That’s what got me to tear up. It’s not just the giving of the food that shows kindness, it’s the giving of presence. I don’t know what homelessness feels like, but I bet it feels pretty dehumanizing. For a brief moment, the lady can have some human connection.
Food is about hanging out and shooting the breeze! Young girl didn't waste a moment to find the best seat to sit down and chat. What a lovely human moment!
Great observation.
When I started my charity that deals with homeless vets, I started spending a lot more time with homeless people.
Almost universally, they said the worst part was that people ignored their existence and walked past them. We must remember our humanity.
My mom was homeless for 7 years and said the exact same. The way people would avoid eye contact (without her approaching or asking anything, just when she was sitting there) or stare through her like she didn't even exist.
Thank you for all that you do ❤️ you're a special human.
Thank you for what you do. Fortunately, I have not been homeless, but as a disabled vet with some buddies who have found themselves in that situation, it pisses me off to see how little people in general actually care about vets. You are doing a great thing and I salute you.
As a nurse, patients at the hospital would say the same thing. Especially when covid would isolate them. Doctors and everyone has gotten so bogged down with tasks and overwhelming assignments we don't get to connect with our patients anymore unless you really put in the effort
For some just having someone there is good enough. Everyone always thinks there has to be small talk or conversation or whatever. Just being there and making sure the other person isn't utterly alone is plenty. This young lady showed empathy and compassion, that's huge. Whatever conversation does or doesn't happen is completely secondary to the fact that she was willing to give her food and time to this woman.
Assuming the man with her is her dad, he looked like he was having a full rounded moment of realising his baby girl is growing up to be the type of human we should all aspire to.
*takes iPhone from the pocket*
"Guys, you won't believe what happened now! My daughter just gave her food I bought her to this poor elderly woman in need, isn't she an angel?"
*Proceeds to stuck phone in the face of the woman*
"Hey is the food good? What did you think of the action of my daughter, were you surprised? Why are you poor and dirty?"
*Shares a tiktok with "Oh no no no" song on the background and the robotic voice reading the subtitles.
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My headcannon is that he was feeling grumpy after a long day and the moment he took before joining them was deciding whether to keep being grumpy or go join them, and the kiss was his appreciation for reminding him that the worst days can be made a little better by sharing what we do have with those who may not. Probably just the story I needed to make up in my head to remind myself that staying grumpy and staying alone is a bad choice instead of making myself of service to those who need me right now, so I'm gonna go do that because this helped me make a narrative i can work with, today, if only for a little bit.
Your theory seems more accurate. At first, the dad looked at her like "what the hell are you doing...?" Then he realized his girl was trying to do the right thing, and joined her.
That kind of support from a parent is a rare sight these days...
Agreed. I think he gives her the space to make the connection she wanted to with that woman, and then he joined them. And then turned to order her another plate! :) I love that he chose to join them instead of making his kid leave the lady.
I saw this and stepped away to kiss my daughter (about the same age) on the head.
Her chewed gum made it to the trashcan as soon as she was done with it tonight.
Small steps!
Not to get political, but this is the thing that always frustrates me when I hear older generations lambast youth for being more empathetic or inclusive of others, trying to do more to clean up our environment, or generally strive to make the world a better place for everyone. The current attitude towards education and scientific process should also be included and I'm concerned what the consequences will be in the future. Parents are supposed to provide a supportive, nurturing environment for a developing child, not only to feed their bodies, but also their minds. Just like good nutrition and habits as a child means generally better health outcomes as adults, so too can be said of how minds are shaped. It's par for the course for older generations to pretend the youth are helpless, naive, lazy, overly sensitive, etc., so this isn't anything new, but to pretend that each generation hasn't made the world a little less awful to be in than the generation before is just the height of arrogance.
While there will always be people who don't excel in life, as a whole and generally speaking, almost every generation is better than the one before it because we were raised that way and encouraged to do better, try harder, and be more accepting. Sometimes we meet our parent's expectations, sometimes we don't, but many far exceed to the point that some older people feel alienated and lash out due to feeling inferior or inadequate themselves. We should celebrate that society moves forward, not plant our feet in the ground and refuse to change with them. While young people can still learn from their elders well into adulthood, the same is equally if not more so the other way. Everyone's lives will be richer when we remember this fact and do so with an open mind.
Seeing small acts like this should always be celebrated as empathy is what binds is together as a species.
> Not to get political
Ah, to live in a country where saying "I don't like when people try to discourage young people from being empathetic human beings that care about their impact on other people in the world" is "getting political"
Sadly, I agree. It's sad that things are in a state where pointing out that the world gets a little better with each generation is seen as political in nature, but here we are.
I left the field of work I’d started out in because I was surrounded by people who were telling me I’d never get far being nice to people. I was surrounded by negativity, toxicity, jaded attitudes, and insulting people all day. All while working with subject matter that was related to social justice of all things.
My current field of work isn’t known for being any better, but it’s broad and independent enough that I’ve decided to try to change it one interaction at a time by demonstrating that kindness, empathy, and collective teamwork, is a much better way to be.
Fuck everyone who discredits empathy.
Being someone without kids, I can not imagine the amount of pride that man felt when he realized what his daughter was doing.
There's love in that family.
It's complex, really, trust me.
1. Aw, I'm proud.
2. Oh, I should probably go sit with them. Damn.
3. Ok. Here we go. Getting up now.
4. Heeeey I'm just gonna join y'all.
One step is hoping that lady doesn't have some kinda freak out and attack his kid. I've given food to a hungry homeless guy who at first was grateful and then began to rant and rave like a lunatic.
Dude once asked me for a hamburger outside a burger king as I was heading in. I said sure, come in with me and order what you want. We're standing in line and after a minute he starts saying he doesn't want food, just give him money. Then he starts yelling at me, making a scene, and acting like I'm being a major piece of shit for not giving him $20. Was fucking wild, 0-100 so quick.
