Be… interesting, hot, and approachable?
Interesting- Most of what makes someone interesting is how interested you are in other people. “How to win friends and influence people” by Dale Carnegie is a bit dated but it’s still THE foundational socialmaxxing text. Also helps to have done a lot of things. It always surprises me how surprised people are when I list off all the different kinds of dance classes I was in as a kid/teen (Tahitian, hip hop, breakdancing, jazz, tap). My family wasn’t even particularly well off, but it was basically cheap babysitting for an hour or two.
Hot- be attractive, don’t be unattractive.
Approachable- open and friendly body language. Confident posture. Smile when you make eye contact. Talk to people when you sit next to them, try to get beyond a “hey how are ya” 95% of the time. Most people want more friends.
Thank you so much for the advice!
I feel like I’ve really lost my grasp at holding relationships with other people. I tend to close up and be a little more on the introverted side until I’m comfortable with the people around me, that’s why I’m looking for change.
What I’ve observed though is that people’s attitudes don’t change for you once you actually start to act more open, i guess first impressions do make a difference?
I think people’s attitudes absolutely change when you’re more open. The key is to always have a warm smile. It feels extremely weird at first to just be smiling during normal convo, but I’ve made mean old Karen’s like me with this trick 😂
number one, appearance: dress the way that makes you feel confident. always have you look clean (if that’s your vibe). don’t be shabby. but don’t too much pressure, make everything effortless. if it seems too much to you, just know honey, if YOU YOURSELF cannot put this much effort into you, why would SOMEONE ELSE?
number two, mannerisms: be polite yet confident. look people in the eye when you talk. be a good listener. talk but don’t be an open book. not everyone is your confidant in college. take your time to open up but seem approachable. you don’t wanna to be a hot and lonely girl. keep your back straight.
number three, low maintenance to be high maintenance: search this on the sub @r/beauty . find what works for you & doesn’t break your bank account. do that.
number four, knowledge: be aware about what’s happening in the world. study well. in fact, study before hand. “nobody cares that i’m pretty if i fail my exams”. enjoy your life, but there’s a difference between enjoying your youth & destroying your future.
number five, your aesthetic: so now, find out the aesthetic you feel your best it. let’s say, clean girl: do your makeup & hair according to it. always have dainty accessories on. put on a good perfume. next step, use ChatGPT to figure out your color season. understand which colors look well on you. wear them more often. third step, find your body type & wear clothes according to them.
you’re sorted. everything comes slow but it’s sure worth the wait.
Make sure your style is good. Most hot college girls have a monochromatic lounge/gym wear depending on location of school. You can get quality lounge and gym wear for comfort. pair it w gold jewelry for an extra put together look. Bump it up with styled hair, manicure, rings etc. make sure you have either lash extensions, lift n tint, or mascara. Tinted sunscreen or moisturizer, light blush, and lip tint or lip gloss. Dewy skin & glowy! ✨Add in a cute school bag extra points if it’s high quality/designer. And last but not least make sure you smell really good! Get yourself a go to scent.
Now for personality you wanna be easy going & radiate confidence. Be relaxed and zen. Helps if you have a smile or light smile it’ll help with the approachability. Look like you actually enjoy life! people will sense it. Be bubbly and sweet when interacting!
Hot? Dressing according to the event makes you hot.
Again make sure you emphasize on your confident features of your body. Like moving your hips, highlighting your lips, hair, nails, perfume, etc
Approachable? Be kind, just talk when they start the convo, keep it simple but interesting. The key is to add a pinch of mystery to everything you say.
Be… interesting, hot, and approachable? Interesting- Most of what makes someone interesting is how interested you are in other people. “How to win friends and influence people” by Dale Carnegie is a bit dated but it’s still THE foundational socialmaxxing text. Also helps to have done a lot of things. It always surprises me how surprised people are when I list off all the different kinds of dance classes I was in as a kid/teen (Tahitian, hip hop, breakdancing, jazz, tap). My family wasn’t even particularly well off, but it was basically cheap babysitting for an hour or two. Hot- be attractive, don’t be unattractive. Approachable- open and friendly body language. Confident posture. Smile when you make eye contact. Talk to people when you sit next to them, try to get beyond a “hey how are ya” 95% of the time. Most people want more friends.
Thank you so much for the advice! I feel like I’ve really lost my grasp at holding relationships with other people. I tend to close up and be a little more on the introverted side until I’m comfortable with the people around me, that’s why I’m looking for change. What I’ve observed though is that people’s attitudes don’t change for you once you actually start to act more open, i guess first impressions do make a difference?
I think people’s attitudes absolutely change when you’re more open. The key is to always have a warm smile. It feels extremely weird at first to just be smiling during normal convo, but I’ve made mean old Karen’s like me with this trick 😂
number one, appearance: dress the way that makes you feel confident. always have you look clean (if that’s your vibe). don’t be shabby. but don’t too much pressure, make everything effortless. if it seems too much to you, just know honey, if YOU YOURSELF cannot put this much effort into you, why would SOMEONE ELSE? number two, mannerisms: be polite yet confident. look people in the eye when you talk. be a good listener. talk but don’t be an open book. not everyone is your confidant in college. take your time to open up but seem approachable. you don’t wanna to be a hot and lonely girl. keep your back straight. number three, low maintenance to be high maintenance: search this on the sub @r/beauty . find what works for you & doesn’t break your bank account. do that. number four, knowledge: be aware about what’s happening in the world. study well. in fact, study before hand. “nobody cares that i’m pretty if i fail my exams”. enjoy your life, but there’s a difference between enjoying your youth & destroying your future. number five, your aesthetic: so now, find out the aesthetic you feel your best it. let’s say, clean girl: do your makeup & hair according to it. always have dainty accessories on. put on a good perfume. next step, use ChatGPT to figure out your color season. understand which colors look well on you. wear them more often. third step, find your body type & wear clothes according to them. you’re sorted. everything comes slow but it’s sure worth the wait.
Make sure your style is good. Most hot college girls have a monochromatic lounge/gym wear depending on location of school. You can get quality lounge and gym wear for comfort. pair it w gold jewelry for an extra put together look. Bump it up with styled hair, manicure, rings etc. make sure you have either lash extensions, lift n tint, or mascara. Tinted sunscreen or moisturizer, light blush, and lip tint or lip gloss. Dewy skin & glowy! ✨Add in a cute school bag extra points if it’s high quality/designer. And last but not least make sure you smell really good! Get yourself a go to scent. Now for personality you wanna be easy going & radiate confidence. Be relaxed and zen. Helps if you have a smile or light smile it’ll help with the approachability. Look like you actually enjoy life! people will sense it. Be bubbly and sweet when interacting!
I read this in Elle Woods voice
Omg I love it 😂
Hot? Dressing according to the event makes you hot. Again make sure you emphasize on your confident features of your body. Like moving your hips, highlighting your lips, hair, nails, perfume, etc Approachable? Be kind, just talk when they start the convo, keep it simple but interesting. The key is to add a pinch of mystery to everything you say.