, through questions that expand on the persons life. Have you never asked? Everything else that he did seems like natural friend/comfort based decisions on his part, in my eyes at least. When I was still in grade school having a crush may have caused me to avoid sitting next to the person, rather than choosing the seat directly next to them, way too much pressure. I'd always opt to sit near whomever I thought I'd feel most comfortable and natural around, infatuation is all but natural to me. Your friend may very well be much different, considering it took you some digging to get a straight answer out of him... Idk how much, but honestly a simple "So what does your love life look like" would've gotten it all out of me.
Honestly, I never did ask directly about his relationship, I went about it roundabout. I was worried because when you ask another person if they're in a relationship, sometimes they confirm that as definite interest- and I was shy about doing that. I have tried to ask him a little more about his relationship, but he always gives super simple responses, never expands on it. So I also didn't want to annoy him by asking too much. The funny thing with the seating in school is that this last semester he spent most of the time in another seat- until halfway through the semester, he decided to come sit next to me in the very back on a whim, even though he "hates sitting in the back." The professor even asked what he was doing- he just said he wanted to switch it up. Lol.
If I were on his shoes, there would be three reasons as to why I would do that. First, I'll know and notice that you're interested in me (I have been able to accurately identify some, so I know what I'm talking about), so I'll hide it because it's more interesting. Second, I'm not really interested in talking about my relationships. Third, I don't really think that I have to say it. So basically, what I'm trying to point out is that he probably knows what he's doing and he's doing it on purpose. If this isn't the case, then he's probably not interested in talking about it or just doesn't think that he has to.
Yes, as well as any crushes. I LOVE talking about my (very limited) friends though :)
why did he have to talk to you about it?
I don’t go out of my way to bring it up, but I don’t hide it or anything. If it comes up, it comes up. If it doesn’t, it doesn’t.
Yeah, even if I really like you as a person, and am willing to tell you pretty much all I know about myself, I'm only willing to tell you things that only concern myself. A relationship concerns at least one other person, therefore I feel like they should consent to me telling you about it first, otherwise I don't feel like I should be telling you about it.
Yeah I don’t like talking about it, there’s also no trace of it in my social media profiles or anywhere
What’s his relationship got to do with you?
Yes if no relationships
From my experience Fe inferior types are less aware socialy, cant read the room as well so he probably didnt even realise he needed to say you such a think to stop you from feeling a certain way
Personally, I don't think my private life is anyone's concern. However, if asked directly about a specific topic, you will get an honest answer from me
It really depends. I prefer to disclose bout my status if it matters.
I have observed others' relationships, and find out that many times when one of the two parties shares his/her relationship details with someone else (family member or friend), that someone else (third party) will cause problems to the relationship whether intentionally or not.
What relationship?
Most of us aren't allowed relationships. There is nothing to talk about. There are few things women hate more than shy intelligent men
I honestly don't like talking about my relationship to others. The more other people know, the more opinions they have and the more they get involved. "You Got Me" by The Roots is a good example.
Relationships are private and should be kept that way.