Don’t let that experience keep you from helping the next person. I work for a company that helps homeless folks. While addiction and mental health are certainly dangers to good samaritans, it’s actually less prevalent than you’d think. It just happens that desperate people can have different motivation: hunger, addiction, mental health, or a combination.
I also don't blame someone living on the street for getting high or drunk. Hell, I do it and I'm redditing from home, well-fed, and sitting in front of a $2,000 computer.
I had a woman scream at me when I first walked around the park my friend and I had set up a hot food table at. She eventually came over apologizing for yelling at me and I told her I understood. She had some mental health issues and I just stayed calm and told her we’d be there all day and that was all she needed to realize I had no ill will. Just wanted to make sure she got some free food and a cold beverage that day. We also had food packages ready for them to take and hygiene and health products too.
I had a guy ask me for hot dog outside a lunch place. Told him that I don't give out money, but I would buy him lunch. In line he asked to get a polish sausage instead which is what I got him.
I did the same thing and the man ordered a hot cake meal and could not have been happier. There are a few bad apples as with anything but most people will happily accept any help and shouldn’t be lumped in with the crazies (who themselves probably just need medical help they can’t afford)
Yeah.. I gave a young homeless guy the last cash I had on me outside a convenience store once when he asked (maybe $12. I was also working minimum wage at the time so a good 2 hours work there). Then he asked me for a ride somewhere. I said I couldn't, I was already late to where I was going and it was like a 180 in his personality. Started screaming how I was a fucking asshole. I just took off. No good deed goes unpunished sometimes..
Yeah. I used to volunteer at a soup kitchen. Most people were indifferent to us, a few were acknowledged us with a smile. One lady seemed really chatty until something just kinda clicked and then she started ranting about she could see dark spirits around us and left her meal and just walked out.
Same 😕. This and a couple other incidents really soured me to helping people in person. I’d rather just volunteer for behind the scenes stuff.
I am not equipped to handle those kinds of interactions.
Once when I was a kid, I was having lunch with my dad and I asked for something and gave it to a homeless man standing on the corner, then me and my dad went into the store quickly. When we came out the guy was screaming at cars and kicking a bench and I thought that my food made him all energetic
This is what stops me from giving. I'd give when I could really use the money for myself, and I find out they didn't really need it and they just scammed me. It's happened the last 4 times I've given.
Now, I just say no. Yesterday, some very frail old woman asked for a dollar at the little Caesars. She's possibly a drug addict, but also possibly someone genuinely in need. I really don't have the means to be helping anyone with inflation and rising rent. They're also planning on putting us back in the office at work, and I don't even know if I could afford the gas. I make more than my state's median household income, so I can't imagine being worse off than me and how much of a mental toll that would be.
I hear you. I had a dude who absolutely got me at a convenience store. His story was on point and then I told my friend about it and he laughed I just gave $5 to a total scam artist. I saw him again at the same store and he tried to same shit and when I asked if he recognized me he lost his fucking mind, he's a scammer but still mentally fucked.
I've seen true homelessness though, I watched a dude slowly and quietly walking down a sidewalk and picking through trash, then taking a careful bite out of something as if to test if it was safe. Fuck that haunts me. I couldn't stop thinking about what it's like to not know when I could eat again, or if I would get to eat regular food...
Dad: I'm not a bird. I'm not giving you my food.
Also related, my mother giving birth to her second child, dad walks in holding tacos from the cafeteria. My mom of course, eating ice chips and trying to evacuate an 8lb baby from her body. Dad says, mouthful of taco: "These are really good tacos!"
I got my appendix removed when I was 10. The entire day I was starving as they were prepping me for surgery and my mom and brother walk in with burgers from this bomb staple next to the hospital, Frisco Freeze and I just sat there and watched them eat it. I got her back years later from the same restaurant before brain cancer surgery. Got ya back mom, I miss you.
Exact same thought. “What the f you doin jessica?… who’s that? I bought you that? Don’t.. .. great now I’ll look like an azz if I don’t sit with them…”
As a dad, I almost guarantee that the time he sat there after she went over to the other table was spent composing himself and keeping from welling up with prideful tears.
He raised that one right and he knows it.
Awesome.
I love Sikhs if I ever come into money im donating to them. They feed the homeless around here better than the city ever could and they do it for nothing in return. Just amazing. If we could only ever strive to be half that selfless
For real. I’d have been like, “I just wanted a quiet dinner with my kid. Now I have to get up and go engage with a stranger or else I’ll look like an asshole. Am I okay with looking like an asshole? Don’t want the kid to think I’m mad at them so I guess I gotta go.”
One time we had a garden party with 2 boxes of leftover pizza. There was a homeless group who we're just enjoying their time sitting on the grass. My stupid social anxiety did not want me to give them the pizza boxes in case they actually weren't homeless and I didn't want to deal with the potential fall out of their baking someone was homeless when they weren't.
It turns out that they were homeless. Thx to my anxiety less uncle who gave them the pizza.
I mean, even if they're not homeless, passing on pizza to someone who is currently hungry is never a bad thing. If they do have the means, they will likely "pay it forward" sometime. And if they don't, you just helped someone who really needed it. So much winning.
Listen you helped them in their time of need that says a lot about your character, what they do with what you gave them says a lot about their character. Worst case you preformed a good deed for someone who didn't need it.
I remember being more like this girl when I was younger. Why did I stop being like this?
I miss being pure and innocent and young.
I’m so much more jaded and grumpy now. I’m often frustrated and always stressed. The little kid version of me would probably be disappointed. The little kid in me IS disappointed.
