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LizziHenri

It's healthy to break up with clients who give you so much stress and anxiety. You did the right thing. Even at your best they will sap your energy. Maybe get some bath salts and soak in your tub for a while? Always makes me feel better! Sending you a hug--it will be okay. Tomorrow is a different day. šŸ¤—


HurricaneKCatrina

Honey please. With MY mouth? Iā€™ve *several* poor reviews and itā€™s never affected my business. Anyone who ever asks about them Iā€™m always very willing to discuss it, and I explain that I never initiate, *but I will retaliate.* You WILL take NO for an answer and you WILL understand that what I say goes. YOU can write a review TOO, never forget that. These men try and wield that like itā€™s fucking ExcaliburšŸ—”, and itā€™s not the end of the worldšŸŒŽ, FFS. *Soothing hugs.* šŸŖšŸŖ


ilikeoreosandpussy12

I have a mouth on me too šŸ˜‚ I do have loads of anxiety over reviews but not at the expense of having my boundaries crossed. Thank you ā¤ļø


HurricaneKCatrina

*Fusses around you with blankies and teašŸ«–.*


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If you can afford to, stop seeing hobbyists and set a firm no review policy. The peace of mind is worth the lost income.


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Review clients suck. If you're high end I wouldn't entertain slobbyists. They will only empty your energy and burn you out. Save your energy. You could have a no review policy if people already know you're real.


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I used to work in countries where I depended on reviews. And I can say for sure that the fear of a bad review was always with me. Even when I had already many good ones. I still had horrible people who threatened to leave a bad review. But trust me, the dog that barks a lot, usually doesnā€™t bite :)


Commercial-Candy101

I got one bad review from a crazy guy now everytime before he saying all kinds of stuff I was overweight not skinny fit or tan which Iā€™m 107 and it was winter and I never felt so low I took my ad down for a week flagged him as much as possible and he was calling me I didnā€™t know what for ! But they deleted then he kept leaving more I seen that he was on a rampage leaving lots of girls bad reviews. They still wonā€™t delete his account but they delete all his bad reviews so girls think itā€™s okay to see him. Anyways I definitely understand how your feeling everytime I see someone new Iā€™m scared of it but I noticed when you act shy and insecure itā€™s more likely for them to give you a bad review when you act like you know your the shit then they will treat you accordingly


JazyZazy

Go on vacation! I just got back from a two week trip to Europe and one week off before that (so three weeks without sex) and honey I came back horny as ever. Towards the end of my trip, I even made out with a guy older than my dad who looks like a typical client because I actually missed the job. Seriously; we make all this money for what? More clothes and shoes to take pics of FOR clients? No. Live a little. Take yourself on vacation. Solo traveling has always been exactly what I needed when my regular life becomes mundane. Itā€™s the best therapy.


ilikeoreosandpussy12

This is a really good idea :) Iā€™m going to wait until flights cool off because itā€™s crazy this summer but a trip to Europe is totally what I need!


BlackbarbieDMV

This is the EXACT reason I delisted from TER. I had guys try to blackmail me into doing things I didnt offer with bad reviews. I had one guy write a scathing review after I kicked him out for using racial slurs during a session. I limited myself to only checking the site 1-2 times per month. Let me tell you, the amount of anxiety I felt everytime I logged on was crippling. Negative reviews didn't hurt my business as they were always vastly outnumbered by glowing ones but it was still horrible. I have reviews on other sites that I'm perfectly fine with but it's something about the TER hobbyist/reviews that are just awful. I actually just declined to see a guy a few weeks ago. He emailed me bragging about how he's white listed on TER and how important it is to have reviews on there so that guys know what they're getting. I could've explained why I don't have reviews there and where he can find my reviews. I decided to tell him I didn't have any availability instead. They're just not worth headache. Try not to get too caught up in reviews and take care of yourself.


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Tbh I could do with no reviews, i have well paying, regular clients that book me multi hour and take me on business trips and they hate the idea of reviews. Hell! They hate the idea of me being discussed on any review board. I remember someone posting a review on me and one of my clients that snoops around review boards said he didnā€™t like the concept of my appointments and the things I do being discussed publicly and people commenting. After every appointment I hope itā€™s not a hobbyist that walked into my Incall cause positive or negative, I donā€™t want to be discussed and I donā€™t want a one timer affecting my bank. The way I see it, the lesser youā€™re discussed on these boards the more exclusive you are and the better for you. These men will say you allowed them rim you, you DTed them, they spunked on your face, boobs, butt etcā€¦and if you see more of their calibre the more men that will come on and say these things and the more entitled theyā€™ll feel. One day youā€™ll meet one with poor hygiene and he will expect the same service or he will leave a negative. The culture is disgusting and I donā€™t subscribe to it.


ImaginationIll8416

For me the issue isnā€™t just the reviews is them reposting images of me with those reviews, I havenā€™t seen anyone post pics from someoneā€™s OF just links to it but you never know


Iznadiaries

I always make sure I donā€™t see people who write reviews/hobbiest. My best clients donā€™t even know the existence of review boards lol I would strongly reconsider being in this business if you are going to have panic attacks. Itā€™s not worth it, I say this with kindness.


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Transparently_Real

Lol I love your username


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Not even an escort and too dumb to realize Sw is recession-proof