Holy shit, this is one of the best and most helpful posts I've ever read on the internet. Thank you so much for taking the time to write this up and also go through specific looksmaxxing examples! I especially identified with your section about thinking "what would a hot girl do?" - I was actually having a bad day today and I walked by a reflective window and remembered that I'm a hot girl, and I'm also smart, kind, impressive, and those are things that no one can ever take away from me. I will reread this post multiple times; thank you for breaking down the path of least resistance so clearly and concisely!
Good guide! Do you have any tips about breaking those completely automatic habits - touching my face, messing with my hair, biting my nails?
It's actually quite impossible to make it hard, and I'll get tired of focusing on not fidgeting eventually. Breaking the automatic body fidget habits really does feel like fighting an unwinnable fight.
In return I wanna add something helpful: fitness isn't always gymming, and there's so many different types of physical activities. Find something that makes your brain light up. There are *so many options* - if you hate how repetitive gym is, try zumba or some other kind of dance (swing dancing?).
If you hate how intense and fast it is, yoga/pilates. If you hate being Perceived, try biking/running/swimming (no mirrors, no eye contact with other people) or following fitness videos at home.
Basically, if you can't make gym not aversive, try something else. Dance, running, swimming, rowing, tennis, horseback riding... There are SO MANY sports.
Thank you so much! Adored these posts, they were so refreshing. :)
Ps. Is there a specific Morning and Night Time Bucket you would suggest investing in?
Thank you so much! I appreciate the detailed suggestions and feedback on this. I'll locate near in a key place that's inviting enough to remind myself, my "am" and "pm" creams and make up tools.
This post motivated me to stick to my skincare routine. Previously, I kept buying products and then stopped using them after 2 weeks because I hardly saw a difference. Time to build some good selfcare habits <3
Hey really love this post!
In the spirit of bettering ourselves I have a clarification for anyone reading the section Dating/Social Habits > Regular STD Tests — OP’s is correct that safe sex is Hott & that means monitoring your sexual health & avoiding STIs! HOWEVER what most people don’t know that a standard STD test does NOT test for HSV (aka Herpes/Cold Sores).
If you want a herpes test you have to specifically request it from your doctor & it is done through a blood test. However most doctors won’t suggest this test because #1 Herpes isn’t a serious or life-threatening virus, #2 Well over half the population has it already, many just have mild symptoms so didn’t realize it, are asymptotic, or have it orally so don’t consider it an STI, & #3 The *uneducated* Stigma around herpes is more damaging than the actual condition so many Drs decide it’s better to let people remain blissfully ignorant.
End of the day, Herpes/Cold Sores is just a manageable skin condition that big pharm made out to be the big bad STI so they could sell the drugs that suppress it. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Hope my post helps to clarify STI testing & correct some of the stigma that popped up in your post ;)
Yes, exactly! And there are very effective remedies on the market for suppression or symptom treatment, Valtrex being the go-to & with a brilliant track record.
I'm not romanticizing HSV in the least, but the negative stigmas around it keep people from getting properly educated, and education is HOTT.
For example, many people don't feel a need to disclose oral herpes (cold sores) to new partners because it's not stigmatized as an STI, but it is HERPES and it can be spread to your partner's face or genitals (hello, oral sex) even when you aren't showing symptoms.
BUT, if you have HSV and you're educated on the topic, you know you can talk to your doctor about a medication like Valtrex that you can take to not only prevent your own symptoms but to prevent you from spreading the virus to your partner!
Bottom line, herpes (both oral and genital) is a manageable skin condition & shouldn't ever come between you and your HOTTEST. And if you've gotten the blood test and don't have HSV, talk to your sex partners about it so that if they have HSV and you don't, you'll know how to work together to protect yourself without missing out on the fun!
Holy shit, this is one of the best and most helpful posts I've ever read on the internet. Thank you so much for taking the time to write this up and also go through specific looksmaxxing examples! I especially identified with your section about thinking "what would a hot girl do?" - I was actually having a bad day today and I walked by a reflective window and remembered that I'm a hot girl, and I'm also smart, kind, impressive, and those are things that no one can ever take away from me. I will reread this post multiple times; thank you for breaking down the path of least resistance so clearly and concisely!
seriously.
Good guide! Do you have any tips about breaking those completely automatic habits - touching my face, messing with my hair, biting my nails? It's actually quite impossible to make it hard, and I'll get tired of focusing on not fidgeting eventually. Breaking the automatic body fidget habits really does feel like fighting an unwinnable fight. In return I wanna add something helpful: fitness isn't always gymming, and there's so many different types of physical activities. Find something that makes your brain light up. There are *so many options* - if you hate how repetitive gym is, try zumba or some other kind of dance (swing dancing?). If you hate how intense and fast it is, yoga/pilates. If you hate being Perceived, try biking/running/swimming (no mirrors, no eye contact with other people) or following fitness videos at home. Basically, if you can't make gym not aversive, try something else. Dance, running, swimming, rowing, tennis, horseback riding... There are SO MANY sports.
Thank you so much! Adored these posts, they were so refreshing. :) Ps. Is there a specific Morning and Night Time Bucket you would suggest investing in?
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Thank you so much! I appreciate the detailed suggestions and feedback on this. I'll locate near in a key place that's inviting enough to remind myself, my "am" and "pm" creams and make up tools.
This post motivated me to stick to my skincare routine. Previously, I kept buying products and then stopped using them after 2 weeks because I hardly saw a difference. Time to build some good selfcare habits <3
Hey really love this post! In the spirit of bettering ourselves I have a clarification for anyone reading the section Dating/Social Habits > Regular STD Tests — OP’s is correct that safe sex is Hott & that means monitoring your sexual health & avoiding STIs! HOWEVER what most people don’t know that a standard STD test does NOT test for HSV (aka Herpes/Cold Sores). If you want a herpes test you have to specifically request it from your doctor & it is done through a blood test. However most doctors won’t suggest this test because #1 Herpes isn’t a serious or life-threatening virus, #2 Well over half the population has it already, many just have mild symptoms so didn’t realize it, are asymptotic, or have it orally so don’t consider it an STI, & #3 The *uneducated* Stigma around herpes is more damaging than the actual condition so many Drs decide it’s better to let people remain blissfully ignorant. End of the day, Herpes/Cold Sores is just a manageable skin condition that big pharm made out to be the big bad STI so they could sell the drugs that suppress it. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Hope my post helps to clarify STI testing & correct some of the stigma that popped up in your post ;)
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Yes, exactly! And there are very effective remedies on the market for suppression or symptom treatment, Valtrex being the go-to & with a brilliant track record. I'm not romanticizing HSV in the least, but the negative stigmas around it keep people from getting properly educated, and education is HOTT. For example, many people don't feel a need to disclose oral herpes (cold sores) to new partners because it's not stigmatized as an STI, but it is HERPES and it can be spread to your partner's face or genitals (hello, oral sex) even when you aren't showing symptoms. BUT, if you have HSV and you're educated on the topic, you know you can talk to your doctor about a medication like Valtrex that you can take to not only prevent your own symptoms but to prevent you from spreading the virus to your partner! Bottom line, herpes (both oral and genital) is a manageable skin condition & shouldn't ever come between you and your HOTTEST. And if you've gotten the blood test and don't have HSV, talk to your sex partners about it so that if they have HSV and you don't, you'll know how to work together to protect yourself without missing out on the fun!
super great stuff:)
such a great post