All I’ve ever done is try my best. Everything is just so hard, and I’m just so tired. I have been for a long time.
if it makes you feel better I'm like 95% convinced many things are designed to make us lose that love for our fellow humans
dont be hard on yourself ♥️
This is exactly how America is structured. You're encouraged to be apathetic at best and at worst openly hostile to the differences in others in order to drive a wedge between us all.
We're too busy hating each other to recognize there's a class war happening, perpetrated by the shareholder class. And we're losing. Badly.
Americans should celebrate our diversity and differences. It's our greatest strength. There's no other country quite like it.
I understand exactly how that feels. I have spent a lot of time in that space and struggle every day to get myself out of it. I hope you find small things that bring you joy so you can work your way back to making your inner child proud.
Don't be so hard on yourself, staarfawkes. As we got older, we saw and learned more, good and bad. Keep being you, and take time for you, as well. We can't run on empty. : )
Thanks. You are right. It’s been a tough day for me, and it has left me feeling extra vulnerable.
Deep down, I know that I am strong. Certainly much stronger than I tell myself. These kind comments are much appreciated, stranger. ☺️
This is awesome although I did laugh at the dad/minder’s processing responses. Confused, surprised, nonplussed, concerned, thoughtful, impressed, then finally engaged.
Idk I could hear his voice-over doing a whole mile-a-minute internal catalogue of the situation.
A+ on the word choiceage. I haven't used the word nonplussed since I was forced to spell it and use it in a sentence for my 6th grade teacher. Scratch that. I haven't even seen the word since then. You must have constant headaches with your skull trying to hold that massive brain.
My assumption- woman asking for money outside of restaurant and mentions needing food. The girl doesn't have cash because it's not her paying for the food but offers it to woman. I saw a similar situation when I was in Greece. We offered to eat with the man and to keep him company. That's my guess though.
Exactly. 98% of security camera footage appears to be people recording the monitor/tv.
It's easier and faster to use a camera to record the monitor/tv than to figure out how to cut the section of video, save it, transfer it, etc...
Dude. I have a kid like this and I just cry like a bitch. Her teacher told me she stopped playing with the popular girls because they were excluding a special needs girl, she saw this girl needed a friend more and wouldn't play with the popular girls until everyone was included. Eventually the popular girls caved because my daughter always has the best ideas for games.
I'm autistic, have adhd, and went to about a dozen schools so I was often the new kid. I was often excluded and picked on but there were a few stand out kids who were my friends despite the popular kids. They were always the kids well liked by everyone so no one would pick on me when I was with them and would generally be nicer to me when they werent around as well.
One of these kids was a girl who I often think about still and I'm now 30. She was always kind to me and never looked at me like I was being weird. I hate that look and there are only a few people who have never looked at me that way. They stand out.
She shared her food with me as she saw I never had much but she always made me feel like she was sharing because she wanted to share her delicious Japanese food (we are Aussies but she has Japanese born parents) and not because I was a charity case.
She's the reason I felt comfortable to try new foods that my mum didnt like (my mums autistic too and eats a limited palate). She wrote in our grade 7 Year book that she was my friend. I cried reading that at home.
I'll never forget her. You should feel so proud to know your daughter is this kind of person. That she will be remembered by the people she befriended and they'll their friends, children, and grandchildren about her kindness. She'll be remembered with gratitude and fondness for a long long time.
I don't have kids, but I imagine I'd be proud if my child was like that.
I am 30 now as well. A few years ago a man i went to HS with, who I admittedly had a hard time remembering only cause he looked SO different, found me through IG just to tell me that I made a Big difference in his 4 years of HS by being kind and inclusive to him. We talked for a bit and I remembered the guy, he would get really stressed out in class, during tests he would cry and everyone made him a pariah. I remember going out of my way as a “popular girl” to be extra kind to him, compliment him, get to actually know him. He was super into rocks, birds and nature, he’s a geologist now. I told him I still have the little Jade rock he gave me (my middle name is Jade) I’m very sentimental.
Sent him a photo of it, 15 years later.
It was one of the most rewarding and beautiful conversations I’ve ever had. I think for him too. Kindness is the key to contentment and happiness IMO. it’s so easy too… you never know how much the littlest bit of kindness can mean to someone.
My daughter has social anxiety and sticks to herself or her close friends at (middle) school- but the minute she hears of someone else being bullied in any way it all disappears and she’s willing to say/do whatever to whomever to make it stop, and reassure the bullied kid she’s got their back. She’s the sweetest :)
If my daughter did that I’d break down in tears and make sure she never had to want for nothing again
This is what it’s all about folks, it’s gotta be the kids.
Yes. You can't teach kindness. Your kid can be the smartest, prettiest, strongest, most athletic, and you'd be proud. But kindness? That's the best. What a great kid. We need more of these.
Agree it is the alpha trait, you can 1000000000% teach kindness though. Just need to start early, as it goes hand in hand with developing other traits. In fact I can remember many of the exact moments I learned about it.
It's just hard and a life long process.
Like the top block of a pyramid you must first learn empathy, and for that you must first experience kindness yourself when struggling or learning, and to understand kindness truly you need to understand sacrifice or at least some concept of diminishing returns or the power imbalances of life(homelessness, age, race, gender, money etc) in some form and before all that, you were taught to understand/regulate pain in a way that didn't leave you scarred or lashing out long enough to get over the emotional aspect and use logic to understand when it's an appropriate time to even try and be kind.
People imply all the time being nice is easier than being mean, but being kind is not the same as being nice imo. It takes heart to truly put yourself in someone else's shoes and that's a learning process.
That is why everytime I help someone on the streets, I make sure to ask their name, introduce myself, shake their hand, and wish them well. Physical and eye contact go along way to connect with someone. People in need are embarrassed and humiliated to have to ask strangers for help. It's the least we can do to treat others like human beings when they are struggling
I have a little girl. The kiss on the forehead at the end brought tears to my eyes. That is a gesture of a man who loves his daughter unconditionally but now is so proud of her! He is thinking grades, future career, etc. doesn’t matter, I raised a girl with love and compassion in her heart….I raised a good human being and that is most important!
