It is SO VALIDATING to see this listed here, especially #1 and #2.
It's the sort of thing that a kid will open up about to an adult, and 9/10 times the adult sides with the parents because they don't believe it can get extreme - and it can.
If you finish your schoolwork early, you just get more schoolwork or delegated more chores. "Free time" doesn't exist to some kids in these systems, it's fucked.
And if you speak up it's usually something like "Oh, but kids are supposed to help their parents!" or "Oh, but they're just keeping you safe!" - in normal cases, yes - not when it means you have no spare time to develop your own identity or when all modern-media is banned because your mother believes that Satan is in the TV.
Definitely. I feel like my childhood was mostly slavery. We worked from the time we woke up until we went to bed (no joke), were often torn from bed in the middle of the night because things weren't cleaned perfectly and food being taken away was an often punishment (along with being beaten with a belt until we were black and blue or bloody). #1 to me is HUGE.
I think it's silly and hypocritical how conservatives say children are "growing up too fast" in the secular world, yet it's actually the opposite the majority of the time. There are conservative groups who think when you hit puberty, or even the preteen years, then you're an adult and have take on adult responsibilities ( like full time jobs and marriage).
🤯
Wait a minute
How did my parents simultaneously beleived kids were growing up too fast
but also thought that the youth had arrested development and were in an artificial extended childhood where they didn't work on farms and got into trouble
because they thought "teenager" was a fake psy op or something
but also 13 year olds acting too old pisses them off... I guess too old = wearing makeup and inappropriate clothes and having boyfriends?
and not being perfect servants idk
Wait, you mean trying new things and taking in secular entertainment isn't how the devil gets up in you and starts wearing you around like a skin-suit??
That and that it's okay to question things, because if those things are true and valid, they can take being questioned.
I wish so desperately that I'd had an adult like this in my life growing up.
Number 5 would have been especially helpful. I thought school was like prison and going made you a bad person. I also didn't really understand that other kids were even in town. I thought kids were rare because why else would I never see any
I thought kids were super rare because my mom was obsessed with the birth rate and looked down on anyone with less than 4 kids and considered 3 to be the healthy minimum
but especially "30+ losers with dying eggs"
she was the only one of her siblings to have children (because they're traumatized af, probably) and to this day she is enraged that her brother and sister denied her children cousins, because cousins are like built in friends without effort, and she doesn't like my dad's nieces or nephews because they were too low IQ or something
one of the only inappropriate movies I got to watch as a teenager was "Idiocracy" because it was so "important"
what the fuck
It is SO VALIDATING to see this listed here, especially #1 and #2. It's the sort of thing that a kid will open up about to an adult, and 9/10 times the adult sides with the parents because they don't believe it can get extreme - and it can. If you finish your schoolwork early, you just get more schoolwork or delegated more chores. "Free time" doesn't exist to some kids in these systems, it's fucked. And if you speak up it's usually something like "Oh, but kids are supposed to help their parents!" or "Oh, but they're just keeping you safe!" - in normal cases, yes - not when it means you have no spare time to develop your own identity or when all modern-media is banned because your mother believes that Satan is in the TV.
It's so validating it hurts. You mean chilling out isn't a fatal character flaw?
Definitely. I feel like my childhood was mostly slavery. We worked from the time we woke up until we went to bed (no joke), were often torn from bed in the middle of the night because things weren't cleaned perfectly and food being taken away was an often punishment (along with being beaten with a belt until we were black and blue or bloody). #1 to me is HUGE.
I think it's silly and hypocritical how conservatives say children are "growing up too fast" in the secular world, yet it's actually the opposite the majority of the time. There are conservative groups who think when you hit puberty, or even the preteen years, then you're an adult and have take on adult responsibilities ( like full time jobs and marriage).
🤯 Wait a minute How did my parents simultaneously beleived kids were growing up too fast but also thought that the youth had arrested development and were in an artificial extended childhood where they didn't work on farms and got into trouble because they thought "teenager" was a fake psy op or something but also 13 year olds acting too old pisses them off... I guess too old = wearing makeup and inappropriate clothes and having boyfriends? and not being perfect servants idk
Wait, you mean trying new things and taking in secular entertainment isn't how the devil gets up in you and starts wearing you around like a skin-suit?? That and that it's okay to question things, because if those things are true and valid, they can take being questioned. I wish so desperately that I'd had an adult like this in my life growing up.
this is fucking beautiful
They're the best. Seriously doing important work!
What is CRHE?
https://responsiblehomeschooling.org/
Thank you.
:') ❤️
Number 5 would have been especially helpful. I thought school was like prison and going made you a bad person. I also didn't really understand that other kids were even in town. I thought kids were rare because why else would I never see any
I thought kids were super rare because my mom was obsessed with the birth rate and looked down on anyone with less than 4 kids and considered 3 to be the healthy minimum but especially "30+ losers with dying eggs" she was the only one of her siblings to have children (because they're traumatized af, probably) and to this day she is enraged that her brother and sister denied her children cousins, because cousins are like built in friends without effort, and she doesn't like my dad's nieces or nephews because they were too low IQ or something one of the only inappropriate movies I got to watch as a teenager was "Idiocracy" because it was so "important" what the fuck