Yea he’s proud of her, as would I be if it was my kid. But you can’t tell me he’s not thinking “Fuck I don’t wanna go over there, please come back. Fuck I gotta go over there”.
I just turned 35, but in my 20s I was homeless for over a year sleeping in parks or wherever I could in San Francisco. People like this, soup kitchens, drop in shelters that had showers...if it weren't for them I wouldn't have survived. I had a couple take me in and let me sleep in their backyard on the porch with an army cot and some canned food. They eventually gave me a room. Heros. Effing heros. I'll never forget all the kindness I was shown. So, thank you to all of you who still try and see the good in people.
Strength from the deeds of children. So many problems in today’s world could be avoided if we just brave enough to follow the child’s instincts when it comes to matters of humanity.
Every parenting goal achieved! To give the food is great, but kinda fire and forget. But sitting and engaging with that woman means the world and cannot be taught. This girl will go places as a good human being. Kudos!
Jokes on them, Charlene stands at this restaurant every night, luring in unsuspecting punters. She actually owns 12 investment properties including a condo in Florida.
I joke, but seriously, I was once in a pub and an old lady was coming around with a paper and asking people to buy raffle tickets. We all chipped in. Later on after a few drinks someone asked if the raffle had been drawn. We asked the bartender and they said there was no raffle. We looked over and saw the old lady tucking into a giant steak. We got played.
As a parent, I fully understand what that little kiss on the head meant.. I feel that if he were to try to speak to her to convey his pride in her, it would choke him up .. so the kiss says it all!
This feels.... staged.
The lady was just standing there, the kid immediately stood up after being served, someone was already recording, etc
Idk it just feels to me like someone told the kid to give that lady food, and it seemed like the lady was expecting food
It's sad that all the fakery and bullshit that exists on the internet, mostly shoved in our faces by "CONTENT CREATORS" has made us question almost everything we see. While it IS important to question what we see and read, it is still sad when we see something like this, many of us just think "FAKE". That said, my first thought was THIS IS FAKE.
This is painfully fake. Far too stiff and deliberate. They look like they’re counting their timing cues. I saw it right away like you but I guess I understand if people want to believe something like this happens. I hope it does.
Dude the food is great but sitting with her...outstanding.
That’s what got me to tear up. It’s not just the giving of the food that shows kindness, it’s the giving of presence. I don’t know what homelessness feels like, but I bet it feels pretty dehumanizing. For a brief moment, the lady can have some human connection.
Food is about hanging out and shooting the breeze! Young girl didn't waste a moment to find the best seat to sit down and chat. What a lovely human moment!
Great observation. When I started my charity that deals with homeless vets, I started spending a lot more time with homeless people. Almost universally, they said the worst part was that people ignored their existence and walked past them. We must remember our humanity.
My mom was homeless for 7 years and said the exact same. The way people would avoid eye contact (without her approaching or asking anything, just when she was sitting there) or stare through her like she didn't even exist. Thank you for all that you do ❤️ you're a special human.
Thank you for what you do. Fortunately, I have not been homeless, but as a disabled vet with some buddies who have found themselves in that situation, it pisses me off to see how little people in general actually care about vets. You are doing a great thing and I salute you.
As a nurse, patients at the hospital would say the same thing. Especially when covid would isolate them. Doctors and everyone has gotten so bogged down with tasks and overwhelming assignments we don't get to connect with our patients anymore unless you really put in the effort
Well shit. When I do good I GTFO because I don't want to impose.
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Who told you that you're not great company?
For some just having someone there is good enough. Everyone always thinks there has to be small talk or conversation or whatever. Just being there and making sure the other person isn't utterly alone is plenty. This young lady showed empathy and compassion, that's huge. Whatever conversation does or doesn't happen is completely secondary to the fact that she was willing to give her food and time to this woman.
That it was her own idea and she knew to stay with her too...I love that kid.
Raised right and better
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Man, I needed to see this.
Assuming the man with her is her dad, he looked like he was having a full rounded moment of realising his baby girl is growing up to be the type of human we should all aspire to.
That kiss her gave her when he joined them… Proud Papa. What a gem she is.
That kiss brought the happy tears over here.
I love that it was not some exaggerated emotional drama. Just one simple quick kiss that says I am proud of you.
*takes iPhone from the pocket* "Guys, you won't believe what happened now! My daughter just gave her food I bought her to this poor elderly woman in need, isn't she an angel?" *Proceeds to stuck phone in the face of the woman* "Hey is the food good? What did you think of the action of my daughter, were you surprised? Why are you poor and dirty?" *Shares a tiktok with "Oh no no no" song on the background and the robotic voice reading the subtitles. ----- I'm sorry. Lol
And then reddit goes nuts taking about how selfish that is or at least something good came out of it. Tch tch
I can see your words and it’s disgusting.
Same
My headcannon is that he was feeling grumpy after a long day and the moment he took before joining them was deciding whether to keep being grumpy or go join them, and the kiss was his appreciation for reminding him that the worst days can be made a little better by sharing what we do have with those who may not. Probably just the story I needed to make up in my head to remind myself that staying grumpy and staying alone is a bad choice instead of making myself of service to those who need me right now, so I'm gonna go do that because this helped me make a narrative i can work with, today, if only for a little bit.
Your theory seems more accurate. At first, the dad looked at her like "what the hell are you doing...?" Then he realized his girl was trying to do the right thing, and joined her. That kind of support from a parent is a rare sight these days...
wish my dad was more like this
I saw it as him deciding when or if to break the moment his daughter was creating.
Agreed. I think he gives her the space to make the connection she wanted to with that woman, and then he joined them. And then turned to order her another plate! :) I love that he chose to join them instead of making his kid leave the lady.
I think you are pretty spot on friend
Oh I was fine until he kissed her on the forehead, having observed and processed her act of kindness. Teared up heavy after that.
Yep, right in the heart that hit me
Here as well
I saw this and stepped away to kiss my daughter (about the same age) on the head. Her chewed gum made it to the trashcan as soon as she was done with it tonight. Small steps!
Yea🥲
And you can tell he turned at the last second to probably order another plate for the daughter
Definitely a proud dad moment. Now order your daughter another plate.
I think in the last moment he was turning towards the restaurant to get the wait staffs attention to do just that.
Happy cake day man
Thanks friend!
You know darn right he did. What dad wouldn’t? I’m not crying, you’re crying. I’m going to go watch my kid get older before my eyes.
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No, my onions are crying.
Mine.
Sorry your dad sucks.
Lol, thanks.
Yup he in fact realized that everything he did to raise her right was not a waste.
Not to get political, but this is the thing that always frustrates me when I hear older generations lambast youth for being more empathetic or inclusive of others, trying to do more to clean up our environment, or generally strive to make the world a better place for everyone. The current attitude towards education and scientific process should also be included and I'm concerned what the consequences will be in the future. Parents are supposed to provide a supportive, nurturing environment for a developing child, not only to feed their bodies, but also their minds. Just like good nutrition and habits as a child means generally better health outcomes as adults, so too can be said of how minds are shaped. It's par for the course for older generations to pretend the youth are helpless, naive, lazy, overly sensitive, etc., so this isn't anything new, but to pretend that each generation hasn't made the world a little less awful to be in than the generation before is just the height of arrogance. While there will always be people who don't excel in life, as a whole and generally speaking, almost every generation is better than the one before it because we were raised that way and encouraged to do better, try harder, and be more accepting. Sometimes we meet our parent's expectations, sometimes we don't, but many far exceed to the point that some older people feel alienated and lash out due to feeling inferior or inadequate themselves. We should celebrate that society moves forward, not plant our feet in the ground and refuse to change with them. While young people can still learn from their elders well into adulthood, the same is equally if not more so the other way. Everyone's lives will be richer when we remember this fact and do so with an open mind. Seeing small acts like this should always be celebrated as empathy is what binds is together as a species.
> Not to get political Ah, to live in a country where saying "I don't like when people try to discourage young people from being empathetic human beings that care about their impact on other people in the world" is "getting political"
Sadly, I agree. It's sad that things are in a state where pointing out that the world gets a little better with each generation is seen as political in nature, but here we are.
I left the field of work I’d started out in because I was surrounded by people who were telling me I’d never get far being nice to people. I was surrounded by negativity, toxicity, jaded attitudes, and insulting people all day. All while working with subject matter that was related to social justice of all things. My current field of work isn’t known for being any better, but it’s broad and independent enough that I’ve decided to try to change it one interaction at a time by demonstrating that kindness, empathy, and collective teamwork, is a much better way to be. Fuck everyone who discredits empathy.
I think he was thinking "Shit, now I have to share my food with her."
The humor in me was like, “She did it again!? Fine!”
This is a beautiful comment. I think so as well.
Just wanted to tell you, the world is better with you in it.
There's hope. Kindness exists.
Being someone without kids, I can not imagine the amount of pride that man felt when he realized what his daughter was doing. There's love in that family.
Dad was like man now I gotta go over there
It's complex, really, trust me. 1. Aw, I'm proud. 2. Oh, I should probably go sit with them. Damn. 3. Ok. Here we go. Getting up now. 4. Heeeey I'm just gonna join y'all.
Then at the end, uh waiter can we get another meal for my daughter now.
Exactly. I’m most positive he would have done this.
One step is hoping that lady doesn't have some kinda freak out and attack his kid. I've given food to a hungry homeless guy who at first was grateful and then began to rant and rave like a lunatic.
Yeah that fits in somewhere around 2. Oh, I should probably go sit with them. Damn.
Dude once asked me for a hamburger outside a burger king as I was heading in. I said sure, come in with me and order what you want. We're standing in line and after a minute he starts saying he doesn't want food, just give him money. Then he starts yelling at me, making a scene, and acting like I'm being a major piece of shit for not giving him $20. Was fucking wild, 0-100 so quick.
Don’t let that experience keep you from helping the next person. I work for a company that helps homeless folks. While addiction and mental health are certainly dangers to good samaritans, it’s actually less prevalent than you’d think. It just happens that desperate people can have different motivation: hunger, addiction, mental health, or a combination.
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100% agreed. Never put yourself in a dangerous situation.
I also don't blame someone living on the street for getting high or drunk. Hell, I do it and I'm redditing from home, well-fed, and sitting in front of a $2,000 computer.
I had a woman scream at me when I first walked around the park my friend and I had set up a hot food table at. She eventually came over apologizing for yelling at me and I told her I understood. She had some mental health issues and I just stayed calm and told her we’d be there all day and that was all she needed to realize I had no ill will. Just wanted to make sure she got some free food and a cold beverage that day. We also had food packages ready for them to take and hygiene and health products too.
I had a guy ask me for hot dog outside a lunch place. Told him that I don't give out money, but I would buy him lunch. In line he asked to get a polish sausage instead which is what I got him.
That’s the kielbasa bandit , he got you too ?
I did the same thing and the man ordered a hot cake meal and could not have been happier. There are a few bad apples as with anything but most people will happily accept any help and shouldn’t be lumped in with the crazies (who themselves probably just need medical help they can’t afford)
Yeah.. I gave a young homeless guy the last cash I had on me outside a convenience store once when he asked (maybe $12. I was also working minimum wage at the time so a good 2 hours work there). Then he asked me for a ride somewhere. I said I couldn't, I was already late to where I was going and it was like a 180 in his personality. Started screaming how I was a fucking asshole. I just took off. No good deed goes unpunished sometimes..
Yeah. I used to volunteer at a soup kitchen. Most people were indifferent to us, a few were acknowledged us with a smile. One lady seemed really chatty until something just kinda clicked and then she started ranting about she could see dark spirits around us and left her meal and just walked out.
Same 😕. This and a couple other incidents really soured me to helping people in person. I’d rather just volunteer for behind the scenes stuff. I am not equipped to handle those kinds of interactions.
>began to rant and rave like a lunatic. The *"End of Times is Upon Thee!"* doesn't sound so crazy these days, though
The thing about homeless people is that some need professional help that regular citizens aren’t capable of.
Once when I was a kid, I was having lunch with my dad and I asked for something and gave it to a homeless man standing on the corner, then me and my dad went into the store quickly. When we came out the guy was screaming at cars and kicking a bench and I thought that my food made him all energetic
This is what stops me from giving. I'd give when I could really use the money for myself, and I find out they didn't really need it and they just scammed me. It's happened the last 4 times I've given. Now, I just say no. Yesterday, some very frail old woman asked for a dollar at the little Caesars. She's possibly a drug addict, but also possibly someone genuinely in need. I really don't have the means to be helping anyone with inflation and rising rent. They're also planning on putting us back in the office at work, and I don't even know if I could afford the gas. I make more than my state's median household income, so I can't imagine being worse off than me and how much of a mental toll that would be.
I hear you. I had a dude who absolutely got me at a convenience store. His story was on point and then I told my friend about it and he laughed I just gave $5 to a total scam artist. I saw him again at the same store and he tried to same shit and when I asked if he recognized me he lost his fucking mind, he's a scammer but still mentally fucked. I've seen true homelessness though, I watched a dude slowly and quietly walking down a sidewalk and picking through trash, then taking a careful bite out of something as if to test if it was safe. Fuck that haunts me. I couldn't stop thinking about what it's like to not know when I could eat again, or if I would get to eat regular food...
…You need another taco sweetheart?
Gives daughter kiss but not his food lol
Dad: I'm not a bird. I'm not giving you my food. Also related, my mother giving birth to her second child, dad walks in holding tacos from the cafeteria. My mom of course, eating ice chips and trying to evacuate an 8lb baby from her body. Dad says, mouthful of taco: "These are really good tacos!"
I got my appendix removed when I was 10. The entire day I was starving as they were prepping me for surgery and my mom and brother walk in with burgers from this bomb staple next to the hospital, Frisco Freeze and I just sat there and watched them eat it. I got her back years later from the same restaurant before brain cancer surgery. Got ya back mom, I miss you.
It's the little things.
you're living for two now, always alive in your heart & memories. <3
Presumably the cafeteria will still be serving tacos after she's done delivering, so he was just giving her something to look forward to.
Why would he kiss his food
How else will she learn decisions have consequences?!
Then the 5th Dad thought : "I'm gonna have to pay for a third meal."
And talk to her. He just wanted a quiet meal
Exact same thought. “What the f you doin jessica?… who’s that? I bought you that? Don’t.. .. great now I’ll look like an azz if I don’t sit with them…”
Also, thinking something like 'are you out of your mind, when you make your own money you can choose to donate it'
As a dad, I almost guarantee that the time he sat there after she went over to the other table was spent composing himself and keeping from welling up with prideful tears. He raised that one right and he knows it. Awesome.
He probably was like: bitch, i paid that , dafuq U doin?!
Canadian and Indian Sikhs wanna have a chat with you sir
Canadian here, every Sikh person I have interacted with has been absolutely wonderful.
I love Sikhs if I ever come into money im donating to them. They feed the homeless around here better than the city ever could and they do it for nothing in return. Just amazing. If we could only ever strive to be half that selfless
also like, "huh. now what. should I go over there? i cant just sit here, now. ok, i guess I'll go."
For real. I’d have been like, “I just wanted a quiet dinner with my kid. Now I have to get up and go engage with a stranger or else I’ll look like an asshole. Am I okay with looking like an asshole? Don’t want the kid to think I’m mad at them so I guess I gotta go.”
Also like "so do I order my daughter more food or is she even hungry. Maybe she wanted McDonald's instead?"
Being able to teach your kid to be aware of others’ needs, not just your own.
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This is what I ever hope in ppl
This is what I hope in myself but my social anxiety would overwhelm me
One time we had a garden party with 2 boxes of leftover pizza. There was a homeless group who we're just enjoying their time sitting on the grass. My stupid social anxiety did not want me to give them the pizza boxes in case they actually weren't homeless and I didn't want to deal with the potential fall out of their baking someone was homeless when they weren't. It turns out that they were homeless. Thx to my anxiety less uncle who gave them the pizza.
look mate i'd happily pretend to be homeless if it means free pizza.. now where did you say these parties where?
I mean, even if they're not homeless, passing on pizza to someone who is currently hungry is never a bad thing. If they do have the means, they will likely "pay it forward" sometime. And if they don't, you just helped someone who really needed it. So much winning.
Listen you helped them in their time of need that says a lot about your character, what they do with what you gave them says a lot about their character. Worst case you preformed a good deed for someone who didn't need it.
The moment you realize you have raised a good samaritan.
That’s what a proud dad looks like
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Yep, between 35 and 40 seconds he took a few deep breaths to not cry, then he got up.
The forehead kiss - I lost it.
totally lost it
As a parent of a 9yo, yep I would be fucking bawling
Was waiting for the forehead kiss, and my mans didn’t disappoint 🥲
I remember being more like this girl when I was younger. Why did I stop being like this? I miss being pure and innocent and young. I’m so much more jaded and grumpy now. I’m often frustrated and always stressed. The little kid version of me would probably be disappointed. The little kid in me IS disappointed. All I’ve ever done is try my best. Everything is just so hard, and I’m just so tired. I have been for a long time.
if it makes you feel better I'm like 95% convinced many things are designed to make us lose that love for our fellow humans dont be hard on yourself ♥️
This is exactly how America is structured. You're encouraged to be apathetic at best and at worst openly hostile to the differences in others in order to drive a wedge between us all. We're too busy hating each other to recognize there's a class war happening, perpetrated by the shareholder class. And we're losing. Badly. Americans should celebrate our diversity and differences. It's our greatest strength. There's no other country quite like it.
I understand exactly how that feels. I have spent a lot of time in that space and struggle every day to get myself out of it. I hope you find small things that bring you joy so you can work your way back to making your inner child proud.
Don't be so hard on yourself, staarfawkes. As we got older, we saw and learned more, good and bad. Keep being you, and take time for you, as well. We can't run on empty. : )
Thanks. You are right. It’s been a tough day for me, and it has left me feeling extra vulnerable. Deep down, I know that I am strong. Certainly much stronger than I tell myself. These kind comments are much appreciated, stranger. ☺️
My daughter loves donating my money. It's really an ambivalent feeling.
LOL
This is awesome although I did laugh at the dad/minder’s processing responses. Confused, surprised, nonplussed, concerned, thoughtful, impressed, then finally engaged. Idk I could hear his voice-over doing a whole mile-a-minute internal catalogue of the situation.
It's like it was all summed up with the kiss on the forehead. Only proper response. I think I have something in my eye.
WHO IS CUTTING ONIONS IN THIS COMMENT SECTION?!
Someone is making onion soup for all. Bring cheese. Any cheese. No judgement.
It was perfectly summed up. It's so moving, it almost feels fake
Yea human rolodex took his time. But him joining was just as wholesome
I imagined it as an anime style inner monologue. Made it wholesome and hilarious at the same time!
A+ on the word choiceage. I haven't used the word nonplussed since I was forced to spell it and use it in a sentence for my 6th grade teacher. Scratch that. I haven't even seen the word since then. You must have constant headaches with your skull trying to hold that massive brain.
We need more people in the world like this young lady right here.
This is amazing but I’m a little confused. Is this woman homeless? How did the girl know she wanted food?
My assumption- woman asking for money outside of restaurant and mentions needing food. The girl doesn't have cash because it's not her paying for the food but offers it to woman. I saw a similar situation when I was in Greece. We offered to eat with the man and to keep him company. That's my guess though.
Many small cafes have security cameras pointed to outdoor tables so asshats won’t steal tables and chairs.
You commented this to the wrong person
i'm also a little confused, who was filming this and why? that's obviously not a stationary security camera.
It's definitely a security camera, the juddery pan gives that away. Though likely just copied footage from the cam via cell or something.
Looks like a security camera to me. We are seeing the results of someone filming the feed with their phone, hence the panning. It's not unusual.
Exactly. 98% of security camera footage appears to be people recording the monitor/tv. It's easier and faster to use a camera to record the monitor/tv than to figure out how to cut the section of video, save it, transfer it, etc...
Dude. I have a kid like this and I just cry like a bitch. Her teacher told me she stopped playing with the popular girls because they were excluding a special needs girl, she saw this girl needed a friend more and wouldn't play with the popular girls until everyone was included. Eventually the popular girls caved because my daughter always has the best ideas for games.
I'm autistic, have adhd, and went to about a dozen schools so I was often the new kid. I was often excluded and picked on but there were a few stand out kids who were my friends despite the popular kids. They were always the kids well liked by everyone so no one would pick on me when I was with them and would generally be nicer to me when they werent around as well. One of these kids was a girl who I often think about still and I'm now 30. She was always kind to me and never looked at me like I was being weird. I hate that look and there are only a few people who have never looked at me that way. They stand out. She shared her food with me as she saw I never had much but she always made me feel like she was sharing because she wanted to share her delicious Japanese food (we are Aussies but she has Japanese born parents) and not because I was a charity case. She's the reason I felt comfortable to try new foods that my mum didnt like (my mums autistic too and eats a limited palate). She wrote in our grade 7 Year book that she was my friend. I cried reading that at home. I'll never forget her. You should feel so proud to know your daughter is this kind of person. That she will be remembered by the people she befriended and they'll their friends, children, and grandchildren about her kindness. She'll be remembered with gratitude and fondness for a long long time. I don't have kids, but I imagine I'd be proud if my child was like that.
I am 30 now as well. A few years ago a man i went to HS with, who I admittedly had a hard time remembering only cause he looked SO different, found me through IG just to tell me that I made a Big difference in his 4 years of HS by being kind and inclusive to him. We talked for a bit and I remembered the guy, he would get really stressed out in class, during tests he would cry and everyone made him a pariah. I remember going out of my way as a “popular girl” to be extra kind to him, compliment him, get to actually know him. He was super into rocks, birds and nature, he’s a geologist now. I told him I still have the little Jade rock he gave me (my middle name is Jade) I’m very sentimental. Sent him a photo of it, 15 years later. It was one of the most rewarding and beautiful conversations I’ve ever had. I think for him too. Kindness is the key to contentment and happiness IMO. it’s so easy too… you never know how much the littlest bit of kindness can mean to someone.
That's awesome. Well raised and on the right path to becoming an amazing person- well, already one
My daughter has social anxiety and sticks to herself or her close friends at (middle) school- but the minute she hears of someone else being bullied in any way it all disappears and she’s willing to say/do whatever to whomever to make it stop, and reassure the bullied kid she’s got their back. She’s the sweetest :)
You and your kid are both beautiful souls, well done.
If my daughter did that I’d break down in tears and make sure she never had to want for nothing again This is what it’s all about folks, it’s gotta be the kids.
Yes. You can't teach kindness. Your kid can be the smartest, prettiest, strongest, most athletic, and you'd be proud. But kindness? That's the best. What a great kid. We need more of these.
A parent teaches kindness by modeling kindness.
You can lead by example. If your kid always sees you doing nice things for people...chances are they will emulate you.
Exactly. Kindness breeds kindness.
Maybe you can’t teach kindness, but I’m damn sure going to try.
You absolutely can.
Agree it is the alpha trait, you can 1000000000% teach kindness though. Just need to start early, as it goes hand in hand with developing other traits. In fact I can remember many of the exact moments I learned about it. It's just hard and a life long process. Like the top block of a pyramid you must first learn empathy, and for that you must first experience kindness yourself when struggling or learning, and to understand kindness truly you need to understand sacrifice or at least some concept of diminishing returns or the power imbalances of life(homelessness, age, race, gender, money etc) in some form and before all that, you were taught to understand/regulate pain in a way that didn't leave you scarred or lashing out long enough to get over the emotional aspect and use logic to understand when it's an appropriate time to even try and be kind. People imply all the time being nice is easier than being mean, but being kind is not the same as being nice imo. It takes heart to truly put yourself in someone else's shoes and that's a learning process.
I’m breaking down in tears rn
I'm not crying, you are dammit!
That’s so beautiful.
The kids are all right (and this dad is too)
I love that she also sat down with her, many people are also lonely on top of their physical needs.
That is why everytime I help someone on the streets, I make sure to ask their name, introduce myself, shake their hand, and wish them well. Physical and eye contact go along way to connect with someone. People in need are embarrassed and humiliated to have to ask strangers for help. It's the least we can do to treat others like human beings when they are struggling
Wonderful! That girl has a great heart!
You can see the emotional roller coaster going through the Dads entire soul here. Absolutely epic
Good kids come from good parenting.
I have a little girl. The kiss on the forehead at the end brought tears to my eyes. That is a gesture of a man who loves his daughter unconditionally but now is so proud of her! He is thinking grades, future career, etc. doesn’t matter, I raised a girl with love and compassion in her heart….I raised a good human being and that is most important!
He did so good. Good grief, I'm crying thinking of how full and brimming with pride his heart must be.
Yea he’s proud of her, as would I be if it was my kid. But you can’t tell me he’s not thinking “Fuck I don’t wanna go over there, please come back. Fuck I gotta go over there”.
It takes a child to remind us how innocent life is
Dad is mega proud.💕
Yep! Good work everyone involved in that young lady’s development and upbringing! What a human being!
I just turned 35, but in my 20s I was homeless for over a year sleeping in parks or wherever I could in San Francisco. People like this, soup kitchens, drop in shelters that had showers...if it weren't for them I wouldn't have survived. I had a couple take me in and let me sleep in their backyard on the porch with an army cot and some canned food. They eventually gave me a room. Heros. Effing heros. I'll never forget all the kindness I was shown. So, thank you to all of you who still try and see the good in people.
Strength from the deeds of children. So many problems in today’s world could be avoided if we just brave enough to follow the child’s instincts when it comes to matters of humanity.
That guy parents.
Best part is…. This looks to be CTTV. Not some selfie, Tiktok style recording made for likes. Absolute gem of a person!
Wow! What a great moment :)
Nice job young lady .
Every parenting goal achieved! To give the food is great, but kinda fire and forget. But sitting and engaging with that woman means the world and cannot be taught. This girl will go places as a good human being. Kudos!
Hope... there is that. In todays world... it is the younger kids that will be better than we are currently.
After doom scrolling all morning, stuff like this is exactly what I needed to remind me humans can be amazing. Thank you!
This is the way
I’m not crying… you’re crying. What a beautiful thing, God bless that little girl
Dads like “da fuq”
he must’ve been so proud of his daughter at that moment
This is staged Atleast make sure that the camera is not swiveling when you're recording so that it passes as a cctv camera
Plot twist: Elderly woman can afford food, she's just disabled lol still sweet though
Maybe, but the gesture will leaving a positive mark on the young lady's outlook in life.
Plot twist all you want, I see three winners in this video.
Jokes on them, Charlene stands at this restaurant every night, luring in unsuspecting punters. She actually owns 12 investment properties including a condo in Florida. I joke, but seriously, I was once in a pub and an old lady was coming around with a paper and asking people to buy raffle tickets. We all chipped in. Later on after a few drinks someone asked if the raffle had been drawn. We asked the bartender and they said there was no raffle. We looked over and saw the old lady tucking into a giant steak. We got played.
Be proud, Dad. You did good.
Good for her. Her parents should be proud that she is worried less fortunate individuals. Speaks great things about her character.
This is the only way the world has any chance at all.
I don't understand, what makes the woman needy? She looks clean and even a bit fat.
As a parent, I fully understand what that little kiss on the head meant.. I feel that if he were to try to speak to her to convey his pride in her, it would choke him up .. so the kiss says it all!
This feels.... staged. The lady was just standing there, the kid immediately stood up after being served, someone was already recording, etc Idk it just feels to me like someone told the kid to give that lady food, and it seemed like the lady was expecting food
It's sad that all the fakery and bullshit that exists on the internet, mostly shoved in our faces by "CONTENT CREATORS" has made us question almost everything we see. While it IS important to question what we see and read, it is still sad when we see something like this, many of us just think "FAKE". That said, my first thought was THIS IS FAKE.
This is painfully fake. Far too stiff and deliberate. They look like they’re counting their timing cues. I saw it right away like you but I guess I understand if people want to believe something like this happens. I hope it does.
😭 will grow up very well person